ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved husband, brother, uncle, nephew and friend Dr Olufemi Dipeolu.
We will remember him forever.

Funeral arrangements 

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Posted by Tumi Hawkins on March 20, 2021
Femi, my memory of you goes back to Great Ife, together with your brother Wale. Good days and fond memories.

Gone but not forgotten. I bid you farewell. Rest in Peace
Posted by Olufemi Ajani on March 5, 2021
Met Dipson at OAU Ife, he was my senior at med school, we also shared a few common friends. After graduating, we were both residents at OAUTHC and also both went to Medical University of Southern Africa for Postgraduate specialization. Dipson likes pleasant suprises, I remeber the day he came to visit me at MEDUNSA, at that time I did not know he was also in MEDUNSA, he starts every encounter with his characteristic smile... May the Lord Bless your soul.
Posted by Oluwayemisi Okoya on March 5, 2021
WE SHOULD NOT BELIEVE THAT THOSE WHO ARE GONE ARE BEREFT OF SUPPORT AND PROTECTION

My dear brother, what shall we then say to these things but to give glory to the one who gave us breathe.

Olufemi, I choose not to mourn but to celebrate you, your journey on earth and your final journey to the great beyond. Yes, you lived a good life, shorter than most, quietly enduring whatever lot was apportioned to you, you fought many battles, resisted many attacks and overcame many adversaries and you conquered.

You were very quiet and nurtured so much in the power of silence, you were deep, I knew you had a lot to say but rather than hurt or harm anyone, you kept them all deep within, with a quiet smile on your face, you were a man of great wisdom.

Femi, your daughters may be wailing and your sons shooting their guns, calling for a comeback of their father. No matter how intense our wail or far ranging our shots, Heaven's call is louder, you heard the trumpet, the call of the Great Messiah and you heeded the call. No call can be greater.

Dear brother , you have become our cloud of witness, beckoning to us to run a good race of faith, fight a good fight of faith and make a safe journey back home.
You were deep, very deep and above all simple and beautiful.

On earth your body will be laid to rest but not your soul, may your journey back to the garden of the blessed be filled with immeasurable grace. Amen.

And may the Lord keep safely all that you left behind. Amen

Good night my dear brother, as you wake up to a glorious morning.

MAY THE DAYS OF THE CLOSING OF OUR CYCLE
BE FILLED WITH IMMEASURABLE GRACE

Sun re o, my dear brother, omo Dipeolu oke ijehun. Otun di oju ala, odi ojo ajinde.

Oluwayemisi Okoya
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 5, 2021
The Gentle Giant Goes Home
Tribute to Olufemi Olagoke Dipeolu

My junior brother Dr. Olufemi Olagoke Dipeolu was born on 2 September 1962. I remember the period very well because I had just celebrated my 4th birthday and then my mother went into hospital. All I was told when I asked was wrong with her was that she had gone to ‘bring us a baby’. There were two defining characteristics of Olufemi when he was born. First was that he was a ‘big’ baby and he was born with a hole in his heart. His size and his heart were part of his life till the very end.

Olufemi was a constant part of family life from the very beginning although in those early years he would abandon the rest of us to our fate when it came to issues of parental discipline. Once when Ade, Tayo and I were shooed off to bed just as the interesting TV programmes were about to start, Femi stayed back. Daddy’s friend who was playing Scrabble with him then asked Femi whether he was not going to bed like the rest of us. Femi’s reply which went into family folklore was ‘I shleep my own’! In other words, he would sleep in his own good time and could not be shooed off like those unfortunate ‘egbons’. At another time, when Mummy was frying some delicacies for Daddy after we children had eaten, Femi asked for some of what was being prepared and she told him that the meal was for Daddy. Femi’s response which also became another family classic was ‘everything, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy’. The rest of us dared not say any such things. Indeed, only Femi could tell JOD that he looked forward to being Job (the carefree gardener) when he grew up.

I have several fond memories of Olufemi but when I reflect on his life at this time of grief, it is his extraordinary resilience in the face of physical and human challenges that I recall most. Femi was bitten by a snake as a small boy and somehow also managed to be bitten by a dog as he walked all over Unife campus. He had open heart surgery in his early teens to fix the hole in his heart and he had his jaw broken by a mad thug in his first year of University. Femi broke his arm while serving in Technical Aid Corps in Mozambique, caught cerebro-spinal meningitis on the job in Nqutu, underwent several operations to remove various hernias and suffered from very severe gout and arthritis. In it all, he never lost his good humour and bore his health challenges with dignity and without complaint.

Olufemi was a big man in every way. He impacted very positively on his family, colleagues and the community in Charles Johnson Memorial Hospital, Nqutu. Femi would find a way no matter how difficult to travel for family occasions be it in Lagos, Addis Ababa, Abeokuta, Ibadan or London.  He loved his family and was much loved in return. I recall that when he was lying semi-comatose in hospital in Durban and Daddy, Uncle Muyiwa and I flew down to see him, Femi came round immediately he heard our voices! It was near miraculous and the doctors and nurses remarked on it. Similarly, when I was hospitalised on two different occasions in Johannesburg and Femi dropped everything to travel down from Nqutu to check on me.  On one of those occasions before he arrived, I recall lying in bed in an Intensive Care Unit (with wires coming out of everywhere) and how a hitherto indifferent nurse became very caring and helpful when she found out that I was Femi’s brother. She said she had studied nursing at CJM and that Femi was a very good person with a stellar reputation and that she owed it to him to look after me.

There is so much to say as I spoke to Femi regularly about his plans and aspirations which alas will not longer be realised. I am heartbroken and inconsolable! My heart goes out to Nokwazi and the rest of the family and friends that he left behind.The gentle giant has gone home.

