ForeverMissed
In memory of our beloved son, brother of Leenu and Kaalep, godson, nephew, cousin, and friend, leader, mentor Joosep Juhkam.

CELEBRATNG THE LIFE OF
JOOSEP JUHKAM
22 MARCH 2000 - 13 MAY 2021

Memorial Service
Tuesday May 25, 2021 at 11.30
Mission Memorial Park

1915 Ord Grove Ave
Seaside, CA 93955 USA
+1 831-394-1481

Born a millennial baby on a cold but sunny winter snow-covered day in Estonia and then…..

  • A New Yorker and survivor of 9/11
  • Thailand elementary school, sailing, swimming, boats and beaches 
  • Bangladesh middle school and rickshaw races, tiger searching, python hugger, coral reefs in Dhaka
  • USA high school, friends, football, skiing, camping, biking, boats yards in Rye Neck, New York
  • California Love - the ocean, the air, marine science, boat yard work in Monterey Bay, his close close friends and roommates
How do we remember Joosep?

Joosep IS diversity... a multi-country citizen with roots equally strong in multiple places, Estonia, Canada, USA--and living and studying in three different continents. A natural leader who shows empathy for others and is hard-working when it comes to doing anything. Joosep has always shown kindness and care to others...always willing to help, responsible, generous. Always good for a laugh….fun and funny, a bit of a prankster. Always relaxed, chill and easy going.

Joosep’s love of the ocean and beautiful sea life was genuine. Studying marine science, being a professional deep sea diver and boat driver and hoping to save the corals was his dream.


Did you know this about Joosep?

  • As a baby had a family nickname of ‘konn’ (Estonian for ‘frog’), and ‘banaani mees’ (Estonian for ‘banana man’, for his love of bananas)
  • Could play the drums, bass guitar, baritone horn, piano and recorder flute.
  • A drummer, guitarist and singer in a rock band from age 11-13 while living in Bangladesh; sang at the boys honor choir with performances in Bali and Hong Kong…. And also suffered Dengue fever not once but twice
  • A sailor and not afraid to manage his own boat, sometimes in rough waters in Thailand.
  • Chosen to be one of two team captains of the Rye Neck football team in his senior year, after having played only one year of football ever, during his junior year.
  • Lighting manager,  then stage manager in Rye Neck High School theatre productions
  • Declared ‘MOST HUGGABLE’ and with the ‘BEST LAUGH’ in his high school yearbook.
  • A brother of the Kappa Sigma Fraternity at Cal State Monterey
  • An excellent cook and provider of nourishment by the best of hugs
You always lived in the moment and enjoyed life in full.

You are in us, you are part of us, you are in our hearts forever Joosu...

 Head ja toredat seilamist ükskõik kus sa ka ei viibiks, me oleme sinuga, kallis Joose...




Posted by Vanessa Garcia on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and Tiia,

I met Joosep at CSUMB and he was among one of the most sweet genuine people I have known. I even got the chance to work with him for a few months and I am so grateful for that. "Most huggable" is a perfect description of who he was. Always so kind and willing to help, everyone around him loved him.

I send my deepest condolences to all his family and friends. He will be missed dearly.

Vanessa Garcia
Posted by Ajla Grozdanic on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert,

I am so sorry to hear about your devastating loss. Words cannot describe what you and your family must be going through. Please accept my deepest condolences and know that we are all thinking of you.

Warm wishes,
Ajla
Posted by UNV Sri Lanka on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,

We are deeply saddened and shocked to hear about the demise of your beloved son, Joosep. Though no one can know the longing you must feel, our heart goes out to you and your family.

We all stand strong behind you through this difficult time. May your sadness pass, with memories and good wishes carrying you to a place of comfort and peace.

We, the UNV Team in Sri Lanka, express our sincere condolences to you and your family.

With deepest and heartfelt sympathy,
UN Volunteers Team, Sri Lanka
Posted by Vijaya Singh on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert,
I'm very much saddened by sudden and tragic loss of your beloved son. My deep condolences to you and family and wish the departed soul rests in eternal peace.
Posted by Mariana Gonzalez on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,

I am so sorry for your loss. No amount of words can express the pain that you are going through. I am sending you love and hope you are able to find strength during this time.

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
Posted by WFP Staff on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and Tiia,

We were terribly saddened to hear of the untimely death of your son, Joosep. We hope that you find comfort in the memories of the love and joy your son brought to you and those around you.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family during this extremely difficult time. May his soul rest in peace.

