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Col. Ret. James David Barry, M.D. was a loving husband, father, son, brother, and an inspiring physician who improved so many lives. Dave leaves a legacy that we will forever honor and cherish.

We will be celebrating Dave's life  at Green Hills Memorial Park, 27501 Western Ave. Rancho Palos Verdes on Thursday, Sept. 15 from 11:15am-2:00pm. Please RSVP to c1barry@ucsd.edu 

In lieu of flowers, please consider honoring Dave's legacy by donating to Operation Surf or The Wounded Warrior Project
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April 21
April 21
Happy Birthday, my sweet man.
I thought I could sneak by this day without having a meltdown, but I should have known better. I don’t have as many as I used to, but sometimes, it’s unavoidable. 
Today, I have really been missing your ridiculous sense of humor. People always talk about your work ethic, your integrity, your sense of adventure, your courage, but sometimes I think people forget how funny you were. I miss how much you used to make me laugh. Always coming up with phrases like “wanum begum?” and “I’m going to the g-wham” and the funny nick names you gave everyone like Beezy McWeezy, and of course always reaching into your nut sack - never gets old.
I still miss you so much.
I love you, Dave Barry.
February 20
February 20
Hi Megan,
Thanks for sharing the information on Dave’s selfless gift of tissue donation
Beautiful to see how Dave continues to help patients
Dave is in all the hearts of all of us that were fortunate enough to know him
Sean
February 12
February 12
A few weeks ago, I received a letter from the organ and tissue donor service providing me with the details of Dave's donations. I haven't had the strength to share it until now. Imagining his beautiful body being dissected into hundreds of tiny pieces just wrecks me, but I know Dave wouldn't have wanted it any other way. He was the most selfless person I've ever known. If ever there was a way to help or save another person, he wouldn't think twice about sacrificing himself for the good of others. I've taken a photo of the letter and I've added it to the gallery for anyone wishing to read it.

I love you, Dave Barry.
January 14
January 14
You believed in me first. I struggled through a surgical internship and departed for the GMO world broken and lost. When I returned 18 months later, I found a place to belong among the men and women of your EM residency program at Portsmouth. I remember my interview with you. I went in barely believing in myself. Why would this program want to risk a chance on me when I had foundered so miserably a year ago as an intern. I'll never forget your directness. You asked me why the outcome of my attempt at residency was likely to be any different than the outcome of my efforts in internship. You laid the elephant in the room out on the table and you did not mince words. I grew in that moment into someone who truly understood the meaning of grace. I wasn't the same person anymore. I had grown, matured, and was determined. What a shock it was to me when you accepted me into the residency program that very cycle, though I applied late, had barely time to prove myself shadowing in the ER, and had no track record to point to. I am where I am today because you believed in me first.
September 2, 2023
September 2, 2023
My sweet, sweet, beautiful man. It's been one year since you paddled out into the ocean, never to return. I didn't know how I could possibly go on without you, but somehow, here I am. 
I've tried so hard to honor you and your legacy in meaningful ways this past year. I wanted everyone to know how special you were and to never forget you. We erected a memorial bench for you near our house. We had a racing shell at UC San Diego named after you. We volunteered with Operation Surf and participated in a paddle for you and other vets. We volunteered with other family members of organ donors to help decorate a float for the Rose Parade. We attended the memorial service for the UC San Diego Medical School donor families and got to meet and hear from the medical students who benefited from the incredible gift of your beautiful body.  I set up a donor advised fund in your name to continue to give to organizations you were passionate about. Both ABEM and ACEP named programs after to you to honor you tireless dedication as both a student and a teacher/leader of emergency medicine and your passionate and tireless work for the improvement of patient care. The Long Beach VA recognized you with a life time achievement award on National Doctor's Day. You touched so many lives and were so loved and appreciated by so many.
I love you so much, Dave Barry, and I have struggled daily with how to simultaneously hold on to you while trying to let you go. And neither one is entirely possible. All I know is that I need to keep going. I can't stay in this space forever. I need to start moving among this living again. I can't stay in Long Beach anymore. And even though this was our dream house, I have to leave. It's too painful to be here without you. So, I'm moving to San Clemente. I'm starting over. I will always miss you and you will always be with me, but I have to go. 
I have felt your presence with me this past year, guiding me and helping me find my way, and I know I will always have that no matter where I go. 
Thank you for the amazing life we shared and for the incredible young men you helped me raise. I'm so grateful for our journey together, for how much you loved me and for how you continue to show up for me. 
I never wanted to go through life without you, but some things are out of our hands. I have learned to surrender. I don't know what life has in store for me, but I have to believe there is something beautiful ahead. So I will just keep going. I love you, Dave Barry
September 2, 2023
September 2, 2023
On the 1 year anniversary of Dave's passing, I just wanted to give my deepest condolences to Megan, Cameron, and Colin on what I am certain is a horrible milestone to have to experience. I am here for all of you, in any way I can. 

I miss you Dave--you made me a better man in many ways, and your memory continues to do so... 