Adeyemi


Posted by Nokwazi Dipeolu on March 5, 2021
Femi Dearest I thank God for giving us the best 21 years together, wow indeed.
We held our hands moving on in our God's planned journey, we have seen it all, we saw God calming our storms, we saw him bless us with miracles. He allowed us to count on him and we did as always.
My Dear Femi you have been very strong, you suffered, if anyone want to know the meaning of the word pain please ask me I think I know and understand it better.
Thank you for loving me and Pono,thank you for protecting me, you are really amazing my love.
The early morning of 28 February 2021 again you protected me,you were still warm when I arrived, thank you for sharing your last warmth on earth with me.
I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU MY DEAR HUSBAND
God I am counting on you to pull me through.
Posted by Folake Ekundayo on March 5, 2021
Tribute on behalf of Mrs. Yewande Ekundayo-Adedeji.

Writing a Tribute for Femi by me, in my own opinion should be the other way round - questioning God - Ka bi o ko si - Unquestionable God - Kabiyesi Olodumare.

Femi's voice still rings in my ears, when on Saturday, February 6, 2021, he called and said "Aunty, Femi lo nsoro". My reply was - "I knew, l had already sent you a message announcing the passing on of Mrs. Folayan". What a loyal and devoted friend to late Tayo, late Rayo and to Tipe. You then promised to call back despite your own medical challenges. You were generous to her till the end.
Femi, a gentleman to the core. I remember joking with Daddy D, your usual statement when you were young - "I am thinking my own". You cared for my well-being, together with my children, whose upbringing were of much concern to the Dipeolus generally.

Thank you Nokwazi, for standing by Femi to the end and it is a pity l didn't honour your your invitation to visit you both in South Africa. I pray that the Almighty God will not leave you alone.
All thanks to the Almighty God that Femi did not pre-decease his loving parents.

Good night Femi, till we meet to part no more. I still cherish your Christian Valentine's message on February 14.

Yewande Ekundayo-Adedeji.
Posted by Iyabo Ottun on March 5, 2021
Good night to Femi Dipeolu (Dipson)
He was a gentleman to the core and calm soul with a large heart of love. He's always at the forefront to render help at any given time. May the lord comfort your wife and your siblings and all of us your 738 sets old school mates. A beautiful soul has gone to be with the lord. Rest in perfect peace Dipson!!!
Posted by George Iyonmahan on March 5, 2021
DR DIPEOLU OLAGOKE OLUFEMI MEMORIAL SERVICE SPEECH BY DR GEORGE IYONMAHAN AT CJM HOSPITAL NQUTU KWAZULU-NATAL SOUTH AFRICA 4TH OF MARCH 2021
Good afternoon, Greetings; Dr Dipeolu family, colleagues, ladies and gentlemen.
We are gathered here today to celebrate and commemorate the life of our dear colleague, a father figure, a big brother and a gentle giant.

I first contacted Dr Dipeolu on the telephone when I was inquiring about cjm hospital early January 2007, as he was the medical manager.
He was so soft spoken on the telephone, and I didn't realize how gigantic he was a man. Until I met him.

A gentle giant.

Then I was residing in Pretoria and have to come down to cjm nqutu to sit for the interview on the 30th of January 2007, I was not so convinced that I was going to come work in cjm because of the distance from the big city but when I got here and realized the level of commaderie that was emanating from this man , he made me feel at home and welcome so I decided to stay though I already had another offer somewhere else I had to forgo that initial offer and stick to cjm hospital because I know my big brother was here.

It was nice working with Dr Dipeolu and the wife Mam Dipeolu was also there on my first day, she was also very nice and accommodating she made us a very nice dish of lasagne. I will never forget thank you mam for your hospitality and kindred spirit.

Dr Dipeolu was a very straightforward fellow when he is not happy with you he will call you and iron it out he was a good and understanding boss. He was the best boss I ever had.

"Boss", I use to call him jovially and he use to call me "AISA",fondly.

He is left an indelible footprint which we will not be able to fit but will try and emulate his lofty ideals

He never tarry when at work he make sure work is done even when not feeling uptimal he still avail himself to render the service that it's so much appreciated. Unfortunately he is no longer with us today because the good lord knows the best.

We will find solace in the fact that he is in a better place.

We will miss you my big brother Dr Dr olufemi olagoke Dipeolu rest in peace in the Lord bossom Amen .

