On John's 25th Anniversary in heaven, let the memory of John be with us forever!
  • 28 years old
  • Born on June 25, 1956 .
  • Passed away on May 20, 1985 .

Our Brother John !

Who is to say, and if they did who would believe it true, that these vessels we occupy and our earthly presence are not what we are about, but just a pause, a grounding place, a place to regroup our energies as we continue the more meaningful part of our existence.

We don’t understand it and we can’t understand it because our bodily form is inadequate in its design and capabilities.
 
We see loved ones suffer with broken, damaged bodies. This is their inadequate earthly design not their essence and who they are that are flawed. We see other loved ones that are full of energy, the John’s of the world that emanate what we perceive as living life and bringing excitement to all those around them. We love these people, we enjoy their presence, they are like the electrons that bounce around and when they come in contact with others they excite them causing a temporary chain of reactions. So we get some excitement for as long as that earthly being hangs around. Our essence, our souls, our energy, this is who we are,  we are a loving, giving source, created in the image, an extension of a greater entity, some call God others have different names or beliefs as to what or who God is. Regardless, God, the name I choose, is an awesome entity, that we follow and look to for answers. Answers that we in this earthly form can’t obtain and if we did most of us would fear knowing them instead of embracing them. 
 
How do we know that there is more to us? How do we know that this existence is nothing more than a spec in time? It is because we have so many questions, because we feel so confused as to why we are here. If we didn’t feel this way we wouldn’t have a need to know, how the Earth was created, or how did the universe begin. We wouldn’t care. Why should we? After all we are only here for 90 years if we are lucky or unlucky for that matter.  It is because we try so hard to feel like we belong to something and never really feel like we are… where we are suppose to be. We convince ourselves that we have found our place and reason for being in this life, but we are never truly at ease. Like bottled energy, waiting for its grounding phase to be finished so that it can get on with doing something more, being someplace better or different. A place where we can reunite with others and share our love, without confines of these vessels, our bodies.
 
 We gather in church to tell Jesus that we love him, and our loved ones like John that we miss them, that we haven’t forgotten them and we love them. As a group of souls and energies united we radiate to them, we radiate to each other. We gather to give each other hope and love in trying to endure our earthly pains.  
 
Brenda
Posted by Frank Santano on June 26, 2019
Happy Birthday John,hope your raising HELL in HEAVEN, miss you
Posted by Brenda Starr on June 25, 2019
Hummm. Got the anniversary wrong. Oh well!
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 25, 2019
Happy Birthday John, will never forget the good times, Ronnie
Posted by Brenda Starr on May 21, 2019
Happy birthday Mr. excitement. Miss you and want to thank you for watching over me and the family. I know you have a hand in all of the good and close misses we had. Stay on the job. No rest for you! Lol. 
Nice comment Frankie but we all ageee you are getting older ... but not smarter!!! lol.
Love to all friends and family. Brenda
Posted by Frank DeLisi on May 20, 2019
Here’s reaching out to all my brothers and sisters as we remember the joy , the excitement , and the never ending spontaneous combustible  personality that John brought to each and everyone of us. We love him and we always will . He left us when he was very young , and he will forever be young in our hearts . When we think of him , we enjoy the thought with great satisfaction because it allows us to step back in time . A time of our youth , with all the wildness and risk that we could not get enough of . He allows us to be immersed in that memory . The memory of things we dare not do today , it was in fun and none stop excitement , with fear being totally nonexistent ! We are now to old and way to smart to ever repeat those wild and crazy good times . When we remember , we become young again , even if it is just for a short moment in time . John still gives us this gift of stepping into the past and putting a smile on our face at the same time . He allows us to enjoy and remember without the risk . That’s a good deal ! ( his own words ) He is forever young , and when he greets us one day , we will be forever young also . So to all my brothers and sisters ( to many to name individually) let us thank each other for keeping his memory in our hearts and let us thank John for keeping us forever young in our thought . Past , present , and into the future John will never stop putting a smile on our faces . I love you all , the way we all love him and the way John all loves us . God Bless each and everyone of you , your brother - Frank
Posted by Matthew Messana on May 20, 2019
Hey John,
Just spent a day with your parents last weekend. I haven't seen them in years and heard a beautiful story about you from your Mom. Coincidence? I think not!
Posted by Ronald Cellana on May 19, 2019
Hey Brother, Miss You spoke to your brother Frank finally, he’s doing real good and so is your Loved Ones, tomorrow morning I’ll be by to visit you, like I’ve been doing for the last 34 years!! Your in my heart and a day doesn’t go by that I don’t think of you. I hope we see each other again sometime. I Miss You so much Brother. God Bless
Posted by Frank S on June 26, 2018
Happy Birthday Bro,we miss you
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 25, 2018
Happy Birthday my Dear Friend, Miss You more and more each day,
Posted by Matthew Messana on June 25, 2018
Happy 62nd year. Rest in peace.
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 25, 2017
Happy Birthday my Long Lost Friend, Miss You!!
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 25, 2017
Happy Birthday my Long Lost Friend, Miss You!!
Posted by Matthew Messana on May 21, 2017
32 years wow just like yesterday. My first thought of John is always a really good, kind, bright kid that followed the rules, then just got bored with being good and became a showman for us. Miss you John.
Matt
Posted by Glenn Matta on May 20, 2017
John, so sad that it was 32 years ago. Brenda says it best. You were a risk taker and hell raiser. The times together were fun, and will always be remembered. You are greatly missed, but not forgotten.
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on May 20, 2017
32 years. My son will be 32 tomorrow. It's numbing. With so little pictures and no videos I feel like it's been lifetimes ago I heard his voice and felt his touch. The family has so little in way of film or photos. Superstorm Sandy took all my photos and memories of years gone by. With Ann and frank being 83 & 86 anyone with a fresh addition for them and me would be nice to view. John was his mothers son. Annmarie just did a 29 day cruise through Asia and rode an elephant, visited a 150 yr old water stilt village and just treked the circuit. Living life to its fullest is hereditary. My heart softens but never heals. My children only hear of wild stories of John but know that the energy exerted when telling them is an indication of just how dynamic a person he was and how lucky we all feel to have been a part of that ride. My prayers for harmony in all of our lives, love in our hearts, and safety with mental wellbeing for all our children is from the depths of my heart to all of our friends. Love you guys. Miss my brothers energy and super grateful to have another one just as wonderful and annoying at the same time. Sibling are both. And they both are my loves and pains.
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on May 20, 2017
Now post your own memories to share. Unlimited postings available. I started with a family spread. Please share! Luv Brenda
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on May 20, 2017
Breanna playing in concert! Enjoy by copying the YouTube link  

