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Glass Model Ship

April 2
My brother had always been close to our grandmother, Josephine Forbes. Like him, she had a great sense of humor. When he was at BU (Boston University) and living in Cambridge, they would often go to the afternoon symphony together. Even after she got dementia, he would regularly visit her, brightening her day. As I mentioned elsewhere, he told of a time when the radio was playing a Straus waltz and he coaxed her out of bed to dance with him. She was in heaven...

After our grandmother died, Forbes was asked if he would like anything in the house to remember her and our grandfather by. He chose two objects, both model boats found in a back room. (Our grandfather was an ardent collector of model ships, now at MIT.) One was a miniature ship which he donated to the Annapolis Maritime Museum (more on that later). The other was a ship made out of glass, including the rigging. He kept it, forlorn & forgotten, in his room in our parent's house until we sold it in the early 2000's. By that time, this noble ship had deteriorated through time, becoming unglued and a wreck of fallen glass... 

Forbes took the glass boat to an assessor in NH. Clearly it was priceless. He ended up donating it to the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston where it was meticulously restored and now on display with one other glass boat (by the same designer). I cannot imagine the painstaking effort it took to put it back together again. My brother always liked to describe the tiny glass crew-- which (under magnifying glass) turned out to be anatomically correct!

SHIP MODEL: C. Andrews, about 1844, France.
Water line model, not to scale, of the C. Andrews; sails and rigging are of glass; on inlaid stand with small button feet; enclosed in bell glass. (16 3/4 x 16 3/8 x 7 3/4 in) Although the exact date and history of this merchant ship has not yet been discovered, all aspects of the model indicate that it was made by the same shop and at virtually the same date as the model of "Henry Newell," displayed nearby.This is a photo of the companion glass ship at the MFA. 

https://collections.mfa.org/objects/475527

VT

December 17, 2022
My sister has been going through old boxes of photos and has found a few new ones of Forbes. This one was taken at her house in VT, mid 70's?, hanging around what I initially thought was a cooler-- then noticed Daphne was carrying a box of dishwashing powder!

ZEN MESSAGE

December 5, 2022
Forbes did not leave a “note” but he left dozens of Zen notes (from calendars I would give him each year-- perhaps from other sources as well) carefully laid out on a glass coffee table in front of the sofa. At the time I did not discern a particular message and only now am revisiting… (I had placed them in a file, stacked according to each row so I could recreate what he had left.) I will now enter them as he had laid them out on the table, with columns starting from left to right. (Note that he carefully clipped off the date of each quote.) If you have any particular insights, I would be most interested in hearing...

Zen Quotes

October 2, 2022
Since I seem to have run out of photos, I thought I would start adding the Zen quotes that were clearly so important to Forbes. Some I know the source, some were just tucked away in folders I've lost track of. I will begin with the quotes and cartoons found in his will file, in no particular order, except if found on the same page. I believe this quote was entered earlier but thought appropriate to start with... Note that the order goes by clicking left, starting here, as the newest ones will appear first in the gallery.

The Mantis

September 17, 2022
Today is my brother’s 81st birthday.
My sister & I celebrated last eve toasting Forbes with his favorite Tito's vodka on the Essex River. I remember how we celebrated his birthday last year at Willard Pond where he lived as a skinnydipping hippy (his own self-description) in the seventies. (See “Stories“ for that magical day…) Less than a week before, I was not sure if it was even going to happen. Nothing seemed to be going right. I had not heard from the flutist I had so wanted to play at the celebration. The engraver had not yet begun engraving the stone where the celebration would take place. The Hancock Inn— out of the blue-- told me that the Inn would be closing that weekend— and having a drink there was the only part of the celebration I knew Forbes would have agreed to! And since I had been largely responsible for both the site of the stone memorial and what was to be engraved, I was also stressed how family and Forbes’s close friends (from hippy days) would react to them. Foremost on my mind, of course, was my brother’s approval. Forbes had written emphatically in his will that he didn’t want any “services" and here I was going against his wishes (although we saw it as a birthday celebration memorial...). And now, just days before, all my worst fears were materializing. Although I felt in my heart that I was at least trying to do the right thing, beneath it all, I felt I was letting my brother down, that he would not be approving of what I had done, was doing, and showing me by bollixing up the works... 
Two days before the celebration, I went to my treehouse (which reminds me so much of the cabin at Willard Pond— being amongst pines, chickadees, serenity…) questioning everything I was doing… I was in tears, wanting so much to somehow find approval from my beloved bro. Exhausted, I fell asleep, briefly. Since I would be in New Hampshire for the next two days, I decided to water my garden which was thick with fragrant phlox. While hosing it down, something quite large caught my eye, clearly startled by the sudden shower on this sunfilled afternoon. It had flown about two feet amongst the stems and I was curious to discover what it could be. I got down on my knees and searched the area it was last seen. I knew it was still there, so I kept looking. And looking… And then, as clear as day it appeared: the most magnificent Mantis, copper in color and at least three inches long. I was amazed. I had never seen a Praying Mantis in my garden. Not only that, but the Mantis had become a totem animal for me, special in my life because of a Mantis I met in Uganda in the seventies. My brother, in his inimitable caring way, understood like no one else what that Mantis had meant to me. For a gift long long ago, he presented me with one of my most treasured possessions-- a silver Mantis pin which he himself designed… For long voyages and special occasions (eg speaking in front of an audience— which always terrifies me, but for my brother was always so easy...), I carry it with me as a reassuring touchstone-- my brother, the mantis beside me, through thick and thin… It was already carefully tucked away for my trip to Willard Pond… Now here, before me, yet another most memorable Praying Mantis had entered my life… and I was filled with infinite gratitude...

Forbes & our grandmother

May 6, 2022
Forbes with our maternal grandmother “Ga” (Josephine Forbes). As with our paternal grandmother (Elsa Tudor: see previous photos), Forbes forged a close relationship. No doubt his passion for classical music mushroomed from joining her on Friday afternoons at the Boston Symphony (when he was at BU and lived in Cambridge). Later, when she was bedridden with depression and dementia, he would continue to visit her. I remember him telling me that whenever he’d enter her bedroom, she would light up, always recognizing him. Once, when music was playing on her radio (glued she was to the BBC), he even coaxed her out of bed— and together they waltzed to a timeless rhythm... 

I still have a brief clip from the Boston Herald 1914 describing how our grandmother & partner (alas, her husband couldn’t dance) cleared the floor dancing the Maxixe. (She also excelled in the Tango.) Note: That big apple certainly did not fall far from the tree! 
A quote from my grandmother (in a Boston Herald interview): "I love a good time! And I enjoy a good nightclub too!”  Lest I am leaving an improper impression of our grandmother :) I would just like to say that, as National Chairman of the Women’s Committee, she dedicated her life (“predestined”) to help in the construction of the Washington Cathedral— 'symbol of peace on Earth.’  (Peacemaking-- whether with humans or Nature-- seems a strong theme in our family heritage...)

Skinnydipping

March 18, 2022
Some may think that this photo is perhaps a little too revealing. However, I would like to point out that Forbes's commune, based around the cabin that our father built at Willard Pond, NH, reveled in music and skinnydipping. I suspect the only time that Forbes in any way felt disconcerted while swimming there was when a loon suddenly surfaced directly in front of him, and then kept diving around him, a bit too close for comfort!

