This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Captain James F. (Buddy) Iannone, Jr., 58, born on January 22, 1959 and passed away on June 19, 2017. We will remember him forever.
Captain Iannone USN passed away suddenly on June 19, 2017 in San Diego, California.
He leaves his wife Lisa & four children; Frances, Haley, James F. III, & Max. Predeceased by his father, James F Iannone, Sr & survived by his mother Gemma Picciotti Iannone and his five siblings; Kathryn (Ned) Amyot, Elizabeth Duffy, Tonia (Chris) Teumer, Tamara (Vincent) DesRosiers, David P. (Lisa) Iannone & several nieces & nephews.
He was an outstanding athlete & student at Fairport High School and was elected to the Wall of Fame in 2013. He then graduated from the University of Rochester where he excelled in track and football and was commissioned an Ensign through the Naval ROTC Program in June 1981. He began flight training in September 1981, at NAS Pensacola and was designated a Naval Aviator on 4 November 1982. Throughout his military career he served as a Flight Instructor, Legal Officer and succeeded to Commander, Helicopter Wing Reserve of San Diego in April 2000. Captain Iannone attended the National War College in Washington D.C. where he earned his masters degree. Upon his change of command, Captain returned to Commander Naval Air Forces Reserve as the Deputy Commander where he completed 30 years of service before his transition to the civilian community in 2011.
After he retired from active duty, he became a highly regarded NJROTC instructor and had a significant impact on the lives of his students. In addition, Buddy had several key NJROTC roles working in leadership education of the cadets from the southern California Section.
Buddy was a man of honor, courage & commitment; dedicated to both family & country. He was laid to rest at Miramar National Cemetery, San Diego, CA.
Tributes
Leave a tributeHope the great beyond is treating you well. Today is the 7th anniversary of your passing. You are in my thoughts daily. As I train diligently for the International Dragon Boat Federation Club Crew World Championships in Ravenna, Italy September 2-11, I reflect on your mental & physical strength as I push through the pain of my workouts. You are my inspiration and driving force.
With love and admiration, your big sister Katy
As always on this day, I reflect on memories of the days and years gone by. Your strength, resiliance, courage and perseverance in life never ceased to amaze me. I am inspired by you everyday in my training… I say to myself, “Just 1 more push-up, just 1 more mile, push harder, make it hurt, Buddy wouldn’t quit..neither will you!”
HAPPY 65th BIRTHDAY
Missing you dear brother
-Meagan Bowen "the energizer bunny", as he liked to call me during PT training.
You never missed my Birthday - I hope to never miss yours!
Happy Birthday!
Tam -
Buddy's humility was a true gift. Thank you, Buddy, for all you gave to our community and our country. Your sacrifice and dedication will always be appreciated. You brought great pride to your family. Peace.
Coach Driscoll
We are all thinking about you. I miss you and send all my love to you. Your sister - Tam
Buddy, I miss you more and more as each and every day passes, especially since we lost Mom in November 2020.
Cousin Michelle helped me get through that painful loss. She said, “it’s the love that lasts.”
The love you and I shared pulled me through many challenging times in my life. To this day, I’m reminded of your impeccable character and moral integrity, reinforcing your greatness.
I miss you and will forever love you!
We all really miss you. I am thinking about you and your family today.
Sending my love, Tam
Best wishes,
N.A. Ghosn
MIDN USN
A Happy Birthday to you Buddy. Rest in Peace
The loss is so profound...
Today all the tension is gone, the burden of the assignments he chose to tackle in his lifetime has been lifted and debt has been paid.
Buddy followed his deeply personal, authentic journey. We applaud his audacity and find comfort in his amazing grace.
"Tears, Idle Tears"[3]. Alfred, Lord Tennyson
Tears, idle tears, I know not what they mean,
Tears from the depth of some divine despair
Rise in the heart, and gather to the eyes,
In looking on the happy autumn-fields,
And thinking of the days that are no more.
Fresh as the first beam glittering on a sail,
That brings our friends up from the underworld,
Sad as the last which reddens over one
That sinks with all we love below the verge;
So sad, so fresh, the days that are no more.