Posted by Kayode Oluwasegun-Ojo on March 4, 2021
Dipson,Bros Femi,Egbon,not really sure which of the names fit this occasion best.You were definitely a big brother to me and all my siblings ,considering how close our families are,but then again as a jambite in Ife and later in my undergraduate days Dipson was easier for me a guy abi that was how we all addressed you.
It didn't matter that you were definitely my big brother,you did many things that made me look up to you.
I admired your quiet ,independent yet accommodating posture towards other peoples views,and of course your intellect and deep under standing of people.
My mother once told me how you interrupted a conversation she was having with your late mother when she expressed concerns about my keeping late nights and wondered if I wasn't getting involved with young boys in Ife staff quarters who were stealing things from the science laboratories. She said and I quote "Femi said Kayode cannot be in those gangs ,no matter how late he stays out!".
So spot on ,Dipson,straight to the point,Frank, unassuming but seeing so much,standing up for truth!
We last saw at Daddys funeral in 2020.My sincere condolences to your wife,my egbons:Bros Adewale,Adeyemi ,Uncle Muyiwa and Sister Tayo & of course my dear aburo Olaperi.
I pray for Gods comfort for you all as we thank God for Femis life.
I take solace in these words from the Bible :Acts 20:35 I have showed you all things,how that so labouring, ye ought to support the weak and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus It is more blessed to give than to receive.
This for me sums up Dipson, and I thank God for his life.
On behalf Professor and Mrs J.R.O Ojos children.
Posted by Durojaiyeola Ogunjobi on March 4, 2021
Femi,
Your sense of humour, smile and brotherly love is something I will cherished. Memories of you welcoming me when I was at Ile-Ife visiting and insisting that we should go out leaving our egbons to enjoy ourselves. He was a lovely guy. I will never forget your soothing voice. I can't put to words how I am feeling hearing your demise from our egbon "Prof". You were my brother. You fought a good fight. We thank God for your life and I will miss you with all my heart. Rest in peace my beloved brother.
Posted by Sthabile Akpan on March 5, 2021
A gentle giant, is what I call you! I have been trying to write but no words can express what you have meant to me and our family you have been that constant star that is always there whether it’s been a week a month or a year the warmth you radiated cannot be described but only felt. From that very first day we were introduced by Francis in Nkonjeni, more than two decades ago we became family and remained that way to the end. You held a very special place in my heart and will forever do. We will miss you but you will never leave our hearts. Thank you Nokwazi for your love and care for our brother and dearest friend. Sleep well gentle giant!
Posted by Ayo Olukanni on March 4, 2021
It's so sad and shocking to hear that our dear Femooo passed on Just like that.! We come a long way , all the way from our Ife days. He is how he has been described in the various glowing tributes in this Memorial. Fine gentleman, brilliant but ever so humble and a humanist to the core. This is not to talk about his humour and ever always looking for how to help others in any situation. His decision to ply his trade in a rural setting in South Africa says so much about his commitment to impact positively on the ordinary people through his skills as a medical Practitioner in the area of Public Health. We shall surely miss him. We remained consoled that his was a life well lived. Deep condolences to his dear wife and family members he left behind. Rest in perfect peace our dear Femooo!
Posted by Femi Odelusi on March 4, 2021
Dipson. You fought a good fight. You ran a good race. You achieved a lot. You contributed to the development and advancement of the human race. We thank you.
Way back at Great Ife, you were that impressive guy.

Rest in perfect peace.
Posted by Dipo Lagunju on March 4, 2021
So sad and shocking to hear of Dipson's passing!!
We had such a great time together in Unife and recall the good times we shared. Soft spoken with a gentle mien, that belied his frame and size.
He will sorely be missed.
My condolences to his family.
Rest in Peace Femi
Posted by Folake Ekundayo on March 4, 2021
Femi, Laperi’s big brother, a gentle soul and a gentleman.

Growing up in OAU and spending a lot of time at the Dipeolu’s, (not sure where the apostrophe should be), ...Femi was one of the kind ‘Egbons’ I knew.

Over the last 30 years, I met Femi at Laperi’s wedding, and when Olisa was born. We talked about his life in Kwazulu Natal. Last year January 2020, we met at Daddy Dipeolu’s funeral and I got to meet his lovely wife Nokwasi. I took lots of pictures on my phone. It will be the last time we will speak.

Dr Femi, goodbye, good night and sleep well in the bosom of Jesus.
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 4, 2021
Adieu Don Dipsonius

Its rather painful for me to write this – Femi being my aburo by six years but although it is said that it is chance that makes brothers and hearts that make friends, Femi was both my brother and friend. In fact, at a time, we could have been called comrade-in-arms because we loved to hang out together. I recall that when he was working in the hospital in Ile-Ife, I would sometimes go to visit him, and we had fun together.

I called him Femi, Femo, Femora or Don Dipsonius. The latter I particularly enjoyed because I also had been called Hendrix da Dipho way back in Comprehensive high School, Aiyetoro when he was in Form 1 and I was in Lower six.

Olufemi - gentle, soft spoken, kind, man of peace, exemplary giver, a tower of strength, brilliant doctor, loving brother, respectful son. I think some of his friends named him Eskimo daddy. I really don’t know why but I know that it had to do with his gentle mien.

Femi spared no expense in entertaining. I remember that my wife Morenike and I once visited him in South Africa, and he took us all over the place. We went to Robben Island, Table Mountain, the most southwestern point of the African Continent – the Cape of Good Hope and Cape Point where the Atlantic and Indian Oceans meet? and all sorts of exciting places.

We both inherited that painful condition called gout but because he lived in South Africa where the medical profession is much more developed than Nigeria, his gout was able to disappear and he kept sending me some drugs hoping that mine would also disappear one day.

Each time I called him, he would mutter almost inaudibly –‘Professor’ and then we would launch into our discussions. He tried so much to move away from Nqutu, but I suspect that he was destined to be a missionary there and I am sure he made his mark.

I reach out to my sister Nokwazi who was with him for so long. God bless you real good.

Adieu my brother, adieu.

Adewale Dipeolu
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 4, 2021
Trips to South Africa were incomplete without a trip to Nquthu to visit Uncle. I’m heartbroken that I didn’t get a last chance to visit, and take the long but entertaining drive down to Durban with him acting as an unofficial tour guide. Uncle Femi was a kind soul who lit up every room he was in with positive energy. He will be sorely missed.

Folatomi Alli-Balogun
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 4, 2021

My brother Femi, I first met you at International School Ibadan. I was a junior and you were a senior doing O-levels. Little did I know that you would become my brother in law. Actually, not a brother in law but a real true brother.
You touched so many lives with your kind, caring, loving and peaceful nature. You will be sorely missed.

I wish you farewell. Rest in perfect peace.

From your Brother Andrew Aghadiuno
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 4, 2021
Tribute from Peri
Adieu my dearest brother, Femi aka Femo, Dipson, Femi D.
There are no good words that can best describe my feelings at this time but I will try.

Surreal: As I can’t believe you are gone and I will never hear you speak or crack your jokes. I won’t hear you call me Peri Fine again.

Devastated: I thought you had overcome the worst and you would be with us for longer.

