As long as i can remember mom always took care of and looked out for others. She took care of my cousins when I was first born. My uncle was in the Vietnam War and it was a scary time for her. Obviously she cared for me, with never a moment passed that I ever doubted her love. She never hit me, punished me and never made me feel like I ever disappointed her. The best mom in the whole world. She used to say "me and you against the world. " Now it is just me. She had a hard life. My dad drank too much, didn't always come home and didn't give her much money. So she went back to work in the bank and then returned to her old job with the FAA. That was probably the best thing to happen to her. She used to say that sometimes the worst things that happen to you turn out to be the best thing to happen to you. I can't see how I can believe that now.
She was able to send me to St. John's University. She would type my term papers for school at her office since we didn't have a typewriter back then. I would be home asleep and she would be there until midnight getting it done for me. That is the type of person she was.
My dad's mom had a stroke and we took her in . Mom was treated so badly by grandma Sally. She would curse, hit, scratch and spit on her. But mom took care of her until she needed more care than she could give. A year later grandpa died and grandma came to live with us until she was 90. Grandma was bipilar and manic depressant so life was not easy for mom. She also took care of my other cousin when he was a baby. My Aunt had major surgery so of course mom was right there to help. She loved doing it. Anything for her family and friends. She took care of my girls always. She was always my first choice to watch them, but had to care for grandma. Sometimes I wouldn't ask because I wouldn't want her to feel bad if she couldn't. I never had to pay a babysitter - but she would pay someone to stay with grandma. Sara got hit in the forehead by a bat one day and mom sat by her side all night putting ice packs on and off every 20 minutes. I didn't do it, my mom did. She took such good care of them. I never had to ask for help. She would just come. Always asking when they were off from school so she could do something with them. During the day she could come since she had to take care of grandma at night.
I was pregnant with Sara and Katie was still a baby when George got hurt skiing. My boss gave me such a hard time about taking off so many days. Guess took off from work and took care of my husband.... Not me, not his mother ...but my mom.
She was like an angel and whenever I was worried about something I would go to her. I knew that if she prayed for help she would get it. She gave so much of herself to everyone that I knew that God would listen to her. Now I know that I was wrong. He didn't listen to her, he took away the only thing she wanted to do in the world at the time she had a chance to do it. Life is so unfair.
Grandma needed so much attention and care, it is surprising that you had anything left to give. But you did and so willingly and effortlessly. You finally were able to go out without worring about getting home. I just don't understand and I guess I never will.