ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Janey Fuller. We will remember her forever.
Posted by Donna Hawley on July 5, 2022
An Open Letter to Janey:
My Dearest Janey,
This time of year is especially difficult as well as so awesome to those of us who love and miss you. I know it is just a veil that separates us for this little part of eternity…we are left missing you on this lesser side of God’s creation, while you have passed over to His eternity!

We find ourselves a lot empty at times…I can only imagine that for you, you now know all the things we wish we knew, but can’t. Ours is the ‘especially difficult’ part of days like today, and yours…YOURS is the ‘AWESOME’, all the time. When we see each other again, I imagine it will most likely seem to you like only a moment of time has passed. For us, so many years and days have now gone by. I can’t say it has gotten any easier being here without you for any of us…surely harder for those who knew you more than I did. For me, it isn’t easier, just ‘different’ than this time last year.

I have learned that each day given us is more precious than the last! There is no time to waste, especially in sadness. Because God knew what He was doing, even if I didn’t, and he gave me what few and precious moments I had with you here, knowing that they would be enough for me to know how to follow in your footsteps with the precious little family we now share. It will never be the same for them as having us both present in their lives, but I am trying so hard to be JUST ENOUGH until we are all together again.

I had another ‘glimpse’ into your ‘heart’ this year. Little Otto’s First Birthday was celebrated at, what I call, The Fuller Family Farm ( isn’t it the MOST fun to say three words in a row that begin with the same letter?!?)!!! Anyway, lest I digress, I WAS SO EXCITED when I got the invitation…to be able to finally go to the ‘Fuller Family Farm’ I had been hearing about for over five years, since Jacob had brought Jen into our family. I knew it was a special place to you, and I just wanted to be able to see it just once…

And, as I expected, you were there, waiting for us…in all the beauty that is there. It was an incredibly beautiful day that almost seemed surreal…certainly sublime and very VERY SPECIAL!!! You were there also, in each of our hearts, as well. I will NEVER forget that day. A perfect day in a place that i knew perfectly well that you loved perfectly.

This past weekend, Gary and I went to a Memorial Service for a very dear friend of ours who we have known for most of Jacob’s life. And, as at all the many such services I have attended since the day you passed, you came into my mind. Again, both difficult to bear yet awesome at the same time. I found myself thinking about how our friend, Pat Carrick, had the opportunity to live out all, what most would describe as, ALL of her years on this earth…all of her probationary state, in FULL. She was 91 years old, had been married 72 years, had 30 grandchildren AND 30 Great grandchildren. She was accomplished in so many disciplines, loved music and teaching, cooking, baking and writing. AND SHE LOVED HER HEAVENLY FATHER, and everyone one she met KNEW that!!!

I started feeling sad that your life, Janey, was seemingly cut WAY SHORT…certainly by most standards these days by MANY years. And then, just as I was about to feel angry about these years lost, I was reminded that to God, all TIME is eternal and He has seen everything about every one of His children…and certainly, you are a child of God. Who am I to be angry that He took you to Himself before I, I, Donna Hawley thought your purpose in Him on this earth was over.

So, dear sister and friend, I am still here for what time God deems necessary for me to experience and endure. You are with Him now, and have knowledge I can only hope for. I will continue to try and do His will for our little family we share…I KNOW I make lots of mistakes and miss opportunities. Sometimes I imagine you shaking your head…but I promise all I do and say is out of love and respect for the legacy you have left behind.

One more thing before I close out this letter, dear one…this morning, before I got out of bed, I was looking again at some photos Jen had sent me. There was our beautiful, sweet yet tough as nails Annabelle, all dressed up in her ‘twirly’ patriotic dress, all red white and blue, face paint and all…I exclaimed out loud, smiling all the while, “JUST   LOOK at OUR GIRL, Janey!!!”.
And I KNOW you heard me!

I love and MISS YOU,
Donna

Posted by Becky Roebling on June 27, 2022
Grief. It is a strange experience. It takes on many forms and yet it is the same. It is something I don't think ever goes away fully. Maybe we just learn to accept it as a new part of who we are.  We somehow learn it's rhythm and figure out how to dance a new dance with grief leading or following depending on the moment. Sometimes grief stands at a distance and whispers memories on the wind. Sometimes grief comes and silently stands beside you unexpectedly. It comes in a fleeting memory, the sight of a familiar place, or a scent that instantly takes you to another time. Sometimes I wrap up in the grief and allow myself to feel it fully. 

