This memorial website was created in memory of Elisabeth Misner. Those of us who knew her will remember this amazing woman forever.

Elisabeth was battling a severe reaction to gadolinium toxicity for several months as the result of an MRI with contrast.  Unfortunately, that condition was masking the more serious underlying condition of cancer (something that she successfully beat before).  By the time her medical doctors discovered that it might also be cancer, it had spread to her liver and bones and she did not have time to pursue  the type of treatment that she had success with before.  She remained with us for only eight days after that time.  She passed away in her sleep on October 29th at 3:03 am of pulmonary thromboembolism as a result of her condition. 

Many people celebrated her life through an online memorial on November 24th.  You can view her memorial by clicking here.

If you would like, you may also leave a tribute message below.
Posted by Lori Madden on February 25, 2021
Please accept my deepest condolences. I had the pleasure of speaking with Beth and she seemed like and amazing woman. Ivan, both you and Beth have given so much to the students at Gladstone High School. Please take care.
Blessings, Lori Madden
Posted by Claire Liston on February 19, 2021
She way she turned good business into good communities will forever inspire us. We're working on creating a seat in her honor to lift people who are between jobs. Sincere condolences for your loss, Ivan. --Claire Liston, 15-year Member
Posted by Justin Biggs on December 17, 2020
As a member of BNI and as a husband I sincerely send my love and respect to Dr Misner. I am so grateful for the small chance I had to hear and learn from the work she did for so many people. I know i am just a small member in Southern Utah, but the past 8 years as a member I have learned to look at the world in a new way. Thank you to Dr. Misner and to his lovely wife for all they have shared with the world.
Posted by Christy Santo on December 9, 2020
As a member of BNI who has benefited so much from it. I send prayers for comfort and healing for Dr. Misner and his family during this difficult time. 
Posted by John Herzog on December 4, 2020
Guided with the wings of white birds.
Beloved in so many hearts.
You´ll stay there.
You´re at home.
Posted by Dawda Khan on December 3, 2020
I have not had the honor of meeting Elizabeth Misner but as a member of BNI, herself and Dr. Misner has helped shaped my life since joining the Chapter back in 2014.
I am grateful to you and your family and my deepest condolences goes out to Dr. Misner and the rest of your family.
Listening to the rebroadcast of Episode 625 makes it feel like you are still here to be our North Star as we head to the future.
Rest in Peace
Posted by Myra Clendennen on December 2, 2020
I only had the pleasure of meeting Beth Misner once along with Dr. Misner at a BNI Steiner Ranch event--an informal meet and greet and opportunity to donate books to the local Boys & Girls Club. I was excited and nervous, but I found Beth, as I had been told, to be so sweet and warm. She's "like the rest of us" someone said, but I found her to be so much more. Not everyone makes you feel like what you are saying right at that moment is so important. Not everyone can be so gracious that even when you feel a little out of your element, she made me feel right at home. Not everyone after only spending a few minutes in their presence makes you feel like you have a friend for life. I, being still somewhat "starstruck," she insisted I call her Beth and he, Ivan, because again, with Beth, one could be at ease knowing we really are all in this together. I am loving getting to know so much more about her depth and warmth and her work. Like so many around the world, I am wishing I had had another visit with her.
Posted by Steve D'Annunzio on December 1, 2020
Elisabeth and Ivan would share many meals at our beloved TLC meetings, where she took my daughter Alicia under her wing like a loving mother. She would listen, coach, counsel and laugh with the grace that I came to realize was her natural gift. What I didn't realize was how beautiful her voice was...the last song we sang together in Montreal was is a blessing I'll forever cherish. I was truly sick when I heard she passed. She is an angel who earned her wings and flies with God now. We love you Ivan.
