Let the memory of Jeffrey be with us forever
  • 53 years old
  • Born on March 1, 1965 .
  • Passed away on June 28, 2018 in Summit, New Jersey, United States.

This memorial website was created in memory of Jeff Totten, 53, of Bridgewater, NJ.  

Jeff, a loving father to his two boys, passed away peacefully surrounded by friends and family on June 28, 2018 at Overlook Hospital in Summit, NJ after a courageous battle with cancer.  Jeff was the first child of the late Robert Klotz Totten (2006) and Janet (Van Heertum) Totten (2010).  Jeff grew up in Mendham, NJ and Wilton, CT.  Jeff graduated valedictorian of Marvelwood School and received his Bachelor of Science from Wittenberg University in 1988 before his career in pharmaceutical sales.    

Compassionate, thoughtful and caring, Jeff loved spending time with his sons and was a dedicated participant in their Scouting and robotics competitions.  He enjoyed vacations with the boys at the beach in Rhode Island, skiing and cycling.  An avid runner, Jeff competed in the Boston and New York marathons.  Above all, his family meant the world to him.  He will be greatly missed.

He is survived by his two children, Benjamin (19) and William (16).  He also leaves his brother Robert Van Doorn Totten of Wilton, CT, his sister Melissa Ann Hayden of Burke, VA, his beloved friend Kathy Sali of Bridgewater, NJ and lifelong friends Robert Apgar of Mendham, NJ and Ernst Wachsmuth of Chester, NJ. 

The family will hold a memorial service in celebration of Jeff's life on July 21, 2018 at the Bridgewater Manor, 1251 Route 202/206 in Bridgewater, NJ.  The ceremony will begin at 12 PM. 

Memorial donations may be made to the college education funds for Jeff's boys, Benjamin and William Totten.  Checks payable to College America -  Totten Education Fund may be provided to Roby Totten (Jeff's brother) at the service or sent to: 

Scott Curran

Attn: Totten Education Fund

The Curran Group, LLC

115 Route 46 West – Suite C22

Mountain Lakes, NJ 07046

If you have any questions, please see Roby after the service. 




