It was Halloween and I remember last year Lovely came over for a party that Monday night of Halloween. I had carved a pumpkin with a revolutionary symbol on it and it was the first time she told me she loved me (as friends, of course), but I knew then our bond was strengthened. She taught me so much and to see that--to hear that--to know my costume the year prior had inspired her costume this year meant a lot. I relaxed around her then and spent more time with her. We had days grocery shopping together or talking about love and politics. Often when I would go to a rally alone, she was there alone, too. In solidarity we marched. We were never alone because we had each other and I am so sorry and sad that her spirit is not here. But I know it is free. I know her spirit is liberated and I carry her with me. I love you, Lovely. Have some pumpkins and vegan treats out for you! Happy Halloween <3 <3 <3
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Tynesha, 'Jenny' 'Lovely' Davis 29 years old , born on November 15, 1987 and passed away on July 29, 2017. We will remember.
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Leave a tributeIt was Halloween and I remember last year Lovely came over for a party that Monday night of Halloween. I had carved a pumpkin with a revolutionary symbol on it and it was the first time she told me she loved me (as friends, of course), but I knew then our bond was strengthened. She taught me so much and to see that--to hear that--to know my costume the year prior had inspired her costume this year meant a lot. I relaxed around her then and spent more time with her. We had days grocery shopping together or talking about love and politics. Often when I would go to a rally alone, she was there alone, too. In solidarity we marched. We were never alone because we had each other and I am so sorry and sad that her spirit is not here. But I know it is free. I know her spirit is liberated and I carry her with me. I love you, Lovely. Have some pumpkins and vegan treats out for you! Happy Halloween <3 <3 <3
I only regret that I wasn't able to speak to you one last time, Lovely. Maybe then I could have at least tried to provide support when you needed it most. Rest in peace and know that everyone who has known you will carry on the work you so valiantly undertook for the good of all people.
She asked, "Who will cry for the little black girl?"...I will, dear Lovely. I will.
Today we lost another Black organizer and freedom fighter. Her name was Tynesha Davis, but most of us knew her as Lovely, or Jenny Keys. However you knew her—or even if you didn’t know her—it’s important that we say her name.
Please, say her name.
Tynesha.
Jenny.
Lovely…
What I’m about to say will not offer any answers or consolation. I’m seeking those things myself, and so far I’ve come up empty handed.
#ForLovely
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Note: The following passages will reference suicide. Apologies that these thoughts are disjointed.
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Early this morning, Lovely performed the greatest expression of bodily autonomy by transitioning from this world, on her own terms. I refuse to suggest that Lovely “took her own life,” because she didn’t.
She didn’t have to. We took it for her.
In her last Facebook post Lovely revealed to us all who was responsible for her death. “White supremacist capitalist patriarchy,” she wrote, “it’s a killer.”
Lovely dedicated her life to the destruction of white supremacy and capitalism. She did so thanklessly and tirelessly, because that’s what patriarchy expects of Black women. If these systems didn’t exist, Lovely would be alive. If we didn’t uphold their existence, Lovely would be here to educate, nurture, and guide us with her brilliance and fearlessness.
I want to be clear that Lovely was the real fucking deal. I was never shy in telling people that her politics were light-years beyond mine. One of Lovely’s favorite quotes was, “The personal is political,” and she lived in that truth wholeheartedly. Thanks to her online presence and writings, I was able to learn a lot from Lovely—both before and during our friendship. And even in her death, she’s still teaching me. Every profound thought I’ve ever uttered about the intersections of oppression I’ve learned from Black women like Lovely. She was the truth.
Lovely first reached out to me over a year ago when she felt her local organizing circle wasn’t intersectional enough. I knew we could use her immense wealth of knowledge and political insights to further our local initiatives. She joined BLM Upstate NY and quickly became an invaluable asset, despite living well outside the Capital District.
