Last night, I was editing an article. A young man was very ill. His sister, his twin sister, felt his pain. I remembered John, and all the light he brought into my world, and others. He would appreciate us raising our glasses. Happy birthday, John.
John Baillie, BSc (Hons), MB ChB, FRCP, MACG, FASGE
John passed away peacefully at home, with his wife, Alison, children Katie & Chris, and faithful canine companions, Lucy & Dougal, at his side.
He had a long, often arduous, journey after his diagnosis of a brain tumor in January 2017, but he bore it with great fortitude and patience. Though he was unable to get back to work as he had hoped, he and Alison enjoyed several trips, including cruises to the Mediterranean and Caribbean, and time with wonderful friends and family.
John was born on the Isle of Islay to Allan, manager of the Bowmore Whisky Distillery, and Kathie, a schoolteacher in Bowmore.
He grew up in Glasgow with his twin brother, Hector and older brother, Tom, and attended the University of Glasgow, where he met Alison, graduating from medical school in 1977.
After marrying in 1980, they moved to Minneapolis MN in 1981 so that John could complete a fellowship in gastroenterology. Shortly after Katie was born in 1984, there was another trans-Atlantic journey so that John could pursue further training as a senior registrar at the Middlesex Hospital and University of London Hospital.
In 1988, John, Alison, Katie and new baby, Chris, moved back to the States, and John took up a position at Duke University Medical Center.
In the years since, John has worked at Wake Forest University Health Sciences in Winston Salem, Carteret Health Medical Center in Morehead City NC, and Virginia Commonwealth University Health System in Richmond, VA.
In his professional life, John was a passionate educator, a prolific publisher, and a dedicated clinician, making lifelong friends of his trainees, colleagues, and even patients.
In his personal life, he was a wonderful husband and father who lived his life with a passion that was infectious. John and Alison, often accompanied by their children, traveled extensively, building indelible memories.
John was also a private pilot, an avid golfer, and an enthusiastic angler, pursuits he shared with his son. He lived long enough to see his daughter Katie blossom into an adventurous and compassionate young woman, marry and start a life with Stavros, and to see Chris achieve success in adulthood, earning a PhD and becoming engaged to Alli.
John wouldn’t want his friends and loved ones to mourn his passing, but instead celebrate a life well-lived. He would want you to remember the joke that made him laugh until he cried, the shared glass of scotch, and the enthusiasm and sense of humor that drew so many to him in life. He lives on in the memories of all those who loved him and whom he loved.
John's family has been immensely touched by the outpouring of love and support during this difficult time. We are so grateful.
We ask that you leave stories and photos of John on this site to honor his memory.
In lieu of flowers, a donation to a charity of your choice or one of John's favorite charities (Doctors Without Borders @ www.doctorswithoutborders.org ; Beyond Fences @ https://beyondfences.org/) would be a meaningful way to remember him.
Tributes
Leave a tributeLast night, I was editing an article. A young man was very ill. His sister, his twin sister, felt his pain. I remembered John, and all the light he brought into my world, and others. He would appreciate us raising our glasses. Happy birthday, John.
My first year on faculty, 2002, and I was covering GI consults over Christmas (because of course I was). My grandmother passed on Christmas eve. John covered my call/rounds for me to attend the funeral that weekend. I was stressed about finding coverage and he offered without being asked. He was on biliary call and rounded on general GI too that Saturday.
Almost 21 years later I still appreciate the kindness and think about it every time I visit the memorial garden where my grandmother and parents are buried.
May John's memory be a blessing.
I don't think you would have liked retirement: we both love Medicine. But now you have time to reflect, find new jokes, and motivate others.
We were both lucky to have good partners and wonderful kids. That will be your/our legacy. It is a shame you are not with the kids, but they have your genes. As I've said before "it is not the depth of your keel that counts, it is the wake you leave behind" - and you certainly made a difference in your lifetime.
It is a hell of a 5 year anniversary.Save me a seat. We have a lot to catch up on.