Posted by Jill Newman on July 17, 2018
Jeff was a gentle soul. I have many fond childhood memories with him. He was a great first cousin. With us only 6 months apart, we were always at the same stages of life growing up. I will remember his humor, melodious voice, positive attitude, warm smile, and kind spirit. My deepest sympathy to Ben and William and the Totten family.
Posted by Cindy Sarnecky Villani on July 15, 2018
Jeff & I were colleagues for many years at Auxilium Pharmaceutical. Fond times remembering our business trips and the mad rush to the airport at the crack of dawn trying to get parking, go thru security and get to the gate..Sounds easy , never was... We would always laugh and be happy when we got to our destination...And at our meetings Jeff was always a good friend and helpful with company stuff..And on the way back , Jeff always kindhearted making sure I got to my car safely.
Genuinely kind hearted and Always true a Great Friend
Posted by Gary Totten on July 7, 2018
Ancestors of Jeffrey Andrew TOTTEN
First Generation
1. Jeffrey Andrew TOTTEN-309248 was born on 1 Mar 1965 in Mendham, NJ. He died on 28 Jun 2018 in Summit, NJ.
Second Generation
2. Robert K TOTTEN-16475 was born on 12 May 1900 in Morristown, NJ. Robert married (MRIN:102013) Janet VAN HEERTUM-309247.
3. Janet VAN HEERTUM-309247.
They had the following children.
+ 1 M i. Jeffrey Andrew TOTTEN-309248 was born on 1 Mar 1965. He died on 28 Jun 2018.
M ii. Robert Van Doorn TOTTEN-309249 was born in Mendham, NJ. Wilton, VT.
F iii. Melissa Ann TOTTEN-309250 was born in Mendham, NJ. Burke, VA.
Third Generation
4. Dr. Robert Van Doren TOTTEN-16470 was born on 21 Dec 1873 in Hanover, Morris, NJ. He died in Aug 1941 in Middlebush, Somerset, NJ. He was buried in Cedar Grove Cemetery, Middlebush, Somerset County, New Jersey. Robert married (MRIN:6267) Lillian K KLOTZ C-16474 in Sep 1898 in Middlebush, Franklin Twp, Somerset, New Jersey.
5. Lillian K KLOTZ C-16474 was born about 1874 in NJ.
They had the following children.
+ 2 M i. Robert K TOTTEN-16475 was born on 12 May 1900.
F ii. Mary Louisa TOTTEN-16476 was born on 2 Apr 1907 in Morristown, Nj.
Fourth Generation
8. Capt. Benjamin Smith TOTTEN-1701 was born on 26 Jan 1837 in Of, Hillsborough, Somerset, New Jersey. He died on 5 Jul 1902 in Middlebush, N.J.. He was buried in Cedar Grove Cem, Middlebush, Somerset, NJ. Benjamin married (MRIN:1644) Mary Louise VAN DOREN-7007 on 20 Nov 1860 in Jersey City, Hudson, New Jersey Bk. Q; p 389.
9. Mary Louise VAN DOREN-7007 was born on 26 Oct 1839 in Middlebuysh or Jersey City, Hudson, New Jersey. She died on 25 Jun 1910 in Middlebush, Sommerset, Nj. She was buried in Cedar Grove Cem, Middlebush, Somerset, Nj.
They had the following children.
M i. Det George D TOTTEN-5927 was born on 3 Jun 1862 in Middlebush, Franklin Twp, Somerset, New Jersey. He died on 3 Sep 1941 in Somerville, Somerset, Nj.
M ii. Charles Lafferd TOTTEN-2683 was born on 29 Oct 1864 in Middlebush, Franklin Twp, Somerset, New Jersey. He died on 28 Aug 1883.
M iii. William Ribble TOTTEN-2952 was born on 7 Mar 1866 in Middlebush, Franklin Twp, Somerset, New Jersey. He died on 5 Aug 1866 in Middlebush, Franklin Twp, Somerset, New Jersey.
M iv. Arthur Benjamin TOTTEN-2928 was born on 5 May 1869 in Middlebush, Somerset, New Jersey. He died on 21 Jul 1918 in Middlebush, Somerset, New Jersey. He was buried in Cedar Grove Cemetery, Middlebush, Somerset County, New Jersey..
M v. Abraham Williard TOTTEN-16469 was born on 16 Oct 1871 in Middlebush, Franklin Twp, Somerset, New Jersey.
+ 4 M vi. Dr. Robert Van Doren TOTTEN-16470 was born on 21 Dec 1873. He died in Aug 1941.
M vii. DDS. Frank Clark TOTTEN-16471 was born on 21 Apr 1876 in Sommerville, NJ. He died on 23 Jan 1937 in Manheim, Lancaster, Pennsylvania, USA. He was buried in Cedar Lawn Cem, Lancaster, Lancaster, PA.
F viii. Mary Louise TOTTEN-17116 was born on 26/28 Apr 1867 in Middlebush, Nj. She died in Dec 1943 in Fairland, Shelby, IN. She was buried in Fairland Cem, Fairland, Shelby, IN.
