This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Yuanjin (Jane) Kong. Mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, nurse, teacher, and much much more to many hearts she has touched around the world. She will be missed dearly. Please share your memory and photos of her here. Thank you for visiting and paying tribute.

"A person is never truly gone when they live in the souls of those they left behind."
           
生于1949年中国上海。
逝于2019年11月14日美国加利福尼亚州圣拉蒙。

这个纪念网站的创建是为了纪念我们敬爱的吴元瑾女士。吴女士是个母亲,妻子,女儿,姐妹,朋友,护士,老师,以及无数其他的称谓。被她生前感动过的无数心灵,遍布世界各地,将会深深地怀念着她。敬请大家在这里留下您对吴女士的悼念 (点击本页下面的“Leave a Tribute“),分享她的照片(点击本页上面的“GALLERY”), 或记述她的故事(点击本页上面的“STORIES“)。感谢您的来访和致意。

“一个人只要活在人们的思念中,她将永生。”


Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on December 17, 2019
敬爱的吴老师:

爱您,吴老师,如果有下辈子,我们还愿做你的学生;
安息,吴老师,放下人间重担,放慢脚步好好逛天堂。

吴老师的女儿Eileen说,我妈妈留给大家的经验教训就是:
活在当下,好好享受人生,想要做的事尽快去完成。
我妈她一直说:
等我退休后,我要去读博士;
等我退休后,我要去夏威夷;
等我退休后,我要学做饭菜;
等我退休后,我要学弹钢琴;
。。。

愿我们大家,珍惜活着的每一天,
愿我们大家,相亲相爱白头偕老,
愿我们大家,快乐幸福直到永远!

学生陶静艳敬挽
Posted by Flo Liang on November 26, 2019
I met Jane 10 years ago at Eden Medical Intensive Care Unit. As a brand new nurse, straight out of school and on a busy ICU floor, I found out very quickly that I was faced with so many obstacles and challenges every day. But, I was so grateful that Jane, an experienced ICU nurse, took me under her wing when I first started. She guided me on the right path, and groomed me to be a sound professional. Her warm, compassionate heart had helped mold me into the nurse I am today. I would not be where I am without her.

Jane's well- loved by us at work, because she possesses so many amirable qualities: Integrity, courageness, compassionate, kindness, optimism... Jane taught me so many things in life. Throughout the years, she took time to listen, and provided words of encouragement and guidance. She's a great colleague, mentor and friend.

Jane loved being a nurse. But, she loved being Eileen and Daniel's mom more than anything else. Jane's very proud of her children and loved to shared about their achievements. Eileen and Daniel's success had been an immense source of her happiness.

I am honored and blessed to have known Jane Kong. Her wonderful and gentle soul will forever remain in my heart. May she rest in peace!

Flo Liang

Posted by James Kong on November 25, 2019
祥松及令輩孙:

惊闻昨夜传递噩耗,十分惊愕,我们都沉浸在悲痛性情中,不知如何是好,记得前年您和瑾瑾特地来无锡探访我们,那时瑾瑾还风度翩翩,神清气爽,带给我们一种好性情;你们一生勤奋,忘我工作,劳累了大半辈子,积劳成疾否?当今正是享天年、享清福时,瑾瑾却离开了我们,不胜悲痛,人生不可逆转,痛定思痛,您们需牢记,生命诚可贵,需自己把握;瑾瑾勇敢顽强面对自身的疾病,接受挑战,最终还是病情恶化,无还天之力,据说重病时不能说话,只能以微笑来表示对您或来访者的关心表示,好在她有信仰,走之前,临终关怀机构派来了神父,为她作了临别前祷告,安抚她一路平安,安抚了家属,抚慰了双方心灵。

这段时间大家和你们一样沉浸在悲痛的氛围中,大家都要保持一个平常心,慢慢滴化解悲痛,积极乐观地生活,祝全家平安!

