Family life
On the 19th of April 1976, he married Rose Chinwe Mbanefo (nee Bellu) at St Dominic’s Catholic Church, Yaba, Lagos. The marriage was blessed with two children, John Chukwunnaemeka and Magdalene Ifeanyi. Fortunately, he witnessed the birth of his first grandchild and relished playing the role of granddad to Chimamanda. He conducted her naming ceremony and was present at her baptism, dedication mass and her very first birthday anniversary.
He loved his family immensely and took great pride in their achievements. He beamed proudly and expressed his joy when he first saw his first son Lt Col John Mbanefo in uniform with the enviable rank of lieutenant colonel following his promotion late in 2014. He was the sort of father who was a confidant, career advisor, intercessor and above all, a wonderful friend.
Our husband and father was one of a kind –a colossus who was larger than life. His handsome, imposing stature and the way he carried himself was striking. Even in illness, he was stoic and dignified. He loved to read, travel and dance. He was also an accomplished cook. An avid lover of music, he was particularly enamored of classical, gospel and pop genres. Although he was without doubt a workaholic, it was not unusual for him to spend time mediating with his favourite piece of classical music, Bach’s Jesu Joy of Man’s Desiring playing in the background.
Dad was kind, often generous to a fault and was quick to help people in need. The sheer testimony from people in life and now in death overwhelmingly point to the fact that he spent his time on earth doing what was most important – impacting on people in a positive way.
In his illness, he fought courageously and maintained a very positive attitude. He never lost his sense of humour and he refused to admit defeat. However, on the morning of the 9th of February 2015 in a German hospital, he shocked us all when he very peacefully left this world in his sleep with his daughter, Ifeanyi at his side.