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This memorial website was created in memory of Elisabeth Misner. Those of us who knew her will remember this amazing woman forever.

Elisabeth was battling a severe reaction to gadolinium toxicity for several months as the result of an MRI with contrast.  Unfortunately, that condition was masking the more serious underlying condition of cancer (something that she successfully beat before).  By the time her medical doctors discovered that it might also be cancer, it had spread to her liver and bones and she did not have time to pursue  the type of treatment that she had success with before.  She remained with us for only eight days after that time.  She passed away in her sleep on October 29th at 3:03 am of pulmonary thromboembolism as a result of her condition. 

Many people celebrated her life through an online memorial on November 24th.  You can view her memorial by clicking here.

If you would like, you may also leave a tribute message below.
November 13, 2020
November 13, 2020
To Dr Ivan Misner, your children and extended family,
May the Lord of peace Himself give you peace at all times and in every way. Thess3:16 NIV.       
We celebrate the life of Elisabeth her legacy will remain with us.
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
Dear Dr. Ivan and Family,

Please accept our deepest condolences and prayers to the whole Family. 

Will always remember Elizabeth's Legacy through BNI Foundation.
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
Conheci a Beth em Los Angeles 2017.
Uma mulher que emanava energia positiva.
Espero que sua luz continue a nos iluminar.
Querido Ivan, receba toda a energia de carinho, força, afeto e fé que o mundo tem te enviado.

Rodrigo De Bernardi
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
I had the opportunity to work for BNI for 10 years, and I also had the privilege to know Dr. Misner and Beth as well. Wonderful couple!!
Beth was a charming kind of lady who did share her love and kindness to others as well as with each employee at BNI.
My prayers for the family and specially for Ivan.
May the love of God bless you and give you strength and peace.

Sincerely yours,
Jose Bernal
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
I met Elisabeth in Bangkok, Thailand on #BNIGC2018. She was guiding us with morning taichi lessons. Elisabeth was so friendly and open to not only me but also other BNI members in that morning. I got a chance to take a (first and only) photo with her that morning. I will think of you, Beth!
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
I met Beth at several Global and National conventions. She made me feel welcome and like we had known each other for a very long time. A very loving sole.
I was inspired by her work with children. Doing the Boys and Girls club mentoring was the most satisfying part of the convention for me. Beth was creating ripples. Childrens lives have been changed forever. As these children go out and do great things, Beth will shine on in their works.
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
I never met Beth, but read out her quotes and listen her speeches on various occasions. I found her caring about others and BNI as her family. She was prepared herself for BNI and people around her. We will missed her a lot but we are always with her ideas and ways were shown to move on..............BNI Energizers Chapter, Gurgaon Region, India.  
November 12, 2020
November 12, 2020
Those we love can never be more than a thought away....
for as long as there's a memory they live in our hearts to stay.

