ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in loving memory of Grace Ilene "Reafsnyder" Read. We will remember her forever.  Grace was so special to so many people.  When she passed away last year, we had her service planned and we never dreamed COVID would still be here a year later leaving us unable to get together to celebrate her life.  I found this site and thought it would be a way we could leave memories of Grace and celebrate a little of her life together.  Please feel free to leave memories, stories, and pictures to help us celebrate what a special wonderful lady she was.  I miss her so much and it helps so much talking about her.  We all know how Grace loved to play cards, last year for the service we got everyone a deck of playing cards with Grace's photo on it so she could continue to play with you and your family.  If you would like one, please email your name and address to Kat Read - kat4godsglory@yahoo.com and we'll get one sent out. 
Posted by Sandi Case on February 18, 2021
GRACE. When I think of Grace- the word amazing always comes to mind – just like the song AMAZING GRACE. From the day I first had the honor and privilege to meet and call Grace family, I was truly in awe of her. 

She never tired of doing for others, giving no matter the personal cost, making people always feel cared for and appreciated and always making any situation better. 

Grace’s son, Skip, is married to my daughter, Kat and when people would ask how Grace and I were related we never knew how to answer as there is no “official name of for us”. So we came up with the name “Out-laws” and that’s how we told people we were related.

Grace was my gambling partner. She loved to play the slots and hated losing.  Even after her disease took her memories, I would take her to the car wash were they had machines and she would play. She always told people we won (though often we did not) and had fun playing no matter.

I miss her daily and still say hello to her when I drive by the home where she lived last.  I would like to say rest in peace Grace; however, knowing Grace as we all did – she is busy, cooking, playing cards, making projects, walking, feeding the pups, and enjoying all her family and friends who have gone before her.  I pray she saves me a place at the card table for when I get there.  Love you Grace  
Posted by Marsha Mccallum on February 14, 2021
Grace was a very kind and loving woman who always had a smile on her face everytime I saw her. And that is what I truly loved about her.
Posted by Kat Read on February 13, 2021
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Kat, and I was Grace’s daughter-in-law for 25 years and she lived with Skip and I for 22 of those years. Grace was a second mom to me. Grace accepted me into the family with open arms. This couldn’t have been easy as I was not Skip’s first wife and I’m sure she must have had thoughts like “Will this one last?” But I never heard any of it from her. She just accepted me and celebrated in our love. She even offered to do all the food for the wedding. It didn’t matter that she was working full time or that her kitchen was being remodeled, she still made all the food for over 100 people at our wedding. 
Grace was someone I aspired to be like. I remember her door was always open for a card game or to eat or to just hang out. I don’t think she ever said I’m too tired or can we do it another night. Everyone just walked over and walked right in. (Did she even have a doorbell?) I don’t remember anyone using it. 
Grace loved to play cards. She wasn’t always the best sport but she loved to play and was always up for a game. Even as she was passing away, I had to warn her she couldn’t cheat or throw her cards in heaven.
When Dakota was just three months old, Grace moved in with us to help us with the kiddos while I worked. While I was still on maternity leave, Grace gave me the full introduction to the family by teaching me how to sew quilts (which she made for every child and grandchild). I have to say she was so patient. I would mess up over and over again and she would help me pull out the stitches while I wanted to throw the thing in the trash and go buy one at the store. 
I don’t know what I would have done without her. She was such a blessing. When she moved in, she started helping with boys especially at night as I had to get up so early. I think Dakota slept in her room the first 5 years of his life. In fact my favorite memory of Grace is all the kids in her bed. There’s a picture with her, Chey, Dakota, and Dallas (Matthew back then). She was involved all the way through with school for both Dakota and Dallas. She used to get awards from all the schools for being one of the best room grandma. I even remember when Dakota broke his arm, she went to school with him to write his answers as he whispered them in her ear during tests.
Grace was such an active grandma. My grandma, who I loved dearly, was the kind I just sat on her lap while she told stories. Grace had stories but they were given while she was moving, taking the kids to Disneyland, Knotts, the park, etc. Even cleaning house was an adventure with Dallas riding on the vacuum. 
She loved every holiday, but especially Easter. Grace would spend days putting together Easter baskets and hiding them on the roof, in a tree, or wherever it would take the kids hours to find them (And by kids she made one for each one of us too). It didn’t matter how old you were you were getting an Easter Basket. 
Grace was also one of my best friends. She was always up for an adventure. I remember once we left Dakota with Skip and just headed for the state line to gamble for 2 hours and then turn around and come back.
Grace’s family meant everything to her. She was always involved with the Reafsnyder dinners and holidays. She also would spend hours talking on the phone to all of her brothers and sisters. She was a Read but she was also a Reafsnyder through and through.
I remember one of the hardest things for her was when we lost our home in Corona, we had to move to Vegas. I know it was a difficult decision for her to move to Vegas when her daughter and grandkids and brothers and sisters were in California. But I was so grateful that she did follow us as she was having heart trouble and when she got to Vegas we found a wonderful Cardiologist who have her a new heart valve and she was good to go for another 10 years.
Grace loved babies. She helped in Sunday School when she was young and when she moved to Vegas she would go to church with me every week and help me in the nursery and the kids loved her. 
Grace’s mind began to deteriorate the last 4 years of her life and it was so hard to watch her slip. Then when Kathie passed away, I think in a way it was a blessing that her mind left. I know now that she and Kathie and her mom and dad and brothers and sisters are playing cards in heaven and having fun. That is what I hold onto until I can see her again. 

