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Edgar Antonio Romero-Stalter, 35 years old, passed peacefully in his sleep from this world into eternal life at his South Carthay Los Angeles home August 1, 2022. He was born on May 26, 1987 and lived his entire life in his beloved Los Angeles. His husband and puppies were asleep at his side.

Edgar is survived by his husband, Kevin James Stalter (52), originally from Shepherd, Michigan, his Father Ricardo J Romero and Mother Rosa Mejia Romero originally of El Salvador, and his 2 brothers Richard and Carlos Romero. All of his direct relatives currently reside in Los Angeles, CA.

He lived a charmed LA life attending the prestigious Hollywood High School Dramatic Arts Program, graduated at the Hollywood Bowl and his life will be remembered at Hollywood Forever Cemetery. Edgar had an amazing smile that immediately made you the most important person in the world. He spent several years in retail while attending college and eventually was an influential store manager for an international fashion watch chain. He would later go on to advocacy work in HIV and helping others navigate the very complicated healthcare system. His work saved dozens of lives and his compassion saved thousands stress and anxiety. Edgar, with his husband, helped make substantive changes in public policy to benefit those living with and at risk for HIV.

Edgar was amazingly creative. He had a deep love for dance. In his final years he developed a side business making masks and dog accessories. He was a loyal friend. He always maintained an impeccable appearance and he never went out of style. He was a major Taylor Swift fan and devoted “Swiftie”. She mourned his passing and dedicated a live performance of “All Too Well” in his memory.

Please join family and friends to celebrate his life Saturday, August 13 in the Hollywood Forever Chapel. 10:15 - 11:00am family and invited guest for visitation and Holy Rosary, 11:00am - 12:00pm Memorial Service. Later in the day, the family is hosting a celebration of lite at his LA home. His final resting place will eventually be with his husband in Salt River Cemetery in Shepherd, Michigan. A bench in the Stalter Family Plot will memorialize his short but impactful life.

Taken too young the family could use your help with final expenses. Visit: https://gofund.me/a1b08007

To You Oh Lord we commit his Eternal Soul. May he rest in peace.



Posted by John Mews on August 12, 2022
Edgar, the man with a smile that radiates all of your beauty! From my move and starting a new life here in LA you welcomed me and supported me here in this big city for such a small town boy! Your smile, caring heart, genuine love and support for others is such a gift and we will truly miss you so much! We are so sad to not have your kind heart and soul here with us as we truly need more people in our world like you. You will be truly missed handsome! May your spirit and light continue to illuminate us all. You have inspired me to be a better me and continue to carry your light and passion to serve others! RIP beautiful man! I have been blessed to know you!
Posted by Rodney Wittbrodt on August 11, 2022
Edgar, you are a shining star! You light up the room and pull everyone in with your infectious smile and magnetic energy. You are the first to offer support, advice, and perspective. You always make it about the other person, which is a rare quality to find in a human. You have an eye for finding beauty in everything. You were taken much too soon! However, we will hold on to the sacred memories we have with you. Your unencumbered spirit forever lives on in all the hearts you've touched. Being in relationship with you is like being wrapped in a warm, golden hug... you are a treasure, Edgar! You are one of the greats and I'm honored to call you a best friend. Until we meet again. I love you, Edgar!
Posted by Kelsey Pugliese on August 9, 2022
Edgar, you truly were such a beautiful soul, someone who brought such a joy to my life and everyone who was blessed to know you. I knew immediately we would be great friends, and you my dear were by far one of my best. Its beyond hard to imagine not being able to share times, secrets, stories or laughs with you. You had the best laugh, the most contagious smile and the biggest heart. I will cherish our memories forever, until we meet again, rest easy.
Posted by Kevin Stalter on August 9, 2022
Hello everyone if you are able to help please visit:

