Jay Dee Young
  • 67 years old
  • Date of birth: Aug 14, 1946
  • Date of passing: Feb 12, 2014
Let the memory of Jay be with us forever

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Jay Young, passed away suddenly on February 12, 2014. Jay first and foremost was a devoted husband, a loving father/grandfather, and a passionate business man. He also served as a lieutenant in the Unites States Army. His family knew him as a fun loving dedicated man. His peers knew him to be a professional hardworking man who helped so many people make their dream of homeownership a reality. 

Thank you for your support, prayers and thoughts during this difficult time. We will be posting information on the dates and time of the memorial as soon as we have it.

Lorraine and Family   

In lieu of flowers the family requests a donation to the Jay Young Memorial Fund. Proceeds from this fund will  help cover funeral expenses.

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Any questions please email at JayYoungMemorial@gmail.com

Please note this is not a tax deductible donation. 

Memorial Service:

Please Join us for a memorial service for Jay.

Date: February 17th, 1:00 pm

Where: Shadowridge Country Club, Vista CA

Address: 1980 Gateway Drive, Vista CA 92081            

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by diane turner on 14th August 2017

"The loss of a friend is like that of a limb; time may heal the anguish of the wound, but the loss cannot be repaired. We all lose friends.. we lose them in death, to distance, and over time. But even though they may be lost, hope is not. The key is to keep them in your heart..."

This tribute was added by Joe Ownbey on 14th August 2017

"Happy Birthday, Jay. Just because you are not physically here doesn't keep you from being present in the lives of all who love you. Just want you to know that I'm thinking of you today and remember you vividly and often.  May God continue to hold you close!


This tribute was added by salina behra on 14th August 2017

"3 years already passed...life is sure unpredictable...thought we need this big house 9 yrs ago now you made us think that to live is more precious than anything so we will be leaving the place you helped refi soon.  Thanks for everything, you are wonderful person, too soon to see you go."

This tribute was added by Lorraine Young on 1st February 2017

"We loved that man.  He was a giant human being with a heart of gold.  I miss him and know how much you must miss him Lorraine.  Thanks for sharing.  Marilyn and Creighton Lawhead."

This tribute was added by Joe Ownbey on 14th August 2016

"More time has passed, Jay, and you have been gone even longer ... but it doesn't change how positive I feel about you and the memories I have from our youth. I was just remembering recently that after you showed up at my house on a Cushman Eagle and gave me a ride I really wanted one, but my dad - who was not high on motorcycles or motor scooters - would not give me permission. Once I was an adult in my thirties I bought a Suzuki 550 motorcycle which I rode fairly regularly for about three years and then sold it. The first day I rode it (and you would laugh at the story that led up to the purchase that included my wrecking a friend's Honda 500 on the same day) as I was riding around my neighborhood I said out loud, "Jay Young, where are you now?  I want to take YOU for a ride today!"  You were a cool, witty and fun guy. Still miss ya, still love ya. Save me a seat ... well, I mean if I deserve it."

This tribute was added by Joe Ownbey on 12th February 2015

"One year ago today you left us, Jay. Just want to say I still regret that you and I didn't have or make an opportunity to see each other and sit down over dinner or coffee to catch up and share memories from our youth in Oklahoma City. The impact of your character and life continues to touch all of us who knew you and cared about you. God is holding you and I pray He will help me preserve my memories of your smile and wit."

This tribute was added by diane turner on 13th September 2014

"Those that touch our lives .... stay in our hearts forever - you gave us our new home Jay and forever grateful"

This tribute was added by Lorraine Young on 18th August 2014

"My precious Jayson Delbert (JD) I miss you so much!! You spoiled me!! You always took such good care of me and the children!! God has to have made you An Angel immediately!
I always knew you and I was a constant relationship . . .even now as you enjoy heaven!! XOXO"

This tribute was added by Joe Ownbey on 14th August 2014

"Jay - Although we hadn't seen each other in many years when you left this world, I still remember our young days at Luther Burbank in Oklahoma City, playing YMCA baseball during the summer and in later years seeing you buzzing the neighborhood on your blue Cushman Super Eagle motorcycle (I was envious). I know you're watching us all, smiling and probably making a few wise cracks too. Miss you, my friend!"

This tribute was added by salina behra on 14th August 2014

"You are so wonderful and so kind it is still so hard to think a nice man like you have to go so soon....my husband and i want to thank you so much for doing what you did to help us .......i am sure you are reading every word that i am typing......thank you."