Lovely helped organized many events and public actions taking place in the Upstate NY area. Most recently, she played an active role in planning three separate rallies for the Black UAlbany women facing prosecution in Albany County. She spent hours commuting back and forth from her hometown of Syracuse to coordinate with local organizers. Lovely did this ON TOP of her organizing and political undertakings in Syracuse. That’s how committed Lovely was to Black women and Black liberation.
In her parting words to us, Lovely joked about the irony of her name. Lovely was desperate for love. Or more specifically, she was desperate for us to act on the love we had for her. She wrote that love had “clearly failed” her. That phrase keeps haunting me because it makes me believe that Lovely knew she was loved, but that love wasn’t manifesting in the ways it needed to in order to sustain her. That resonates with me. The love was there, but it failed her. We failed her.
I think I’m supposed to say that suicide is solely a personal choice and it’s not anyone’s fault, but I don’t believe that to be true. It is our fault. It’s our fault Lovely is gone. It’s our fault for not putting in the effort to make sure the people we love are cared for and treated with compassion. It’s our fault organizing communities are often just as brutal and cold as the rest of society. That’s why so many of us are divesting or turning to suicide. It’s our fault that we treat each other like this—even when we hide behind our own trauma as an excuse. It’s our fault that every emotion and expression has become performative, and not substantiative... including the words you’re reading right now. I didn’t respond to the last three messages Lovely sent me. There was one from January where she simply wrote, “I hope to see you again soon.” That was my fault. And I’ll have to take that regret with me to my grave. We could have done more. I could have done more.
Lovely was about lasting revolution, not just reactionary efforts. But it’s so much more convenient to be reactionary than to put in the work up front. Case in point:
This morning I woke up earlier than usual and immediately saw Lovely’s post. I jumped into organizer mode and began collaborating with people all over the East coast to find her. Time was on our side. I truly believed that this would end by us locating her before she had finished what she’d set out to do. But that didn’t happen. The window of opportunity to save Lovely had long since closed. While we were making calls and writing posts and tweeting, Lovely was walking to her final resting place. While we were circulating fundraiser links and graphics, Lovely was breathing her final breaths. When I finally got word that Lovely had passed, tips were still coming in about her possible whereabouts. It was too late. A beautiful person and friend was gone forever.
And if just a FRACTION of that effort was used prior to this morning, Lovely would still be here. I really don’t know how to come to grips with that...
But Lovely gave us an out.
She wrote, “There is so much I wanted to do in life, but maybe now my lessons I tried to teach will be received after transition. Herstory has shown that to be the case.”
What will you do with the lessons Lovely was so gracious enough to leave us? What will you do with the lessons she taught us today? Lovely gave us the blueprint to do better. That’s a gift. We’d be wise not to waste it.
When I heard that Lovely’s body had been found, I’m ashamed to admit that my first emotion was jealousy. I doubt I’m alone in spending a lot of my time wishing I wasn’t here. It’s hard. Facing a world that demonstrates day in and day out that it doesn’t want you... It takes a toll. I’ve made attempts. People I love and care about have made attempts—many were organizers like Lovely. Some have succeeded. And with each light dimmed it makes the world that much harder to navigate.
We lost a beacon of light today. Embrace and acknowledge that loss. Then decide what we can do to make sure that light wasn’t extinguished in vain.
Thank you Lovely for everything you’ve given to this world. You are loved. And you will be dearly missed.
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It was Halloween and I remember last year Lovely came over for a party that Monday night of Halloween. I had carved a pumpkin with a revolutionary symbol on it and it was the first time she told me she loved me (as friends, of course), but I knew then our bond was strengthened. She taught me so much and to see that--to hear that--to know my costume the year prior had inspired her costume this year meant a lot. I relaxed around her then and spent more time with her. We had days grocery shopping together or talking about love and politics. Often when I would go to a rally alone, she was there alone, too. In solidarity we marched. We were never alone because we had each other and I am so sorry and sad that her spirit is not here. But I know it is free. I know her spirit is liberated and I carry her with me. I love you, Lovely. Have some pumpkins and vegan treats out for you! Happy Halloween <3 <3 <3
I only regret that I wasn't able to speak to you one last time, Lovely. Maybe then I could have at least tried to provide support when you needed it most. Rest in peace and know that everyone who has known you will carry on the work you so valiantly undertook for the good of all people.