I talk about Janey several times a week. Sometimes I talk about something she said that contained a beautiful life lesson as I try to pass that wisdom along to my kids or other friends. Sometimes I just cry because I miss her so much and wish she was still physically here- totally for selfish reasons. Sometimes I talk about her and smile. Often times I "talk to her" and smile.

I still purpose it in my heart to live a full life and to be as kind as she was. I want her to be proud of me and I cannot wait to see her again. 

 Janey left her mark on this world by being genuine and loving. May we all try to emulate that and fill our sphere of influence with the same thoughtful acts of service, warm hugs, and genuine joy that Janey so freely gave to all of us!

While I miss her all the time, my heart is learning to smile along side the ache. Maybe they can coexist. Mourning and grief are Just like the ocean waves that ebb and flow.

blessings to all-
Becky
Posted by Kathy Conlee on June 26, 2022
Anyone that knew Janey well will always remember her. Her sweet spirit was one that could never be forgotten. Her smile was always so warm and genuine, her laugh contagious and her hugs were the best of anyone I have ever known. She was never the first one to let go of a hug first. I will always remember what a special friend she was and how she loved unconditionally. This world is not the same without her, and I am very thankful to know that I will meet with her in our eternal life. Surely, she will greet me with one of her special hugs. Until then.....I will remember Janey.
Posted by Janey's family on June 22, 2022
Today, on the anniversary of our missing, we remember Mom, Grandma, Janey with our 4th simple memorial service to honor.  We indeed remember and do all that we can to daily honor a beautiful soul and the wonderful memories of our love ~ and her incredible love and devotion for us.   Life would be different for sure if she were in the here and now ~ as she made a difference in so many lives ~ We miss, we love and we remember.
Posted by Donna Hawley on October 26, 2021
Where to start…when I met Janey for the first time was when we were invited to go out to dinner with our son, Jacob, his girlfriend, Jennifer and her parents. I knew that this beautiful young woman we had spent a little time with was already very important to Jacob. I first learned of their relationship after about their third date. Jacob told me, “Momma, she it the sweetest person I have ever met!”. So meeting Janey and Doug for the first time was a really BIG DEAL.

But getting to know them that evening was so natural. They both put us right at ease…that’s what was so special about Janey. She made you feel as though you were the most important person in her life at the moment. By the end of dinner, I could tell that I had found a friend in Janey.

A relationship became an engagement, and a brief engagement led to a wedding. The more time spent with Janey the more thankful I became that she was to be a ‘second Mother’ to our son. Her previous prayers for the man that would become Jen’s husband covered him as much as my own had, all of his life. I could see the love and respect she had for Jacob. I knew that I would find our friendship deepening as our two children were finding their way as husband and wife.

I looked forward to the many family times we might share together as Jen and Jacob’s family would grow…being Grandmother’s together to their soon to be, absolutely extraordinary and precious children…

I wanted so to share in these things with this lovely woman I was only beginning to know…and yet I am blessed by the fact that I have the opportunity to know her through the life of her sweet and lovely daughter she so loving raised.

I see Janey in Jen and in Annabelle, too! So many times, when spending time with them, I find myself thinking, ‘Awww! Janey would just LOVE this!!!’. Although Janey is no longer with us in body, she is with us in Spirit…

…and I really think she must know how very much I love her, even though I had a very short season to know her in this life. I miss you Janey.

