ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Jim Tillinghast. Please share condolences, memories, photos, and stories of Jim so we can remember him always. 

A memorial service will be held on May 1, 2021, at 2:00 pm at Lake Travis United Methodist Church, Ranch Road 620 North, Lakeway, Texas 78734. Rev. Scott Heare will be presiding.

The service will be livestreamed. If you would like to attend online, contact Patty Highland, patty.highland@ltumc.org, the week of the service to receive the link.


Sympathy cards for Jim's family may be sent to:
Lanelle Montgomery
15502 Pescado Circle
Austin, TX 78734
In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to:
The Tech Ministry at Lake Travis United Methodist Church
ltumc.org/give

The AYC Fund at the Austin Yacht Club
austinyachtclub.net/ayc-fund



Posted by GARY DAVIS on May 5, 2021
Jim and I were very good friends in high school and throughout life. Jim was such an extraordinary fellow in so many ways.

Most outstanding, as noted by other tributes, was his openness and acceptance of others. Never a negative word or comment. Jim was one of those rare people who always found something important and interesting in what others said or did. You always had his attention, empathy, and respect. He shared his ideas and his smile with ease. I always felt better after being around Jim. Everyone seemed to be his friend and worthy of attention and respect. If I said something negative or pessimistic, somehow his response made it seem positive, insightful, manageable and a step to further conversation. He simply made people feel good.

And of course, those of us who knew him understood that this was one intelligent guy. He was low-key about his intelligence, but it was always evident. Nothing seemed too complicated for him to understand and deal with, whether it was winning the Grand Prize at our 1960 Garland High School science fair (with a project on cryogenics; quite ahead of its time), being the best math whiz in high school, getting an engineering scholarship when there weren’t many to be had, making some excellent wine with Lanelle, or reprogramming a smart key with an internet download.

Jim didn’t seem to fear much. His inquisitiveness and acceptance made things that others feared just a small obstacle or a normal part of life. I don’t think that I ever knew him to withdraw from anything because of fear or uncertainty. Every challenge that life brought seemed to be just a situation that was accepted, dealt with, and integrated. Things that bothered me seemed like no big deal to Jim. There were many times that I spoke to Jim and came away feeling the same—that my concerns were really not that big a deal and just a part of life.

He had an impressive roster of facets and interests. In high school, Jim played a lead part in the senior play, was a sports editor for the school annual and played end on the District Championship football team. He had an uncommon ability to integrate intellectual knowledge in science, math, with an intuitive feel for people, and even business acumen. He was a warm and intelligent conversationalist.

The more I got to know Jim over the years, the more he became a role model, and the more I understood that he was not only a great friend but a great life resource. He just had a way of calmly dealing with everything, making people feel good, and making the world feel better for everyone.

Even now, I frequently think of how Jim would have handled or approached something. Jim has left that gift with me.

It is such a pleasure and honor to have known Jim and to count him as a very dear friend. I wish that there could be more, many more, like him.
Posted by Billy Clifford on April 29, 2021
Jim's passing has made me realize how similar parts of our lives were:
Jim and I:
 were born in the same year,
 served our country in the U.S.Navy,
 graduated from UT Austin,
 joined MRI as one of the early employees,
 enjoyed being on the water - especially sailing,
 and shared an apartment in North Austin while MRI was growing up.

Jim was always helpful, calm, and had a large smile. I will miss him.
Posted by Sam Rakes on April 29, 2021
I was acquainted with Jim only through conferences and reunions, but found him to be a caring and compassionate person. Some others have said:
- His knowledge, calmness, and support eased some of the anxiety I felt as I began my journey of running a new business.
- Never a harsh word on anyone else, always a calm demeanor and the knack for providing good solid advice.
- Jim modeled faithful Christian service for all us. He was a blessing to so many people. I pray for comfort and peace for his loved ones. -Marilyn Cobb.

At the beginning of the “forevermissed.com” web site honoring Jim, under the tab “ABOUT” is this Bible quote: “You do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.” 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14

From what I've observed, I'm convinced that Jim was one who believed in the Messiah, Jesus and put his faith and trust in Him. I believe Jim is in heaven rejoicing with the God who created all things. I'll see Jim some day in heaven. How do I know that?