our sincere condolences for the passing of Beth.
November 11, 2020
November 11, 2020
In 2005 at the first BNI Members Day in Germany Beth gave the BNI KeyNote Speech in German. “Viele Jahre traeumte ich davon in Deutschland auf der ersten BNI Conference zu sprechen. Heute ist der Tag. Ich muss zugeben, ich bin furchtbar aufgeregt!“ For many years I have dreamt to speak at the first BNI Conference in Germany. Today is the day. I must admit I am extremely excited and nervous.
Like always – she won all hearts in a landslide. We will miss her so much.
All our thoughts are with you Ivan, our sincere condolences – Cordially from Berlin Helga and Tom
November 11, 2020
November 11, 2020
I have the chance to meet Beth Misner several times. Twice at Italian National BNI Conference (Milan in 2016 and in Baveno in 2019) and at my first Global Convention in Warsaw in 2019.
We always say that behind a great man there is a great woman.
In the case of Ivan Misner and Beth Misner I have always seen a total balance between them and this complementarity has allowed to create this phenomenon which is BNI and BNI foundation.
When I met them in Baveno I told them that they were and still they are the perfect couple, that their love their love was and still is real, credible, visible, inspiring!
Thank you for what you have done for all of us and for what your memory will allow us to do in the future !!!
November 10, 2020
November 10, 2020
It is, without a doubt, one of the hardest things to do to say goodbye to a loved one.  Whilst I did not know Beth personally and then, only vicariously through BNI, I would like to say that what Ivan and Beth have done by building BNI into the worldwide phenomena that it now is, is truly a legacy worth celebrating. Take care Ivan and blessings to your family in these difficult times .
November 10, 2020
November 10, 2020
I did not know Beth Misner personally and that is my loss. I did meet her at a virtual meeting and was able to thank her for all that she has done for so many around the world. Beth was kind, gentle and strong. Where often people see the glass as half empty, she always saw her as half full. She was the guiding light and soul behind the BNI Foundation. Her spirit is rare and will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Dr. Ivan, his children as well as the entire family. Beth was a bright light that will never be forgotten…she will live in our hearts and minds forever.
November 10, 2020
November 10, 2020
I am sure that peaceful soul is watching over the family at all times and will always be with us. This extended family will be forever in debt of her, who has had such a selfless role.
November 10, 2020
November 10, 2020
I met Beth Misner because of Business Voices. I volunteered at our local Boys and Girls club here in Vacaville California. I heard Ivan talk about Business Voices and Grants at a conference. I reached out the Beth through facebook asking her if it might be possible to apply for a business voices grant for hydroponic gardening. She said of course, we got the grant. A few months later she texted me and said Ivan and I are in town can we come visit you at the Boys and Girls club. Her and Brian Benzen came to the club took videos and selfies with the kids. The kids will never forget. Beth was so down to earth and a breath of fresh air, so sincere and caring. Like others have said you feel like you have know her all your life that is how she makes everyone feel. A light is gone from this earth, I am so glad I got to know her I will miss her precious heart!
November 9, 2020
November 9, 2020
The first time that I spoke to Beth was to learn more about the BNI Foundation. I was struck by her genuiness, compassion, and determination. Beth was such a giving and kind soul. She was always positive and trying to make the world a better place. She loved her family more than anything. She was such a bright light. Beth was one of a kind and she will be dearly missed.
November 9, 2020
November 9, 2020
You were always such a partner in good deeds... always willing to support when needed... Your generosity of Spirit was magnificent - and I feel you will continue to support with your love those of us who ask... The world is not the same without YOU... you will be missed by so many... we will continue to send our love to Ivan / your beloved family / all who miss you... May you be in the Creator’s embrace... love you eternally...
November 8, 2020
November 8, 2020
May the departed soul rest in peace. May God give Dr Misner and the three children the strength and courage to bear this irreparable loss
November 8, 2020
November 8, 2020
Dear Ivan,

I am so sorry for your loss of your wife Beth. I have had the opportunity to get to know Beth during the BNI Convention the last 4 years. She was So kind, careful and always with a smile. She met all people like I knew her for many years.
On behalves of my selves, BNI Norway I send my biggest condolences to Dr. Ivan Misner and family. Take care in this difficult times. Kind regards Kåre Morten Sundby
November 8, 2020
November 8, 2020
Love: love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails!
As I remember Beth it will be this definition of LOVE! She was one of the most bright, loving, generous, thoughtful, accepting, genuine person, I have ever had the privilege of knowing. Thank you Beth for the legacy you have left on this earth! You will never be forgotten❤️
November 7, 2020
November 7, 2020
From the first moment I met them, I knew they were special people.
Simple, focused on the best principles, with purposes for themselves and for others. United by body, soul and spirit.
Tireless, obstinate and loving with everything and everyone. Rare people.
Unable to praise themselves for what they have done and will never be aware of the positive impact and the true dimension of what they have done for the world.
Solid, liquid and gaseous inspiration.
Leaders by walking and united by a path that was unique to them.
Eternal gratitude for being able to be part of that path that did not belong to one or the other but that united us just as they are united, eternally.
Ivan and Beth Misner, thank you very much.
Beth Misner. Eternal longing.
November 7, 2020
November 7, 2020
Dear Elisabeth, yours is A greatness I did not meet here on this earth, this time, this life. I now look forward to being worthy to meet in the next.

The strength you have built in life now ripples through timeless effect.