Posted by Victoria Aguirre on November 24, 2020
Elizabeth Misner was my friend♡ I met her at my church and I didn't know anyone who loved God more than she did other than Diana Speakman who is also at my church and now they're together in heaven... and someday I know I'll see them both again Elizabeth Misner was a beautiful person with such a wonderful soul and a giving heart ...I'll be forever grateful for her opening up her home to our church so I can be baptized in her pool with my son... there's so many happy memories that I will cherish forever heart broke when I heard the news I still can't get over it... when she moved out of California we did lose touch although we did see each other when she came back in town but I know she was a busy person are contacts we're very few but that didn't mean I ever forgot about her or our friendship ...I'll treasure it forever and I look forward to the day that I see my friend again.. Misner family I'm so sorry for your loss I know it's a great one... I'll be praying for each one of you for comfort ....thank you for sharing her with so many people...may God bless every person who is left on this Earth to mourn and may God comfort each one of us who had to say goodbye until we see you again... love you Elizabeth and I miss you♡
Posted by Mok sin Jee Wan on November 25, 2020
My deepest condolences to Dr Ivan Misner's family for the passing A great Love..... May Elizabeth Rest in Peace..
Will always in our Memory.
Posted by Mike Wochner on November 24, 2020
My deepest sympathies to you and your family, Dr. Misner.  May our Lord bless and comfort you and your family during this time of grief. 
Posted by Daisy Lee on November 25, 2020
Dearest Elizabeth, I've met you for the 1st time bni Congress 2018 Bkk. We had a picture together. We had a little chat. I will forever cherish it.
Posted by Alison Champion on November 25, 2020
Thank you for creating the possibility of sharing Elizabeth’s life and love of humanity with so many around the world. My own goal is to live to 106 and have standing room only at my memorial/funeral.
Although online, Elizabeth’s memorial felt exactly that: “standing room only”. And I got her unconditional love for all people, and how powerful that love is. I am inspired to create my own final official event based on all of the messages shared today: “how do I want to be remembered and what do I want others to say about me when I’m not there?” And that starts with unconditional love for all humanity and living a life I love: showing up unapologetically. So very powerful.
You are a very blessed man, Dr Ivan. Thank you both for being in our lives. We are blessed to know you are there.
Alison Champion
BNI NE Melbourne, Australia
Jellis Craig NE Group, Melbourne, Australia
Banyule City Council, Sherbourne Ward councillor, Melbourne, Australia
Posted by Anna Perdriau on November 25, 2020
Elisabeth an angel whose soul radiates Love, grace and kindness. You will remain in our hearts. Sending the Misner family my deepest condolences. Xxxxxx
Posted by Candi Hook on November 24, 2020
Thoughts and prayers to the entire Misner family! May God shine down on you during this holiday season!
Posted by Yadira Luna on November 24, 2020
Elisabeth left inspiration in each of us who had the opportunity to meet her.
Her kindness, her love for others, her simplicity.
She leaves a great void, but she also leaves us a great responsibility to continue her example.
A hug with all my affection for the love of her life and all her family.
Posted by Linda McCarthy on November 24, 2020
Beth was grace....
Dear Ivan,
May God give you the grace and grit to keep walking, one foot in front of the other no matter how impossible the mountain feels to climb.  May He lead you by streams of living water, refresh your weary soul. May He take your burdens and give you a new song to sing. May He renew your faith to believe that fresh blessings await you just around the bend.  And tomorrow when the sun comes up, may His new morning mercies feel as miraculous as they are.
In love and the name of Jesus , Amen ❤
Posted by Danielle Feith on November 24, 2020
To Ivan and family,