Forbes & our father

March 4, 2022
Despite their difficulties, our father was very much like Forbes. Neither of them could ever be confined to an office job. They needed their space. (Our father, chief pilot for TWA was asked repeatedly to take on the Boston office, but always declined.)
Both of them really liked to shoot the breeze with everyone, from all walks of life. Forbes, I heard recently, particularly enjoyed hanging out with a rather eccentric character when living in New Hampshire. Apparently no one else would get near this old guy because he never bathed and lived in squalor. That did not deter Forbes.
Our father was also always there to give a helping hand— plowing driveways, chopping wood, fixing things— whatever. Forbes, too, always there for his friends...

The Duck Lady

February 22, 2022
Our mother would be 107 yrs today: 2/22/22. We put this photo of her on the front of her Order of Service. And Forbes, true to form, started off our remembrances by… quacking... (very convincingly, I might add :) then dramatically regaling us with ducktales… Among all his other talents, Forbes could easily have been a comedian...               Our mother was known locally as the Duck Lady. Atop her head is a baby Wood Duck called Harry (hoping for a resplendent male) who lived on top of our fridge for about 15 years... (She had fallen down someone's chimney, common for Wood Ducks who often nest on chimneys.) Her wings were never clipped and Harry became a very popular member of the family-- even having her own guest book. 

dancing...

February 11, 2022
I remember this photo because I was excitedly heading off with Forbes to an NPR “Rockabilly” concert with Click & Clack the Tappet Brothers (of Car Talk renown). I had gotten the tickets and anticipated rockin with my bro. I shoulda known… I ran into a friend and my bro slipped away… I found him [as expected] on the dance floor— totally cleared except for him and some gorgeous girl who had met his match. Everyone mezmerized. Including me... (late 1960's?) [And no, he had not met her before.]

Australia

February 5, 2022
Forbes with two of our four uncles Jim (left) and Crosby (our mother's younger brothers). Jim, an artist, emigrated to Australia because he was vehemently against the Viet Nam war.  (Though why he chose Australia, also involved, is a little bewildering!) Knowing nothing about farming, Jim decided to buy a cattle ranch in Brisbane. At one point it was clear that things were going downhill, so Forbes (in the late-70's?) was delegated to go down under to assess the situation. I gather he helped make some difficult but constructive decisions. We thought Forbes might never return!  (Aussie cousins: do you have any details of Forbes's sojourn?) 

Note: you can see Forbes in his Aussie garb about 14 rows up from the first photo in the gallery. (Unfortunately the site does not number starting with the first photo. If it did, I could tell you the #. As it is now, every time I add a photo it becomes #1 and all the other photo numbers change accordingly... )


Vaughn

January 28, 2022
Forbes with Vaughn Monroe and his wife Marian, 1962. Vaughn was an American big band leader, baritone singer ("the man with the iron tonsils” I recall), trumpeter and actor who was most popular in the 1940s and 1950s.  When my parents were courting in the early 40’s, they would frequent his nightclub “The Meadows” in Framingham, MA and became good friends (Vaughn, like my father, was a pilot and loved to fly…). Whenever they would enter the club, Vaughn somehow immediately had the band switch tunes to “Day in, Day out” which was our parents' theme song… Forbes ended up dating the Monroe’s daughter, Candace, probably around this time. (Note: Vaughn was 6’2” but seems dwarfed in size next to Forbes!)

One of Vaughn's biggest hits: Ghost Riders In The Sky:                  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UluM5trt47I

Unthinkable

January 10, 2022
Yesterday a book that I had ordered for a friend arrived at my doorstep: Unthinkable: Trauma, Truth, and the Trials of American Democracy, written by Jamie Raskin. I knew the US Congressman had lost his amazing and beloved son Tommy to suicide just before the January 6 Insurrection. While he suffered from depression, no one saw it coming. Last night I read about Tommy, only 25 when he took his life. I felt like I was losing my brother all over again… I have decided to include the last page of the book here because it spoke to me so poignantly… I too have had somewhat similar experiences since Forbes’s passing. I wonder if any of you have as well...
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"...While Tommy was with us, he shared his vision of the world with everyone around him, permanently altering the ways in which we see it, making the evil in the world more vivid and the good all the more precious and tantalizingly within reach. 
The weekend before we lost Tommy, I misplaced my glasses and could not find them anywhere. Tommy helped me look for them in the house and in our front yard, but they were nowhere to be found. We gave up the search, but Tommy comforted me, saying, "I know you'll find them, Dad."
We lost Tommy on Wednesday, December 31.
When I woke up on Sunday, January 3, I was more miserable than I have ever been, just engulfed in grief, tragedy, and darkness. I went outside to our front porch in the early morning cold to see if there was food in our bird feeder. There was not. I was about to go fill it up when, out of nowhere, a huge flock of birds landed in our front yard— but all different kinds of birds: robins and orioles and blue jays and the most beautiful cardinals I had ever seen. They came and swooped en masse into our yard.
It was just spectacular and breathtaking. I called for Sarah (Jamie's wife), and she ran out to the porch.
I've never seen anything like it before, and neither had she.
And despite being a man of science and reason, one not easily given to mystical thinking, I was suddenly seized with the thought, flooded with the feeling, and immersed in the overwhelming physical sensation that Everything is going to be all right. Tommy is going to take care of us.
I moved off the porch and into the yard toward the birds, just to get closer to them, just to say hi for a moment, and as suddenly as they arrived, they took flight as if they were one, flapping away into the unknown sky.
For a split second, I was bereft again, but then I looked down at my feet, and there I found my glasses."