Your friend,

Tom
May 29, 2023
May 29, 2023
It's Memorial Day. It's been almost 9 months and I still miss you all the time. I hate that you're not here with me today and everyday. You were my hero, Dave. You still are. You're the best person I've ever known. You sacrificed so much of yourself to help so many others. The world would be a better place with more people like you in it. So I still can't understand why you're gone. I love you, Dave Barry.
April 21, 2023
April 21, 2023
Happy birthday, beautiful man. I promised myself I would get up at 5am today and drive the bus down to Bolsa to do a dawn patrol surf session with you. If I hadn't already made this plan, I probably wouldn't have gotten out of bed this morning. But I did, so I dragged myself up and out. I got to Bolsa just after 6am, it was a beautiful morning. The sun was just beginning to rise, lots of pink colors in the sky, there was no wind, so the water was super glassy. But the waves were small and breaking right on shore, not surfable at all. So, I just sat on the beach overlooking the spot where I tried so hard to breath life back into your beautiful body, only to have you leave me anyway. I just cried inconsolably for about an hour, and then Cameron called to commiserate with me. While I was on the phone, a large group of dolphins showed up. They started playing in the water right in front of me, in the same spot I last saw you surfing. And they just stayed, swimming and jumping around. It was so incredibly beautiful. I felt like they showed up to mark the occasion with me. I decided to paddle out just to be with the dolphins. So I did. The whole time I was in the water, these dolphins were all around me, playing in the water. It made me feel like they came just to cheer me up. They were so joyful, seeing them just made me cry more at the wonder of their beauty and presence. I managed to catch a couple small pitiful waves, but mostly I just wanted to be in the water to be with you on your birthday. And as I was sitting on my board thinking maybe it was time go in, I saw what I was pretty sure was a whale. But there was so much dolphin activity, that I thought maybe I was mistaken. I could have sworn I saw it surface a second time, but again, dolphins were all around the same spot, so I wasn't sure if my mind was playing tricks on me. I took one more little wave in, and as I was walking up to the bus, a guy came up and asked me what year the bus was made. And then he told me he had been watching me and was marveling at the fact that I was surrounded by dolphins the whole time I was out there and then asked if I saw the two grey whales that came by! I almost started to cry, it was so nice to have someone validate what I had just experienced. I told him that it was your birthday and that you had passed away in the water right where I had been. And then he told me he was there that day, that his friend was the one who brought my surfboard up to the to bus after I dumped it on the sand and ran to try and save your lifeless body. I can't tell you what it meant to me to have this complete stranger witness both of these events for me. It was so clear to both of us that you were out there with me today, still doing everything you can to bring me joy. I love you, Dave Barry. Happy Birthday.
March 21, 2023
March 21, 2023
Hello friends and family, I'm updating this info, the UCSD rowing team will be honoring Dave by christening a racing shell in his name at the San Diego Crew Classic on Sunday, April 2. The boat will have its inaugural race at 10:21am, followed by lunch at 1230 and the christening ceremony at 1pm at the alumni tent on Crown Point in Mission Bay. If you happen to be in town and would like to stop by, we would love to see you. Dave was on the rowing team for 4 years and was varsity captain 2 of those years. This is also how we met, he recruited me to be a coxswain, so this is very meaningful to me. Thanks, Megan
November 13, 2022
November 13, 2022
My most sincere condolences. Dave had so much more to give: to you all, to medical education, and to the specialty. He made us all better doctors, better teachers, and better people.
Ken Frumkin
October 17, 2022
October 17, 2022
I have some great memories with Dave and the family. I will cherish our early morning surf sessions and dessert eating. It was so much fun caterpillar climbing in Joshua tree with them. He bought Colin and me some big sneaker slippers for Christmas :) My favorite story that he told was one where he was in residency I believe, and his advisor physician said they have a very special patient that should be treated with the utmost respect. It was a homeless mother with a stillborn baby. I will greatly miss him, his humor, and his passion for life and service.
September 22, 2022
September 22, 2022
Dave was an amazing classmate in residency. He was academically gifted, cool under pressure and kind to everyone. He was also a gentle and thoughtful soul, who reached out to spread love to others when things were rough. Through the years, I followed his esteemed career in academic medicine. I was tickled to see his frequent contributions furthering our specialty. He accomplished so much and yet still had amazing balance outside of medicine - devoted husband and father, lover of the outdoors, VW mechanic, home remodeler. I remember going over to the Barry household to see the latest demolition and rebuild project. He would often ask me, "what do you do for fun?" Dave, you lived life to the fullest and will be sorely missed!
September 19, 2022
September 19, 2022
Dave and I were on the U.C. San Diego crew together, although he was in a different eight and at least a year ahead of me at university. Of all the oarsmen on our crew, he was one of my favorites -- he gave rowing his best, and was also very smart, thoughtful, and humble. I think he was probably a role model for many of us, although we may not have been aware of it at the time. I remember learning after university that he had married his girlfriend from our rowing days, and was a doctor in the U.S. Army and abroad on a mission. His going into the Army surprised me at first, but then seemed totally in character -- always serving others and living for something bigger than himself. It is heartbreaking to see such talent and goodness depart this world so early in life. The world is a lesser place now without Dave in it. He touched so many people in such a good way. I pray God will welcome him into His eternal kingdom, and guard, protect and console his family and the rest of us on Earth who knew Dave and will miss him. 
September 17, 2022
September 17, 2022
We interviewed Dave in early 2016. His CV (résumé) was more like a book than any résumé I had seen. Mine was two pages.
When Jerry called me recently with news of Dave’s death, I was devastated. This anguish has been very difficult to deal with.

Dave did not have to lead by being demanding of people. He set an example and led by his actions. He respected and was respecting of everyone he worked with at the VA. He spoke his truth softly and clearly. He was collegial and constructive with people, not downgrading them or being openly critical. 