     John 1:1-3 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him …
     John 1:14 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth.
     1stCorinthians 15:3-6 … Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the Scriptures, and that He was seen by ... over five hundred brethren {people} at once ...
     Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God
     Romans 6:23  For the wages of sin is {spiritual} death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
     Acts 4:10, 12 … Jesus Christ … Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved. {by the name of “Jesus Christ”}
     John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.”
     John 3:14-17 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of Man be lifted up {I.e., crucified} that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
     John 1:12 … as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name
     Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh {i.e., no longer walk after fleshly lusts} but according to the Spirit.
     2ndCorinthians 5:1 For we know that if our earthly house of [this] tabernacle {i.e., our physical body} were dissolved, we have a building of God, a house not made with hands {i.e., spiritual body}, eternal in the heavens.
     1st Thessalonians 4:17-18 ... and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Therefore, comfort one another with these words.
     1stJohn 5:12 He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life, and that you may continue to believe in the name of the Son of God.
     Matthew 11:28-29 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

I believe Jim is a child of God. At the end of his life on this earth, God took him home to heaven. He entered into God's rest, forever (Hebrews 4:3) to “... be with the Lord.” (1st Thessalonians 4:17)

“Therefore, comfort one another with these words.”

Love, Sam Rakes 512-250-8141 (feel free to call or text me)
Posted by Jerome Hesita on April 22, 2021
I knew Jim for a short time since I'm still new to the CMIT family. His knowledge, calmness, and support eased some of the anxiety I felt as I began my journey of running a new business.  Thank you Jim!
Posted by Sue Smythe on April 20, 2021
I am so very sorry for the loss of Jim Tillinghast. He was part of the CMIT family and he will be sorely missed. RIP Jim. 
Posted by James Buckley on April 16, 2021
Jim was a good man. He truly cared for others as if they were family. He will be missed and remembered.

So long pal! Safe journey!
Posted by Kenneth Hamilton on April 16, 2021
Jim's tenure at CMIT nearly parallel's mine. Getting to know him, talking with him on the phone, seeing him at conventions it was always a comfort to speak to Jim. Never a harsh word on anyone else, always a calm demeanor and the knack for providing good solid advice. The CMIT Team has lost a great coach and friend.

God speed to you, James Tillinghast!
Posted by Steve Gray on April 15, 2021
I will certainly miss Jim. Jim was my coach and I owe my success at CMIT in large part to Jim. Even though I no longer needed a coach Jim and I always had our weekly calls. I looked forward to each call with Jim. He always had excellent words of advice and wisdom for me. Rest in Peace Jim! I will certainly miss you!
Posted by Nick LaRosa on April 15, 2021
Jim was responsible for our initial training nine years ago as well as coaching us through the Business Development Accountability Group sessions. He was a wonderful mentor and friend. He loved sailing and spoke of it often in our conversations. Shelly and I recently decided to learn how to sail and will be checking out a sailing school in June. I was excited to tell Jim about it at this years convention. Now I suppose he already knows! God Bless you Jim, you will be missed.
Nick and Shelly
Posted by Marilyn Cobb on April 15, 2021
Jim modeled faithful Christian service for all us. He was a blessing to so many people. I pray for comfort and peace for his loved ones.
Marilyn Cobb
Posted by Ravi Badge on April 13, 2021
Someone so special like Jim can never be forgotten. Thanks, Jim, I appreciate everything you have done for me. Our last discussion from December 2020 and your message will always stay with me - [12/6/20 11:53 PM] James Tillinghast -->   Ravi - Great news! Call me if I can help you regarding the Assessment questions. This is the most important stage of the sales process!

Once again, Thank you for all your coaching.

RIP Jim.
Posted by Tom Burtzlaff on April 10, 2021
My decade as a CMIT business owner almost exactly overlapped Jim’s time there as a coach and trainer. I thoroughly enjoyed all my many interactions with him and considered him a good friend and mentor. Jim’s thoughtful guidance and wisdom was key to my personal success in the difficult task of starting, growing, and selling a small business. He made such a positive difference in the lives of those around him. Rest In Peace after a life well lived.
Posted by Cary Boddeker on April 8, 2021
I will really miss my friend. We had a fun time working at the church.


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Posted by GARY DAVIS on May 5, 2021
Jim and I were very good friends in high school and throughout life. Jim was such an extraordinary fellow in so many ways.

