God has touched and blessed so many lives through Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. We are so thankful for the impact he has made, an impact that will stretch into eternity.
  • 70 years old
  • Born on January 24, 1947 .
  • Passed away on March 8, 2017 .

Linda Nicolosi, Joe's lifelong collaborator and also his wife of 39 years, is grateful for everyone's prayers and words of appreciation and has shared these words:

"Joe was certainly a larger-than-life, one-of-a-kind guy. Never worried about political correctness, he was happy to swim against the cultural tide when he was sure the culture was going in the wrong direction. That got him into trouble quite a few times. Gay-activist web sites, for example, are still fond of quoting the occasional risqué jokes he made during his life in the public eye, and of showing and re-showing him tossing a microphone back at a rude TV interviewer. But Joe had ardent convictions about the truth of male and female design, and because of his conviction and courage, his awareness that he would face biased reporters didn't stop him from appearing on Oprah Winfrey, Larry King Live, Hannity and Colmes, O'Reilly Factor, 20/20, Dr. Phil, BBC News, and so on.

Joe had always hoped for his legacy as the creator of Reparative Therapy to go on. His career was dedicated to helping people align their lives with their deeply held convictions. Anyone, he stressed, is free to live his life as gay; but we are inevitably gendered beings, and our fullest humanity calls us to live out our biological design. (To read more from Linda, click on the "His Life" tab).

Posted by Tim Kim on 4th May 2018
Truly Joseph Nicolosi Sr. is a blessed man for his courage. He swam against the media that does not fully recognize a person's right to have access for a reparative therapy. May God's blessings be upon his family, friends, and collegues who supported and worked with him all throughout his life. His legacy continues quietly but strongly and positively. May people never be deluded in thinking that merely adhering to the fact that there is no conclusive and definite evidence for a gay gene (which is scientifically true, regardless of a person's belief system) amounts to a hatred of gay people - what the 21st century often calls 'homophobia'.
Posted by Arthur Goldberg on 9th March 2018
Joe must be smiling down today as he sees the great work that his son Joseph, Jr is doing. To have a son that is capable of stepping into the void left by Joe is fantastic. A worthy heir has emerged to carry on the legacy of Joe's incredible contributions. May G-d bless the entire Nicolosi family. Rest in peace, my friend.
Posted by Carla Venero on 9th March 2018
RIP Doctor.I hope someone takes up where you left off.I was sexually abused by an uncle at age 5 and raped twice by two men, once at the age of 13 and again at 15 years.I consciously changed my fantasies about being abused/used sexually by multiple men to those of a lesbian nature in my teens. Nobody is born gay. I am living proof of that it. I ended up with a bisexual identity and in the field of sex work. Later I had relationships only with men. I am living proof that SSA can be purely environmental and a response to childhood rape and abuse..I have read some negative comments about this man, Nicolosi, on the net. Gays-they are screaming they are born that way but there is no proof of that.The founder of the gay gene is being investigated in the USA for scientific fraud.
Posted by Maria Mantica on 9th March 2018
I helped translate some of Dr. Nicolosi´s books into spanish. So many lives were changed since then...
Posted by Thomas Coy on 8th March 2018
A year ago a man worth emulating left his earthly abode. Joseph Nicolosi stood for the truth when it brought persecution, and he used his time to show compassion and help people heal. These were some of the ways I saw him emulate his Savior Jesus Christ. He positively impacted many lives including mine.
Posted by Jack Nicolosi on 8th March 2018
I CANNOT BELIEVE MY DEAR COUSIN DR JOE IS GONE A YEAR. I MISS HIM VERY MUCH. I MISS SEEING HIM AND THOSE GREAT LUNCHES AND DINNERS HE AND LINDA ALWAYS PREPARED. WE ALWAYS HAD A GOOD LAUGH TALKING ABOUT FAMILY IN NY AND FL. WE LOVED BEING A NICOLOSI. I AM STILL HEARTBROKEN WE DID NOT GET TO BE TOGETHER AFTER MONTHS OF PLANNING TO SPEND A ONE DAY TOGETHER TO VISIT OUR AUNT HE HAD NOT SEEN FOR SOMETIME. WE WERE BOTH LOOKING FORWARD TO HAVING A LOT OF LAUGHS TALKING ABOUT OUR FATHERS ALONG WITH MY OTHER COUSIN JOE (THERE ARE A LOT OF THEM IN OUR FAMILY). I WISH YOU WERE HERE JOE. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. COUSIN JACKIE
Posted by Larry Ames on 8th March 2018
Joe was my brother in law.He was always interested in me and when I visited there was time for private talks between Joe and me.
