The news hit me hard.
I have lost someone that I counted as a friend nearly my entire adult life.
I met Jason Lichtstrahl while at Towson State University and we grew close regularly hitting The Metro, Calvert St Café / Playschool, The Club Charles, Godfrey’s, Cignel, and the Depot. Underage at the time, we were armed with expertly crafted fake IDs, which we didn’t need for long because we were such a fixture, out nearly every night of the week -- everyone just assumed we were legal. When we came upon a new blood at the door, it was Jason’s charm and humor would get us past security quite easily.
Our friendship was forged over love of underground club culture. We were not huge drinkers in those days, but rather, we wanted to be in the scene for the music and the people – especially the ladies. Jason was a huge flirt and never missed the opportunity to complement those he knew or hoped to know much better.
The passion for the “scene” bled into our studies. We were both Mass Comm majors – me because I wanted to play music that I thought it important to expose, whether it be on radio or in the club. Jason because he wanted to be a star – TV, film, radio – it didn’t matter. He wanted to follow in the footsteps of his fellow Baltimore School for the Arts alumni and friends. He was honing his acting skills and longing to be discovered.
Baltimore nightlife was a bit different in the late 80’s and very early 90’s. Jason helped give me a fashion sense I was lacking coming from a suburban high school, one that used a Grateful Dead song as it’s prom theme. While I was deep into UK indie and goth, Jason gave me an appreciation of hip-hop like I didn’t have prior, and he dove full on into acid-house while I was still into industrial bands.
After graduation, the rave thing happened. The Orbit events were just starting and they felt like there were big changes happening – it was as if once a month all the clubs we loved merged into one, bringing out all the misfits, outcasts, queers, and music obsessed under one beautiful roof. The darker sounds of goth and industrial were giving way to house music, techno, and UK break-beat. We were hooked.
We had been hearing about the scene in Brooklyn, so Jason and I went road-tripping NYC for our first proper rave experience. It brings a huge smile to think about the excitement we felt crossing the Verrazano bridge, heading to Sonic Groove Records to buy tickets and get directions to our first Storm Rave. We were like kids in a candy store, on our birthday, seeing snow falling for the first time on Christmas morning -- all at once!
There are a few pivotal points in my life that were truly transformational, this trip and this event was a big one. The non-descript warehouse space filled with club lighting, an amazing sound system, a racially diverse mix of strangers that felt like we were all best friends, and the throbbing intense techno mesmerized us for hours and left us with a story we couldn’t wait to tell anyone who would listen.
Had it not been for Jason, I would not have made that life-changing trek up to Brooklyn. He regularly took me out of my shy and safe comfort zone, with his special blend of encouragement, peer pressure, and teasing. I am not sure if I ever thanked him for that – but I am sure he relished in my discomfort changing to joy before his eyes.
The unfortunate thing about that journey, as I look back, is it sort of marked the beginning of Jason and I growing apart. While he loved the rave thing, he was a bit of a fish out of water. He was not one for the baggy trouser casualness of a dirty warehouse. The scene was younger and less mature than the 21+ club scene we had become a fixture in, and he still preferred to belly up to the bar and hold court, looking sharp.
On the other hand, I was inspired to make DJing and promoting my career, becoming very active professionally in hopes of advancing this new underground subculture that I had fallen in love with. I was running bus trips to Storm Raves and gathered a like-minded crew to help produce a fanzine and events of our own. Jason did see and appreciate the business potential of this passion. He was a kind of “silent” investor in our early events. He believed in what we were doing and how cool it was, even if he still preferred the more traditional bar scene.
A man of aspiration, Jason had too many other interests and was convinced that life in Baltimore was only temporary, on his way to stardom. He wasn’t going to get too wrapped up in the rave scene. However, he always knew how to work an angle. I remember being backstage at an HFSTival where I was DJing and here comes Jason with that giant Cheshire Cat grin I was all too familiar with. Around his neck was a laminated pass with the words “Atomic Vibe” – the name of our original ‘rave’ crew. He admitted that he would use that name, and the fanzine we produced, to gain access to events, even though that crew and fanzine hadn’t been around for about 5 years. His charm and resourcefulness at work. How could I be mad at that? Quite the contrary, we hugged and laughed our asses off about it. He was still friends with a lot of industry types and he could have asked any number of us for guest-list or VIP access, but he liked to do it on his own, even if it was a bit deceptive.
While we drifted apart, he never let too many months go by without phoning me to catch up. He loved to dish about the latest gossip of Baltimore Clubland – he would pick my brain about openings and closings, music trends, what Scott Henry and Charles Feelgood were up to, and of course, what events he should make an effort to get too. He would lament about how the seen had changed for the worse – always trying to convince me to open another venue, but this time with him.
It was great when he did make it out -- I loved looking up while DJing and seeing him busting his moves. We would catch up for a minute, he would poke fun at me about something, make a self-deprecating joke, and get back to flirting with a female that was far too young for him.
I am so very grateful that Jason kept our friendship alive with his regular calls. I am proud to have been his friend when he needed a friend. I wish I could have done more. I wish we could have had that in-person catch up last week instead of planning for it this week. This week’s meet up won’t happen now. I don’t know all the details as to why, and frankly, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is the opportunity is gone and I won’t get that back. I hope and pray it is because he is in a much better place and is at peace. I am sure when we do meet up again, I will most certainly get “the gas face”.
RIP My Friend.