Posted by Patty McKnelly on October 25, 2021
As the 2 youngest in our family Janey and I shared many things. Not only did we share a bedroom but we shared a bed all the way through jr. high school. We shared toys, clothes, shoes, and the secrets that little girls have. In high school we shared a car. I was her maid of honor and she was my matron of honor. We were pregnant with our first born at the same time.
As young girls we walked the aisle at the First Baptist church in Birch Tree, MO and got saved together and baptized together the following Sunday. As life moved on and we got busy with our own families I fell away from the church, I still had my faith but wasn't being active at all. Janey nagged at me and finally convInced me to change that. I always hated when she won at anything (cause she always! did) but this time was a huge exception. I now have a church I call home and am very active in it and couldn't be happier!
And its because of her strong faith that I know she had in God and her salvation that I take comfort knowing when God calls me home we will once again be together sitting at Jesus' feet singing our praises to Him!
Posted by Erin Ruhlman on October 24, 2021
Janey and I met when I was in my early twenties and we both attended Metro Baptist Church. She befriended me as I’m usually pretty shy and she was just so sweet and lovely and Easy to talk to. I loved seeing her and chatting on Sundays! She told me I would probably get along really well with her daughter, Jen, and she couldn’t have been more right! Jen and I became fast friends and are the best of friend to this day, thanks in large part, to Janey 
Janey always had a huge smile and a big hug for me (and everyone) every time she saw me and I’m not exaggerating when I say that it was therapeutic to my soul to be around her. She (along with Jen) was there for me and talked me through some of the hardest times of my life. We had deep conversations about the Bible and our faith But also Jen, Janey and I had so much fun just playing games, watching shows, singing and goofing around in the basement of the platte city house, going out to eat or going on long walks together.
Janey was like a second mother to me and I miss her terribly. I think about her often and still cry thinking about the hole that losing her has left in so many of us.
BUT she is still very much alive in our hearts and minds and memories. There are things that I do differently or think about differently because of Janey. I want to make others around me feel as loved and special as Janey made me feel. Such a selfless and beautiful and one of kind gem of a woman. You will never be forgotten Janey.
Posted by Becky Roebling on August 6, 2021
Janey is the person I was closest to. I have been blessed with sisters and many close friends but she was and is the best friend (aside from my husband) I have ever had. I think of her multiple times a day. I miss her to my depths.

Janey and I met during a divine appointment! I was a founding member of a pregnancy resource center ( crisis pregnancy center) originally located in Platte City, Mo. We offered a free training day for anyone interested in volunteering or just wanting to learn about the center. Janey attended by herself. I cannot remember how we began talking but it was an instant connection. I found myself looking forward to the breaks so we could continue visiting.  Years later, we often joked about how it seems we had never not known each other. It truly felt that way. I consider her my sister and “soul mate” friend.

When we were together, she would fill me in on all the details of Jen and Steph. She gushed over the men they chose. She made my heart smile with her enthusiasm and anticipation. I remember specifically the day she and Doug were to meet with Jay. Alone. She was nervous and a bit giddy. It was such a fun day to be with her.

We talked daily- usually a couple times at least. We sent memes and texts.  We had an ongoing game of Words with Friends for years! I rarely won those games by the way! We met for breakfast weekly. Then we figured out we just needed to plan at least half a day because breakfast wasn’t long enough! (We did tip well since we usually sat for a couple of hours )

As time passed, our time together turned into outings. We could talk endlessly about our faith, what we were learning, what we wanted to learn and sometimes we’d head off to find a book or place that might help.

Janey encouraged me in my walk as a wife and mother. She said things that I carry to this day and have repeated not only to myself, but have been able to bless others with her words of love and wisdom. 

Janey inspires me to be a better version of myself. Her love of people is pure. She is kind and genuine. She taught me to embrace life in new ways.

I aspire to be more like her. Though our friendship seemed to have no beginning and it will have no end, the time between now and our reunion is peppered with both joy and grief. The loss of her physical self had been profound and left a huge hole in my life. 

What a blessing to know and be known in such a way that time and separation never dim the connection. I miss Janey. I look forward to seeing her again! I imagine we will talk and laugh just like we did here- only it will be perfected!

Posted by Jay Ruehter on August 4, 2021
I first met Janey in Springfield, MO a few months prior to dating Steph in 2007. 
Steph and I were friends at the time and she had invited me to lunch with her and her mom after I had finished class for the afternoon.

I recall being met with her huge smile and a hug so tight that some people might consider it ‘minor assault’…no charges were filed. Shortly thereafter, Steph and I began our courtship…I know that Janey likely played a small role in convincing Steph to give me a chance.

I am blessed with the perfect mother-in-law in Janey. From the evening I met Janey and Doug at that small Mexican restaurant in Clinton, MO to ask for their blessing, to this very day, I have in Janey a 2nd mother who always welcomed, loved, cared, respected, and treated me as one of her own. 

