ForeverMissed

Our Brother John !

Who is to say, and if they did who would believe it true, that these vessels we occupy and our earthly presence are not what we are about, but just a pause, a grounding place, a place to regroup our energies as we continue the more meaningful part of our existence.

We don’t understand it and we can’t understand it because our bodily form is inadequate in its design and capabilities.
 
We see loved ones suffer with broken, damaged bodies. This is their inadequate earthly design not their essence and who they are that are flawed. We see other loved ones that are full of energy, the John’s of the world that emanate what we perceive as living life and bringing excitement to all those around them. We love these people, we enjoy their presence, they are like the electrons that bounce around and when they come in contact with others they excite them causing a temporary chain of reactions. So we get some excitement for as long as that earthly being hangs around. Our essence, our souls, our energy, this is who we are,  we are a loving, giving source, created in the image, an extension of a greater entity, some call God others have different names or beliefs as to what or who God is. Regardless, God, the name I choose, is an awesome entity, that we follow and look to for answers. Answers that we in this earthly form can’t obtain and if we did most of us would fear knowing them instead of embracing them. 
 
How do we know that there is more to us? How do we know that this existence is nothing more than a spec in time? It is because we have so many questions, because we feel so confused as to why we are here. If we didn’t feel this way we wouldn’t have a need to know, how the Earth was created, or how did the universe begin. We wouldn’t care. Why should we? After all we are only here for 90 years if we are lucky or unlucky for that matter.  It is because we try so hard to feel like we belong to something and never really feel like we are… where we are suppose to be. We convince ourselves that we have found our place and reason for being in this life, but we are never truly at ease. Like bottled energy, waiting for its grounding phase to be finished so that it can get on with doing something more, being someplace better or different. A place where we can reunite with others and share our love, without confines of these vessels, our bodies.
 
 We gather in church to tell Jesus that we love him, and our loved ones like John that we miss them, that we haven’t forgotten them and we love them. As a group of souls and energies united we radiate to them, we radiate to each other. We gather to give each other hope and love in trying to endure our earthly pains.  
 