Dick
I am writing my first book. He told me once it was a ton of work and now I know he was right.
Strange, me now newly retired and John not there to share stories with... But he was always good for a joke. And a 'scope, but not at the same time. He probably has retirement jokes for the 'Big Yin' up there. And something about the political landscape ..
Happy birthday John! Slainth.
Your light still shines brightly. Your name and anecdotes about you come up so many times at all the GI meetings. There is always the same response from everyone---a hearty laugh and a big smile. That's all I need to say.
Miss you, my friend.
Mike
We celebrated a # of those birthdays together over the years and in multiple geographies. I will have a beer tonight and raise a toast to you, one more birthday together.
Dick
Tonight, I will raise a glass of Chivas Regal Ultis, a bottle which bears his father's name, and think about how much of what I am proud about in myself and my family I owe to the loving and supportive home that he and my amazing mom, Alison, provided for my sister and me.
I hope that you all will take a moment to think about all that is good in your life and have a laugh or a smile in John's honor today.
-John's loving son, Chris
When I think of John, I think of someone born in a different era, when working hard, keeping the highest of standards, and sacrificing family contact - was the norm. He was a role model, a high achiever - and a nice guy to boot. I hope some of that rubbed off on his associates (and me). And that the mould hasn't been thrown away. His sense of humour was just an extra that was much appreciated.
Here's thinking about you, John. A lot of people would consider you their exemplar. Well, maybe not as a comedian... But Cheers! We miss you. H
Happy Third!
You haven't missed all that much, outside of your rapidly growing, wonderful family (where you have missed a lot, but not really, since you are no doubt watching closely from above).
Other than that, not much has changed: a new President with less impact than what we hoped for, worse political quagmire, healthcare a bit out of the spotlight but getting worse by the day with staff shortages, increasing bureaucracy and the lunatics having taken over the asylum. And the same type of characters at your beloved GI organizations, some well-meaning, others full of great speeches and hot air (how you always hated those!). - All the same. - That gives Dick Kozarek and I a great excuse to keep going with those two carbon fragments on sunny days (and on most others). We will take this third anniversary as an excuse to raise a glass to you, in memory and in ever lasting friendship! Best, Klaus
After weeks of wind and rain on Mercer Island ,a bomb cyclone is what the weatherman calls it, the clouds have lifted and there is sun on our deck. It brings back memories of better days there with you, Klaus, and DC-L tossing down 2 carbon beverages and solving a major share of the world's problems. Guess what, those problems, and more, have done an end -run around us all.
Dick
We are to John what we always were and he is us to us what he always was. To me, that was an amazing father and friend. Love you, dad.
---
Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other
That we still are
Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference into your tone
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes we always enjoyed together
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effect
Without the ghost of a shadow on it
Life means all that it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was
There is absolutely unbroken continuity
What is death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind
Because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you at an interval
Somewhere very near
Just around the corner
All is well.
-Henry Scott Holland
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Bill Silverman
While intangible, these gifts are more precious than any physical object could ever be. Living in Beaufort, NC, a place that held a special place in my dad’s heart, meant that the drive to Fort Macon for a morning walk with my lovely wife, Alli, and dog, Brinks, was infused with so many incredibly memories of my father. Between our house and Fort Macon, we pass the Beaufort airport, where on numerous occasions my mom, sister, and I, having departed earlier in the day to some town to the beach, would watch from the tarmac as my dad landed to join us for what are some of the most memorable weeks of my childhood.
We pass over the Beaufort and Morehead City Bridge, providing views of fishing spots where we had variable levels of fishing success, but always enjoyed each other’s company. Pulling into Fort Macon, I remembered the fishing trip on which I immediately became sea sick and we had the charter captain drop us on Fort Macon beach only to return 5 hours later with my dad’s friends and a cooler full of 40 lb. king mackerel, a site he greeted with a smile and a laugh. The memories go on and on, each a reminder of the fact that, despite passing too soon, my dad’s uncompromising dedication to his family and his pursuit of his passions as if he had Ray Charles whispering in his ear every morning: “live every day like it is your last, ‘cause one day you gonna be right.”