Shortly after Dave was hired, I ask him to be chief of our relatively new residency program. The program had grown quite remarkably over the previous several years, but we needed someone to organize and develop the entire program. Within several weeks, Dave had written an entire “Residency Handbook” with our policies and procedures, what he expected of the residents, and a template for their schedules.  

Dave’s academic knowledge was second to none. He was asked to be an editor of the American Board of Emergency Medicine Journal, an honor only bestowed on those with top qualifications. He was elected to the board of the ABEM (American Board of Emergency Medicine), and was an examiner for the oral portion of the certification exam. This was in addition to working as an emergency physician in our ED and administrating the Residency program.

Because of his breadth of medical knowledge, I thought Dave would be the best ED physician to replace me on the QA (Peer Review) Committee. This committee is made up of the chiefs or leaders of each department at the Long Beach VA. We would review suspect cases to determine whether the correct decisions were made for patient care. I went with Dave the first several times he attended this committee to introduce him to the membership and to work with him. The first time we had a case from the emergency department, I was asked to explain why the emergency physician involved did what they did. I basically explained that what they did was the standard of care within emergency medicine. The committee was still not convinced, and continued to argue the case. Dave then chimed in quoting several scientific papers that supported my claim. The committee was impressed and I realized Peer Review was in good hands.

Everything Dave did , however, was for one reason: to improve patient care In the ED and elsewhere in our hospital. By doing so, he helped improve our teaching program to one of the best in the VA.

Dave is the most accomplished emergency department physician I have ever known, but not just because of his academic accomplishments, but because of his dedication to the VA and his ability to lead by example.

Even though I have not seen Dave in over 2 years, I will miss him for the rest of my life.

Jeff Miller, MD FACEP
Former Chief, Emergency Medicine, Long Beach VA
September 16, 2022
September 16, 2022
Dave was a great physician and a wonderful, gentle person. He has touched so many lives and he will be sorely missed. One of my favorite memories of Dave occurred during our time together as interns at the old Brooke Army Medical Center in 1996. Dave drove an old VW microbus. He would leave the hospital in the hot Texas weather with the windows open and his shirt off looking for all the world like he was heading to the beach. He always talked of someday having one of the more coveted models with all the extra windows. This model, however, was not so "coveted" and in poor condition. Dave was always working on it in his driveway. One day it broke down on the way to work. I think the engine caught fire as he drove into the hospital parking lot! It sat there for days due to his busy schedule. Shortly thereafter we moved to the new BAMC hospital a few miles away. Dave's microbus was now, quite noticeably, the only vehicle left alone in the old hospital parking lot. Dave reportedly received a somewhat gruff order from the hospital commander to remove the VW or the MPs would towed it away. This story was repeated through tough times during internship and later in residency. Just like Dave, the story never failed to bring a smile. 
September 16, 2022
September 16, 2022
Colonel James David Barry, US ARMY, Retired, M.D.

21 April 1968 - 02 September 2022

Thank you Dad for being my hero and role model throughout my life. Your tireless efforts to always be the best man you could be paved the road for me as a young man. The teachings and lessons you gave to Colin and me will continue to live on through us and I will do my best to always be someone you would be proud to call your son. There can never be enough words to express the depth of gratitude I have for the care and precision you took in helping shape me into the man I would become. I know you're a big proponent of "actions speak louder than words" so I will work hard to exemplify the depth of character you had such a big part in developing. I love you Dad and thank you for everything.
September 16, 2022
September 16, 2022
My Friend Was A Super Hero


Fictional characters can exist
After meeting you, I’m convinced
I met an actual super-hero once in real life
An amazing doctor and father with a strong and loving wife



He would do things others couldn’t
Like finding cures for diseases other researchers wouldn’t
When Gotham City was a-blaze
He would show up bravely and all were amazed



I once saw him thump a chest
To awaken a man in cardiac arrest
I later saw him walk food to a Veteran
No task too big or small for this great man



But, I was fooled because heroes wear capes
This one was shirtless riding a bike with big apes
Although marveled by many as a man to know
For those close to him, James David Barry was a real-life SUPER HERO!



He left us while surfing with his mermaid wife
Driving his VW bus and living his best life
Now his legacy will continue
Because this super-hero always inspired the best in YOU!

September 15, 2022
September 15, 2022
Dave was such an amazing storyteller. I’ll remember that most about him. Whether it was about his military service or his experiences as a physician, he always had colorful stories to tell. I got to hear so many, at our annual Toxicology dinners at NACCT. But one story that will always be entrenched in my mind was quite a short one — in which we surprisingly discovered that we named our own children near-identical names (my 2 sons are Callum and Cameron). After that, we exchanged a million more stories about watching young brothers grow up together, and what they meant to us. I know that Dave had so many roles in this world, but the role that stands out for me was that he was — above all — a family man.
September 15, 2022
September 15, 2022
Dr Barry was an amazing doctor that I had the privilege of working with in the ER at Tibor Rubin VHA from 2016-2018 and most recently the week prior to his passing. He was kind and caring of not only the Veterans but also the staff. I am sure I can speak for the ER team when I say that he’ll be missed.

My condolences and prayers to the family. 