Posted by Martin Howser on 8th March 2018
Dr. Joseph Nicolosi was a man in pursuit of the Truth. He not only proclaimed it but was a part of the curative process those who suffered from same sex attraction. His faith in God gave him the strength and wisdom to share the gifts God gave him in his profession. Even those in the hierarchy of His own Church were for the most part against him but the head of his Church, Jesus Christ, gave him the strength to proclaim the truth about same sex attraction. We all benefited from the gift God gave us in Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. May he rest in peace in the Lord.
Posted by Jerry Armelli on 8th March 2018
You and your service to MANY are dearly missed! But, you live on! You continue to heal many!
Posted by Patrick Danforth on 11th February 2018
I was shocked and saddened when Dr. Nicolosi Sr. passed away. I'm relieved to know that he trained others to carry on his important legacy. I had the opportunity to meet him in Jacksonville, FL. I wanted to learn more because I suffer from un-wanted Same Sex Attraction. This distinquishes his clients from the political platform of "Gay" identity or the "LGBTQ" communities. I did not choose to pursue reparative-therapy. However, I have a friend who did and he has successfully left the gay lifestyle and is able to identify with his heterosexuality as a man. I'm sure there is also a similar field of work for women who suffer from un-wanted same sex attraction. who will also benefit greatly from his research and studies. Dr. Nicolosi will be greatly missed by his family and friends and also by the ex-gay world, especially those who continue to benefit from his work.
Posted by Steve Baldwin on 25th January 2018
When I was a member of the Calif Legislature, we were always swamped with radical gay rights bills which would codify this unhealthy lifestyle. Dr. Nicolosi was always available to help me understand these bills and would even testify for or against bills if needed. He didn't care if the entire psychological establishment hated his guts, He knew the search for truth was not a popularity contest. He was a fearless warrior for the truth. There are not too many men like him around anymore.
Posted by Catherine Norman on 24th January 2018
In the midst of controversies and emotional sparks flying at our school board meetings and within my extended family, Dr. Nicolosi spoke the truth with peaceful passion. His life and work have given me hope over and over again as I have sought understanding and consolation through his web site and his talks. Thanks to his family for their sacrifices allowing him to be a blessing to so many people.
Posted by Arthur Goldberg on 24th January 2018
A famous rabbinical sage quoted in Pirke Avot 2:21 (part of Ethics of our Fathers) once said, "The task is not yours to complete, but neither are you free to avoid it." The life of my friend, Joseph Nicolosi, reflects this biblical injunction. His courage in developing techniques for those with unwanted same-sex attractions is unparalleled. He contributed much to the world of psychological interventions, a task in which he was engaged up to the last minutes of his life. Unfortunately at the time of untimely death, he was in the middle of several other projects when G-d called him home. Others will now complete those tasks. The value of the tasks he did complete through his written work and his recorded lectures will live on for centuries. This applies equally as well to the innumerable clients who are able to live the kind of lives they dreamed about because of Joe's counsel. But it is not simply the force of his continuing intellectual contributions that will be missed. All of us who knew Joe personally valued his warmth, his sense of humor, his engaging personality and his honest friendship, qualities that are rare in today's fractured world. Joe, may G-d bless you in your heavenly home and may you continue to inspire so many of us here on earth. Happy birthday!
Posted by Joe Dallas on 24th January 2018
Dr. Nicolosi is deeply missed, and deeply appreciated. There are very few people you can accurately use the word "pioneer" for, but he was one of the few, a rare combination of humor, intelligence, and high energy. I will always treasure the memories of working with him at conferences and church seminars, and although I remember clearly his wit and teaching skills, what stands out most to me is the memory of him relentlessly criticizing my clothing choices. If I was on the same platform with Joe and my suit didn't fit properly, or if the colors didn't perfectly match, God help me. You made your mark, Dr. Joe, and candidly, this world is a little more boring without you.
