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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one,

                              John Harold McGinley

John's passing has left a hole in the hearts of those who knew and loved him.  This memorial pays tribute to who he was as a person, father, son, brother, uncle, nephew, cousin and friend.  John had a huge heart with a smile that put you at ease.  He was a gentle spirit, a hard worker, a closet inventor, and a poet.  He was witty and clever with a soft spot for Hot Pockets.  He loved to read mystery novels and always kept a book within reach to jot down his thoughts, ideas and poems. The New York Yankees lost one of their most devoted fans.  He loved baseball and was highly revered as a player himself on the Brooklyn diamonds playing for local leagues. Being on the other end of one of his hugs made you feel like you were the most loved person in the world.

John also battled depression and addiction for most of his life.  What remained constant during all of his trials and tribulations was his love of family. There is so much to share about John.  If you find your way to this memorial, pay tribute to him by sharing your stories and what impact he had on your life.   John was born on April 21, 1962 and passed away on March 1, 2005 but he lives on in all of us, Forever And A Day.

May 17, 2012
May 17, 2012
today donna will join you in heaven. so lets dance the last dance tonight still remember you dancing on the table to that song.you loved her. miss you every day
April 21, 2012
April 21, 2012
I think about you every day but today I will feel the pain of your loss even more. I wish I could be celebrating your 50th birthday with you. I hope wherever you are that you can feel how much you are missed and how much you are loved.
March 1, 2012
March 1, 2012
seven long years without you,how can that be?your smile remains in my heart and soul forever.many tears will be cried today.many drinks will be had.you are so missed and loved. time may ease the pain a little but it still hurts like hell. love you with all my heart
March 1, 2012
March 1, 2012
When I walk through those doors I can feel you with me. How I wish I knew then what I know now. I would trade anything to be able to hit the rewind button and go back in time. I miss you so much. Rest in peace, John.
February 29, 2012
February 29, 2012
It's so hard to believe you've been gone for 7 years. I miss you so much, I think about you everyday and wonder how your doing. I just wish I could talk with you like old times. I wish I could hug you one last time. I love you my dear brother, RIP.
January 30, 2012
January 30, 2012
uncle john i hope your having a blast up there. i keep having the same dream about you for the past couple of months and i dont know what it means and its bothering me so much because i know your trying to tell me something, but keep coming in my dreams i love seeing your face any chance i get. i love and miss you with all my heart and can not wait to see you again<3
October 27, 2011
October 27, 2011
its the first snow of the year.a little bit early if you ask me.lately im thinking about you every hour of the day.i feel like your trying to tell me something and cant figure out what it is.i miss you
October 16, 2011
October 16, 2011
thinking about you and missing you with all my heart.please give me the strengh to do what i have to do.wish you were here
May 10, 2011
May 10, 2011
missing you a lot.your bush is coming back to life.i wish it was you coming back.
April 21, 2011
April 21, 2011
I hope Mantle and Munson organized a game
In celebration of your Birthday.

Remembering you with a smile and love in my heart.
xoxoxo
April 16, 2011
April 16, 2011
its hard to believe you are not here with us.you are so missed. as time goes by this pain does not lessen.please guide andrew to the right path.he needs help.how i wish i had one more hour left with you.i feel you around all the time.i miss you
April 14, 2011
April 14, 2011
my brother i think of you everyday and miss you so much. As time goes by it gets harder for me. I can say this, we will me again one day and when we do im going to give you a big hug and then knock you out for causing so many people pain and sadness.
April 10, 2011
April 10, 2011
John Mcdonald wrote
It took me while to talk about John.Me and John didn't see each other for about 5 years before his passing.what I remember about him the most is his tuffness never took shit from anybody and if you mess
March 29, 2011
March 29, 2011
thinking of you a lot today.day 17 of not smoking and i know you would be so proud of me.life is so funny,one day your up and one day your down.i guess we have to figure how to make the days balance. miss you more and more
March 1, 2011
March 1, 2011
six years have goon by and i miss you more today than yesterday.i have a hole in my heart that can never be filled.your smile gets me through the day. wish you were here.i love you
March 1, 2011
March 1, 2011
I celebrate you today my brother! I miss you so much it hurts, but one things for sure: Try, Try, Try Hey! - I've felt the coldness of my winter
I never thought it would ever go. I cursed the gloom that set upon us... But I know that I love you so! 
Our song, "The Rain Song" Led Zep Hey, Music was our thing, thanks to you!