Memories ~
1. Her love and dedication to the Creator.
2. The love and admiration of her family.
3. 99% of the time she laughed at my jokes…not many people do
4. She loved playing games and was extremely competitive…don’t let the smile fool you!
5. Jokingly calling her “Janice.”
6. As we departed, she’d always wave goodbye from the garage entrance until we were out of sight.
7. The look on her face when we informed her she’d become Grandma Janey.
8. Her playing the guitar
9. Singing La La Lu to Camille
10. Her infectious smile and laugh

Janey’s love, kindness, empathy, and admiration for her family and others will always be something I am grateful to have witnessed.
Posted by Kathy Conlee on July 30, 2021
This is Trey, see my wife Kathy's message and ditto the family stuff for me! A great and loyal friend, always ready for a hug!
I have fond memories of Janey from the choir days at the Methodist church in Platte City. I was the director and she a faithful second soprano. She even sang the tenor part in a trio one Christmas! She loved to sing and it showed on her face. She would especially light up when we sang the old hymns that she learned while going to church with her grandparents during summer vacation.
I know she is singing in that heavenly choir above and waiting for us all to join her! But until that glorious day we'll keep her in our hearts and in the memories of great times together.
Posted by Kathy Conlee on July 30, 2021
I met Janey at the public pool in Platte City when they had just moved into the area. She was the one that introduced herself and began the conversation. My first impression was what a sweet, kind and caring lady she was. They later joined our church and we became church & choir buddies. We also tried our hand at tennis doubles when the guys would cooperate and hit the balls to us instead of making us run all over the court. Our children became friends as well so we visited together often, making wonderful memories.
When we moved from one house in town to another just outside of town they came over to enjoy bonfires after clearing brush. She also came to help on moving day asking how to help. I told her if she really wanted to help, she could iron curtains (bunches of them), but I wouldn't blame her if she choose not to. It was a hot & tiring task which she did for several hours all alone as we were all over doing other chores. What a sweetie!
As our children grew older and life got busier we didn't see each other as often but whenever we did, we just picked up where we left on the last visit. She was a true friend and inspired me to try to be a better friend myself. Her sweet spirit lives on in each of us that remember her love of God, family & friends. I still miss her special hugs and gentle laugh. So many good times and just not enough of it. We had planned on being friends until we both grew old...guess God had other plans for her. She will always be a very special friend that I will forever carry in my heart.
Posted by Jennifer Hawley on July 25, 2021
   My mom was one of the very best moms around…She was most certainly the best mom for me. I never doubted her love for me or her honest enjoyment of spending time with me…from when I was a little girl to our last years together as adult best friends. From being our Daisy/Brownie troop leader, “Room Mom” in our classrooms, VBS Music director, parent weekly volunteer, bringing lunch to school, making us costumes, shopping together, helping with projects or homework, coming to every ball game or recital we were ever in, sending me care packages to college when I was only 30 min away. Any friend of mine was always a friend of hers.
   My mom was my number one prayer warrior. I know she prayed for Jake, Annabelle and Otto long before she even knew them. I am so thankful for the two years after college that I lived at home and the time being single in my 20s. I didn’t appreciate it at the time as much as I should have because it was hard waiting to find Jake …but looking back, I am so thankful to have had that time to spend with my parents. The two of us watched so many shows together, sang together, danced together, played games together, worked on projects together, laughed and laughed, went to movies, graded papers, put up bulletin boards. She was so very creative and always helped me come up with new ideas for my home or classroom. Our trip to Israel during that time was one of my very favorites. And she absolutely loved it. And what a blessing to have been able to go wedding dress shopping, cake tasting, to alteration appointments, make decorations and to have her help walk me down the aisle for my wedding. We created some wonderful memories. It was a true treasure and gift to have her in my life…as my mom.
Posted by Janey's family on July 8, 2021

Louise Jane O’Banion Fuller (Janey) passed from Life to Life on Friday, June 22, 2018.