Thank you, Misners. God Bless and my deepest condolences on your beloved's passing.
November 6, 2020
November 6, 2020
The news of Beth's passing was devastating to me. Very unexpected. I had gone through each and every photo of this gallery, I felt each and every moment that she might be physically not there but she will be always with you only as light of your life. 
November 6, 2020
November 6, 2020
I'm thinking Elisabeth was a freshman, my senior year at AC in CA. My daughters grew up competing over WHO would "get to be Elisabeth" when they'd stand in front of the Festival videos, while singing and dancing along with each number and show tune, they memorized as little girls. I too, was born and reared in Ft. Worth, TX...but she and Jon knew my younger brother better, as I was an "older student" - so was only able to admire her from a distance. I'm in awe of her incredible life's balancing act she achieved and would've loved to have known her, once she became a mother of three, as I was a mother of four, two of each gender...so I'm certain we'd have had much to chat about, back then. No doubt her family and friends who knew her best, are beyond proud of all she accomplished in her short lifetime. She completed more in her 56 years on this planet, than most could've done, by the time they turned 100 years old. One of my favorite female vocalists, has always been Trisha Yearwood, and I can't help but notice, what an uncanny resemblance Elisabeth had, to Mrs. Garth Brooks...especially in her latter years. Oh and how thankful we can all remain, that she WILL live again, and what a GLORIOUS reunion it will be, once we'll have an ETERNITY to EACH get to know her, at that point of forever! Godspeed that day, indeed!
November 6, 2020
November 6, 2020
I interviewed Dr. Ivan Misner for the World Gratitude Summit and I was awed at how much he loves and admires his wife Elisabeth "Beth."

May God embrace you into His Kingdom, Beth! Thank you for the love, joy, and beauty you shared with the world.
November 6, 2020
November 6, 2020
Dave and I are so saddened to hear of your great loss. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers during this extremely difficult time ♥️
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
'TO LIVE IN THE HEARTS WE LEAVE BEHIND IS NOT TO DIE'
Eternal rest grant unto her O Lord and let the perpetual light shine upon her. May her Soul rest in peace. Amen.
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November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Beth was a light that shined bright. Learning, growing, sharing, laughing--she always made each moment better wherever she went. The love between Ivan and Beth was the model of kindness, respect and admiration. Beth has left her mark on the world--she will always be with us. Memories of her warm smile have changed us all forever.
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Dear Sir,

May God's peace and love be with you and your family members. I hope these words will bring you comfort.

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God[a]; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.”

John 14: 1-4 (NIV)
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
I can't believe that Beth has gone. What a loss to the world.

Beth played a crucial role in helping BNI become the organisation it is today. She epitomised the Givers Gain philosophy.

I remember her most by how she greeted me with a big smile and a hug every time I saw her at a BNI event.

I will miss her very much x
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
It was only this year that I got to know Beth after being in BNI 16 years. Greg and I pulled up to Beth and Ivan's house in a convertible Mustang and we were greeted by them both like one of the family and from that moment on Beth looked after us. 

Whilst this was of course very special for us you just knew that this is how Beth was with everyone. She was generous and caring for the few days we spent together. She was also very excited to show us the deer that come up to the house. I remember it well the enthusiasm that she has for life and in particular all things natural. It was inspirational.

I also remember "chocolate mousse" made from avocados which was amazing. Beth had so many talents.

I know that her legacy will live on, not just in her work but also in all of those, like me, who were inspired by her.
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
What a great loss to the world, Beth will be missed terribly by so many people.

I have met Beth a number of times at BNI conventions over the past 20 years and she had the unique ability to always make you feel valued, relaxed and warm in her company.

Beth greeted you like an old friend and cared more about listening than being listened to. Beth is a person i greatly admired and the world is a less beautiful place without her. She will never leave our memories X
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Her light shines bright and her impact is far reaching and never ending. Rest well.
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
I never had the opportunity to meet her, but everyone always spoke so highly of her that I know the world is a much poorer place without her.
They always say behind every successful man is a woman with a big stick, but I guess in this case she was the woman with a big heart. God bless x
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Respected Sir,

My name is Kanda Kumar from BNI-Champions, Bangalore,

I do no much about her but i am sure by seeing the photographs which you have posted.

Shows she is very passionate about her life.