This tribute was added by salina behra on 22nd March 2014

"Did not find out of your sudden passing through Jami a week ago......so saddened ....many people come and go in our lives, but very few make a worthwhile memorable impression....you are a great man, may you rest in peace....I cannot say enough thank you for all that you did for us, you will be deeply missed.  
Salina and Tim"

This tribute was added by Kelli Gault Lau on 25th February 2014

"Dearest Lorraine and Family,

"I was so saddened to hear of Jay’s passing.  I see reflected in the montage of photos, a Loving Husband, a Grandfather and a Friend!  You were a beautiful reflection of how he lived…..deliberately with determination and joy!  All my love and condolences to you and your family."

~Kelli Lau"

This tribute was added by Sean ONeill on 21st February 2014

"Jay was integral in my early career in banking and I consider myself a very lucky person for knowing him.  He will be missed."

This tribute was added by Jean Keane on 20th February 2014

"To the Young Family, I am very sorry for your loss. Jay was a wonderful hard working man. He will be missed by all."

This tribute was added by Rada Labe on 19th February 2014

"Lorraine, I can't tell you how saddened I am to learn of Jay.  He certainly will be missed.  My deepest sympathies to you and your family.  Jay was so nice and so helpful to me when I moved here, was always around to answer my questions and I always looked forward to seeing his smiling face.  He was a good person and will leave such nice endearing memories with so many people.  I am glad to have had him as a friend."

This tribute was added by jami besecker on 19th February 2014

"Such a natural response to pick up the phone to share a story or ask a loan question of Jay.  He complimented all my sales with Texas TLC when we worked a buyer together.  Foremost in his mind were Lorraine, his children and way up there on the list were the grand kids.  I like all of you have lost a dear friend and was blessed to have Jay as a friend for 20 plus years.  It figures, we lost Jay on a Tuesday and Friday I received an email from him wishing me a pleasant President's Day, that man was always working and planning ahead.   Jami Besecker"

This tribute was added by Eric Casas on 18th February 2014

"Lorraine- Analisa and I are so saddened for your loss! I remembered when we first met Jay and you. Jays kindness and amazing way with people, your loving support for Jay! We love you dearly. Are hearts are broken!

Eric & Analisa"

This tribute was added by Susan Stotler on 18th February 2014

"Hi Lorraine,

I'm so sorry I missed the service.  I just returned yesterday afternoon from a trip out of the country and heard the sad news.  Jay will always be rememberd as a loving, caring, wonderful man.  I enjoyed visiting with him and going through the many scenarios our challenging business affords us.  He was a special comrade to me."

This tribute was added by Joe Ownbey on 17th February 2014

"I'm shocked. Jay, you and I went to elementary, middle and high school together but never had one on one contact after that. Then - years later, thanks for Facebook, we reconnected. Had I realized you were going to leave us all forever I would have asked for your phone number so I could call you and talk over where our lives have taken us during all the years since we last saw each other. I am really sad to learn today that you have left the earth, but I have faith that you are with God and that HE is with YOU.

This tribute was added by Jim Gibson on 17th February 2014

"Dear Lorraine,
Judy and I are deeply saddened by your loss.  Jay's caring style and mentoring approach drew people to him from all walks of life. I look back fondly on the years we worked together and how the two of you made such a great team.  The world has been a better place because of Jay Young and those he touched will always cherish his memory.
Jim and Judy"

This tribute was added by Cheryl Sutcliffe on 17th February 2014

"Lorraine, we all know that Jay was your soulmate, the love of your life. You always glowed when standing by his side and talking about him. That light will never leave you. His memories, his words, his love will always be a part of you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Stay strong and one day you will be by his side eternally. May a God bless you each day."

This tribute was added by Kelly Sanchez on 16th February 2014

"Selfless, Gentle, Patient and Kind, are the words that describe the sweetest Oakie I have ever known. If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, Id' walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. Jay, we are so blessed to have had you in our lives. Thank you for all you have done for me and my family. We all know heaven is a little brighter with your spirit resting comfortably in Gods hands."

This tribute was added by Monica McCormick on 16th February 2014

"Lorraine ~ I are so very sorry & saddened to learn of Jay's passing.  He was such a wonderful and nice man, who was loved by all who knew him.  My thoughts & blessings are with you,  Lorraine & your family, I feel that you are so fortunate to have such a wonderful life together!  Much love & many blessings to you,"

This tribute was added by richard bohn on 15th February 2014

"Lorraine I want you to know that I am here for you!
Please call me if I can help in anyway!!
Jay had such a special charm in him!
I will always remember his greetings with a great handshake and smile!
God bless you and your family!
God brought a great one home in Jay!!!!"