Heartbroken: I did not get to say good bye! Too soon, too sudden.

Rest in peace, my beloved brother, you will be sorely missed.

Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 4, 2021

Grandpa once told me a story about uncle Femi as a young boy: He decided one day to ask his children, one at a time, what they aspired to be when they grew up. According to him, the answers were satisfactory until the question was posed to uncle Femi, he responded in all seriousness (or so it goes): “I want to be Job” ( their gardener at the time) who, according to the good doctor, had the best job - because he got to sleep all day and generally not do much. At this, we both laughed uproariously. Grandpa, all those years later, was still genuinely amused and perplexed by uncle Femi’s (very astute in my opinion) answer.

My uncle, despite his warmth and excellent sense of humour was also an enigma. I once asked him (recently, if memory serves), why he always chose the most remote and unlikely places to live.  He responded (again, I paraphrase): “because that’s where I found work” with a whisper of a smile. A smile, mind you, that was both there and not there at the same time, as if he were privy to esoteric universal wisdom that was inaccessible to mere mortals and could only be channeled through his characteristic dead-pan humour. 

He was a man of few words, but I suspect he harboured many unstated opinions. He was a man whose presence was felt despite being noticeably taciturn at the best of times. His laugh was equal parts infectious, understated, and uplifting (what I can only describe as a chuckle that was expressed more visibly than audibly). He was a jolly man despite his tendency to sit in silent observation most times. He was a gentle, peace-loving soul. In fact, the only time I remember him losing his temper was when he came to the defence of my mother, my siblings, and I against a vile, small, bigoted English cabbie (his complete opposite come to think about it) - one of the very few times I remember him raising his voice. Even when, as a young boy, I dared to admonish him for spilling water on the floor after his shower; he didn’t shout or even noticeably get upset. All I got was a “you’re very cheeky” in his trademark quiet growl, the same unchanging enigmatic look on his face.

I hope, one day, to be privy to all the secrets of the universe that kept him as poised and dignified as he was. For now though, I will content myself with reminiscences of all the time we were able to spend together and regrets for all the missed opportunities.

I’m heartbroken, as we all are, and words on paper will never do the man justice. Uncle, you are a special person and I pray that your gentle soul rests in peace.

May we meet again on the morning when God’s kingdom comes.

Deyi Dipeolu
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 4, 2021

My Uncle Femi
This one hurt to write! This was sudden and I was not prepared! I’ve struggled with the words because it’s definitely still a shock.

Uncle you were one of the kindest, calmest people I’ve known, an amazing uncle in many ways and your love for me (us) so evident.

I remember when you were in Montserrat, despite your busy schedule you extended and “pushed” that invitation for me to come- how I wish I had bitten the bullet and followed through! I have no doubt it would have been a good time and a memory I would have forever cherished.

I also remember 2015 when I was graduating, you started out the process of coming to celebrate with me but because of work you couldn’t come again. That act meant so much to me and has stayed with me.

Uncle that’s just who you were, you were so kind, so giving, and you championed me! Without a doubt you were so hardworking and dedicated to what you did!

I was speaking to my friend the day we found out you had left us and she reminded me of how you took time out to go and visit her more than once while she was working in South Africa. In looking over our exchanges I then stumbled across your text where despite your comments about not liking the road to hers you still went to see her! It made all the difference. That’s just who you were.

In a room your gentle presence was always felt and uncle you were so unassuming in your ways, so observant and when you spoke, so measured. To me you were a gentle “giant”.

Uncle I will miss you! We are all going to miss you! And it may take a while for this to feel real! There are of course not enough words, But thank you for who you were and the memories!

Sun re uncle mi! Till we meet again!

Omowunmi Dipeolu
Posted by Soleye Hughes on March 4, 2021
Adieu Femi Dipeolu

I got a call from Prof Hendrix very early on Sunday 28th of February 2021. I was excited to pick the call! Then he went “ Ore e ti lo o! “ Thus ended 48years of true friendship… hmm life!

Femi and I met in Comprehensive High School Ayetoro in September 1973 when we both enrolled in the school for our secondary education. Apart from our 1st year when ‘freshers’ stayed outside the campus and he was in Doga House and I in Ogunsola House, Femi and I were in Blue House.

We became such good family friends. A friendship that spanned 48 years from Ayetoro to University of Ife, and life after school, when he initially moved to South Africa, before travelling to the volcanic island of Montserrat and then back again to South Africa.

Femi and I kept in touch regularly and he would always remind me of something mischievous we had done in our younger days, with a big laugh. (Femi’s memory was unbelievable). He enjoyed reading and paraded himself as having a vast vocabulary. He enjoyed his red wine and barbeque (brai). We shared the same birthday. I will miss our usual greetings …..

Femi was a generous, sincere and genuine friend. He loved his family dearly and was very fond and protective of his kid sister Peri. I also became very close his late father, Uncle Sesan Dipeolu, a man of wisdom and a connoisseur of good whiskey. 

The last few months were tough for him because of his health challenges and his immobility. I remember vividly him telling me that but for his wife, Nomkwazi, he would have been long gone. Indeed, I wish to thank Nomkwasi for taking care of Femi. May the good Lord bless you and as you mourn your loss. May He grant you the grace and fortitude to bear this loss. Thank you Nomkwazi.

Prof Hendrix, The Ambassador , Tayo and Peri to lose a sibling is not an easy thing, especially a brother like Femi. May God almighty be with you all. “ E pele”.” E ku ara fera ku”

Sail on my brother . “Ogbo logbo Doctor” !! Doctor of Doctors!! May your gentle soul and the souls of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in perfect peace. Amen!









