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John passed away in the early morning of May 25, 2018. Danielle, Iain and I are in Toronto and will spend Saturday together. 
I am deeply grateful for all our friends and family over the year. You have been open-hearted and generously shared your loss and grief with us over the year. While we're spread all over the world the deep bonds of community and friendship have sustained us in comprehending and accepting our loss. 
You know I'd prefer to invite you to our home for a long evening of story telling and celebrating John and his life.  Since that's not possible at this time, I invite you to spend some time on Saturday remembering John. Please share your reflections and memories. I'd love to hear from you. 

“Where has this cold come from? It comes from the death of your friend.” 

Will I always, from now on, be this cold? “No, it will diminish. But always it will be with you.” 

What is the reason for it? "Wasn’t your friendship always as beautiful as a flame?”

Mary Oliver
Thank you, love and gratitude, 
Gillian, 23 May 2019

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John Graham, humanitarian and advocate, passed away on May 25th after a fierce but short battle with cancer. Many called John a 'lion of a man' whose lifetime commitment to avoiding famine and its impact - particularly in Ethiopia - inspired many across the globe. He was a thought leader who led international dialogue on pastoralism, resilience and the importance of political and organizational collaboration.

As one colleague and close friend said (people in John's life were never just colleagues):  "He was a tireless worker and had a strong sense of justice for the poor. He played a lead role in galvanizing the international response to the El Nino drought of 2015-2016 that could have resulted in famine in Ethiopia. He worked the embassies, the media, he traveled to foreign capitals - he was an inspiration to many. I think what drove him was simply the idea that this was his watch and this drought was not going to become a famine in which lots of people die on his watch."

John's love for Ethiopia led his to write two wonderful books "Ethiopia: Off the Beaten Trail" and "Discovery in Ethiopia".

After 25 years in Africa - Namibia and Ethiopia - John and his wife of 35 years, Gillian Brewin, returned to Canada to join their two grown children, both of whom have settled in Toronto. Despite plans to reflect, write and continue his relationship with Save the Children in advancing a resilience agenda, John was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in December 2017, succumbing to the disease in May.

The John Graham Memorial Fund page: https://www.gofundme.com/john-graham-memorial-fund



June 4, 2023
Pat and I had a chance meeting with the Brewin-Graham family in 2015 or 2016 while travelling in Ethiopia. We reconnected after losing touch since the early 1990s while in Ottawa. The dinner we shared in Addis and time spent in Toronto upon their return, are wonderful memories of John and Gillian who have made and continue to make a difference. We send our love, Lynn & Pat
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
I only knew him a short time, and a number of years ago - but I can still feel the warmth of his smile and his humour.
May 26, 2022
May 26, 2022
I think of John every time I do my "to do" list. When working with him at OXFAM he started each work day making a list of things he intended to accomplish that day -- a practice I learned from him. He accomplished so much in his shortened life. We need more John Grahams in this world.
May 25, 2022
May 25, 2022
Missing John. He could light up and bring laughter to a room in an instant. Greg
May 27, 2020
May 27, 2020
Dear Gillian, it has been two years and you have missed him every single day. During my recent visit, I was so happy to see and feel that despite your obvious grief, you are as vibrant and resilient as ever. You and your children and other family will miss him still - as will the rest of us - but you have such strength in each other. Our thoughts and love to you all!
We look forward to seeing you here in our country soon! Jan and Lene
May 26, 2020
May 26, 2020
Dear Gillian
Is it already two years ago since John passed away. I am sure you will still miss him dearly. I hope you have managed to settle and to shape your life without him. I hope we will meet again. If you ever visit The Netherlands let me know. All the best for you with love Angelica Senders