Fifth Generation
16. Abraham Skillman TOTTEN-6226 was born on 12 May 1808 in Harlingen, Somerset, n. J.. He was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church. He died on 11 Jan 1881 in Franklin, Somerset Co, NJ. Abraham married (MRIN:933) Abigail Ann SMITH-6167 on 10 Dec 1835 in Somerset, New Jersey.
17. Abigail Ann SMITH-6167 was born on 9 Feb 1818 in Of, Hillsborough, Somerset, New Jersey. She died on 1 Oct 1883.
They had the following children.
M i. Abraham Skillman TOTTEN-4358 was born on 5 Nov 1849 in Neshanic, Somerset, New Jersey. He was christened on 9 Jun 1850. He died in 1912. He was buried in Blawenburg Cem, Mercer Co, NJ.
M ii. Lafferd TOTTEN-2833 was born on 2 Aug 1838 in Of, Hillsborough, Somerset, New Jersey. He died in Elmwood Cem, New Brunswick, NJ.
M iii. John G. Ludlow TOTTEN-6704 was born on 29 Oct 1858 in S. Middlebush, Somerset, Nj. He died on 31 Jul 1935 in S. Middlebush, Somerset, Nj. He was buried in Cedar Grove Cem, Middlebush, Somerset, NJ.
+ 8 M iv. Capt. Benjamin Smith TOTTEN-1701 was born on 26 Jan 1837. He died on 5 Jul 1902.
18. Rev John Addison VAN DOREN-17115 was born on 17 May 1815 in Millston, Somerset, NJ. He died on 24 Aug 1886 in Somerset Co, NJ. John married (MRIN:2836) Sarah Roberson PUDNEY-235501 on 28 Nov 1836.
19. Sarah Roberson PUDNEY-235501 died on 3 Nov 1870.
They had the following children.
+ 9 F i. Mary Louise VAN DOREN-7007 was born on 26 Oct 1839. She died on 25 Jun 1910.
Sixth Generation
32. Lafferd TOTTEN-4766 was born on 5 Jun 1773 in Harlingen, Somerset, NJ. He died on 4 Jun 1828 in Hillsborough, Somerset, NJ. He was buried in Harlingen Reformed Church Cem, Hillsborough, Somerset, NJ. Lafferd married (MRIN:1360) Mary SKILLMAN-6586 on 8 Oct 1806 in Harlingen, Somerset, Nj.
33. Mary SKILLMAN-6586 was born on 17 Dec 1788 in Of, Hempstead, Nassau, New York. She died on 2 Nov 1838 in Hillsborough, Somerset, NJ. She was buried in Harlingen Reformed Church Cem, Hillsborough, Somerset, NJ.
They had the following children.
+ 16 M i. Abraham Skillman TOTTEN-6226 was born on 12 May 1808. He died on 11 Jan 1881.
F ii. Maria TOTTEN-3450 was born on 7 Sep 1810 in Harlingen, Somerset, n. J.. She was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church.
F iii. Lucretia TOTTEN-4918 was born on 8 Nov 1812 in Hempstead, Nassau, New York or Harligen, Somerset, Nj. She died on 18 Nov 1881.
M iv. Levi TOTTEN-2515 was born on 13 Sep 1813 in Florida, Orange Co, NY. He was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church. He died on 28 Mar 1895 in Canisteo, Steuben, Ny. He was buried in Hillside Cemetary, Canisteo, Steuben, Ny.
M v. John Simpson TOTTEN-3290 was born on 7 May 1817 in Harlingen, Somerset, Nj. He was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church. He died on 9 May 1905.
M vi. Joseph TOTTEN-4733 was born on 30 Oct 1818 in Harlingen, Somerset Co, NJ. He was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church. He died on 13 Sep 1901.
F vii. Rachel TOTTEN-2842 was born on 25 Jun 1821 in Harlingen, Somerset, n. J.. She was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church. She died on 27 Nov 1906.
M viii. Cornelius Waldron TOTTEN-6705 was born on 21 Mar 1825 in Harlingen, Somerset, n. J.. He was christened on 31 Mar 1825 in Harlingen, Reformed Church. He died on 2 Apr 1826.
F ix. Lucretia (Lucy) TOTTEN-3623 was born on 27 Sep 1812 in Harlingen, Somerset, n. J.. She died on 18 Nov 1881 in Harlingen, Somerset, n. J..
F x. Sarah Joanna TOTTEN-303222 was born on 29 Mar 1823 in Somerset Co, NJ. She died on 16 Jun 1912 in New Brunswick, Middlesex, NJ. She was buried in Evergreen Cemetery, New Brunswick, Middlesex County, NJ.
F xi. Catherine Elizabeth MORLEY-5123 was born on 17 Dec 1827 in Wayland, Steuben Co, NY. She was christened in Harlingen, Reformed Church. She died on 21 Mar 1921 in Wayland, Steuben Co, NY. She was buried in Wayland Village Cem, Steuben Co, NY.