Posted by Jerry Armelli on 24th January 2018
I am forever impacted by your service to men with SSA. I continue to give out of your legacy to men with SSA! Your life was big! See you in the sky! Gratitude to the Nicolosi family! Peace, Jerry Armelli
Posted by Christopher Doyle on 24th January 2018
Happy Birthday Joe! We miss you deeply and wish you were here! The legacy you left lives on, even in your death. I know you're smiling down on us! Thanks for all you did and who you were! We continue to think and speak of you. Your friend, Christopher Doyle
Posted by Feri Sulianta on 19th January 2018
Very good people who influence other with very positive impact. Dr Joseph is a good man who contributes something good to society. Thank you so much.
Posted by Cesar Martinez-Bernal on 5th January 2018
I'll miss you Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. Thank you. God bless you forever.
Posted by Henry Anon on 19th November 2017
Me hubiese gustado ser tratado por este gran señor. Mi historia de vida coincide completamente con lo que describe en sus libros. Soy de Paraguay, por lo que la distancia me impedía contactar con usted. Me puso muy triste enterarme de su partida y el cierre de su clinica St. Thomas Aquinas. Ojalá exista alguien que siga adelante con su trabajo que es muy importante para muchos hombres y mujeres con atraccion al mismo sexo indeseada. Sin haberlo conocido, lo extraño. Hasta siempre gran doctor.
Posted by Jose Ramon Sanchez on 16th October 2017
Deseo que no falte un tributo escrito en español en memoria del Doctor Nicolosi. Un profesional que ha hecho tanto bien. Yo provengo de la Universidad Gregoriana, en Roma. Pero lamentablemente allí se ha marginado completamente la la terapia reparativa con la "nueva administracción". Es una pena ver que desorientados están y como desorientan desde el Vaticano del Papa jesuita.
Posted by Holly Harrington on 4th October 2017
Please continue the late Doctor's work.
Posted by Tammie Blanchette on 18th August 2017
Years ago when I attended a Love Won Out conference sponsored at that time by Focus on the Family, I listened to Dr. Nicolosi for the first time. I also had the privilege of getting to ask him a question personally at a break-out session. In the years since, I've steered many people to the NARTH website for good science research on same-sex issues. I've got his books, I've spoken to many groups using his info as the go-to resource for educating one's self minus the lies of politicized 'news' and poor research that's flawed as a result. His bold stand and honest work will be sorely missed, but he's left a legacy he can stand tall about, and which will be used well in his honor by many. God has certainly honored this man's love for holding fast to the truth. I know he is in Heaven now, reaping much joy and many rewards. Remain standing to those who align with his hard work. The truth is worth it for those whose hearts are ready! They deserve no less.
Posted by Jack Fonseca on 14th August 2017
When I visited the NARTH website today and saw that Dr. Nicolosi had passed away, I was shocked and heartbroken. Although I live in Canada, I was inspired by his witness and courage fighting for Catholic and scientific truth, in the face of so much hostility from the left, and lack of support from the Church he loved so much. I pray that your intercession from heaven will now help us even more than your incredible, life-saving work did here on earth. I pray also that your intercession will help save NARTH from all attacks of the enemy.