May 26, 2020
May 26, 2020
I think of John often. Awhile ago Susan Gage and I drove up to visit former colleague, Chris Morry and Victoria Stephenson in Cedar, BC. We all shared memories of John. Gillian and family please know we all think of you often with love.
May 25, 2020
May 25, 2020
I'm remembering John today with great affection and sadness. Such a warm and witty man whom I was privileged to host during the time he visited Manchester. Love to Gillian and family.
January 21, 2020
January 21, 2020
I have just today learned of John's passing. I am so sorry to hear of this. John was defined by Ethiopia, and left behind a mark. Save the Children attained a level of influence in Ethiopia that was rarely seen by NGOs. John was known and well regarded by Ministers and senior civil servants, and achieved a level of influence rarely seen by an outsider. He stood with the Ethiopian people through change, and was part of that change. He leaves a legacy that few will match, that his life had force and meaning. I will remember him for his geniality and humour. As a new comer to Addis in 2015, I was grilled and challenged by John whose intention was to make us the best. Rest in peace John, for your soul goes marching on.
November 30, 2019
November 30, 2019
I have only just dicovered the news about John's passing. I am so sad and sorry! I very much enjoyed getting to know John during his stay with me in Manchester. He was always so amiable and full of life and purpose - one of those people you just can't imagine the world being without. I was prompted to try to email him this morning as we are floundering around in the quagmire of the UK elections: I always recall his brilliant system for accurately predicting election results (far more reliable than the UK polls!). I was hoping he might give me a glimmer of light at the end of this tunnel!! When the email bounced back, I checked and found the news of his death. Gillian - I'm so sorry. It was a privilege to spend time with him (and you) and I'm so sad to hear that, just as you were planning the next chapter of your lives, he was taken away. I realise it's been a while now, but I'm sure your sorrow is still a raw presence. You and John were always so positive and energetic, so I can only hope that you and your family are finding a new and positive way forward in his absence.  I wish you all the very best, and if you ever come this way again, I would be delighted to see you. 
June 13, 2019
June 13, 2019
We met you, John, Iain and Danielle in the early eighties while living in Ottawa. You moved to Namibia, we moved back to Toronto and we lost touch for 23 years or more years. We were reconnected thanks to a casual conversation about a Blue Jays cap while we were in travelling in Ethiopia and am grateful that we had a chance to get a glimpse of the life you made, the full and full of purpose life you had carved out for yourselves. And what a surprise and gift to have you in Toronto. John, made an impression on the guests at our holiday party 2017 - especially the young men from the Sudan/Syria and Afghanistan. I was sad that night that our many Ethiopian friends let the bad winter weather discourage them from joining us. A missed opportunity it was. We felt that a new phase of friendship was just beginning - and while it had barely begun - we feel immense loss for so many reasons. You are so bravely facing this Gillian, Danielle, Iain. Our hearts go out to you. Love Lynn and Pat
June 9, 2019
June 9, 2019
My dear families Gillian,Danielle & Ian
I started to explain my feelings about John for many times, but I couldn't able to finish.
You may think that as I am fool, but I am telling you from botom of my heart.
I believe that my friend, my brother & my mentor John is alive, Because whenever I start to think about him I still see his smiling face, I still see his eyes when they tries to understand my broken English & I still see those field trip's which we drove together, still listen to his jokes.
He is still alive in my heart, I will never stop thinking about him RIP.
Dear Danielle & Ian 
please don't forget to look after you Mom.
June 4, 2019
June 4, 2019
Dear Gillian,
Jan and I will forever remember some seriously good times in Addis with you and John. He was such a life force and just so fun to be around - the boccia (which we all pronounced in different ways), the bowling, the get togethers at your house where the food, the company, and the conversations were all the best to be had. He was a wonderful man, and he would have been so proud of how well you carry on without him - with feisty grit and head held high, as always!
May 29, 2019
May 29, 2019
John left an indelible impression on all those he met—and the one he left on me when I came to USAID/Ethiopia was no exception. His rip-roaring laughter at a joke (often times told by him) and humor always help lighten a dead-serious subject he was so passionate about—food security (or the lack of it). His encyclopedic knowledge of previous droughts and famines in the Horn helped so many of us understand the stakes that Ethiopia faced in the 2016 drought. As a teacher, a colleague, and an implementing partner, John was the one I turned to when I wanted to understand not just the food situation, but the political economy as well. He’s missed by so many of us.
(PS, we’ll have to meet up with him at the pearly gates since he still owes Debbie a bottle of wine on a bet he made with her on the Trump/Clinton election!!)
May 27, 2019
May 27, 2019
Dear Gillian
I am very sad to hear that John has passed away. We met 20 years ago when we were both working and living in Ethiopia. Over the last 10 years, we met (and we had dinner) when I visited Ethiopia for work. I remember us talking about the plans you and John had for the future: travelling up and down to the different countries you both love; maybe a house in Europe. How different does the future look now? I wish you and your children lots of strength. See you again. Angelica
May 27, 2019
May 27, 2019
Dear Gillian, Danielle and Iain,
John may be gone but his legacy lives. His commitment to better the lives of Ethiopians will always be remembered. Especially in my line of work, he was truly an advocate for the voiceless neonates which was an inspiration to me. We talk about him all the time; with partners and colleagues. He was a person very much looked up to and appreciated within the development community. His boisterous personality, his energy, his grace, and his 'can do' attitude will always livey with me. May the Lord rest his soul in peace. May He give you strength.
May 27, 2019
May 27, 2019
We were so looking forward to getting to know John again with his return to Canada. His dedication to his work in Ethiopia and to the people there over the years with Gillian at his side meant that they had formed a strong bond with many - who now share our sorrow. May he rest in peace and know that he couldn't have done more. He will be sorely missed.
May 27, 2019
May 27, 2019
John is Always remembering in the heart of Our SCI Ethiopian Team and all Community.
May 26, 2019
May 26, 2019
Dearest Gillian, Danielle and Ian,
I am so deeply sorry you had to face this great loss.
In the ever changing International NGO work, John's service and commitment to Ethiopia were so admirably constant and stable for many years. He passed on while still committed to his work.
His memory and the fruits of his work will live with us.
May the Lord grant you strength
May 25, 2019
May 25, 2019
