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Angel Voices, Ever Singing

July 31, 2022
Song by Francis Pott (1861)

Angel voices ever singing
round Thy throne of light,
angel harps, forever ringing,
rest not day nor night;
thousands only live to bless Thee
and confess thee Lord of might.

Thou who art beyond the farthest
mortal eye can scan,
can it be that Thou regardest
songs of sinful man?
Can we feel that Thou art near us
and wilt hear us? Yea, we can.

Yea, we know Thy love rejoices
o'er each work of Thine;
Thou didst ears and hands and voices
for Thy praise combine;
craftsman's art and music's measure
for Thy pleasure didst design.

Here, great God, today we offer
of Thine own to Thee;
and for Thine acceptance proffer,
all unworthily,
hearts and minds and hands and voices
in our choicest melody.

Honor, glory, might, and merit
Thine shall ever be,
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit,
blessed Trinity:
of the best that Thou hast given
earth and heaven render Thee.

Dad's favourite quote was taken from Alexander Pope's, Essay on Man

March 13, 2021
Greatness
Alexander Pope (1688–1744)
From “An Essay on Man,” Epistle IV.


 HONOR and shame from no condition rise;
Act well your part, there all the honor lies.
Fortune in men has some small difference made,
One flaunts in rags, one flutters in brocade;

The cobbler aproned, and the parson gowned,         5
The friar hooded, and the monarch crowned.
“What differ more (you cry) than crown and cowl?”
I ’ll tell you, friend; a wise man and a fool.
You ’ll find, if once the monarch acts the monk,
Or, cobbler-like, the parson will be drunk,         10

Worth makes the man, and want of it the fellow;
The rest is all but leather or prunella.
Stuck o’er with titles, and hung round with strings,
That thou mayst be by kings, or whores of kings;
Boast the pure blood of an illustrious race,         15


In quiet flow from Lucrece to Lucrece;
But by your fathers’ worth if yours you rate,
Count me those only who were good and great.
Go! if your ancient but ignoble blood
Has crept through scoundrels ever since the flood,         20


Go! and pretend your family is young,
Nor own your fathers have been fools so long.
What can ennoble sots, or slaves, or cowards?
Alas! not all the blood of all the Howards.


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Who wickedly is wise, or madly brave,         25
Is but the more a fool, the more a knave.
Who noble ends by noble means obtains,
Or, failing, smiles in exile or in chains,
Like good Aurelius let him reign, or bleed
Like Socrates, that man is great indeed.         30


Dr. Ezeka and Lady Eunice, Two Peas in a Pod

February 27, 2021
Dr. Sir Eliezer Ezeka Okafor
Dr. Sir Eliezer Ezeka Okafor was born on the 6th of June 1932 to Chief and Lolo Ezerioha  Okafor Nwaichi "Pa Johnson" of Nempi in Oru-West Local Government Area, Imo State, Nigeria. 

He started primary education at St Barth’s CMS School Nempi. In 1941, he moved to live with his God father, Mr Samuel Njoku, a missionary teacher from where he passed the ‘Standard VI’ Certificate Examination at St Silas Central School Ihiala in 1945.

In 1946, he went to Dennis Memorial Grammar School(DMGS) Onitsha with an Anglican mission scholarship. There, he was an exemplary student whose academic performance,  skills and courage inspired other students. His extracurricular activities included photography, carpentry, writing, hockey and social service. Eliezer often reminisced on his years at DMGS, and frequently quoted a maxim from Epistle 1 of Alexander Pope's famous poem, An Essay on Man, which he learnt there: “Honour and shame from no condition rise. Act well your part, there all the honour lies”.

During the holidays, the Principal, Rev. E.D.C. Clark, led the Social Service Society on social works to clean hospitals and renovate homes for widows and the elderly. It was during one of such outings that he developed an interest in medicine. The Society was at Iyi-Enu Hospital, Enugu for a clean-up exercise when a woman who was crying from labour pains was brought in on a stretcher and rushed into the emergency room. After delivery, she looked happy and relieved. He knew from that point that he wanted to be part of those people who had trained to bring such relief from pain and distress to others. He prayed that he would become a doctor. 