Sir please accept my condolences
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
A true sunshine has left us !.
I had the privilege of having a dinner at Elisabeth's table, during a BNI event in Germany, and being able to interact with her.
Her philosophy of life, her openness, her kindness, her listening skills, her smile, make her a very inspiring and unforgettable woman.
Elisabeth, rest in peace between the angels!
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Comment from Elisabeth's father, John Prevo. I thought the time Ivan showed as Elisabeth's death was interesting: 303 AM on 10/29. She was born at 303 PM on June 13. She weighed 8 lb 7 oz and I could hold her in my two hands. What a feeling to hold my first child. As she grew she developed into a very talented person. She sang like a bird, was an oboe virtuoso having won a national talent contest including a college scholarship playing the Gypsy Dance Csardas on the oboe just before she graduated from high school. She loved studying and learning languages being fluent in Spanish, German and French. She will be greatly missed by all who knew her and our thoughts are with Ivan for comfort and direction in the time to come.
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Talking to her made one feel special. She was that welcoming, open and friendly.
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
C'était un de mes rêves de rencontrer un jour Elisabeth. J'ai fait parti d'un groupe BNI en France je suis comme Elisabeth au début assistante de direction, et c'est ainsi que j'ai appris son histoire, votre histoire. J'ai eu malgré tout la chance cette année d'échanger sur Messenger avec elle au sujet d'un petit garçon qui avait besoin d'aide atteint d'un cancer également (et qui nous a également quitté peut de temps après). Elle avait pris contact avec la famille de ce petit guerrier le champs. Je vous croyais indestructible tous les deux, inséparable comme les couple d'oiseaux qui portent ce nom d'ailleurs, et je crois que vous l'êtes. Rien ne pourra vous séparer même la disparition d'un de vous deux. Je vous souhaite beaucoup de courage Yvan, et dieu sait que vous en avez et en avez eu et en aurait encore. Peu de gens peuvent partager ce que vous avez partager Elisabeth et vous, il faut garder ça en mémoire tous les bons moments. Merci à elle a vous Yvan qui sans le savoir m'avez apporté tellement depuis tant d'années. Stéphanie
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
Life is special with special person, and sad without them, the only way we could cheer Elisabeth Misner is to making more strong to BNI And BNI Foundation, which was close to her heart, My prayers for the Family and specially to Ivan , Stand tall as you always been, and She will be happy to see you taller.
November 5, 2020
November 5, 2020
When I originally met Beth, I was attending my first BNI Executive Directors' Conference. I had signed on to run the Washington, DC metro area. At that time, there were only 200 or so executive directors and Ivan had not yet published his first book. Beth was gracious, welcoming, and clearly Ivan's soulmate and confidante. She remained that same warm and supportive person always.
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
I have only read about Mrs.Misner.
Never met in person.
Yet, we have a deep connect.

Prayers & love.
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
In 2018 I had the privilege to share the stage with Beth, presenting her with the Phyllis Richards Austin Icon for Children Award. She amazed me with her accomplishments, her grace, her kindness and passion for creating a better world for children and all who knew her. Two weeks after she received the award, she reached out asking if she could meet Phyllis, the woman who the award was named after. Beth and I visited Phyllis who was 94 years old. The way she interacted with Phyllis was so sweet and caring. The fact that she reached out and had a real curiosity and desire to meet Phyllis meant the world to me and Phyllis. I have always been so touched and moved by Beth's innate beautiful way of being. She is really going to be missed. Sending much love and healing to Ivan and the family.
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
Dr. Misner, I am so sorry for your loss. I did not have a chance to meet her but definitely she has touched many of our lives here in the BNI family.  So appreciative to see these tributes.
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
I had the opportunity to tour Mysore with Beth, Meena Srinivasan, Murali Srinivasan and my wife Susan last August. It was an up-close and personal experience with her. Wherever she went, she exuberates radiant of grace and love - from the Hotel manager to tour guide at Mysore palace. 

Her love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared her love.

Our thoughts and prayers are for Dr. Ivan. May our love & light surround you and give you strength in the days ahead.

Infinite love & gratitude,
Jonathan
BNI Singapore
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
Ivan, I am shocked to hear this news, I was just re-reading The Misner Plan last week for my own health, remembering Beth's deep and sustained commitment to your health. I will never forget her loving and caring spirit. If I can do ANYTHING to support, please just ask! - Robert MacPhee
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
It was lovely meeting you in Thailand. Your energy lit up the room. You will be missed by many.
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
I'm deeply saddened by the death of Elisabeth Misner. My thoughts go out to Dr. Ivan and the kids in this moment. The Lord be your Light and Salvation. Love and Prayers.

Julius
(BNI Uganda)
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
Dear Ivan and Misner family,
It was a shock to hear the news about the passing of Beth last week.
I remember Beth as a very charming lady who was always at Ivans' side.
On top of that she developed the Misner Foundation into the BNI Foundation. When she was on the stage to promote the fantastic work of the foundation, everyone could feel her commitment to the good work: helping thousands of children around the world. At every international conference her presence gave our businesslike events a spark of human kindness and engagement with people from all over the world! She will be missed extremely!
I wish you Ivan, and your children lots of strength to overcome this tragedy.
With warmest regards, Jules Baartmans
November 4, 2020
November 4, 2020
Heartfelt condolences Dr Ivan Misner. This is an irreparable loss.