Gilian
We lost John on this date last year, but his legacy is still visible, and will remain visible and shining. John was a very good friend, a father as well as a well-respected leader for many. Above all , John’s tremendous affection for Ethiopia is unforgettable, and we are always grateful for that
May 25, 2019
May 25, 2019
Gilian
We lost John on this date last year, but his legacy is still visible, and will remain visible and shining. John was a very good friend, a father as well as a well-respected leader for many. Above all , John’s tremendous affection for Ethiopia is unforgettable, and we are always grateful for that
May 25, 2019
May 25, 2019
Dear Gillian, Danielle and Iain
Remembering wonderful family moments in Ethiopia and Canada with you three and John -- his smile, laughter and insights still fresh in my mind.
Very warm hugs to Gillian, Danielle and Iain
Julie and Bernard
May 25, 2019
May 25, 2019
Remembering John - his welcoming smile, happy chuckle and warm personality. One always felt comfortable with John. But behind that easygoing exterior was a strong intelligence and commitment to doing the important work to help build a better world. John and Gillian welcomed me to their circle when I first met them 34 years ago in Victoria. I treasure our friendship and am so sorry that John left us too soon. Jacquie
May 24, 2019
May 24, 2019
It is tough to get used to John's fate. In particular for his Ethiopian colleagues who knew his selfless move to address the challenges of humanity.
He is missed by his friends and collegues. He left a legacy which everyone has promised to sustain them while his family visited Addis Ababa. Life is like a relay. There are hundreds who received the torch and working hard to take it further before they hand it to the next generation.
We commemorate John every single day. But tomorrow's memorial is something we remember in unison, in large numbers and wherever we are.
GOD BLESS HIS SOUL.
This is on behalf of his close friends in Ethiopia and all over the world.
Wendwessen
May 24, 2019
May 24, 2019
A year on and I still can't quite believe he's gone. I'll always have fond memories of 'TFI Friday' drinks at Africana's. John went out of his way to make me feel welcome, even though I wasn't working for Save the Children.
One memory that immediately springs to mind was the time Helen and I were invited to John and Gillian's for dinner and a few drinks soon after I had arrived in Ethiopia. A couple of drinks turned into a few more, and suddenly it was quite late in the evening and time for us to head home. As we said our goodbyes, we realised that John had a flight to catch that evening to get to a conference the very next day!
That was John - always working, even when he wasn't. Always warm and welcoming.
We will certainly be raising a glass to Mr. Graham, and we may even tell a story of two as well.
May 24, 2019
May 24, 2019
John - vivacious, dynamic, witty and intelligent, is someone who left an indelible impression even if one spent even a short time with him. John's gregarious and warm nature was a magnet attracting people to him under any circumstance. Having spent some time with him during his last few weeks I will forever remember and admire his courage and positivity in dealing with the disease the eventually took his life. He was and is an inspiration to me. Greg
May 24, 2019
May 24, 2019
As a spouse of a development worker, I didn't think much about my role in the business of making a better world until, one afternoon at Africana (an Ethiopian Institution), John told me that I as well was in the development field. I was sharing my past experiences when "I used to work in development" and John rapidly corrected me and said "what are you talking about?", "you continue doing development", "your whole life is immersed in it." That was a whoa moment in my life and it will stay with me my entire life. John's generous words acknowledged the role of families members who have an important contribution in the expatriate community. But John not only said amazing things; he did very good things for others. John and Gillian's home were our home base in Ethiopia and made us feel at home very early and made my youngest believe he was Santa during Christmas parties. John, as my husband said, "was greater than life."
May 24, 2019
May 24, 2019
I remember working with John in the Victoria OXFAM office in the mid 1980's. His strong work ethic was evident every day. Each morning he would start his day by writing a "to do" list and then throughout the day he would take real pleasure in crossing items off that list. Since then, I have followed this approach to getting things done and think of John as I cross things off my list. He was a happy warrior for social justice and is missed by so many of us. His accomplishments are legendary.
May 24, 2019
May 24, 2019
I was just thinking how with the state of British politics right now, and the "will May go or not" dialogue in the media post European elections, I would have loved the opportunity to talk it through with John and hear where he would place his bet! He was usually spot on with his political analysis whenever a big moment was approaching, we really enjoyed discussing it over a beer in Africana. Will raise a glass to John tomorrow. We miss him dearly, thinking of you all - Helen, Tom and Verity xxx
May 23, 2019
John will be remembered and remains in the hearts of people whom he rescued in times of disaster , ill health, displacement and etc in many parts of developing countries specially, Africa and Ethiopia.
He is not a loss to his family he is a loss to all those people whom he empathize, reached , stood for their rights.
My Thoughts and prayers are with dear Gillian and the entire Family.
Dehne Mengiste, My @3, 2019, Washigton DC,
John Rest in Peace,
April 17, 2019
April 17, 2019
John was a force to be reckoned with. His great stature and bellowing laugh made him an unforgettable person. We had so many amazing times in Addis with John and Gillian and we will always remember him. "Say not in grief 'he is no more' but in thankfulness that he was." Miss you John!
April 17, 2019
April 17, 2019
Although John will be remembered as a trojan of a humanitarian, quite simply, John (and Gillian) became family to us in our last six years in Ethiopia. This was due to their inclusive hospitality that drew in people from all backgrounds and faiths. Their house became a place of intellectual stimulation, personal challenge and solace...a place where you knew you belonged.  Our family histories are intertwined. Thus I am sad that my two grandsons will never meet him. But we will never forget him and we will remember him through our relationship with Gillian where he will be spoken about with respect and also laughter. His irreverent humour would demand it!
April 16, 2019
April 16, 2019
Last night I got to thinking ahead to summer and Pike Lake where John and Gillian own a cottage. I always looked forward to spending time with them at the lake, and a favourite activity would be sitting on the dock with John. We would catch up on each other's lives over the past year and then our discussion would move onto a review of some of the year's big events. I loved getting John's perspective; he was always extremely well versed with these issues. I will certainly miss these gatherings this summer!
June 16, 2018
June 16, 2018
Dear Gillian,
