As I celebrate another milestone birthday, I’ll take time to note what it’s like to be 95.
First, I’m fortunate to be enjoying such good health. I’m several years older than any of my neighbors in these attractive “Cottages by the Creek” but walk briskly past several dependent on walkers or electric scooters. I take a daily batch of vitamins with my glass of orange juice and only two over-the-counter items prescribed by doctors: the daily baby aspirin to avoid dangerous blood clotting (and which makes me bruise easily) and a PreserVision tablet twice a day for my eyes according to my ophthalmologist’s instructions. A brief, early morning Tai Chi routine is another factor in my good health.
And I’m confidently in charge of my own life. I’ve just filled my patio pots with colorful blooms from a big nursery near Dallas Farmers Market which I located in spite of the street name changes which make our City Council happy. I’m delighted with my cottage at Grace Presbyterian Village with the lovely trees and grassy area. It isn’t easy to fit all the kitchen things in the smaller space, but I find that I do much less cooking than formerly since our noontime meals are so hearty. It’s probably time for this frugal Swede to pitch the package of lasagna noodles I brought with me 2 ½ years ago! With smaller storage space for flatware I’ve devised a system of reversing salad forks and grapefruit spoons in their sections so I can grasp the correct style. It confuses helpful guests, but works well. This is just to illustrate that I’m still managing and adapting.
Of course, there are some changes I don’t like. Highway construction through town has changed the familiar route north – so I’ve adapted to that by detouring in my neighborhood to get on to the major north freeway nearer its beginning. Talking to robots when calling almost anywhere for information is frustrating because they reel off a bunch of options to ‘press one for . . .’ etc. when none of them fits my query
The full size washer and dryer here work well though I still miss having a back yard to hang out the wash. Sheets aren’t as crisp and flat when tumbled and the fitted sheet irritatingly devours most of the smaller stuff. I love my large walk-in shower with grab bar and enough space to set a bench if I ever need to sit. Having moved out of the little house I lived in for 58 years to a spot with more modern stuff, I’m really pleased.
I’m still driving my 2013 Corolla, though restrict the travel. Rare night driving is only to nearby familiar, well-lighted spots. In fact, even day time driving is on well-known routes with left turns at protected lights. My trunk is usually full of recycling materials (the Village doesn’t recycle) including several bags contributed by neighbors. I drop them in the recycle bin at the home of a League of Women Voters friend as we car pool to meetings.
I keep with local, national and international news, listening regularly to NPR, watching evening news and reading the daily newspaper. I read a wide range of books: biographies, mysteries, historical fiction. A recent direction has been to look at the world from different perspectives: An Islamic History of the world, An Indigenous Peoples History of the United States and I’m looking for Strangers in their Own Land: Anger and Mourning on the American Right.
I attend the Unitarian Universalist I helped found 56 years ago and watch with amazement the new styles of gathering and worshipping that appeal to the younger generations. This is the 25th year that I’ve volunteered at the elementary school Mike and Lisa attended – helping kindergarten teachers enrich their programs, substituting, and currently tutoring the distracted ones who need extra help learning to read. It’s such fun by the end of the year to see them enjoying “Hop on Pop” or “Bears on Wheels” and satisfying to watch the Pre-Ks print their names carefully on the line, bravely making the tails of p, q, y, and j go below.
I’m still active with the Vasa Lodge, enjoying learning more about my Swedish heritage. I just resigned from the task of newsletter editor because placing all the news attractively on the pages became too difficult. I’m happy with the role of Cultural Leader since thinking up programs has always been a forte and I’m curious about everything.
There are some negatives to growing old. We spend our lives learning to do new things and to do things better, it’s hard to absorb the reality that things go downhill.
Everything doesn’t work as well as I’d like. My hearing aids absorb too much background noise in spite of a program to diminish it (I’m about to try some new ones) so that lunch conversations are irritatingly difficult. I complain loudly that retirement centers are uniformly adapted for residents with mobility problems but ignore the needs of the larger percentage of us with hearing problems, but adaptation is a long term capital improvement, so nothing gets done.
And my vision is changing so I wonder how much longer I’ll be able to drive at all. The diagnosis is macular degeneration, the dry form that results in fuzzy vision in my lower left eye. It’s slowly developing so I adapt and adjust. I can’t scan the newspaper or a book for rapid reading, doing a crossword is slower as I double check the clue number and sometimes get it wrong. I’m beginning to appreciate Large Print books which were formerly irritating. It’s harder to find dropped items. My new credit card is designed with tiny type so I can hardly read the number. I give up on reading articles artfully printed with grey type on black pages. Magnifying glasses are handy.
And there is the almost universal problem resulting from a prolapsed bladder. Oh, it’s so annoying to have to wear pads all the time. Even though I get up 4-5 times during the night to empty my bladder, it is still soaking in the morning, and don’t dare skip making a trip to the loo every couple of hours.
But life is wonderful! I enjoy new friends and old ones, the memories of travels and friends from long ago. An artist resident has arranged a studio for our use and I’m taking sketching/drawing class, pleased with the new accomplishment. . . drawing from Gratiot Lake photographs, of course.