Hi, Jer, You are always close to me in my heart. Miss hearing your "little voice".

Lo

Dear Jerry, I'm late to light a candle for your Birthday, still you remain
so much in my thoughts., Friend in his sixties remain for ever.
Much love, Andree

As we all know, Jerry’s constant compassion and warm empathy endeared him to us from the moment we met him, to this day in 2024.
It was a joy to be with him, and each passing year finds me falling short of emulating his example of a superb human being.
I miss him dearly.
My very best wishes to Susan, Carmel, Mike, Kevin, and his entire family.
Cheers!
Jake

Happy Birthday my friend.

Missing you so much.

Hey Jer, seems like no time at all has passed since you moved on to an eternal place. Missing you now and always. You are always close to me in my heart, my friend. Lo

Gallery's newlook is perfect to me!  Tears came up on some of them..
Good idea to have zoom on the Family & Friends passing by Jerry's Life and it  warms up my heart. i miss so much the long messages we exchange for years and the ones with Dan & Philip also now in heaven . I miss you so much Jerry !
Love for ever

   I am remembering you today, my uncle, and loving father-figure. I wish I would have been braver these past years and posted a tribute on here sooner. At times, my heart just breaks all over again. Thinking about one of the greatest losses of a loved one that I've had to learn to accept in my life is simply too overwhelming.

   Your great-nephews love it when I tell them how you thoroughly enjoyed teasing me with your practical jokes. I also told them all about the 'angry crab' that lived in the Russian River, who loved to pinch, tickle and splash me when I got too close. Nonetheless, my early years were significantly better with you in my life.

   Thank you, Uncle Jerry, for showing me that unconditional love and compassion are verbs; a constant giving of yourself to the people you love and care about. You also taught me that patience is a selfless gift you give to others. I'm sure you were aware that I wanted to be just like you, Uncle Jerry. I still do to this day.

   There is no such thing as closure. In my experience, the deepest pain slowly gives way to many wonderful memories of being in your presence, where they finally have room to be appreciated and immortalized. I will always remember you for the loving and calming spirit you embodied. You live on in my heart. I am certain that you will, and forevermore, be silently smiling next to me.

Oh, Jerry.! how hard it would be to imagine you as a 80yrs silver hair and mustache man.
We were many envious of your dark curly hair and for me you will remain forever in your early 2010th in spite of the nice surprise Susan post yesterday showing how blond you were in the early 1940th.
Memories forever dear Jerry.
Andree

Always heartwarming to see a photo of you Jerry. Thanks for the posts Susan, and such eloquent poetic share Tom. Captures Jerry's spirit of having fun, while remaining calm, within our upside down world. Still good lessons for me. Miss you dearly. Hugs and love. Rosario, Vancouver BC

An unaccustomed moodiness settled over me today in the most unexpected of ways. I read a news article concerning Joni Mitchell and her recent award of the Gershwin Prize for Popular Song. Truth be told I hadn't thought of her for a long time but memories prodded me to hear her sing again. I found "Big Yellow Taxi" on Youtube and was instantly transported to your Fell Street apartment with whom you shared with Mike Eisenberg, Tom Duckworth, Bill Pope and others, like "Uncle Joe." I cut my teeth in a new and rarefied atmosphere in the front room of that apartment with you and Joni, Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young, James Taylor, Ritchie Havens and all the gentle voices of our time. Your presence was always the lodestar and compass point that kept everyone together Like a metronome you organized the spirits of spectral souls passing in and out of that "very, very, very fine house."

I paused today in my muse to reflect on all the friends I've met and loved there and how - one by one - they all have deceased leaving me alone and diminished. I'm sad to have lost you all and as Havens said, "I feel like a motherless child." This moment of sad moodiness passed but it wasn't until hours later today that I realized this is your anniversary. Your spirit is alive in me Jerry and I can never forget the bond we made as it endures eternally.

Miss you dearly ol friend. Miss your unflappable calm in this broken world. Love you and miss you. Love Ros

Remembering you ten years since you left. Carmel and I watched a DVD movie you made of Michael’s last months. Seeing you and Michael, hearing your voice again, lifted us out of the sorrow on this decade anniversary. Your presence is your presents.

10 years already ! unbelievable, you are so present in my thoughts. Last month I intend to visit Temple and gardens in Haïfa and light a candle. Unfortunatly the all place was closed for two days.
The good place to share in spirit your Mother and Family.
I wish to go back there some time. Forever in my thoughts

Hey Jer,

Was thinking about you this week and wishing we could talk and that I could hear your voice say, "Hey Lo, it's so good to hear your little voice." I miss that, and reminiscing about our happy times together in SF and Piercy. You are forever in my heart and I will love you always.

Lo

Memories. While I didn't have the experience of having you in my life day-after-day, I was fortunate to have met you on the very island I'm presently on now (Isla Mujeres) where our paths met on the ferry crossing from Cancun, Mexico. We talked, we walked, you found your hotel I found mine. In the morning we both showed up at the same hotel and ask for rooms. The man (Tony) thought we were a couple and show us the same room and we looked at each other and said yes. That's when our relationship started as room mates in a foreign country. We traveled off the island together to many small villages and on the return trip the taxi had an accident with us in it and you hurt you hurt your back. A bus picked us up and took us to Cancun. We took the ferry back to Isla Mujeres and you left the island while I remained.