This tribute was added by Melissa Ferguson-Rearick on 15th February 2014

"Jay you will be missed however never forgotten! You and Lorraine have been family to us for many years and have shared some great holidays, memories and just pure fun.
We love you and may god bless you and your family as you are in the best place there is.
The only place where Real Estate is priceless!
Rest in Peace our dear friend

Lorraine we are alwyas here for you, we love you.

The Rearick family"

This tribute was added by maria Rubinstein on 14th February 2014

"It is with a feeling of profound admiration and gratitude that I join in the many praises expressed so far in memory of Jay Young. He touched our lives and hearts and inspired us to be better human beings. Jay will be remembered most for his kind smile, warm spirit, and endless love for his family, friends, and community. He was a kind Southern Gentleman who taught us about courage and determination. Jay was an inspiration to those of us lucky enough to have known him."

This tribute was added by Jan Bowman on 14th February 2014

"Lorraine, our condolences to you and your family.  I'm sure everyone will miss Jay's smiling face!
Jan Bowman
Steve Powell"

This tribute was added by Ronda Ussery on 14th February 2014

"Jay you were a man of many talents.  I had the pleasure of working with only a few times but it was always touched with your wit, wisdom and laughter.  Heaven has a new angel and it's with fondness I will remember you.  Blessings to your family Jay"

This tribute was added by Dana Copeland on 14th February 2014

"Jay...Jay...Jay....Our paths crossed 20 plus years ago and I am a better person as a result.   You will be missed my friend.   Blessings to Lorraine and the family.  We lost a very classy, graceful man who was passionate about all he touched.  God be with you Jay.  Rest now."

This tribute was added by Mary Montgomery on 14th February 2014

"sorry to hear of Jay's sudden passing....Bruce & I will be praying for you and all the family....much love sent you way....Mary Montgomery"

This tribute was added by Lisa Underdahl on 14th February 2014

"Lorraine ~ We are so very sorry & saddened to learn of Jay's passing.  He was such a wonderful, caring man who was loved by all who knew him.  Our thoughts & prayers are with you Lorraine & your family. Much love & many blessings to you, Jeff & Lisa"

This tribute was added by Sandi Chenoweth on 14th February 2014

"Dear Lorraine and family,
I am shocked and saddened by Jay's passing...he was such a wonderful and genuine person who gave so much to his family, friends, colleagues...always a smile and a twinkle in his eye!!  I cannot imagine your shock, despair, and yet I know your love for Jay is everlasting and Jay's love for his family and friends will give us all strength in knowing that he is in a heavenly place!!  Love and prayers to you!!


This tribute was added by lyle zimmerman on 13th February 2014

"Our thoughts are with you. We will always remember Jay, and the many wonderful times we had with both of you. Jay was the definition of a true gentleman. Rest in Peace My Friend. Love, Lyle and Vickie"

This tribute was added by kim hearn on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine,  thinking of you & your family at this difficult time.  Jay
will be missed.  He always had a kind word & a smile...such a gentleman.  I am sorry for your loss.  Kim"

This tribute was added by Jon Nalbandian on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine, I really trusted Jay. He was an honest, intelligent and quality person. I felt we shared similar values and trusted referring clients to him. He always did a great job. On a personal level, I enjoyed his humor and enjoyed exchanging ideas with him. My thoughts and prayers are with you, may you find peace in this time of grief."

This tribute was added by Mary Regan on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine and Family:  Jay has always been a part of my business life. I will miss him. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time."

This tribute was added by Kirsten Nielsen Clibourne on 13th February 2014

"Our family is so sorry for you loss.  Jay was so wonderful to us.  He made our dream come true in owning a home which we never thought possible.  He helped us 2 times with our home loan and really cared.  He will be missed by many.  Our prayers are with you and the family."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Lawhead on 13th February 2014

"My heart is broken with the news of Jay's passing.  He was an incredibly kind, smart, clever and funny southern gentleman....always with a twinkle in his eye and always with time for a sweet hello and hug.  The world has lost a gentle soul way too soon, but God must have wanted and needed him more than we do.  I am praying for your family and friends as we are all enveloped in sadness. But I have the eternal hope that we will all join each other again on the other side in heaven.  God bless you and your family."

This tribute was added by Gini De Armas on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine, we are so very sorry for you loss.  I can not even imagine your pain.  He will be missed by everyone who knew him.  Jay was a pillar of our community, a kind and caring man, and a good friend-We are here for you and your family.  If there is anything you need, please let me know.  Love, Gini and Joe"

This tribute was added by thomas walters on 13th February 2014

"Jay:  You will be missed by all of your friends and co-workers.  We pray that you have found a better place, and will rest in peace for all eternity."