“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day.
Unseen, unheard, but always near. Still loved, still missed and very dear.”

From Siddiqui and the staff at WFP.
Posted by Avindi Perera on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert,

My heart goes out to you and your family at this difficult time.

Reading through the kind words that have been shared about Joosep, it's clear that you and Tiia have raised an amazing son. I am so sorry that he was taken away too soon.

While we all wish this wasn't real, please know that you are in our thoughts everyday. May you cherish the memories and find the strength, peace and resilience to get through this together.

Avindi
Posted by Prabagini Robinson on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and Family,

My deepest condolences on the loss of your loving son. May your beautiful memories sustain and bring comfort to you and your family members during this difficult.
May his kind soul rest in peace.
My sincere prayer with you and your family members. Stay strong.
We are all with you Robert.

Prabagini Robinson from Sri Lanka
Posted by Nishantha Jayarathna on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,

My deepest sympathies to you all.

Kind regards,
Nishantha
Posted by Deshani Senanayake on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert,

I found myself at a loss for words when I heard the news of the sudden and devastating loss of your son. I did not know Joosep but from all the notes that have been shared on this website, he sounds like a beautiful soul who made an impact and touched many lives during his full life.

I know there is not much that anyone can say to ease your pain at this point, but I want to let you know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I hope you and your family find the courage and strength you need to get through this difficult time.

Warmest regards,
Deshani
Posted by Masatomo Nao Yamaguchi on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and family,

I am saddened by the news on your beloved son. My sincere condolences to you and your family. My thoughts are with you in these difficult times. May his soul rest in Peace.

Masatomo
Posted by Kenosha Kumaresan on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and Family,

Been staring at this screen for a few days now trying to find the right words to say to you. I know that nothing anyone says at this point will bring you comfort but please know that you and your family will continue to be in my prayers during this difficult time.

Keno
Posted by Partheepan Kulasegaram on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and Family,

While the loss of a loved one is never easy, even when anticipated, it is most certainly the hardest when they are taken from us too soon. Your recent loss of your son who has left us at such a youthful age is definitely in the category of those hard losses for which there is so painful a reminder of what might have been.
My most sincere condolences to you and your family! May the outpouring of sympathy, the kind acts of friends and strangers, and the comfort in knowing that your loss is felt by many, help you through this difficult time.
I ask for God's blessings on you and your wonderful family. May you find the courage and strength to move forward in peace and confidence and in knowing that he was a life well-lived.
Yours In Peace,

Partheepan
Posted by Sampath Ranasinghe on May 18, 2021
There are no words for such an unimaginable loss. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. My heart goes out to you all at this time of grief. May his soul rest in peace.
Sampath
Posted by Sesheeni Joud Selvaratnam on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,
My deepest sympathies to you all.
Kind regards,
Sesheeni
Posted by Suveendran Thirupathy on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert,
It's terrible to hear about your loss.
I express my sincere sympathy to you and your family and prayers for his soul to rest-in-peace.
Posted by Sunita Giri on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia, Neelu,
My heartfelt condolences. I know no words can comfort you during such a moment. Please take strength from the memories of Joseph and the life he led. He will continue to live in you. Please be strong. He would want to see you all strong too.
Lots of love and orayers
Sunita Giri
Posted by Dilan M on May 18, 2021
Hi Robert

So sorry to hear your about your son
I'm still shocked to hear it when chandaka mentioned it me..
Stay story buddy.
Cheers
Dilan
Posted by Vijayakumar Navaneethan on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert,
I am so sorry to learn about terrible news on the loss of your beloved son. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. Please know that we are praying for your peace and comfort during this difficult time.
Nava
Posted by pamela fields on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,

So sorry for your loss. There are no words to express the sadness we feel for all of you. Sending you Love. Xoxo
Posted by Sabrina Angulo on May 17, 2021
Joosep was a sweet soul who brought light into every room he walked in. His smile was contagious as well as his laughter. He cared for his friends with a passion like no other and genuinely knew how to treat people. He was so kind and so trusting but more importantly he was a great friend. He will be dearly missed but never forgotten. My deepest and most sincere condolences to the Juhkam family.

