When my Uncle Joe, a strong, loving father figure in my life, father's last sibling passed away,my dad really gave up as he grieved the loss of his final sibling. He dearly missed his siblings, and it was really sad to see him give up his golf clubs, stop going
out with his friend, Fritz, and retire to his living room. It was apparent from
his behavior and attitude; he was ready to leave this world and be with his family. I strongly believe the love and compassion, we as family had for him, sustained him to continue each day. My father's children each played different roles in his caregiving. A few examples include my oldest brother, Gregory, kept him on some weekends; I and my oldest sister (Gina Bruce) took him to
his health appointments, followed by our family gathering at his favorite restaurant, AppleBee's.
In this tribute, I am especially acknowledging my
middle sister Gwendolyn-Winston Simpson, who is an employed, mother of two beautiful adult children, with one
adult child having special needs. I am forever grateful and thankful to my middle sister, who tireless provided day-to-day care for greater than
five years. As a researcher in caregiving, I am aware of the multiple demand of caregiving (e.g. caring for her adult child with special needs
and my dad) can have on your mental and physical health. Gwennie, YOU, did it and you made his final days as peaceful as
possible.
Gwennie, I just want you to know from your youngest sister that I sincerely appreciate all you have done. I love you for keeping him with meals, cleaned, and
providing him with emotional and instrumental support during his toughest times. I strongly believe if dad
could have spoken following his stroke, he would have thanked you and shared
his love for you with all his heart. Since, he could not, I am here to say, you
are acknowledged, appreciated, and loved by your youngest sister for all that
you have done.
With all my love,
Gaynell