This tribute was added by Michael Cahill on 13th February 2014

"I am so sorry for your loss, Although  I only knew Jay for a short period of time but he had a positive impact on me during our time working together. My thoughts and prayers to Lorraine and Family"

This tribute was added by Marcia O'Neal on 13th February 2014

"To my very dear friend, Lorraine... I am so, so sorry for your loss.  Jay will be missed by so many, he has touched so many lives.  Rory said  it all,  "Jay was a great man."  Love you Lorraine, my heart and thoughts are with you.  Marcia"

This tribute was added by Helen Krunglevich on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine-Bill & I are deeply saddened. Jay will be missed by all who knew him. Words can not express the loss we all will feel-the ultimate Professional, devoted father & husband. We are so priviledged to have known him and can only hope the loving memories will help to heal the pain you are going through. You are in our prayers. Helen & Bill Krunglevich"

This tribute was added by Jeanine Madrid on 13th February 2014

"I will miss you Jay - your sense of humor, suprising jokes, and anecdotes.  Your no-nonsense in business & work ethic.  We will miss you.  My love and prayers to Lorraine and family.  God Bless you Jay!"

This tribute was added by Leslie Kulow on 13th February 2014

"So sorry for your loss. We already miss him here, now will miss him more. Such a pleasure to work with a true professional and a gentleman with such a gentle spirit. Thank you for letting us borrow him for a time. Remember him in all of his light."

This tribute was added by Wendy Darling on 13th February 2014

"A true Southern gentleman, who loved his family above all.  He will be missed."

This tribute was added by Kimberly Fell on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine, thinking of and praying for you and your family during your sudden loss.   I've truly enjoyed spending time with you both at various events and Jay will be very missed.   God bless you all."

This tribute was added by Rita Harper on 13th February 2014

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Jay will be missed by many in the community. I will always remember his gentle smile! My life was blessed to know him. Please know you have a lot of support and love coming your way!"

This tribute was added by Mari Stryjewski on 13th February 2014

"This tribute was added by Mari Stryjewski on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine, my heart is broken for you.  Jay was larger than life and touched so many people.  Our lives will never be the same and yet be richer for Jay being in it.  We love you and are here for you, prayers going out constantly.  Love you so much, Mari""

This tribute was added by Janet Adair on 13th February 2014

"Dear Lorraine, I am so saddend to hear about Jay. I still remember the very first time I met him at a Realtor function and instantly liked him. We always had great conversation and he had the best smile. You and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers. We have great memories of a class act guy that has left us too soon. I love you and hope to see you soon."

This tribute was added by alonzo castro on 13th February 2014

"I am so sorry for your loss! Jay will be missed, he was quite the gentleman and very pleasant. Jay leaves a wonderful legacy as a wonderful family man and true professional at his craft. Rest in Peace My Friend ..."

This tribute was added by Kelly Swinney on 13th February 2014

"Could hardly believe the news.  So sad to hear of Jay's passing away so suddenly.  All those who knew Jay will miss him. Please know there are many prayers for you and the family at this time."

This tribute was added by carol barry on 13th February 2014

"Dear Lorraine,
Words fail me.  I was just adding an endorsement to my Facebook page of Jay's wonderful lending skills from the escrow we just closed on Feb. 4th! He will always be the best lender ever because of his kindness, courtesy, consideration, not to mention his wealth of knowledge.  Bless you, my dear, for such a huge loss of this wonderful man.  I will always be grateful for having known him."

This tribute was added by Deanna Faraone on 13th February 2014

"What to say..... I will miss you. You were like a Dad to me. It just will never be the same. Rest in peace. I love you."

This tribute was added by Bill Thurn on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine - Can't really tell you how sorry I am in hearing of Jay's passing.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.  I think this quote sums up my thoughts on Jay...
"Few were his equal, but none were better"."

This tribute was added by Pina shaw on 13th February 2014

"My thoughts and prayers are with Lorraine/Jennifer and their families.  I remember meeting Jay for the first time through Lorraine about 12 years ago..  Such a pleasant man.  thinking and praying for you all.  Much Love~ Pina Shaw"

This tribute was added by Pamela Ruffridge on 13th February 2014

"Lorraine  We're so very sorry for your loss. Jay will be so very missed by all. I know how much you both loved each other and had a great life together. We love you and feel your pain. Love,  Pam and Dean."

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