https://youtu.be/l9QhBqrB8jk.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9QhBqrB8jk&sns=em

BTHS Concert Orchestra Winter Concert 2016
Posted by Frank S on May 20, 2017
Good Morning Bro, can't believe it's been 32 years since you left us,hope your doing great,until we meet again
Posted by Ronald Cellana on May 20, 2017
WOW, 32 Years My Good Friend, it seems like yesterday. John I still Miss You and Think about you each and every day. I'm now telling my Grandson about you and the meaning of Friendship. God I wish you were here with us but God has his own plans and had to take you from us to short in life. He Needed a Angel and believe me he picked the best one. MISS YOU!! Your Old Friend, Ronnie
Posted by Frank S on June 25, 2016
Happy Birthday Bro,welcome to the 60 club,we will celebrate tonight
Posted by Matthew Messana on June 25, 2016
Wow-happy Bday John -You'd laugh if you could see how we look!
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on June 25, 2016
I have bought a 1970 yellow white and red GW invader, a yellow seadoo 1999 and a 22' 2005 searay. All with joy of keeping the memories Alive and hopes of passing on the love of the water we all shared and share now. I'm so happy to be fearless enough to venture out at 55 years old to teach my kids and keep my parents enjoying the water. It's alittle scary but exciting. I owe my sense of adventure and "don't give a shit attitude to just try to enjoy life and stay happy" to my brothers and John as the forerunner of risk takers. 
Today on your birthday I am extremely sad. I haven't felt this sad in 31 years. I can't believe this one birthday after all that have come and gone has me so distraught. I'm not sure if it's normal. I'll assume so and perhaps with aging parents and realizations of getting older than I care to accept...it is normal. I'm going to try out my seadoo to shake the sadness and embrace memories of your stupid actions at sea. I'll always love and remember John, my family and all friends that share these memories. Love to all and a safe summer. Ps moms bday is the 28 th.
Love Brenda
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 25, 2016
Can't believe it's another year gone by without you here with us, You and your family are always in my prayers, I have a 8 year old grandson named Dante and at his bedtime he always wants a story, I'm so glad that I had the years we had together as friends because he loves the stories of the times we had. Miss you John, Love your friend Ronnie
Posted by Vito Rizzo on May 22, 2016
Gone but never forgotten , what a great friend you were you had the biggest heart miss you John RIP brother
Posted by Frank S on May 20, 2016
John, another year gone by,still miss and will never forget you,hope all is great with you
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on May 20, 2015
Unending love for one of the most beautiful people I have ever been blessed with in my life. Over the past 30 years I can truly say that I've known a treasured handful. They enter your life and you know you are touch and changed for the better forever. They are with you all the time and never leave you thinking that they are gone from your life. I feel this way about John. I know he is taking care of matters that only the unknown intervention has the ability to assist in. My love for my unseen silently strong brother is as great as the love I have for my brother that I can still embrace and speak the words...I love you, I miss you, and get a reassuring, " so do I" back. My brothers are mine for all eternity and I treasure everything seen and unseen, past, present and future to come. My life is richer and crazier for having them and I wouldn't want for any two others. Enjoy the ride John. I miss you deeply and bought a GW invader this summer to reminisce of carefree youthful times. See you on our bay John, and friends. Love Brenda Jean
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on May 20, 2015
A shout out to John's gang! So what did John's dad do this 30 th anniversary..., well he did something he always wanted to do and something John had done. Frank jumped.... Out of a plane ... 84 years young! The fruit don't fall far from the tree. I don't think dad sees it though. Lol. Love life,live life and most of enjoy life. Remember it's just one dimension of existence so find the time to do something you wouldn't thing of at this age but always wanted to do. Pole dancing for the fat and wrinkled sounds fun!!
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on May 20, 2015