https://www.gofundme.com/manage/edgar-romero-family-fund
Posted by Jay Saucedo on August 8, 2022
Edar sweet soul. Your such a light, a blessing and pleasure to have known. You were one of the first people to welcome and take this scared 9th grader into HHS. Your upbeat sweet infectious demeanor was unlike anyone I’ve ever met. It was always a pleasure and a treat to be in your presence and truly made us the luckiest people in the world over to know you. Rest in power. This isnt goodbye, nearly a later for now.
Posted by Michael Paul on August 7, 2022
I thought it was amazing when he told me that only a year before, he was shy and meek. Now he was stylish and bright and a bounce in his step. He was a go-getter. He seemed to say yes to try anything new at least once, for a larger more interesting life experience. Edgar was the first person who greeted me at the Thrive Tribe. Warm, inviting, understanding, inclusive.
Posted by Timothy Sieracki on August 7, 2022
With deepest sympathy and much sorrow for your loss Kevin. On first meeting you and Edgar I knew a true love was at hand. Your heart is sad, I have been there and with much fear you have been given at this time. Kevin, you are a stronger person in the face of sorrow, Edgar would want it that way. Lord, bring comfort and some form of peace to Kevin in these trying times. And Lord may your perpetual Light shine on the goodness of Edgar's soul and God Speed Edgar into your loving arms of eternal life. In Jesus' name we pray.
Posted by Enissa Harris on August 7, 2022
Edgar (Kitty) Forever.
you are one of the closest people to me in this entire world. Thank you for reflecting the depth of unconditional love I feel for you. I’ve always looked forward to growing old with you in life and your passing is shattering me to the core. I cherish you more than I can say in words.
Your caring heart, your smile, your kid like radiance, I always felt so safe, so free, so comfortable being myself around you. No judgement just pure acceptance, love, and playful fun with you. I just want to hug you. I remember what it felt like to hug you. I miss and love you so deeply. I will miss the perfect friend that you have always been to me. You have always shown me everything a friend could be. I could literally do anything around you and you would give me unconditional love and acceptance. Tears and time but I will always feel you and our connection.
You know what is in my heart, you know the constant love I feel for you my dear friend. I’ll carry you within forever. Until we meet again Kitty. ✨
Posted by Michelle Walker on August 6, 2022
You always had a smile ready to brighten the day of everyone around you - even when you were feeling down. You always had a kind word spoken at the very moment it was needed most. Your life light shone so brightly and I will forever carry its glimmer in my heart. Rest In Peace sweetest Edgard ❤️☮️

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Posted by John Mews on August 12, 2022
Edgar, the man with a smile that radiates all of your beauty! From my move and starting a new life here in LA you welcomed me and supported me here in this big city for such a small town boy! Your smile, caring heart, genuine love and support for others is such a gift and we will truly miss you so much! We are so sad to not have your kind heart and soul here with us as we truly need more people in our world like you. You will be truly missed handsome! May your spirit and light continue to illuminate us all. You have inspired me to be a better me and continue to carry your light and passion to serve others! RIP beautiful man! I have been blessed to know you!
Posted by Rodney Wittbrodt on August 11, 2022
Edgar, you are a shining star! You light up the room and pull everyone in with your infectious smile and magnetic energy. You are the first to offer support, advice, and perspective. You always make it about the other person, which is a rare quality to find in a human. You have an eye for finding beauty in everything. You were taken much too soon! However, we will hold on to the sacred memories we have with you. Your unencumbered spirit forever lives on in all the hearts you've touched. Being in relationship with you is like being wrapped in a warm, golden hug... you are a treasure, Edgar! You are one of the greats and I'm honored to call you a best friend. Until we meet again. I love you, Edgar!
Posted by Kelsey Pugliese on August 9, 2022
Edgar, you truly were such a beautiful soul, someone who brought such a joy to my life and everyone who was blessed to know you. I knew immediately we would be great friends, and you my dear were by far one of my best. Its beyond hard to imagine not being able to share times, secrets, stories or laughs with you. You had the best laugh, the most contagious smile and the biggest heart. I will cherish our memories forever, until we meet again, rest easy.
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Kevin's Eulogy for Edgar - August 13, 2022

I want to thank you all for being here today as a witness to this gift we call life. Thanks for your support and witness for the last 2 weeks, our last nearly 10 years together, HIS far too short 35 years and a few years more for me. I stand here broken hearted over the loss of the most incredible, caring, sexy man I’ve ever known. My husband. My Edgard. Daddy Ed to the pups. Babe, and his favorite: Sexy! (Siri called him sexy).