We stayed in touch. Years later we met up again when you came to Isla Mujeres on your way to Cuba. You ask me to go but I didn't (that I regret). Later, you also visited me at my home in Philadelphia.

Our time together was short but it had meaning to me. I loved you as a brother. I miss you and these reminders of your birthday bring me back to revisit my memories with you and for those times, I'm am forever grateful to have had you in my life.  I love you Jerry Hoy!

Bon jour, mon ami
remember Jerry how you started each mail.
I'm missing that also. I hope you are now w/ Dan and Philip, playing cards.
Philip said he will take his camera ans send us images of Eternity. Eternity fits you so well, Here you are , achieving your seventies and you look so young and fresh and we are here almost 10 years after w/ our grey hair and wrickles.
Much Love Jerry

Hey, Jer. No matter how long it's been, I miss you all the time and, especially, hearing "your little voice." You still hold such a special place in my heart, the unconditional love I always felt when with you. Sure you are free now to travel the ethers. Happy Birthday.

Love you my eternal friend.

Lo

About a dozen years ago I asked my brother to share his thoughts on Civil Rights.
He wrote : “I first got involved in the Civil Rights Movement about 1963. At the time I was 20 years old and living in Orange County, California. My mother had brought us up to believe that people came in many different colors, like different flowers in a garden. All colors to be appreciated for their individuality. My involvement in Baha’i strengthened these beliefs. I was surrounded in my childhood by all sorts of weird and wonderful “flowers” that my parents collected. They loved what they called “characters”.
In 1963 young people were just waking up to the fact that not everyone in this country has equal rights. Rosa Parks, the sit in at the lunch counter, the march on Selma, and the speeches of Martin Luther King brought a new awareness. Also, music was becoming more socially aware. Bob Dylan, Judy Collins, Woodie Guthrie and Joan Baez, all sang songs about a big change that was coming. It was an exciting time.
I remember picketing Thrifty Mart, a supermarket, for discrimination in hiring. The Baha’i youth group became very active in the movement. Some of the older Bahá’ís were shocked at our public demonstrations. Others, my mom included, were pleased and supportive. We started a local chapter of the Congress of Racial Equality, CORE. We went to demonstrations and picket lines in the Los Angeles area. One day we were excited to hear that CORE had planned a “lay in “ in front of Mayor Yorty’s office. Just about all the Baha’i youth we’re planning to go. I had to work that fateful day. My friends were arrested and were seen on the evening news being taken away to jail (some on stretchers-passive resistance) I missed all the action. I was the only Hoy kid not arrested.
Eventually, “the movement “started to divide. The Black Power movement seemed to lack the all inclusiveness of the early days of protest. The Anti-war movement was growing, also the Free Speech, Women’s Liberation and Gay Rights movements. There were marches and rallies. There was change in the air. It was an exciting, exhilarating time to be around. Yes, these experiences did affect the direction I was heading in my life.
In the late 60’s I moved to San Francisco and became what we called “freaks”. (The press eventually named us “hippies”. I lived in a commune and learned to be myself and not who others expected me to be.
I realized that my religion supported all minorities except the one I belonged to (Gay people)
So I officially resigned. I also came to know that I would never be able to be a part of organized religion. I decided to start my own religion, and be the only member. I came out as gay to my family and joined the early gay rights parades in the early 70’s.

Nice of the sponsors to have this automated reminder. Life is so busy and days dissolve into years.
The Redwoods have been in the news lately and I have been transported back to the visit Jerry arranged to see first hand the gentle immensity of the quiet forest. The memory of that remarkable day is a perfect metaphor of Jerry's life: great, gentle, soothing and awesome. 

Thinking about you Jerry, my dear friend, close to your Birthday. I thought about you this year, because your Birthday fell right between the insurrection of January 6th and Biden's Inauguration January 20th. That was a difficult time. I think about you in difficult times Jerry. Centred and calm You were well of wisdom, respite and laughter. I so miss coming over for a good chit chat and the warmest hug, or just simply calling on the phone. I'm sure you are shaking your head at our crazy world. Hope you are enjoying your travels around the Universe Jerry. Look forward to seeing you again, at the end of the Rainbow Bridge. Hugs and love forever, your buddy, Ros

Oh Jerry 78 yrs! I won't imagine you with silver hair and mustache. You will always remember the young fellow I met in Isla de Mujeres and the 15 years of sharing more or less happy events. You bring me back to practice of English after 32 yrs of silence. Thank you for ever.
Happy birthday my friend, Andree.

Happy birthday, my dear friend. I see your picture every day. It's so nice to see your little face. Wish I could hear your little voice. Love you forever and ever.

Lo

During this pandemic I day dream a lot about traveling to Latin America, India, Australia... I wish I could talk to Jerry. He would give encouragement and advice. I believe he is happy.

Still miss my travel buddy. Love and miss you so much.

Jerry,
Love and miss my travel buddy. Since you've been gone, I don't travel much. Ironically, one can't travel these days.