THE LEGACY OF FORBES LELAND

December 27, 2021
Loon Calls
THE LEGACY OF FORBES LELAND                                                                                                           By Hope Jordan and Francie von Mertens                                                                                        From the New Hampshire Afield Magazine, Winter 2021-22 
SIDEBAR                                                                                                                                                         By the time he reached his 40s, Forbes had purchased 60 additional acres northwest of Willard pond for preservation… As part of this compelling story, Forbes reported a dream in which his father directed him to “Complete the Sanctuary!”  This he did…
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In the summer of 1975, Forbes Leland took a memorable swim with the loons at Willard Pond in Antrim. Forty-five years later, he made a significant bequest that benefits both New Hampshire Audubon and the dePierrefeu-Willard Pond Wildlife Sanctuary established by his grandmother. In 2009, when NH Audubon recognized him with the President's Award to honor his lifelong dedication–— and work to expand the Sanctuary–- he recalled the loon encounter.
"I couldn't resist the temptation to join the party so I dove in and swam towards them. I swam under water for as long as my lungs would endure, surfaced, and to the surprise of loons and a human, I was in their midst!"  Instead of being startled away, the loons remained close to him in the water, watching him as he had so often watched them from the shores of Willard Pond.
Upon her death In 1967, his grandmother Elsa Tudor dePierrefeu donated 650 acres that included the westerly shore of Willard Pond as an Audubon wildlife sanctuary. A peace activist, she "preserved this land for peace among all beings," as visitors can read on the boulder inscribed near the Sanctuary parking area. That initial gift grew a decade later when Elsa’s son and Forbes' father, S. Tudor Leland, donated land on the pond’s south shore, complete with rustic cabin.
By the time he reached his 40s, Forbes had purchased 60 additional acres northwest of Willard pond for preservation, and encouraged family members to join him in donating additional land inherited from Elsa dePierrefeu. His devotion was such that he insisted that the cabin he lived in during the era of the loon swim–- a time often called his “hippie days”–- be torn down as inappropriate for a wildlife sanctuary.
The Harris Center, down the road in Hancock, also has assisted further significant expansion of the Sanctuary, as have neighboring landowners. In 2005, NH Audubon secured a USDA Forest Legacy grant to purchase 365 additional acres on the south slope of Bald Mountain, overlooking Willard Pond.
 More recently, Forbes’ President’s award came after permanent protection of the entire Willard Pond shoreline was achieved, in large part through Forbes’ vision and significant help with fundraising. As part of this compelling story, Forbes reported a dream in which his father directed him to "Complete the Sanctuary!” This he did, and all the more impressively given his move long ago to Maryland. He checked in regularly with us from afar, and by visits over the years.
In his acceptance of the award, Forbes typically gave credit to others and invited everyone to join him in supporting NH Audubon's mission to protect the state’s natural environment. He concluded: “For me instead of ‘award’ I prefer ‘reward,’ that is, to know there are many ardent advocates like all of you here today who can be counted on to do the right thing, not only for the dePierrefeu-Willard Pond Wildlife Sanctuary but New Hampshire’s natural legacy.”
 When he passed away on November 4, 2020, he left a generous bequest to NH Audubon–- more than half of it dedicated to the Sanctuary. There's a small boulder near the site of his former cabin that is inscribed to honor his singular dedication to Willard. It's not easy to find–- respecting Forbes’ desire for minimal human impact and his general aversion to the spotlight. As a location hint, there's a flat, mossy rock nearby that offers a place to sit near the shore and watch the loons as Forbes did, surrounded by what has become NH Audubon's largest sanctuary, at nearly 1800 acres.
Family as well as friends from his cabin days gathered at this site last September 17, on what would have been Forbes's 80th birthday. Loons were heard…

Got a date with an angel...

November 6, 2021
The day after I heard about my brother's passing, I got into the car to drive to my sister's in Westport, MA. The cd in the player started where it had left off: "Got a Date with an Angel” sung by swing jazz clarinetist Billy Novick with guitarist Guy Van Duser. Again, I was blown away by yet another stunning 'coincidence...'
Got a date with an angel
Gotta meet her at seven
Got a date with an angel
And I'm on my way to Heaven

She's so lovely beside me
And whatever betide me
Got an angel to guide me
So I'm on my way to Heaven

Soon I'll hear the bells ring out
And the choir will sing out
When the pearly gates swing out
She'll beckon to me

I've been waiting a lifetime
For this evening at seven
I got a date with an angel
And I'm on my way to Heaven...
Al Bowlly - Got A Date With An Angel 1931                                                        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8IMyKat4JM

Down by the riverside...

November 6, 2021
When I first heard of my brother’s passing on the evening of 6 November, I went into a wild fury… I turned the radio up full blast (I just happened to be listening to the jazz of “Eric in the Evening” --which ironically my brother might have been listening to when he lived on Pearl St in Cambridge in the 60’s-70’s...). I was pulled up short when Christian McBride, the renown bassist, started playing “Down by the Riverside”… While it often mirrored my wild racing discordant emotions, I suddenly felt my brother was speaking to me… that he had no choice but to lay down the unbearable burden he was carrying, down by the riverside… and... to please, please forgive him for leaving us all…
Christian McBride Big Band - Down by the Riverside 

New Hampshire Rivers near Hancock

November 6, 2021
The  Patapsco River must have reminded Forbes of the rivers near the Sanctuary, Hancock NH (technically, it's in Antrim). This is a photo of the Souhegan River (an Algonquin name meaning "waiting and watching place") running through Milford and Wilton. The Contoocook River (a Pennacook name: "place of the river near pines") with four covered bridges runs through Hancock and Peterborough. 

5 November 2020

November 5, 2021
After breakfast at the Wayside Inn, Forbes had lunch at a local sandwich shop in Ellicott City— ordering a lobster roll (Marilyn’s favorite food— they were always scouting restaurants for the best. It was not Forbes’s favorite, perhaps after getting his fill working on a lobster boat in the 60’s…). He had dinner at the same restaurant as the night before where I assume he had his usual: wood grilled salmon chased with Tito vodka. (He usually mixed this with a fizzy fruit juice.) That eve, in the growing darkness, Forbes drove to the Patapsco River, a site he had checked out the afternoon of the 4th-- and, I suspect, had enjoyed numerous times before with Marilyn. It was there he embarked upon his journey into the Mystic to reunite with his beloved…  leaving us on Earth with his eternal love...

Wayside Inn, Ellicott City

November 4, 2021
Forbes and Marilyn must have spent many glorious days together here, enjoying the peace and tranquility of each and every moment in Nature...

Wayside Inn, Ellicott City

November 4, 2021
I am sure recognition of this venerable tree was important to him...

Wayside Inn, Ellicott City

November 4, 2021
For me it helps to know where and how Forbes spent his last hours on this beautiful imperiled Earth...  After spending the night of the 4th here , I believe he had breakfast in the Wayside Inn dining room.         
[Unfortunately, this "Stories" site won't allow me to show groups of photos so I will just put some of them up one by one...] 

4 November 2020

November 4, 2021
On the afternoon of 4 November, 2020, Forbes decided to “get out of dodge” as he told several of us. He went to the Wayside Inn in Ellicott City where he and Marilyn shared many happy memories... With him he brought "The God of Small Things" by Arundhati Roy, which had been recommended by Marilyn to her book club.          
[See more photos of the Inn under Stories.]

Thank you for keeping your dear Forbes’ memory alive!

September 25, 2021
I only knew Forbes briefly at the end of his life, starting with a class I took of his at AACC. He was an extraordinary man, so full of passion about life. We all found him to have a magical presence. I am so happy to read these tributes to him and the wonderful photographs showing his life’s  journey.  

My best wishes, Lind

GATHERING AT THE SANCTUARY ON SEPTEMBER 17TH 2021

September 25, 2021
Last Friday, September 17th, we had a small, intimate gathering at a site dedicated to Forbes. It was to be his 80th birthday and seemed an appropriate time to celebrate his life… 
Six of us met at the Willard Pond Sanctuary where Forbes lived in the 70’s. (My sister, her son and three who were close to Forbes at that time and beyond.) It was a soft, gentle cloudfilled day. We walked in silence to the site. Each found a granite outcropping to sit on or lean against, facing the pond or the newly created dedication (see below). 
After several minutes of silence, an ethereal sound arose… wafting through the forest… the soothing sound of a most soulful violin, playing two pieces inspired by loons and woodthrush, and the natural beauty of this area… We were entranced…  Only moments after the violin left us again in deep silence, we received an unexpected blessing… the haunting call of a lone loon… 
More reflective silences interspersed with readings, stories (including one about a loon diving about Forbes as he skinny dipped…:), a toast with Tito vodka (his favorite), and ending with my sister playing a rollicking Happy Birthday on the harmonica… During this time, we heard several more loon calls and even saw the loon swimming toward us, quite near (they usually are at the far end of the 100 acre “pond"…)
From the Sanctuary, we joined up with three others (also close friends from the 70’s) at the Hancock Inn— where Forbes specifically suggested we have a drink— or "maybe a couple"-- to celebrate his life. We sat together outside in a lovely courtyard. Friends brought flowers (including marigolds made into garlands…:) and fingerfood to share. We were hearing stories of when and how folks met Forbes when a chocolate birthday cake arrived with eight candles surrounding a golf ball perched atop a tee…
We had booked the Inn courtyard from 100-300 so when the clock struck three we were ushered out, all too soon… The deep conversations, however, will continue… as will the Great Spirit of Forbes... Here's to ye, forever...