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Posted by Sandi Case on February 18, 2021
GRACE. When I think of Grace- the word amazing always comes to mind – just like the song AMAZING GRACE. From the day I first had the honor and privilege to meet and call Grace family, I was truly in awe of her. 

She never tired of doing for others, giving no matter the personal cost, making people always feel cared for and appreciated and always making any situation better. 

Grace’s son, Skip, is married to my daughter, Kat and when people would ask how Grace and I were related we never knew how to answer as there is no “official name of for us”. So we came up with the name “Out-laws” and that’s how we told people we were related.

Grace was my gambling partner. She loved to play the slots and hated losing.  Even after her disease took her memories, I would take her to the car wash were they had machines and she would play. She always told people we won (though often we did not) and had fun playing no matter.

I miss her daily and still say hello to her when I drive by the home where she lived last.  I would like to say rest in peace Grace; however, knowing Grace as we all did – she is busy, cooking, playing cards, making projects, walking, feeding the pups, and enjoying all her family and friends who have gone before her.  I pray she saves me a place at the card table for when I get there.  Love you Grace  
Posted by Marsha Mccallum on February 14, 2021
Grace was a very kind and loving woman who always had a smile on her face everytime I saw her. And that is what I truly loved about her.
Posted by Kat Read on February 13, 2021
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Kat, and I was Grace’s daughter-in-law for 25 years and she lived with Skip and I for 22 of those years. Grace was a second mom to me. Grace accepted me into the family with open arms. This couldn’t have been easy as I was not Skip’s first wife and I’m sure she must have had thoughts like “Will this one last?” But I never heard any of it from her. She just accepted me and celebrated in our love. She even offered to do all the food for the wedding. It didn’t matter that she was working full time or that her kitchen was being remodeled, she still made all the food for over 100 people at our wedding. 
Grace was someone I aspired to be like. I remember her door was always open for a card game or to eat or to just hang out. I don’t think she ever said I’m too tired or can we do it another night. Everyone just walked over and walked right in. (Did she even have a doorbell?) I don’t remember anyone using it. 
Grace loved to play cards. She wasn’t always the best sport but she loved to play and was always up for a game. Even as she was passing away, I had to warn her she couldn’t cheat or throw her cards in heaven.
When Dakota was just three months old, Grace moved in with us to help us with the kiddos while I worked. While I was still on maternity leave, Grace gave me the full introduction to the family by teaching me how to sew quilts (which she made for every child and grandchild). I have to say she was so patient. I would mess up over and over again and she would help me pull out the stitches while I wanted to throw the thing in the trash and go buy one at the store. 
I don’t know what I would have done without her. She was such a blessing. When she moved in, she started helping with boys especially at night as I had to get up so early. I think Dakota slept in her room the first 5 years of his life. In fact my favorite memory of Grace is all the kids in her bed. There’s a picture with her, Chey, Dakota, and Dallas (Matthew back then). She was involved all the way through with school for both Dakota and Dallas. She used to get awards from all the schools for being one of the best room grandma. I even remember when Dakota broke his arm, she went to school with him to write his answers as he whispered them in her ear during tests.
Grace was such an active grandma. My grandma, who I loved dearly, was the kind I just sat on her lap while she told stories. Grace had stories but they were given while she was moving, taking the kids to Disneyland, Knotts, the park, etc. Even cleaning house was an adventure with Dallas riding on the vacuum. 
She loved every holiday, but especially Easter. Grace would spend days putting together Easter baskets and hiding them on the roof, in a tree, or wherever it would take the kids hours to find them (And by kids she made one for each one of us too). It didn’t matter how old you were you were getting an Easter Basket. 
Grace was also one of my best friends. She was always up for an adventure. I remember once we left Dakota with Skip and just headed for the state line to gamble for 2 hours and then turn around and come back.
Grace’s family meant everything to her. She was always involved with the Reafsnyder dinners and holidays. She also would spend hours talking on the phone to all of her brothers and sisters. She was a Read but she was also a Reafsnyder through and through.
I remember one of the hardest things for her was when we lost our home in Corona, we had to move to Vegas. I know it was a difficult decision for her to move to Vegas when her daughter and grandkids and brothers and sisters were in California. But I was so grateful that she did follow us as she was having heart trouble and when she got to Vegas we found a wonderful Cardiologist who have her a new heart valve and she was good to go for another 10 years.
Grace loved babies. She helped in Sunday School when she was young and when she moved to Vegas she would go to church with me every week and help me in the nursery and the kids loved her. 
Grace’s mind began to deteriorate the last 4 years of her life and it was so hard to watch her slip. Then when Kathie passed away, I think in a way it was a blessing that her mind left. I know now that she and Kathie and her mom and dad and brothers and sisters are playing cards in heaven and having fun. That is what I hold onto until I can see her again. 
her Life