A woman of faith and valor will be missed by so many until the reuniting in the everlasting. Her beautiful essence and the many, many lovely memories will sustain us until then.  Her family thanks her caregivers and her many incredible friends for the love and support during the time where she exemplified incomparable bravery, elegant poise, and deep care for others. Her legacy is described, in part, in Proverbs 31; that of a devoted wife and daughter, a loving mother and grandmother, supportive and devoted sister, and champion of her countless friends. Those of us who had the privilege to know Janey were, and are, inspired and uplifted by her passion for life, which naturally resulted in one that was very well lived. We cherish the memories of vacations and visits, of family dinners, and her lovely grace in social groups. And with forever gratitude, we remember all the hugs, kisses, help, her giving spirit, guitar playing around the campfire, choirs, her love of music and dance, of worship, of the many games that she always played to win, her devotion to her mother, father, sisters and their families, her love of the Hebrew language and the deep insights she found there and in The Torah and the Scriptures. A Tree of Life; The symbol which she wore as a reminder of the deep and real faith that was always her refuge.

Marvelous blessing smiled upon her family with her ‘Grands’ and how she loves Camille Louise, Brecken James, Annabelle Jane and Otto Jacob. They are easy to love for sure. She must smile and cheer them on daily as she admires them and who they are.

Those of us who knew her best saw her best, which is rich and plentiful. Janey is patient and kind and truly one of the most loving souls to which the breath of life was ever imparted. Family mattered. Once her husband wrote her a simple note that was packed away with all the others in drawers or boxes, that simply said, “A great mother you are, and the proof is daily on display in your children.” Jennifer and Stephanie are extraordinary ladies for sure thanks to her great love and care.  Janey read to them from the time that they were babies. Regular trips to the library were fun outings for two toddlers. This was but one of a million examples of how she made a difference (and still does) for those two beautiful souls to whom her love has no limits. Perhaps that will explain in part (beyond the Divine) how they were blessed with such wonderful and exemplary husbands for which she has deep gratitude. And so, it is here, FAMILY, where her time on earth will live for generations.  With that as a backdrop, Doug said that Janey was the wind beneath his wings. Perhaps this says it best. 
An excellent wife, who can find her?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.  (from Proverbs 31)

Janey was born on June 25, 1960, and was married to Douglas Fuller on August 2, 1980. Daughter, Sister, Wife, Mom, and Grandma, Janey lived a great life of Faith, Family, Friends, and Fun. We are thankful for her virtuous example. Never to be forgotten by all whom she knew was her warmth, her smile, her love, her charity, and her hospitality. 

She was preceded in death by her grandparents; her mother, Mary Lee O’Banion; aunt, Sandra O’Banion; and nephew Kenneth Ryan Webb.
She is survived by her father, Dr. Jerry (Midge) O’Banion, husband Douglas Fuller; daughters, Jennifer (Jacob) Hawley and Stephanie (James) Ruehter; two grandchildren, Camille Louise and Brecken James Ruehter; (followed soon by Annabelle Jane and Otto Jacob Hawley), sisters, Jerri Lynn (Kyle) Webb, Gail O’Banion and Patty (Dr. Skip) McKnelly.

Visitation is from 1:00 p.m. to 2:45 p.m. Sunday, June 24, 2018, at Mt. Moriah, Newcomer and Freeman Funeral Home, 10507 Holmes Road, Kansas City, Missouri 64131. For family and close friends a graveside service to follow in Mount Moriah Cemetery.
• FAMILY
• Mary Lee O'Banion (deceased), Mother
• Kenneth Ryan Webb (deceased), Nephew
• Sandra O'Banion (deceased), Aunt
• Douglas Fuller, Husband
• Dr. Jerry (Midge) O'Banion, Father
• Jennifer (Jacob) Hawley, Daughter
• Stephanie (James) Ruehter, Daughter
• Camille Louise and Brecken James Ruehter, Grandchildren
• (followed soon by Annabelle Jane and Otto Jacob Hawley),
• Jerri Lynn (Kyle) Webb, Sister
• Gail O'Banion, Sister
• Patty (Dr. Skip) McKnelly, Sister

Pallbearers:  Mr. Ted Hanman, 30-year friend (Elizabeth Hanman was one of Janey’s ‘Life’ friends & the Hanmans and Fullers shared so many special occasions and memories), Mr. Rick Lincoln 30 year family friend (The Lincolns and Fullers shared so many special occasions and memories), Mr. David Fuller, brother-in-law, and 40-year friend, Mr. Trey Conlee, Janey’s music director and 30-year friend (Kathy Conlee is one of Janey’s ‘Life’ friends and the Conlee's and Fullers shared so many special occasions and  memories), Mr. Jeff Fuller, brother-in-law, and 40-year friend, Mr. Michael Hanman, (Janey and Michael shared a loving mutual admiration from the time of his birth to Elizabeth and Ted, as she also did with Peter & Lydia Hanman.)