I find myself frequently puzzled about life and death, my faith tested, the natural order of things shaken. We had a great fairly relaxed weekend. I had to work some. Sexy wasn’t feeling 100%. A little off Saturday and slightly worse Sunday. He had his clothes out and lunch packed for work like usual. He loved his new job. He made a great dinner as usual, Edgar is a great cook. I had to do 5 more rides for Uber bonus. I gave him a kiss goodbye and said I love ya Babe and at 10:30 I took off for what would probably be 1-1.5 hours to make bonus. Edgar assured me he’d be asleep which I knew already. I didn’t know that was the last time our 2 paper airplanes would be flying together but as I repeatedly said “always I love you and a kiss; cause ya never know”.

I will finish the story in a bit because I know the man we are here to celebrate and honor today would want us to learn from his passing. 

When Edgar and I first met on that gay Christian Mingle site his screen name was “Edgar Smiles”. That was the first thing you noticed about him and it warmed your soul - his incredible, beautiful, caring smile. He was a stickler for his appearance and in particular his… assets but as I always told him “Babe it’s not how you look that draws people to you it’s your big incredible heart. As you can see he was extremely photogenic. In fact I often told him, “Babe, you should become an FBI agent. I got away with NOTHING. We have enough ring security gadgets and sensors we put the CIA to shame. And his phone, I called simply - the VAULT. In fact, Edgar, you’ll be happy to know your partners at Apple have still not unlocked the vault for me. If you knew him, he was meticulously organized so all the best pictures are on the phone, all the bill pay, the location of our million dollars. It’s all right here. But don’t worry Sexy, to my earlier point we had no issue getting great pics of you.

He cared deeply about others which is why he excelled so much in his work with HIV, Cancer and helping frustrated people with medical issues. He literally saved dozens of lives in his work and some of you are here today. He was so quick to learn and pick things up and once he Knew it was DONE.

He was obsessed with Taylor Swift. I apologize in advance, if you hang out with this crew today, the only NON Tay song you will hear was Amazing Grace. When I spoke to the funeral home they asked his age - I said 33. DOB? 5/26/87. She shot back ‘honey he was 35 not 33. He got me confused about his birth year when Swifts 1989 came out. I wondered why it seemed our age difference seemed to be off. Well now Babe you got your wish: you will always be - forever young!

Edgar loved too cook. He had a black thumb so couldn't grow the food but he could cook it. I’ve been starving and living off fast food since you left babe. Edgar, I have also discovered something amazing - I am a disorganized mess. I may have an excuse but I keep walking around the house thinking why is everything out of place I am only one person? So either Jonah and Taylor are trying to drive me in sane or you must have been picking up after me like crazy. He loved to dance and I always encouraged him to do anything creative. This is when he was most alive. Sewing or working on a craft in his sewing room.

Daddy Ed, loved his Wheaton Terriers or as we call them WW’s or Wild Wheaties, Taylor (of course) or the Joy, and Jonah the Love. Babe, I’m doing my best to give them all they need including a treat each time I bring them inside. They will never be as happy with me as they were with us together. I’m gonna do my best. The bottom line: your eyes were like coming home and it’s not the same. To borrow from our wedding tag line - Everything has REALLY changed.

He wasn’t a regular journal writer but I did find some writings. They were a little hard to follow as his penmenship was less precise and often I would start reading an entry and part way in think to myself “this sounds almost lyrical”. Of course, they were Swift song lyrics in the middle of his thoughts. He always said she told his life story. New Years Day was our song. I’ll miss squeezing your hand 3 times in the car. And It’s absolutely gonna be a long painful road. I will hold on to our amazing memories and hope they hold on to me.

To his family - OUR family:

Momma - he loved you to his soul and wanted to take all the pain you have endured in your life and take it as his own. He wanted his mom to be happy and experience joy. That “taking” of peoples pain as his own, that empathy comes from you.

Dad - he was so proud to be your son. He had your work ethic and wanted you to be proud of him. The acceptance you showed him as a gay man meant the world to him. I never really got that from my dad many of us don’t. That gift:  a fathers unconditional love and acceptance means his big heart is only matched by yours. 