小舅舅小舅妈等上
Posted by Jia Ni Arreola on November 26, 2019
Dear Jane,
雖然認識的時間不長,但是每次和您在一起聊天都覺得收穫很多。不管是私事、事業、生子計畫等等,您都給我很多開明、睿智的建議,講到我家那本難念的經,您也很直白地給我了很真實中肯的看法,讓當時很煩惱的我豁然開朗。很遺憾像您這樣的天使在人世居然停留地這麼短暫,最後我很高興能夠再見您一面,希望您在天國一切安好,或來世再來相聚。
同事後輩 佳妮 敬上
Posted by James Kong on November 25, 2019
十一月十四日下午五点半嫂嫂吴元瑾走了,滿怀对家人的爱,静静地离开了。

与疾病斗争的两年中,吴元瑾无畏无惧,积极乐观配合治疗。前一年多,有幸可以适用世界先进水平的药物靶向治疗,情况稳定。从今年三月至八月,她勇敢地面对八次化疗,但因为癌细胞转移到脑,逐渐进食说话障碍加重,最后全身情况消耗殆尽,带着圣灵的感动与我们告别了。有圣灵的充满,生病期间她没有抱怨没有叫苦,我们探望她时,尽管她不能说话,她总是面带微笑,用爱的语言来表达对照顾她的丈夫表示满意,用微笑来迎接我们前往探访。

她走之前三天,临终关怀机构派来的神父来为她作了临别前祷告,安抚她一路平安,安抚家属,过好日后的生活。十四号凌晨我们接到电话后赶到祥松家,送了吴元瑾最后一程,并祝她一路走好!

她的爱心,善良,忠诚,自我奉献和努力工作的精神将永远铭刻在我们心中。

孔祥琳
Posted by Liwei Wang on November 24, 2019
作为一个育出多个市/区级化学竞争优胜者的教师, 吴老师没有放弃我这个化学弱生, 高考前家访鼓励我考好学校。我能高考化学及格过关,挤进“列强”,全靠吴老师的鼓励和授课! 从吴老师那里我的得益还有更多。。。。。。

两年前久别后我们再聚,欢声笑语不断。。。。。。

这些美好回忆永驻我心。

我们亲爱的吴老师安息。

学生王黎伟敬挽
Posted by 颖骏 戴 on November 24, 2019
姨妈,没想到你这么快就走了,好心痛!没想到2017年一别竟成永别,我唯一的亲姨妈,还没有开车载你好好的上海及周边玩一玩,听到你退休后要回来,我好激动,可以有机会好好陪陪你,没想到,都只能在梦里了,我一直听你说,从我出生开始,你就陪着我,刚从医院回来那会是你把我从车里举起来给马路上路过的外婆看,还记得小时侯,我考了个100分,你为我在弄堂口的小店抢购了一双皮鞋,那个年代,买皮鞋真的想是打仗,你是家里的楷模,我妈也以你为榜样,你是我们全家的骄傲和精神支柱!你好好安息吧,有空我会带上妈妈来美国看你!也请你放心,同为金牛座的我也会像你一样,踏踏实实勤勤恳恳地靠自己的双手,创造属于自己的美好生活!
Posted by Dawei Pan on November 23, 2019
教澤長存 師表千古
桃李興悲 永念師恩

學生 潘大為敬輓
Posted by Yun Wang on November 23, 2019
吾老师,想念您!

学生 王 蕴 敬挽
Posted by Yingwen Wang on November 23, 2019
敬爱的吴老师:您的学生怀念您!
                    
  学生 王颖雯 敬挽
Posted by Limin Guo on November 23, 2019
吴老师:您对我们的谆谆教导,影响了我们的学习、工作和生活,让我们在人生的路上深深受益 。感恩有您这样的好老师,我们永远怀念您!


 学生郭立民敬挽
Posted by Yiwen Du on November 23, 2019
亲爱的吴老师,40年前,您如此青春活力和蔼可亲,您的拳拳之心谆谆教导一直陪伴我人生各个阶段。您认真、善良、真诚、勇敢的人品在所有学生身上播下火种,有您做我们提高班的班主任和化学老师是我们的福气与缘分。38年后,当我来到美国与您相逢时的那一刻,激动的心情似失散久别的亲人,喜极而泣的泪水不禁流下,您在美国顽强奋斗的精神又让我感动的泪水与喜极之泪交融。您曾答应退休后会来澳洲看我们,哪想到病魔夺走您的生命,我们阴阳两隔,再也看不到您的音容笑貌,这是一种怎样的痛……吴老师,谢谢您的儿女建立了这样一个平台,让我们可以有地方去思念您怀念您,可以与您说说话,我相信您在天上一定能听到能看到。愿您在天堂里一切安好!              

