I'm sorry
Hey
I love you all.
Peanut freaking allergy!?
Say hello to Nana
I don't know the right answer. What I do know, We are all being mislead, Taken in directions that profits only the ones leading. It's up to the curious..And you must remain curious! Don't be the one with an empty plate and "faith". Faith is the definition of unanswered prayers, misunderstanding, conflict, and ego driven decisions with the only basis of being right. WHO CARES?! not the one beside you. Mistakenly, we get comfortable, nearly convinced, we're right, full of power, full of religion..MY god will make it right. Will he? How much will you put down for your conviction? How much does passing cripple your true thought process? (Not to mention time wasted before). DEATH. The true fear, unanswered questions, meaningless Sunday's on your knees for sins your nature has the only reaction/outcome. Your morals as payment, do any of us win? Does any of it matter? Suffer, pain, peaceful,...GONE. Am I the only one to see the end result? End of days, meaningless. No one wins, We shouldn't thrive for it, it's a battle with the same finish line regardless who crosses first. Where did we lose ourselves? We lost the obvious connection...to ALL things, Things being the key word. We need to connect, We're literally every thing we fight, hate or go against.; We're also everything we love, smile to, miss and enjoy every moment with. I miss talking to you about these things. I see now what you meant about there's no purpose in trying..I also realize your anger, It was my fault Jesse. I should have listened better, really listened. I've been thinking a lot about what you had said about the bullying when you were younger in Mayport, when I blacked out in anger at the kids in the driveway and got pulled back into the house. You smiled talking about how mad I was, then you said I made it worse. I never questioned the second part bc my mind only wanted to hear you were proud of me...now I see that's what you always wanted too. I can't express how sorry I am for being a fuck up. I never should have raised you as a "strong man" when you were merely a boy. I even blamed you for it later saying you shouldn't be so angry; Choose peace..no wonder you were so confused. Damn. You should have never had to prove anything; No one should have to. If I'm around to make it different for your sisters, I hope to change it somehow.
Hope to see you soon
Fear
I keep a picture of the younger you on our fridge, as crazy as it's sounds, it's the recent ones that hurt the most...or so I thought until earlier today. Me and Dwayne was watching a comedian holding his little girl and all I could see and think about was those little hands and arms wrapping around his neck. It is his first child, I instantly got flashes of your first year. I could even feel the little hairs being pulled on the back of neck as you would adjust. I've said before the weird things you think about, in that moment, I wanted a baby to hold. (No worries, I'm too old for that), but I still miss holding you. I guess I always will.
I need you here.
Yet you do..don't you? Is it my selfishness that wants you sitting beside me? Talking about a video you seen, a new song you heard, just to be in your presence...I would give anything. Just like the dreams I had, you wouldn't have to say anything.
We have a hurricane coming, you have no idea of how much I want to stand outside and let the wind carry me to you. For that, I'd give all I own. Daisy looked at me a little differently tonight, I think she knew what was going through my head. I don't understand this life without you! I don't fucking want to !!! I feel I'm counting my days without you (literally) 281 days!
I still expect you to come back. Why aren't you back?
I'm not sure I can do this.
Hey
Your nana, the girls and I are going to see Uncle tomorrow. I wish you were going too. I got a minivan. I know you loved the Cruz, it was actually hard to sell it since I can still see you in the passenger seat telling me to let you drive. John came over last weekend and I know you would have loved his new car. He sold his truck! Can you believe it?! He said he would have given it to you. I heard the song broke the door handle on a video of you driving the truck, I must have played it 100 times. I haven't watched every video bc I want to save as much as possible. I don't let anyone touch your laptop (aside from showing someone something). I know it comes off crazy, but to me it's more crazy to let go. I haven't had a dream about you in a long time. It sucks, I haven't felt your presence either..I really wish I could feel something..other than this. I did for awhile, and I understand if time is different where you are, its just kind of stopped here...yet rushing by, by my own force? Sitting still makes me think too much. I better go. I got to build stuff for the chickens, pack, listen to music and cry (so I'm not a complete mess around your uncle. I'm sure your nana's got that covered (haha). Strangely it helps, she falls apart and I dry up. I love you Jess. Come by sometime when you get a chance okay?
It's your birthday(or mintues after by the time this post us done.
Hey
Hey, I came across your pictures today. It was strange since they weren't in any kind of order, a few when you were younger, a baby pic, then as I was trying to shake the thought/sadness away, Bam! Recent photo with all your cheese! I could almost hear you telling me I couldn't escape you and laughing! I want to believe it's a sign you're okay. Maybe so much so that I want to bury the guilt for not answering your text that day or your call that night. I've realized since that it wouldn't have saved you, yet for my own selfishness, I could have heard your voice. I miss you. If there's anything after this..I hope you know how much I love you. How much those important to you, love you. You lied btw. You said you wouldn't make it to 25..I'm pissed that the world missed 3 years of you!