Returning home from our walk, I open my computer to find more presents in the tributes left on this page. The loving memories left here by those whom my father cared for so dearly in life, while they bring tears, remind me that the best of him is alive and well in the hearts of many. That is what it means to live on and for that I am truly thankful. Tonight, my wife and I, my loving mother, my sister, and her husband Stav, will be toasting my father and all of you who made his life such a rich one.
Nevertheless, watching and hearing him has brought you back to us and we have spent several weeks reminiscing our trips, our dinners, shared friendships, and late night toasts . So Happy Birthday, John. You Are, forever missed.
Dick
In keeping with Hector's point that birthdays for remembrance: I remember a DDW (GI) meeting when I was a young fellow. John was a speaker and therefore got invited with 30+ others to the evening faculty dinner. This is a closed event, but spouses are allowed. Much to the consternation of the rest of the group, he took me along to that dinner, in his words "as my date", arguing that if people can bring a spouse as a guest, why not another guest. He didn't take no for an answer and spent all evening introducing me to the biggest names in GI endoscopy, just to get me into the network. - He showed that commitment and dedication to his trainees throughout their entire training period. Always thinking about them first and figuring out how he could help them every step of the way. - Great memories!!
Birthdays are a time for remembering. I remember a good childhood, and happy days with John. I'll raise a glass and celebrate a life well lived (another thing birthdays are good for..) Cheers!
Perhaps aptly, I find myself reflecting about this while hospitalized w the same disease he helped me treat & manage my disease- Pancreatitis- lastly back in 2015
Little did I know, but as he tried to comfort me after my Father had just died during a rainy just before Xmas office visit, that he too, was very sick & trying to steer me in a good direction in case the un- certainty of my care there @ VCU fell thru
It did- after he died just like the Chump administration steamrolling into 1600 w no respect for the former occupant & evidently the institution itself- VCU administration changed the pancreatic disorders unit to the point where me, & more than 20 other people got dropped from an assist program unceremoniously
People like John went above & beyond the call of 'work'. Even w negative pressures around him, he found a way to connect w me & make me feel steadier in a clearly difficult & decidedly unsteady scenario
In a way I envy John bc his battle is over; what's on the other side cannot be worse than pancreas pain & the peripheral terrible starvation & other bad anomalies that go w it
Thanks to John after the fact, for giving hope & showing me light where I felt & saw none
Time certainly does not heal all wounds. Coming up on two years since his passing, it would be disingenuous to say that memories of when he was sick are some of the very few things that can and do bring me to tears. But thoughts from that window of time have become increasingly rare. When they do, they are largely of the immeasurable strength of my amazing mom, who cared for him in a way that we should all aspire to when we think of our marital commitment to “in sickness and in health.” I think of how proud I am to have such an amazing sibling, Katie, in whom to confide and draw strength. I think of the strength I drew from the wonderful woman I married in a ceremony for which dad was not able to see in person but pervaded in spirit. And I think about how these two years have been a litmus test for the strength and sincerity of friendships and the bond of extended family; the results of which show how many truly incredibly people surround our family.
Memories of family walks at Duke Forest (in the early days, alternating who had to carry the backpack size phone when he was on call), beach weeks with our dogs endlessly chasing birds and boogie boarding until my dad invariably lost his glasses to his chagrin (with the exception of the time he found them 30 minutes later with the aid of a glass bowl he somehow used as a mini glass bottom boat), ski trips, golfing on weekends when he invariably let me use my trusty foot wedge to get a better lie, fishing at Jordan Lake or the coast, and even just watching Wayne's World for the 100th time as my family quoted the lines we knew by heart. These have shuffled themselves to the front of the deck and are where my mind goes first when I think of my dad. I am ever so grateful for it.