17th SITE

September 25, 2021
In May of this year I went to the Sanctuary in hopes of finding an appropriate site— for ‘something'… something that felt right. 
I stood where the old cabin used to perch atop a gentle hill overlooking the pond.  Directly below that spot I found a sweet cluster of granite outcroppings, one that could even serve as a mossy bench… And there before me was the perfect flat-sided stone… I could envision an inscription dedicated to Forbes… where one could sit and meditate in serene seclusion...

17th DEDICATION

September 25, 2021
With the help of Francie von Mertens and Meade Cadot (Harris Center), I was able to connect with the engraver, John Kaufhold, who inscribed our grandmother’s dedication at the entrance of the Sanctuary (see photo in Gallery). He was able to finish it on 15 September, just two days before our gathering. Turns out he knew my brother in the 70’s— picking apples at Upland Farm! [He remembered him being one of the older “cool guys”!] So, a wonderful full circle…

17th INSCRIPTION

September 25, 2021
For the inscription, we decided on an Einstein quote Forbes had put on a bench that he had dedicated to Marilyn (Quiet Waters Park— see photo gallery). Clearly it was not only a quote he liked, but it was totally appropriate for Willard Pond and a way to connect Forbes with his beloved partner. There was a nice little corner at the top of the stone for his name, years, and underneath: Sustainer of this Sanctuary. Not only has he sustained this beautiful wilderness through tireless effort and as benefactor, his life was deeply dedicated to sustaining this planet-- indeed, our own beautiful-- and imperiled-- Sanctuary…
"Look deep into Nature. Then you will understand everything better." -- A. Einstein

17th MUSIC

September 25, 2021
I really wanted to a musician to play at this commemoration, with visions of flutetrills rippling across the pond… [Forbes, as many of you know, played the flute.] I asked my friend Sy Montgomery who lives in Hancock if she knew any flutists in the area— and indeed she did! In all hopefulness, I tried to contact her, without success. So, on the Monday before the 17th, I reached out to Sy again. “Well, I don’t know another flutist, but I walk my dog every Monday with a violinist! Would that work?”  (Sy, I am so so grateful for this special connection…)
Turns out that Steve Schuch is not only a renown musician, but he writes his own music, often inspired by Nature, including Willard Pond… I mean, clearly he was the one I was looking for! And such a joy to talk with— so much in common (eg he has written a Symphony of Whales!). Even at this last moment, he was free on the 17th-- as long as he could be finished by noon (as he works with refugees in Brattleboro…). That was the time we had planned to start, but an easy change for everyone, including the Inn. 
Steve then had to figure out all the logistics: where to play so he would be out of sight yet we would still be able to hear clearly… and when to start, considering the unknown of folks arrival time… And then, of course, what to play! “Cancion de las Aves (Song of the Birds), inspired by loons and hermit thrushes was a given. And to open, he chose a Shepherd’s Grace, written soon after he moved to Hancock. I had heard neither, but trusted his judgment. They couldn’t have been more perfect. (I will try to get an mp3 so that you can hear it too.) And to have had the loon responding at the finale… transcendent...
This is an example of Steve's playing (from his website):                https://www.nightheron.com/media/MP3s/scottish.mp3

http://www.NightHeron.com                                                                                                     Steve Schuch is a nationally recognized recording artist, author and composer.  Honors include a Grammy nomination, PBS soundtracks, and the Parents’ Choice Gold Award for his Trees of Life recording.  Steve’s musical story, A Symphony of Whales, received five national book awards and was featured on NPR’s “Performance Today.”  Beyond his solo work, he has performed and recorded with Windham Hill guitarist and producer Will Ackerman, folk legends Pete Seeger and Johnny Cunningham, and his own Celtic ensemble, The Night Heron Consort. Steve’s latest project, America the Dream, combines lines from “America the Beautiful” with Dr. Martin Luther King’s dream for all Americans. https://americathedream.org/videos

MARILYN NOTES

July 17, 2021
Forbes did not leave a “note”. However, he left dozens of Zen notes around his apartment (from calendars I would give him every year). Most seemed to be memos to himself. On top of the microwave in the kitchen was a stack of personal notes expressing his deep and ongoing pain of losing Marilyn. They shed light on his insoluble and unbearable grief. 

THE PATAPSCO RIVER

July 11, 2021
The Patapsco River is a 39-mile-long river in central Maryland which flows into the Chesapeake Bay. The name "Patapsco" is derived from the Algonquian pota-psk-ut, which translates to "backwater" or "tide covered with froth.” Captain John Smith was the first European to explore the river noting it on his 1612 map as the Bolus River. The "Red river" was named after the clay color. The mouth of the Patapsco River forms Baltimore harbor, the site of the Battle of Baltimore during the War of 1812. This is where Francis Scott Key, while aboard a British ship, wrote "The Star-Spangled Banner," a poem later set to music as the national anthem of the United States.  Patapsco Valley State Park extends along 32 miles (51 km) of the Patapsco and its branches, encompassing a total of 14,000 acres (5,700 ha) in five different areas. The river cuts a gorge 100–200 feet (35–70 m) deep within the park, which features rocky cliffs and tributary waterfalls. --Wiki
Forbes went to a serene and beautiful part of the river (within the park) at the junction of River Road and Frederick Rd. There is a bike shop there (Cycle Mill) where you can rent kayaks. No trails, just wildness… and peace...

Kilty I

July 3, 2021
When we lived in Westbury, NY, our father had an adored lab called Kilty. One day Kilty crossed the road. Forbes, about the age in this photo (5 yrs?), called him back. Kilty was run over. I cannot imagine the trauma Forbes experienced... He always loved dogs. (See his story about Arnold, the wonder dog.) According to our mother, our father never really forgave him. The beginning of a needlessly fraught (and one might call "tragic") relationship… 

PHILIP GUSTON AND KLAN PAINTINGS

June 19, 2021

Forbes sent out the following essay to his email group on 10/29/20 (a week before he died…). There were several long-hand and typed re-iterations in his file. Clearly he put a lot of time and thought into this issue. He asked me to find the cartoon in question (claiming he was computer-challenged :) and told me that he was hoping this would start a stimulating discussion on line. I present this today because it is the new national holiday of Juneteenth. Forbes lived his life as an anti-racist and was always delving deep… inspiring others to do the same…  

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Philip Guston & klan paintings

This fall, the long planned traveling retrospective exhibition, “Philip Guston Now” which included the work “Riding Around” and 23 other klan paintings, was postponed.  The National Gallery of Art, Tate Museum, Museum of Fine Art, Boston and Museum of Fine Art, Houston announced the postponement in a press release.  “The racial justice movement that started in the US and radiated to countries around the world, in addition to challenges of the global health crisis have led us to pause.”  That “pause” is thought to extend to 2022 or 2024.