Brenda
June 27, 2022
June 27, 2022
Happy Birthday in heaven Bro, we miss you
June 25, 2022
June 25, 2022
Still miss you brother, I hope your having a great Birthday hanging with all the Angels and the Big Guy. You’ll never be missed. Love You
June 25, 2022
June 25, 2022
Your Happy Birthday today has bought you a gift, yet has taken that gift away from us here on Earth. It is your turn and those that have left us to enjoy the spirit of Arthur Darby our beautiful friend and one that has left us too soon. I am reminded of the heart-wrenching pain endured for years from my loss of you. To experience this pain is a cruel part of life. But Arthur will be with us in spirit as I truly believe and hold fast to. My heart is broken for his beautiful family but I am relieved to know that he is with you - his close friend and you will help him through his journey. Both of you will need to give a great deal of energy to Michael and Cathy and the kids as they try to find reason and peace in their hearts and minds. My beautiful brother fly high and fast and take Arthur for that ride-Blow his mind with the freedom to send energy to those that need him now. I will love you and hurt for you forever. My very existance is a blurr and thats okay- its a temporary part of eternity!
June 25, 2022
June 25, 2022
Happy Birthday dear brother , you have been away now for over 37 years and you are forever young . As we get older and closer to seeing you again , don’t be shocked by our lack of hair and worn out frames . We won’t complain, as long as you don’t laugh . Until then , we miss you and love you . No escaping the inevitable and this reality , see you soon . PS- Hope you and Arty are having a ball being together again . ❤️‍✈️
May 21, 2022
May 21, 2022
Hey John,37 years have gone by ,and we still miss you BIG time. Hopefully you and Matthew are catching up on time missed, and enjoying this time together.
June 25, 2021
June 25, 2021
Another year, another day Happy Birthday my Great Friend. Let’s load up the truck and make 1 more run. Miss you and wish you were here with all of us that treasured the great moments with you. “Boat Drinks”
May 20, 2021
May 20, 2021
Hello Brother from another Mother, can't believe its been 36 years since you left us. You've probably made" Captain " by now and sailed around the universe a few times .I hope your enjoying the ride. Pick up the phone once in a while, the calls are FREE. Miss You
June 26, 2020
June 26, 2020
Wow, thought of you all day and still feels like a different life time ago. I know you are with me as I seem to be accomplishing more than I can I believe I was ever capable of--there you go--I have you do the brainiac work for me. Thanks- you were always the smart one, just misdirected it. Thank you for being in my heart and mind keeping me strong when we both know I could never accomplish what I have been pulling off these past several decades . You in my corner is real and appreciated. Forever in my essence and existence. Twice your age now, little sister....
May 21, 2020
May 21, 2020
Hey John, hard to believe it's been 35 years since you left us,we miss you as if it were yesterday.Hope all is well. I stopped by your grave site the other day , but you weren't home,probably out on the boat.
May 20, 2020
May 20, 2020
35 years is not so hard to accept when I look in the mirror. My love never ceases and the memories are more treasured as life throws it’s challenges my way. Good friends are rare. Family is special even when pains in the ass. It’s all special. Hold fast to your memories and live to make new ones. My love and prayers go to all our friend
May 20, 2020
May 20, 2020
Hey Buddy, can’t believe that 35 years have passed so quick, I always have you in the back of my head, reminiscing the crazy times that we had together in the very short time that we had together. John you taught me a lot of things that I remember you telling me, good advice my friend. I tell my Grandson stories about the things that we did together and he sits there with amazement on his face, his name is Dante and he’s 12 years old already and always wants to go for a ride on the Harley. Miss you Brother. Hope to catch up with you on the flip side!!!
June 26, 2019
June 26, 2019
Happy Birthday John,hope your raising HELL in HEAVEN, miss you
June 25, 2019
June 25, 2019
Happy Birthday John, will never forget the good times, Ronnie
May 21, 2019
May 21, 2019
Happy birthday Mr. excitement. Miss you and want to thank you for watching over me and the family. I know you have a hand in all of the good and close misses we had. Stay on the job. No rest for you! Lol. 
Nice comment Frankie but we all ageee you are getting older ... but not smarter!!! lol.
Love to all friends and family. Brenda
May 20, 2019
May 20, 2019