学生杜逸纹敬挽
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on November 22, 2019
吴老师:感恩能有幸成为您的学生,您一直是学生们的榜样。愿您在天国不再有病痛,您的学生怀念您!
学生桑卫红敬挽
Posted by Mary Shen on November 22, 2019
元瑾好姐妹:你的生命影响了很多人,值了!愿你在天家享受平安和彻底放松。
唐一心
Posted by Eileen Kong on November 22, 2019
亲爱的大姐,您是我自幼以来的榜样,无论是读书学习还是工作生活,您的聪明智慧,勤奋努力都是我一直的敬佩之处,病魔过早的夺去了您的生命,您的音容笑貌永远的在我的记忆中,大姐安息吧!早日在天堂与父亲母亲相聚!愿您在天堂一切安好!我们来生还是父母亲的孩子,还是亲姐妹!——您的小妹吴元珮敬挽
Posted by 申虹 蒋 on November 22, 2019
吴老师清清自白做人,我们的恩师永远活在我们的心中
      学生蒋申虹敬挽
Posted by GENG ZHIPING on November 22, 2019
即使作为一个默默无闻的学生,我丝毫没有感觉被冷落,您将您的真情真心奉献给了所有的学生,在这里我们向您鞠躬! 吴元瑾老师,我们永远怀念您!

               
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on November 21, 2019
最后的晚霞和最初的晨曦一样都是太阳辉煌……我会想念你的执着 努力和善良 ❤️  张文槐
Posted by 常忠 柴 on November 22, 2019
沉痛悼念吴元瑾老师不幸逝世,深刻怀念吴老师在临潼十几年的工作,吴老师的为人为师勤奋工作的表现给大家留下了不可磨灭的印象,愿吴老师一路走好在天堂安息!      柴常忠、罗美琳敬挽                
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on November 21, 2019
敬爱的吴老师,您一路走好,天堂安息。
  学生姚丽孟敬挽
Posted by Sha Jin on November 22, 2019
四十多年前,您以赤诚之心,慈爱之情,教育鼓励我们。是我们敬佩敬爱的老师!我们绵怀纪念您!
  学生金沙敬挽!
Posted by Peter Ni on November 22, 2019
感谢恩师一路上的激励和关怀!
愿您在天堂安息!
来生,我还当您的学生。

学生倪勇敬挽
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on November 21, 2019
祝您一路走好,安息!
张静毅敬挽
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on November 21, 2019
敬爱的吴老师,您永远活在我们心中!
学生胡成婷敬挽
Posted by Andy Cheng on November 21, 2019
敬爱的老师,您的音容笑貌永远铭记在我们的心里!您一路走好

                       您的学生沈祖勇叩拜
Posted by Eric Li on November 22, 2019
坚强、奋斗、执着、奉献是您的人生标签,将永远鼓舞生者于自省中前行。愿天堂没有病痛,亲爱的舅妈您可以休息一下了!
Posted by Andy Cheng on November 19, 2019
二十载教书育人园丁秉赤心情真意切不啻慈母
后半生扶伤救死天使号白衣身为言先依然良师

                           学生承安敬挽
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on November 18, 2019
记得吴老师说过,她信奉:“清清白白做人,认认真真做事。”
她用她的一生守护着这个座右铭。

亲爱的吴老师,
您是我今生的楷模,
愿来生,
我们还做师生,朋友。
请一路走好, 天堂安息!

学生王静莉敬挽

Teacher Wu believed: "Be honest as a human being, be dedicated to work worth doing.”
She lived her entire life by this motto.

Dear beloved teacher,
you are my constant role model in this life,
I hope to be your student and friend again in the next.
Farewell, may you rest in heaven!

Leave a Tribute

 
Recent Tributes
Posted by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on December 17, 2019
敬爱的吴老师:

爱您,吴老师,如果有下辈子,我们还愿做你的学生;
安息,吴老师,放下人间重担,放慢脚步好好逛天堂。

吴老师的女儿Eileen说,我妈妈留给大家的经验教训就是:
活在当下,好好享受人生,想要做的事尽快去完成。
我妈她一直说:
等我退休后,我要去读博士;
等我退休后,我要去夏威夷;
等我退休后,我要学做饭菜;
等我退休后,我要学弹钢琴;
。。。

愿我们大家,珍惜活着的每一天,
愿我们大家,相亲相爱白头偕老,
愿我们大家,快乐幸福直到永远!