My friendship with Beth goes back quite a few years when we sang in church together in the 90’s and early 2,000’s. She was always so welcoming and kind and giving . She was very musical with a lot of natural talent and a great ear. I enjoyed singing with her very much. She encouraged me to sing more too.

Among some of the many memories I have, I remember a time that my friend was getting married in England and she wanted me to sing and Beth recorded the song for me so I could practice and also the accompaniment so I could sing the song at the wedding. I was so incredibly grateful to her for taking the time to record the tape for me.

We also spent a laughter filled mini break together in Palm Springs and Ivan lent her his corvette. What fun it was to drive together through the dessert in his sports car, top down with the wind racing through our hair listening to 80’s tunes.

Beth was outgoing, very giving and positive. I know she will be terribly missed by so many. She seized every opportunity and lived her life to the fullest. It feels like she accomplished more than several lifetimes. 

My heart and prayers are with you Ivan and your family. I hope the many many memories you all share offer some comfort. Sending you love, compassion and healing thoughts.
Posted by YP Lai on November 24, 2020
Always remembered Elizabeth as the gracious host who had the National Directors at her home during our training. The gentle person who got us energised with Taichi exercises at Global Convention. And my co-panelist at the first ever breakout at GC2019 on Health Management. Elizabeth has touched many lives, mine included, and the legacy of the many seeds of love & generosity she has planted will live on in our Hearts and Mind.
Posted by Vikash Deorah on November 24, 2020
The life of Beth Misner was a inspiration for BNI members worldwide.
Condolences from BNI Goa India family .
Beth will be in our heart forever.
May her noble soul rest in peace.
My heartfelt sympathies to Dr Ivan Misner and family
Om Shanti

Vikash Deorah
Posted by Cherie Clark on November 24, 2020
Elizabeth was my movie buddy, we loved movies and even entered the Austin Film Festival with our ideas for films that were healing and full of light.

Elizabeth was many things to me and so many others. She was a friend, a sister, an inspiration. She lived life to the fullest and most joyous. Elizabeth is Ivan’s heart, she is beyond generous. She still lives for me, out of sight for now, with us for eternity.
Posted by Eva Lisle on November 24, 2020
What a joy and privilege it was to know Elisabeth Misner. Favorite memories include Gigong poolside in Long Beach, a Women of Faith Breakfast we held in Sacramento when Jesus and The Secret came out, and a book discussion group on The Wisdom of Jesus. Elisabeth LIVED her faith, pouring out love ❤️ in every corner of her life. She will be forever remembered and deeply missed.

Our deepest condolences to you Ivan and so much love to you and your family as you learn to live without day at a time.

Love, Eva & John Lisle
Posted by Monica Passini on November 24, 2020
When I was young my myth was Lady Diana. Beth is by far the closest person to Lady Diana I've ever met... With her kindness in the soul, her elegance in the manners, her charisma that involves, her ability to make others feel important, her talent in taking care of others.
I will ever remember her shining smile and her lucent eyes while speaking of Business Voices.
She has been an inspiring guide and a sincere supporter in all our adventures in Busines Voices.
In september event, we dedicated these words to you to share our gratitude and love.
Monica and Dario

Dear Beth,
the Business Voices magic all around the world is happening thanks to you...
Business Voices exists thanks to you vision and your ability to light a flame in people hearts,
Business Voices exists thanks to your love for children and mankind,
Business Voices exists thanks to your deep faith in BNI members and in their desire to do good things....
all of this is happening thanks to you... 
thank you Beth... we will make your dream come true!!!
Posted by Balázs Horváth on November 21, 2020
It was never just Ivan. It was always Beth and Ivan.
Dear Ivan I can't imagine what you and your family are going through. The BNI Family will miss her so much. I'll pray for you.
Posted by Christina Benz on November 18, 2020
Such a sad loss to the world, may her light continue to shine down from above. Deepest of sympathy to Dr Misner and family.

Big hugs
Posted by Steve Kuyatt on November 17, 2020
My deepest sympathies to Dr. Misner and his family. I feel fortunate to have met Elisabeth last October on the BNI cruise in the Bahamas. Cherish the memories and remember she will be forever in your hearts.
Posted by Nitin Attri on November 17, 2020
Had the privilege to witness the soft & polite personality of Beth, in Mumbai (India) last year. All I could do then is just wave at her from up close distance and she also did the same, smiling back. As a personality, I saw her smiling throughout the event - and indeed, all her pictures talk about the grace she carried 'wearing that smile'.
How beautiful she would've been from within.