May God continue to comfort and bless you, especially in this challenging time.
September 15, 2022
September 15, 2022
I worked closely with Dave on the American Board of Emergency Medicine Board of Directors - he was respected by all for his passion, honesty, and hard work. He was always true to the mission. We will miss him so much. We are all proud to have served beside him.
September 15, 2022
September 15, 2022
We had the honor of meeting Dave and Megan at Colin and Mia’s wedding.  Our son Luke was Colin’s Best Man.  We had heard so many wonderful things about Dave and Megan from our son Luke. Especially, what an amazing father and doctor Dave was. We are heartbroken about your loss. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family.
September 15, 2022
September 15, 2022
A truly Great Physician, Great Teacher, Great Soldier and Great American.
September 14, 2022
September 14, 2022
I had the honor of having my life cross paths with Dave Barry and his family. I will miss his kindness, humor, and soft-spoken demeanor. Dave always made me feel calm and gave me a sense of belonging.

My favorite memory with Dave was going on a bike ride with him, Megan, Colin, and Cameron to downtown Long Beach to get dinner. We rode down the street on beach cruisers on a warm summer night, and I remember feeling so much joy. Joy for being lucky enough to have Colin as a friend. Joy for having the opportunity to spend the evening with such a welcoming and loving family. Joy for being able to share this precious moment with them. I experienced firsthand the beauty of the Barry family that Dave and Megan brought into being. I will cherish this memory for years to come and hope I can give my family the same love and devotion that Dave and Megan have.

Dave is and will continue to be a role model for me. I will remember him as a respected, honest, and hard-working Doctor who led by example. As a stoked and "woke" surfer who you could always rely on to be surfing out at Bolsa Chica in front of tower 22, rain or shine. As a loving and kind father who raised, with the help of Megan, two of the strongest and most hard-working young men I know, Colin and Cameron. As a man of integrity and discipline whose values inspire all to be better people. 

I will miss him dearly. 

Luke (aka lukeapotamus according to Dave)
September 14, 2022
September 14, 2022
I met Dave in 1982... I had just moved to Los Angeles to live with my Dad and Stepmom from San Diego. I was out in front of the house and Dave just stopped while riding his bike and said hello... That was the beginning of one
of deepest most honest and sincere friendships I have ever had.

It didn't matter how long it went between the times we talked... It all melted away once we said hello.. From the days with O'E 800's to Mickey's Big Mouths stuffed in our trenchcoats.. we always had a good time.

Mr and Mrs Barry were always called mom and dad... They always called me son... My parents did the same to both Dave and Adam..

So many thoughts right know...

Jumping the fence to go to Burger King during lunch... Only reason I was not arrested by the Mickey Mouse PD was because I was sick at home... I mean who gets busted by the M&M wannabe cops... Dave and Adam that's who... To Dave's credit... On the long drive home being grilled by his dad he never gave up the source of where they got the booze... As I recall both of them spent a month under house arrest.

Dave was a man of unique and special abilities. One of the only ppl I have ever met that was to fit in too any and all situations. No a quality I have ever known in anyone else.

I wish I could be at his memorial... Circumstances being what the are right now I can not.. but please know Col. James Dave Barry (US Army Ret) is never and will never be far from my thoughts.

