ForeverMissed
She went beyond anything the doctors had ever seen or experienced, and beyond what they could even imagine. She was, in her husband Scott’s words, “a sample size of 1!”

Jennifer Foor Stephen—mom, wife, sister, friend, student, leader, coach, and so much more to so many of us—passed away Sunday, May 30th after a 7+ year unique and inspirational fight with cancer. Unwilling to be defined by her illness, she demonstrated how to be wildly successful living fully with a terminal disease, a “beater of all odds,” and a slayer of what people told her she could not do. Like with any difficult situation in her life, Jennifer transcended the limitations of her terminal disease and thrived living a glorious life worth living like no other.

Jennifer had a lifelong commitment to the Wright Foundation, learning and growing, and sharing herself with others. In partnership with Dr. Bob, Jennifer started and led the first student-led transformation lab, which has now become a staple of the Wright community. She modeled for all of us a deep and profound love of life and all the adventures it encompasses physically, emotionally, and mentally. She lived a life with a victimless mindset that most of us would have a difficult time imagining. Her steely, mama-bear dedication to serving anyone who crossed her path applied to strangers, neighbors, friends, and students, and she encouraged those in turn to reflect themselves back to her. She would always see the best in anyone, no matter what.

We imagine Jennifer would want us to live excellently–to live life to the fullest and have the greatest impact on our world that we possibly can.

We invite you to share your memories, stories, and celebrations of Jennifer’s life!



Posted by Rachel Zwell on June 19, 2021
Jenn,
When I first joined your Transformation Lab, I remember you sharing with the lab the story of my childhood and the challenges that I’d faced. I don’t know if I’ve ever felt so understood, seen, and protected. You had this way of having high expectations in the most loving way.

You had so much strength and so much softness too. I miss you.
Love, Rachel  
Posted by Munzoor Shaikh on June 18, 2021

Jennifer is the type of person that can invoke a deep ache down to your bones while at the same time make your heart sing. She was always working towards bettering herself and yet had a sense of completion and that’s the word that comes to mind and heart for me - complete.

Jen, you saw the best in me and the flaws in me and in both cases I felt loved, cared for and complete. I remember when you first facilitated my team to become a high performing team. You did it with such fun! Your way of being made it fun rather than something we all dreaded. It’s still a mystery to me how you didn’t know any of us but still so quickly saw the best in us and the worst in us. But I’m most surprised and delighted by your way of being that invoked us wanting to BE that best part of ourselves and as complete as we could be in that moment. My wife, Sanjida, and I have been lucky to have you always hold us as a couple that deeply connects, learns and grows and serves the Divine through all that we do in our lives. We still feel you holding us as I write this. For me specifically you help me find a connection with the Divine through all events, struggles, fights, people and things in my life whether they be religious in nature or not. I LOVE the fighter spirit that you invoke in me and fight for all that is good and right both in me and for the world. While you will be forever missed, you remain forever alive as the lover and fighter in our hearts. You remain forever alive in our lives as the radiant example of a work in progress AND complete human being that you are. I’m so grateful to the Divine for having me know you, having me know a sense of development and completion through you. To me, you remain a true mystic, a mystery and a gift from the heavens forever cherished.
Posted by Philip Blue on June 18, 2021
Jenn, thank you for teaching me so much on how to love, for staying behind after a long training, and holding space for me for an hour to talk about my girlfriend and what was going on for me, and thanks for your response to me.

And, thanks for your clarity, and for introducing me to Mary and to the beauty of the sacred.

And, finally, but not finally, thank you for trusting me to be with you in the end. My life is forever changed because you taught me what intimacy and love really are and then continue to comfort me in it.