Is this position of the museums legitimate or a cop out?  A scathing response to this decision was in an open letter organized by a collective of American artists, Black &  White, young & old and diverse ethnicity that included Nicole Eisenman, Charles Gaines, Ellen Gallagher, Lorna Simpson and many others.  They decried the museums' “lack of courage to display Guston's work, attempt to interpret it or come to terms with the institutions' own history of prejudice.”  Additionally, the signatories demanded that the museums address the “long standing failure to have educated, integrated or prepared themselves to meet the challenge of renewed pressure for racial justice that has developed over the last 5 years.”  [wiki]

The institutional issues of racism and racial justice raised by the American artist collective's open letter prompts another contentious subject.  Superficially, we notice the cartoony klan image in “Riding Around.”  Drilling down the “Riding Around” klan with hoods image is symbolically freighted with the historical reality of violence, hangings and intimidation of Black Americans. Is the klan image like the swastika and the “noose” which are fraught with historical symbolism and the meaning, necessarily contingent on who is speaking, who is listening and the context in which the thing is said?

Is it that we understand that certain images and symbols may be objectionable but we also value freedom of expression and allow license?  Philip Kennicott, Wash. Post art critic, asks the question: “Are there certain words, images and symbols in any context, so offensive in all situations, no matter who displays them, no matter the intended meaning or audience?”  Or is the mantra of freedom of expression, which is a part of our cultural DNA, that gives license for provocative, controversial sometimes obscene and racist artistic expression?

Returning to our focus which is the postponement of the Guston exhibition and the role of  museums— which arguably is a bifurcated mission.  On the one hand, the mission of a museum is to preserve and display artworks that meet the highest standards of artistic quality.  On the other hand, museums are the catalyst between art maker and viewer, to stretch the viewer's consciousness.      

Attribution: In part, Wikipedia & “A portrait of NGA's flawed reasoning” article by Sebastian Smee in the Washington Post. 

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I include these excerpts from Wiki:

Philip Guston (born Phillip Goldstein (June 27, 1913 – June 7, 1980), was a Canadian American painter, printmaker, muralist and draftsman. Early in his five decade career, muralist David Siquieros described him as one of "the most promising painters in either the US or Mexico,"[1] in reference to his antifascist fresco The Struggle Against Terror, which "includes the hooded figures that became a lifelong symbol of bigotry for the artist."[2] 

The child of Jewish parents who escaped persecution by immigrating to Canada from Odessa, Guston was born in Montreal in 1913, and moved to Los Angeles in 1919.[2] The family were aware of the regular Ku Klux Klan activities against Jews and blacks and which took place across California.[12] In 1923, possibly owing to persecution or the difficulty in securing income, his father hanged himself in the shed, and the young boy found the body.

"Guston worked in a number of artistic modes, from Renaissance-inspired figuration to formally accomplished abstraction,"[3] and is now regarded as one of the "most important, powerful, and influential American painters of the last 100 years."[4] He also frequently depicted racism, antisemitism, fascism and American identity, as well as, especially in his later most cartoonish and mocking work, the banality of evil.

…several paintings of hooded Klansmen which Guston explained this way: “They are self-portraits … I perceive myself as being behind the hood … The idea of evil fascinated me … I almost tried to imagine that I was living with the Klan.”


THE GIFT OF A LIFETIME

May 16, 2021
This is an article that my brother wrote for the NH Audubon Magazine (May-June 1999 issue) as a memorial to our father who had died from a heart attack the previous year. He built the cabin that Forbes lived in during the 70's and referred to below. It had no electricity, running water or plumbing. We all loved staying there, basking in the wild simplicity and peace of this special place...   Note: ASNH = Audubon Society of New Hampshire                                                *******************************************************************
The Gift of a Lifetime: A Remembrance of S. Tudor Leland                 By Forbes Leland 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              "Trust thyself, every heart vibrates to that iron string.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Trust thyself" were not the words that came to mind as I was slogging in knee-deep drifts, the wind-whipped snow stinging my face, the below-zero February night having long since stolen the last bit of warmth from my toes.
The date, forever etched in my brain, was February, 1953, and I was 12 years old. My father and I had gotten off to a late start for the “Sanctuary," as it was known before it became the NH Audubon dePierrefeu Willard Pond Wildlife Sanctuary. Snow had been falling since early morning and was mounting up as we started our two-hour drive to Antrim. Two hours had lengthened into four by the time we turned into the Sanctuary road, which, in those days, was not plowed. "It shouldn't be a problem," my father shrugged, as our old Chevy truck plowed its way through the two-foot drifts. We almost made it, but not quite. A mile from the small, three room cabin overlooking Willard Pond, the old Chevy engine heaved a sigh of relief as it quit its overheated toil through the snow drifts.
"Let's get the stuff out of the back and we'll hoof it the rest of the way." And hoof it we did! How my father knew where he was going in that white-out of swirling snow was beyond me and still is. From my perspective of urban/suburban life outside Boston, "roughing it" was something you read about, not necessarily experience personally. My father, on the other hand, grew up in this environment. As a young boy, he hiked, and, later, hunted in the hills of the Monadnock region, learning the lessons about the outdoors that only experience can teach.
The dark outline of the cabin took shape as we approached; today for me, not a moment too soon. Exhausted, I stumbled into the cabin that seemed, if possible, even colder than outside. "Come on, get the lead out!" my father said. "Can't dilly-dally. We have a lot to do." First, we started roaring fires in the field stone fireplace and the old black top cookstove to take the chill off the cabin. I marveled at the ease with which my father started both fires, a skill I am still trying to master to this day. I watched him move quickly, but not hurriedly, about the cabin, putting things in order: lighting the kerosene lamps, breaking out the Hudson Bay blankets, and starting to prepare what was to be a delicious dinner. He seemed unperturbed that 1) our truck was stuck a mile down the road, 2) the blizzard gave no evidence that it would soon let up, and 3) the nearest phone was over a mile away.
 Over the years, I came to realize that it was not indifference to our predicament, but a confidence; a confidence born of experience and an intuitive sense that things can and do work out. It was this quality to resonate to his own "iron string" that lead my father, in 1933, to not only try flying an airplane but also to solo at 16 and qualify as an instructor at 19. At a time when flying was little more than a hobby for daredevils, he recognized the potential of commercial aviation. He ultimately became chief pilot for TWA, retiring, 36 years later, with 30, 000 hours flying time.
New challenges were in store for my father. He traded in his airline captain's hat for that of a deep-sea fishing charter captain. He designed and built his 38 foot sport fishing boat, Flying Sorceress, started and owned a boat yard, and had a successful charter business, culminating in the honor as the "high liner" (most tuna caught in a year) out of Gloucester. However, by the early 1970s, he had become concerned with the decreasing population of bluefin tuna. The impact of commercial and sport fishing on North Atlantic stock alarmed my father to the extent that he was one of the first to tag and release all tuna caught. For years, he was one of the few voices demanding and getting restrictions on the annual harvest of bluefin tuna.
His concern for the environment and the conservation of marine life led him to promote the protection of whales: in particular, the humpback whales that congregate off the New England coast during the summer months. He was one of the first to begin identifying humpbacks by their flukes and developed a photographic album of individual whales. He worked in association with conservationists, including Steve Catona, now president of the College of the Atlantic; Dr. Roger Payne, who has been instrumental in stopping the slaughter of whales worldwide; and with the Woods Hole Oceanographic Institute. Also, he was among the first deep-sea charter captains to recognize the importance of marine conservation education by taking people on whale watch trips.
During those years as an airline pilot and charter captain, he would "get away" to the Sanctuary, a place to which he was deeply connected all his life. In 1979, my father donated his cabin and land on Willard pond to a ASNH. By donating his land, he hoped that, in time, all the family land around Willard pond would be donated to ASNH. Since 1979, the gifts of land donations and easements by family and friends of the dePierrefeu-Willard Pond Sanctuary has expanded the original 650 acres, originally donated to ASNH by his mother, Elsa to Tudor dePierrefeu, to over 2000 acres of protected, pristine land, forever wild and scenic. In 1997, my father dedicated a memorial to his mother for her foresight in preserving a unique wildlife habitat. The memorial is chiseled into a granite boulder near the Sanctuary barn and reads:
“They shall not hurt nor destroy in all my holy mountain: for the Earth shall be full of the knowledge of the Lord, as the waters cover the sea.” — Isaiah, Chapter 11
I visit the sanctuary when I can and, as I walk by the now empty cabin, I remember back to that February night years ago, when my father and I sat in front of the warm fireplace and began our conversation, a conversation that still continues. By the way, we did get out two days later. The snow shimmered and sparkled in the morning sun. An occasional puff of wind started miniature cascades of snow from the trees. It was all but unnoticed as my father and I toiled five grueling hours shoveling snow to clear the road for the old Chevy truck.
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A 1959 GOLF MEMORY FROM OUR MOTHER

