Remembering my dear uncle Feridun on the 3rd anniversary of his passing to Heaven.

He gave us wonderful memories that we could not forget. 

He was caring, funny, knowledgeable, wise & smart if I could say few of his wonderful attributes. His faith & his love of life, family, friends & birds were amazing.

May his soul rest in peace in Heaven eternally.

Even though he was my mother's first cousin, Feridun Abi was an uncle to me. I have so many good memories of him that I don't know which to share on this second anniversary of his death.

In 1961, when we had just immigrated to Canada, I was 13 then, he came to visit us in Montreal. It was a great pleasure to see him again several years after having settled in the United States himself. During this short visit with us, one afternoon, he took my sister and I to a large city park with a zoo, by taxi. I had no idea how, total stranger to the city, he managed to find such a place (we didn't know then that this park even existed) but I remember that when speaking to the cabbie he mentioned the word "downtown", one of the very few English words I knew then. I've always known him to be very resourceful, and this was just another example of that.

We spent a very pleasant afternoon that day and returned home delighted, especially since our parents, overwhelmed by the challenges of settling in a new country, had no leisure time for any of us.

This outing was a real breath of fresh air for me and my sister. Thank you Feridun Abi for this wonderful gift. These memories have always remained and will always remain very much alive in my mind. May you rest in peace.

Today marks the 2nd anniversary of our dear friend Ferid’s passing and I remember the day and hour as though it were yesterday. It happened to be my birthday and as I lit the candles on my cake I prayed, “ Rest In Peace, Dear Friend” and I knew that every birthday from that year on, I would remember that gentle man who listened to our stories and healed our hearts with his soothing words and medical expertise and so I have. Once again today I lit the candles and prayed for continued blessings on Louise and his entire family and thanked God for Ferid, whose life was one well lived!

Dear Uncle Feridun,

Wishing you Happy Heavenly Birthday!!!
Lighting your candle. May you Rest In Peace forever…
With our love,
Berna, Feza & Merit

On the anniversary of our dear brother's death, we remember him with love. Rest in peace.

Yüksel-Neşide Bozkaya

I have procrastinated in writing this as it is so final and I don’t want to think about not seeing our friend, Ferid’s, smiling face. He always had a big, dimpled smile or made a funny comment, anything to make you smile, too. Years ago when we first met him and I said my name was “Jan” he either heard it as “Jane” or was just making a quick association, he said “me Tarzan”. Thereafter nearly every time he saw me he would say “you Jane, me Tarzan” and I couldn’t help but smile!
Ferid was always concerned about others and was quick to help anyone who needed it. Phil would sometimes see him at the swimming pool, always impressed by his stamina and determination. Ferid’s sweet tooth rivaled that of Phil’s and I loved sharing my homemade goodies with him. The last time was on his birthday when I gave him a box of homemade turtle candies and couldn’t help but suggest he share them with Louise, Peri and Kurt!
Given his exercise regimen and care he seemed to take of himself I expected he would outlast many of us. Never thought he would leave us all this soon. He was loved by his large family and many friends, is greatly missed and certainly leaves a hole in our hearts.
Jan and Phil

I am one of the nephews of Louise and Feridun on the other side of the world. Before smart phones, cheap internet and efficient communication apps, they were as our relatives on the moon. Thanks to my visit of around one month in 1991 to their mystic house in the forest where you can watch a thunderstorm in a huge silence just behind thick glass walls of meters of height, I had the chance to recognize the intellectual, artistic and peaceful world of Louise and Feridun (Peri and Kurt were already on their ways in other cities, I remember more things about Peri, but the only memory I remember with Kurt was a big family lunch in Turkey, that we all, his hungry relatives finished our meals about in ten minutes and he was still cutting a green pepper into very small pieces on his rice).
The portrait of Feridun Dayi: a smiling face with genious glances behind thick frame glasses as saying, "My friend, I already discovered the key of life, whatever you do, whatever you tell, I love you and I am so happy to be with you at the moment, BUT, if you make me surprise however, I am ready to take my hat off." 
By looking for the answers of his questions, mainly based on "being a correct human being" and "satisfaction of intelligence" (I guess), he did a long mental, emotional and physical journey in his life.
He is watching us from the moon with his smiling face and waiting for the development of communication tools to send us the messages about his long journey.
Remember with love, keeps the souls happy.
With my deep love and beautiful memories...

Sevgili Louise,Peri,Kurt,
Hepinize başsağlığı diliyorum. Hayatımın ikinci şokunu çok sevdiğim Feridun ağabeyimi kaybettiğim gün yaşadım. Son görüşmemizde Zeki'yi rüyasında gördüğünü anlatmıştı. Louis ve Peri Ağabeyi son defa görmemi sağladılar.Abi  abi... dedim .Fakat kaybettik. Sevgili eşim, kardeşi Zeki'nin kaybından sonra bana çok büyük destek ve moral verdi. Beni her hafta arıyordu. Feridun abi sevgi dolu idi. Ailesini, akrabalarını ,arkadaşlarını, tabiatı herşeyi çok severdi.    Nûrlar içinde yatsın. Mekanı Cennet olsun. 
Nebahat Döşlüoğlu