You and I only met a couple of times, but I spent a bit more time with John. I first met him at the Rift Valley Institute training course on Lamu in 2011. My fondest memories, however, are from the two field trips we undertook together to Afar, in 2012-13. John was with USAID at the time, and I with DFID in Addis Ababa. John was such wonderful company on those trips - curious, knowledgeable, disarmingly open yet challenging - with me and with everybody we met, indefatigable in the sand and the heat, ready and eager to smile and to joke, with a deep fount of great stories over beer and goat meat in the evenings. It was such a pleasure and privilege to spend that time with John, and hugely energising. I can only imagine the hole he’s left in your life and the life of your family.
I wish you strength, courage and love to carry you through the coming weeks and months without him.
June 14, 2018
June 14, 2018
What a sad shock to hear of John's far-too-early passing! As others have noted John's energy, laughter and commitment to good work gave the impression that he'd always be among us. He could be intimidating no doubt, but always for a good cause. I wish Gillian, Danielle and Iain peace and love as you mourn this very painful loss.
June 12, 2018
June 12, 2018
The following was printed, June 3, in the Fortune magazine, Addis Ababa, written by his dear friend Tamrat:
In his own admission, one needs to be “nuts enough” to take the kind of job he was doing in Ethiopia, saving lives of millions of children. For 30 years that was what he did, first arriving in Africa in the mid-1980s. It was a time of youthful enthusiasm and idealism in social justice. He was admittedly leftist when he first came to Mozambique.
He was not a naive backpacker but well-meaning in his determination to fix Africa`s problems. As a student of history at the University of Calgary, Canada, his thesis on Africa and its economic history had earned him honour in his class when he graduated in 1979. No less recognised was his paper on Kenya`s economic development in the 50 years beginning 1913, under the British colonial rule.
If these were not enough, his time studying media coverage of third world topics, for his post-graduate studies at the University of Victoria, Canada, ought to have prepared him for what to expect while working as a development specialist. His particular focus was on humanitarian responses to crises of both natural and those inflicted upon people, by people.
Multilingual in English, French and Portuguese as well as with modest skill in conversations in Afrikaans and Amharic, John had traversed south and north of Africa for over three decades. Early on, he was a passionate activist against apartheid in South Africa, organising civil society groups to oppose the regime. He was delighted to take a role as an election observer when South Africa had its first democratic elections in 1994. Little did he expect the African National Congress (ANC), which has been winning elections in a landslide since then, to turn out to be what it is today, a disappointment.
His leftist idealism has not stayed with him during his adulthood. He had evolved to see that despite all its flaws, liberalism is perhaps unmatched in helping society move forward and prosper.
Working for Oxfam Canada, he had seen a lot of sufferings and pain in Africa – partly orchestrated in the name of Marxism – making him grow sceptical of the claim on the equality of all. He saw the rise to power of Robert Mugabe in Zimbabwe where he was active in the planning for and response to the massive drought in 1992, which had also affected Angola, Mozambique, Namibia and Malawi. Once a celebrated anti-colonialist Marxist revolutionary, Mugabe too turned out to be a regret for clinging to power until he was forced out by the military, but at the age of 94.
In Sudan, he saw in the 1980s how the country`s oldest political party, the Communist Party of Sudan, was brutally repressed by the very person it had helped rise to power, Jafaar Nimeri (Col.). Nonetheless, his work in Sudan was very much linked to Ethiopia, supporting drought victims in the areas under the control of the insurgents in Tigray and Eritrea.
It was during this period of national tragedy, where close to a million people were believed to have perished of famine in the years 1984 and 1985, John came to acquaint with many of the leaders of the TPLF and the EPLF. Their success in defeating the military Marxist regime and take control of Ethiopia and Eritrea had given him hope to the dawn of a new era. Later on, though, he was not as generous in his views of their obsession with power as their idealism and determination had captivated him during their years of insurgencies.
Despite his reservations about what they came out to be, he was determined to stay on and help Ethiopians overcome their recurrent challenges in battling against nature. His years in the late 1990s as an aid worker with Save the Children UK, and subsequently the amalgamated international office, had given him practical experience valuable in helping him see the indispensability of realism.
“That gave me both the ability as well as the responsibility to speak out more and to even go out on a limb in order to make sure the right message was heard,” John said of his long years of experience in the aid community in Ethiopia, right before his early retirement in June last year.
Speaking truth to power, he did well. He was deeply affected by the average response from both of the international community and Ethiopian authorities to the drought in 2013, where close to 14 million people had been affected. Only a decade ago, the BandAid inspired world had promised “Never Again,” after the biblical drought of the mid-1980s.
It was a moment of reckoning to those in the humanitarian world to see handouts were no longer sufficient to help society overcome recurrent droughts whose cycle was getting shorter with the passing of time. It was a time of awakening to the fact that famine is a consequence of failed politics; hence policies are all that matter most.
John was one of the very few to not only realise this early on but forceful in his voice that the politics need to get fixed and programs to resilience should be developed, tested and deployed. With USAID, an American aid organisation dispensing close to a billion dollars worth of humanitarian and development support to Ethiopia, John found a place to nest.
For nearly a decade, he stayed with the USAID Ethiopia Mission, advising successive directors of the organisation on programs from humanitarian assistance to the protection of social services and from policy formulations to economic development and governance. Nothing paralleled his passion in debating the subject of social resilience and its impact on youth, debates held in boardrooms as much as among aid workers congregating at the Greek Club, every Wednesdays. His wit matched his intellect and used to quip these evenings as “humanitarian beer nights.”
His extensive travel in the Somali Regional State, where a clan adopted him around Fik Zone, and profound knowledge of the region`s history, culture and politics helped the US government execute a successful program of 200 million dollars, in 2007. Implemented at the height of the Ogaden crisis in the mid-2000s, ensuring the provisions of humanitarian assistance to a population caught between government and rebel forces was nothing but nerve-racking.