You always wish you had the chance to tell someone you loved them one more time or give them that big hug. I am eternally grateful that I had the type of relationship with my father that allows me peace in the fact that I know we packed in all we could have in the time we had together. If he had lived 50 more years, it would never had felt like enough, a feeling that must be tempered by an appreciation for the fact that we too frequently contextualize our life in terms up who has more (in this case time) rather than being thankful that we are not the many who have less.
As we approach two years since his passing, particularly given the isolation many are feeling from the ongoing pandemic, if I can be presumptive enough to ask that you do something to honor his memory, I ask that you consider reaching out to someone who meant a lot to you at some point in your life but with whom you haven’t spoken to in a while. Rekindle a distant friendship (because 6 feet or across the world, what does distance matter at the moment), think about the things you haven’t said that you would regret if you didn’t get the chance and then say them. These are the things that truly matter. If you are feeling more ambitious, take a decisive step towards that thing that you have been putting off until you have more time. While my family always joked that my dad couldn’t sit still, it meant that although there were a few things he said he would get to when he retired, he died a devoted husband, a loving father, an accomplished physician and teacher, golfer, aviator, fisher (with some help when his line got tangled and he let out a good-natured “for f**** sake), and a friend to many.
In Loving Memory of my dad, John.
Slàinte mhath
The world has changed dramatically since then.
How would John have viewed all this coronavirus stuff, embedded as he was in patient contact, endoscopy and hospital medicine? Not well, I suspect, like most of us doctors these days. And I can only guess at his commentary on the political landscape.
Communication between doctor and patient is vitally important. And communication has changed too, between family and friends, neighbours and strangers. How ironic that, in times of internet and the world-wide-web, we are less together and more apart. In the old days, family moving out meant a flat on the other side of town, not a garret in Belgium, or a condo in Spain. We now communicate using WhatsApp and Facetime (thank God they exist).
I didn’t communicate with John the way I should have. As a brother and fellow physician. As a family member. As a trusted friend. Maybe our upbringing was too aloof. Our careers took different paths. Then thousands of miles separated us, and time flew by at its own pace. And when I should have given him a hug, or said well done, or thanks – he was gone. Like my Dad, who was there one day, and gone the next, unexpectedly ripped from us by tiny piece of occlusive fat in an important artery. At least I got to share John’s 65th birthday with him, in Durham: I think he got the message – he was valued and loved.
It is important to say what has to be said sooner rather than later. Communication is so important. Now I am left with thoughts of what could have been. Yes, a giant of medicine left the stage, and others will take his place. But I remember John as a nice guy who deserved the appreciation of his patients and colleagues, who deserved a joyous retirement, who deserved the love of his wife and family – all cut short by a lousy brain tumour. So, if you are reading this John – although I’m sure you have better things to do up there – you are sorely missed.
Ronnie Church, his second cousin, left us this year too. A remarkable person. I had a list of things I wanted to say to her - too late.
So, John, if you were here today, I’d give you a hug and say, “you’re the man”. Of course, he’d recoil, but that’s the WASP in him. Inside, he’d feel the same.
To Ali and Chris and Katie, we are all proud of you, and wish you well. You gave John love, and are his legacy going forward. Stay in touch.
Praise of a man
He went through a company like a lamplighter -
see the dull minds, one after another,
begin to glow, to shed
a beneficent light.
He went through a company like
a knifegrinder - see the dull minds
scattering sparks of themselves,
becoming razory, becoming useful.
He went through a company
as himself. But now he's one
of the multitudinous company of the dead
where there are no individuals.
The beneficent lights dim
but don't vanish. The razory edges
dull but still cut. He's gone: but you can see
his tracks still, in the snow of the world.
John was the more logical, steady-keeled brother in the house. He got on with people. He studied. He knew he was headed for Medicine early on, which helped (unlike others, who tripped and stumbled around and got into this game late in the day). He didn’t collect stamps or ride around the neighbourhood on his bike, or cause trouble with his teachers. He was a debater at school. He had a plan.