Posted by Joseph Ramirez on 7th August 2017
I know this message may be ignored , i know you will never read it , i know i won't ever meet you .... You don't know how sad i turned when i realized you had passed away Since i left high school ... my only goal was to learn english so that i could go to the states someday to get rid of the feelings i have this dream could never come true ... No one knows about this but god and me ..... You deserve heaven Mr nicolosi ... I look up to you ... though you'll never know ...you were my second super hero after god .... bless you ... rest in peace
Posted by Nelson Tepedino on 3rd August 2017
Thank you very much for your books, Dr. Nicolosi. They are a courageous and transparent testimony of the truth. May you rest in the radiant presence of God. “Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when they insult you and persecute you and utter every kind of evil against you (falsely) because of me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven. Thus they persecuted the prophets who were before you.” (Mt 5, 10-12)
Posted by Thomas Schmierer, LMFT on 24th May 2017
Joe hired me as an intern during a financially hard time in my life, being newly married and unable as a vocal, faithful Catholic to find an internship in a profession that can tend toward hedonism. When my wife and I were still struggling financially during my internship with Joe, he offered my wife, Sophia, a research position. We will always be indebted to him for helping us to survive those hard times. Since Joe's death, I have been noticing how many things I say or do in my profession as a direct result of what Joe taught me and it is a lot. I gather from my clients that have been to other therapists, that I am able to establish goals in therapy quickly and help my clients to reach their goals relatively efficiently. I take it that this is rare. Anyone who knows Joe's approach to therapy and training interns, knows that I owe nearly all of my expertise to him, especially the aforementioned efficiency. I am able to compete in a competitive market and am able to continue to keep a roof over our heads and keep us fed, largely because of what Joe taught me. Joe may be gone, but financially, what he has given me is a gift that keeps giving. Personally, I felt a connection with Joe and he with me. He told me that he thought that for him, maybe the connection had something to do with our similar social class upbringing. He was from the Bronx and I am from Racine, WI, which are obviously geographically distant, but we both were from humble beginnings and spoke the language of our social class origins when together, at times. At his memorial service, it seemed like the general consensus was that Joe was not a good story or joke teller. I couldn't disagree more. He pointed out that I laughed at his jokes, when others didn't necessarily. Maybe that was another way we connected. I miss experiencing his passion and zeal for life. I miss what a character he was. I miss his guidance. I even think maybe I miss being the butt of his jokes, which I was on occasion. I wish somehow I could keep him from being dead. I want to keep talking about him to somehow keep him alive in that way. Although my sadness couldn't possibly be as deep as Joey and Linda's, like them, I too feel sad at the loss. I feel sad for all of us who knew and loved him. We are united in our sadness and maybe there is some solace in that.
Posted by Chris Rose on 23rd May 2017
It has only been a short time since I learned of Dr. Joseph Nicolosi’s passing. At this very moment sorrow rises and my throat begins to tighten while my eyes fill with tears. Taken back to historic documentation of the Kennedy assassination I recall the nation shocked and bewildered. Footage showing tear stained faces of the now lost and directionless souls, their beloved president was gone, along with the promises of hope they were assured of. Watching this footage I could never find for myself the possibility of mourning over someone I had never met, but only until now do I understand. I had never met “Dr. Joe” but somehow I understood him to be an earthly father, one that I have never had. I can only explain my loss like this. Now awake I cried out reaching into the darkness of the room for help. Memories of the nightmare still invading my mind I hear the creaking of the hinge as the door opens. Standing in the gap with inviting arms is this familiar strength and authoritative voice that renders the deceitful notions of perceived danger silent. His voice, deep and strong had again chased out the harm. Sitting beside me was wisdom, comfort, and a voice of caring placating my fears and assuring me that everything would be okay. Devout self-helper, I had never stepped a foot into the office of Dr. Nicolosi nor had I ever heard his voice. It was his writings that cupped the years of condemnation rendering them defeated. Years of unwanted homosexual behavior was laced with the thoughts of being God’s abomination. Though today my relationship with God is secured by His Anchor it was Dr. Nicolosi that my Heavenly Father called to comfort my soul. “There is a reason!” My argument remains the same that I had never chosen to identify differently- eventually homosexual, but there was a reason. All of my life I considered myself different. My adolescent swish proved this to my peers and convinced my single mother I was born with a homosexual tendency. She just wanted me to be happy, but there was a reason! Too weak to fight I divorced my high school sweetheart and embraced the gay lifestyle for nearly fifteen years, but there was a reason! I am forgiven for the sexual boundaries that I have crossed, charging against the natural order of God. The Lord Jesus has completed in me a strong identity of new life, and gifted righteousness. Now rooted and grounded in faith finally the prayer I had prayed in 2009 was coming to pass. “Lord, what happened to me? Why did I identify so strangely, opposite to my biological reasoning?” I am convinced that Joseph Nicolosi was called and chosen to reach the deep wounds of my life. Providential wisdom has repaired a broken sexual identity. Today, I am a strong man with realized gifts and talents no longer shackled in weighted chains. By grace I was freed, and by grace I now know what those bonds were. Thank you Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Sr. Love, Chris Rose Christ Rose Ministries
Posted by Sharon Metro on 23rd May 2017
I am a non-Catholic, "straight" female who is, nevertheless, interested in the origins and challenges of same-sex attraction, both for personal reasons (family members who are SSA) as well as other reasons (the cultural impact of homosexual attraction is profound and undeniable). I do, therefore, find it ironic that, at the beginning of my personal quest for information the very person who apparently was a source of knowledge and compassion has been taken from this earth! Nevertheless, am sure his work will go on, and I must commend the good doctor for being a courageous pioneer-may the light never be extinguished!