I wish the family, the courage to come over this hard time.
Posted by Paul Appelmans on November 17, 2020
My wife and myself were so saddened by the loss of your beloved wife, Beth Misner. So fast and so soon…
We can barely imagine what this means for you. We were lucky to have had the opportunity to meet her several times during Global Conventions, and we recall her as a passionate and emphatic lady. We are not surprised that she was the strength behind the strong man you are.
We hope you cherish the many good memories and win the strength from them to recover soon after a revitalizing mourn period. You both earn it.
Lately, it came to me that people we cherish the most remain in our whole live even after they passed away. I wish she still can give you strength and happiness.

We offer you and your family our thoughts, prayers and well-wishes during this dark time in your life.


Paul Appelmans & Catherine Vermote
Executive Directors BNI West-Vlaanderen (Belgium)
Posted by Paul Martinelli on November 17, 2020
Dear Ivan and family,

I am so sorry for your loss and I join the thousands of other people around the world holding you in my thoughts and prayers.

I never had the opportunity to meet Elisabeth in person, however I know how special and beautiful a person she was from my conversations with Ivan.

When you hurt, I hurt; and I am sending you my love in hopes you may find some comfort in knowing you are not alone.

With love,

Posted by John Mager on November 16, 2020
Dear Ivan and Family,
Please accept my sincere condolences at your sad loss. I had the pleasure and privilege to meet Elizabeth at BNI conferences in the UK over the years and will always remember her warmth, welcome, caring nature and that winning smile. She will be sadly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

John Mager
Posted by Liam Grady on November 16, 2020
i feel your loss as i too had recently lost both my parents and sole mates, positive thoughts from me to you my good friend.
Posted by Romano Ugolini on November 16, 2020
I Met Beth at the TEDxCoriano on October 2019. She came all the way from Texas to Italy to speak at our TEDx Event, taking 3 flights. We had a busy schedule for Beth but she was always happy to share her time with the many people that wished to meet her from morning till after dinner. Since those days we stayed regularly in touch, sharing messages, conversations and zoom interviews. During the pandemic we shared pictures and thoughts, my wife Kerstin was participating because we had spend a few days together with Beth after her TEDx talk in Italy. Beth autographed for us a copy of her book, which we treasure as her legacy. The shock of Beth loss still lingers with us, Beth would have liked for the four of us to get together when she was sending pictures of Ivan, she was saying that we had a lot in common, and I would have liked to discover it with Ivan, but she has left all of us much too early. Our thoughts go to you dear Ivan,
please stay strong , we know that Beth is watching after you !
Posted by Francine Kenney on November 15, 2020
I only met Elisabeth once, but once was enough to know she was a fabulous human being. The world was left a better place because of her being in it. My deepest condolences to Ivan, her 3 children and any other surviving family. We have lost an earth angel and she will be sorely missed. I will be praying for your comfort and recovery during this very difficult time. May God bless you all.
Posted by Tim Nicolaou on November 14, 2020
  Our loved ones are part of us, they live on through us & our children. Their good acts live on forever. Elizabeth will always be with you, and also all of us.
  Always in our hearts, remembered for the kind and loving legacy only she could leave.
 As foundation trustees in the UK, we will do our utmost to continue the work Elizabeth started. xxxxx
Posted by Rachel Walton on November 13, 2020
To Dr Ivan Misner, your children and extended family,
May the Lord of peace Himself give you peace at all times and in every way. Thess3:16 NIV.       
We celebrate the life of Elisabeth her legacy will remain with us.
Posted by Jose Bernal on November 12, 2020
I had the opportunity to work for BNI for 10 years, and I also had the privilege to know Dr. Misner and Beth as well. Wonderful couple!!
Beth was a charming kind of lady who did share her love and kindness to others as well as with each employee at BNI.
My prayers for the family and specially for Ivan.
May the love of God bless you and give you strength and peace.

Sincerely yours,
Jose Bernal
Posted by Donna Baxter on November 12, 2020
I met Beth at several Global and National conventions. She made me feel welcome and like we had known each other for a very long time. A very loving sole.
I was inspired by her work with children. Doing the Boys and Girls club mentoring was the most satisfying part of the convention for me. Beth was creating ripples. Childrens lives have been changed forever. As these children go out and do great things, Beth will shine on in their works.
Posted by Edwin Duria on November 12, 2020
Dear Dr. Ivan and Family,

Please accept our deepest condolences and prayers to the whole Family. 