March 21, 2021
A letter to Forbes from our mother (age 88) who was an accomplished golfer. Forbes always had a love/hate relationship with the game which he was determined to master in Annapolis (with mixed results, I gather :)  His usual refrain: how to spoil a good walk…

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May 26, 2003 

Do you remember when we played in an official “Mother-Son Golf Tournament“ at the Dedham Country Club? It's listed in the enclosed article from The Boston Globe in 1959. 

You stepped up to the first tee and hit a drive that looked as though it would land in the middle of the fairway. But at the last moment the ball went sharply left ending up in some trees and bushes– unplayable. 

So you hit another drive which went about 60 yards– a 10 foot high slice!- headed for the swimming pool. When I looked over to see where it landed, I saw an attractive gal sunning herself on her back– oblivious to the golf ball you hit that had dribbled between her legs! I decided it was unplayable. 

The rest of the 17 holes were uneventful and we didn't do too badly getting 108. I remember being relieved when we walked up the hill to the 18th green. 

What do you remember!? I figure you may recollect more than I do— it was September 10 so I guess you were almost 18!

How Forbes met Arnold, the Wonder Dog

March 14, 2021
I found this introductory saga of Arnold, the wonder dog in Forbes’s files. (See photo of Arnold under Gallery with story attached.) I believe Forbes always wanted to write a book to honor his special relationship with Arnold… I have attached a photo of Forbes’s rescue dog “Rin Tin Tin” (who now lives with me :). I am always reminded of Arnold with her wistful “hang dog” look. (For more information on Rinty, see Stories: Forbes’s humor.)


Arnold The Wonder Dog 
First Meeting 

In the fading light of an overcast afternoon and the snow fitfully falling, I was cutting oak logs in a gully near a dirt road. The work warded off the chill of late fall. Slowly, I became aware of something warm pressing against my leg. A white and brown dog with distinctive blue coloring on its haunches was standing next to me. Well, not standing exactly, more like wriggling. I was reminded of the saying "tail wagging the dog.” As I reached down to pat the dog, she leaped into my arms licking my face.

After a wet face wash, I put her down. She looked expectantly as if she wanted me to stop working, to sit with her awhile. I sat down on a log and brushed the snow so she could sit on dry leaves. Her intelligent eyes seemed to suggest "take a break” which worked for me. We sat quietly for awhile. 

As if sensing that I needed to keep cutting and the danger of the chainsaw, she beat a hasty retreat back up the path into the shadows of the setting sun and the quickening snowfall, turning occasionally to glance back.

Later, just as dusk began to settle into early evening, I dragged the first of the cut oak logs to my truck. Reaching the road I noticed a snow covered mound in the middle of it. The mound moved. Then with a burst of snow this dog bounded into my waiting arms. Shivering, tail wagging she licked my face welcoming me with open paws.

Who is this extraordinary dog and where did she come from?

MEMORIES OF FORBES AND WILLARD POND DAYS

January 15, 2021
Carrying forward his grandmother’s (Elsa Tudor) and father’s vision of protecting the Sanctuary at Willard Pond was Forbes’s most personal legacy. I was fortunate to share  a very magical and special time with him at the Sanctuary. Here are some memories from our hippy days at Willard Pond. 

I met Forbes in 1970, when a very tall, very handsome man showed up on my doorstep in response to an inquiry I had made about renting his cabin.  I had fallen in love with Willard Pond that spring and reconnected with a deep part of my soul there and felt more at home at the Sanctuary than any place I had ever been.  Forbes offered that I could live at the cabin if I didn’t mind him showing up on weekends. Shortly thereafter, Forbes brought up a friend, Roz, from Boston who also ended up living at the cabin for a while and becoming a life long friend of mine. And so began a most wonderful chapter of my life.

Before long, Forbes and I became romantically involved.  He would go off in his green and white VW bus, selling  Amway products during the week, and return on the weekends, bearing a case of Boones Farms Apple Wine and food and occasionally other folks.  Soon, he was living at the cabin most of the time.  

Forbes loved sharing the magical energy and beauty of the sanctuary with others.  He often invited folks up to the cabin to visit, eat and make music.  In the open society of the hippy days, people showed up and joined in whatever activities were happening. Often there would be folks sleeping on the cabin floor— weekend visitors or people passing through. 

Though the wine flowed freely and there may have been some pot smoking going on, the hippy life at the sanctuary was more of the back-to-the-land variety rather than a heavy drug scene. 

Other back-to-the-land folks  who heard about “the hippies at Willard Pond”  would come and check out the scene. At times all three cabins had residents, and it was a bit of a community.   Likewise we would venture out to Vermont or other towns in the hills to see what other back-to-the-land folks were up to. 

We once went in search of a tin tub that would fit Forbes’s length and ended up with a beautiful 6 foot tin tub, with wood paneling on the side.  Forbes mounted it up off the floor in a niche, next to the stone fireplace, put a plywood lid and mattress on top, making a cozy sleeping spot with a woodsy view.