34. Benjamin T. SMITH-6858 was born in 1794 in Of, Hillsborough, Somerset, New Jersey. He died in 1859. Benjamin married (MRIN:2934) Ann BROKAW-6304 on 9 Feb 1815 in Of, Hillsborough, Somerset, New Jersey.
35. Ann BROKAW-6304 was born on 23 Apr 1795 in Of, Hillsborough, Somerset, New Jersey. She died in 1865.
They had the following children.
+ 17 F i. Abigail Ann SMITH-6167 was born on 9 Feb 1818. She died on 1 Oct 1883.
36. Garret Voorhees VAN DOREN-236155 was born in 1781. He died in 1858. Garret married (MRIN:6533) Jemima DYKEMAN-235726 on 24 Dec 1812.
37. Jemima DYKEMAN-235726 was born on 5 Jun 1797. She died on 11 Oct 1851.
They had the following children.
18 M i. Rev John Addison VAN DOREN-17115 was born on 17 May 1815. He died on 24 Aug 1886.
Seventh Generation
64. Levi TOTTEN-4271 was born in 1733 in Fishkill, Dutchess, NY. He died on 19 Jul 1815 in New Brunswick, Middlesex, New Jersey. Levi married (MRIN:2761) Maria WALDRON-5138 in 1759 in New Brunswick, Middlesex, New Jersey.
65. Maria WALDRON-5138 was born in 1738 in New Brunswick, Middlesex, NJ. She was christened on 20 Mar 1738 in New Brunswick, Middlesex, NJ. She died on 5 Aug 1798 in Middlebush, Somerset, NJ.
They had the following children.
F i. Rachel TOTTEN-235553 was born on 24 Feb 1760.
M ii. Joseph TOTTEN-3075 was born on 26 Oct 1763 in New Brunswick, Middlesex, New Jersey. He died on 17 Feb 1849 in Central Bridge, Schoharie, New York.
M iii. James H TOTTEN-5892 was born on 11 Oct 1771 in Of, New Brunswick, Middlesex, New Jersey. He died on 27 Sep 1857 in Wilmington, Dekalb, Indiana.
+ 32 M iv. Lafferd TOTTEN-4766 was born on 5 Jun 1773. He died on 4 Jun 1828.
M v. Silas TOTTEN-6328 was born about 1775 in Of, New Brunswick, Middlesex, New Jersey.
F vi. Maria TOTTEN-235845 was born on 13 Feb 1780.
M vii. Lafferd TOTTEN-27700 was born on 27 Jul 1797 in Schoharie, Ny. He died on 11 Aug 1854 in Burton Twp, Adams Co, IL. He was buried in Payson Twp, Adams Co, IL.
M viii. Lewis TOTTEN-3635 was born in 1784 in Morris, Camden, NJ. He died in 1855/1856 in Frankford Twp, Sussex Co. NJ.
66. Abraham SKILLMAN-2616 was born on 20 Jul 1758 in Of, Hempstead, Nassau, New York. He died on 10 Nov 1838. He was buried in Belle Mead, , n. J.. Abraham married (MRIN:2602) Lucretia VAN ZANDT-2438 about 1787 in Of, Hempstead, Nassau, New York.
67. Lucretia VAN ZANDT-2438 was born in 1763 in Of, Hempstead, Nassau, New York. She died on 31 Dec 1851.
They had the following children.
+ 33 F i. Mary SKILLMAN-6586 was born on 17 Dec 1788. She died on 2 Nov 1838.
F ii. Lucretia SKILLMAN-6314 was born in 1790 in .
M iii. Joseph SKILLMAN-5330 was born in 1793 in .
M iv. Thomas SKILLMAN-4874 was born in 1800 in . He died on 1 Jan 1876.
F v. Catherine SKILLMAN-1828 was born in 1804 in .
68. Benjamin T. SMITH-3856 was born about 1768. He died about 1828. Benjamin married (MRIN:1886) Abigail-6632.
69. Abigail-6632 was born about 1772.
They had the following children.
+ 34 M i. Benjamin T. SMITH-6858 was born in 1794. He died in 1859.
72. John VAN DOREN Jr-235987 was born on 9 Jan 1757. He died on 28 Jul 1832. John married (MRIN:64204) Catlyntje VOORHEES-188457 on 17 Oct 1779.
73. Catlyntje VOORHEES-188457 was born on 27 Dec 1754. She died on 17 Oct 1779.
They had the following children.
+ 36 M i. Garret Voorhees VAN DOREN-236155 was born in 1781. He died in 1858.
Eighth Generation
128. Jonas TOTTEN-3468 was born in 1705 in Fishkill, Dutchess, NY. He died in 1798 in New Windsor, Orange, NY. Jonas married (MRIN:1593) Ann FULTON-5681 in 1729 in , New Windsor, Ulster, New York.
129. Ann FULTON-5681 was born in 1707 in New Windsor, Ulster, New York. She died in 1789 in New Windsor, Orange, NY.
They had the following children.
M i. James TOTTEN-4086 was born in 1734 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died in , Ulster, New York.
M ii. Jonas TOTTEN-6903 was born in 1763 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died in Sep 1837 in Jennings, Crawford, Indiana.
F iii. Mary TOTTEN-6097 was born in 1744 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York.