So here's the question... Did Dave out rank his Dad ..?
September 14, 2022
September 14, 2022
From the moment I heard my heart has ached and prayers have been constant for Megan and the family. I feel my life has been blessed knowing Dave for so many years as a fellow military emergency physician. Dave was always smiling, level-headed and unflappable. He saw challenges as opportunities and always put others first. He was a humble servant leader who always made a difference. One of the best examples he set for himself and modeled for others was to live a life true to yourself, make family the priority and have fun along the way. My friend you will be sorely missed however you have left a legacy and impact that will carry on in others you have impacted in your life. Thank you for making me a better person and my life richer with your friendship. 
September 13, 2022
September 13, 2022
As a tennis friend of Karen and Megan, my heart breaks for your family. I cannot imagine what they are having to go through. Karen always speaks of her family, kids and grandkids, with love and pride. I believe James will always be in her heart and prayers. Gail Schirm
September 13, 2022
September 13, 2022
Hadn't seen Dave since graduation, then walked into my Tox rotation in 2002 and there he was, friendly and chill as always doing his fellowship. Great to see him again, now as a mentor having already completed residency. Thrilled later on to find out he took a Navy job teaching future residents, knowing the specialty was in great hands.  Almost half the junior staff I work with trained under his direction and his excellence has been self evident. He was universally loved and respected by the emerging EM leaders he has trained and us old goats as well. Rest in peace buddy, the world is a better place having known you.
September 11, 2022
September 11, 2022
Our nearly 15 years in San Antonio would not have been the same without the Barry's. We have so many fond memories of our times together -- many of which were spent at the lake, at the ranch, at the ballpark, at the ski slopes, or at each other's homes...and always with family. We will remember Dave as a kind and loving husband, father and friend. He taught me to slalom ski, he helped our son with sports, he helped my husband with countless chores, and he even came to the rescue of one of our house guests who had a medical emergency! Dave is a one-of-a-kind. We will never forget him (or his VW bus). Our hearts go out to Megan, Cameron and Colin. We are here for you! The Ramsey's
September 10, 2022
September 10, 2022
I met Dr. Barry in the Emergency Department at the Long Beach VA when I started to work there in 2019. Dr. Barry was a breath of fresh air for me as he did NOT in an single way embody any of the work place politics or had the inflated, unpleasant ego that is so endemic to the healthcare profession. Dr. Barry, with his layed-back, personable, and quite frankly super cool attitude and character was one of the best people I ever worked with. He used his medical knowledge and experience, his position, as a gift to all of his coworkers, MD residents, and patients and not as a weapon for personal gain or ego. He always made me feel safe when we worked with patients together and I would tell our patients each and every time that they were truly lucky to have Dr. Barry as their attending ED doctor. It was true!! He was an excellent physician and always really cared for the vet patients sincerely and wanted the best for them. I hope that whoever interacted with Dr. Barry knows how lucky they were! I viewed him as a mentor because he was just that, naturally and effortlessly. I will miss his wisdom, words of encouragement, professionalism, expertise, and he as a clinical mentor, teacher. Most of all, I will miss his light in the emergency room as one of the most amazing people/soul I ever met and worked with. I never really told him all this, and now I wish I would have. I will always strive to be a Dr. Barry. Rest in Peace Dr. Barry. You were taken away too soon. 
September 10, 2022
September 10, 2022
I was honored to work with Dr. Barry in facilitating transfers from the ED and he was a favorite in our office. He was always kind, informed, patient and funny. He exuded a calm assurance that I know made his patients confident they were in good hands. He will be missed at the VA. Prayers to his family who will miss him more.
September 9, 2022
September 9, 2022
I am going to miss a very lot of things about Dave, including never being able to actually go out in the surf with him. Being a frustrated ocean-lover, living in Arizona, I have always been fascinated by his lifestyle that included surfing A LOT. No, I wasn't surprised when he and Megan found a surf shop during a Maine board meeting, and rented boards! I was also intrigued by his military achievements that almost seemed incongruent with his calm and humble character. But it all made sense when he collaborated on work projects. He was disciplined, creative, wise, and a great listener. He was a GREAT editor and as we partnered with Marianne Gausche-Hill on MyEMCert, he showed this continuously. He will be missed by all who knew him but especially his wonderful life partner Megan, his children and their parnters, and of course his parents. Thank you for sharing him with the rest of us. Peace, Sam
September 9, 2022
September 9, 2022
It was an honor to have met and worked with Dr. Barry. From A former Retired Army Soldier, 1SG Olivas Adela, Sir I Salute you for All your Extraordinary work as a Soldier & Lifesaving Physician.
They say of this life… The two most Respectful Professions on this earth are Doctor for Saving Life’s and a Soldier for dying for his Country and you have demonstrated your full-loved Passion for our Country in both your Faithful Professions on this passing by Earth!!!
May our Soldier Angels Guide your path now to your next Heavenly Mission and guard and protect us on this earth.
Amen… You will be missed!!!...

My True Condolences to the Family...
Respectfully

Adela I. Olivas
MPA Medicine Outpatient HCG/VALB
September 9, 2022
September 9, 2022
It seems incomprehensible that a person that you know for such a brief amount of time can have such a magnitude of impact on your life as a whole.

I met Dave sophomore year of high school at Westchester High. We were both into skateboarding and we were both on the tennis team were both, I believe the term is, dorks.

But from the moment we met we had a connection. We were on the tennis team together, we were on the academic decathlon team together, we were on the school newspaper together, we were in student leadership together, we dejayed music at lunch together, we were in youth in government together, and we surfed together almost every day. Once we learned how.

Dave was the closest thing I ever had to a brother. I felt accepted as a member of his family and I am eternally grateful for that.

When Dave got his license, we would roll around in his pinto station wagon with faux wood paneling and later his orange datsun sedan. He was so damn proud of both of those cars. I was just happy to have a ride. Dave would blast The Clash, Minor Threat, Agent Orange, X, and incongruously Simon and Garfunkel.

We would get up at 5:00 a.m. and go surfing, and then go to academic decathlon prep, and then go through the entire school day together, and then go surf after school. We were living the dream.

We may or may not have had a run-in with the mouse's police force and spent some time in the Disneyland jail. On California scholarship federation night, for good measure. Blame it on Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill “wine”.

When we graduated high school and Dave went off to UCSD to be Superman and I went away to UC Irvine to become a history teacher we lost touch. We would see each other briefly here and there. I saw him shortly after college graduation and he explained his plan to join the Army and become a surgeon. I was not surprised with this plan. Dave always had a plan and Dave always completed that plan.

We lost touch over the next 25 years, though he was never far from my thoughts. Something silly would happen and it would remind me of something that Dave and I did or saw or saw somebody do, and I would have a fleeting moment of reminiscence. Yet I never made effort to reach out and try to find him. Today this is my greatest regret. I never got a chance to thank Dave for all that he did for me.

I would not be the man that I am today were it not for my friendship with Dave Barry over those three or four years. I feel a bit like an interloper because most of those writing these memorials were lucky enough to know Dave for much longer than I.

I did not have a Father around when I was young. Dave taught me to be a better student, he taught me to be a better friend, he taught me how to give my friend a haircut with only a clipper, he taught me to be more responsible, he taught me to be kinder to myself, he taught me to be a better surfer; but most of all he taught me to be a better man. 

For that I will be forever in his debt.

