I met Flavia in the early spring of 1982 in a coffee shop on the corner of Lexington and 77th Street - close to the subway station. Joao, my ex-husband and I used to go there for pastramis, on our way to work and English course, respectively. There, Flavia, the hostess, spotted us: Brazilians? she asked in her mineiro accent… two or three of these meals were enough to engage us in nice chats and to invite her over to our place for a dinner packed with all our Brazilian friends. It was instant connection - loved Flavi and she became a regular in our late night dinners. I was so impressed with her beautiful honest open heart, especially when one night she came over to correct her misrepresentation of a story that was soon to be forgotten because wasn’t important for us. That “correction” touched me deeply, it revealed who Flavia was, how big and honest and courageous she was. I trusted her and wanted her close. We became very very close and were always having meaningful conversations and lots of laughter. About three years after we first met, Flavia landed a big job and went to Belo Horizonte to get her new visa. Off course I went to her newly rented apt at 209 east 81st Street, on the second floor, to wish her a safe and fun trip. There were open suitcases as she was still packing, and I spotted a large one full of tiny tennis shoes - what is this Flavi, I asked, and she replied: for the poor kids in BH. Again, my heart melted and could never forget such beauty, pure gesture! A few years later, meeting her family here in New York, I understood where it all came from. Flavi, as she quickly became, introduced me to astrology, and after studying for a few months, our conversations started to be weaved and heavily punctuated by pluto, uranus, saturn… trines and squares. we spoke everyday and off course fought and argued too. So Flavi, after many of these arguments often would call me and say: I am calling because Oce (mineiro short for voce, or You) are a scorpio and won’t call. Right there my guard would immediately go down - did not want to fight either, let’s continue our conversations and laugh and have fun.
-Moneeca, let’s go to the Village with Gisa (Gisela) and meet Michelle.
-Let’s go to the beach tomorrow?
Later she left the big pay job to pursue a career in film, and did it so well!!!
-Moneeca, I met a very interesting man, about whom I want to make a documentary. I want you to meet him, he is 101 years old, an Austrian musician.
-Have you seen the last cut of Forbidden Wedding?
She would not allow fear, if any appeared, to control her - she was confident and fearless!
Her career grew and she worked, as we know, with so many interesting directors, producers and writers. Harry Brown was one of them, who she often would refer to either HarriKrishna or HarriCane - according to his mood. How much I love these nicknames and late night jokes over the phone!!!
In the middle of life challenges and difficulties and many complaints, she would drag me into the stories of the characters she would create on the spot and we would laugh to no end. Flavi loved to laugh and that is one especial way, among so many, she bonded with us. The many times we laughed of nothing, just looking at each other and laugh and our love would pop loud.
Our miseries, and hard moments were impersonated by all these characters, that would always show up to bring light, lightness and laughter to difficult situations - no one escaped them, and even her boyfriends started to participate on these jokes and add to the life of the characters: “don’t stRRetch the matirial”, “super agora” - so wonderful!!!
So many stories Flavitin, as I started calling you as you grew bigger for me. Intuitively I knew so many of them, and what happened and what was going on, even before you could tell me!
so so much, so many stories and memories…
Favitin, i have to go…- Moneeca, Pluto and Saturn conjunct… -I really have to go…
I would not attempt to tell all here - the endless conversations continue in and with each one of us, and we still miss you.
Love you big minha Flavitin ♥️♥️♥️