Posted by Willa June Aghadiuno on March 4, 2021
It’s been an honour to have embraced Femi as my son. He was kind, respectful, humble and very pleasant. His presence always brought me joy as he was so peaceful, unassuming and reserved. He was such an inspiration and generated fun with his gentle spirit. He had a wealth of knowledge and was hard working.
Shopping was his passion, he was a shopaholic and loved nice things. This is a tragedy, I am devastated, so unexpected. Gone but never forgotten, I will surly miss you. Rest in perfect peace Femi in the arms of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Mummy Willa June Aghadiuno

Rest in perfect peace Femi; a life well-lived (from Patricia Mezu, Peri’s sister)
Posted by flo Akinola on March 3, 2021
Re: Femi D, Unife staff school, Great Ife University

I hadn't seen Femi D in ages..really sad such a gentle easy going giant of my childhood years has left so early.

He has taken his Angelic Nature with him!

Femi has gone over and across the realm to meet other unife staff school classmates Bayo W, Akin A, Kayode Okiks...e.t.c.

I pray you find eternal peace, joy happiness and wholeness with your Divine Creator, Femi.

May the Lord console your wife, siblings and other loved ones left to mourn your earthly absence and cherish the cheerful memories of you. Amen

Adieu

Posted by M G on March 3, 2021
Dipson! Met you in Uyo in 1987 during our NYSC days. We just clicked and were always together painting the place red. What a guy you were. You were so easy to relate to, very knowledgeable, friendly, funny, helpful and much more. A true brother. I recently reconnected with you last year and was looking forward to us meeting soon. Our last chat at the end of January is indelible. I'm not going to delete it. Adieu my brother. Rest in peace.
Muyiwa Green.
Posted by Ugebe Okinedo on March 3, 2021
Femo is the only God purified friend I have had on this earth. We’re not done, we shall meet again my God given friend. Femo, what happened? What about those our plans together? I can only visit when my turn comes. Thanks my friend on our Mozambican journey. Till we meet again.
Posted by folarin gbadebo-Smith on March 3, 2021
I met Femi ever so briefly. Purely an accident of circumstance. Femi came to my rescue at the Johannesburg Int. airport just at the point where I was to be deported for not having a yellow fever card. We had never met prior. He came to my aid simply because I was a Nigerian. Femi was impressive. Firm and controlled. Believed my story when I told him my last yellow fever vaccination was at the same JB airport a few years earlier. He traced my records and insisted I be treated as a VIP. When I cleared immigration he insisted on taking me to lunch where the fact of my friendship with his siblings finally emerged.
I never saw Femi Again but the encounter stayed with me. A true patriot, a fine gentleman, and a worthy ambassador of Nigeria. Rest in Peace my brother. RIP.
Dr F Gbadebo-Smith
Director general NIgerian Institute for Social and Economic Research
Posted by shepherd nzenza on March 3, 2021
My interview for a post at Charles Johnson Memorial Hospital remains the highlight of what I got to know of this man.
He knew how to get the best out of people.
Gave him a few headaches but always treated me like the proverbial prodigal son.
I am forever in awe of the man and his huge heart.
May family and friends find peace in knowing that this was a life well lived.

Rest in peace Boss till we meet again.

Shepherd.
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 3, 2021
My dear brother, I never could have thought of writing a tribute for you in this regard, however I cannot query God . He has the final say in all situations and in Him we take solace. You were such a brave and kind hearted soul. It was very obvious in the way and manner you related with family and friends, especially your loving wife who genuinely cared for you till the very end.
May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Sleep well my brother Femi.
I love you, but God loves you most.
Your sister

Ibidun Toweh
Posted by Mbali Mchunu on March 3, 2021
Dear Dr Dipeolu
You left us so suddenly, where we least expected it.
Firstly I will like to share my absolute condolence to his wife (Nokwazi), family and loved ones.
Dr Dipeolu was a great leader towards everyone who came across him even myself. He was very kind hearted,humble, helpful, thoughtful and a great friend. He could guide you through all the issues in life and he was a family man and believed that friends can also turn into family.
I leave with you this verse from the book of Psalm 34:18
'' The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit".
You will forever be missed great leader
Lala ngoxolo Dokotela, sohlale sikhumbula.
Posted by Folajimi alli-balogun on March 3, 2021
My Dear Uncle Femi,

Speaking to my Uncles, Aunties, Sisters and Cousins in the hours after we received news of your untimely passing, two things stood out to me. Two themes ran through those conversations. The first thing was that you were a very special man. The second thing was that your passing has left us all very sad. I will remember you for your sense of humour and sense of adventure which took you to far flung corners of the earth. I will miss hearing your stories and peculiar anecdotes and I pray God grants you eternal rest.

Folajimi
Posted by Makhosi Mbatha on March 3, 2021
To the Dipeolu family, I send deep condolences to each and eveyone of you. Afterall it was all god's plan. We are all in pain and whatever happens from now on may all the preparations go smoothly as a send off of our Doctor, Dipeolu. May his soul rest in eternal peace.
Posted by Adebola Babs Ibirogba on March 3, 2021
Papa Leroy!! My friend Dipson.. you were really a great guy period... Triple much!!!
I smile with joyful when I remember how well we all interacted and had fun in Med school & beyond. You were in our place in MD, USA in the late 90s.. great time.
Your goodness has made me a better person.


Rest well Dipson.