With much love,
Sabrina
Posted by Aidan Heaton on May 17, 2021
Dear Mr and Mrs Juhkam,
Joosep was truly a kind and loving person. I will always cherish the great memories and friendship we had after meeting him in high school. I send my deepest condolences and love to you at this tough time. May he Rest In Peace.
Aidan
Posted by Linda Tait on May 17, 2021
Robert, Tiia, Leenu and Kaalep,
There are no words to express the sadness we feel for all of you. Hearts are broken. We send soooooo many virtual hugs and you all are in our thoughts. We love each and everyone of you.
Posted by Albana Zhorda on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and family.
I am so shocked and saddened to hear of the passing of your son. No amount of words can express and ease the pain that you are going through.
Although I didn't know Joosep, I remember how proudly you always spoke about him and how incredible your relationship was with him.
Sending you prayers for strength as you find your way through each day.
Albana
Posted by Sergio Feld on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia, Leenu and Kaalep,
May Joseep's memory be always a blessing to you, his entire family and all the friends he made in twenty one beautiful years. 
With you in this time of sorrow,
Sergio
Posted by Ulrika Modeer on May 17, 2021
Dear, dear Robert and family

Our thoughts and our love are with you all at this time of unimaginable loss
I remember you speaking of Joosep who was following his passions at university, continuing the fascinating journey of a true and passionate world citizen, and I am so saddened.

No words are adequate for this devastation but we are here for you if you should need anything at all.

Much love,
Ulrika

Posted by Becky Hepworth on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,
Sending our deepest condolences to you all during this incredibly painful time. I remember meeting Joosep for the first time at your home in Mamaroneck and remember how incredibly kind he was to our boys. You are all in our thoughts and prayers, Becky & Ed xxx
Posted by Nadia Goodman on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia, Leenu and Kaalep, We are devastated on hearing the news of Joosep's passing. So very sorry for you all. We remember Joosep well from our time in Dhaka. Our deepest condolences. Sending all our love and you'll all stay in our thoughts. Ric, Nadia, Caio y Freya.
Posted by Xuesong Xie on May 18, 2021
Dear Robert and family,

Sharing a song written by Eric Clapton, for his son. Hope it would soothe you, even if for a small moment.

“Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same
If I saw you in heaven?

I must be strong
And carry on
'Cause I know I don't belong
Here in heaven

Would you hold my hand
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven?

I'll find my way
Through night and day
'Cause I know I just can't stay
Here in heaven

Time can bring you down
Time can bend your knees
Time can break your heart
Have you begging please, begging please

Beyond the door
There's peace I'm sure
And I know there'll be no more
Tears in heaven”
Posted by Kelly Cappa on May 17, 2021
Joosep was the kind of student I love teaching. He had a curious mind who not only enjoyed learning, but he was able to make serious tasks playful and somehow productive. His enthusiasm was contagious! I am honored that I got to know him. 

I am heartbroken for your family and cannot imagine how you all are doing. You have my deepest sympathies and prayers. 

Warmly,
Kelly Cappa (Chemistry RNHS)
Posted by Young Hong on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and family
I am literally shocked and sadden by this tragic news. I still remember meeting him way back in Bangladesh. I know that there isn’t anything I could say to take away the pain. But please know that I send you love and heartfelt prayer that you may find the strength you need to get through each day. With a big hug, Young
Posted by alessandra bassi on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert,

no words can help when the unimaginable happens to those we love the most. Thank you for sharing this beautiful memorial of your son, we are all with you in our thoughts, thousands of people virtually joining hands around your family to give you strength.

My deepest condolences, Alessandra
Posted by Kendra Gomez on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and family,

My prayers and thoughts are with you all during this difficult time. As the saying goes, “you can’t have a rainbow, without the rain,” I pray that you all receive comfort and strength knowing Joosep is ‘somewhere over the rainbow, way up high’, as reminded by the beautiful song in the background.

May his soul Rest In Peace.

God bless you all
Kendra
Posted by Buddika Hapuarachch on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and family,

Hearing about your loss has deeply saddened me, but I know that this is far from what you are going through right now. You are in my thoughts and prayers. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family.

Buddika
Posted by Shamir Zavahir on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in your time of grief. May the care and love of those around you provide comfort and peace to get you through the days ahead.
Shamir
Posted by Oleg Yershov on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert,

I am so sorry about your terrible loss! Please accept my sincere condolences! Let your son’s soul find peace in Heaven! I can only imagine how you are feeling… and can’t find the words to express my sympathy to you and your family!

