Dr. Gary Greenberg was a ferocious advocate for healthcare for all, and especially for the underserved. Gary exemplified all that is good in this world. He cared deeply for each and every one of his patients, students, colleagues and staff. He is already sorely missed and we will remember him forever.
Please share a story about Gary in the Tribute section for family, friends and colleagues to read. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Gary's favorite healthcare access project - Urban Ministries of Wake County https://urbanmin.org/donate/ , or to Democracy NC https://democracync.org/ or to a charity of your choice.
Thank you.
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Leave a tributeNous avons tous les deux fait une carriere medicale .….je pense tres fort a lui .. et prie pour mon ami. Si vous aviez la gentillesse de me dire ....avec toute ma plus profonde amitié.
Nicolas
NicolasLeurent 0660876200
nicolasleurent@gmail.com
Missing you on your birthday, and every day really. It's a big hole that doesn't seem to fill no matter we say or do. It just sits and hurts. Your smile makes it bearable. Today would be #69 for you. Your legacy and your impact will forever outlive your life. And guess what. You have another grandson and Bilal has a little brother named Zayd. Imagine Zaydee and Zayd :)
We all send you all of our love.
Stan
I recall how the City of Toronto lost much of its tourist economy for a few months. I remember the Province of Ontario promoting tourism and basically giving away VIA Rail tickets from Windsor to Toronto, hotel rooms, Blue Jays tickets, restaurant discounts. https://www.journalofinfection.com/article/S0163-4453(04)00185-9/pdf
I also recall that Gary talking about how a very serious pandemic could halt life as we know it. As critical human activity might cease, such as for water, electricity, communications and food shortages. (I don't recall him discussing toilet paper shortages). When he spoke of these possibilities, I agreed, but thought his scenarios were very improbable, that I didn't pay them much heed. He spoke of the need for respirator masks, and how he needed to be fitted for his NIOSH mask given his facial hair. As a front line healthcare worker, he would need that protection. Again, the whole idea of having to wear masks for a virus was outside of my realm of probability. I remember him talking about Dr. Fauci as the guy we needed to listen to.
Gary was always our family's go to medical source of information. He was not an alarmist, in fact, we often thought he was just the opposite, and goddamit, us hypochondriacs need much more attention! What he saw in day to day hospital life dwarfed our familial health concerns, but he remained highly fearful of a pandemic. Now that it's here, I/we really wish we could call him up and get his take and his advice. He was always thoughtful, and he was always right. I know if he was here, he would be on the front lines. He took his oath seriously. How we miss the Garold.
What an incredible guy.
Love.
A massive life force is gone but his legacy lives on.
We love you and miss you every day.
I met Gary when we both started medical school at Northwestern in Chicago in 1974, 44 years ago. The diversity committee at Northwestern must have taken a day off when they accepted 2 Jewish guys from suburban Detroit. Our parents found out that we were both going to the same medical school, and wanted us to meet each other, but we refused to do anything to make our parents happy (grandchildren take note of the previous sentence). We were introduced to each other on our dormitory floor, and realized we were meeting the person we didn’t want to meet, and we became immediate close friends.
After our 2nd year, we decided to room together. We needed furniture and needed a sofa. It was Gary’s idea to buy an old used sofa. We paid 25$ to carry it out of someone’s basement (we should have been paid to carry it out) The sofa was so disgusting we had to fumigate it with cans of Lysol. Gary taught himself how to reupholster a sofa, and told me what to do in his parents Huntington Woods house garage, much to his mother’s dismay. As a renaissance man,Gary was interested in many things, one of which was weaving. He then taught himself how to build a loom and would weave during downtime in medical school.
We spent many hours discussing what kind of doctor we wanted to be. We both chose internal medicine for our careers We both hated the way the surgeons treated us, and felt at home with the banter and egalitarian nature of internists, and the intellectual challenge of trying to understand everyone’s problems. After medical school, we ended up in different cities. We spoke by phone regularly. Gary always kept me abreast of the latest technology, and the latest findings in the world of medicine. We also attended the annual American College of physician annual meetings in various US cities every year. While many colleagues would attend a few clases, Gary and I started at 7 am and finished at 5:30 every day.
Gary was the smartest person I knew. He was quicker to understand concepts than anyone.He usually had to explain to the rest of us that which he has already processed. He was a brilliant physician and a unique individual. How many men do you know who would knit during high school football games to while away the time during the game, to get to halftime to see his son in the marching band, then leave.
Family was most important to Gary. He was a great husband, father, grandfather, brother and uncle. He was a great doctor and humanitarian. But to me, he was a great friend that I will sorely miss.
Dr. Marc Shepard
We will miss him at Health Care for All, but by his leadership and consistent work, he helped grow the organization so that the work will continue.