So much love,

Phil
Posted by Robert Wright on June 12, 2021
Dearest Jen,
I will never forget seeing you working on your laptop and developing the Weber marketing plan in my office in the 1980s. That was the first time I remember seeing an electronic spreadsheet. I remember you becoming the first female head of marketing for a national hardware manufacturing company in and guiding Weber to a significant place in the marketplace.
It is also hard to forget the challenges that you went through at your jobs as a pioneering businesswoman. You courageously worked with entrenched culture and dealt with jealousy of others in the face of your fierce dedication. Your brilliance was finally fully appreciated when you formed a long-term mutual work relationship with Joe Dollens at his GEO Global firm.
I remember the moment in your breathwork where you so beautifully expressed how you felt at home for the first time in your life and you began showing the softness underneath your warrior exterior. That was the point when you first saw the possibility of growing love for your life and dove into your personal development work.
You never stopped being a fighter but you used the fights to look at and work to complete your unfinished business. You never stopped learning and growing. Then you joined with Mike Zwell to become the first student leaders in the foundation.
There is so much to acknowledge in your family work and the inspirational way you went about dealing with your cancer that I will end the words of this conversation and continue communicating with you in my heart and prayers.
Thank you for the blessing of working with you so closely over these many years—doing your own personal development work and becoming such a giving, marvelous agent for others to fulfill their potential.
Bob
Posted by Brian Sauder on June 7, 2021
Mama Jenn was my Wildfire lab leader and supported me through big life transitions, struggles, and joys. During that time, she was the first one I texted when I wasn't sure where to turn. She would move heaven and earth to make sure I was my fullest authentic self and had the supportive vision I needed for that moment. I miss her and want to share my love and prayers with anyone reading this note.
Posted by Stan Smith on June 5, 2021
Gosh, it feels like I have known Jenn forever. We probably met at a seasonal retreat as early as 1990? I do remember when we were on KP duty together we often clashed and always enjoyed those small battles laughing afterwards. You could always laugh with Jennifer. One night in England in Glastonbury on pilgrimage she and I and Judith and Gertrude stayed up all night telling stories, laughing, playing. Her eyes are beautiful whether soft or piercing. Countless times the depths of pilgrimage experiences her with her were profound, Israel, Italy, everywhere.
Posted by Kathy Schroeder on June 5, 2021
I am so blessed to have known & loved Jenn for so many years. She was an absolutely amazing woman & I will adore her until the end of time. One memory is her reading the famous Khalil Gibran quotation at our wedding, almost 24 years ago when Steve & I got married. Still remember her saying it in a sacred way & the blessing that it was to us. Love you, Jenn
Posted by Chelsea Rao on June 5, 2021
Jennifer taught me so much about living, mostly through the opportunities I had to see her be her authentic self. At least once a week I think about or share a comment Jenn made at a parenting weekend - “it’s not that doing this work prevents challenging things from happening, it’s that doing the work gives us the means to talk about them and be with each other.” She taught me so much about simple ways to live outside of the box. I remember her planning a 6 AM birthday party because that was the best time to gather loved ones together! She cared so deeply and in that she lived so richly.
Posted by Josephine Koo on June 4, 2021
I had the privilege of hearing Jenn share her courageous story at the Women's weekend 2018, and to hear her share her wisdom very lovingly, in follow-up meetings.

When Scott invited his Campbell Software friends to their wedding, I saw how special Jenn was, but had no idea what a powerhouse she was.

My prayers are with your beautiful family.
Posted by Chelsey Jackel on June 4, 2021
I have so many amazing memories with Jenn, aka "mama Jenn". I didn't call her that at first, though many others did, as I deeply yearned to connect, but was scared of loosing myself in her strength and presence. She had quite a "room shifting" presence that inspired me deeply. 

About, oh, 18 months later, during a class with her, she leaned in close to me and said "I feel really partnered with you tonight!" I hadn't felt that much joy and pride in a while. I teared up and said "thanks mama!" We smiled at each other and turned back to the class and kept working!

An amazing woman. She will forever be embedded into my heart!

To all the family, and Scott... my tears are with you! May we all continue to live, breath and impact the world in honor of her memory!
Posted by Kathleen M Kearns on June 4, 2021
I feel sad and joy at the same time. Sad because I will miss seeing her beautiful face and amazing energy. Joy because she is part of my DNA, as my lab leader she guided me through family work and my father's death. It is because of her that I created my own family of support, people that would unconditionally support me which I would not get from my family of creation. I don't have enough words to express how much Jennifer means to me. I think of her often, and I mean weekly—I hear her voice in my head when I am up against something or when I'm hesitating to express my true feelings. At times she held a bigger vision for me than I did myself. I have felt her fierce love and I know I have an angel to call on. Scott, Sarah & Jack, thank you for sharing her with us/me. Blessings tenfold. Kathleen
Posted by Karen Terry on June 4, 2021
Jennifer had a voice. Man, could she sing! Even after cancer and chemo affected her vocal chords, she kept on singing--and she sang with such feeling that it didn't matter the notes weren't perfect anymore. When Jen sang, you went on a journey with her. She picked you up and took you someplace. And you were always glad you went where she headed.
Posted by Megan Taylor on June 4, 2021
Jenn,