Eulogy by Skip Read

Grace Ilene Reafsnyder was born on January 2, 1936 in Delphis, Kansas.  She was the 8th of 10 children born to Guy Allen and Agnes Reafsnyder.  She graduated Garden Grove High School in 1953.  She was socially active along with her brothers and sister at school.  In fact, Grace never quit moving unless she was sleeping; the word tired was not in her vocabulary.  She loved any project that involved giving and doing for others.  She would literally give you the shirt off her back.  If anything needed doing,  Grace was the person to get it done.

Grace met and married Donald Read in 1954.  They had two children, Edward “Skip” and Kathleen “Kathie”.  When Skip was young, Don joined the Navy and the family followed him to Guam where they lived for two years before returning to set up their home in Garden Grove on Audrey Circle.  They lived there for over 25 years.  She joined Don working at Alpha Beta, where she worked for over 30 years.  If there was a work function, Grace was coordinating it and making enough food to sink a battleship.

Grace grew up playing cards with all her brothers and sisters and there was always a card game going at her house.  She had an open-door policy at her house and everyone was always welcome.  If you showed up at dinner time, you could be sure there was always enough food for everyone.  Skip said when he was young, he and all of his friends would go to each of their homes and determine what was for dinner and then decide where they were going to eat.  Grace was deathly afraid of water as she never learned to swim; yet she knew her children would love it; therefore, she and Don built a pool in their backyard.   Yet one more reason for all the neighborhood kids to hang out.

As a young mother, she was an active Girl Scout leader and very active in the Boy Scouts and it didn’t stop with her kids – she was active in her nieces and nephews' lives as well.  When it came to being a Grandmother, Grace was not a part-time grandma  She was fully involved in the daily lives Tyson, Dustin, Brandee, Danielle, Cheyenne, Dakota, and Dallas.  She would attend every event if there was any way possible, and she would take them to the amusement parks, parks, beaches, sporting events and help in their classrooms to mention only a small part of her interaction with them.  They always knew they were loved deeply and unconditionally.

In 1997, she retired from Alpha Beta and moved in with Skip and his wife, Kat, in Corona, CA.  Soon Kathie and her children also moved to Corona  and she was the hub of the family wheel for activities and functions.  When Skip and Kat relocated to Las Vegas in 2010, Grace was a pivotal part of the family.  There she became active in church helping with the children’s ministry.  The card-playing continued in Las Vegas and she would make monthly trips back to California for the brother’s and sister’s card game. 

Grace never stopped wanting to help.  Even in the later years, when Grace’s mind started to slip and she moved into assisted living she still wanted to help with the dishes and the vacuuming and when they told her she couldn’t due to liability she would get really mad.  Her new home allowed her to continue to walk in the gardens and assist others there who needed it as long as her mind would permit.  She continued to go to church with the family and do the children’s ministry weekly until she became immobile. 

The caregivers at her home loved her and said she was one of their favorite housemates. 

Grace’s may be gone to a better place – but her laughter and heart warming messages she taught all of us will live on for generations to come.  Until we meet again Grace, say hello to Kathie, your mom, dad, brothers and sisters and all the people who have gone before you who are waiting with open arms to hug you once again. 

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Auntie Grace

Shared by Terrilee StJames on February 14, 2021
My best memories will always be the every Sunday dinners with her, Uncle Don and the kids! Swimming all day, dinner then Disney Club and Bonanza! 
Yes to all the Refsnyders gatherings as well!!!! I had an Amazing chlidhood full of great Memories with Auntie Grace!!!
Always so kind and loving and yes always fed if you got hungry!!!! Until I see you again give everyone a big hug!

Never ending smiles

Shared by Tobyn Read on February 14, 2021
The one thing I remember most about my lovely Auntie Grace was her enduring, never ending smile.  I never heard a discouraging, demeaning, nor disparaging word from her.   Even when she wasn’t having the best of days, she SMILED.   Just look through the gallery and you will see what I ALWAYS saw. . . . Her beautiful smile.  I always described her as the person that would give you the shirt off her back if she thought you needed it.  ALWAYS offering a helping hand.  Life took me away from where Auntie Grace lived, so I didn’t get to see her as often as I would like, but she was truly never far from my mind.  I look forward to when we meet again