Barbie & Ronkie
Posted by Ajeeth Gurudial on March 3, 2021
My dear friend your sudden departure came as a shock to us all. We worked so well together for many years. We were more than work colleagues...we became family. My children grew up in front of you and affectionately called you Uncle. You stood by us during the difficult times when my father was ill and was called to rest. The precious years we spent together will forever be treasured. Our hearts are very heavy. It is with great sadness we bid farewell to a gentle giant. Rest In Peace... forever remembered by the Gurudial Family
Posted by Gbemisola Okoye on March 3, 2021
Uncle, it is still a shock that you are gone
Going through my mind remembering our small conversations and the times spent together all of them happy thoughts. A keen tech enthusiast like myself.
As many have said you are kind, gentle and humble; always ready to help.
You are loved and will be missed but not forgotten
Rest in peace, till we meet again uncle

Gbemi x
Posted by Akintola Oyateru on March 3, 2021
Femi, the news of your passing came as a bolt out of the blue, remembering how resplendent and calm you looked at Papa's funeral in January 2020.
You are such a friendly and gentle soul and I recollect with fondness the happy and fun times we spent together in Pretoria and Durban all those times, I visited. You always made time out to take me around not minding the inconvenience. You simply gave of yourself and time selflessly without complaint.
Though you said little, that belies the depth of philosophy and principles that you tenaciously hold within. You bore your medical challenges with equanimity and your gentle smile was a soothing balm with which you navigated life.
You are a genuine soul that will be truly missed. Rest well in the bosom of your creator until that beautiful morning, when we meet to part no more.
Good night Femi!
Posted by Philile Kuzwayo on March 3, 2021
Gone but not forgotten. Uncle Femi we will forever cherish you. What a gentleman... Gentle humble soul with an infectious smile. You did not talk much but you expressed your love in many ways. Thank you for loving Ncane (Nokwazi) and Pono unconditionally. Thank you for loving our family and the whole Shembe family. Thank you for becoming part of our family: you've laughed and celebrated with us and you've cried with us where we cried. Thank you for the special visits to Pietermaritzburg just to see our mom (Nokwazi's sister). God knew the health struggles you've been through and He knew the road ahead could be rougher. And He put His arms around you to spare you from further suffering. Once again thank you for loving Nokwazi...... Sleep well Big Guy!
Posted by Omowale Dipeolu on March 3, 2021
My dear uncle, a man that to me had always appeared strong, also had one of the most cheerful smiles I have come across. I don’t feel I can fully express how shaken I am. For few words there were shared between us yet there was an infinite fondness found in times spent in your company.
The Christmas we spent together you gave me a set of pull up bars and whether intentional or not, with this also gave me the message of strength, and upon hearing of some of the struggles you had faced growing up that you overcame, that message of strength has become more clear to me. Many things can be difficult, but it takes strength to tackle them, not just physical, but emotional strength, strength of mind, and strength of faith in God, and in one’s self. I wish I was able to share this sentiment with you and to express how much it means to me and to let you know how much I miss you.
I had aspired to be as tall as you, a difficult feat I am yet to achieve (I’m still aspiring to this at my grown age). But now perhaps even more difficult feats I may never attain but will strive towards are the strength I saw in you, and to have as warm and as cheerful of a smile that you had.
You are greatly loved and sorely missed my dear Uncle Femi.

Adediji Dipeolu
Posted by Omowale Dipeolu on March 3, 2021
Grandpa once told me a story about uncle Femi as a young boy: He decided one day to ask his children, one at a time, what they aspired to be when they grew up. According to him, the answers were satisfactory until the question was posed to uncle Femi, he responded in all seriousness (or so it goes): “I want to be Job” ( their gardener at the time) who, according to the good doctor, had the best job - because he got to sleep all day and generally not do much. At this, we both laughed uproariously. Grandpa, all those years later, was still genuinely amused and perplexed by uncle Femi’s (very astute in my opinion) answer.

My uncle, despite his warmth and excellent sense of humour was also an enigma. I once asked him (recently, if memory serves), why he always chose the most remote and unlikely places to live.  He responded (again, I paraphrase): “because that’s where I found work” with a whisper of a smile. A smile, mind you, that was both there and not there at the same time, as if he were privy to esoteric universal wisdom that was inaccessible to mere mortals and could only be channeled through his characteristic dead-pan humour. 

He was a man of few words, but I suspect he harboured many unstated opinions. He was a man whose presence was felt despite being noticeably taciturn at the best of times. His laugh was equal parts infectious, understated, and uplifting (what I can only describe as a chuckle that was expressed more visibly than audibly). He was a jolly man despite his tendency to sit in silent observation most times. He was a gentle, peace-loving soul. In fact, the only time I remember him losing his temper was when he came to the defence of my mother, my siblings, and I against a vile, small, bigoted English cabbie (his complete opposite come to think about it) - one of the very few times I remember him raising his voice. Even when, as a young boy, I dared to admonish him for spilling water on the floor after his shower; he didn’t shout or even noticeably get upset. All I got was a “you’re very cheeky” in his trademark quiet growl, the same unchanging enigmatic look on his face.

I hope, one day, to be privy to all the secrets of the universe that kept him as poised and dignified as he was. For now though, I will content myself with reminiscences of all the time we were able to spend together and regrets for all the missed opportunities.

I’m heartbroken, as we all are, and words on paper will never do the man justice. Uncle, you are a special person and I pray that your gentle soul rests in peace.

May we meet again on the morning when God’s kingdom comes.

Deyi Dipeolu
Posted by Omowale Dipeolu on March 3, 2021
My Uncle Femi
This one hurt to write! This was sudden and I was not prepared! I’ve struggled with the words because it’s definitely still a shock.

Uncle you were one of the kindest, calmest people I’ve known, an amazing uncle in many ways and your love for me (us) so evident.

I remember when you were in Montserrat, despite your busy schedule you extended and “pushed” that invitation for me to come- how I wish I had bitten the bullet and followed through! I have no doubt it would have been a good time and a memory I would have forever cherished.

I also remember 2015 when I was graduating, you started out the process of coming to celebrate with me but because of work you couldn’t come again. That act meant so much to me and has stayed with me.

