Mom, our memories of you and your love will be with us forever.
  • 68 years old
  • Born on July 2, 1944 in Brooklyn, New York, United States.
  • Passed away on July 20, 2012 in Queens, New York, United States.

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Joan Maher, 68, born on July 2, 1944 and passed away on July 20, 2012. We will remember her forever.

Posted by Doug Kruger on 2nd July 2018
It’ is such a cruel world that I I am deprived of my dear sisters love and that she ican no longer feel my love. Every time I hold and see my granddaughter Emily, I can’t stop thinking of how much joy and happpnes Joanie would have had if she could hold or see Emily. It could only be surpassed by her own granddaughters. Having held and cared for my infant son in my darkest hour. Oh I am such a sap But dam it I loved my sister so.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 29th May 2017
Oh mom- so much more pain & sadness your girls had to endure & I include myself in that. Diana suffered so terribly it was just too hard to write about. I still can't. Seeing her in so much pain made me appreciate that God showed you mercy by taking you. What hell I was in all over again. Knowing my little girls hearts will be broken yet again. So much loss in their young lives - just not fair. I miss Diana mom too but not nearly as much as you. I used to talk to her just about every day especially after you were gone, she'd stop in for coffee to say hello & even though she wasn't you I still had that. Now theres nobody to talk to nobody to call when I'm scared & nobody to tell me everything will be ok. Seeing George watch his mom suffer more & more each day was almost more than I could handle, it tore my heart out since I know the pain he was in & knew that the pain only will get worse. but I was strong for them & strong for the girls. After you left me I was so angry, so hurt, so lost & I still am. Just when I was getting myself together I'm falling apart again. My girls don't have that special love from any grandmother now. It will definately change them. She is in St. Charles not too far from you & I hope you two are laughing together. On Mother's Day all the Hopkins went to see you & then to Diana. George was so sweet & read a poem- did you hear it? Did you know we were there? Did you like the flowers. Questions to things I will never know the answer to. Just silence- deafening silence. Just like all the times I try to talk to you. You can't answer me - your gone & now she is too. It was nice to know you had other visitors. I wish that you were able to go on that vacation. They really did enjoy your company & love you, and the fact you wanted to go made me happy since you were comfortable & loved them too. I really hope there is more than this life since I feel like all the happy times are gone & I live in dread waiting for the next blow- who will it be next? I look at myself in the mirror & see your face. Will I have the same fate as you. Will my girls continue their life of loss & pain. If not me it will be someone we love because nobody can escape death - it's just such a challenge to go on & try to be happy when you keep getting knocked down. I need you to lift me up so I can appreciate all I have & I do. On Memorisl Day today I think if Eric , his family's pain, his children.. I miss you mom - please show Diana the way & I pray you both know how much you were loved. I'm ok - just needed to talk to you. Love you forever.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 17th October 2016
Thank you for giving me so much love in my life. I only hope you know how much you are loved and missed. Katie is making Confirmation today and picked your name. She is so sweet and like you in so many ways. In her beautiful blue eyes I see yours. Yet another birthday without you and another milestone in my children's lives that you are not able to share. This isn't the way our lives should have turned out but it has. Jeanette is in the hospital again and Barbara has passed. Unfortunately I hadn't seen Barbara in quite some time. I know you will show her the way. I was sadden to hear that they didn't even have a mass for her. I'm glad that George was able to help fix her door when nobody else would. She asked and he did it, I know that would have made you happy. You were so proud of him and happy for me to have married a man that you can count on. I know my birthday was important to you so I will celebrate it for you and smile behind the tears that fall so easily all the time.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 2nd July 2016
Happy Birthday Mom - Your in our hearts our minds and our souls. I love you and still miss you more than you could ever imagine. I'll have a mud slide and toast to you on your birthday and thank you for being the amazing mom, grandmother and woman that you were. I still get calls and emails from your friends from FAA, Aunt Geri, Aunt Micki, & of course your family you touched so many lives if only you knew how much. xoxo
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 18th October 2015
Thank you for the beautiful life you gave me. I never understood why my birthday was such a big deal to you when I was a teen or in my 20's. It was my birthday after all, why shouldn't I spend it the way I wanted to. As a mom now I get it. And I just wish I could have spend many more with you. So on my birthday I celebrate you and all the sacrifices you made for me to be happy.