I remember one trip to Vermont in the VW bus.  We got stuck in some road construction with a local traffic cop on the other side of the flat windshield, watching us suspiciously as we giggled and laughed uncontrollably  for what seemed like the longest time (OK— we were probably stoned).

There was such a carefree feeling living at the Sanctuary that year.  I remember roaming the woods as I did as a child, marveling at the red of the cardinal flowers along the stream feeding the Mill Pond, the Blue Gentian blooming by the lake below Bald Mountain, the beautiful and deadly Amanita Muscaria mushrooms.  There was one afternoon when a very large and ornery snapping turtle was blocking  the driveway near the garden.  (Forbes was not a fan of the snapping turtles, who would pluck off  little ducklings as they swam  in a line behind their mothers.)  Finally it ambled out of the way, so we could leave.  

One fall day, Forbes and I took a really long walk through the woods, galloping along old farm roads as I had when I was young, pretending we were riding horses.  He cherished that memory and the childlike joy we felt, and would often remind me of that day. 

Many summer nights,  the  notorious Lowell boys from up the road would come down with their guitars and Arnold Dog tagging along, and soon music would drift out the open windows of the cabin. One friend, Danny Thiebault wrote me  “I met Joanie (his wife) at Forbes’s cabin. There had been an evening of music and get together”.  I have never had such fun making music and harmonies and remember Forbes either playing his flute or big drum, with Roz and I singing harmonies to  Bob and Gary’s  excellent guitar playing and vocals.

Forbes was also known for quietly helping out folks in need.  Several women hitchhikers were sheltered at the sanctuary while getting their bearings  following big life changes. One friend was leaving her abusive husband and hitchhiking in a snowstorm, when Forbes gave her a ride and offered her refuge at the cabin while she figured out a plan. She told me of his kindness years later, when we realized we both knew Forbes.

Forbes loved helping people get their gardens going, offering to rototill and often bringing manure to them.

Marcy Brown confirmed a story I remembered about the truck Forbes was driving with a heavy load of manure breaking the bridge going to Marcy’s island house:

“He brought a dump truck full of wet cow manure for my garden in Stoddard and he had to cross a bridge that Thurston Williams had built years before to get to it.. Thurston let us live there rent free in exchange for fixing up the old farmhouse there as was our style in those days. Thurston had bought that property and renovated the land for access with only one house left standing from the early 1900s when it was a “excelsior”mill village..(many house foundations there and the old mill stones left but no other buildings).

I was there watching him cross that bridge with the manure and heard it crack and he gunned the truck!!!!!...and luckily barely drove that thing over that last lip... !!!!!! We almost lost him then!

Such a story for the record of Forbes’ extraordinary life…”     Roz remembers being in the truck for that memorable ride. 

Early that first summer, Forbes and I put in the first vegetable garden either of us  had ever planted.  It was in the flat field below the cabin, right on the lake where the canoes are kept now.  Corn, broccoli, carrots, beans…We made the pathways in the shape of a peace sign. I loved that garden!!  

I have never felt as connected to the earth and natural rhythms as when I lived at the Sanctuary.  My feet knew the way between the stones on that winding soft pine needle path to the dipping stone at the water’s edge where we scooped  pails full of sparkling clear, sweet water to carry back up to the cabin.   We washed in the lake in the mornings by the little bridge-even in late fall.   I remember cleaning and filling the kerosene lamps every day;  chopping wood for the kitchen stove;  baking my first pie in that stove from Willard Pond wild blueberries; picking vegetables from the garden for dinner. Skinny-dipping  and sunning on the flat rock in the afternoon were daily activities in the summer.  Going out in the canoe later in the day, we’d watch the beavers at the far end of the lake and look for the loons, or pick blueberries.  We hiked the trails through woods that breathed with presence, and climbed Bald Mountain for the reward of the view from the top and Goodhue Hill for the raspberries. The trail around the lake led to the peaceful pine cathedral at Sandy Point.

Forbes loved to tell a story about one day when Roz and I had gone up Goodhue to pick raspberries.  Arnold Dog stopped for a visit at the cabin, and Forbes told her to go find us up on Goodhue, and sure enough, she did!

  We loved listening to the loons call across the water and the Barred Owl’s unique hooting at night —  “Who cooks for you. Who cooks for you all”.  Jerry Cutlip, the NH Audubon warden who lived at Forbes’ Grandmother’s   house with his young family,  would sometimes answer the Barred Owl and on occasion, I think between Forbes and Jerry, there was no Barred Owl calling at all, but the two fellows hooting back and forth to each other. Forbes would tease Jerry the next day about that lonely  Barred Owl looking for a mate.

Feeling the seasons move through the woods, we did  the seasonal chores that a simple lifestyle requires. In the summer, we would have to buy blocks of ice for the bright yellow ice box which resided in a corner of the bedroom and the tin kerosene container always needed refilling for the lamps at night.

A trip to town for supplies typically took 2 or 3 times longer than usual, as Forbes loved to shoot the bull with various folks in town.  He particularly enjoyed some of the local color. I remember “Dirty Dave”  who had a car repair shop and junk yard on the outskirts of Peterborough.  We were never quite sure what he was saying sometimes, his NH accent was so strong.   We finally decided that “Pecan” was actually “B’ God”.  He also favored the word “commenced”.   “Waltah”  and  “Highway Higgie” who worked on the road crew in Hancock were other local folks that Forbes loved to schmooze with.  He  just loved to tell a long tale and make folks laugh.

Fall meant cutting wood for the winter, and we got a workout sawing longer logs in the sawbuck to stove length in the yard of the cabin and splitting them on the big log with the maul, then stacking the wood.

I remember Forbes always getting up early and starting a fire in the stove, before I ventured out of the warm bed.  In the late fall and winter, we had to break the ice on the water buckets in the morning.

Finally winter chased us out of the woods and the uninsulated cabin and back to Forbes’ Pearl Street apartment in Cambridge, where I found a life long friend in Mary (Giovinazzo Cartwright) Meyers, who was living there with her then husband, Dennis. That apartment  was a hoot, with a refrigerator in the dining room, which served as Forbes filing cabinet (as the dining table was his office).  We swore there was a hole into another dimension in that room as things frequently vanished there. Musical evenings happened in Cambridge too. Forbes would go out for an errand and often end up at the Plow and Star pub on Mass Ave, Mary recalls, and he sometimes brought musicians home with him.

I was happy to enjoy a second idyllic summer living with Forbes at Willard Pond, before we went our separate ways.  Forbes became friends with my brother David and they worked together for years, first as “Frick and Frack” at the Dillon Farm, learning carpentry from Al Dillon, and later they formed VAL Associates with Geoff Aldrich, building spec houses and  doing renovations. 

We always stayed good friends through the years and I have always considered  Forbes a central  soul in my “soul family” who connected me to many of the people who are still important in my life.

-Jan Voorhis     1/10/2021



Gentle giant revisited...