Please let me know if there is something I can do for you from New York. My prayers and thoughts are with you! Please take care of yourself and your loved ones!

Kind regards,

Oleg
Posted by Rosh Sheraz on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and family

Deeply saddened to hear the loss of your beloved son,
May Joosep find a special place in heaven above and the Lord be with you and your family during this difficult moment.


From Roshan and family.
Posted by M.U.M Ali Sabry on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert,

I am so saddened to hear of the passing of your son. Please accept my sincere condolences at this difficult time. May God rest his soul in peace and strengthen you and your family to keep his memory alive.

M.U.M. Ali Sabry, PC
Posted by Shashika Iroshini on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and Family,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved son. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family.

We are praying for your peace and comfort during this difficult time. May God give him eternal rest..!!

Shashika
Posted by Himaya Fernando on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert & family,

Please accept my deepest condolences.
May you be blessed with courage and healing during these difficult times.

My thoughts & prayers are with you all,
Himaya
Posted by Ants Rehe on May 17, 2021
Kallid Robert, Tiia, Leenu ja Kaalep

Raske on öelda, kirjutada, mõte tõrgub uskumast...
Meeletult kurb on...

Sügav kaastunne.

Joosepiga seoses meenub kohe ujumine nii Tais, Pärnus kui Keelitsel - see talle meeldis.


"Maailma Lõpus On Kohvik, Kus Kunagi Kohtume Kõik"
(Tõnu Trubetsky)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LL5SbZ41gv0

Ants perega
Posted by Myanthi Peiris on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert and family,

I was so deeply saddened to hear about the sudden loss of your son. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. May all of you find the strength and courage to get through these difficult times.

All of you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Myanthi
Posted by Shoko Noda on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert,

I am completely shocked by the tragic news of your son. I cannot really find any word to say. I remember you were very much looking forward to the summer holidays with your family. My deepest condolences to you and your family. My thoughts are with you in these difficult times. I wish you love, strength, and courage. 

Shoko
Posted by Barbara Borton on May 17, 2021
Dear Juhkam family,
When Ben told me about the tragic loss of his best friend, we both fell apart! Joosep was one if the kindest human beings I have met! He was not only a leader on the football field but a friend for all! He will be so missed my words cannot convey our sadness!
Posted by Nertila Caushi on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia and family,

Please accept my heartfelt condolences to you and your family! I can not imagine the depth of grief you are going through. May Joosep rest in peace and may you and family have strength to overcome the difficult times. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Nertila 
Posted by Matthias Priesner on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert, Tiia, Leenu, and Kaalep
Just got this terrible news from my parents. I remember playing music with him in that band, he was a far better drummer than I a keyboardist, we had some wonderful times playing football during our breaks, and he was a great friend I could always count on back in AISD. He will be missed greatly by all that knew him.
Matthias
Posted by Muni Ahlawat on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert , Tiia and family ,

there are no words and I'm sorry for the pain and grieving and loss and rage that you may have to go through. I hope this tragedy and loss is intertwined with an abiding love and remembrance for what Joosep has brought into the world and that the ripples of his time vibrate positively onwards to all the people that had the privilege of being in his orbit.

Muni

Posted by Sathiees Thambiraja on May 17, 2021
Dear uncle Robert and aunty
We are very sorry for your lost.my thoughts are with you and I will pray for you.

Thuvakar
(Student of Chandaka)
Posted by Munir Shaikh on May 17, 2021
Dear Robert,
We are so sad knowing the sudden unbearable loss of Joosep. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Much prayers for him. May the departed soul rest in peace. We will miss him, and may he rest in peace.
Posted by Angel Taylor on May 17, 2021
Dear Tiia and family,
I woke up with a message at 4a.m. from Austin about his buddy Joosep. My heart just stopped. I was and am still in shock from the news. They were best buddies at American International School Dhaka. I still see Joosep as a polite, young middle schooler who always had a huge smile. The boys were inseparable in and out of school. They liked to ride their bikes and skateboards together. They rode rickshaws, played video games, went to dances, and were adventurous. The had suits made at nearby tailor. They were middle schoolers. They laughed and had fun. 
I am grateful for Joosep because he was a kind and special friend when Austin needed one. They had each others backs. The boys reunited last summer in Monterey, CA and I am sure they reminisced about their adventures in Bangladesh together. Austin's words this morning were, "Mom he was so amazing." Jeff and I are thinking of you all during this very difficult and challenging time.
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Posted by Edward Rees on June 2, 2021
Dear Robert and the entire Juhkam Family.