You have been an earth Angel to MANY, and I am try blessed you were a part of my life. You were instrumental in my development as a young woman, you were available for every single call, text, and email from me. You made my 20 & 30 year—old dramas feel important, you reflected back grace and love as I struggled and grew through life, and you always held the space and boundary for me to come to my own conclusion, learn my own lesson, and shine back a light that I was a budding flower with infinite potential. From our many saunas in your home, VIP day at Lollapalooza, to Deepak Chopra’s movie premier in Sedona, coffees, late night meetings with our women’s group, and my favorite our spiritual pilgrimages around the world - we lived life. Your presence, laughter, lightness, ability to say the unsayable, have forever shaped me into the woman I am.

I watched you be a wife, a mother, a sister, a lab leader, a community member, and drank it all up so that I could shadow your way of being. Your diagnosis with cancer was no different, and I will never forget when you told me 7 years ago, while you were on vacation and you asked me to make a “happy vibes playlist.” You said “I am so sorry I know I am an attachment figure for you.” You were an attachment figure for me, and ultimately through you I learned more how to attach to myself. I am honored to have witnessed your struggle, your grit, your humility, and your grace as you lived with lung cancer and fought for your health, but ultimately what I witnessed was you learning how to truly appreciate life, and live life with meaning, reverence, and with truth. I love that we shared an infinity for trends and you always wanted to stay current and in the know, you spent your last summer in a class unpacking racism, you spent this spring at Wright Grad University studying for another masters, you were always a student but I must admit you have been one of my greatest teachers.

I feel your spirit, I hear your voice, and forever cherish our human days together. I miss you and love you forever.

xo,
Megan
Posted by Kate Holmquest on June 4, 2021
I am so grateful for Jenn's inviting, challenging, specific, and persistent care -- for me and for so many others, and for the mission she was a partner in! Each year on a women's retreat she would hear the vision I was working with to guide the coming year and offer a few words that completely "got" me and also spoke to the me I couldn't imagine becoming yet. She gave so generously as a mentor to me in training for leadership, and I would know from a quick email or text now and then in response to something posted to our leadership group that she had her eye on me, and all of us. The wisdom she had and shared and lived about living with something chronic changed my experience of my own physical and spiritual challenges on so many occasions, again often with just a few words aimed directly and lovingly at the person I could be. My heart and prayers are with her and with you, Scott, Sarah, and Jack.
Posted by Barbara Burgess on June 4, 2021
And they called her home

(from Barbara Burgess as conduit)



And they called her home...

the great ones

the beautiful ones

the bright ones



they could no longer bear to be apart

from the precious collective

earth friends called "Jennifer"

spirit friends called "heart"



not yet...she said

when the notice first came

they called it disease

but an invitation was its aim



not yet...she said

i have family to love

and people to hug

and i'm not yet done



so they waited

so kindly and gently

yes calling but still

honoring her wish

as she got her fill



yet their longing for her grew and grew

and once more they sent

their notice anew

new points

new reminders

right there inside her

a body so filled

with their deepest desires



and again she said...not yet

not yet...there is so much more

i have students to teach

and friends to explore



and once again they waited

but closer this time

their hand on this "heart"

a radiant line



and the earth days kept spinning

and they watched her grow

and expand 

and become 

and stretch

and glow



until finally 

yes finally

they could not stand

the distance from her

the longing, demand



and they wrapped her up

in a blanket of light

to honor her journey

the internal flight



to a new adventure

new souls to love

new beings to inspire

below and above



and they called her home...