In 1950 he excelled with a first class in the Senior Cambridge School Certificate, and was exempted from the London Matriculation Examination.

Eliezer earned another scholarship from the Orlu District Office to study at the University College Ibadan. On September 12, 1951, the Orlu District Officer, Mr Frank Bex, wrote to confirm Eliezer’s scholarship and ended his letter with: “I take this opportunity to wish you every success and to express the hope that you will make the best use of this chance which you have have earned.” This finishing remark stirred Eliezer’s determination to succeed and became a driving force; he was later to coin his biography, Making the Best Use of a Chance, from it.  

On passing the ‘2nd MB’ Examination in 1955, the Nigerian Government awarded him a scholarship to continue his studies at the Manchester Royal Infirmary in England where he passed the MB. BS (London) examination in 1959 and became a fully registered Medical Doctor with the British Medical Council. He thereafter worked at various hospitals in England before returning to Nigeria to continue his medical practice at the University College Hospital(UCH),  Ibadan.

In 1963, Dr. Ezeka Eliezer Okafor travelled back overseas for a postgraduate Diploma in Tropical Medicine (DTM & H) at the School of Tropical Medicine, Liverpool, and Edinburgh, Scotland with a Federal Government scholarship. He graduated in 1964 and was inducted into the Royal College of Physicians (MRCP) the following year. During his stay, he worked at the Baguley, and Park Hospitals in Manchester; Tropical Diseases Centre, Sefton General Hospital Liverpool, Kirkcaldy Hospital Scotland, and Wigan Hospital England.

Before his return to Nigeria in 1965, Ezeka got married to his soulmate, Eunice Nwakaego Okoli, with whom he was to build the family enterprise, BEX MEMORIAL HOSPITALS. The delightful wedding ceremony took place at St. Martin in the fields - Trafalgar Square, London on September 12 1964; with a wedding reception at the Royal Banquet Hall - Royal commonwealth society Trafalgar Square London, which hosted 100 guests. The happy couple left the same day for their honey moon at Livermead Hotel, Torquay, Devon England.

From that point, Eunice became a perfect complement for her husband, at home and at work. She was an affectionate mother in the family, and a dedicated Matron at Bex Memorial Hospitals. Dr. and Mrs. Okafor’s family remains exemplary to their friends and community. They were blessed with two ladies and three gentlemen namely: Martin, Chioma, Uchenna, Ugonna and Obiora; who are all happily married and blessed with children.

Lady Eunice Nwakaego Okafor
Lady Eunice Nwakaego Okafor was born in Ihiala, Anambra State, Nigeria to Chief John Okoli and Mrs Agnes Okoli of Ibi in Oru West Local Government Area of Imo State on October 20, 1936.

Her father, Pa John Okoli “John cook”, was a reputable caterer employed by Reverend Father A. Bindel of the Catholic Church Ihiala to cook for the expatriate priests serving within the Parish. Madam Agnes Okoli “Singer woman”, her mother, was a trader with United African Company (UAC). She was a woman leader and politician with the National Council of Nigeria and the Cameroons (NCNC).

She attended The Holy Rosary convent school Ihiala and Uli girls’ school in Ihiala local government area of Anambra state.

Miss Eunice pursued education with vigour wanting nothing but the best and her parents encouraged and made her education a priority. In 1957, she travelled to England to train as a nurse at a time when only few Nigerians could find their way there.

She proved her mettle by successively clinching the State registered nurse (SRN) in 1960 from Stepping-Hill Hospital Stockport, Cheshire and State Certified Midwife (SCM) in 1962 from the Group Hospitals Freedom - Fields Hospital Plymouth. She thereafter became a fully registered nurse and certified Midwife with the British Nursing board.

Recognising her natural nursing skills, the Group Hospitals inspired her to study Theatre Nursing, to enable her become an Operating Department Practitioner (ODP). She took up the offer and obtained a Post Diploma in Theatre techniques, Th.TD. at Hither Green Hospital.

She had her post registration experience at Hither Green Hospital Lewisham and several other hospitals in England where she served in different roles; and was promoted to a Theatre Nursing sister. She thereafter worked in the Orthopaedics, General surgery and other departments within the theatre.