At least a million business owners across globe are indebted to Beth because without her unflinching support to you, BNI would not have grown to what it is today.

Om Shanti.
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January 20
January 20
I stepped away from the business world and many other things during the pandemic like so many people. I have been out of touch. Today after thinking about Beth (who I didn't know very well and only for a few years, but I think of remarkably often) I was looking and looking for her on LinkedIn to send a message saying hello and thanking her for her kindness. I was incredibly heartbroken to find her obituary.
Beth provided guidance and comfort to me when my stepfather was battling cancer in 2019. I knew her professionally, but she did not hesitate to open up her wealth of knowledge, experience, and kindness to me when the topic came up- in a bank office of all places! To find out that someone who had been so diligent, studied and scrutinizing in her own prior treatment was taken from the world and her family by that wretched disease is infuriating. So, I just need to go watch her TedX, "Saved by Rage" and listen to her lovely voice and strong words and find a way to bring more light and joy into the world like she did. She has left a beautiful legacy and I am so grateful to Dr. Misner for ensuring that her spirit is kept alive.
June 14, 2023
June 14, 2023
Happy birthday Elisabeth. Wishing you much peach and happiness on your special day with all the other beautiful angels in heaven.
June 14, 2023
June 14, 2023

"After meeting her in 2019 and having had the opportunity to spend some unforgettable moments with her in Umbria, in Assisi, and at San Patrignano for the TEDx Coriano 2019, I can say with certainty that Elisabeth Misner's kindness was her most distinctive trait. Her innate ability to put others at ease and to offer unconditional support made the world a better place for anyone who knew her. And even though she is no longer with us, the imprint of her altruism and goodness will continue to inspire us forever. Unforgettable!"
Her Life

Elisabeth Misner

November 1, 2020
One thing that would tell you a lot about Elisabeth is that she transitioned from being called Beth to being called Elisabeth.  She did that because she said that Beth means "house" and "Elisabeth" means "house of God." 

She is survived by her husband of 31 years, Ivan Misner and her three children, Ashley Misner, Dorian Prin, and Trey Misner Tempest.  

She was born on June 13th, 1964, in Fort Worth, Texas to John and Mary Prevo.  She was the eldest of three children.  Her brother is Jon Prevo and her sister is Tammy Prevo.

She obtained both a Bachelor's degree and a Masters degree in theology.  She was later ordained as a Christian minister. 

Elisabeth started her career as a chiropractic assistant where she met her husband, Ivan Misner.  She left that field to work for BNI where she served in many roles.  She was a Regional Director for the largest region of BNI for several years.  She helped to write all the manuals for every role in the organization.  She then transitioned to the Marketing Director handling PR and marketing for the organization.  Later, she became the Co-Founder of the BNI Foundation and helped to raise millions of dollars for children and education all around the world.  When she stepped down from a formal role in BNI she was made Vice Chair Emeritus to reflect her many years of service to the organization. 

While raising three children she obtained a black belt in Shotokan Karate and went on to study Tai Chi and later become a Qigong Master teaching at the Austin Spa Resort in Texas.  However, she would say that the most important job in life was that of "mom."  She loved being a mom and she loved her three children immensely. 

She also loved reading, writing, painting, drawing, quilting, scrapbooking, speaking, decorating homes, fine art, wine, astronomy, meditation, and reading (it's in twice because she read a lot!).  She spoke three languages (Spanish, German, and French) and she knew sign language and a little Japanese.  She was truly a life-long learner.

She loved animals and flowers (especially bluebonnets).  She was incredibly excited every Spring because the bluebonnets of Texas would start to bloom.  She also loved Lavender oils and Rose scents.  She especially loved Texas and no matter where she lived at the time, she always told people she was from Texas.  Texas was her home wherever she resided.  She was incredibly happy to come back to Texas for the last six years of her life.  

She did a Tedx talk in 2020 entitled "Saved by Rage."  Elisabeth also contributed to many books and wrote several, including Jesus and the Secret and Healing Begins in the Kitchen. Her last book, written during her illness and published just before her passing was titled: Called Out of the Church, 7 Steps to Living Beyond the Cross.   This was a very difficult book for her to write.  It is a parable about a woman's journey in the church and was the most heart wrenching book she ever wrote.  