A massive drought hit again in 2015, this time with more force and covering a large area, and affecting one-third of the entire population. It was a time for John to show a battle-hardened experience in practice and realistic policymaking can pay of. Despite the enormity of the drought, the size of the population affected and the race for ever-dwindling resources across the world, Ethiopia overcame the drought with hardly any casualty to human life, perhaps for the first time in 500 years.
In his own words, “the proudest moments we will end up with are the ones where you can look back and say the lives of many children were saved or dramatically improved because of the efforts we have made.”
He continued his efforts of helping Ethiopia`s children moving on to Save the Children, in 2013. This time though, Save the Children was a much larger and consolidated international aid agency. Its programs in Ethiopia involved a 160 million dollars annual budget and 50 offices across the country employing 2,500 people.
On his departure, his staff threw him a going-away party at the Hilton. A brief documentary was projected, showing staff members use one word to describe John; the word “engaging” stood out.
John loved to debate and in as much as he liked to bet on electoral outcomes. He was deep into the American politics, accurately foretelling the results of elections in 2004, 2008, and 2012. He saw Brexit was inevitable. He would have mastered the art of election forecasting had it not been for his disappointment with the election of Donald Trump in 2016. He had lost a bet to a friend; he was for Hillary Clinton.
John was an avid reader of history and current affairs as he was a prolific writer, authoring numerous essays on humanitarian responses, agricultural productivity, poverty and healthcare as well as destitution. His two books – Ethiopia: Off the Beaten Trail (2001) and Exploring Ethiopia (2010) – are instructive for visitors to a country he described as “a big part of my life.”
Although too young to retire (Canada has retirement age at 65), John retired last year, for he was away for too long from his native land, where his two children reside.
“My wife and I feel it is time for us to go back to Canada,” he told his staff writer for a newsletter published under Save the Children. “Our family in Canada has complained for a long time.”
He had plans to return in October though, to attend events here in Addis Abeba.
John was not a man to “get bored easily.” In his final years, he was busy working on academic papers on drought resilience, after spending some time at the University of Manchester. He was deep in thoughts, reflecting on a post-capitalist order for developed economies, worried so much about the growing inequality in the prosperous societies. But he was stubborn in his optimism that capitalism has the innate capacity to redress itself.
He firmly believed the West needs a little dose of statism in as much as the developing world needs more of capitalism. Such would have been the thesis of his next book. He died too soon on May 25, 2018.
June 9, 2018
June 9, 2018
John did everything at scale and at volume. He lived and worked intensely, there wasn't really a line between his life and his work in Ethiopia. John took his role and his contribution seriously and owned each decision. John was a force, with strong and informed views, and his commitment to resuts drove him on. Even with or after differing views, John remained open, listening and thinking. John leaves a legacy at Save the Children Ethiopia, unrivalled in its presence and impact. On a personal level, John and Gillian were kind, welcoming and generous - even hosting my family's leaving party in their home. John's laugh, jokes and big farewell hugs will be remembered by many who passed through Ethiopia. Rest in Peace.
June 6, 2018
June 6, 2018
Dear ,Family , Gillian, Daniel and Iain.
John Graham is a father for many. 20 years before when i met him i was a shoe shine boy. he made all those things that words and sentence couldn't explain. No matter where he is from what language and nationality but its very special with his kindness and wonderful advises he offered. i missed his touch on my hair real dad.
i have got all i need because of him. its still hard to believe is gone. its sward of sadness in my heart .
i couldn't pay him back for those all things he did for drove me to school in morning take me back home , all those trips we had together all around the country pay all my fees in every where i went, all those i haven't got words again.
what do say if you lost one father that cares for you??
how do feel if you hear john is Passed??
John has done many amazing jobs in the country but for my family is special for ever my line on genes all we take his name as i have changed my to John Melaku from Yimer Melaku. 
  Dear family i have lost all my every things. I wish tears can bring him back i would like to cry for ever.
June 5, 2018
June 5, 2018
Dear Gillian, Danielle and Ian,
John Graham was a good father for our family. I knew him since I was 11. His grace and smile couldn't leave away from my eyes. My brother (Yimer) changed his name to 'John' after him. He met him when we were at rurals of Ethiopia, he had to take a road trip to see my brother in Shewa-robit. He didn't wait to get off from his car to ask where Yimer is. Then I should rush to his school, knock the class and call my elder "John Graham, your father is here, come out let's go". How can I express the feeling when I saw him hugging and touching his hair. Jonh's grace, enthusiasm and greatness will always remain in our family. He paid his life for this country, thousands assisted and millions inspired. My heartfelt condolences for families, friends and all touched by his deeds.
June 4, 2018
June 4, 2018
John was widely recognized as among the absolute best in his field. Even the Americans recognized that for their program in Ethiopia they could not find a better avisor than the burly Canadian from Save the Children. His knowledge and expertise were truly second to none and his work helped gratly to improve the lives of millions of the world’s poorest peoiple. Fortunately, John’s wisdom does not die with him. He always sought time to reflect and write, to commit his learning, thoughts and ideas to paper. In the 3rd century BC a chap named Callimachus wrote an elegy for his friend Heraclitus, a poet. Referring to Heraclitus’ verses as ‘nightingales,’ Callimachus wrote: “...But your nightingales live on; Death who takes all things cannot lay a hand on them. “ It pleases me to know that our friend John Graham’s nightingales will continue to take flight, and that millions more will benefit. Few will leave a finer or more meaningful legacy.
June 3, 2018
June 3, 2018
John was a huge character whose presence could fill any room immediately. He just had the art of making everyone feel he was their friend and his humour so infectious. A great networker and mobiliser which he used to good advantage whatever his cause at the time. John was passionate about humanitarian and development issues especially when it related to his beloved Ethiopia. A top priority for John was always ensuring that projects were well informed, grounded in good analysis and strategic. It was always so important to John that the approach he adopted really made a difference, changed lives and left no-one behind. We all learned so much from his leadership and his intelligent approach to development issues which undoubtedly had a huge impact wherever he worked.