We remember Mom, Grandma Janey, Sister, Daughter, Friend
In the rising of the sun and in its going down, we remember 
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of the winter, we remember 
In the opening of buds and in the rebirth of spring, we remember 
In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn, we remember 
In the beginning of the year and when it ends, we remember 
When we are weary and in need of strength, we remember 
When we are lost and sick at heart, we remember 
When we have joys we yearn to share, we remember 
So long as we live, she too shall live, for she is now a part of us as we
remember 

To everything there is a time:
A time to be born and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance ...
A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to lose and a time to seek;
A time to rend and a time to sew;
A time to keep silent and a time to speak.  Ecclesiastes 3

             

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Posted by Donna Hawley on July 5, 2022
An Open Letter to Janey:
My Dearest Janey,
This time of year is especially difficult as well as so awesome to those of us who love and miss you. I know it is just a veil that separates us for this little part of eternity…we are left missing you on this lesser side of God’s creation, while you have passed over to His eternity!

We find ourselves a lot empty at times…I can only imagine that for you, you now know all the things we wish we knew, but can’t. Ours is the ‘especially difficult’ part of days like today, and yours…YOURS is the ‘AWESOME’, all the time. When we see each other again, I imagine it will most likely seem to you like only a moment of time has passed. For us, so many years and days have now gone by. I can’t say it has gotten any easier being here without you for any of us…surely harder for those who knew you more than I did. For me, it isn’t easier, just ‘different’ than this time last year.

I have learned that each day given us is more precious than the last! There is no time to waste, especially in sadness. Because God knew what He was doing, even if I didn’t, and he gave me what few and precious moments I had with you here, knowing that they would be enough for me to know how to follow in your footsteps with the precious little family we now share. It will never be the same for them as having us both present in their lives, but I am trying so hard to be JUST ENOUGH until we are all together again.

I had another ‘glimpse’ into your ‘heart’ this year. Little Otto’s First Birthday was celebrated at, what I call, The Fuller Family Farm ( isn’t it the MOST fun to say three words in a row that begin with the same letter?!?)!!! Anyway, lest I digress, I WAS SO EXCITED when I got the invitation…to be able to finally go to the ‘Fuller Family Farm’ I had been hearing about for over five years, since Jacob had brought Jen into our family. I knew it was a special place to you, and I just wanted to be able to see it just once…

And, as I expected, you were there, waiting for us…in all the beauty that is there. It was an incredibly beautiful day that almost seemed surreal…certainly sublime and very VERY SPECIAL!!! You were there also, in each of our hearts, as well. I will NEVER forget that day. A perfect day in a place that i knew perfectly well that you loved perfectly.

This past weekend, Gary and I went to a Memorial Service for a very dear friend of ours who we have known for most of Jacob’s life. And, as at all the many such services I have attended since the day you passed, you came into my mind. Again, both difficult to bear yet awesome at the same time. I found myself thinking about how our friend, Pat Carrick, had the opportunity to live out all, what most would describe as, ALL of her years on this earth…all of her probationary state, in FULL. She was 91 years old, had been married 72 years, had 30 grandchildren AND 30 Great grandchildren. She was accomplished in so many disciplines, loved music and teaching, cooking, baking and writing. AND SHE LOVED HER HEAVENLY FATHER, and everyone one she met KNEW that!!!

I started feeling sad that your life, Janey, was seemingly cut WAY SHORT…certainly by most standards these days by MANY years. And then, just as I was about to feel angry about these years lost, I was reminded that to God, all TIME is eternal and He has seen everything about every one of His children…and certainly, you are a child of God. Who am I to be angry that He took you to Himself before I, I, Donna Hawley thought your purpose in Him on this earth was over.