Thank you Dr. James David Barry, you will be forever in my heart.
September 9, 2022
September 9, 2022
I met Dr. Barry in Long Beach as a SME in ED. He was innovative and had a vision to improve educational opportunities for not only the residents in his care and for us as an organization. His commitment to patient care came from the core of his compassion. He always had time to help me understand medical procedures, discuss my future educational goals, and always with a smile. He kept in touch when I left Long Beach and I will miss his great advice and smile. My condolences to his loving family. He was so proud of everyone.
September 9, 2022
September 9, 2022
I have worked with Dr. Barry since he began working in the ED. What I remember most was his dedication to the ED and Veterans. Dr. Barry you taught me so much about emergency medicine. You always made time to discuss cases with me and guide me in the right direction. Dr. Barry you inspired so many that your hand in the ED will remain. When I learned of your passing I was devastated as we were just in a meeting the day before. You are greatly missed not only by myself but so many others. My prayers and condolences to the family. Thank you for all that you gave to Long Beach.
September 9, 2022
September 9, 2022
I had the privilege of working as the program coordinator four of the years that Dave was the program director at Naval Medical Center Portsmouth. Even during my job interview I knew he would be great to work for - when I came out of the room one of the other applicants said - all we could hear was you all laughing the whole time! And my first impression was correct! As others have said - he worked hard to make our EM residency the best, and he was tenacious  in working toward that goal. One year during application season he was deployed. Despite being thousands of miles away in a very different time zone, he interviewed every applicant. He was a great story teller. He always put a positive spins on stories that at the time of the event were probably really hard or scary! But in addition to his humor, his great work ethic, and his integrity as an army officer - he was just a really kind and thoughtful person. He will be missed by us all!
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
The Apple Does Not Fall Far From The Tree

Sadly, I never met Dave but know of him through a relationship I have with his mother Karen.....we play tennis together. I have always admired Karen's tenacity and love of life....have a hard time believing she really is as old as she says she is based on what she does physically in her life....tennis, hiking, backpacking.....she is one superwoman. On an emotional level she is humble, positive, grounded, and an all-around nice person. That said, after reading Dave's story about what he has accomplished, all those he helped along the way and the exemplary values he displayed......I know the apple is truly of the same variety as that of his mom.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
I still remember when Dave first came to Portsmouth to interview. We were all wondering what an Army guy wanted with a Navy Emergency Medicine residency. He gave a toxicology talk to the residents that was themed on a haunted house. We all thought "wow, who is this guy, he's amazing!" Little did we know....

Dave and I had leadership jobs in the department that at times put us at odds with each other...I would want something that was best for the department, and he would come in and let me have it with his concerns of how this would impact the residents. We at times disagreed with each other, but he ALWAYS was looking out for his residents, and doing what was right. More than almost anyone else I know, he was the guy that made the decision that was hard for him, but the right decision. When given a choice, he always took the path of integrity, and what was best for those he was responsible for. 

Dave was excellent at every thing he did. He was an incredible emergency physician, toxicologist, coworker, mentor, and friend. He was the example of fitness and health for all of us. His love for his family was the model for all. And he and Megan had the best parties!

Like so many others, I am forever changed because I was friends with Dave.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
Dave leaves behind a far reaching legacy at Naval Medical Center Portsmouth and the surrounding Tidewater area. His impact on Navy Emergency Medicine will be enduring through his many trainees over the years. Even as a staff member at NMCP, I have learned so much from him; he has made me a much better clinician too. I am forever grateful for the high benchmarks he set for us.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
After being at the VA for over 19 years, I find it odd and sad that I didn't know Dr. B.  My unique role here, is one that has placed me in front of countless numbers of returning combat soldiers/Veterans to represent this facility and its staff. In those instances, I have always passionately said "The vast majority of staff here actually do give a damn about those we care for". In speaking with staff both in the E.D. and out, Dr. B is EXACTLY the person I was talking about, one that takes the VA mission as "their" mission and demonstrates it every damn day. He validates my pride in being here and truly represents the best among us. I am grateful to his family for sharing him with us.....even those that didn't get to meet him.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
I had not seen Dave since graduating from medical school, but I will always remember as being an honest and sincere person. He was a really great guy and classmate. I’m sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy goes out to Dave's family.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
It was an honor to work with Dr. Barry at VA LB ED. He was inspiring and made me want to do better. Other ED staff and I would say that if we had to be patients in the ED, we would want him to be our doctor. As Veterans, he and I shared a few stories about the military and Germany. The last two times I saw Dr. Barry, he was riding his bike (of course) with a smile on his face. He will be missed. Thinking of his family and friends.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
I admired Dave in so many ways; as a father, husband, physician, friend, and man, he set the gold standard through his daily actions. Best of all, he was a humble example to others, not driven by ego. If I had to use one word to describe him, it would be integrity. He simply did what was right because it was the right thing to do. I am stunned by his loss - he will be greatly missed. Aj
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
My heart is breaking for this loss. Dave was such a great role model and inspiration. He gave so much to so many people and he did it with such joy. The world is a better place because of the time he spent here. Sending my love and prayers.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
So many fond memories of my friend and colleague. It seems like it was just yesterday that we were sharing margaritas at Taco Cabana after our shift together as emergency medicine residents in San Antonio.