10 Qualities of a Champion
1. A champion gives his all no matter what the score. It's called EXCELLENCE.
2. A champion sees every challenge as an opportunity. It's called OVERCOMING ADVERSITY.
3. A champion is one who makes all those around him better. It's called LEADERSHIP.
4. A champion dedicates himself to prepare for success. It's called DISCIPLINE.
5. A champion may fail, but he never quits. It's called COMMITMENT.
6. A champion puts the success of others above individual achievement. It's called TEAMWORK.
7. A champion lives by a higher standard and stands firm when others around him fall. It's called CONVICTION.
8. A champion is one who lays down his own desires for the benefit of others. It's called SACRIFICE.
9. A champion gets up one more time than he's been knocked down. It's called PERSEVERENCE.
10. A champion knows his talents and success are God-given, not self-developed or endowed by others. It's called FAITH.
does not deal with us. We have no reason
to show death admiration, love or hate;
his mask of feigned tragic lament gives us
a false impression. The world's stage is still
filled with roles which we play. While we worry
that our performances may not please,
death also performs, although to no applause.
But as you left us, there broke upon this stage
a glimpse of reality, shown through the slight
opening through which you dissapeared: green,
evergreen, bathed in sunlight, actual woods.
We keep on playiing, still anxious, our difficult roles
declaiming, accompanied by matching gestures
as required. But your presence so suddenly
removed from our midst and from our play, at times
overcomes us like a sense of that other
reality: yours, that we are so overwhelmed
and play our actual lives instead of the performance,
forgetting altogehter the applause.
Translated by Albert Ernest Flemming
Rainer Maria Rilke
He loved reading - science fiction, medical journals, research papers, politics, humor, fiction.
He loved learning and he loved knowing – a lot.
And he loved using his knowledge.
He loved being a doctor.
He loved helping people.
He loved being charitable, very charitable.
He loved his friends with whom he stayed close for decades.
He loved his wife Marcia, and together they built an incredible family.
He loved his sons Sam and Andy, and reading to them. Other kids went to Disney World. Gary took his to factory tours and museums.
He loved that they were both enrolled at the NC School of Science and Math. He was so proud of them.
He adored his dogs and took such excellent care of them. He had a dog for years who was blind, and the love and compassion he showed him was endless. I was in awe.
Mostly, Gary loved his work, his public service, his charitable causes, his clinic, his teaching, his patients and his colleagues. He volunteered his time and money to causes that helped people. For him, it was personal. He was all in.
Gary loved tennis, and running, and biking, and running with his dogs. Boy did he love dogs. His and everybody else’s.
He didn’t love team sports for some reason and never got into the rah rah mentality. Life wasn’t a spectator sport for Gary. That’s just who he was.
And despite Gary’s dad’s love of golf, Gary never took it on. Ron would have loved to golf w him, but Gary couldn’t see the practical utility of spending 6 hours riding in a cart when there was so much to learn, teach and do.
But he loved Ron. And from Ron he learned the importance of civic duty, community service, charity, honesty and respect for the rule of law.
And he loved his mom Tenny. He once thought that the social graces she spent her time on were not good uses of her time, but with time he really came to appreciate the family and friend value of her cooking, her entertaining, her socializing, and the richness of friends that follows. He grew to want more of that in his life.
He so loved his sister Jill, and he admired the way she tended to her boys, husband Bob included. He loved her intelligence, devotion and her attentiveness to their needs, and advocacy and her public service.
And he loved his baby sister Julie, with whom he spoke regularly after Marcia passed away, as she became an emotional support for Gary, and they supported each other in the care of Tenny in her later years.
He loved his new daughters, Lauren and Malika, so much, and the beautiful little grandsons they gave him. They were his nuclear family and he so looked forward to building a life around them.
He so loved his North Carolina family friends, the Boyarskys – Bill, BJ and Sam. BJ and Bill were incredibly helpful and supportive and present with Marcia during her illnesses and after she passed, they adopted Gary. The bond with the Boyarskys was like nothing I’ve ever witnessed before. If you ever meet them, you’ll know what I mean.
But it wasn’t complete. It wasn’t enough. Gary wanted a mate, and someone to love, and this past June he married Erica Rothman from NC who offered him love and companionship with which to enjoy his retirement years. But it wasn’t to be, as Gary fell ill on their honeymoon in Scotland. A rare form of cancer ravaged his body, and with it, ravaged our hearts.
When news of his illness spread, the outpouring of love, support, gratitude, accolades, and recognition was overwhelming. There was so much about Gary I didn’t know that only reinforced my view of Gary as a very humble man – one who did what he did because it was the right thing to do. He loved his patients. He loved his fight for healthcare for all. He loved serving the underserved. He was a pillar of several communities and he worked hard to ensure they would continue to thrive after he moved on.