Rest in peace my friend.

Jerry, I agree with Sami, if we had the chance to meet now, we would talk about travel.
It's such a bad time to travel in these days, the opportunity to remind what was such a gift to meet you then and advantage to share few journeys with you and meet your family and friends. You remain so much in my thoughts. Rest in peace my beloved friend.

Hi, Jer,

Another year gone by and I love you still so much and miss not being able to hear "your little voice." Spoke with Susan recently and talked so much about you. Knowing you are free and happy, makes my heart feel comforted.

Lo

Jerry, if you were physically in front of me I know we would be talking about traveling the world. I love and miss you. My annual trips to Isla Mujeres keep you in my memories and you forever linger in my heart. Miss you so much!

Miss you my dear friend. I keep you in my heart and cherish our friendship.

My dear email professor and 2nd cousin, Jerry would argue love, logic, religion, personal relationships, family history and medical interventions in a sweet yet piercing interchange. I miss him. I remember him faintly from our shared family reunions and then he came to the 2009 Cousin Reunion in Mojave! What a dear man! Happy birthday cousin!

Hey Jer,

Happy Birthday today. I think of you often, especially when I am trying to remember something from back in the day and there is no one else to ask. You are in my heart as always forever.

Lo

Hi Jer. Honoring your example of being unafraid to cut loose, lol, I traveled to Utah, Arizona and Nevada in 2019 to visit five magnificent national parks, including Arches, Monument Valley, Grand Canyon, Hoover Dam, Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park. Arches is my favorite and you would have loved it. During November & December I vacationed in Sarasota, Florida, where I went fishing, scoured the beaches for sharks teeth and sand dollars, fed squirrels in the park and picked up a nice tan. Sure missed you there. Love. --- Tom.

Miss you so much my friend.

Miss you so much My Jerry-cherry. My memories of you though give me great pleasure ❤️

Seven long years since you left and I feel your love every day.

Life without Jerry is like losing one's sense of taste. Not only is it lonelier, daily living lacks the spirit of adventure. I cherish our short time together and when I think of the fun we had I am more convinced than ever that love always endures.

Hi Jer,
It's so hard to believe that it has been six years. I was looking through our old Blake Street and McCoy Creek photos yesterday and was reminded of the unconditional love that you always gave me, your kindness, When I have a question to ask about these times, I miss not being able to call you to talk about it. You are in my heart always. All my love forever, Lo

We celebrated Jerry's 75th birthday with stories and devil's food cake.
I think of you celebrating in Puerto Vallarta, enjoying your life in the sun while we froze thru winter storms at home.
Remembering you warms my heart, makes me smile and reminds me to enjoy life's wonderful moments and appreciate each day's adventure.

my connected little finger told me that 3 loyal friends, D.J.Ph., had dinner on Wednesday night at P.V. (Mex) and spent the evening by reminding your first encounters.
I would have liked to be there to know every detail.For my part our first meeting was in Mujeres island and another friend, S., will smile reading this line. Love, Andree

Wow, a whole year has slipped by AGAIN! It is hard to believe. By the oddest of coincidences I awoke today with thoughts of you. I want to travel in Italy this summer and you, Jerry, immediately came to mind as the best choice for a traveling companion. I sure regret having to go it alone but thoughts of you stay with me always. Happy Birthday my beloved friend.

Jerry, I don't travel much anymore. You were the best traveling companion I have had in my lifetime. I miss you so much!

Five years has passed quickly. Funny how we get caught up in living and occasionally need a stimulus to reawaken our sense of wonder at the present moment. Jerry was someone who had a grasp of the poetry of silent reflection. I miss his steady presence.

As for years, Jerry is one place and I'm another. Our paths crossed three times in our life time. Those three times filled my heart with love for a very special friend. I am one that has no idea what the future holds when we pass but one thing that would make me happy is to be in Jerry's presence again. I know he would make me laugh.

Wow five years! Think about you often Jerry. I still miss calling 707-887-1822 whenever I needed a laugh or some good advice. Miss our hikes to wohler, camping, and adventures in San Fran. See you at the end of the rainbow bridge. XXOo Rosario aka Ros

Hey, Jer, It's hard to believe 5 years have passed. I remember that day like it was yesterday. I miss hearing your voice say, Hey Lo, "it's good to hear your little voice". I loved you then, love you now, and will love you always. Lo

I sometimes share a few words with your portrait Jerry. And probably you answer me: 'Senior moments'. You are so present in our memory
Miss you a lot

Jerry, I miss you so much. I have never in my lifetime had a better traveling companion. Rest in peace my friend.

Simply seeing your name reminds me of the time we spent together on Isla Mujeres and our travel through Mexico. The last time I saw you was at my home in Philadelphia. Miss you always!

Wish you could be celebrating your 74th with all your many friends. Had you on my mind as I traveled throughout Thailand recently. Thai's are beautiful, gentle people, a natural match for you. Sending white light your way. Love endures.

Hey, Jer,

Hope you are happy wherever you are. Miss you so much and can still hear your voice saying, "Hey Lo". 

My love is with you always. Lo