Dave and I last crossed paths not long before the pandemic when we served together on a committee for the American Board of Emergency Medicine, and then at the last in-person oral exam before the pandemic, and we were in touch recently when he learned that I would be retiring this year. I really admired Dave's easy going but remarkably effective leadership style as our chief resident, residency faculty, residency program director and as a director for the ABEM. Dave was one of a handful of my "friends for life", and I will truly miss him.
September 8, 2022
September 8, 2022
I had the pleasure of working with and getting to know Dave over the years. I remember seeing him on his bike all the time, his form of transportation Always talking about surfing and me about my fear of sharks. His weird combo snacks he always offered me. He freely opened his home for gatherings which we all enjoyed. Dr. Barry was a true champion and advocate for our group, our patients, the Veterans and a compassionate, intelligent and wonderful doctor. Dave you will truly be missed. RIH Colonel James David Barry, M.D., US Army Ret. I salute you.
September 7, 2022
September 7, 2022
Dr. B,
I have a Million things to say but I will choose to remember him with a simple word “Great”. My heart is broken but I know Dr. B would say “hey man keep doing good things” Working in the ER with Dr.B was a breath of fresh air as he demanded those who worked with him to give % 110 to the care of others. He helped me grow in so many ways and I will miss him. Thanks Dr. B.

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April 21
April 21
Happy Birthday, my sweet man.
I thought I could sneak by this day without having a meltdown, but I should have known better. I don’t have as many as I used to, but sometimes, it’s unavoidable. 
Today, I have really been missing your ridiculous sense of humor. People always talk about your work ethic, your integrity, your sense of adventure, your courage, but sometimes I think people forget how funny you were. I miss how much you used to make me laugh. Always coming up with phrases like “wanum begum?” and “I’m going to the g-wham” and the funny nick names you gave everyone like Beezy McWeezy, and of course always reaching into your nut sack - never gets old.
I still miss you so much.
I love you, Dave Barry.
February 20
February 20
Hi Megan,
Thanks for sharing the information on Dave’s selfless gift of tissue donation
Beautiful to see how Dave continues to help patients
Dave is in all the hearts of all of us that were fortunate enough to know him
Sean
February 12
February 12
A few weeks ago, I received a letter from the organ and tissue donor service providing me with the details of Dave's donations. I haven't had the strength to share it until now. Imagining his beautiful body being dissected into hundreds of tiny pieces just wrecks me, but I know Dave wouldn't have wanted it any other way. He was the most selfless person I've ever known. If ever there was a way to help or save another person, he wouldn't think twice about sacrificing himself for the good of others. I've taken a photo of the letter and I've added it to the gallery for anyone wishing to read it.

I love you, Dave Barry.
His Life

Dave's Life

September 6, 2022
James David Barry had a remarkable career as a Father, Husband, Son, Brother, Emergency Physician, Medical Toxicologist, Soldier, Professor, and Mentor and will be remembered for the love and patience that he devoted to his family, students, and colleagues. 

Dave graduated University of California San Diego (UCSD) in 1991 with a Bachelor's in Bio-Physics where he was a member of the rowing team for 4 years in which he captained for 2 years. He met his future wife Megan through the rowing team and it remained a part of their life throughout the years.

Following college, Dave was accepted into the Uniformed Services University of Health Sciences and enlisted into the Army to begin both his medical and military career. Dave & Megan's first son, Cameron, was born in 1995 during Dave's internship. A few years later, Dave's first deployment was to Bosnia during which he was the only flight surgeon in his Brigade of the 1st Armor Division in 1997. In 1998, Dave & Megan had their 2nd son, Colin. After completing his Emergency Medicine residency at San Antonio Uniformed Services Health Education Consortium (Brooke Army Medical Center [BAMC]) in 2001, he was accepted into a Medical Toxicology Fellowship at UCSD.

Now a Major in the Army, Dave was deployed to Iraq in 2003 with Task Force Ironhorse, 4th Infantry Division and once again served as a flight surgeon supporting Operation Iraqi Freedom. During this time Dave identified and created a successful process to combat a rare disease, leishmaniasis, which later became the theater-wide standard. This act of selfless service would later earn him the Bronze Star, one of the highest awards of accomplishment in the Army. Continuing to support Soldier's from the rear and ever invested in combating the Global War on Terror, in 2005 Dave implemented a toxicology teleconsultation service for the Department of Defense, which he remained the Director of through his Army career. 

Continuing his combined Army/Medical career, Dave was promoted to Lieutenant Colonel (LTC) in 2007 and served as the Assistant Program Director and Research Director at BAMC. While serving as the Research Director of the Department of Defense's largest Emergency Medicine Residency, he led the residents and faculty to the most prolific 3 year publication output in the 20-plus year history of the program (more than 140 articles and textbook chapters since 2006). In 2008, Dave was deployed with Task Force 10, Bagdad, Iraq where he served as the Chief of Emergency Medicine.  LTC Barry served at the busiest Combat Support Hospital in the Iraqi Theater of Operations and lead his team to achieve an overall trauma patient survival rate of 96.9% and overall patient survival rate of 98.9%. 

After returning from deployment, Dave was offered and accepted a Program Director position in Portsmouth, Virginia at a Navy Hospital (Naval Medical Center Portsmouth [NMCP]). While serving as the Program Director for one of the top 10 of 145 programs nationally, Dave continued to be a national leader in both the civilian and military emergency medicine/toxicology communities. Always a proponent for bettering the leaders of tomorrow, Dave orchestrated multiple new rotations (Pediatrics Intensive Care Unit, Anesthesia, and Emergency Medicine) at high volume civilian medical centers to maximize resident exposure to acuity critical care and airway management challenges.

In 2013, Dave was promoted to Colonel (COL) and continued to work to turn his program into the premier military training platform in would become, mentoring hundreds of students and residents in the process. In 2014, COL Barry was deployed a final time, supporting Operation Enduring Freedom with a Joint Special Operations Task Force. During this time he served as the Officer-in-Charge and Senior Medical Provider where he personally administered emergency trauma care to both Task Force personnel and local nationals alike. 