We fondly remember the trip Gillian and John made through France not so long ago and having them both to stay in our corner of Périgord. We will miss John enormously, our love and thoughts are with Gillian and the family.
Nigel and Judith
June 3, 2018
June 3, 2018
Dear Gillian, Danielle and Ian,
Brendan and I are very saddened to learn of the loss of John to this world, to you and your family and to his so many friends answered loved ones. We have so many wonderful memories of time spent with you and John in Ethiopia and are ever grateful to John and Gillian for sharing their love and curiosity of Ethiopia with us. Precious and treasured memories of laughter over campfires (an inquisitive lion roaring in the background causing us to build the fire higher and higher), of endless hospitality and graciousness, and of such tangible love of family and of the people for whom he worked so relentlessly.  The world will feel the absence of this larger than life man. Gillian, our thoughts and prayers are with you all.  Love, Barbara and Brendan
June 2, 2018
June 2, 2018
This will hardly be an original thought, as it's surely shared by everyone whose lives John touched, but it is so hard to imagine someone with such energy and charisma leaving us so soon. I will always remember, and be moved by, John's tremendous affection for, and enthusiasm about, Ethiopia in all its aspects, a passion I and many others share. My warmest concerned thoughts to Gillian and their family - libawi hazen.
May 31, 2018
May 31, 2018
Dear Gillian, Danielle and Iain,
May our Lord bless and comfort you and your family during this time of grief. Prayers and fond memories are what we have to remember John Graham. My most heartfelt condolences.
May 30, 2018
May 30, 2018
Dear Gillian,
I’m writing on behalf of all the DFID colleagues who knew John to say how saddened we were to hear that he passed away last week.
John was in all senses a giant in the development and humanitarian community in Ethiopia.  His commitment to make life better for all Ethiopians, particularly children, was unrivalled. He was also a great friend to DFID Ethiopia over many years in his work on livelihoods and the Productive Safety Net Programme, humanitarian response and the Peace and Development programme to name but a few areas. 
We will remember John for many things, but three memories to mention here in particular. First, we will remember John as an innovator. He was always working on the next big idea for tackling poverty head on. It was a privilege to be able to turn some of those big ideas into big programmes, the benefits of which will last into the years to come.
Second, we remember John’s foresight and challenge. He was often challenging, but it was constructive challenge that drove change and helped Ethiopia through some of its worst droughts in living memory. There are thousands of people alive today because of the work John did to raise the alarm on the very severe drought in 2015/16. 
Third, we will remember John for his generosity of spirit, his bonhomie and his friendship. As someone else has said, people in John’s life were never just colleagues. We are grateful to have known him personally and we can’t quite believe he has gone. 
John was and will remain an inspiration to all of us. With our deepest sympathies to you and all the family.
Thinking about you Gillian and your family at this most difficult of times,
George
George Turkington
On behalf of DFID and particularly the Ethiopia team past and present including Juliette Prodhan, Charlie Mason, Louisa Medhurst, Toby Sexton, Emebet Kebede, Sam Yates, John Primrose and Jo Moir.
May 30, 2018
May 30, 2018
John and Gillian were as much a part of our families Ethiopia experience as the ground we walked on... True, tested and vested friends they were always there - literally. John was up for anything - a drink, a round of golf, or a venture to the Somali Region to explore ways to head off the potential impact next inevitable poor rains. He was champion - not just of the poor - but of living a purpose filled and mission driven life. His hearty laugh will ring through the tears and be his lasting legacy. With Love - Donnette & Dennis
May 30, 2018
May 30, 2018
Dear Gillian, Danielle and Iain -
I posted a photo of John at the Obama-Mia Inaugural Ball in Addis Ababa in January 2009 – smiling, convivial, no doubt telling a fun story to Sharif or maybe teasing him about his hat. John was the Master of Ceremonies for the event and he did a grand job as MC dressed for the job in his tux.  John always epitomized the type of warm hearted hospitality that is also such a wonderful characteristic of the Ethiopian people. He was just innately hospitable and welcoming and he made so many of us feel immediately at home – not just in the Brewin-Graham home, but wherever he joined you - in the office, on a field trip, in a meeting at a ministry, visiting an emergency nutrition center, talking to farmers or herders, bargaining in a rural market - he was so very much at home wherever he went in Ethiopia. John wrote several extraordinary tourism guides about the country that was his second home and he always seemed to fit right in as a kindred spirit anywhere in Ethiopia. The slogan that the Ethiopian tourist industry promotes is:”thirteen months of sunshine”.  John himself was like that thirteenth month of sunshine – bringing with him an extra bonus of friendliness, congeniality and bonhomie. 
Three other photos I found of John are from a field trip to the Gurage area of Ethiopia’s Southern Nations Region with a high level visitor from USAID/Washington, D.C. These photos reminded me that he was an enthusiastic, life-long teacher and learner. John was always eager to hear new things, quick to grasp new ideas, yet reverent of tradition, and fascinated by history. He was thoughtful and purposeful about learning and teaching - passionate to advocate for change when needed.  Thinking about John and his tireless efforts to help Ethiopians forge better lives for themselves and their children, reminds me of the George Bernard Shaw quotation: “You see things; and you say “Why?” But I dream things that never were; and I say “Why not?” “
In these photos you can see him teaching and learning - Learning from the women how they were changing their lives and their children’ lives by participating in the Productive Safety Net Program and the complimentary Market-led Livelihoods for Vulnerable People – raising goats or silk worms or peppers or carrots. Learning from farmers and project personnel how a rope and washer lifting device was being used for irrigation of a profitable vegetable plot.  As usual, he was listening to what was working well – what didn’t work for them, gaining insights on basic program operations, policy issues or simple logistic problems that he would invariably try to improve. 
And then, after a long day of showing the visitor around project sites and farmsteads and explaining food security, resilience, technicalities of silk worm production as cottage industry, the economics of goat production, he wanted to also expose the visitor to more of Ethiopia’s fascinating culture. So in spite of impending rain we stopped at the Tiya Monolith site and John regaled us all with stories of the Tiya stones and the markings, the theories of who might have made these monoliths and their significance in the history of Ethiopia. 
To me it seemed inevitable - whenever you interacted with John – you were going to learn something and he was going to be interested in anything he could learn from you on any topic.  
With love, Suzanne

