This Tribute is from your loving daughter Holly.
I feel a hole in my life because I no longer have you. You who was there for me no matter what. Rescuing me from my father, the shoulder to cry on whenever I was hurt and no matter how old I was. The one who forgave my disrespectful and turbulent teenage years. The one who helped me make my wedding veil and plan my wedding and of course gave me away at my wedding.
You were there for me as I learned to be a wife. You helped me make a house a home, and helped Leo and I get our house built. You and me doing the electrical wiring!! You were there when I delivered my sons, Jacob and Zackery, and helped me learn how to be a mother. You told me the dust and mess will always be there but your children are only little for so long, and how true that was. I learned to live in kid chaos because of you!
Until I was an adult and more importantly a mother I never really understood the sacrifices that you made for your children and appreciated the fears and pain you must have had, like when you put me, John and Linda all on a plane and sent us to Florida for a month to be with our father, a man who had wronged you and you knew had a drinking problem.
You gave up personal love for your love of your children and you never once complained. You worked long hours to give us a great Christmas every year and wonderful birthdays and you continued that on by spoiling all of your grandchildren. Boy, did you make some serious wishes come true at Christmas for all 6 of them.
You were a bright and shining light who loved to have fun and dress up for every holiday. You would walk into public stores with Santa Hats on and the crazy big Leprechaun Hat! Holiday scarves, necklaces and earrings, along with crazy glasses. You still did all of that for this final year. You made others smile and brightened their days.
You touched people's lives just by noticing that they existed. You could talk to anyone about anything and you genuinely cared what they had to say.
You never forgot what it was like to struggle and you gave to others in need. Always helping with Adopt a family at Christmas, buying suitcases for foster children, and even in 2019 when you had me go to the store with you and fill your cart with food so we could go and donate it to the NT food pantry.
There are so many lives you impacted. Caring for Erin, De Lynn and Skip after the loss of their father. Helping the Healey family with their children. Helping care for David Doll because Mrs. Doll could not because of her MS. Quitting your job to care for John after his terrible motorcycle accident and for the next 20 some years thanking the fireman who helped save his life. You helped both your parents in their life and at the end of their lives: Driving Grandpa to treatments and you were the one who was with your mom when she passed. Helping to raise Mimi, Jack and Grace and giving Julie piece of mind while she was working. Caring for your niece Jackie when she was so ill. Helping your friend Cindy who struggled. I know I am missing people because there were so many. And of course the many people you cared for as a home care aid. The list would be long, but I remember their names!
Of course I have to mention your partner in crime here and that would be the unsinkable Molly Murphy! The two of you were peas in a pod, making people smile and laugh every where you went. Jacob still mentions how when he went to the movies with the two of you how every single person in the Regal theater knew both you and Molly by name! You and Molly and occasionally me on adventures; Olcott Beach, Fatima Shrine, the Sunflowers. You and her and the selfies. You gave her joy and she could just be herself with you. Remember her dancing across the front of the movie theater to the music in the previews? Wow did you and I get joy from that.
You cared and cared until you needed care. Even in this last year you fought to get better. You were robbed of some quality time by this horrible 2020 pandemic. But we still had our moments that we shared. Pedicures in the apartment. Drives in the sunshine. Decorating the apartment. You also still had the joy of seeing your Bills go to the AFC Championship game and you wore your Bills gear to cheer them on!!
While I know you no longer wanted to live the way you were with pain, so much medication and no real quality of life, and I know in my heart you are now at peace and hopefully with your Mom, Dad, Rosemary, Linda, Aunt Mary, Aunt Lou and many more angels, I still wish I had you for a little longer. Please look down on me and my family and continue to tell me, "don't worry Holly, everything will be okay, don't worry Holly I am fine, don't worry Holly, I love you."