Posted by Valerio Sbravatti on 20th May 2017
Dear Joseph, I'm sorry for your departure and because I didn't send you a message of appreciation, as I wanted to do. Your book Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality was significant to me. Your work has been important and courageous, and I believe it must be further developed and spread also in the humanities, as I wish to do. May you rest in peace.
Posted by Chris Orchard on 20th May 2017
I can truly say that Dr Nicolosi's work lives on ... as I have only just recently (in the last week) been looking on the internet to find the answer to why anyone feels same sex attraction. I find his explanations rational, reasonable, based on evidence and compelling, and he was an excellent teacher, communicator and educator. Thank you so much, and I offer my deepest condolences to Linda and family.
Posted by Bryan Shen on 17th May 2017
I first contacted Joe - on behalf of the Singapore catholic Archdiocesan Response Team for people with Same-Sex Attraction - in early 2015. When I first met him in California a few months later, he was both generous and straight-forward. His professional help clearly came from a place of compassion. By end 2016, our Team were ready to invite him to Singapore. It was a shock for us to learn he passed away suddenly. But the work he begun, and continued unwaveringly, will continue in this side of the world. I look forward to more collaborations with the people that takes over Joe's work.
Posted by Dima Laz on 7th May 2017
I am shocked, devastated and angry at the same time. Though I have never seen him, I have always felt that he was one of the best friends, teachers, advisors and he was the person who understood me well. I felt it through his works, of course. Thank you people, who are writing tributes here, they are moving and very needed right now. If Joseph's colleagues or associates, who share his views, are reading it, please, never stop and never give up. There are thousands of people who need Joseph's wisdom. And you are the ones who keep it now. Mr Nicolosi, thank you so much for your passion, patience, a wonderful sense of humor and everything you did for men. I can't help crying, I feel as if I have lost my second father. RIP
Posted by Cathy Norman on 6th May 2017
May God bless Dr. Nicolosi and his sorrowing family. I thank God for Dr. Nicolosi's life and his love for struggling people and their families. His talks inspired and encouraged me and helped me to back off a bit when our sons were teens so they could better develop the relationship with their father which they so badly needed. The NARTH web site also helped me understand my own difficulties and gave me an understanding of the struggles of my several close and beloved friends with same-sex attraction. May his ministry thrive and his tribe increase!!!
Posted by Steve Shuman on 28th April 2017
I remember my first phone call to Joe's office back in early fall of 1992. I had heard about him and NARTH, which was just recently given birth by him. Joe asked if I would like to do some voluntary work for him in the office is getting things organized and "going" for the NARTH organization. I took the long bus ride from Glendale out to his office. I knew upon meeting Joe that I was in the presence of a most special man. I remember his kind spirit and generosity. I fondly remember him taking the both of us to lunch just down the street. We chattered like school boys as we walked to the restaurant....his treat. The memories are like they happened yesterday. I just found out about his passing earlier today. It felt like a telephone pole had been run through my body, the shock was so great. A great and sad loss. I am grateful to God that I had the chance to have him in my life way back then. I shall be sad for a long time now knowing that he is gone....yet I will be grateful and feel most blessed that I got to have him in my life back then and know him for all those years that I knew him. I shall not forget him.
Posted by Yisroel T on 27th April 2017
I am greatly saddened by the loss of the great Dr. Nicolosi. From what I knew of him through his books, lectures, and email correspondences he was a genuinely kindhearted and courageously honest person, and for that he has my utmost respect. He has touched so many lives for the better, including my own, and was the quintessential role model of what a mental health professional should be in the dishonest mire that is the contemporary scientific community. His work is not over! I intend to continue it and spread his message as far as it can go, particularly to the global Jewish community. May his memory be a blessing.