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Pat and I had a chance meeting with the Brewin-Graham family in 2015 or 2016 while travelling in Ethiopia. We reconnected after losing touch since the early 1990s while in Ottawa. The dinner we shared in Addis and time spent in Toronto upon their return, are wonderful memories of John and Gillian who have made and continue to make a difference. We send our love, Lynn & Pat
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I only knew him a short time, and a number of years ago - but I can still feel the warmth of his smile and his humour.
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I think of John every time I do my "to do" list. When working with him at OXFAM he started each work day making a list of things he intended to accomplish that day -- a practice I learned from him. He accomplished so much in his shortened life. We need more John Grahams in this world.
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May 27, 2018 - A Gathering for John Summarized by Jacqui Jensen Roy

May 29, 2018

Dear Graham Family,

It is a spectacular day in Toronto without too much humidity: a wonderful day for the quickly arranged memorial for John for those in the area.  Toronto has a ravine system which is gorgeous to walk through, and John and Gillian did exactly that in their time since moving here in the Fall. This made the path outside the Brickworks Park a perfect place to gather in the shade of the trees. It is a short walk from our own house.

The Brewin clan is large, and all are extremely fond of John, of course. Their hearts, like ours, are broken, and there was an immediate urge to hold a gathering to honour him and tell some stories.  I so wish you could have been there. I really look forward to our own family gathering. 

Susan had written a wonderful eulogy to John and I was honoured to read it (my first crack at public speaking). It garnered some wonderful laughs and insight into John as a kid, and of course tears. Thank you so much to Susan for helping me to represent our own clan.

Others told wonderful stories about John. This is one of the best parts of a memorial - you learn so much more  more about the person. Poetry was read. Both Danielle and Iain spoke. Iain thoughtfully mentioned our side of the family as an large and important part of the picture, but not able to be there today.

It was lovely.  It was casual.  It was full of humour and it was painfully sad too. I love you all and I so look forward to the larger gathering to follow. 

Jacqui

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May 24, 2019

I've known John and Gillian since university days (which was a few years ago).  I was at the wedding and John and I used to share an office at grad school (though he was hardly ever there given the need to end apartheid and respond to the 83/85 Ethiopian famine which he spent much of his life working to make sure was never repeated).  It's hard to imagine he's gone even after a year.  Our lives took us apart but we always seemed to find time to reconnect in Canada or Ethiopia and once, as I recall, in Barcelona.  Each time it felt like we saw each other all the time.  Some friendships, when you're really lucky, work that way.  I hold my relationship with John and Gillian as one of the most important I've had and while John leaves a big hole Gillian remains to carry on that friendship and we can hardly wait to see her this summer.

So long John.  Thinking of you big time today.  

See you soon Gillian.

I named myself after you for your greatness.

June 14, 2018

How are you doing Dear  dad ?   i am doing good. i missed you and i have a lot to talk about you to the world and i and many like i were are still need your help. why are you in hurry ?? i told you that i have got a little beautiful baby she is a girl  i tell her about you all the time   she starts to know you.  i told how we met and how you were care for me and how good you were but i didnt tell her yet that you passed away and i wont she will know you as you were her grandfather. last week i went to save the children and i cried and cried and cried but you were not listening  to me and some people help me to meet the rest of the family. i missed you JOHN. i wish and wish to be there and put your body to the ground. 

i will see the land you are anytime in life.

you called me yimer i named myself after you for your greatness.

john melaku

How to Avoid Freaking Out - John Brewin

May 30, 2018

In a close election like this one, the polls can cause considerable emotional angst, especially in the week before Election Day. Here’s your guide to avoid freaking out, apart from shutting all of this out completely and avoiding the polls altogether.

Let's start with a summary as of 6 p.m., Tuesday, May 29, 2018. It’s a virtual tie between the NDP and the PCs with the Liberals still in distant third place and continuing to decline in voter support. Because of how the vote is distributed in the 124 ridings, the PCs have an edge in the hunt for the crucial number of seats needed for a majority -- 63.

To determine how things will work out in the final eight days, the poll zealots are looking for evidence as to the impact of the leaders debate on Sunday. The first returns came in this afternoon from Innovative Research. It showed that since they reported their numbers last week the NDP is up by five percentage points to 36%. The Liberals are down four points to 22% and the PCs are down two points to 34%. How much of this is due to the debate is unclear though much of the polling was done after the debate. Mainstreet Research’s Daily Tracking Poll suggests the NDP has gained most in the post-debate period with the PCs losing most. In any event Rule No. 1 applies here: don’t rely on a single poll to draw any conclusions. And who knows, the NDP might have gained more if the debate hadn’t happened.

In the larger picture, seven of the last 10 polls, mostly done before the debate, have the NDP ahead generally by a point or two. One is an exact tie and two have the PCs up slightly. There’s a couple of other straws in the wind so tentatively it’s looking reasonably good for the NDP with a week to go. Not so good for the Liberals – terrible for them in fact. And it’s a time of high anxiety for the PCs whose lead has melted away and is continuing to head in a southerly direction with all hands bailing as hard as they can.

The NDP total vote averages around 37%. It has to get over 40% and build a lead of four or five percentage points over the PCs to be sure of stopping Ford and of forming a Horwath government.

So, I'd like to offer some tips for surviving this final week.

1.  Again, do not believe one stand-alone poll. A poll that suddenly proclaims a big lead for one party or another may be completely wrong or be a harbinger of polls to come. Wait and see what the other polls report.

