Mom in Red
Joyce Mae Van Wickler
  • 80 years old
  • Date of birth: Apr 11, 1933
  • Date of passing: Feb 22, 2014
Let the memory of Joyce be with us forever

Ocala, Florida- Joyce Mae Eder Van Wickler (Joy) a “Golden Girl” from Ocala Florida, formally a long time resident of the hamlet of South Plymouth, New York, passed away Saturday, February, 22, 2014,  age of 80.

Joy, the daughter of the late Matthew and Caroline Eder, She had one sibling James (Jim) Eder. Joy attended and graduated from Jamaica High School. She was predeceased by her husband, Freeman Van Wickler. Joy enjoyed learning and valued education. She received her undergraduate degree in Early Childhood from SUNY of New Paltz, a Master Degree in Education from Columbia University and a second Master Degree in Special Education from SUNY Binghamton.

Joy was a long time resident of New York City, Upstate New York and then Ocala, FL, where she lived since retiring from over 40 years as a special education teacher. Joy always wanted to be an educator since a young age and this became her lifelong quest. She will be remembered by many for her gentleness, genuine love and affection she brought to the classroom every day.  Joy is fondly remembered as “Mrs. Van” by many former students who were inspired by her high standards and kindness. Her passion for teaching did not end with retirement and continued with tutoring program at her local church.

A world traveler, Joy enjoyed learning and participating in different cultures and countries. Joy loved to spend time with family and friends going out to dinner, movies, the arts, and going to theater.  She loved to keep her home neat and tidy with a keen eye for decorating. She enjoyed cooking and entertaining her guests on her cherished Pfaltzgraff dishes.  Since moving to Florida, Joy joined many social clubs, such as gardening, book club, Red Hat Club, Renaissance Women and the Canine Club, where her loss will be felt greatly.  She supported many organizations from education, children’s causes as well as animals. She was a voracious reader and established a library at Ocala West United Methodist Church, dedicated to her brother, James Eder. The library is filled with books purchased or given through donations. A beloved mother, grandmother, teacher, and friend, Joy touched their lives in a positive way and her impact was far reaching.

She is survived by her son, Matthew and his wife, Christal, and granddaughter, Caroline (Van Wickler) Lynch and her husband, Daniel, grandson,  Nicholas Van Wickler ,all from Columbia, SC, and granddaughter Christina (CJ) Van Wickler of Greenville, SC, and an aunt, Lorre Coleman and husband, John of Bradenton, Fl, and nephew, James A. Eder of New York  and many cousins. She was predeceased by her brother James Eder, in 2010.

Her final days were spent in the excellent and genuine care from the Legacy House Hospice in Ocala, Florida.

The memorial service is will be 11:00 am on Saturday, March 8, 2014 at Ocala West United Methodist Church, 9330 SW 105th St, Ocala, FL. The burial will be at All Saints Cemetery, Great Neck, NY at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, the family has asked that a donation be made in Joy’s name to the following organizations; The Legacy House (Hospice of Marion County) PO Box 4860, Ocala, FL 34478, 352-291-5100, for their excellent care in her final days, Chenango SPCA 6160 County Rd 32, Norwich, NY 13815, or The James Eder Children’s Library at Ocala West United Methodist Church, 9330 SW 105th St, Ocala, FL. 34481 or ASPCA (800) 628-0028 or Humane Society (866) 720-2676 for her love of animals. Condolences and memories can be emailed to her family at or mailed to 113 Hunters Blind Dr. Columbia, SC 29212.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Matt VanWickler on 22nd February 2017

Its been 3 years and I still miss you everyday. Hope you know how much I love you."

This tribute was added by Nancy B Castner on 23rd February 2016

"Joy, hard to believe you have been gone for two years now..know you are truly missed by all. You were a very sweet person. I am so happy that we met over 25 yrs ago,"

This tribute was added by Matt VanWickler on 22nd February 2016

"It's been 2 years and I still think about you Mom.

I Love you, - Matt"

This tribute was added by Christal VanWickler on 22nd February 2015

"Cannot believe it has been a year since you left us. We have missed sharing with you this past year about such special moments that you would have loved to know about but hope that you are smiling down on us as we try to continue on with out you. You will forever be in our hearts and memories."

This tribute was added by Matt VanWickler on 22nd February 2015

"Its been a long and difficult year, but we are moving on. We miss you and wish you where her with us. I love and thank you for everything you did for me."

This tribute was added by margaret traver on 10th March 2014

"Dear  Matt, Christal,  Caroline, Christina  and Nicholus ,  We all will miss  Joy's presence in our lives.  Always a lady and doing the right thing.  We had so much fun together, dancing all night to HOT, HOT,HOT, one of the best nights we ever had. Filled with laughter fun and friedship.     My friend,mentor and travel companion.   I love you and will miss your sweet ladylike ways.   Marge"

This tribute was added by kelly baldwin on 1st March 2014

"Joy, we always look forward in getting together with you during the years...your sweetness & happiness always with you..God bless you & rest in peace."

This tribute was added by Maggie Kleinstuber on 1st March 2014

"Joy had so much love and energy as well as understanding for her students. She will always be a wonderful memory of our teaching days. Rest in peace, gentle lady."

This tribute was added by Molly Burke on 1st March 2014

"As you said to me that last day, I am so glad we had so many years together!!  You were a great neighbor, friend and travel companion.  I will miss you so much."

This tribute was added by Nancy B Castner on 1st March 2014

"Condolences Matt, Christal, Christina, Caroline, Daniel & Nicholas. Joy was a sweet lovely woman who will be missed by all that have known her. She was a wonderful addition to my family when Matt married by daughter. R.I.P. Joy. Love Always."

This tribute was added by Caroline Lynch on 28th February 2014

"My Grandma Joy was a wonderful, caring, funny and beautiful woman. Her absence will be felt in so many aspects of our lives. I am so happy to of had her in my life."

This tribute was added by Christal VanWickler on 28th February 2014

"Mom we will miss you very much. You were always so supportive to us and our children. You are gone but not forgotten. Love always"

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