In the last few years of her life she called herself a "Lovetarian."  She loved people and she loved life.  Anyone who knew her, knew this to be true.  She was a gentle, loving soul who will be missed by everyone who knew her well.   

The world is a little less perfect without her in it.

In Lieu of flowers, the family would prefer donations to the BNI Foundation.

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Love at First Date

November 19, 2020
Someone recently asked me how I knew Elisabeth was my soulmate when we first went out.  I’ve told the story many times and I cover it a bit in the book, Givers Gain, but I don’t think I’ve ever written it down as one story so here it is:

I first met Elisabeth in 1986.  It was at a Leadership Team training I conducted in LA.  I remember meeting her vividly.  She was young (23) and very motivated and I could see why the group elected her the President.  I also recognized that she was very smart and she was… gorgeous.  Although I was undeniably attracted to her – I was also in a relationship and didn’t connect with her again for two years.  In that time, unbeknownst to me, she moved from LA to Prescott, Arizona (many hours away).   I was scheduled to speak in Phoenix (about 2 – 3 hours from (Prescott) and out of the blue she called me.  Now (1988), I was no longer in that relationship and when she called, she said, “I don’t know if you remember me but we met in LA a couple years ago.”  My heart pounded but I calmly said, “yes, yes, I remember you Elisabeth.” She told me that her chapter knew she met me and they asked her if she would call me to see if I would “swing by” Prescott to speak to their group – so she asked me that question.  I knew I couldn’t just “swing by.”  I knew it was an overnight trip so I did something I have never done before – I said, “if you’ll have dinner with me, I’ll drive the  2 – 3 hours over to Prescott to speak to your group and she said “yes.”  That was about April or May of 1988.

Honestly, for her, it was a business meeting but for me, it was a date.  I could tell pretty quickly that she wanted to keep it professional and I remained a perfect gentleman all evening.  We spoke for hours.  Many, many hours.  I didn’t get her home until almost 1am and we had the BNI meeting that morning at 7am.

When I got home to LA the day after the meeting, I had a conversation with the nanny (Pia Jacobsen - PJ) who was watching my young daughter (who Elisabeth later adopted).  She asked me how that “date” went that I was looking forward to so much.  I told her that it was a "good thing that she lived so far away" and she asked me “why?”  I told her, “because if Elisabeth lived nearby I would ask her to marry me.”   She said, “are you crazy, you just got divorced – you can’t get married again so soon and especially after one date!”  I agreed that it was crazy and I told her I knew that I was a logical, left-brain thinker, but that there was something special about this woman and it was probably good that she lived so far away.  It would give me time.

Elisabeth and I then started talking a couple times a week by phone.  This was back in the day when long-distance phone calls were crazy expensive.  Beth couldn’t afford the calls so when she wanted to talk she would call me and we’d hang up immediately and I’d call her back because she didn’t make enough money to afford talking long. And I of course, called her directly a lot. We saw each other in person a couple times over the next seven months but the relationship was almost exclusively by phone.

In late December, we were talking and she said she had just gone to a Chiropractor's conference (she was a Chiropractic Assistant).  I was still running my consulting business full-time AND doing BNI close to full-time.  She asked me for some “business” advice.  She said she had two job offers and wanted my professional opinion (as a business consultant) as to which was the better opportunity.  My first question was – “where are the jobs?”  She said "one was in Dallas and the other was in Pasadena" (close to me).  I immediately told her the best one was Pasadena.  She said, “but you haven’t even heard anything about the offers!”  I said to her – “I don’t know if you get it by now but I’m interested in you.  I recommend Pasadena."  So, she moved out in February, left the chiropractor and came to work with me in March, I asked her to marry me in April, and we were married in May,1989. 

While it wasn’t love at “first sight” it was, for me, love at “first date.”  We were married for 31 years. I don’t know “how” I knew.   I’m not sure that “knew” is even the right word.  It was something I “felt.”  And for someone like me, who values tangible information and facts, to get such an overwhelming feeling – I knew I needed to pay attention to it.  I'm glad I did. 

Ivan

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Kristi Krauss, a good friend, just shared this video with me about Elisabeth.  I miss her almost every day.  This is a great example of who she was. 

https://vimeo.com/523573161
October 29, 2022
I was very fortunate to meet Beth Misner madam in Global Convention in year 2018 as well as in year 2019 in BNI Mumbai Members Day. I took her video interview at BNI Foundation stall. I was little more fortunate to attend her Tai chi class also. Thank you so much for adding value in our life.

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