Uncle that’s just who you were, you were so kind, so giving, and you championed me! Without a doubt you were so hardworking and dedicated to what you did!

I was speaking to my friend the day we found out you had left us and she reminded me of how you took time out to go and visit her more than once while she was working in South Africa. In looking over our exchanges I then stumbled across your text where despite your comments about not liking the road to hers you still went to see her! It made all the difference. That’s just who you were.

In a room your gentle presence was always felt and uncle you were so unassuming in your ways, so observant and when you spoke, so measured. To me you were a gentle “giant”.

Uncle I will miss you! We are all going to miss you! And it may take a while for this to feel real! There are of course not enough words, But thank you for who you were and the memories!

Sun re uncle mi! Till we meet again!

Omowunmi Dipeolu
Posted by Trisha Govender on March 3, 2021
Dear Dr Dipelou you have left us too suddenly...our hearts are filled with sadness and our eyes are filled with tears...we miss you so much.We shall remember you in our hearts forever. All we can do today is thank God for blessing us with your presence while we had the chance. You will never be forgotten. Rest well our gentle Dr Dipelou.
Posted by Olufemi Ajani on March 2, 2021
Gentle giant. May the Lord be with your family, friends and may your soul be with the Lord
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 2, 2021
Femora!! My wife , who is also his elder sister, would hail him whenever they set their eyes on each other. He, never for once, answered verbally. His response was usually a twinkle in his eyes and a broad smile. I would refer to him jocularly, but honorifically, as Uncle Femi; with a drawn emphasis on the letter ‘n’ in the Uncle. But, he always answered me in his deep, occasionally deployed baritone, almost in a whisper...Uncle GT.

Now, I see a striking resemblance about how my twin sister passed on and how Femi passed on. My twin sister and I exchanged SMSs at about 9pm the night before she passed on. In the morning, I got a call that she had passed on. I recall saying to no one in particular that ‘Kehinde sa lo.’ Meaning Kehinde simply ran off. No warning, no signals, nothing. She simply slept and didn’t wake up in the morning. The same thing, here. Femi didn’t offer anyone any farewells. No one that I know was expecting it. No one was contemplating it. No one had an inkling. It was simply a shocker. Femi simply ran off. Fare the well, Femi.

For me, Femi was a study in Human Relationships and Issues Management. Fearless but not combative; Intense yet soft spoken; Comradely yet unassuming; Deep thinking but not intrusive; Outspoken but not aggressive; Opinionated yet calm; Well travelled but not boastful; Gentleman and gentlemanly; Kindhearted and family loving; Gregarious and friendly. Femi was all of these and many more.

Whenever he came down to Nigeria from his South African base; his friends and acquaintances came to visit in droves. Old classmates from Comprehensive High School, Aiyetoro, the University of Ife crowd, his fellow doctors from Medical School swapping jokes and exchanging innuendos; even those he met in the normal course of duty; everyone came around to see him.

I recall a trip my family and I made to South Africa sometime ago. Femi was already well established in the Durban area of South Africa at the time. We were holidaying in Johannesburg. Instead of him coming over to visit us, we opted to go and see him. The children also wanted to see the countryside of South Africa. So, we hired a bus and it took us over five hours from Johannesburg. We enjoyed the ride. His wife, Nokwazi was on hand to welcome and make us really comfortable. She was the perfect hostess. One of the three best days of our trip. In any case, Femi was the love of Nokwazi’s life. She adored Femi. They went everywhere together; the United States, Europe, Israel, everywhere. They were inseparable.

To Nokwazi, I know it is very difficult, but Femi has gone to rest, leaving you behind. Please, take solace in the fact that Femi lived a good life and you were an integral part of that journey. From dust we came and to dust we would all return. May the Almighty keep you, protect you and grant you the fortitude to bear this loss.

To Femi, rest peacefully Femora. May the Almighty grant you eternal rest.

Gbolahan Alli-Balogun
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 2, 2021
TRIBUTE TO A BROTHER
My beloved brother Olufemi was a kind man. He was always willing to give of himself and his resources. Loving and gentle, yet very lively, with many dreams and aspirations.
It is difficult for me to come to terms with his death, but I give glory to God.
Rest in peace Don Dips.

Morenike Dipeolu
Posted by Adewale Dipeolu on March 2, 2021
Goodbye Uncle Femi
I will miss my Uncle Femi. My mummy told me that he gave me a south African name – Sibusiso. Each time he came to Nigeria with aunty Nokwazi, he always brought me a gift. He was kind and gentle. I wondered how he became so tall. But if he could see me now, I am also very tall.
Rest in peace Uncle.

Oluwaseyi Sibusiso Dipeolu
Posted by olisa Aghadiuno on March 2, 2021
I'm still in shock that I'm having to write a tribute for my Uncle Femi. He was such an intelligent, witty and kind man but it was God's time. He will live on in heaven and have a fruitful life with God.

Love you Uncle
Posted by Omowale Dipeolu on March 2, 2021
Thank you for sharing O'Biz. We bless God that he outlived his dad who passed recently. But we also bless God for his life. 
I never met him, but I attest to his kindness to my family. I must share this to the glory of God. When my daughter was volunteering far away in some remote village Tugela Ferry in Durban, Wale mentioned to him. He didn't know us, but he and his wife went to visit and took her some food. He didn't just call. 
May memories of such good works, and the hope of glory through Christ, be a comfort to the family always. 
Rest in peace Uncle Femi. May your good works speak for you. 
Love to Omowale and all the Dipeolus