So, dear sister and friend, I am still here for what time God deems necessary for me to experience and endure. You are with Him now, and have knowledge I can only hope for. I will continue to try and do His will for our little family we share…I KNOW I make lots of mistakes and miss opportunities. Sometimes I imagine you shaking your head…but I promise all I do and say is out of love and respect for the legacy you have left behind.

One more thing before I close out this letter, dear one…this morning, before I got out of bed, I was looking again at some photos Jen had sent me. There was our beautiful, sweet yet tough as nails Annabelle, all dressed up in her ‘twirly’ patriotic dress, all red white and blue, face paint and all…I exclaimed out loud, smiling all the while, “JUST   LOOK at OUR GIRL, Janey!!!”.
And I KNOW you heard me!

I love and MISS YOU,
Donna

Posted by Becky Roebling on June 27, 2022
Grief. It is a strange experience. It takes on many forms and yet it is the same. It is something I don't think ever goes away fully. Maybe we just learn to accept it as a new part of who we are.  We somehow learn it's rhythm and figure out how to dance a new dance with grief leading or following depending on the moment. Sometimes grief stands at a distance and whispers memories on the wind. Sometimes grief comes and silently stands beside you unexpectedly. It comes in a fleeting memory, the sight of a familiar place, or a scent that instantly takes you to another time. Sometimes I wrap up in the grief and allow myself to feel it fully. 

I talk about Janey several times a week. Sometimes I talk about something she said that contained a beautiful life lesson as I try to pass that wisdom along to my kids or other friends. Sometimes I just cry because I miss her so much and wish she was still physically here- totally for selfish reasons. Sometimes I talk about her and smile. Often times I "talk to her" and smile.

I still purpose it in my heart to live a full life and to be as kind as she was. I want her to be proud of me and I cannot wait to see her again. 

 Janey left her mark on this world by being genuine and loving. May we all try to emulate that and fill our sphere of influence with the same thoughtful acts of service, warm hugs, and genuine joy that Janey so freely gave to all of us!

While I miss her all the time, my heart is learning to smile along side the ache. Maybe they can coexist. Mourning and grief are Just like the ocean waves that ebb and flow.

blessings to all-
Becky
Posted by Kathy Conlee on June 26, 2022
Anyone that knew Janey well will always remember her. Her sweet spirit was one that could never be forgotten. Her smile was always so warm and genuine, her laugh contagious and her hugs were the best of anyone I have ever known. She was never the first one to let go of a hug first. I will always remember what a special friend she was and how she loved unconditionally. This world is not the same without her, and I am very thankful to know that I will meet with her in our eternal life. Surely, she will greet me with one of her special hugs. Until then.....I will remember Janey.
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Janey

Louise Jane O’Banion Fuller (Janey) passed from Life to Life on Friday, June 22, 2018.

A woman of faith and valor will be missed by so many until the reuniting in the everlasting. Her beautiful essence and the many, many lovely memories will sustain us until then.  Her family thanks her caregivers and her many incredible friends for the love and support during the time where she exemplified incomparable bravery, elegant poise, and deep care for others. Her legacy is described, in part, in Proverbs 31; that of a devoted wife and daughter, a loving mother and grandmother, supportive and devoted sister, and champion of her countless friends. Those of us who had the privilege to know Janey were, and are, inspired and uplifted by her passion for life, which naturally resulted in one that was very well lived. We cherish the memories of vacations and visits, of family dinners, and her lovely grace in social groups. And with forever gratitude, we remember all the hugs, kisses, help, her giving spirit, guitar playing around the campfire, choirs, her love of music and dance, of worship, of the many games that she always played to win, her devotion to her mother, father, sisters and their families, her love of the Hebrew language and the deep insights she found there and in The Torah and the Scriptures. A Tree of Life; The symbol which she wore as a reminder of the deep and real faith that was always her refuge.

Marvelous blessing smiled upon her family with her ‘Grands’ and how she loves Camille Louise, Brecken James, Annabelle Jane and Otto Jacob. They are easy to love for sure. She must smile and cheer them on daily as she admires them and who they are.