Back in Nigeria
Dr and Mrs Okafor returned to Nigeria in 1965 and worked hard to establish themselves. Eliezer practised with General Hospital Lagos as specialist doctor while his wife worked as Theatre Nursing-Sister-in-charge at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH), where she enjoyed giving Theatre support to Prof. Thomas and Dr. Alex Eneli of Eko Hospital Plc.

Dr. Eliezer’s work was challenging and required him to travel between eight different hospitals in Lagos. It however created unique opportunities for interaction with some highly placed political detainees at the Kirikiri Maximum security prison at the time such as Chief T.O.S. Benson, Dr. K. O. Mbadiwe; with whom he eventually forged enduring friendships.  

The Civil War (1966 – 1970)
The onset of Nigeria/Biafra civil war forced Ezeka and Eunice to leave Lagos and return to Nempi, Eastern Nigeria where they exhibited love and selfless service to mankind, in spite of the upheavals and travails of that period.

Dr. Eliezer Ezeka Okafor was appointed Member of the Orlu Provincial Assembly directly responsible to the Head of State of Biafra at Enugu from 1967 to 1970. Their family home was used to house refugees, and after the  war, it became an Out Patient Clinic until they were able to build an Out Patient Department (OPD) for the Bex Memorial Hospital, Nempi in 1971.

Appalled at the ravaging effect of Kwashiorkor on women, children, old folks and refugees; he treated these patients and in 1968, published a book titled, ‘Kwashiorkor, A Preventable Disease’ and established a 50-bed Kwashiorkor Sickbay with committee nominees from the Anglican and Catholic Churches.

He rendered free medical service at the Iyi-Enu hospital, Ogidi, for three months before he secured employment to continue as specialist doctor. There, he was happy to make the acquaintance of Sir Louis Mbanefo, the first Lawyer in Igbo Land, first Nigerian at the International Court of Appeal at the Hague, Chancellor of the Anglican Diocese on the Niger, Chief Judge of Eastern Nigeria, and Chairman Board of Governors, Iyi-Enu Hospital.

 When the expatriate doctors left the Iyi-Enu hospital because of the War, part of the hospital was transferred to Okija, where Dr Okafor was made Hospital Superintendent. He resigned his appointment with the hospital in April, 1972 to concentrate on his private practice. 

Bex Memorial Hospitals (BMH) 
Dr. Ezeka and his wife Eunice, established Bex Memorial Hospital (BMH), at Oguta Road, Onitsha in 1972 as their own contribution towards addressing the healthcare needs of the region after the devastation of the Civil war.

The hospital was named BEX, in memory of Mr Frank Bex, the colonial District Officer who facilitated Ezeka’s scholarship in 1951. BMH became very successful and a new building was officially commissioned at Onitsha in 1983, by the Honourable Minister of Health, Chief D. C.Ugwu. 

A well managed health facility, BMH boasts an enviable roll of medical professionals from various parts of the world. It continues to provide employment and compete favourably in patient care with the best known private hospitals in Africa.

Bethany Home – A Charity Rehabilitation Home for the Elderly
Bethany home is the charitable arm of BMH which runs a rehabilitation service for the elderly. BMH also runs a “poor patients’ fund”, a charitable purse for poor patients who are unable to pay their medical bills at BMH.

Dr Okafor’s Humanitarian Services to the Communities, the Church and the Nation
Dr Okafor founded the Nempi Development Union (NDU) in 1962; a forum where the Nempi community deliberated on roads construction, markets, schools and hospitals. Under his Chairmanship, NDU transformed the Nempi village to an modern town.

He provided scholarships for various students at all levels of education. He was Chairman of the Board of Governors of various schools; sponsored sports projects and donated school equipment. He was the Secretary of the Nigerian Medical Association, Onitsha Zone from 1972 to 1977.

Dr and Mrs Okafor built the Nempi Post Office and Civic Centre. They built new classrooms, stores and teachers’ quaters for the Nempi Community. They also donated generously to the Orlu Cheshire home and championed the propagation of Christianity by building new Churches and Schools; and sponsoring the education and training of priests.

Dr. Okafor was elected Chairman of Oru Local Government Council (1976 to 1979). During his tenure, he built two Local Government Secretariats and embarked on water schemes. He constructed roads, schools, health centres and maternity homes.