Gary was my hero too. He was so much of what I wanted to be. What I thought was important. I looked up to him in every way. A decent man who I enjoyed being pals with.
Gary was a lover of all things good. Taken too soon, the world is a much better place for having had Gary in it. We will all miss him.
The following are some of the responses I received to yesterday's email letting them know Gary passed away.
Subject: Dr. Gary Greenberg
It is with great sadness that I inform you that Dr. Gary Greenberg of Durham NC passed away last week of cancer/leukemia. He was 65. He was my wife’s brother. He is sorely missed.
Many of you will remember Gary from his years of service on the CPHC. In addition to being a highly qualified internist, epidemiologist, and a specialist in Occupational Medicine, he was a tireless fighter to provide healthcare access to the poor, the indigent and the undocumented. He taught himself medical Spanish to better serve Hispanic patients. After a 20 plus year career at Duke University, Gary moved on to be the Medical Director of the Open Door (Free) Clinic for over 10 years, from which he retired this year.
The Raleigh TV station ran this story: https://www.wral.com/news/local/video/17927916/
If you’d like to share a memory of Gary, please visit https://www.forevermissed.com/gary-greenberg/#about
Thanks
Stan
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I am very sorry to hear that Stan. The TV story shows his great impact on the community and naming the center after him seems very appropriate.
My condolences,
E
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Dear Stan,
I'm so sorry to hear of Gary's passing. Please extend my deepest sympathy to your wife and family.
With warmest regards,
B
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My condolences to you and your family, Stan. Such a big loss. In addition to how bright and committed he was, I will remember Gary for being quick with a smile and a kind word.
K
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Dear Stan:
You have my sincere condolences as well as from Duncan E who acknowledges all Gary’s wonderful contributions to NSF.
Kind Regards
R
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Stan,
Please accept my sincere condolences.
Regards,
F
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Terrible news Stan. We sat together over the years at the CPHC. Watched the video clip of his work at the clinic. Impressive on so many levels. Peace be with you and yours.
M
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Dear Stan,
My deepest sympathies to you personally on your loss.
I do remember Gary, as I had the pleasure of sitting next to him at one of our CPH Meetings.
I remember thinking this fellow has so much knowledge and such a great sense of humor.
He was young to have passed.
Sincerely,
A
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Stan,
My heart is breaking for you and your family. An incredible tribute for a wonderful man. I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
J
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Stan,
I am so sorry. Prayers will continue.
B
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Stan,
Sad news. Very sorry to hear. My condolences to you and your Family.
S
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Stan,
I’m very sorry to hear of Gary’s death. Please extend my sincere condolences to your wife and the entire family. Gary was a great man and professional. He will be missed.
Regards,
D
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Stan,
The photos and memories of Gary on forevermissed.com are so touching. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
M
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I was deeply saddened to have this news. He was one of a very rare breed and those of us who knew him and had the opportunity to work with him will understand what a loss his passing represents.
D
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Hi Stan,
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May the memories you have of Gary z”l provide you some comfort during this difficult time. In sympathy,
R
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Hi Stan,
I’m really sorry to hear about Gary. I’m glad I got the chance to know him and I appreciated his intelligent and humorous contributions to the Council.
K
I remember touring the Open Door Clinic w Gary, and the pride and real joy that he had in the mission, the place, and the people - introducing all the good folks working there. It was a wonderful memory, and one that I shall treasure, always!
Leave a Tribute
Nous avons tous les deux fait une carriere medicale .….je pense tres fort a lui .. et prie pour mon ami. Si vous aviez la gentillesse de me dire ....avec toute ma plus profonde amitié.
Nicolas
NicolasLeurent 0660876200
nicolasleurent@gmail.com
Missing you on your birthday, and every day really. It's a big hole that doesn't seem to fill no matter we say or do. It just sits and hurts. Your smile makes it bearable. Today would be #69 for you. Your legacy and your impact will forever outlive your life. And guess what. You have another grandson and Bilal has a little brother named Zayd. Imagine Zaydee and Zayd :)
We all send you all of our love.
Stan
Gary, the world misses you
4 years without Gary.
One year on....
Gary was a health care advocate, and an activist, fighting for those who couldn’t. He soldiered on like no other.He gave of his time, energy, money and the Open Door Clinic was his purposeful passion. As part of the Urban Ministries of Wake County, the Clinic is where he made a difference for those that needed medical care and couldn’t afford it. He learned Spanish so he could converse with the many migrants who needed help.I am still touched by the ceremony where the clinic was dedicated to him.This morning I visited the clinic website and was moved by the picture of Gary photo-bombing the clinic landing page.
To mark the anniversary of Gary’s passing, I am making a contribution in his memory, to the clinic that he loved, and was glad to see that donations of $250 are being matched at https://urbanmin.org/ Just click on the Double Your Impact link. It would make him happy to know the caring didn't stop with him.