Those of us who knew her best saw her best, which is rich and plentiful. Janey is patient and kind and truly one of the most loving souls to which the breath of life was ever imparted. Family mattered. Once her husband wrote her a simple note that was packed away with all the others in drawers or boxes, that simply said, “A great mother you are, and the proof is daily on display in your children.” Jennifer and Stephanie are extraordinary ladies for sure thanks to her great love and care.  Janey read to them from the time that they were babies. Regular trips to the library were fun outings for two toddlers. This was but one of a million examples of how she made a difference (and still does) for those two beautiful souls to whom her love has no limits. Perhaps that will explain in part (beyond the Divine) how they were blessed with such wonderful and exemplary husbands for which she has deep gratitude. And so, it is here, FAMILY, where her time on earth will live for generations.  With that as a backdrop, Doug said that Janey was the wind beneath his wings. Perhaps this says it best. 
An excellent wife, who can find her?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.  (from Proverbs 31)

Janey was born on June 25, 1960, and was married to Douglas Fuller on August 2, 1980. Daughter, Sister, Wife, Mom, and Grandma, Janey lived a great life of Faith, Family, Friends, and Fun. We are thankful for her virtuous example. Never to be forgotten by all whom she knew was her warmth, her smile, her love, her charity, and her hospitality. 

She was preceded in death by her grandparents; her mother, Mary Lee O’Banion; aunt, Sandra O’Banion; and nephew Kenneth Ryan Webb.
She is survived by her father, Dr. Jerry (Midge) O’Banion, husband Douglas Fuller; daughters, Jennifer (Jacob) Hawley and Stephanie (James) Ruehter; two grandchildren, Camille Louise and Brecken James Ruehter; (followed soon by Annabelle Jane and Otto Jacob Hawley), sisters, Jerri Lynn (Kyle) Webb, Gail O’Banion and Patty (Dr. Skip) McKnelly.

Visitation is from 1:00 p.m. to 2:45 p.m. Sunday, June 24, 2018, at Mt. Moriah, Newcomer and Freeman Funeral Home, 10507 Holmes Road, Kansas City, Missouri 64131. For family and close friends a graveside service to follow in Mount Moriah Cemetery.
• FAMILY
• Mary Lee O'Banion (deceased), Mother
• Kenneth Ryan Webb (deceased), Nephew
• Sandra O'Banion (deceased), Aunt
• Douglas Fuller, Husband
• Dr. Jerry (Midge) O'Banion, Father
• Jennifer (Jacob) Hawley, Daughter
• Stephanie (James) Ruehter, Daughter
• Camille Louise and Brecken James Ruehter, Grandchildren
• (followed soon by Annabelle Jane and Otto Jacob Hawley),
• Jerri Lynn (Kyle) Webb, Sister
• Gail O'Banion, Sister
• Patty (Dr. Skip) McKnelly, Sister

Pallbearers:  Mr. Ted Hanman, 30-year friend (Elizabeth Hanman was one of Janey’s ‘Life’ friends & the Hanmans and Fullers shared so many special occasions and memories), Mr. Rick Lincoln 30 year family friend (The Lincolns and Fullers shared so many special occasions and memories), Mr. David Fuller, brother-in-law, and 40-year friend, Mr. Trey Conlee, Janey’s music director and 30-year friend (Kathy Conlee is one of Janey’s ‘Life’ friends and the Conlee's and Fullers shared so many special occasions and  memories), Mr. Jeff Fuller, brother-in-law, and 40-year friend, Mr. Michael Hanman, (Janey and Michael shared a loving mutual admiration from the time of his birth to Elizabeth and Ted, as she also did with Peter & Lydia Hanman.)

We remember Mom, Grandma Janey, Sister, Daughter, Friend
In the rising of the sun and in its going down, we remember 
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of the winter, we remember 
In the opening of buds and in the rebirth of spring, we remember 
In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn, we remember 
In the beginning of the year and when it ends, we remember 
When we are weary and in need of strength, we remember 
When we are lost and sick at heart, we remember 
When we have joys we yearn to share, we remember 
So long as we live, she too shall live, for she is now a part of us as we
remember 

To everything there is a time:
A time to be born and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance ...
A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to lose and a time to seek;
A time to rend and a time to sew;
A time to keep silent and a time to speak.  Ecclesiastes 3
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