Dr. Okafor made five crucial publications in his life time; received several awards, religious honours and titles. He was ordained a Lay-Canon of the Diocese on the Niger in 1976 and became a Knight of St Christopher, KSC, in 1989.

A former Nigerian Health Minister, Dr Tim Menakaya, once described Dr E. E. Okafor as “A man who has done so much for his profession, his beliefs, his people and his country. Indeed, Dr E. E. Okafor abundantly made the best use of the chance which he earned.

Lady Eunice and Dr. Ezeka: made for each other
During the war Lady Eunice worked with Iyi-Enu hospital, where her husband was specialist doctor and later superintendent, as ward nursing sister (Surgical ward). She was promoted to Assistant Matron under Nursing Sister Mrs Grace Ifeka from Onitsha. At the time, all the expatriate medical team including Mrs Baunty (Principal of nursing school) had gone back overseas as a result of the war.

In 1971, she made changes to the school and re-established   the Nursing training school curriculum in partnership with the Nigeria Nursing Council.

When Eunice and her husband Ezeka establish Bex Memorial Hospital in 1972, she had to multi-task as the Nurse, Midwife, pharmacy- dispenser, receptionist at the out patients department, and the hospital staff trainer.

The tasks were so herculean that both husband and wife worked round the clock without for social activities. Baby deliveries were on average of 10 a day. Yet, she infused vigour, enthusiasm and dedication into all she did.

In 1977, she gave full support to her Ezeka who was running for the position of the first elected chairman, Oru local government area. She took control of the Hospital affairs and with the support of capable and dedicated staff, including Dr.(Mrs.) Obiora, an expatriate from Finland, the hospital continued to flourish to the extent that the facility had to be upgraded in response to the need for expansion in various departments of the hospital.

On June 17, 1983, a new Bex Memorial Hospital complex was built and opened its doors to patients at km 1 Owerri road, Awada Onitsha, Anambra state. A purpose built complex with a 3-level facility  incorporating state-of-the-art medical facilities to reflect the spirit of excellence and innovation with which it was established. The commissioning was attended by many dignitaries. On that day, Ezeka and Eunice unveiled the hospital Plaque which reads, “service to humanity”.

Tall and firm like an Iroko but calm, calculating, elegant, soft spoken and humane, Lady Eunice, like her husband, was not the flamboyant and boisterous type. Where other ladies of her status and accomplishments would be bossy, throwing their weight around, Eunice moved about the Hospital with smiles on her face, caring and supporting patients as well as coaching nursing staff on care, planning and patient management. She made in- house training a priority and till date, her influence on nursing care delivery in the private sector across the Niger still remains.

The situation at hospitals is not always pleasant. Tragedy is a common occurrence and she was able to manage difficult situations with families and patients by going through their darkest moments with them, providing comfort and helping them manage their grief, a skill most of her patients’ relatives cherished.

She was a great ambassador for Bex Memorial Hospital and would go to any length to make contact with relatives of accident victims hospitalized at Bex. This was an onerous task at a time when telephone penetration was still very low and services were poor across the country.

At the Orlu Anglican Diocese, she was an executive member of  spiritual units as well as adviser to the women under the leadership of Mrs Eboh, wife of his Lordship, Bishop Eboh.

She was chairperson of St. Barth’s Anglican Women Association(Home and Abroad meeting) from 1967 until 1993, when she was also elected the President of Nempi Development union (women wing).

Due to her transparency, honesty and uprightness, she was financial secretary for the Association of medical Doctors’ wives (Onitsha, Anambra state); and Vice President, ‘Kwuba aka gi oto’ women society, under the leadership of Mrs Joe Anyasinti from Ubulu in Oru west local government. She was a member of All Saints Cathedral Onitsha and held the position of Assistant Leader of Women Group in her prime years. She was also a member and Treasurer of Young Women Christian Association (YWCA).

A member of the Evangelical Fellowship in Anglican Communion (EFAC) and the Full Gospel Businessmen's   Fellowship International Executive chapter, GRA Onitsha, Lady Eunice was a bundle of humility and an affectionate mother.