Dearest Louise, Peri, Kurt,
In all my memories of Feridun Amca, he is smiling with the expression of a proud father and a loving husband. He was a great uncle and I am filled with great sadness at this moment. Then I think of what Kurt said about my Dad and Feridun Amca hugging each other and I smile again. He was incredibly sincere and funny and that is how I will remember him. 
We are deeply saddened and send you all our deepest love.
Mekani Cennet Olsun (May his resting place be heaven).
Taner and Suna

Dear Louise,
Ferid, knowing I was Catholic always said, “Say a prayer for me, Grace.”
So on the morning of his passing into eternal life I prayed my
“Song of the Angels” for him...
May songs of the Angels welcome you and guide you along your way.
May the smiles of the martyrs greet your own as darkness turns to day.
Every fear will be undone and death will be no more,
As songs of the Angels bring you home before the face of God.

My dear Feridun Agabey,
May angels be your companion in your journey, and heaven be your home. You will hold a special place in the hearts of everyone you touched in this world. I will always remember you with love and respect. Rest in peace in heavenly lights.

Neşide Bozkaya

My dear older brother,
I'm so sorry for your sudden death.
I can not accept your early death.
You left sorrow in our hearts and you too moved on
To high heavens, the homeland of my God.

All the kind things you did as a brother,
I, as your brother Yüksel, have not forgotten
And will forever remember them
Rest in the light, in God's grace

May your soul rest in peace, your place be heaven,
Your beautiful soul rise with grace of God.
The good things you have done will always be known
In the beautiful souls of those who love you ...

Written by Yüksel Bozkaya
Translated by Tolga Bozkaya

Dear Louise,
I was so sad to learn that Ferid had passed. He was so courageous to have kept his condition from his friends so as not to disconcert them. His love for nature shone through and was with him until the end. Two weeks before he died, he tried to contact me for information on planting Milkweed to provide sustenance for Monarch butterflies. I so regret that while we played phone tag, I was unable to reach him.
I have such fond memories of Ferid. He welcomed me into his circle of friends, which became the foundation of my Village's social experience. Events and outings with Ferid were always fun, especially his penchant for slyly digging my ribs and whispering, "Time to go."
We had many philosophical discussions about religion and the meaning of existence. He was a spiritual being who believed in a creator and an afterlife.
And so, Peggy Moore joins me in saying:
“Allah rahmet ve huzur içinde yatsın”
And to Louise and your family, we offer you our love and condolence.

Dear Louise,
  I have very very fond memories of Feridun Ağabey from my childhood onward. He was like an uncle to me and I used to look up to him when we were in Turkey, and the few times we met in Montreal. Please accept my sincere condolences and also relay them to Peri and Kurt.
  He was a good man, a very good man... may you find peace in remembering him laughing and making others laugh with his unique sense of humour, that's certainly how I want to remember him.

Özgen
Papineauville, Quebec, Canada

Dear Louise, Thank you for this beautiful memory tribute for Feridun Agabey. It is quite touching. We will always remember his kind, sincere, caring and sharing personality. He was a good ‘brother’ to me and a great uncle to my children. God rest his sole. Ruhu sad olsun. Please take good care of yourself and your family. Love, Senel

Dear Aunt Louise, Peri and Kurt,
As I recall my memories of Uncle Feridun since his passing I realized that I always remember my uncle smiling and being jolly. He will always have a special place in our hearts and we will miss him very much.
Love,
Tolga

Dear Aunt Louise, Peri and Kurt,
We are very sad to lose our dearest uncle Feridun unexpectedly, and will always remember him with the fondest memories, and his smiling face. Although he was our "American Uncle", he was always the uniting and cohesive force in the family. I hope that we can have a proper memorial service at some time as he always facilitated family reunions both in the US and Turkey.
I found some very old pictures that I will add.
Our love and kisses from me, Mine, Deniz and Ates.

Louise, I will always remember the warm and gracious welcome you and Ferid gave me on Christmas Day a few years back. Conversations in the living room with Ferid's gentle smile and spirit, off to the movies, and then dinner at the Chinese restaurant. It is a beautiful memory and one that I will always treasure.

Dear Louise,
Ferid was such a dear friend. We were so fortunate to share wonderful memories: Sunset picnics, vacations, special birthdays, interesting bridge games, lobster dinners, and just “hanging out!” We miss him already, but smile when we think of him. We love you .
Sanford & Caryn

Louise, Mila and I feel lucky that we met you and Ferid here in Coronado so many years ago. Playing golf with him and Warren was the highlight of my golfing career. Ferid was always cheerful and a good friend. He will be sorely missed. Our love to you. We hope to see you soon.

We think about you and Ferid and the wonderful times we had when we got together. Great memories and I enjoyed Ferid’s dry sense of humor. I think about the times we golfed and did our bluebird runs. Stay strong. Love Bill and Kathy

Louise,
We were deeply touched seeing photos of Ferid from his youth to adulthood, and up through his years of retirement.
We were honored to be part of his life. He meant so much to us. We will miss him very much.

Thank you for sharing these family photos. 
You and Ferid have a beautiful family. 

With love and caring,