His career path led him abroad, in days when “moving out” usually meant to a flat across the street or in the next town. He was ahead of the pack. I think he set high standards, and was proud to maintain them. He valued professionalism, as I do now.
I don’t know how you get a brain tumour. Yes, I got my MRI of head shortly after: my wife says it was ‘mostly normal’. He deserved the accolades of his colleagues. He deserved a fun retirement with his wonderful family. But he got hit with a rotten illness, what can you say? He got the best of care before leaving us.
I am now writing short stories. One (‘Tragedy’) concludes with the sentence “never leave it too late to say thanks” to people you might not see again. I should have said thank you more often to this great guy: but you learn to appreciate others on this journey. John taught me that, among other things.
If you are reading this, John, cheers. “You left big shoes to fill”, although why one would want to do that beats me. Never forgotten.
Today, I will celebrate his life by taking the time to fully appreciate all the ways in which he still very much is with us. Namely, appreciating the loving and incredibly close family that he and my beautiful mother, Alison, cultivated and nurtured; reflecting on all the friends and experiences that made the lives of my father and those around him so full; and taking the time to be more introspective about how his influence has shaped the person I am today and who I continually strive to become in the future.
For all his love, guidance, and support, I will forever be thankful.
Happy Birthday, Dad. We all miss you.
Dick Kozarek
On this anniversary, I hope to let it serve as a reminder to live every day to the fullest and to share your joys with those you love. Until we meet again, I will continue to find brightness in the light my father left in this world.
If you read this today, I hope you will join me in a toast to John Baillie.
He helped me alot & I'm terribly sad he got sick & left too soon
Seemed to me he had hit a real 'stride' & trust me as a pancreas patient, I know pain & loss
Endoscopy was relatively new at the time and John joined my Gastroenterology Team, taking the initial steps in what was to be a highly successful clinical, investigative and research career that brought him deserved international recognition. Although he left Glasgow for the US we kept in close contact carrying out collaborative research and he supporting a number of staff on Fellowships to the unit in N Carolina.
John of course as others have highlighted was multitalented. It was a tradition
in UK hospitals for a Christmas Pantomime to be arranged by the junior staff and all staff with the most basic talent were roped in. The purpose of course -the character assassination of their senior colleagues. Needless to say John was at the centre of these productions - yet another hidden talent.
Like most Scots John did not lose contact with the "old country." Having been made a Fellow of the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Glasgow he was a keen and fair medical examiner. He made trips back to Glasgow to fulfil these duties. He did however always take advantage of the visits to return to Argyll and visit his mother; and rekindle a lifelong love of and addiction for a "Glasgow Curry."
I met Alison when she was a medical student. It was no surprise when she qualified as one of the top students in her year. The marriage of these two bright , talented individuals was always going to be a success .
John worked hard but was sustained by a loving and caring family. The Christmas card each year was awaited with anticipation to find out what the Baillies had been up to and more importantly how many more dogs had been rescued.
Love from Kenneth and Jill
Here is an attempt to summarize his enormous legacy for our specialty of gastroenterology: https://bit.ly/2GJAMmp
Save some of those jokes for us, John. We look forward to hearing them when we see you again!
I hope that in processing the loss everyone can find a measure of peace in knowing your part in making John's life a rich one.
The best way I can think of to commemorate John's life is to pass on a kindness: Take that extra minute with a patient facing uncertainty, share a special moment with a friend or family , and allocate even a moment each day to appreciate all that brings you joy even when things are difficult.
Although I consider myself agnostic, I believe that consciousness is too complex and wondrous to end when the physical body can no longer serve us. Wherever consciousness continues for my father, I know he is reveling in how many people he loved and loved him in between scouting out the good fishing holes and the the runs on the golf course greens for when we meet again.