Just as she gave quality attention to her nursing career, so did she to her family, church, farming projects and maintaining her flower lawns at her residences in Nempi and Onitsha. Not one for indolence, she spent her spare time farming and gardening.

Although her fame as a nursing practitioner overshadowed her agricultural exploits, Eunice was an accomplished farmer. She operated Ego Farms, an enterprise comprising a poultry farm at her residence in Onitsha, and Rice fields at Omor and Abakaliki .

She also farmed yam, corn, plantain, and cassava and was always busy during the harvest season. She processed Garri and at harvest time, gave some, along with other farm products, to the less privileged and to friends of the family.

Her Poultry units had enormous production capacity for automated cage farming. They produced table eggs and were the source of lay-birds for upcoming poultry farmers. She also raised broiler birds to meet seasonal demands. Additionally, she was an authorised distributor for Pfizer livestock feeds Ltd.

At her rice fields in Omor and Abakaliki, she worked in partnership with indigenous land owners within over 10 hectares of land. Leaning heavily on the wisdom and cultural approach of the locals, she achieved yields of up to 32 -45 tonnes of processed rice per season .

Eunice was one of the pioneers of aquaculture in the eastern region of Nigeria. She established fish ponds at Nempi where she stocked catfish and tilapia. Her piggery were of land race breed.

Lady EuniceNwakaego Okafor was also an accredited distributor to breweries-Golden Guinea, Premier and Life Breweries; and Limca.

The success of her farming activities played a significant role in the development of Bex Memorial Hospital complex at Onitsha. No wonder Dr. Tim Menakaya wrote in his citation of Dr & Mrs. E.E Okafor at the commissioning of BMH: " You both, Ezeka & Eunice are wonderfully complementary both at home and in the work place”.

It would be incomplete to write about Eunice without talking about her fashion sense as she was essentially a fashion icon from youth. Whether it was for weddings, funerals, royal visits or traditional occasions, she was always well turned out, allowing a splash of colours. She actually inspired manyfashion trends through the 70s, 80s, and 90s. Her defining style suited her exhausting schedule of engagements. She was always Clean, Crisp, and Classic. Lady Eunice could be described as ‘Elegance and style in perfect harmony’.

The fear of God, the appreciation of goodness and the determination to succeed against all odds were the hallmarks of Eunice. She remains an inspiration to many whether in the field of nursing, at home as a wife and mother, or in the fields as an entrepreneur. She was also recipient of many awards in her lifetime.

No doubt, Eunice and her husband Ezeka were compatible and together, they surmounted turbulent waters in life. Each day saw them more united and committed to God. In her husband’s words,  "Eunice makes up for my deficiencies.”

Nearer, My God, to Thee

February 27, 2021

Song by Dp / Stevens James L
In articulo mortis
Caelitus mihi vires
Nearer, my God, to Thee
Nearer to Thee
E'en though it be a cross
That raiseth me
There let the way appear (in articulo mortis, caelitus mihi vires)
Steps unto heav'n (Deo adjuvante non timendum in perpetuum)
All that Thou sendest me (dirige nos Domine ad augusta per angusta)
In mercy giv'n (sic itur ad astra, excelsior)
still all my song shall be
Nearer, my God, to Thee
Nearer, my God, to Thee (dirige nos Domine ad augusta per angusta)
Nearer to Thee (sic itur ad astra, excelsior)
Though like the wanderer (in articulo mortis, caelitus mihi vires)
The sun gone down (Deo adjuvante non timendum in perpetuum)
Darkness be over me (dirige nos Domine ad augusta per angusta)
My rest a stone (sic itur ad astra, excelsior)
angels to beckon me
Nearer, my God, to Thee
Nearer, my God, to Thee (dirige nos Domine ad augusta per angusta)
Nearer to Thee (sic itur ad astra, excelsior)
Ooh (excelsior, excelsior)
Or if on joyful wing (in articulo mortis, caelitus mihi vires)
Cleaving the sky (Deo adjuvante non timendum in perpetuum)
Sun, moon, and stars forgot (dirige nos Domine ad augusta per angusta)
Upward I (sic itur ad astra, excelsior)
Fly (dirige nos Domine ad augusta per angusta)
(Sic itur ad astra, excelsior)