Debbie returned to United from furlough status in 1984, thankful that her “recall rights” had been honored just in time. Joanie was Debbie’s boss while they were in the Word Processing Center together. They quickly became friends, travel companions, trusted confidants, and the family of choice.
Joanie deemed herself as Debbie’s matchmaker for many years, and frequently reminded Debbie that she “wasn’t getting any younger” to meet someone to have a baby. Although Joanie’s matchmaking picks for Debbie weren’t such a success, Debbie met Dave in 1990 at United. Joanie was thrilled to be Debbie’s Maid of Honor at their wedding in 1992, and then in 1996 she became their son, Hank’s, Godmother. From the day Hank was born, she referred to him as “Hanky”. To this day, 18 years later, Hank never corrected her or asked her to call him anything different.
Debbie and Joanie used to save up their hard-earned money until they each saved up $100, then they would take a weekend trip to somewhere like Honolulu for the beach and Flea Market, Phoenix at The Pointe Resorts to meet up with Makoto and Gary, San Diego to visit the Zoo, Tijuana to get into all kinds of trouble (don’t tell anyone!, she would say), to Maui for a visit with John, Mishel, Nathan and Janelle, or to Washougal for Saturday morning Garage Sales with her sister, Millie. There were several other friends who would frequently join them on their weekend travels too: Eldeen, Erna Lyon, Lisa Palladino, Madeliene Mitchell, Sue Felicio, Lanny Horn, Scott Hernandez, and more. You know the saying: “You’ll always be my best friend because you know too much!” That was the perfect saying for Debbie and Joanie’s friendship.
As years went by, Joanie became part of Debbie and Dave’s family celebrations and holidays; from Hank’s Baptism day when she became his Godmother, to Aunt Rosie’s 90th Birthday Party, Joanie was always included in family gatherings. Debbie and Joanie helped each other through difficult times, like the passing of Joanie’s parents, and friend Pam, to the happier times when they laughed at silly things until tears ran down their cheeks.
Those who knew Joanie well, knew about her stubborn streak! Although her stubbornness was a challenge to those who loved her, it may have been the trait that kept her alive for nearly 5 years after being diagnosed with glioblastoma; a brain tumor that usually takes people quickly. She had determination to beat the cancer, or at best to join a clinical trial at UCSF’s Cancer Research Center so that others could benefit. Unfortunately, her blood levels didn’t fit the criteria for the trial, which disappointed her very much.
One day when Debbie was visiting with Joanie at the San Mateo Board and Care Home, and when Joanie could still communicate, she very quietly looked at Debbie with her soft blue eyes and said, “When I get there, I’ll be waiting for you”.
Joanie will never be forgotten. She leaves with us her legacy to follow; to be generous, kind, thoughtful, honest, and to be a loving mother and genuine friend.