He admired his father and honored his mother.

Richard - I know you boys had your tough moments. He was so happy these last few months of the new friendship and brotherhood you had formed. It gave him peace and healed him.

Carlos - your were his best friend. You said to me the other day “I’m sad he will never be there as an example for my kids.” I could hear him saying in my ear tell him to take care of himself, stay away from the drink, and I will be by his side and their side in a more powerful way than he can know.

In his journal, he talked about being the hero child. The sibling who the family comes too in times of need or for counsel. I was/am also the hero child in my family - YOU are my family. I want to honor him be being there for you - I will be your hero whenever you call on me.

Besides today, the 13th, being T Swifts lucky number its also 24 years to the day of my mothers funeral. We always talked about my mom sending him to save me. Now I know they are together sharing stories and guiding us until God calls us to his side.

So back to 2 weeks ago. Some lessons for those who have loved and lost:

  1. Our lives got smaller when we moved from Weho - best thing we ever did. It got smaller during Covid. Do yourselves a favor and reach out to those who once were close and now distant. I have learned this week with true friends it’s like no time has passed at all. Edgar was a warm social guy and it was rough on him.
  2. Set up a legacy contact with Apple.
  3. When you see someone with an amazing warm smile - think of him and let the memories hold on to you.
  4. When it’s time to say goodbye, say, “ I love you” and get a kiss. You REALLY never know.
Babe, I’d trade places with you right now. I’ve been ready for over 30 years. I hope you can give me the secret to this puzzle of life and death. It makes zero sense to me. God takes great people from my life, with Edgar, one with his whole life to live. Then God leave a wretch like me behind in a world less joyous because of their absence. 

I can hear it in the silence. I can feel it on the way home. I can see it with the lights out. It’s true everlasting love, Edgar, Babe, Daddy Ed, my Sexy husband!

Eternal Love,
Kev





Letter from Edgar to Loved Ones

(Written by Kevin Stalter on behalf of Edgar for his funeral program)

When I was Fifteen I was Fearless with this incredible Blank Space to make my very own Love Story. There were times I Should’ve Said No, times I wanted to Begin Again, but I would say to myself “You Need to Calm Down”. Eventually I learned life is Enchanted, Delicate and in my Wildest Dreams I never imagined where Mine would lead me. The Change was constant, Sparks Fly, people were Mean, Bad Blood was around me but I was Ready For It. I could Shake It Off and focus on my End Game.

The Moment I Knew I was leaving this world I entered a State of Grace. I knew I was Out of The Woods  To my Lover, Kev, my Babe, my Superman, in know your in pain and You’re In Love but don’t shed any Teardrops on my Guitar. Right now it’s Sad, Beautiful. And Tragic, there will be times you’ll scream “Come Back… Be Here”, but you’ll find the Daylight, Breathe and Tolerate It. You won’t be Haunted for long. We remain tied together with this Invisible Sting. The Story of Us and This Love continues in your mind and heart. 

My dearest babies Taylor, the Joy, and Jonah, the Love, I Know Places where you love to lay and you’ll dream of days when you were All Over Me and those will be The Best Days. Call it What You Want - I call it puppy love!

To my family and friends, even though Everything has Changed you are Mine. We couldn’t know The Last Time was the end of Our Song on earth. Long Live the great memories we shared. I will love you all Forever and Always.

I know All Too Well You Belong with Me in this amazing home, this Holy Ground, God has created for us. While August may be a sad time just go Back to December and think of Me.

I’ll me picking up bottles with you on New Years Day. Hold on to the memories they will hold on to you!

Tied Together With a Smile,
Edgar


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Shared by Jasmine Britt on August 6, 2022
Man, I went to high school with Edgar he was my favorite person. Edgar and i met at freshmen orientation at hollywood. I left Hollywood in 2004 and Edgar was one of the only people to keep in touch with me. I made many mistakes when we went to school together but he never looked at me different. Thats just the person he was. Not a single bad bone in his body. Always so happy and loving. He gave the best hugs. He was a light in my life when a lot of things were dark. I think about him often and only wish I had kept in touch. Sending love and strength to your family and husband. Rest peacefully my old friend.