From Oluyinka Esan
Posted by Folakemi Alli-Balogun on March 2, 2021
I still can't wrap my head around the fact that I'm writing a tribute to you, but God knows best. Your wit was unmatched and I will always replay the random memories I have of you, like the time you rocked up to reading and took me and my friend out to dinner, or the time you randomly sent me some money all the way from Montserrat. I'm so glad to have been your niece and to have been inspired by your ability to always lighten the mood, in a way only you could. Thanks for always being thoughtful, and for being my drinking partner even when everyone else refused to join us. I'll never forget you, even if I tried, because, till today, some of your music still pops up on my iTunes, from when you sent me your phone. You always encouraged me to be myself and for that, I say, Thank you!
Posted by Omotayo Alli-Balogun on March 2, 2021
I cannot believe that my brother Femi is no more. He was a generous and compassionate person. May his soul Rest In Peace. Though he is no longer with us his memories will for ever remain in our hearts.
Posted by Bola Ademosun Ibitoye on March 2, 2021
This is indeed a rude shock! Dipson was always there, being the big brother, through Med school and later residency. Later he was our rock when we lost Akin a few years later. Quiet, gentle, dependable. He will be greatly missed. Our condolences to all the loved ones he left behind.
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Posted by Tumi Hawkins on March 20, 2021
Femi, my memory of you goes back to Great Ife, together with your brother Wale. Good days and fond memories.

Gone but not forgotten. I bid you farewell. Rest in Peace
Posted by Olufemi Ajani on March 5, 2021
Met Dipson at OAU Ife, he was my senior at med school, we also shared a few common friends. After graduating, we were both residents at OAUTHC and also both went to Medical University of Southern Africa for Postgraduate specialization. Dipson likes pleasant suprises, I remeber the day he came to visit me at MEDUNSA, at that time I did not know he was also in MEDUNSA, he starts every encounter with his characteristic smile... May the Lord Bless your soul.
Posted by Oluwayemisi Okoya on March 5, 2021
WE SHOULD NOT BELIEVE THAT THOSE WHO ARE GONE ARE BEREFT OF SUPPORT AND PROTECTION

My dear brother, what shall we then say to these things but to give glory to the one who gave us breathe.

Olufemi, I choose not to mourn but to celebrate you, your journey on earth and your final journey to the great beyond. Yes, you lived a good life, shorter than most, quietly enduring whatever lot was apportioned to you, you fought many battles, resisted many attacks and overcame many adversaries and you conquered.

You were very quiet and nurtured so much in the power of silence, you were deep, I knew you had a lot to say but rather than hurt or harm anyone, you kept them all deep within, with a quiet smile on your face, you were a man of great wisdom.

Femi, your daughters may be wailing and your sons shooting their guns, calling for a comeback of their father. No matter how intense our wail or far ranging our shots, Heaven's call is louder, you heard the trumpet, the call of the Great Messiah and you heeded the call. No call can be greater.

Dear brother , you have become our cloud of witness, beckoning to us to run a good race of faith, fight a good fight of faith and make a safe journey back home.
You were deep, very deep and above all simple and beautiful.

On earth your body will be laid to rest but not your soul, may your journey back to the garden of the blessed be filled with immeasurable grace. Amen.

And may the Lord keep safely all that you left behind. Amen

Good night my dear brother, as you wake up to a glorious morning.

MAY THE DAYS OF THE CLOSING OF OUR CYCLE
BE FILLED WITH IMMEASURABLE GRACE

Sun re o, my dear brother, omo Dipeolu oke ijehun. Otun di oju ala, odi ojo ajinde.

Oluwayemisi Okoya
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BIOGRAPHY OF DR OLUFEMI O DIPEOLU

Dr. Olufemi Olagoke Dipeolu was born in the Jericho Nursing Home, Ibadan on 2 September 1962 to Sesan and Claudie Dipeolu of blessed memory.

Olufemi grew up on the campuses of University of Ibadan and University of Ife (now Obafemi Awolowo University) and attended the Staff School, Ibadan and the Staff School, Ife respectively.He went to Comprehensive High School, Aiyetoro and International School Ibadan for his secondary education before proceeding to Obafemi Awolowo University to study medicine.He obtained the degree of Bachelor of Medicine and Bachelor of Surgery (MB.ChB) in 1986 and after his internship he was posted to Cross Rivers State Nigeria for the compulsory one year National Youth Service Corps.

After working as a Registrar in the Department of Medicine of OAU Teaching Hospital, Olufemi volunteered for the Nigerian Technical Aid Corps and was posted to Mozambique where he served in the Provincial Hospital in Tete Province from May 1995 to May 1997.He joined the Charles Johnson Memorial Hospital in Nqutu, Kwazulu-Natal Province of South Africa where he was to remain for the rest of his life in June 1997.Femi served in various capacities at Charles Johnson Memorial Hospital including as Principal Medical Officer, Chief Medical Officer, Acting Medical Superintendent and Medical Manager.He was well known and loved in Nqutu for his dedication to duty and love of the community.

Olufemi also worked in the course of his career as Chief Medical Officer/Director, Primary Care in the Ministry of Health and Community Services of Monserrat, as a Port Health Officer at the Oliver Tambo International Airport and as Adjunct Lecturer (Community Oriented Primary Care Track) at the National School of Public Health in the Medical University of South Africa (MEDUNSA).He also obtained the Masters in Public Health in MEDUNSA and the Certificate in Public Health from the George Washington University, Washington D.C.

Dr. Dipeolu is survived by his wife, Nokwazi, brothers and sisters, cousins, nephews and nieces and numerous friends across the world.
May his dear soul rest in perfect peace.

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Shared by Bolade Oyebolu on March 2, 2021
It was a shared 3 years in Unife.
But I could write a book on Femi.
He seemed bulletproof.
Endured health challenges.
He was resolute.
Firm but fair.
Frank but loyal
Private but adventurous
Liberal yet a man of faith

May His Soul Rest in Peace.

Condolences to his sisters brothers friends and family