Posted by Jerry Armelli on 26th April 2017
Sincere sympathy to the Nicolosi family. Words are inadequate. I prayer for His peace, comfort, and strencth to you. Joe's contribution to the clinical world not only affected me personally as a man with SSA but also as a clinician helping others with the same. Joe's passion for men with SSA was inspiring and admirable. His passion for people impacted and changed lives for generations! His legacy will live on and on and on!!! You are missed Joe!
Posted by Stephen Jacobs on 25th April 2017
Thank you Dr Nicolosi for representing the rights/education/wisdom and understanding of those with unwanted SSA. Thank you enduring the fight! Missed but never forgotten. -- Stephen Jacobs
Posted by James Sprott on 21st April 2017
Dr. Nicolosi worked with me every week for a year in Reparative Therapy. His patience and generosity with me is what made the difference and changed my life. I am deeply saddened to hear of his passing, and I assure his family of my prayers for him. I certainly beleive that he will be praying for us in heaven. May God reward him for all his hard work in making us better men who live for virtue. Requiescat in pace. Fidélium ánimæ per misericórdiam Dei requiéscant in pace. Saint Thomas Aquinas, pray for us!
Posted by William Tong on 13th April 2017
I know Dr. Nicolosi when he visited Hong Kong in 2016 to give training to mental health professionals and pastoral care workers on the subject of homosexuality. Among the many things I learnt from Dr. Nicolosi, what stood out most were the firmness of his care he gave to his clients, and his trust in God that he had so well demonstrated in his workshop. His charisma had influenced many. I shall remember him and continue his mission in this part of the world to care for those who are struggling with same sex attraction, and yet wanting to pursue God and lead a holy life. May God bless Dr. Nicolosi and his family! Dr. William Tong
Posted by Ross Labins on 12th April 2017
It is truly amazing how life's activities guide you... I was searching a community college website here in S.E. Washington for an on-campus "Bible club" and as I was searching the "calendar" section, came across a group called "Born This Way Club". I realized immediately what this group was supporting and I clicked on the link for details. This is what I read: "Born this Way Alliance strives to provide a safe place for students to meet, have fun, and talk about LGBTQ+ issues and events. We want to make an environment where no one is judged for being who they are. Members of Born This Way Alliance will plan on and off campus events to inform the student body on LGBTQ+ issues and events or on how to be proud of who they are. All CBC students are welcomed." I was moved with love and compassion to search for the NARTH website because of my introduction to NARTH during Dr. Joseph Nicolosi's message over 23 years ago at a church in Simi Valley, CA, when he, along with a former homosexual and a medical doctor, spoke during a presentation titled "The Christian Response to Homosexuality". I found his information invaluable, using it first-hand during three separate occasions over the years as I encountered adult, male homosexuals who were all sexually abused as children. As I scrolled down the NARTH site for information, I recognized Dr. Nicolosi's picture and was absolutely shocked to see two dates and a dash between. I am so sorry for his family's loss, and the tremendous loss to all of us who knew him for years, or even just met him once in our lifetimes. He was a great man and performed a tremendous, incalculable service.
Posted by Lori-Ann Fretwell on 3rd April 2017
I knew him my whole life. There was never a time when my uncle didn't exist. Joseph Nicolosi's passing came as a shock to me for many reasons. He was one of the most health conscious active men I've known. I always thought that it would be another 20 years before he even slowed down. He was a driven ambitious man who loved to work and was never one for idleness. I found this inspiring. He was a man of conviction who made light of death threats and didn't let bad publicity get him down. I remember him saying that there was no bad publicity when he was publicly criticized or attacked on a tv show. Lesser men would have given up or given in or lived in a constant state of fear, but not him. His is a very American story of growing up poor in the Bronx and through dedication and hard work becoming a successful PH.D. He made the best Italian food. He told the best stories. He loved his family. He was generous and funny. He listened. He believed in God. "Sure, sure, sure." He'd often say. It was a privilege knowing him. I wish my son had gotten the chance to meet him.