学生陶静艳敬挽
Posted by Flo Liang on November 26, 2019
I met Jane 10 years ago at Eden Medical Intensive Care Unit. As a brand new nurse, straight out of school and on a busy ICU floor, I found out very quickly that I was faced with so many obstacles and challenges every day. But, I was so grateful that Jane, an experienced ICU nurse, took me under her wing when I first started. She guided me on the right path, and groomed me to be a sound professional. Her warm, compassionate heart had helped mold me into the nurse I am today. I would not be where I am without her.

Jane's well- loved by us at work, because she possesses so many amirable qualities: Integrity, courageness, compassionate, kindness, optimism... Jane taught me so many things in life. Throughout the years, she took time to listen, and provided words of encouragement and guidance. She's a great colleague, mentor and friend.

Jane loved being a nurse. But, she loved being Eileen and Daniel's mom more than anything else. Jane's very proud of her children and loved to shared about their achievements. Eileen and Daniel's success had been an immense source of her happiness.

I am honored and blessed to have known Jane Kong. Her wonderful and gentle soul will forever remain in my heart. May she rest in peace!

Flo Liang

Posted by James Kong on November 25, 2019
祥松及令輩孙:

惊闻昨夜传递噩耗,十分惊愕,我们都沉浸在悲痛性情中,不知如何是好,记得前年您和瑾瑾特地来无锡探访我们,那时瑾瑾还风度翩翩,神清气爽,带给我们一种好性情;你们一生勤奋,忘我工作,劳累了大半辈子,积劳成疾否?当今正是享天年、享清福时,瑾瑾却离开了我们,不胜悲痛,人生不可逆转,痛定思痛,您们需牢记,生命诚可贵,需自己把握;瑾瑾勇敢顽强面对自身的疾病,接受挑战,最终还是病情恶化,无还天之力,据说重病时不能说话,只能以微笑来表示对您或来访者的关心表示,好在她有信仰,走之前,临终关怀机构派来了神父,为她作了临别前祷告,安抚她一路平安,安抚了家属,抚慰了双方心灵。

这段时间大家和你们一样沉浸在悲痛的氛围中,大家都要保持一个平常心,慢慢滴化解悲痛,积极乐观地生活,祝全家平安!

小舅舅小舅妈等上
her Life

A Tribute To Mama {中文在下)

Over the past two days I’ve been thinking a lot about how to express the feelings I have for my mom. Simple words like love, admiration, sadness and pride seem so inadequate to give full justice to the emotions I have inside me. I think the best way is to share  my personal origins for these words. 

Love for ones mother is universal around the world. From the moment we were conceived, mom was the one that nourished us, kept us safe, putting our needs ahead of her own and preparing us the best she could to face the world. This continued long after we left her womb and eventually from under her roof. Even though I have lived thousands of miles away from her in the last 16 years, I knew there was not a single day she did not worry about my wellbeing. If she couldn’t reach me on the phone or text, she would panic thinking the worst case scenario. I knew I had to call or text back before she called the local police to do a welfare check on me. Knowing she was always there for me, willing to do whatever and whenever I needed it has been the biggest source of assurance for my self confidence. I never fully appreciated that until it was gone. But looking back, I realize she has supported me in ways that I didn’t even realize. That is love, the only kind of love one can have from a mother. 

There are many qualities I admire in my mom. But at the top of that list is her work ethic and integrity. I have always heard her say “吃点苦不要紧” which can be loosely translated as “its okay to eat some bitterness (or endure some hardship)”. She has lived that mantra all her life, from her younger days in China during the political turmoils of the 1960s and 70s, to being a full time working mom raising two kids in a whole new country in the 90s. She never complained about hard work, instead she embraced it because it made her feel useful and valued. She worked weekdays and weekends, rarely taking any days off. Whenever people would say “you should enjoy life”, she said she is enjoying life by going to work. In the months since she became sick, I’ve heard many stories of how she had inspired her colleagues with her positive spirit and upbeat attitude. She is an example to us all, especially when we are not at our best. 