I’ve been hesitant to write for quite a while because I feared that. I am so sorry for you and your whole family.
john and I had worked together on medical-legal cases, but beyond that, he was my friend and we talked on the phone a lot. one thing we discussed was music. he was a big fan of midge ure. when I told him that I met midge and that he was touring again, I offered to pay for his ticket to a show here in new york—and to pick him up/bring him back to the airport. he said he couldn’t get off of work. it’s possible I made that offer more than once, now that I think about it. when he refused, I wanted to do something special for john. I went on the internet, found a nice color picture of john, and blew it up. I then brought it to midge for him to sign. I figured a lot of people have autographed pictures of midge ure but it’s likely that no one would have the nerve to ask the god-like midge ure to sign a picture of themselves. originally, I composed a snarky scottish-like comment for midge but he wrote his own words. I think I also got john a piece of signed vinyl.
I hope you know where those items are and will think fondly of john when looking at that picture.
I’ll miss my friend.
michael lavinger
Unlike others who have written here, I did not know John as an adult. My memories of him go back to the late 1960s at Jordanhill College School, when a little lad with glasses and a squeaky voice began to make himself known at school debates by asking convoluted but incisive questions. Although I was three years older, he and Hector became friends of mine, especially during a memorable school trip to Salzburg in 1968. Then I went to University, and we lost touch. It has been fascinating to read the accounts of his adult life, how his outstanding intellect was married to a warm and compassionate personality, and how he touched so many other people's lives. I am deeply saddened to hear of his death, and send condolences to Alison, his children, and to his brothers Tom and Hector. I too have become a regular visitor to Islay in recent years, and will remember John when I am next there. Cuiridh mi clach air a charn.
JB and I shared a love of golf and played many rounds together over the years. He always found a way to make a bad outing on the course enjoyable and fun. Sadly after his illness took him back to Durham I did not get to see him again or play one more round with him. I will miss him greatly.
John Long
Even as a young boy, John’s selfless consideration for others was clearly evident – always willing to help where needed. I must confess that I took advantage of John’s goodwill on more than one occasion, notably when our mother, Kathie Baillie, asked me to run some errand to the local grocery store – one of my least favorite chores. A whispered request to John usually elicited a positive response, often facilitated by a modest bribe such as a three-pence piece, referred to in the vernacular of the day as a “thrupny bit”! I have no doubt that John’s lifelong concern for others contributed to his reputation as a skilled and compassionate physician – an accomplishment that would have made our father, Allan Baillie, who grew up in Scotland during the Great Depression and never had the opportunity of a higher education, immensely proud.
Both John and I developed an interest in aviation stimulated, no doubt, by many lengthy after-dinner tales of our father’s flying exploits during WWII. We each learned to fly after moving to the USA, and we flew together on several occasions. On one memorable day-trip from Raleigh-Durham to Ocracoke, NC, and back, the alternator failed on the return trip, and before long the battery was drained of sufficient energy to power the radios and navigation instruments. How to get back into a busy commercial airport without a radio – after dark, nonetheless? John calmly decided to land at a small airfield on the way, call ATC on a local pay phone, and make special arrangements to return to RDU as a “no radio” arrival. All went well, the episode illustrating John’s ability to keep cool under pressure – no doubt, another beneficial attribute for a medical practitioner!
Others have commented on John’s outstanding professional reputation in the world of gastroenterology and, in particular, endoscopy. I encountered John’s notoriety personally during a routine pre-colonoscopy interview, when the gastroenterologist assigned to perform the procedure commented on the unusual spelling of my surname. I explained that “Baillie” was the Scottish spelling, whereupon he responded that there was a highly renowned endoscopist with the very same last name who also came from Scotland. I couldn’t resist but to inform the physician that Dr. John Baillie was none other than my “wee brother”, which led to the exclamation that, “Well then, I’d better not screw up your colonoscopy!”