I'm pissed for the time I missed while you were here..yet not. I wish I could have reached you. I wish you could have seen what all of us seen in you. I wish more so that it was expressed. You were always my best friend. Yet I couldn't tell you how much you meant to me. We used to fight bc you forced me to see my demons. Rightfully so. I wish I had noticed sooner how much more fun we had when I stopped turning everything into a personal attack against my parenting. (Not that the thought doesn't still come across my mind, I was..and am, more grateful for the realization that its okay to Not agree. You opened my mind and allowed me to just be still and listen. I wished I had listened more. I love you always.
Dear Jess
Hey. I miss you. I had this crazy thought that maybe I could write you...you know, when I feel you not being close becomes too much. I'm having a real hard time without you. I pass the street to John's house on my way to Walmart and so badly I want to just go pick you up. I look over at the passenger seat a lot picturing you nodding out with a cigarette in your hand almost burning your thigh. I would holler at you and you would look up like you were awake the whole time, almost irritated. It's funny how much I think about the little things and how much I miss them! I miss hearing you say mom. I miss seeing you walk out to my car. I miss you asking about your sisters and how your voice would change when if you felt anyone wronged them. I miss looking at time and it be 3 or 4 am and we would laugh bc we both had to be up early but just didn't care. Your laugh...I miss those the most. My favorite is the deep throw your head back laugh. Your great grandma always said you laughed from your toes. I used to be real greedy wanting everything back., yet now,...I'd be happy to just breathe you in as you walked by.
Hey
Still missing you of course. The weekend is over, yet I know how you ignored that rule and would ask to come over during week. You ignored a lot rules. I miss that. I wish I would have told you., yet I don't think you needed anyone to tell you anything! While you were in the womb you made statements. I told Derek about you flipping the bird in your first ultrasound. Really wish I had that picture. I've been thinking a lot lately about the things that mean little to others and how much I try desperately to hold onto. I got mad at Dwayne earlier thinking he wore your shoes. I know its ridiculous, yet I want to hold everything as it was...yet I'm a hypocrite bc I wear your shirts..I'm down to 2 that hold your scent. I know, I have issues. One I keep sealed in a plastic bag, only breathing in when I'm desperate, for the fear of losing the memory of hugging you. The other, is the one you fell asleep in.
I really want to understand why you're not here. I want to blame someone too. Hell, for a while I wanted to blame you. I don't think you had intention of the outcome, yet I know your thoughts leading up to that night. I wish someone would tell me what you said or posted on snapchat that morning. Although the outcome is the same, it would feel better to know. But I guess I already know don't I? I know what your theories were on life, yet why did you stop caring? Damn. I know the answer to that too.
Okay, I'm going to be selfish. WTF?!!!! I'm going crazy (literally) without you! You're my first! My special boy, my ..best friend. I've been without you before, but I had a system to fight or I could pick you up at an airport or train station. I've never felt..This. I should have texted you back (sooner), I should have stayed awake. I'm sorry.
Life and death talk
I have many stories of course, yet if I were to pick one to be my first.. we had talked about life and death. We had actually talked about it a lot that week prior.(In the 2-3 times he had come over to talk). Unfortunately I can't for the life of me remember where he said he wanted his ashes spread; bc at the time, I really didn't think he would pass before me. So I made it a point to make sure he knew what to do with me! Still a hard truth to swallow, and not the main reason I choose this story first. Jesse had his down moments, but the first night he spoke of death with seriousness, (shortly before his 22nd birthday) he said one sentence I'll never forget. "You got 21 years out of me. You'll be fine., I don't even think it would upset you that much." I didn't even flinch. I didn't cry. I didn't respond, I didn't even give eye contact! I justified it by telling close family members that I had heard it many times before and knew he wanted a reaction. This was a lie. I let my ego be front and center. I didn't want to look weak. While at the same time, I wanted to be a friend who just listened. I was wrong. One of my many regrets, I should have been your mom and put my overthinking aside. I'll just end with I miss you Jesse. Even though I got 22 years out of you, it will never be enough! And you not being here, is NOT OKAY! I'm not upset, I'm. Empty. I didn't need a reason to be proud of you, You were always enough. The circumstances in your life wasn't because of you. It was the world around you. You were always tougher than you gave yourself credit for. You never should have had to be. I love you so much. Always. I should have been there more, I should have took more time to pay attention... I hope you're right about energy being immortal. I'll see you soon.