Ah, sad and strange as in dark summer dawns
The earliest pipe of half-awaken'd birds
To dying ears, when unto dying eyes
The casement slowly grows a glimmering square;
So sad, so strange, the days that are no more.
Dear as remembered kisses after death,
And sweet as those by hopeless fancy feign'd
On lips that are for others; deep as love,
Deep as first love, and wild with all regret;
O Death in Life, the days that are no more!
To be “bereaved” literally means “to be torn apart” and “to have special needs.” When a sibling dies, it is like a deep hole implodes inside of you. It’s as if the hole penetrates you and leaves you gasping for air. I have always said that we mourn significant losses from the inside out. In my experience, it is only when we are nurtured (inside and outside) that we discover the courage to mourn openly and honestly.
My husband and I were first friends with Lisa when we were all ADAF, stationed at Keesler AFB and then with Buddy, as their relationship developed. I remember when Lisa met Buddy and the frequent trips made between Pensacola, where Buddy was stationed and Keesler. Buddy and Lisa were a wonderful and fun couple! Buddy was an excellent father to his children; he loved them wholeheartedly. Their family endured the many moves, back and forth across our country. As an AF BRAT, former ADAF member and then an AFDW myself, I know how hard it is for a family to move and create a new home and adjust. Buddy had an immediate job and connections, but for Lisa and the children, it meant new schools, new friends, finding your way around a new city-all hard! However, Lisa, Frankie, Haley, James and Max adapted to the frequent changes in home, school and cities with aplomb, giving Buddy the support he needed in his successful Naval career.
Our sibling relationship was one of love, honor and respect. Buddy will always remain in my daily thoughts. If heaven wasn't so far away... Until we are together again, I pray that this profound sense of loss provides a deeper and more meaningful life for us all!
Buddy left us with the advice and encouragement to:
1. Give your all, every time.
2. Give back more than you receive.
3. Have purpose and find self-fulfillment.
4. Get back up, every time; face the challenge.
5. Offer friends and enemies help; lend a hand.
I'm so grateful to have shared my life with the most loving and honorable man. Rest in Peace Buddy~I Love You and Miss You!
Buddy was a great leader, role model and high achiever in everything he did. He was highly respected by his friends, classmates and athletic teammates. I will always cherish the fond memories of Buddy from the old Brentwood neighborhood through high school and college. Although he left us way too soon, his impact on those of us who knew him will live on. Rest in Peace Buddy.
Dan Enright
We remember Buddy as a fine young man and teammate of my son John at Fairport. Marie and I were close friends with you and Jim during our golf outings. A wonderful family. So sorry for your loss. I understand your pain, having recently lost Marie.
John C Carini
I was very fortunate to have coached Buddy at FHS. He was a great athlete and a great young man. Buddy was a leader and had the respect of all his teachers, coaches and peers. I am very happy that he was Inducted to the FHS Hall of Fame. He will be remembered forever!
Leave a Tribute
Hope the great beyond is treating you well. Today is the 7th anniversary of your passing. You are in my thoughts daily. As I train diligently for the International Dragon Boat Federation Club Crew World Championships in Ravenna, Italy September 2-11, I reflect on your mental & physical strength as I push through the pain of my workouts. You are my inspiration and driving force.
With love and admiration, your big sister Katy
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Buddy as a little boy
Young Buddy was as handsome as imaginable. Although I was/am only "technically" his Aunt Sharon, I loved him immensly! He was so good when I watched him as a little guy, and helped me with the group I took on!
I am saddened on hearing of his passing. His own children look beautiful and I hope that they will know how much he was loved and in his Dad life, admired.
I am sad too, for his siblings - Katy, Toni, Tami, Lizzie and David.
Gemma knows how sorrowfully I view his passing and has shared with me some of her grief.
Although I did not know Lisa, this much is for certain; she must have been adored by Buddy. Also, Lisa is very young to be a widow. I want her to know how much I cared for and about him as a baby and as a little boy. Also, to her children, I express my condolences.