My hero with many faces
As I move closer to dawn of my life and look back on the events and people who have carved and molded me into the one ‘who I am today’, one man with many faces just overpowers the breadth of my thoughts and feelings. I vividly remember a young man with long black beard smiling mischievously over me, when I, a six-year-old had opened my eyes one morning in Kalkaji He had come for summer vacation from Banaras Medical College where he was going to become a doctor - the first doctor in the whole Malhotra clan. ‘That benevolent mischievous smile has never left me since’.
Over the years that face and its special smile had pulsated in mine and other people’s lives day in and day out. There has not been a single facet in our lives which this young man did not touch in some way.
This man was no other than my loving Arun maama: the most amazing man I know- my hero in this life time.
My father used to always say that person like Arun is rare to be found since not only he made himself worthy of respect but incited whole family to move up with him. He used to say that in history we have seen Shravan as a selfless man and in his family ‘it was Arun’.
Pitaji, my grandfather once told me that “Arun is a karma yogi, who will work incessantly and help the family to find new roots”. My journey of almost five decades have witnessed the wisdom of his words. Arun maama went on to bring exceptional joy, happiness, wealth, grow his own beautiful family, achieve his own professional success, support his brothers, sisters and cousins achieve their successes and incite in his nieces and nephews an urge to reach their own potentials, create a welcoming home for all of us to call our home in Kalkaji – to become a man whose life and many faces leaves me in a awe.
Starting with his own wedding a ‘ dream wedding’ where family was treated like royalties and still brings warmth of that beautiful wedding, pictures of him and Maami on world trip inspired all to be more than what one could be, creating a medical center one of its kind, building a modern house in times when such concepts were not known, then moving on to become a pioneer in his profession where people quote his observations and achievements. A person well embodied in success in terms of the world and a role model in himself.
Then comes the amazing part which defines the real man he was : ‘whenever anyone needed someone to lean on Arun maama was there – incessantly – always – without fail’.
Usha cant come for rakhi – Arun maama came to get the Rakhi from her before he went to work at 8 am , Rajenderjisbloodsugarwastoohigh:Arunmaamahadcomeandhadtakenhimtothehospital,Gittys thyroid levels are not correct: Arun maama had come to take him for scanning, Urmila maasi had fallen : Arun maama had come to take her to hospital ; Krishna maasiji not feeling very well: Arun maama was there and keeping her humored, Relan uncle needs company Arun is there to share the evening, Rajender jija ji has bought a car : Arun maama is there teaching him how to drive, Urmila Maasi has had gone to see a piece of land for the school : Arun Maama is with her and deal has been finalized, it is Urvashi’s birthday : Aum Maama has gone to get the cake, Manish cant be found : Arun maama is looking for him,
Satish Maama is at Delhi : Arun Maama has taken him to the publisher for his book. Vinod maama has arrived from Kuwait: Arun Maama has gone to pick him up from the Airport. Dickie had a serious accident: Arun Maama has taken him to Jaipur to help him walk again.......... not a moment, not a pulse missed.
One’s own hero is the one who inspires, guides and encourages. It is amazing that how I have made my decisions, whenever I have been at cross roads - by figment of my imagination of talking with him and seeking his advice or thinking what he would have done. At all times his answer was unequivocal ‘there is no reason not to do things which you want to do, I have done it, so you can’.
My mom always says, lucky are those who are nurtured by nature being loving and caring. They touch the heart and soul of our being. Arun Maama is an example of one who was loving and caring, wanted to be loving and caring, found resources to be loving and caring and above all had the courage to be loving and caring.
My hero with many faces
Dickie
Sanjeev Raj Bhatia