Here’s reaching out to all my brothers and sisters as we remember the joy , the excitement , and the never ending spontaneous combustible  personality that John brought to each and everyone of us. We love him and we always will . He left us when he was very young , and he will forever be young in our hearts . When we think of him , we enjoy the thought with great satisfaction because it allows us to step back in time . A time of our youth , with all the wildness and risk that we could not get enough of . He allows us to be immersed in that memory . The memory of things we dare not do today , it was in fun and none stop excitement , with fear being totally nonexistent ! We are now to old and way to smart to ever repeat those wild and crazy good times . When we remember , we become young again , even if it is just for a short moment in time . John still gives us this gift of stepping into the past and putting a smile on our face at the same time . He allows us to enjoy and remember without the risk . That’s a good deal ! ( his own words ) He is forever young , and when he greets us one day , we will be forever young also . So to all my brothers and sisters ( to many to name individually) let us thank each other for keeping his memory in our hearts and let us thank John for keeping us forever young in our thought . Past , present , and into the future John will never stop putting a smile on our faces . I love you all , the way we all love him and the way John all loves us . God Bless each and everyone of you , your brother - Frank
May 20, 2019
May 20, 2019
Hey John,
Just spent a day with your parents last weekend. I haven't seen them in years and heard a beautiful story about you from your Mom. Coincidence? I think not!
May 19, 2019
May 19, 2019
Hey Brother, Miss You spoke to your brother Frank finally, he’s doing real good and so is your Loved Ones, tomorrow morning I’ll be by to visit you, like I’ve been doing for the last 34 years!! Your in my heart and a day doesn’t go by that I don’t think of you. I hope we see each other again sometime. I Miss You so much Brother. God Bless
June 26, 2018
June 26, 2018
Happy Birthday Bro,we miss you
June 25, 2018
June 25, 2018
Happy Birthday my Dear Friend, Miss You more and more each day,
May 21, 2017
May 21, 2017
32 years wow just like yesterday. My first thought of John is always a really good, kind, bright kid that followed the rules, then just got bored with being good and became a showman for us. Miss you John.
Matt
May 20, 2017
May 20, 2017
32 years. My son will be 32 tomorrow. It's numbing. With so little pictures and no videos I feel like it's been lifetimes ago I heard his voice and felt his touch. The family has so little in way of film or photos. Superstorm Sandy took all my photos and memories of years gone by. With Ann and frank being 83 & 86 anyone with a fresh addition for them and me would be nice to view. John was his mothers son. Annmarie just did a 29 day cruise through Asia and rode an elephant, visited a 150 yr old water stilt village and just treked the circuit. Living life to its fullest is hereditary. My heart softens but never heals. My children only hear of wild stories of John but know that the energy exerted when telling them is an indication of just how dynamic a person he was and how lucky we all feel to have been a part of that ride. My prayers for harmony in all of our lives, love in our hearts, and safety with mental wellbeing for all our children is from the depths of my heart to all of our friends. Love you guys. Miss my brothers energy and super grateful to have another one just as wonderful and annoying at the same time. Sibling are both. And they both are my loves and pains.
May 20, 2017
May 20, 2017
Good Morning Bro, can't believe it's been 32 years since you left us,hope your doing great,until we meet again
May 20, 2017
May 20, 2017
WOW, 32 Years My Good Friend, it seems like yesterday. John I still Miss You and Think about you each and every day. I'm now telling my Grandson about you and the meaning of Friendship. God I wish you were here with us but God has his own plans and had to take you from us to short in life. He Needed a Angel and believe me he picked the best one. MISS YOU!! Your Old Friend, Ronnie
May 20, 2017
May 20, 2017
John, so sad that it was 32 years ago. Brenda says it best. You were a risk taker and hell raiser. The times together were fun, and will always be remembered. You are greatly missed, but not forgotten.
May 20, 2017
May 20, 2017
Now post your own memories to share. Unlimited postings available. I started with a family spread. Please share! Luv Brenda
June 25, 2016
June 25, 2016
Can't believe it's another year gone by without you here with us, You and your family are always in my prayers, I have a 8 year old grandson named Dante and at his bedtime he always wants a story, I'm so glad that I had the years we had together as friends because he loves the stories of the times we had. Miss you John, Love your friend Ronnie
June 25, 2016
June 25, 2016
I have bought a 1970 yellow white and red GW invader, a yellow seadoo 1999 and a 22' 2005 searay. All with joy of keeping the memories Alive and hopes of passing on the love of the water we all shared and share now. I'm so happy to be fearless enough to venture out at 55 years old to teach my kids and keep my parents enjoying the water. It's alittle scary but exciting. I owe my sense of adventure and "don't give a shit attitude to just try to enjoy life and stay happy" to my brothers and John as the forerunner of risk takers. 