Most outstanding, as noted by other tributes, was his openness and acceptance of others. Never a negative word or comment. Jim was one of those rare people who always found something important and interesting in what others said or did. You always had his attention, empathy, and respect. He shared his ideas and his smile with ease. I always felt better after being around Jim. Everyone seemed to be his friend and worthy of attention and respect. If I said something negative or pessimistic, somehow his response made it seem positive, insightful, manageable and a step to further conversation. He simply made people feel good.

And of course, those of us who knew him understood that this was one intelligent guy. He was low-key about his intelligence, but it was always evident. Nothing seemed too complicated for him to understand and deal with, whether it was winning the Grand Prize at our 1960 Garland High School science fair (with a project on cryogenics; quite ahead of its time), being the best math whiz in high school, getting an engineering scholarship when there weren’t many to be had, making some excellent wine with Lanelle, or reprogramming a smart key with an internet download.

Jim didn’t seem to fear much. His inquisitiveness and acceptance made things that others feared just a small obstacle or a normal part of life. I don’t think that I ever knew him to withdraw from anything because of fear or uncertainty. Every challenge that life brought seemed to be just a situation that was accepted, dealt with, and integrated. Things that bothered me seemed like no big deal to Jim. There were many times that I spoke to Jim and came away feeling the same—that my concerns were really not that big a deal and just a part of life.

He had an impressive roster of facets and interests. In high school, Jim played a lead part in the senior play, was a sports editor for the school annual and played end on the District Championship football team. He had an uncommon ability to integrate intellectual knowledge in science, math, with an intuitive feel for people, and even business acumen. He was a warm and intelligent conversationalist.

The more I got to know Jim over the years, the more he became a role model, and the more I understood that he was not only a great friend but a great life resource. He just had a way of calmly dealing with everything, making people feel good, and making the world feel better for everyone.

Even now, I frequently think of how Jim would have handled or approached something. Jim has left that gift with me.

It is such a pleasure and honor to have known Jim and to count him as a very dear friend. I wish that there could be more, many more, like him.
Posted by Billy Clifford on April 29, 2021
Jim's passing has made me realize how similar parts of our lives were:
Jim and I:
 were born in the same year,
 served our country in the U.S.Navy,
 graduated from UT Austin,
 joined MRI as one of the early employees,
 enjoyed being on the water - especially sailing,
 and shared an apartment in North Austin while MRI was growing up.

Jim was always helpful, calm, and had a large smile. I will miss him.
Posted by Sam Rakes on April 29, 2021
I was acquainted with Jim only through conferences and reunions, but found him to be a caring and compassionate person. Some others have said:
- His knowledge, calmness, and support eased some of the anxiety I felt as I began my journey of running a new business.
- Never a harsh word on anyone else, always a calm demeanor and the knack for providing good solid advice.
- Jim modeled faithful Christian service for all us. He was a blessing to so many people. I pray for comfort and peace for his loved ones. -Marilyn Cobb.

At the beginning of the “forevermissed.com” web site honoring Jim, under the tab “ABOUT” is this Bible quote: “You do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.” 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14

From what I've observed, I'm convinced that Jim was one who believed in the Messiah, Jesus and put his faith and trust in Him. I believe Jim is in heaven rejoicing with the God who created all things. I'll see Jim some day in heaven. How do I know that?

     John 1:1-3 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him …
     John 1:14 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth.
     1stCorinthians 15:3-6 … Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the Scriptures, and that He was seen by ... over five hundred brethren {people} at once ...
     Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God
     Romans 6:23  For the wages of sin is {spiritual} death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
     Acts 4:10, 12 … Jesus Christ … Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved. {by the name of “Jesus Christ”}
     John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.”
     John 3:14-17 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of Man be lifted up {I.e., crucified} that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
     John 1:12 … as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name
     Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh {i.e., no longer walk after fleshly lusts} but according to the Spirit.
     2ndCorinthians 5:1 For we know that if our earthly house of [this] tabernacle {i.e., our physical body} were dissolved, we have a building of God, a house not made with hands {i.e., spiritual body}, eternal in the heavens.
     1st Thessalonians 4:17-18 ... and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Therefore, comfort one another with these words.
     1stJohn 5:12 He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life, and that you may continue to believe in the name of the Son of God.
     Matthew 11:28-29 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

I believe Jim is a child of God. At the end of his life on this earth, God took him home to heaven. He entered into God's rest, forever (Hebrews 4:3) to “... be with the Lord.” (1st Thessalonians 4:17)

“Therefore, comfort one another with these words.”