Posted by N Arnold on 30th March 2017
For thousands of people like me, almost alone Dr. Nicolosi stared down the menacing gay lobby, wresting our lives from its ferocious, rabid grasp and giving them back to us. To him and his vanishingly few but courageous allies I owe every waking minute of contentment, happiness, and normalcy. Godspeed, doctor.
Posted by AJ Benjamin on 30th March 2017
Dr. Joseph Nicolosi was a pioneer and giant among men, whose writings on healing same-sex attraction brought healing to thousands of men like me. All of us whose lives he touched feel his loss. I will never forget him and hope my life can serve as a validation of his theories and his steadfast knowledge of the truth about homosexuality. Although I never met him personally, I read his books and he was so incredibly instrumental in my own growth. He truly did the Lord's work, facing fierce persecution from all corners of society, both religious and secular. He is the reason and force behind my own ministry (thesilentknight.net) I could never have done this without him and I truly feel like I am standing on the shoulders of a saint. My most sincere sympathy and prayers for you, his family and having suffered such a great loss. May he continue to intercede for us before the throne of Jesus Christ. Rest eternal grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him.
Posted by James Robb on 27th March 2017
When I received notice that Joe had passed, I was in shock, really and quite sad. Knowing all this man has done for me and so many, this warrior for a cause that few would dare take up, Joe did with courage beyond belief as he forged ahead with a new organization to rally to the cause, NARTH. He has left his mark for sure and will continue in our hearts and minds and through all of his words and writings, he will not long be forgotten. My heart goes out to Linda and the Nicolosi Family.
Posted by David Pruden on 27th March 2017
So many of his former clients and professional colleagues have shared the profound influence Dr. Nicolosi had on their lives that I find myself wanting to share a reflection that I hope adds insight to another aspect of his personality. Joe was the best dinner companion you could ever hope to find. He was genuinely interested in you and your interests and asked a lot of questions. He shared liberally his humor and reflections on family, friends, and topics of current interest. An evening spent with Joe Nicolosi was an evening well spent. And funny. I mean the man was laugh out loud funny. I will miss him greatly until we meet again.
Posted by Christopher Doyle on 27th March 2017
Dr. Nicolosi was a pioneer in the therapeutic community for the treatment of men who experience unwanted same-sex attractions. Unlike those who came before him that approached therapy for homosexuality from a psychoanalytic perspective (which he was also clinical trained), Nicolosi's work was informed by a more psychodynamic approach that was later influenced by emotional/affect therapies for the treatment of trauma. Since 1980, Joseph founded and directed the Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic in Encino, California. At the age of 70, his clinicians maintained a case load of 135 clients per week and were in the midst of completing groundbreaking research on the outcomes of clients in treatment. I had the pleasure of serving alongside Dr. Nicolosi in several different areas, most recently as an expert witness for the JONAH trial and a reviewer for a Catholic peer-reviewed scientific journal. I was also honored in 2011 as the first ever recipient of the Dr. Joseph Nicolosi award and scholarship for early career therapists by NARTH. On a personal note, Dr. Nicolosi was a friend, mentor, and supporter of the work at the Institute for Healthy Families and Equality And Justice For All. Last night I exchanged several e-mails with his wife Linda, who expressed she and her husband's admiration for our therapeutic and advocacy work for clients and families struggling with sexual identity. My least meaningful interaction with Dr. Nicolosi was in August when he gave me feedback on one of the chapters of my upcoming book. Joe was enthusiastic about the concept of healthy attachment between parents and children, and his insights really shaped the way I was able to understand the scientific literature around the experience of male homosexuality. He was always eager to interact with young therapists, and was so approachable and willing to give of his time to educate and mentor the next generation. When giants like Joseph Nicolosi leave this world too soon, one has to ask God, why? If you are reading this and have been impacted by the life and work of Joseph Nicolosi, would you reply with your reflection or a story of him? As we grieve as a community, my prayer is that together we can honor his life and work. I know this will be a tremendous blessing for his wife Linda, his son Joe Jr., his clinical staff, and all of his former and current clients that he leaves behind. Let's remember and celebrate his legacy in the spirit that Joe would have liked - with laughter, courage, and unequivocal truth. Thanks Joe, for a life well-lived. You gave so much to all of us. You will be deeply missed. Sincerely, Christopher Doyle, MA, LPC, LCPC Executive Director, Institute for Healthy Families Founder, Voice of the Voiceless Co-Coordinator, National Task Force for Therapy Equality
Posted by Ray Sullivan on 27th March 2017
To the Nicolosi family, I am sorry for your loss. I feel some of your loss too. Thank you for your family's sacrifice in contributing and supporting Dr. Nicolosi in his practice. I thank God for all people that seek truth and stand with others in their brokenness. I pray that Dr. Nicolosi's wonderful contribution to psychology science stands the test of time and our opinionated-based culture. May you all find comfort in knowing that Dr. Nicolosi is now enjoying a well deserved rest. Dr. Nicolosi...thank you for arguing for others to have rights. Thank you for not being politically correct at times; wherein truth was evident. Thanks for being just you [human]. The world would be a better place if more men/women would follow your example. I intend to.