Will always remember Elizabeth's Legacy through BNI Foundation.
Posted by Rodrigo De Bernardi on November 12, 2020
Conheci a Beth em Los Angeles 2017.
Uma mulher que emanava energia positiva.
Espero que sua luz continue a nos iluminar.
Querido Ivan, receba toda a energia de carinho, força, afeto e fé que o mundo tem te enviado.

Rodrigo De Bernardi
Posted by Eric Hufkens on November 12, 2020
Those we love can never be more than a thought away....
for as long as there's a memory they live in our hearts to stay.

our sincere condolences for the passing of Beth.
Posted by Tien Duong on November 12, 2020
I met Elisabeth in Bangkok, Thailand on #BNIGC2018. She was guiding us with morning taichi lessons. Elisabeth was so friendly and open to not only me but also other BNI members in that morning. I got a chance to take a (first and only) photo with her that morning. I will think of you, Beth!
Posted by Roop Kuntal on November 12, 2020
I never met Beth, but read out her quotes and listen her speeches on various occasions. I found her caring about others and BNI as her family. She was prepared herself for BNI and people around her. We will missed her a lot but we are always with her ideas and ways were shown to move on..............BNI Energizers Chapter, Gurgaon Region, India.  
Posted by Tom Jaeger on November 11, 2020
In 2005 at the first BNI Members Day in Germany Beth gave the BNI KeyNote Speech in German. “Viele Jahre traeumte ich davon in Deutschland auf der ersten BNI Conference zu sprechen. Heute ist der Tag. Ich muss zugeben, ich bin furchtbar aufgeregt!“ For many years I have dreamt to speak at the first BNI Conference in Germany. Today is the day. I must admit I am extremely excited and nervous.
Like always – she won all hearts in a landslide. We will miss her so much.
All our thoughts are with you Ivan, our sincere condolences – Cordially from Berlin Helga and Tom
Posted by Giorgio Amerio on November 11, 2020
I have the chance to meet Beth Misner several times. Twice at Italian National BNI Conference (Milan in 2016 and in Baveno in 2019) and at my first Global Convention in Warsaw in 2019.
We always say that behind a great man there is a great woman.
In the case of Ivan Misner and Beth Misner I have always seen a total balance between them and this complementarity has allowed to create this phenomenon which is BNI and BNI foundation.
When I met them in Baveno I told them that they were and still they are the perfect couple, that their love their love was and still is real, credible, visible, inspiring!
Thank you for what you have done for all of us and for what your memory will allow us to do in the future !!!
Posted by Susan Schwartz on November 10, 2020
I met Beth Misner because of Business Voices. I volunteered at our local Boys and Girls club here in Vacaville California. I heard Ivan talk about Business Voices and Grants at a conference. I reached out the Beth through facebook asking her if it might be possible to apply for a business voices grant for hydroponic gardening. She said of course, we got the grant. A few months later she texted me and said Ivan and I are in town can we come visit you at the Boys and Girls club. Her and Brian Benzen came to the club took videos and selfies with the kids. The kids will never forget. Beth was so down to earth and a breath of fresh air, so sincere and caring. Like others have said you feel like you have know her all your life that is how she makes everyone feel. A light is gone from this earth, I am so glad I got to know her I will miss her precious heart!
Posted by Glad Perez on November 10, 2020
I did not know Beth Misner personally and that is my loss. I did meet her at a virtual meeting and was able to thank her for all that she has done for so many around the world. Beth was kind, gentle and strong. Where often people see the glass as half empty, she always saw her as half full. She was the guiding light and soul behind the BNI Foundation. Her spirit is rare and will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Dr. Ivan, his children as well as the entire family. Beth was a bright light that will never be forgotten…she will live in our hearts and minds forever.
Posted by Michael Royal on November 10, 2020
It is, without a doubt, one of the hardest things to do to say goodbye to a loved one.  Whilst I did not know Beth personally and then, only vicariously through BNI, I would like to say that what Ivan and Beth have done by building BNI into the worldwide phenomena that it now is, is truly a legacy worth celebrating. Take care Ivan and blessings to your family in these difficult times .
Posted by Amish Shah on November 10, 2020
I am sure that peaceful soul is watching over the family at all times and will always be with us. This extended family will be forever in debt of her, who has had such a selfless role.
Posted by Doria Cordova on November 9, 2020
You were always such a partner in good deeds... always willing to support when needed... Your generosity of Spirit was magnificent - and I feel you will continue to support with your love those of us who ask... The world is not the same without YOU... you will be missed by so many... we will continue to send our love to Ivan / your beloved family / all who miss you... May you be in the Creator’s embrace... love you eternally...
Posted by Stephanie Starr on November 9, 2020
The first time that I spoke to Beth was to learn more about the BNI Foundation. I was struck by her genuiness, compassion, and determination. Beth was such a giving and kind soul. She was always positive and trying to make the world a better place. She loved her family more than anything. She was such a bright light. Beth was one of a kind and she will be dearly missed.
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Posted by Lori Madden on February 25, 2021
Please accept my deepest condolences. I had the pleasure of speaking with Beth and she seemed like and amazing woman. Ivan, both you and Beth have given so much to the students at Gladstone High School. Please take care.
Blessings, Lori Madden
Posted by Claire Liston on February 19, 2021
She way she turned good business into good communities will forever inspire us. We're working on creating a seat in her honor to lift people who are between jobs. Sincere condolences for your loss, Ivan. --Claire Liston, 15-year Member
Posted by Justin Biggs on December 17, 2020
As a member of BNI and as a husband I sincerely send my love and respect to Dr Misner. I am so grateful for the small chance I had to hear and learn from the work she did for so many people. I know i am just a small member in Southern Utah, but the past 8 years as a member I have learned to look at the world in a new way. Thank you to Dr. Misner and to his lovely wife for all they have shared with the world.
her Life

