ForeverMissed
We are here to celebrate Mom’s life!  Elaine Tomoyo Yoshida Nakatani.  Elaine was born in Pearl City, Hawaii on March 11 or 12, 1928 (the date depends on what document you are referencing or who you ask!). She passed on April 15, 2020, in the midst of Covid-19. Elaine had 6 brothers and sisters: Aunty Tsumoto, Uncle Chic, Aunty Mel, Uncle K, Aunty Janice, and Aunty Jane.  Let me see, did I leave anyone out?  Mom married Dad (Fumihiko Nakatani, Boy or Uncle Boy to all the relatives) in 1953. They were married for 54 years. They then proceeded to have 3 children – Corinne, Keith and Clifton.  She also had 5 grandchildren, Lori Ann, Neal, Jill, Jason and David, and 3 great grandchildren Jake, Jaden and Keoni.  I somehow got volunteered to write this eulogy, I guess Coco and Keith used their elder sibling status to coerce me to do it!

A few words about mom.  I met mom for the first time in 1959.  We have known each other since then.  Mom was a medical secretary at Queen’s Medical Center until her retirement. I have memories of our discussions at dinner that revolved around her daily work stuff, like autopsies and biopsies and how brilliant the doctors were that she worked with!  Cool and interesting stuff!  Mom and Dad loved to travel and that they did since their retirement.  Alaskan Cruises, Panama Canal cruises, trips to Japan, Korea, Australia, you name it they went! They also loved to ballroom dance.  They would go to dance practices weekly and then come home and practice some more!  They often traveled with their “Magic Island Walking Gang" and Aunty Jane and Uncle Seichi.  Well, let me describe what happens at Magic Island morning Exercise: Dad would walk several rounds with everyone and mom would walk from the parking lot to the nearest bench and watch everyone else walk!  They all then proceeded to go to McDonald’s to eat breakfast.  Well, they really went to buy coffee (senior citizen’s discount and free refills).  I think McDonald’s took a loss on that group! 

Mom was the “worrier” in the family.  She was always concerned about how everyone was doing, were we getting enough to eat, were we working too hard or too much, did we have enough money, etc.  She was always asking me if I had enough money to live on (this was after working for 30 years).  I would reply, “Mom, trust me, I am doing very well and you don’t have to worry about my financial status”.  She would then reply, “okay, good, then send me some money”!  It became a bit irritating after she asked me this for the umpteenth million times, but somehow, I miss that she will never ask me that again.  Mom was very frugal.  I guess this was due to the fact that she grew up during WWII.  Re-purposing of aluminum foil, plastic spoons, knives, forks and etc. was the norm for us!  All of us kids used to make fun of her for doing this and I vowed that I would never do that, but I find myself doing the same thing in my life today!  Washing plastic utensils, re-using zip-lock bags and tin foil! Funny how stuff like that happens! She had such a great impact on my life, in ways that I would never have thought possible. I am sure that goes for Coco and Keith and all of the family and friends. 

Mom always missed Dad since his passing (December 7, 2007). She always said that he was the love of her life and that she cannot wait to be with him in Heaven, well Mom, the time has come.  You are finally with Dad!  Mom will be interned with Dad at the National Cemetery of the Pacific, Punchbowl on Friday April 23, 2021, in a private family gathering (mainly due to Covid-19 restrictions).

At this time, I would like to thank all of the family and friends that have helped, supported, took care of, and loved Mom.I want to especially thank “Big Sista” Coco for all she has done for Mom and Dad in their last years.You did a great job, thank you!

I am sure that if they could, Mom and Dad would also be thanking all of you for being a part of their lives.Since they are not here, The Family (Coco, Kiki and I), thank all of you from the bottom of our hearts for being a part of Mom and Dad’s life.

Mom, Coco, Kiki, and I miss you greatly. 
Enjoy your next life adventure with Dad in Heaven!

Aloha from your son,
Clifton

Posted by Jill Koko on April 19, 2021
I'll never forget the last time you were in the hospital. It was right at the start of the pandemic when visitors were no longer permitted in the hospital, but fortunately I could stop in during my lunch break to be with you. You'd always be a little disoriented upon awakening, but soon your mind would clear and you'd start asking the same questions... always worried about everyone else even though we were all worried about you!

Suddenly, you remembered that I was married and had a baby. You stopped and reflected & said, "Jill, take care of my babies for me, okay?"

I told you, "Grandma, you don't have babies anymore. They're all grown up and can take care of themselves."

You quickly responded, "They'll always be my babies. I love my babies so much!"

That's the love of a mother. You can rest in peace and know that I will honor your request. I love you. We all do!

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Posted by Jill Koko on April 19, 2021
I'll never forget the last time you were in the hospital. It was right at the start of the pandemic when visitors were no longer permitted in the hospital, but fortunately I could stop in during my lunch break to be with you. You'd always be a little disoriented upon awakening, but soon your mind would clear and you'd start asking the same questions... always worried about everyone else even though we were all worried about you!

Suddenly, you remembered that I was married and had a baby. You stopped and reflected & said, "Jill, take care of my babies for me, okay?"

I told you, "Grandma, you don't have babies anymore. They're all grown up and can take care of themselves."

You quickly responded, "They'll always be my babies. I love my babies so much!"

That's the love of a mother. You can rest in peace and know that I will honor your request. I love you. We all do!

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Rest in Love “Big Grandma”

Shared by Carnation Sanborn on April 19, 2021
Big grandma...I’ve never gotten the chance to meet you, but with all the stories Lori shared at work about you, I can only imagine what a sweet and crazy wahine you were. Lori and I would share our stories of our outings with our grandparents because we were so blessed to be sharing these moments that we will carry with us forever. Both my grandparents left to heaven just 3 months apart from each other during the pandemic and as much as it hurt, I know they are sharing that beautiful place with you and all our loved ones. We shall all see each other again one day. Rest in love Big Grandma and sending so much hugs and honis to my dear friend Lori, Jaden, Jake, Eddie, and Coco! Love you guys
Shared by Jaden Nii on April 16, 2021
Hi grandma, I hope you’re happy and having fun with grandpa. Thank you for all that you have done in my life. You always took care of me and Jake when you needed to and I will never for get that. I will never forget how much times you took us to McDonald’s and how much you loved their fries. It’s been a year since you passed but it still feels like yesterday. We all wish you were still here but as long as you’re happy then it makes me feel a lot better. I love you so much and I miss you so much. Until we meet again big grandma 

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Shared by Lori Hokama on April 16, 2021
Hi Grandma,

Sorry it took so long to celebrate/honor your passing. It's been a crazy year but we've all been missing you, cherishing the memories we have of you. I miss how you would make me fruit jello when i was little. I miss you and grandpa taking me to my dance practice and cheering me on everytime i had a performance. I miss you asking for french fries no matter where we ate. I miss you calling out "LORI ANN!" everytime i was stubborn and defiant. I really miss the latter believe it or not, even when you called me Ikaika, my dog's name - because i know you were just worried about me. You always told me you loved me and i don't think i told you enough growing up how much I loved you. The old adage it's better late than never comes to mind, so thank you grandma for always caring and worrying for more than enough lifetimes about my wellbeing, for always watching out for mom, Jake, Jaden, and the family, for treating Eddie like your own. We love and miss our Big Grandma very much. I, love you very much. Tell dad hello and please don't make grandpa carry your purse too often. He's still your husband, not a purse hook.

                         Your rebellious granddaughter