Integrity is another character trait that she held dear to. When I was a kid, I knew that nothing would infuriate her faster than not being truthful. The only times I got thoroughly spanked was when she caught me being intentionally dishonest. She can not tolerate any form of lying or cheating. Part of that is from her upbringing as my grandparents were the same way. But the other part is from her own observations of what makes a person respectable and valued. She always told me to not judge a person by their appearances or wealth but by their character. A person’s true worth is their trustworthiness, she says, if you cannot trust them, you cannot have an honest relationship with them. I took this to heart and it has saved me from some serious life consequences. Thank you mom for teaching me that. 

Last but not least, my mom was a kind person. Becoming a nurse was something she cherished because she felt it was a compassionate calling from God to help people in need. But before she became a nurse, she was an educator in Shanghai, China. She taught high school and served as assistant principal before emigrating to the United States. In her role as a teacher, she has touched many lives with her dedication and kindness. Many of her students still keep in close touch with her even after four decades because of how much she had impacted their lives. This is the ultimate testimony of her kindness and selfless dedication to making other people’s lives a little better. 

Hers was a life well lived because she gave so much in service of others. I could not be any prouder of my wonderful mother. She will be dearly missed by all whose lives she has impacted. But as long as her memories are alive in those she has left behind, she is still with us in spirit. 

I love you mama 

-Eileen

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这几天,我一直在思索怎样才能表达我对妈妈的情感,想了很多。爱戴、钦佩、悲伤、自豪只是些简单的词汇,无法确切地表达我内心的怀念。也许,最好还是来分享一下我个人对这些词汇的解释。
世人都爱母亲。从我们受孕开始,一直到我们离开娘胎,最终踏入社会,是母亲为我们提供了营养和安全,是母亲总是把我们的需要放在第一位,并尽其所能为我们做好如何面对世间一切的准备。我离家16年了,即使在千里之外,我依然知道妈妈时时刻刻都在关心我。要是她的电话和短信都找不到我的话,她就会惊慌,会想到种种可能发生的危险。所以我每次都必须赶快回复,免得她联系当地警察来查看我是否安全。每每想到在我需要的时候会有妈妈,这种安全感是我的自信心的最大源泉和保证。妈妈在世的时候,我还没有完全懂,现在回想过去,才感受到妈妈在我不知不觉中对我的支持和关爱是多么珍贵。这就是母爱,只有从母亲那里才能感受到的爱。

妈妈有很多优良品质,最让我钦佩的是她的工作态度和为人正直。我总是听她说“吃点苦不要紧”,这是妈妈的人生信条。无论是在年轻时中国动荡的1960,70年代,还是在美国当职场母亲抚育两个孩子的90年代,她都坚持不懈。妈妈对工作的辛苦从无怨言,相反,勤奋工作让她感到有成就感,活得有价值。她工作不分周日周末,很少休假。有人说“你应该享受生活”,妈妈总是回答,她认真工作就是在享受生活。在她生病的那几个月里,我听到了很多关于妈妈的故事,她乐观坚毅的精神和满满的正能量启发和鼓舞了周围的很多同事。她是我们大家的榜样,尤其是在我们的人生处于低谷的时候。

正直是妈妈珍视的另一项美德。我还是小孩的时候就知道,不说实话马上会引发妈妈的怒火。记得我唯一一次被她打屁股是因为她发现我故意撒了谎。她不允许任何谎话和欺瞒。部份原因是我的外祖父母也是这样教育了妈妈,另外是因为妈妈认为正直才能使一个人得到尊重和肯定。她总是告诉我,判断一个人要看他的人格,而不是他的外表和财富。她说一个人的真正价值在于他是否诚信,如果你不信任一个人,就不可能成为坦诚相见的朋友。这些话我牢记在心,在我后来的人生道路上避免了一些可能带来严重后果的选择。妈妈,谢谢您的教导。

妈妈的品质中最最重要的一点是:她是一个很有爱心的人。她热爱护士工作就是因为她感受到了神的召唤而要帮助伤病者。在做护士之前,妈妈是一个教育工作者,她在上海一所高中任教。移民美国前,她是学校的副校长。妈妈教书认真,待人善良诚恳,影响了许多人。因为这些,她的很多学生在毕业四十年后还和她保持亲密的联系。这是对妈妈充满爱心,无私奉献从而改善他人生活的最好见证。

妈妈的一生没有虚度, 因为她为别人付出了很多。我为我的好妈妈感到无比自豪。所有受到她影响的人都会深切地怀念她。只要对她的回忆依然活在大家心中,她的精神就与我们同在。