Elisabeth Misner

One thing that would tell you a lot about Elisabeth is that she transitioned from being called Beth to being called Elisabeth.  She did that because she said that Beth means "house" and "Elisabeth" means "house of God." 

She is survived by her husband of 31 years, Ivan Misner and her three children, Ashley Misner, Dorian Prin, and Trey Misner Tempest.  

She was born on June 13th, 1964, in Fort Worth, Texas to John and Mary Prevo.  She was the eldest of three children.  Her brother is Jon Prevo and her sister is Tammy Prevo.

She obtained both a Bachelor's degree and a Masters degree in theology.  She was later ordained as a Christian minister. 

Elisabeth started her career as a chiropractic assistant where she met her husband, Ivan Misner.  She left that field to work for BNI where she served in many roles.  She was a Regional Director for the largest region of BNI for several years.  She helped to write all the manuals for every role in the organization.  She then transitioned to the Marketing Director handling PR and marketing for the organization.  Later, she became the Co-Founder of the BNI Foundation and helped to raise millions of dollars for children and education all around the world.  When she stepped down from a formal role in BNI she was made Vice Chair Emeritus to reflect her many years of service to the organization. 

While raising three children she obtained a black belt in Shotokan Karate and went on to study Tai Chi and later become a Qigong Master teaching at the Austin Spa Resort in Texas.  However, she would say that the most important job in life was that of "mom."  She loved being a mom and she loved her three children immensely. 

She also loved reading, writing, painting, drawing, quilting, scrapbooking, speaking, decorating homes, fine art, wine, astronomy, meditation, and reading (it's in twice because she read a lot!).  She spoke three languages (Spanish, German, and French) and she knew sign language and a little Japanese.  She was truly a life-long learner.

She loved animals and flowers (especially bluebonnets).  She was incredibly excited every Spring because the bluebonnets of Texas would start to bloom.  She also loved Lavender oils and Rose scents.  She especially loved Texas and no matter where she lived at the time, she always told people she was from Texas.  Texas was her home wherever she resided.  She was incredibly happy to come back to Texas for the last six years of her life.  