M iv. Joseph TOTTEN-3920 was born in 1745 in Of, Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died in 1795.
M v. Silas TOTTEN-2718 was born in 1735 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York.
M vi. Thomas TOTTEN-2552 was born in 1740 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died in 1785 in New Windsor, Orange, New York.
+ 64 M vii. Levi TOTTEN-4271 was born in 1733. He died on 19 Jul 1815.
M viii. Benjamin C TOTTEN-6524 was born in 1730 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died in 1796 in Lynchburg, Campbell, Va.
130. Leffert WALDRON-4596 was born about 1714 in Of, Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died in 1748. Leffert married (MRIN:2861) Eyda SUYDAM-3170 about 1734 in Of, Fishkill, Dutchess, New York.
131. Eyda SUYDAM-3170 was born about 1716 in Of, Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. She died in 1810.
They had the following children.
+ 65 F i. Maria WALDRON-5138 was born in 1738. She died on 5 Aug 1798.
146. Jan Lucasse VOORHEES-188458. Jan married (MRIN:64205) Mayke SCHENCK-188459.
147. Mayke SCHENCK-188459.
They had the following children.
+ 73 F i. Catlyntje VOORHEES-188457 was born on 27 Dec 1754. She died on 17 Oct 1779.
Ninth Generation
256. Benjamin TOTTEN-2852 was born in 1669 in Long Island City, Queens, NY. He died in 1740 in Fishkill, Dutchess, NY. Benjamin married (MRIN:2373) Rebecca SPRINGSTEEN-2930 in 1702 in Fishkilll, Dutchess, NY.
257. Rebecca SPRINGSTEEN-2930 was born in 1675 in Fishkilll, Dutchess, NY. She died in 1740 in Fishkilll, Dutchess, NY.
They had the following children.
M i. John TOTTEN-6161 was born in 1703 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. He died on 22 Nov 1773 in Fishkilll, Dutchess, NY.
M ii. Jasper TOTTEN-3489 was born in 1703 in Long Island City, Queens, NY. He died on 10 Dec 1761 in Morristown, Morris, NJ.
+ 128 M iii. Jonas TOTTEN-3468 was born in 1705. He died in 1798.
F iv. Rebecca TOTTEN-2586 was born in 1707 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York. She died in 1773 in Albany, Albany, NY.
F v. Phebe TOTTEN-2448 was born in 1709 in Poughkeepsie, Dutchess, New York. She died in 1790 in Lincoln, North Carolina.
M vi. Benjamin TOTTEN-2817 was born in 1711 in Fishkilll, Dutchess, NY.
M vii. Jonathan TOTTEN-6778 was born in 1711 in Poughkeepsie, Dutchess, New York. He died in 1738 in Fishkill, Dutchess, New York.
258. David FULTON-5542 was born about 1684 in New Windsor, Ulster, New York. David married (MRIN:2074) Ann Fulton-3981 about 1706 in Of, New Windsor, Orange, New York.
259. Ann Fulton-3981 was born about 1686 in New Windsor, Ulster, New York.
They had the following children.
+ 129 F i. Ann FULTON-5681 was born in 1707. She died in 1789.
262. Cornelius SUYDAM-3156 was born in 1682 in . He died in 1771. Cornelius married (MRIN:2064) Marytie FONTEYN-6718.
263. Marytie FONTEYN-6718 was born about 1694 in .
They had the following children.
+ 131 F i. Eyda SUYDAM-3170 was born about 1716. She died in 1810.
Tenth Generation
512. Richard Meade TOTTEN-2888 was born in 1640/1644 in Tottenham, London, England. He died on 12 Jun 1712 in Hempstead, Nassau, Long Island, Ny. Richard married (MRIN:2583) Sarah CHAMPION-2711 in 1662 in Hempstead, Long Island, New York.
513. Sarah CHAMPION-2711 was born in 1643 in Ashford, Kent, England. She was christened in Warwickshire. She died in 1673 in Hempstead, Nassau, New York. She was buried in Hempstead, Nassau, New York.
They had the following children.
M i. Peter TOTTEN-2772 was born in 1662 in Hempstead, Nassau, NY. He died in 1731 in North Castle, Westchester, NY.
M ii. Samuel TOTTEN Jr-4129 was born about 1665 in Hempstead, Queens, New York. He died in 1737.
M iii. Henry TOTTEN-5209 was born about 1667 in Hempstead, Queens, New York.
+ 256 M iv. Benjamin TOTTEN-2852 was born in 1669. He died in 1740.
M v. Richard TOTTEN Jr-6812 was born about 1670 in Hempstead, Nassau, NY. He died in 1731/1733 in Hempstead, Livingston, NY.
M vi. William TOTTEN-3799 was b

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