John’s untimely passing is indeed tragic, especially for someone who always was so full of life. His love of family, his compassion for others (dogs as well as humans), his wry sense of humor, and his tireless commitment to the field of medicine, combined to make him a truly unique individual. I am proud of his many accomplishments, personal and professional, and to have been his “big brother.”
Tom Baillie
Slán go fóill, mo chara
Ni beig do leihead ann aris
"We are the keepers of the memories. A sacred trust given by one who has journeyed on." -G. Stansbury
John Baillie was one of a very small group of people who actually made the world a better place.
We have known John a long time, obviously as Alison's sister I have known John for some 40 years but Donald met John a bit later. He admits to have been slightly scared of him initially - John had a aura about him and when he talked, you just knew you were in the presence of an incredibly intelligent man. As we got to know him we became aware of his wicked sense of humour, his kindness and extreme generosity, not forgetting his insatiable appetite for midget gems (sports mixture)!
What was very apparent was John's great love for his family, for Alison, Katie and Chris as well of course for Dougal and Lucy. With almost 40 years of married life it shows the depth of their relationship and as a loving husband and father as well as a brother in law and friend, there will be a big space in our lives.
John, Linda and I will miss you terribly. One only makes a few memorable connections in this life. We are richer for your friendship, poorer by your absence.
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Last night, I was editing an article. A young man was very ill. His sister, his twin sister, felt his pain. I remembered John, and all the light he brought into my world, and others. He would appreciate us raising our glasses. Happy birthday, John.
My first year on faculty, 2002, and I was covering GI consults over Christmas (because of course I was). My grandmother passed on Christmas eve. John covered my call/rounds for me to attend the funeral that weekend. I was stressed about finding coverage and he offered without being asked. He was on biliary call and rounded on general GI too that Saturday.
Almost 21 years later I still appreciate the kindness and think about it every time I visit the memorial garden where my grandmother and parents are buried.
69th
Same T shirts, interests, career paths....
Not so.
John took Latin in school, I took technical drawing/engineering
John went straight into medical school, I got lost for a while
John ended up in the USA, never an ambition of mine
John needed reading glasses from an early age, mine came later.
I guess we were non-identical. But we both shared this birthday.
And I am proud to have had him as a brother and friend.
If you are measured by your achievements, he's a tough act to follow...
Extended family
But the Baillie kids got the travel bug early, maybe because dad took us on European holidays. So John left University, and ended up in London, and North Carolina. I did the same, emigrating to Canada in 82. Tom's training took him to the USA. So Mum, a widow in her 60's, had an extended family far, far away, and spent the last decades of her life alone.
This is becoming the new reality.
Most of my patients now have family far away, and worse still, they are challenged when it comes to personal visits, thanks to COVID restrictions. The family unit is fragmented. My own kids think nothing of travelling and living thousands of miles away.
I think of the time when John and Alison came to visit us, on Vancouver Island. He had a conference to present at, in Vancouver, and a float plane trip got him here. He was bigger than I remembered, with a large beard. He told stories and was witty like always. He was interested in our life-journey. Then too soon he left. And our visits were too short and to infrequent, in retrospect. Then he left us 3 years ago, and maybe our next reunion will be round the corner. Memories might fade, but John's life was what he made of it - pretty special - and that means he helped a lot of people make the best of theirs. Maybe that's a great legacy - helping others make the best of their life, through the giving of health, the sharing of happiness and example. He's still part of my extended family........ Cheers, John.
I first met John and his son Chris when I ferried them between the Pittsburgh airport and the Nemacolin Resort for the PancreasFest pancreatology conference back in 2002. Even though I am an administrator at the Univ of Pittsburgh and could not share John’s medical interests, he still became a friend. His openness, kindness, and inclusion of everyone with a joke or smile included me. Everyone was drawn to his brougue and his infectious laughter. He made medical referrals for myfriends & family over the years, and I always enjoyed saying hello to him at the national GI meetings. As his lovely obituary recommends, I join you all to celebrate his life. Yet, the loss of John is one that I feel deeply. We are blessed to have known and learned from him.