She did a Tedx talk in 2020 entitled "Saved by Rage."  Elisabeth also contributed to many books and wrote several, including Jesus and the Secret and Healing Begins in the Kitchen. Her last book, written during her illness and published just before her passing was titled: Called Out of the Church, 7 Steps to Living Beyond the Cross.   This was a very difficult book for her to write.  It is a parable about a woman's journey in the church and was the most heart wrenching book she ever wrote.  

In the last few years of her life she called herself a "Lovetarian."  She loved people and she loved life.  Anyone who knew her, knew this to be true.  She was a gentle, loving soul who will be missed by everyone who knew her well.   

The world is a little less perfect without her in it.

In Lieu of flowers, the family would prefer donations to the BNI Foundation.

lease feel free to leave a tribute message here sharing some thoughts you have about Elisabeth. 

The Necklace

Here is an amazing story I wrote relating to a prophetic dream I had about Elisabeth:

Love at First Date

Someone recently asked me how I knew Elisabeth was my soulmate when we first went out.  I’ve told the story many times and I cover it a bit in the book, Givers Gain, but I don’t think I’ve ever written it down as one story so here it is:

I first met Elisabeth in 1986.  It was at a Leadership Team training I conducted in LA.  I remember meeting her vividly.  She was young (23) and very motivated and I could see why the group elected her the President.  I also recognized that she was very smart and she was… gorgeous.  Although I was undeniably attracted to her – I was also in a relationship and didn’t connect with her again for two years.  In that time, unbeknownst to me, she moved from LA to Prescott, Arizona (many hours away).   I was scheduled to speak in Phoenix (about 2 – 3 hours from (Prescott) and out of the blue she called me.  Now (1988), I was no longer in that relationship and when she called, she said, “I don’t know if you remember me but we met in LA a couple years ago.”  My heart pounded but I calmly said, “yes, yes, I remember you Elisabeth.” She told me that her chapter knew she met me and they asked her if she would call me to see if I would “swing by” Prescott to speak to their group – so she asked me that question.  I knew I couldn’t just “swing by.”  I knew it was an overnight trip so I did something I have never done before – I said, “if you’ll have dinner with me, I’ll drive the  2 – 3 hours over to Prescott to speak to your group and she said “yes.”  That was about April or May of 1988.

Honestly, for her, it was a business meeting but for me, it was a date.  I could tell pretty quickly that she wanted to keep it professional and I remained a perfect gentleman all evening.  We spoke for hours.  Many, many hours.  I didn’t get her home until almost 1am and we had the BNI meeting that morning at 7am.

When I got home to LA the day after the meeting, I had a conversation with the nanny (Pia Jacobsen - PJ) who was watching my young daughter (who Elisabeth later adopted).  She asked me how that “date” went that I was looking forward to so much.  I told her that it was a "good thing that she lived so far away" and she asked me “why?”  I told her, “because if Elisabeth lived nearby I would ask her to marry me.”   She said, “are you crazy, you just got divorced – you can’t get married again so soon and especially after one date!”  I agreed that it was crazy and I told her I knew that I was a logical, left-brain thinker, but that there was something special about this woman and it was probably good that she lived so far away.  It would give me time.

Elisabeth and I then started talking a couple times a week by phone.  This was back in the day when long-distance phone calls were crazy expensive.  Beth couldn’t afford the calls so when she wanted to talk she would call me and we’d hang up immediately and I’d call her back because she didn’t make enough money to afford talking long. And I of course, called her directly a lot. We saw each other in person a couple times over the next seven months but the relationship was almost exclusively by phone.