A shout out to John's gang! So what did John's dad do this 30 th anniversary..., well he did something he always wanted to do and something John had done. Frank jumped.... Out of a plane ... 84 years young! The fruit don't fall far from the tree. I don't think dad sees it though. Lol. Love life,live life and most of all enjoy life. Remember it's just one dimension of existence so find the time to do something you wouldn't think of at this age but always wanted to do. Pole dancing for the fat and wrinkled sounds fun!!
Posted by Matthew Messana on May 20, 2015
I wish you were still with us. Your anniversary reminds me of how quickly we can lose the ones we love. May your soul rest in peace John.
Posted by James Sigelakis on May 20, 2015
I always remember how much you enjoyed life. You always had a great time no matter the situation, John. You've taught us, life is short, your example is one we should live by. You will always be missed.
Posted by Ronald Cellana on May 20, 2015
Miss you Buddy!!
Posted by Frank DeLisi on June 26, 2014
Happy Birthday Big Brother , when I say brother I meant it from all of us. Brenda, Glenn, Frankie, Matt, Cat, Vito, Ronny , Janie, Joe, Bobby, Francine and many, many more. We will never ever forget you, you touched our heart and soul and you continue to do so everyday . Now with that said, I know you havn't forgot about us. So when we see you [ since you always did things in a big way] we are expecting a damn big surprise from you . So get cracken on it ! Love you and miss you. Enjoy your Birthday in Heaven , then get to work on that surprise Bro! C U in about 50 years [ and not before]. Brother Frank Paul .
Posted by Vito Rizzo on June 25, 2014
Happy birthday in heaven john
Posted by Matthew Messana on June 25, 2014
Happy birthday Bro...
Posted by Frank Santano on June 25, 2014
Happy Birthday John,
Posted by Glenn Matta on June 25, 2014
Happy Birthday John. It happens to be the same day as my wedding anniversary. Some coincidence. Warm regards. Missed dearly.
Posted by Ronald Cellana on May 21, 2014
Hey Pal, miss you buddy another year goes by and I know your in a good place with God. Rest In Peace Your Friend Ronnie
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 26, 2013
Happy Birthday Buddy, Miss you!!
Posted by Matthew Messana on June 25, 2013
Wow! There are no coincidences! Frank Santano (Haven't seen him in 3 years) just came to see me (NY to Florida) out of the blue and we're together on Johns Birthday? There's got to be more to us than just this life! Pretty eery.
Matt M.
Posted by Matthew Messana on May 20, 2013
My eternal friend John, How I miss you so. Seems the longer I'm on this earth the more it's clear how loyal a friend you were. Such a loss those many years ago to your family and friends.
Matt M.
Posted by Ronald Cellana on May 20, 2013
Hey Buddy, miss you and hope to see you again someday. You where such a great friend and I'm so thankful that you where a part of my life, God Bless You, Ronnie
Posted by Janie Cox on April 30, 2013
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Posted by Janie Cox on March 19, 2013
I just wanted to say your memorial is touching. I pray God will continue to strengthen you. I hope, you can also take comfort in Revelation 21:4: "[God] will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more…the former things have passed away.""
Posted by Glenn Matta on October 28, 2012
Missed you. You were never forgotten.
Posted by Ronald Cellana on June 26, 2012
Happy Birthday to the best friend that a person could ever know in there lifetime, your always in my thoughts and miss the short time we had as buddies. God must have is hands full and a very special Angel, much love, Ronnie
Posted by Matthew Messana on June 25, 2012
Happy Earthly Birthday John...My first memories I can recall are going to your 5th birthday in Brooklyn! Can still recall your basment and you Nana screaming of the mess we made!!!  Matt
Posted by Frank Santano on June 25, 2012
Happy Birthday John, Enjoy your Party
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on June 25, 2012
I miss you so much that the wrinkles hold the tears and give me a wet tee- shirt that makes everyone sick at what they see! If you really love me send me the lottery numbers ASAP. I'm teaching- it sucks- and I want some real money! Get busy up there and pull some strings. Cause when I get there I'm gonna kick your ass for leaving us! Please come help my Johnny find happiness. Luv U:)
Posted by Brenda DeLisi-Flynn on June 25, 2012
My brother my heart my love. God keep you close and safe from evil. Watch over mom and dad and protect our babies. Take a fly by for a kiss. Love you forever and longer.
Hi to all our friends. My mail is bjdf204@gmail if anyone wants to say Helloooo Babyyy!!
Posted by Vito Rizzo on June 25, 2012
happy birthday in heaven john , you were the best

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