Today on your birthday I am extremely sad. I haven't felt this sad in 31 years. I can't believe this one birthday after all that have come and gone has me so distraught. I'm not sure if it's normal. I'll assume so and perhaps with aging parents and realizations of getting older than I care to accept...it is normal. I'm going to try out my seadoo to shake the sadness and embrace memories of your stupid actions at sea. I'll always love and remember John, my family and all friends that share these memories. Love to all and a safe summer. Ps moms bday is the 28 th.
Love Brenda
June 25, 2016
June 25, 2016
Wow-happy Bday John -You'd laugh if you could see how we look!
June 25, 2016
June 25, 2016
Happy Birthday Bro,welcome to the 60 club,we will celebrate tonight
May 22, 2016
May 22, 2016
Gone but never forgotten , what a great friend you were you had the biggest heart miss you John RIP brother
May 20, 2016
May 20, 2016
John, another year gone by,still miss and will never forget you,hope all is great with you
May 20, 2015
May 20, 2015
A shout out to John's gang! So what did John's dad do this 30 th anniversary..., well he did something he always wanted to do and something John had done. Frank jumped.... Out of a plane ... 84 years young! The fruit don't fall far from the tree. I don't think dad sees it though. Lol. Love life,live life and most of enjoy life. Remember it's just one dimension of existence so find the time to do something you wouldn't thing of at this age but always wanted to do. Pole dancing for the fat and wrinkled sounds fun!!
May 20, 2015
May 20, 2015
A shout out to John's gang! So what did John's dad do this 30 th anniversary..., well he did something he always wanted to do and something John had done. Frank jumped.... Out of a plane ... 84 years young! The fruit don't fall far from the tree. I don't think dad sees it though. Lol. Love life,live life and most of all enjoy life. Remember it's just one dimension of existence so find the time to do something you wouldn't think of at this age but always wanted to do. Pole dancing for the fat and wrinkled sounds fun!!
May 20, 2015
May 20, 2015
Unending love for one of the most beautiful people I have ever been blessed with in my life. Over the past 30 years I can truly say that I've known a treasured handful. They enter your life and you know you are touch and changed for the better forever. They are with you all the time and never leave you thinking that they are gone from your life. I feel this way about John. I know he is taking care of matters that only the unknown intervention has the ability to assist in. My love for my unseen silently strong brother is as great as the love I have for my brother that I can still embrace and speak the words...I love you, I miss you, and get a reassuring, " so do I" back. My brothers are mine for all eternity and I treasure everything seen and unseen, past, present and future to come. My life is richer and crazier for having them and I wouldn't want for any two others. Enjoy the ride John. I miss you deeply and bought a GW invader this summer to reminisce of carefree youthful times. See you on our bay John, and friends. Love Brenda Jean
May 20, 2015
May 20, 2015
I always remember how much you enjoyed life. You always had a great time no matter the situation, John. You've taught us, life is short, your example is one we should live by. You will always be missed.
May 20, 2015
May 20, 2015
I wish you were still with us. Your anniversary reminds me of how quickly we can lose the ones we love. May your soul rest in peace John.
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Happy Birthday Big Brother , when I say brother I meant it from all of us. Brenda, Glenn, Frankie, Matt, Cat, Vito, Ronny , Janie, Joe, Bobby, Francine and many, many more. We will never ever forget you, you touched our heart and soul and you continue to do so everyday . Now with that said, I know you havn't forgot about us. So when we see you [ since you always did things in a big way] we are expecting a damn big surprise from you . So get cracken on it ! Love you and miss you. Enjoy your Birthday in Heaven , then get to work on that surprise Bro! C U in about 50 years [ and not before]. Brother Frank Paul .
June 25, 2014
June 25, 2014
Happy Birthday John. It happens to be the same day as my wedding anniversary. Some coincidence. Warm regards. Missed dearly.
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Happy Birthday in heaven Bro, we miss you
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Still miss you brother, I hope your having a great Birthday hanging with all the Angels and the Big Guy. You’ll never be missed. Love You
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June 25, 2019

I feel like I’m there already. 34 years without John sucks.  You just never get use to it...

My suggestion- Have a toast raise it high and give him a wink!

Love to all. Brend

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February 13, 2018

I think of all of you often and miss seeing you. Hope all is well with the family. Best birthday wishes to Frank Jr, is it 60 or 61? My wife and kids are doing good. Joanne & I are on Tenerife right now, spending the winter in the old world. God bless you all. Power to the people! M.













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