In late December, we were talking and she said she had just gone to a Chiropractor's conference (she was a Chiropractic Assistant).  I was still running my consulting business full-time AND doing BNI close to full-time.  She asked me for some “business” advice.  She said she had two job offers and wanted my professional opinion (as a business consultant) as to which was the better opportunity.  My first question was – “where are the jobs?”  She said "one was in Dallas and the other was in Pasadena" (close to me).  I immediately told her the best one was Pasadena.  She said, “but you haven’t even heard anything about the offers!”  I said to her – “I don’t know if you get it by now but I’m interested in you.  I recommend Pasadena."  So, she moved out in February, left the chiropractor and came to work with me in March, I asked her to marry me in April, and we were married in May,1989. 

While it wasn’t love at “first sight” it was, for me, love at “first date.”  We were married for 31 years. I don’t know “how” I knew.   I’m not sure that “knew” is even the right word.  It was something I “felt.”  And for someone like me, who values tangible information and facts, to get such an overwhelming feeling – I knew I needed to pay attention to it.  I'm glad I did. 


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Shared by Kimberly Gonzalez on November 28, 2020
I met Ivan and Beth many years ago like many at a BNI function.  However, just about a year ago this last month, I too was diagnosed with cancer.  I will never forget the phone call that I received from Beth, a day I will always remember.   She was such an inspiration that day.  She shared so many stories and gave me so much hope.  Shortly after, I was gifted her books and while I was undergoing treatment I read her story.  I felt like I was right there with her the whole time.  Ivan,  thank you for sharing her with me.  My heart is heavy for our loss, but I know that God has gained an amazing angel.  I pray that God gives you peace.  I look  forward to the day that we can all meet again.  YIC, Kimberly

Elisabeth - Beth, beautiful spirit

Shared by Tracy Pellegrino on November 25, 2020
Forgive me if this is not well worded - many times I've thought of writing and how to process the significance of her sudden passing.

While we didn't see each other or speak all that often, I thought of her so very often. In her passing, I've wondered why I thought of her so continuously even before she shared her struggle with the pain in her last days.  Possibly it was her warm embrace, her knowledge and zeal for life, love, healing - her willingness to share and blog her journey... She seemed to have a deep love for a lot of things - animals probably were one of "our" common denominators.  I remember her pain when she lost their last dog - we lived close by at the time & she borrowed a puppy from us a couple of times to spend the day with her. Then when Ivan was sick she asked if she could get fresh chicken eggs from us.  Later on some how through her divine intuition she honored us by asking if we would house one of her biggest treasures on earth, her son Trey, who wanted to own a dog, that we agreed to.  With our busy lives, we had just simple encounters yet she always left a lasting impression on me. The last time we saw each other I felt so blessed she was coming to visit as part of her healing for her breast cancer.  She had identified horses as part of that healing journey. She was in Santa Barbara, and we are now on a large alpaca ranch and that to her was close enough!  I felt so happy & honored to have her coming, knowing what a busy life and fragile period that diagnosis was.  I now will treasure that visit more than ever.  One thing that stuck out to me on that visit was what I really wanted to share with everyone else.  She talked about "laughter" being significant in healing and how her & Ivan had been telling each other jokes.  It was just so cute that simple image of them calling each other up just to send laughter. I feel blessed to have the memory of her giggle to belly laugh - I loved hearing her sweet voice, she was just special in many ways. I know she has somehow made even heaven a brighter place by her presence.   Such vibrancy, she truly out-loved so many of us in her too short of a time on this earth.  I am glad she did not have to suffer too long & thankful her love lives on in so so many.  Until we see each other again dear friend :)

Everyone had potential

Shared by Erica Gifford on November 24, 2020
We've all spoken on how Elizabeth had this... amazing capacity for love. For acceptance. For making everyone she met feel special. Even when she was exhausted, at the end of her own rope, she had a smile for  you. 

I met her in April of 2017, at my first convention for BNI. Patti introduced us, and we hit it off, right away. We shared a passion for bringing love and change to the world. I was honored, in 2018, to receive a leadership award in her name. 

But really what I cherished and valued more than anything, was her honesty, and candidness about who she was. And her genuine care and understanding that everyone was different, but everyone had value to bring to the world. We shared the struggles of being mothers to children who had their own journeys to walk. I hope, one day, to be half the woman she was. 

You are so missed Elizabeth.