ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of Ivory McCuen, 30 years old, born on March 13, 1990, and passed away on January 24, 2021. We support all who loved Ivory and will always remember her.

This site was created by me, David W. Oaks, with the permission of Ivory's sister, Breezy Smith. Please add your memories.

I never got a chance to meet the amazing Ivory. I heard about her life via an article in Eugene Weekly which described the tragedy of her death. Here is a link to that article:

www.eugeneweekly.com/2021/02/11/ivory-irene-mccuen-1990-2021/

As the article notes, the family memorial for Ivory will be this Saturday, which would be Ivory's 31st birthday: 13 March 2021.

After talking with Breezy, I am working with a number of grassroots advocacy groups to have a Virtual Vigil to get out the important story of Ivory, Sunday, 18 April 2021 at 5 pm PT. Watch this site for more information.

Those interested in learning more can also email to us at ivorypeer@gmail.com, and we will keep you updated.

I extend my deepest heartfelt support for family and friends who mourn this spectacular human being.
Posted by Breezy S on April 16, 2021
My little sister.... my little Weeny. Trying to be brave and find strength. We will honor you again on Sunday and for as long as I am breathing. I am sorry I couldn't reach you, I'm sorry I couldn't help you.... my heart breaks. May you be with me as I begin a new journey in your name, in your honor, your strength carry over to me so that I may help others. Your life and death shall not be in vain.
Posted by Sarah Smith on March 9, 2021
Dear Ivory, you were loving and you are loved; even though you were alone in the last hours of your life, your death will not be in vain and we will carry your spirit in our hearts always. Your spirit emboldens people like me who are frightened. When I feel weak and outnumbered, your spirit will help me find steel and resolve. You spirit makes me want more than ever for our voices to be heard, even if we have to raise our voices a little more than is considered polite. Because of you, we will not let go of the dream of creating safe sanctuaries for all people who have been othered and labelled, places where people can connect with one another as human beings, places where people can go to meet their basic needs met without shame, stigma, or pre-conditions.

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Posted by Breezy S on April 16, 2021
My little sister.... my little Weeny. Trying to be brave and find strength. We will honor you again on Sunday and for as long as I am breathing. I am sorry I couldn't reach you, I'm sorry I couldn't help you.... my heart breaks. May you be with me as I begin a new journey in your name, in your honor, your strength carry over to me so that I may help others. Your life and death shall not be in vain.
Posted by Sarah Smith on March 9, 2021
Dear Ivory, you were loving and you are loved; even though you were alone in the last hours of your life, your death will not be in vain and we will carry your spirit in our hearts always. Your spirit emboldens people like me who are frightened. When I feel weak and outnumbered, your spirit will help me find steel and resolve. You spirit makes me want more than ever for our voices to be heard, even if we have to raise our voices a little more than is considered polite. Because of you, we will not let go of the dream of creating safe sanctuaries for all people who have been othered and labelled, places where people can connect with one another as human beings, places where people can go to meet their basic needs met without shame, stigma, or pre-conditions.
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Shared by Breezy S on April 16, 2021
It's been a little over a month since your Birthday, since your services where family and friends gathered to remember you and say our farewells. Your boys were together just as you always wanted.... I can see you in them, in their eyes I see you. They are so brave little sister. You are so very loved. Your memory will live on. I tell the boys stories of when you were young, your favorite colors, passion for music, art, outdoor adventures, and animals..... I will always tell your stories and share our memories with your sons.
Love you Weeny
Shared by Breezy S on April 16, 2021
Mom wanted me to share this..... she isn't very tech savvy.

My fondest memory is you jumping out of bed ready to go even if we late you were up with a smile and ready to go I will miss that I will miss everything about you no body in the world could piss me so bad and 15min. Later you'd be over it whine I'm still angry as hell you would look at me with that big smile and say don't me mad I'm over it I'm going to miss that I'm going to miss everything about your hugs kissesoh love you more
Marmie

Little Sister

Shared by Breezy S on April 16, 2021
I miss you so much. So much has happened in the short time you've been gone.... I think about you everyday. Every song I hear on the radio reminds me of you. I miss your beautiful voice. I miss your random calls.... when you would tell me to hang up and let you leave a voicemail and the voicemail would always be you singing to me.
Posting a picture of you, me, mom, and grandma. Tell grandma hello for me. Love you both so much.
I am so proud of your strength Ivory, always have been and always will be. Love you.