Posted by Timothy Long on 26th March 2017
Reading through all the tributes on this page gives me such warmth, encouragement, and gratitude.  Gratitude that for ten years up until this last December, 2016, I had the privilege and honor of seeing Dr. Nicolosi in-person every week when I would come in to work at his clinic.  He was to me more than a boss, more than a clinical supervisor, more than a colleague.  He was my friend.  He was a father to me. So many have already written of Joe's courage, his expertise, his legacy.  I am grateful at least one other person has already taken note of the quality I was most impacted by: he LISTENED. Every morning I came into the office, he would greet me with "So how's Tim?" And when I spoke, he LISTENED.  He cared.  He would often tell me, "boy, you look tired." And "tut tut" at me in his Bronx, Sicilian way.  But he always made a connection with me. Always.  I could never put a price on that. Sure, as many have noted he was gruff and often argumentative. He could even be snide and dismissive at times.  But even then, he LISTENED.  He would return to our conversation, go over the points and argue and discuss as many times as I needed.  He never grew tired or rolled his eyes at my questioning.  At times, he would ask me (me!) for advice on how he should interact with this board member or that client or this clinician or that clinical concept.  He would frequently rush me into his room between clients to help him untangle one of the myriad computer snafus he would bring upon himself.  Once he even asked me for advice about his wife. (Sorry, Linda, for any undue harm that may have caused you.)  Over the years I saw bits of myself begin to come out in things he would say, ways he would act.  Here he was, a world class psychologist, a cultural warrior, a great man letting himself be impacted by ME! How could I ever, ever repay such an honor? What I gained from all this listening is a sense of value and of dignity and of calling that has changed my heart in a way very few other people have and I know few ever will.   One of my sweetest memories is the time we spoke at a conference together in Mexico City. Between sessions we would sight-see,eat,drink and talk.  And he LISTENED. He listened more kindly, warmly, and affectionately than I can ever remember.  This is the memory I hold most dear because this is when I learned not only did I view him as a father, he viewed me as a son.   Thank you, Joe. I have no more words beyond this: thank you.
Posted by Chris Rosik on 26th March 2017
During the past decade or so I had the pleasure of being hosted a few times by Joe and Linda at their home. I was honored to see another side of Joe during those times. He was a gracious host and pretty darn good cook. On my last visit in 2016 Joe was eager to give me a tour of his fruit trees and his small art studio out back where he would go to paint mostly landscapes. I think these hobbies and his great love for Linda gave him rest from the storm of his work as well as the strength and courage to continue it. In spite of what was often his strong professional persona, during these times at the Nicolosi home I was privileged to experience the gentle and human side of Joe. However, the quality I admire the most was Joe’s commitment to a scientific curiosity that led him to explore techniques and theories regarding unwanted same-sex attractions that most of the psychological profession has become too frightened to pursue. I would not be surprised if many of Joe’s insights are vindicated in a generation or two once the current corrupting of psychological science for political advocacy purposes fades. Until then, I sincerely hope Joe’s legacy will serve to give courage to others willing to do this work.
Posted by Walter Schumm on 25th March 2017
The loss of Dr. Nicolosi was a shock to me as well. He will be greatly missed in the profession of social science. May God bless his family through this sad time of grief, as only God can.

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