February 28, 2011
February 28, 2011
Do you hear me calling you,
Do you feel the love that´s falling
From my eyes?
Only a second,
It's all it takes to realize,
There's a hundred thousand angels by your side
There's a hundred thousand angels here tonight
"Bliss"

"Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." ~Kahlil Gibran

Miss you every single minute of every single day. Love you, John.
February 26, 2011
February 26, 2011
i remember as kids we would all pretend to play cops john always had to be mannix, from the tv show and he loved baseball,loved the yankees.use to pretend he was bobby murcer and he would dive for the ball always getting banged up , and thats how he got the name tinman , wish you were still here when i am gone hope to see you at the gate ,dominic
February 26, 2011
February 26, 2011
you were a brother and a friend to me for yrs. truly missed.think about you often tinman. RIP JOHN see you when i get to that stair way to heaven chin
February 25, 2011
February 25, 2011
John McGinley was the best of the best (both of them). Little John was the coolest kid on the block and the nicest. I love him and big John forever.
February 22, 2011
February 22, 2011
I remember you gave me my 1st Led Zeppelin album, that's when I felt passion for music. When I could no longer hear you sing, I seeked answers.
This song by U2 had them.
"Listen to me now,I need to let you know,You don't have to go it alone,And it's you when I look in the mirror And it's you when I don't pick up the phone, sometimes you can't make it on your own" 
I wish I could have told you
February 8, 2011
February 8, 2011
i loved him so much,people in my family tell me how much we are like,and i think its an honor. i still miss you dearly.i'll never forget you took my and johnny to philadelphia.and we took a pic with the original batmoblie. i wish you were here cause you went through what im going through.i could really use you right now..you were the best.i miss you tinman
February 7, 2011
February 7, 2011
There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of you...I'll love you forever.
November 17, 2010
November 17, 2010
And as we wind on down the road
Our shadows taller than our soul
There walks a lady we all know
Who shines white light and wants to show
How everything still turns to gold
And if you listen very hard
The truth will come to you at last
When all are one and one is all
To be a rock and not to roll

And she's buying a stairway
To heaven...
November 16, 2010
November 16, 2010
I would do anything to have one more moment with you. I hold on to the thought that one day we will be together again. I know that when it is my time you will be there waiting to greet me. You'll smile and take my hand and show me the way home.
November 16, 2010
November 16, 2010
you will be forever in my heart and soul.I miss your smile,laughter and love.There is not a day that goes by that i dont think about you and miss you.Can you please help with those yankees this year. Thanks
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March 1
March 1
Dear John,
I haven't been able to sleep for two days and now I understand why. It's strange to live every moment of past trauma as if it is happening in real-time. I'm creating something that has to do with you and through this process, I hope to find the truth. I miss you, brother. My heart and soul still ache over losing you.
His Life

2023 Meeting At The Farm

February 28, 2023
Dear John, OMG, if you could see your beautiful son and daughter-in-law and experience your grandchildren for even a second, I know it would have healed you as it does me every time I see them. I know that you're looking down from your cloud as I imagine and smiling. I am so proud and happy for Johnny. What a beautiful contribution you made to this world, brother, You and Susan created a beautiful boy who created two beautiful children with Amanda. What a gift.

Merry Christmas 2022

December 22, 2022
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Merry Christmas, Brother!

Covid really stopped me from traveling for a long time. Even this year, we are staying home for Christmas. I was able to finally meet my great nephew and your grandson, John, who is also named John. Little John is the spitting image of you when you were a baby. He is such a sweet boy, brother, you would be proud of Johnny and Amanda and their beautiful family. Mackenzie your granddaughter would amaze you. I can already see the powerful woman she will grow up to be. No one is going to get anything past this young lady. Merry Christmas, John. Here's a glimpse of your living presents.