December 1, 2020
For the most part, Forbes may have come across as a gentle giant, but you certainly did not want to cross him. There is this story, from his sea days, that my sister reminded me of. Neither of us can remember the general time in his life (late 60’s?). He was working on a deep sea lobster boat, going out for days at a time from Woods Hole MA. It was rigorous and dangerous work, with a motley crew. When the boat came ashore, they would all head for the local bar. One night, a crew member was getting roughed up by some of the locals. If anything, Forbes was loyal. He saw red and immediately came to the aid of his badgered mate. Well that apparently started a general riot in the bar, decimating the place and landing my brother in the hoosegow. Upon release he was told by the police that in no uncertain terms was he ever to step foot in Woods Hole again.
Other similar jobs: Forbes also worked on an offshore Texas oil rig… On ski patrol, he dealt with dynamite to set off avalanches (as well as setting broken bones…). He was always pretty tough, daring and fearless. (Elaborations? Corrections? More stories?)

Jazz aficionado

November 26, 2020
Early on, Forbes was a jazz aficionado. When confined to boarding school (they did not get along), he decided one Sunday in the late 1950’s to escape. (He disliked meaningless rules.) Somehow he got public transport taking about an hour into Boston, and made his way to the Jazz Workshop, a nightclub on Boylston Street. Using his charms and dogged persistence, he wiled his way in, under age (it may even have been through the kind graces of a band member at the stage door…). I can’t recall who he went to see, but certainly the likes of Miles Davis, John Coltrain, Duke Ellington… As Forbes's luck would have it, one of his teachers just happened to be there, spotted him, and regretfully informed him that he would have to report this serious infraction. Whatever punishment he had to endure, I am sure that it was all well worth it. [Years later I remember going with him to the same club to see Stevie Wonder, when he told me this story.]

I heard from his friend Rob Doyle that in the late 60's when living on Pearl St, Cambridge (a 3rd floor walk up with space heaters) that Forbes would frequent Lennie’s-On-The-Turnpike. 

Lennie’s-On-The-Turnpike
“You had to work to get here, but it was always a happy ending.” So said Lennie Sogoloff, owner of his eponymous legendary jazz club, Lennie’s-On-The-Turnpike. While most of the region’s jazz scene focused on Boston venues like the Jazz Workshop, the Stable, and Storyville, Lennie’s North Shore location, on Route 1 in Peabody, was a comparatively remote, genuine destination, and one to which many jazz greats made a pilgrimage.

Originally conceived by Sogoloff in the early 1950s as a small bar (then known as the Turnpike Club) notable for its jukebox well-stocked with jazz records from his day job as a salesman for Columbia Records, Lennie’s began hosting live local jazz musicians in 1959. As the venue’s reputation grew, so did the club itself, expanding its capacity from 56 to around 200. By 1963, nationally-known musicians began adding Lennie’s to their tour itineraries — trumpeter Roy Eldridge, saxophonist Sonny Stitt, and trombonist J.J. Johnson were among the first national acts to play there, and jazz giants such as Buddy Rich, Dizzy Gillespie, Count Basie, Nina Simone, Duke Ellington, Bill Evans, Earl Bostic, Jaki Byard (whose April 15, 1965, performance there yielded two live albums on Prestige – 1965’s Jaki Byard Quartet Live and ‘66’s The Last From Lennie’s), and Gary Burton soon graced Lennie’s small stage. Lennie’s also hosted instrument-focused workshops, starring trios of guitarists, pianists and drummers — including a well-known May ‘67 drum night featuring an, uh, over-tired Elvin Jones.
https://www.mmone.org/lennies-on-the-turnpike/

Some recent examples of Forbes's humor

November 21, 2020
Examples of Forbes’s humor from friends:  
"I was telling him how bored I was with being on this lockdown and he told me that he made a little box; put grass seed in it and was watching it grow and it was keeping him totally entertained.  He said it with such a straight face that I thought he had entirely lost his mind.  I swear I thought he was serious until he burst out laughing - about five minutes later.  He could make me believe anything.  He had the driest sense of humor and could tell you anything with such a straight face."                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
From a friend who remembers this incident while having dinner in a restaurant with Forbes and Marilyn:  After ordering his usual vodka martini, Forbes complained to the waitress: “There isn't enough alcohol in this drink to inebriate a fly.”                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
Email from Forbes on Oct 24th:                                                                                         Sending pics of my rescue dog, Rin Tin Tin. Found scrap metal Rinty in the dumpster. No piddle walks in the rain or snow.  No buying dog food. Perfect pooch. [Does it wag its tail, I ask?]  With difficulty.  Clanks a lot.  He recently said he would like to bring Rinty along on a walk with a friend but only if it wasn't raining because he didn't want his dog to suffer from "rust."  [There is a photo of Rinty in the snow in the photo gallery. (She is now with me :) And she has the most beguiling blue eyes... ]                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      

One of Forbes's stories: Arnold

November 20, 2020
Years ago, Forbes told me this story about his canine buddy Arnold who lived down the road from his cabin at the Sanctuary (Willard Pond, NH). Arnold was a mix of beagle and blue tick hound, independent, social and “with a beautiful soulful face.” She (Forbes usually referred to her as “he”) would regularly hang out at the cabin, especially enjoying musical gatherings (her favorite song was “Blue— you’re a good dog you.”) She was everyone’s friend, but with Forbes especially. In February 2020, Forbes sent this story to his friends Jan & Roz who knew Arnold well in those days (early 70’s). Thank you Jan for these details and sending me the story in Forbes's words…                                                                                      *****************************
The story of Arnold naturally reads like a Shakespearean tragedy.  Why?  She had a tragic flaw that ultimately led to her death.  Arnold couldn't resist the temptation to chase deer.  Occasionally the local Fish & Game warden would come to the cabin asking the whereabouts of Arnold.  I played dumb which was relatively easy for me.  However, one late fall day Arnold arrived on my doorstep with his "hang-dog" look.  I knew he was, at once, in trouble.  This time he was in serious trouble.  I heard a car by the garden,  It was F&G warden's car.  I, immediately, hid Arnold in the woodshed.  The warden asked me if I had seen Arnold.  This time it was serious.  Arnold was accused of killing a deer.  "No" was my answer trying to act nonchalant and hoping Arnold wouldn't blow his cover and get us both in deep shit.  Satisfied the warden left.
Arnold stayed with me for 2 weeks.  I tried to not look suspicious buying dogfood at the Cash Market.  Then one late fall morning Arnold went to the door.  She stood at the door not with the usual excited "tail wagging the dog."  This time Arnold spoke to me with a sadness in her eyes which said "I'm sorry but I have to go."  
A week later I heard from the Lowell's that Arnold had been shot chasing deer.
This the last chapter of the Arnold story.  The real Arnold story is the joy that she brought to our lives.

My dear friend...

November 10, 2020
How I will miss his compassion; his understanding; his generosity and his sense of humor.  No matter who you were, Forbes always made you feel like the most important person in front of him.  He and his long-time companion, Marilyn, shared so many memories with my husband and me that will be held close to my heart forever.  Our mutual love of music was always a constant.  His love of jazz and my disdain of jazz gave him many opportunities to bait me with discussions about "real music."  By the same token, we went to many many classical concerts where I was in my element but he seemed to know as much about the composers, programs, etc. as I did, sometimes more.  How I will miss those discussions on music, life, and just being friends, for that is surely what Forbes was - my friend.  I am so blessed to have known him and will be eternally grateful for his love.  As the eagle soars, Forbes, I know you will, too.  Be at peace. Be with Marilyn.  Know you were treasured.  Until we meet again~

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