Returning in 2014, Dave continued to exemplify excellence at the highest level, maintaining a 100% written and oral board pass rate for every graduate under his direction. He served as a senior leader at the command and national levels through the following positions: Gradual Medical Education Committee, Medical Education Pillar Champion, member of four national Emergency Medicine committees, and a member of the editorial board for 7 peer-review journals. In his final Officer Evaluation Report from the Army, he was recommended for "Multi-Star Potential" and described as "a model of military officership and medical leadership.. ..[He] represented military medicine in an exemplary fashion at the highest national levels, creating a culture which thrived under his inspirational leadership style focused on constant preparation, focused execution, and continuous evaluation."

Retiring from the Army in 2016, Dave & Megan moved to Long Beach where they bought a historic house near the beach and worked to turn into a beautiful home. Not ready to retire, he began working at the Long Beach VA Medical Center as the Assistant Chief of Emergency Medicine, wanting to continue to serve the underserved, despite having offers from numerous esteemed hospitals. He also accepted a Professor position in the Department of Emergency Medicine at University of California, Irvine, continuing to teach the next generation of healers. In 2020, he was elected to the American Board of Emergency Medicine (ABEM) Board and was the co-editor for MyEMCert. 

Jon Auten, a current Navy Emergency Medicine Program Director wrote, "I can say for my part that Dave was so incredibly influential to me as a young academic physician, but more important.. he helped me as a young father. He impressed on me early on as an academic faculty that the work was important, but it was meaningless if it came at the cost of my family. He was honest in the fact that pursuit of balance was imperfect, but more important than anything else that I would do during the early part of my career. I'm incredibly grateful for him and devastated by his loss."

We will all miss Dave.

Dave's Passing

April 3, 2023
I know there are many of you still wondering what exactly happened.  The truth is, we will never know for sure.  Dave and I were out surfing on a beautiful Southern California morning when his life came abruptly to an end.  The autopsy was inconclusive, he appeared to be a healthy 54-year-old man.  However, he had been having irregular heart rhythms for about 9 months.  It was something he was concerned about and had seen a cardiologist.  They opted to keep an eye on it, but didn't take any action.  So, our best guess is that he had a fatal arrhythmia. Anyone that knew Dave, knew how committed he was to his work and he just couldn't seem to slow down, especially during the pandemic.  I truly believe this was his downfall.  His good friend Chris Fuege said it best, "Even that physique couldn't keep up with that drive."  I gives me comfort knowing we were together, he was doing what he loved and he went quickly and painlessly.  He worked so hard to save others and to relieve their suffering, I believe he earned that beautiful exit.  I just wish it hadn't come so soon.  I hope you all will think of Dave any time you look out at the ocean and see pelicans.  Megan
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May 30, 2023
We were lucky enough to know the Barry family when they were stationed in Virginia. Our boys met and became friends when Devon and Colin were in middle school. The Barrys were the nicest and always so open with their home. I was always so amazed at how “California” the family was. While I certainly knew Megan better at moms, Dave was always such a nice guy and super fun. We are so sad to hear the news and the world has lost a true angel on earth. Dave will be missed and Megan we are here for anything you need. Big hugs and love to you all.

Dave aka Dr. Dave

September 8, 2022
We were lucky enough to meet the Barry Family back in 2001 when my daughter, Schade and Cameron were in 1st grade together at Loma Portal Elementary. I remember Dave rolling up to our house in his VW bus, always with the biggest smile on his face to drop the girls off after a trip to the beach or some other adventure they so graciously included them in. Megan and Dave are the kind of people you meet and you just know how much they love, care and respect each other and their boys, Cameron and Colin. We only had 2 short years of Point Loma fun together but we remained friends after they moved to San Antonio, etc! We spent many fun summers camping at the beach at Camp Pendleton. Dave would cook the kids hot dogs for breakfast and let them climb on his shoulders. He was always so good with the kids and everyone else as well!  The Barry’s were our gracious hosts when we visited them in Virginia Beach. We definitely felt like one of the family because that is just how they are. We even had a fun meet up at San Francisco State when Cameron and Schade were looking at colleges. We had an amazing dim sum lunch with their whole family afterwards that was so good. One thing I always remember is how good Megan and Dave were with ordering food. It’s like an art form. And their choices were always stellar! The last time I saw Dave was in June after Megan and I had met for a quick walk in Liberty Station on their way back to Long Beach. He was taking our photo in front of the “USS Neversail” and was trying to get the shot just right. I just remember us all laughing and Dave had the biggest smile on his face, as always! We are so grateful for our 10+ years of friendship with Megan, Dave, Cameron and Colin. Dave was an amazing husband, father and friend and knowing him was truly a gift we will treasure always. We will keep him in our hearts forever and are eternally thankful for the memories of him that we have to cherish.

The Apple Does Not Fall Far From The Tree

September 7, 2022
Sadly, I never met Dave but know of him through a relationship I have with his mother Karen.....we play tennis together. I have always admired Karen's tenacity and love of life....have a hard time believing she really is as old as she says she is based on what she does physically in her life....tennis, hiking, backpacking.....she is one superwoman. On an emotional level she is humble, positive, grounded, and an all-around nice person. That said, after reading Dave's story about what he has accomplished, all those he helped along the way and the exemplary values he displayed......I know the apple is truly of the same variety as that of his mom.

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