There are no words to properly express my condolences properly. I wish you all well in a very difficult time. What a life well lived. I am sad I never met him. 

Edward
Posted by Jorge Tito on June 1, 2021
We are all very sorry for Joosep tragic situation.
As he was a surfer, and a sea lover, we brought this sand artwork to share our love with him and all family.
Tito’s
Posted by Muradh Mohideen on May 30, 2021
Dear Robert,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Cannot imagine what a difficult time this is for you and your family. Sending you thoughts and prayers.

Muradh
Recent stories

Spikeball

Shared by Ryan Stanley on May 24, 2021
Another competitive nature story is the beginning of playing a game called spikeball. Spikeball is a game with a net held above ground by post, and played with a small rubber ball. The objective of this game is to work as a team, set the ball up well, and confuse the other team. For our first game ever we were on opposing sides, and Joosep enjoyed to slam the ball on the net sending it flying in random directions, this in turn made me have to run a long ways to track down. When you make a succesful track down, you rely on your teammate to get it, but my teammate Calvin couldn't get the job done. He kept slamming the ball and making me run in all directions trying to track it down. Eventually we lost the game and he gave me a little smirk which I took to heart, and challenged him to a 1 vs 1 determined to wipe that smirk off his face. Through this game he continued the same strategy even putting in some fake slams and confusing me. This game got very intense and there was probably sand in every part of my clothing, since you play at the beach. I won once and he got me a couple times, but when we played again we just decided to play on the same team to reduce my heartache, and keep me from running all over the place. He was better as a teammate that an opponent, and that's how I saw him in life as my teammate. Rest easy buddy I'm gonna miss getting heated about losing against you or with you, that competitive nature will never burn dry because of our great times. 

Video Game Nights

Shared by Ryan Stanley on May 24, 2021
Quite frequently during this last year Joosep would come over to my apartment to play video games. At my apartment I had a 55 inch TV, which was perfect to get entangled in video games on our many late nights. He would come over around 6:00 p.m., and we would be stuck playing video games until about 12:00 p.m. until I had to call it quits for class tomorrow. Our favorite game to play was called rocket league. Me and Joosep are very competitive people, just in nature, and this game was basically soccer but with cars and the objective was to score goals just like in regular soccer. We would play this game mode that was 2 vs 2 and me and him would be on a team together. We started out in a very low player level, and you have to work your way up through different rankings of random opponents, and often it gets harder. We starting to think we were pretty good at the game until we had a halt at Gold Division, and couldn't advance. Being in Gold Division was good but not great, and we only wanted greatness in this video game. This struggle of trying to advance to the next division continued for 7 months, and as you could imagine we were quite irritated with our playing. If I made a bad play or let a goal go in, he would rip into me, and if he made a bad play i would "joke" about how bad he was. This video game became less of a game and more of a definition of how we weren't gonna settle for just being Gold Division. Through struggle and adversity, the competitive nature of us took over, and we made it to the next division. Riding high off this accomplishment we played another game and got destroyed and sent back down a division. We both tasted greatness but it wasn't something we were ever able to reach again, and this made us dislike the game, as competitive men we just called the game rigged and stopped playing. This was how we both were striving to be better, and he was my favorite person to sit down with and struggle through either homework, or even a dumb video game. I'm gonna miss these times, and miss having that competitive nature with my best friend.
Shared by Calvin Dye Wisner on May 24, 2021
I think my favorite Joosep story was the first time we went to Pffeifer. This was at the start of quarantine and we were the only two people left in the apartment. So, we decided to go on an adventure to a beach that neither of us had been to before. The car ride down was filled with laughs and good music. When we arrived the beach was completely empty. It was beautiful. I surfed for a little bit while he stood watch. I remember just getting slammed, the waves were pretty big. I took comfort tho knowing that my best friend was watching. I still take comfort in that and still feel him watching whenever I paddle out. After the session we explored the woods, wadded through tide pools, and climbed rocks. It was such a magical day and I’m so happy to have shared that with him. Whenever I start to spin out about this whole situation I think about that day and the many amazing things we did together. I’m glad I have those memories to hold on to