When we were young

March 1, 2021
I have had a recurring dream about sitting on Uncle Bob's and Aunt Nettie's stoop for years now. Remember when Uncle Bob took you up in his plane and let you fly it for a second under his supervision of course. Mrs. Mongolis's house had caught fire (the house next door in the photo) and she moved out to the delight of us children. Mrs. Mongolis was an old cranky woman with two nasty little dogs that had long white hair and looked exactly like her and barked at us as much as she yelled at us.  Remember? "Get outta fram here get outta fram here you dirty rotten bastages." We would run and hide in the open lot next door to her house behind the bushes and giggle as she shook her cane at us. The street rumor was that she had murdered her very kind husband and kept his body in her basement. We suspected this rumor to be true because Mrs. Mongolis had covered the basement windows from the inside out and lined the outside windows with chicken wire. Sometimes Mrs. Mongolis would try to be nice to us like the time she baked us cookies and left all of her dog's hair in them. We were never allowed to eat the cookies she gave us of course but Mrs. Mongolis was our nemesis when we lived on west 35th street. After her house caught on fire and she moved we had no one to torment. We also learned that the firemen did not discover any bodies in her basement. Poor Mrs. Mongolis who wore those scary Frankenstein-looking shoes was innocent of the crimes we accused her of except she was guilty of making hairy cookies and calling us dirty little bastages.

These photos mark the beginning of the end of our days living in Coney Island. Uncle Bob's house caught fire next and he and Aunt Nettie moved to Long Island with Maureen. Gail got married and moved as did Bobby. Shortly after Uncle Kenny and Aunt Mary moved to Bay Ridge along with Grandma Farrell and Warren and Michael. We went from seeing our relatives every day to only seeing them on holidays. We were the last family left on a block of abandoned and burnt-out houses thanks to the city's failed plan for urban renewal. It took a few months until Dad saved enough money to be able to put a down payment on a house in Marine Park. Dad and mom worked through their vacations and Dad added a night job to be able to do so. We moved to East Flatbush but Coney Island will always be home.
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The Farm 2023

February 28, 2023
The best part of my day was driving up to meet Johnny & Amanda at a farm near Hunter to visit with them and the kids. The children were excited and frankly so was I. Watching 20 cats check me out as I waited for everyone else to arrive was interesting.  Watching John and MacKenzie feed the farm animals was a treat.  So many times in my earlier years I felt too busy to take time out to experience such invites from family members. I realize now what a mistake it was to miss out on these moments. It was a great day, brother. I wish you were here.

John's Ashes

February 28, 2022
One of my favorite places in Woodstock, NY is the Overlook Mountain trail that runs about 2.5 miles straight up past the relic remains of the Overlook Hotel. When you reach the top, your reward for all the huffing and puffing you did is a gorgeous view.  There is a path that leads you to a ledge that jets out to form a platform where you can sit and watch the clouds pass by as you view the magnificence of the Hudson Valley.

I took a hike early one morning to let go of some of John's ashes. By the time 8 AM rolls around people are already arriving and there are limited parking spaces as it is next to a Buddhist Temple. I climbed to the ledge and in a rare moment when I could be alone, I had a conversation with John, telling him things that I never got to tell him while he was alive, apologizing for things that I never got to apologize for, and just sat there with him in spirit. Then I meditated in silence and when I came out of my meditation, I let his ashes go. I like to think that his ashes landed on one of the clouds that happened to be passing by and I envisioned him taking off on a new adventure knowing how much he was loved and how much he is missed. As we approach the anniversary of the day he left us I want to celebrate him and his life and all that he left behind. I was so lucky to have him as part of my life.  Rest In Peace, my brother.

My Christmas Card

February 24, 2022
Recently, I discovered a box with photos and letters that I had forgotten I saved. It was like finding a precious jewel or winning the lotto for me. There were things left behind, messages delivered between the lines and pages of what people wrote that revealed things to me that I needed to remember and reflect upon and hold close to my heart.

One of my favorites is a Christmas card that John had hand-made for me and Andy. You must remember that these letters and cards are from the age before digital and the internet when people used to sit down and write to each other. Christmas time was that time when you wrote some personal news or summarized your feelings for your loved ones which you sent along with your greeting of holiday cheer. I miss that time. Now when people communicate it's by text or by zoom with perfect lighting and we are more focused on what's in our background and how we look than being in the moment with the other person. When you sit down to write a letter, it's more of an intimate communication.

I love this card which was appro pro for where I was energy-wise at this time. John nailed it with his messaging and his gift to me was actually a goldmine in advice. I think it was the 1990's at some point and I was striving to achieve things outside of myself when the prize I was searching for was within. Hold on to things you receive like letters and photos and notes that people send you because you never know when their time will come to leave us and those things are all that you will have left to hold on to.

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