Posted by Doug Kruger on 23rd July 2015
I sent the below to our brother Larry We didn't forget it's just to painful some times. This my sound dumb butt... Trying to reconcile death and dying many years ago (can't remember how many) I just happen on a scene in a John Wayne movie where a young boy looks up at the "Duke" and says something like "why did he have to die?" and the "Duke" responds... "He just did what we're all going to do, he just did it sooner" Dumb, right? But it helps me feel grateful that I'm still alive, that we're all still alive and to focus on that. Your loving brother Doug
Posted by Doug Kruger on 23rd July 2015
I sent the below to our brother Larry We didn't forget it's just to painful some times. This my sound dumb butt... Trying to reconcile death and dying many years ago (can't remember how many) I just happen on a scene in a John Wayne movie where a young boy looks up at the "Duke" and says something like "why did he have to die?" and the "Duke" responds... "He just did what we're all going to do, he just did it sooner" Dumb, right? But it helps me feel grateful that I'm still alive, that we're all still alive and to focus on that. Your loving brother Doug
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 20th July 2015
When I woke up 3 years ago today little did I know how my life would change forever. I knew you were sick but you not being here was never a possibility. I know now how cruel life can be but I also know such incredible love & happiness I can get from my children. My only hope is that I was able to give you that joy. And I know that I did. The one thing that was always constant in my life was you and how much you loved me. I just miss you today, tomorrow and always. Rest in peace mommy.
Posted by Doug Kruger on 20th July 2014
I should be sad today Two years, hard to comprehend, Lost my sister and best friend But I won't be sad I'll remember all the happy times How unbelievably lucky I was to have a wonderful sister who was my one and only true friend
Posted by Doug Kruger on 20th July 2014
I should be sad today Two years, hard to comprehend, Lost my sister and best friend But I won't be sad I'll remember all the happy times How unbelievably lucky I was to have a wonderful sister who was my one and only true friend
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 2nd July 2014
Happy Birthday Mom - We love you and miss you today and every day.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 10th May 2014
Happy Mother's Day Mom. Thinking of you always.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 26th April 2014
So many words unspoken so many things that you aren't here for. On Easter we are taught to think of how God sacrificed his own son for us and all I think about is all the sacrifices you made.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 8th December 2013
The girls and I left you a tree after Thanksgiving. We remembered all the years they had fun decorating it with you. Every year you will have a tree but unfortunately no lights are on it anymore. I guess it is symbolic since our lights went out when you were taken from us..
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 27th October 2013
I remember you telling the story of the day I was born and how you could have died then. You told me not to count you out yet and that you were a fighter. Unfortunately we didn't know you never had a chance. We love you and miss you always. I know you were singing to me when I woke up and that you were saying Happy Anniversary as you always did. So lucky to have had you for 45 yr
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 30th March 2013
Happy Easter Mom. We planted the flower you always wanted to smell at Easter for you today. Seeing your name on the headstone was like getting punched in the stomach again. Lent is a time of sacrafice and I am reminded of all you had to give up in order for me to have a good life. I am eternally grateful and will always remember what an incredible woman you were.
Posted by Doug Kruger on 18th March 2013
Sally, Not a day,not an hour goes bye that l don't think about your MOM. But she is gone now an ould be so hurt if we did not go on. She worked so hard that the rest of us could enjoy life. As difficult as it is, we have to go on without her. She has a wonderful daughter who wed a great man, two grand daughter that are are our future.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 16th March 2013
Happy St. Patrick's Day. We saw George on TV this year. You always watched the parade to see him. We miss you. I didn't buy as big of a piece of corned beef since you aren't going to be having any this year.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 14th February 2013
Happy Valentine's Day mom. Today is a day to celebrate love and you were so full of love for everyone. It is so sad that for all the love you had that you spent so many Valentine's Day's alone. I am so sorry that I didn't spend more with you. It seemed natural to go out with my husband but I should have taken you out more. So many regrets. I love you & miss you so much.
Posted by Sally Hopkins on 25th December 2012
Merry Christmas Mom. We miss you terribly and things will never be the same again without you.

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