-佳佳


翻译: 承安, 王静莉


爱妻吴元瑾因晚期肺癌扩展至脑部于太平洋时间晚上7:09 PM 11/14/2019 在San Ramon, California USA 逝世,享年70岁。瑾瑾走时突然,但是平靜安祥。
她是一个坚强的人,在近二年与癌症的搏斗中,始终没有放弃过,甚至还准备病愈后继续工作。正直,善良,关爱,信仰,这是她一生的精神和力量的来源。工作中,她是一个好护士好老师,为病人为学生贡献自己所有的精力,她是一个“工作狂”;在家中,她是一个好妻子好妈妈,为这亇家操碎了心;在学习上,她勤奋好学,永无止境,聪明过人,还准备退休后再念亇博士学位。她正式的退休时间是9/13/2019!这是她在临终前还尽力保住工作岗位,以便愈后继续工作。
为了不让大家担心她生重病, 她坚持不让更多人知道她病了并且是致命的病,同事和朋友不 知道,甚至她的弟弟妹妹们也不知道。她操劳了一辈子。看到她用过的或有关的东西,我都会情不止禁地落泪和抽沮,愿她在天堂不要再这麽累,不要再逞强。
安息吧,亲爱的妻子瑾瑾,你并不孤单,你永远和我们在一起!

-孔祥松

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吴老师这次生病,已经有近两年的时间了,但是她一直瞒着我们大家,连她在上海的家人都不知道。

2017年12月25日,吴老师邀请我们大家去她家过圣诞节,那天她说自己咳嗽很厉害。节后,她去医院看病,在家休息了四个月,等我们知道这个消息时,她已经又开始去上班了。2018年5月,我和王静莉,承安同学一起去她家看望,发现她瘦了一圈,但是精神很好,她告诉我们自己得了肺炎,目前已经康复了。其实她已经知道是得了肺癌,但是,靶向药物把它控制住了。所以她非常的乐观,觉得应该没有什么大问题。

2019年1月12日,大家聚在我家贺新年,游伊丽莎白湖,喝茶品菜,欢声笑语。下午打麻将时,她挽起袖子洗牌,码牌,抓牌,出牌的样子,笑意盈盈,笑声朗朗,就像当年做我们老师时那个活泼的小姐姐再现,一点点都看不出她是位70岁的癌症病人。那天,我们相约,9月一起去上海,参加提高班高中毕业40周年庆。

2019年2月,吴老师又开始咳嗽,这次来势非常的凶猛,靶向药已经没什么作用了,开始了化疗。直到8月,我们才陆续地知道真相。想相约了一起去看她,又担心外面带去的细菌会引起她的感染,因为那时化疗后她的白血球指数非常的低。

于是,我们几个同学商量说,等吴老师身体抵抗力增强一点,等上海大聚会回美国后,再一起去看望吴老师。谁知,她的病情发展得太快了,有同学回美国早的,就赶上见到了她最后一面;我,因为家里有点事耽搁了,没能按期回来,所以就没能见上,这,成了我的遗憾。

虽然说,我没能见上吴老师最后一面,但,庆幸的是,我们能在三年多前,通过微信联系上,并能经常相聚,这又是何等宽慰,何等快乐呢!

怀念敬爱的吴元瑾老师---3---陶静艳

Shared by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on December 17, 2019
最近的三年,是我们跟吴老师,及其他住在湾区的老同学接触比较多的三年。陆陆续续地知道了一些吴老师在美国打拼的经历:

1989年,吴老师带着女儿来到加州,跟留学美国的孔老师夫妻团聚。那年,她40岁,女儿9岁。
她说,我从没有想过要来美国,只盼望着先生学成归国。刚来那会儿,英语只会一点点,去办理女儿入学手续,是前一天把要说的话都写在一张纸上,第二天去学校交给办事人员看的。
打工,只能找华人开的公司,最低时薪的。在广东人开的公司上班,还要会粤语,只能硬着头皮学。一边打着几份零工,一边抓紧空余时间学英语,连晚上做梦都是在上课 在学英语。好不容易语言基本过关后,想找一份好工作,还是得再修专业呀。
一开始,我还想着能捡回老本行,做老师教化学。可是,有人对我说,英语不是母语,而且又是四十岁后开始学起来的,就算能通过一个个考试拿到教师执照,那些学生还是不买你的账,不修你的课,到时怎么办?
而最最意外的,是发现自己在四十多岁高龄时怀孕了。我想拿掉他,但是女儿却非常想留下他,她鼓励我说:如果医生检查下来胎儿正常健康的,那你就一定要生下来,因为那是上帝给我们家的礼物。不要担心,我已经长大了,会帮你照顾他。
就这样,吴老师一边怀孕,一边工作,一边上学,1993年生下二宝时,她已经是44岁了。白天她把孩子交给外婆或奶奶带,自己去上班和读书,晚上坚持自己带,不叫苦也不喊累。
难以想象吴老师这位瘦瘦小小的女子,身上竟有这样十足的活力,如此充沛的能量。