and this time she came

the great ones

the beautiful ones

the bright ones

her same
Posted by Beryl Stromsta on June 3, 2021
Jennifer was a one-of-a-kind mama bear. Her commitment to living fully in the face of cancer was truly inspirational. I vividly remember her in her performances of "The Growth Goes On", costumed in her rap gear and chains. She was creative, funny, resilient, straight, loving, passionate, and a caring vision holder for everyone she touched. While she was my coach she gave me potent feedback that I will remember always, that literally changed the trajectory of my growth. Later, I loved partnering with her on supporting people that were in her lab and that I coached over the years, and I trusted her implicitly. I treasured our moments together on parent-child weekends, and other trainings, and especially our one-on-one time together, most recently our nourishing neighborhood walks/talks until late into 2020. I will miss her far more than I can say. I feel honored and so grateful to have known her, and she will always be in my heart. Scott, Sarah and Jack, my heart is with you as you grieve her loss, and celebrate her life. Love and hugs....
Posted by John Tiso on June 3, 2021
I didn't realize how much Jenn meant to me until she had already passed on. I was always amazed at her ability to give direct and honest feedback wrapped up in so much love. Jenn was strong in a way I want to work towards in my own life. I want to be more like her, and I'm inspired by who she was to carry on her legacy of love and strength in my own ways. Scott, your whole family is in my heart and prayers.
Posted by Omar Khokhar on June 2, 2021
My first Wright experience was the training weekend June 2012. I had known Munzoor from before, but when I saw him, Sanjida, and Jennifer do a RAP (!) onstage, it was my WHOA moment. Such a treasure. So sorry for your loss Scott.

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Posted by Rachel Zwell on June 19, 2021
Jenn,
When I first joined your Transformation Lab, I remember you sharing with the lab the story of my childhood and the challenges that I’d faced. I don’t know if I’ve ever felt so understood, seen, and protected. You had this way of having high expectations in the most loving way.

You had so much strength and so much softness too. I miss you.
Love, Rachel  
Posted by Munzoor Shaikh on June 18, 2021

Jennifer is the type of person that can invoke a deep ache down to your bones while at the same time make your heart sing. She was always working towards bettering herself and yet had a sense of completion and that’s the word that comes to mind and heart for me - complete.

Jen, you saw the best in me and the flaws in me and in both cases I felt loved, cared for and complete. I remember when you first facilitated my team to become a high performing team. You did it with such fun! Your way of being made it fun rather than something we all dreaded. It’s still a mystery to me how you didn’t know any of us but still so quickly saw the best in us and the worst in us. But I’m most surprised and delighted by your way of being that invoked us wanting to BE that best part of ourselves and as complete as we could be in that moment. My wife, Sanjida, and I have been lucky to have you always hold us as a couple that deeply connects, learns and grows and serves the Divine through all that we do in our lives. We still feel you holding us as I write this. For me specifically you help me find a connection with the Divine through all events, struggles, fights, people and things in my life whether they be religious in nature or not. I LOVE the fighter spirit that you invoke in me and fight for all that is good and right both in me and for the world. While you will be forever missed, you remain forever alive as the lover and fighter in our hearts. You remain forever alive in our lives as the radiant example of a work in progress AND complete human being that you are. I’m so grateful to the Divine for having me know you, having me know a sense of development and completion through you. To me, you remain a true mystic, a mystery and a gift from the heavens forever cherished.
Posted by Philip Blue on June 18, 2021
Jenn, thank you for teaching me so much on how to love, for staying behind after a long training, and holding space for me for an hour to talk about my girlfriend and what was going on for me, and thanks for your response to me.

And, thanks for your clarity, and for introducing me to Mary and to the beauty of the sacred.

And, finally, but not finally, thank you for trusting me to be with you in the end. My life is forever changed because you taught me what intimacy and love really are and then continue to comfort me in it.

So much love,

Phil
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Shared by Renee Wilhelm on June 5, 2021
I worked with Scott years ago when he started dating Jenn. One day at work, he was heading out the door for lunch and said "I'm going to meet for lunch with Jenn and we're going to share things we don't like about each other." I'm rather confident that I followed his statement with a snarky remark.....but how wonderful is that? A relationship with a depth of commitment to that type of sharing solidified in me that she was the woman for him, to support and drive his passions and never let him stop growing as a person and in their relationship. Clearly, my friend Scott was in the best hands. Her honesty and respectful approach and commitment to relationships is something that has stayed with me through the years and supported my growth as a person and of my relationships. Jenn's inspiring and positive impact is immeasurable. Cheers to a beautiful soul.  

Mama Jenn

Shared by Yann Dang on June 5, 2021
I remember my first lab session where she said I had sophisticated defensive mechanisms.  I felt so seen by her.  I loved how she lived life so fully, her care, her fierceness, her unapologetic way of being and her style. She was sexy and sassy.  She was vulnerable and powerful.  She taught me to Speak from Twat! A mantra that helped me build my executive presence and live into the female leader she always held vision for.  Mama Jenn taught me that by providing for others financially,I was taken away their ability to earn and provide for themselves.  I am so grateful for her and the impact she’s had on my life.  Never a victim always a lifelong learner and a true inspiration to me and so many others.  I will miss her greatly ♥️