2.  Refuse to put any stock in slight variations especially one or two or even three percent swings that change the lead from one party to another. Small swings are likely to be polling noise, the natural imprecision of polls. Actual election results are by definition accurate. Polls are not. Polls published showing results to a decimal point are just proclaiming a precision that can’t exist. When you find a poll with decimal points, round up or down depending on whether it’s your party or theirs. You will feel better. Just don’t bet on decimal points.

3.  Two main problems lead to the fuzziness of polls. Pollsters have to guess who will vote. Demographic groups differ sharply. Pollsters place their respondents into groups. They then try to create a duplicate world of who will vote, the same percentage of women, young people, minorities, etc. as will be in the final voting population. Voters cross them up by turning out in unpredictable numbers. Secondly people often guess when they are asked how they vote. Engage a voter for more than 30 seconds and many will contradict themselves. It’s because they are often cross-pressured and unsure. That’s one reason the same company can poll on the same night and get different results. They could even poll the same people and get different results. We’re dealing with human beings here, many of whom have lost their traditional moorings when it comes to voting. That’s why the NDP can come out of the blue and challenge for government.

4.  In a close election the “margin of error” or the fundamental imprecision of polling can make all the difference on the big question, who forms government and will it have a majority.

5.  Some experts say there is a “shy voter” effect which causes some of those polled to hide their true choice because they are embarrassed. Or perhaps voters will have an underlying caution that in the end on the way to vote will lead the voter to reject the riskier choice. Usually these attitudes aren’t picked up in polling and underestimate the votes going to conservative parties.

The PCs have stumbled badly during the campaign. Doug Ford’s party was in the mid-40% range in March and early April, immediately after the PC leadership election. That would have given Ford a solid majority. Now they are in the mid thirties. That might still give them a majority but it is a very near thing at best. As I have noted in earlier posts, with anything less than a majority for the PCs the politics of the situation will almost certainly leave them in the opposition. The remnants of the Liberals and the one possible Green MPP would not likely support a Ford government. They will either work out a formal agreement with the NDP allowing Andrea Horwath to form a minority government or enter a two or even three party coalition.

Assuming the Liberals, the Greens and the others don’t move much or slide further, the action in the remaining eight days is between the NDP and the PCs. The final numbers coming out of the ballot box the evening of June 7 will be determined by these six factors:

1.  Momentum. The big Mo has been with the NDP. Does it continue, slow down, stop or reverse itself? History is no guide. All four possibilities have occurred in the last week of election campaigns that I have followed.

2.  The underlying poll numbers offer hope for both sides. The NDP has substantial second place votes particularly among Liberals, who told Mainstreet Research recently that a third of them were either likely or somewhat likely to change their vote by Election Day. Most of those would change to the NDP. The NDP still gets high marks on a range of factors that may be vote determinative. Ford has a high level of solid support, though still some room to slip even more. He has a much more efficient vote i.e. his total provincial vote is better distributed to win seats. As noted he could tie the NDP in votes, or even lose by a few percentage points, and still win a majority. Shades of Trump and the U.S. Electoral College.

3.  Turnout. Conventional wisdom, backed by past experience, has it that older voters who in this election favour Ford, are more likely to vote than younger voters who strongly favour the NDP. In a couple of recent elections younger voters have flocked to the polls. In part that may have been a function of sophisticated turn-out-the-vote campaigns. There’s not much evidence of intense GOTV campaigns in this Ontario election.

4.  The likelihood of a Liberal incumbency effect. One theory is that in seats held by the Liberals and where the incumbent is seeking reelection they will be able to pitch to anti-Ford voters to vote strategically for them no matter how badly the Liberals are polling across the province. That will enable them to outperform the general voting numbers unearthed by the polls. If it does, will that depress PC or NDP projected seat totals?

5. The instinct of voters to return to the comfort of their traditional electoral habitat.

6.  If some voters flirt with change during a campaign and then opt for a more cautious vote in the end, which party is the more cautious vote? Counter to conventional wisdom it may not be the Conservatives, led by Doug Ford. Kathleen Wynne or Andrea Horwath may have a better shot at that type of voter, to the extent they exist in this “change” election.

For my part, I am interested in hearing what Polly has to tell us in this final week. Polly lives in the artificial intelligence world programmed by Advanced Symbolics, an Ottawa AI firm. The firm’s CEO Erin Kelly has been on Steve Paikin’s TVO show telling viewers about Polly’s conclusions to date. Polly apparently analyses social media and has a great track record in calling elections including the last federal election in Canada, Brexit and the Trump election, none of which were well-called by the traditional pollsters.

Polly says that this election is too close to call at this point. She reinforces the polling conclusion that the Liberals are in deep trouble. Her handlers promise that she will tell us before election day who will emerge as the next Premier of Ontario. She adds that Doug Ford lost potentially decisive ground in the final debate especially with his failure to offer a costed program.

It's too soon to start cheering, but all the signs suggest we should keep calm and carry on to June 7th.

Postscript: When I asked John Graham, my son-in-law of 35 years, what he wanted to talk about during what turned out to be our last conversation, he looked at me intently from his bed at Princess Margaret Hospital and replied without hesitation: "The polls." He died after a shockingly short struggle with pancreatic cancer on Friday, May 25th. He was a remarkable guy, really exceptional. John and my daughter Gill lived and worked in Namibia and Ethiopia for over 25 years where they raised my grandchildren, Danielle and Iain. He was the Country Director for Save the Children International in Ethiopia until last June when they embarked on a new stage in their long careers in international development and humanitarian assistance. But that was before he was diagnosed with cancer. You can read all about him (and consider making a donation to the causes he served over his lifetime) here. I loved him very much and miss him already. I will really feel his absence when the returns start coming in on Election Night. But John was an expert in resilience and I owe it to him and his memory to "carry on". This post is dedicated to him.

Originally written on John Brewin On Politics

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