1998年,吴老师以优异的成绩在美国加州大学毕业,拿到了生化及护士的双学位证书。那年,她49岁。
期间,还发生了一件令人啼笑皆非的事:一位校管理人员,以吴老师是班里唯一的华人学生为由,很无理地给了她一个不及格,目的是想让吴老师知难而退。面对不公正的遭遇,吴老师不仅毫不退缩,据理力争,勇敢应对,还得到了班级同学和老师们的全力支持。

“结果,你猜怎么着?”王静莉同学问我,
 “那还用说,肯定是吴老师赢了。”我回答,
 “不仅是赢了,而且对方输得很惨!”王同学笑嘻嘻,“他被大学撤职了。吴老师拿了满分!”

哈,哈,哈。。。我们仨忍不住笑出了声,惹得周围的食客纷纷好奇地瞩目。
从此,吴老师走上了白衣护士之路,开始了她另一段辉煌的职业。她的优异成绩,她的工作态度,她的精湛专业,被湾区好多家医院开出高薪,抢着下聘。

她说:“最多时,我要在三家医院工作。”
 “累不累?”我问,
 “不累!工作是我最开心的事。三十年前,最低五元的时薪我都干过,也不觉得累,现在的时薪都已经是当初的几十倍了,活儿比那时还轻松,能觉得累吗?前几年,儿子上私立大学的费用,我也有份供给啊。”她骄傲地笑呵呵地说,“阿陶,要是当年就知道你也在湾区,我一定拖上你一起读大学去。”
”哈哈,饶了我吧,我可不是那块读书的料。”我想,吴老师听了这话,肯定会疑惑:“你还是不是我当年教出来的学生啊?”

怀念敬爱的吴元瑾老师---2---陶静艳

Shared by Jingli 静莉 Wang 王 on December 17, 2019
记得刚认识吴老师时,还是在四十多年前的1978年2月。我们79届提高班刚成立,她担班主任,并教化学。

印象中,她就是一个比我们这些17岁的高中生大不了几岁的小姐姐,但其实她比我们整整大了一圈,属牛的。圆圆的,红红的苹果脸,讲课充满活力,课余安安静静,腼腆不多说话。

由于自己的理科尤其是化学很差劲,所以就有意无意地避免接近吴老师,但是她呢,却没有对我另眼相待,相反,却在暗地帮了我许多的忙,这是我后来才知道的事情。

由于我和男同学早恋一事,学校里准备严加处分,她第一时间得到消息后,马上告诉了原班主任教语文的张文槐老师,俩人共商对策,结果由张老师求助区教育局领导,才让处分一事不了了之。而吴老师和张老师,却把背后力挽狂澜,鼎力相助我们的这件事,守口如瓶好多年,直到我们结婚的时候,才由张老师亲口告诉,但那时我们却已经联系不上吴老师了。

感谢微信,2016年成立了提高班群,让我们通过倪勇同学联系上了吴老师,才得知,她就在美国,就在我们住了二十多年的旧金山湾区。

2016年9月,在王静莉同学的船上,我们见到了期盼已久的吴老师,让我们终于有机会紧紧拥抱了她,亲口对她说一声谢谢,尽管这声谢谢已经迟到了许多年。记得她那天对我们说:“其实,我觉得你俩挺好的,除了当时年龄有点小以外。后来我也知道你们结婚了,老师真为你们感到高兴。” 把我感动得当场热泪盈眶,哽咽在喉。

这就是吴老师宝贵的善良之处,她当年完全可以听之任之,她冒着泄露学校领导决定的风险,也要帮助自己的学生逃过一劫。但是,当我们的面,这个大恩,却只字不提,半句不透。