She asked, "Who will cry for the little black girl?"...I will, dear Lovely. I will.
My jenny from up the block
Many yrs ago this quite spoken women entred my life to care for my disabled son,her name was Ineda,and as time would move,she felt comfortable enough to introduce me to her Beloved Jenny..hey happen to live up the street hence (jenny fr up the block lol)...
Anyways as time went on Ineda moved on to help and care for other ppl who needed her more,and they moved off the block and Jenny went off to collage..
And one day she showed up at my door "Hey I was visiting friends so I want to stop and see U and the family" and we just sat and talk about nothing but about everything,Just like her Mom soft spoken but a laugh to fill a room lol..
From that moment she became my commuinity Daughter, O my how I loved our talks truely they were about nothing but then about everything..
O my she was so smart,yet she never looked down on those who wer lesss then,some time see would stat something and I'll inbox and b like what that mean???and should whould take her time to explain she like "U got that Mamas U learned something new today and we would stat lol"
As she grew her fight grew,She became my Rebel Fighter,she would fight for all the injustices..
I remember when she was between jobs and she would put up accounts and ask for help never asking for more then she needed,and alot of time useing what she got to help someone else,,,I remember her telling me one day "Hey Mamms Ur the one who always stat a Closed month dont get fed" O I laught so hard b/c I say it all the time, Strangers would help her and she would be ever so humble and greatful..
I could go on and on,but I'm numb I just really didn't c this coming,,
I'm mad and angry b/c she fought so many many fights for others,but stop fighting for herself..
My Heart hurts not just for us but mostly for my friend her Mom(Ineda) who loves her to the beyond the moon..
What now how do we who r left behind move from this place??
The answer is PRAYER,prayer changes things,Light always wins over darkness
In this darkess hour just Pray and Pray some more,the light is dim but it will get lighter,,,
I will always love and miss U My jenny fr up the block
Ineda I cant thank U enough for birthing and raising up this awesome women
HUGGS LOVE LIGHT and PEACE
I felt U,my Lovely Black Girl
As I hugged ur Mom I felt U,
As I shook ur Dad's hand,I felt U
As I stood around all who love
U I felt U.
As much as I felt U,I couldn't find U,
Then I was handed ur Obit,
That was it for me,,
I needed to make my exit quietly
B4 the emotions showed,,
It still unreal,fresh,unexpected
Little Black Girl yes O yes I'm crying for u.
On a sweltering summer day in Binghamton was when I met her, she rode her bike to our friend’s house for a cookout. With an excited expression tempered by an ounce of shyness, she extended her hand and shook mine, “Hi, I’m Jenny.” Jenny and I were fast friends, and for a couple of years we hung out every other week to talk all things political and personal, facilitated by hot cups of tea and borrowed books. My first time going to a protest as an adult was to see Jenny speak on the steps of the old post office. She was a force, a north star guiding folks to action against oppressive systems, and fought with incredible clarity and strength. She was just as fierce a friend - showing up at work with balloons and a card on my birthday, hugging through the tears of difficult change, singing along together to 90s R&B hits.
Jenny is the only friend from my five years in New York who visited me when I returned to Massachusetts, my home state. When she asked me on Wednesday what my new address was, my mind lit up, hoping she was coming again and musing about the new things we would do together. She spoiled me through and through, I wish I had done the same for her. Jenny will be ever-present from the gifts she gave – her friendship, her love, her humor, her teachings, and her spirited fight for justice. She lives on.