Love, Sam Rakes 512-250-8141 (feel free to call or text me)
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Obituary - James "Jim" A. Tillinghast

James A. Tillinghast
January 9, 1943 – April 1, 2021

James A. Tillinghast, 78, passed away in the early morning on April 1, 2021, in Austin following a short illness.

Jim was born January 9, 1943, to Harry S. Tillinghast and Virginia A. Odenweller Tillinghast in Atlanta, Georgia. His family moved to Garland, Texas, in 1956, and he graduated from Garland High School in 1961. At the University of Texas at Austin, he earned a BS in Business in 1965 and an MBA in 1968.

While in graduate school, he worked in London for a summer with an international company where he became friends with people from diverse nationalities. This experience was the beginning of his love of travel and getting to know and understand people in various cultures.

Also while still in graduate school, the dean recommended Jim to a young Austin high tech firm, MRI. Jim was among MRI’s first employees. He left MRI to serve in the U. S. Navy, where he was a systems analyst in Norfolk, Virginia. After receiving an honorable discharge from the Navy, he returned to MRI, where he worked until the company was acquired by Intel in 1979.

“Jim was terrific at creating sound working relationships between MRI and customer or partner companies,“ Bob Brueck, co-founder of MRI, wrote recently to Jim’s family. “In particular, he supervised the establishment of the first major Service Bureau customer of MRI in the early days when that was a key to survival of the company.”

He continued to work at Intel until joining Digital Research, the pioneer in PC Operating Systems, in 1982. He went on to work at seven other high-tech companies, including, Illustra, Informix, SupportSoft, Relativity Technologies, and CMIT Solutions, an Austin-based provider of IT support services for businesses, where he worked at the time of his death.

Jim was always active in his spare time. As a youngster, he enjoyed scouting and hunting with his father and brother. He played football in high school. He received his private pilot’s license in 1967. He enjoyed home wine and beer making. While in the Navy, he became very interested in sailing and his love for the sport continued for the rest of his life. He was a member of the Austin Yacht Club off and on beginning in the late 60’s. He raced off-shore in California and was, until recently, an active racer on Lake Travis. In 2011, he became Commodore of the Austin Yacht Club and continued to be involved in various committees until the time of his death.

More recently, he found a new passion in working at their property in the Texas Hill Country, fondly known as “the ranch.” He particularly loved projects that required using the tractor. And he got much pleasure from working on building the ranch’s two cabins.

Jim is survived by his best friend and life partner, Lanelle Montgomery; his children Michael Tillinghast and Catherine Tillinghast and her husband Jack Urquizu; his surrogate son, Ryan Harden, and his family; his brother Jay Tillinghast and sister, Ann Kirk; and numerous nieces and nephews.

The family wishes to express their heartfelt appreciation to the staff at the Heart Hospital of Austin for the loving care they provided to both Jim and Lanelle during his last days.

In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to either of two passions Jim enjoyed immensely: the Technology Ministry of the Lake Travis United Methodist Church, (ltumc.org), or the AYC Fund at the Austin Yacht Club, (austinyachtclub.net/ayc-fund).

In-person services to celebrate his life will be conducted at the Lake Travis United Methodist Church on Saturday, May 1, 2021, at 2:00 pm. Masks will be required and social distancing observed. The service will also be live-streamed; contact Patty Highland, patty.highland@ltumc.org, to receive the link to watch online.

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3 Skippers

Shared by David Brueck on May 1, 2021
I was blessed to grow up weekends at AYC. My father, Jim, and Al Dale joint owners of the Cal20 Trinity.  Racing with the 3 Skippers was exciting, confusing if crew fill-in when one wasn't available. Besides being one of my Dad's close friends, Jim also invested more in my life on Monday nights at MRI. Me & my friends senior high school year. Teaching seven of us an introduction to computers & information systems.  It was sad to learn today of Jim's passing from this life, but a celebration of Jim's life eternal with the heavenly host!  Sail on...
Shared by Stephen Maysonave on April 27, 2021
Jim and I first worked together beginning at Intel in 1979, then at Digital Research (1982-86) in both the US & Japan, and later at Illustra/Informix, Relativity, and several other companies.
My memories are rich with happiness, love, and emotion, including knowing Michael and Catherine since they were born.
In addition to being exceptionally professional and a true gentleman, Jim was an unselfish, incredible friend to me, and will be greatly missed, forever.