ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Justina Onyemenam, 83 years old, born on December 31, 1938, and passed away on June 5, 2021. We will remember her forever.
Posted by John Onyemenam on December 31, 2021
My sweet mum, you would have been 84 years today! I miss your regular gist we usually have; rest on Mum, you will forever be in our hearts.
Posted by Kate Chikwendu on December 31, 2021
Mom, we want you to know that even if you are no longer with us, we still love you and miss your presence. I miss your gist about what is happening in asaba and We want you to be happy in heaven As we come to your resting place, it saddens us to think that you are no longer with us. We know that our lives will never be the same again without you. Yet, we know that you are happy wherever you are, and we will be together one day. Happy birthday in heaven, mom.
Posted by Christy Agboli on December 31, 2021
Dear Mommy,

I continue to remember you fondly. Your joy, your smile, and your warmth. On this day, you would have been enjoying your favorite pastime of taking pictures with your wine, cake and the family. I hope your are celebrating with Jesus, daddy and angels. We love and miss you much, but we remember your time with us with so much joy and thanksgiving.  Happy birthday mom.  Thank you for being the best mom you could be and leaving us a great inheritance.  Love you deeply, madly, and forever,

Christy
Posted by John Onyemenam on July 14, 2021
Mum, I am missing you already, my joy is that you did not bury any of your children, you went through a lot and still stayed strong. I know you are in a better place now, rest in the bosom of the lord.
Posted by Ifeanyi jideonwo on July 6, 2021
Aunty Justina.It is sad you had to go but God needed you most and you had to answer his call.We all will answer God’s call someday.We shall surely miss you and mostly that you were the Encyclopedia we all had in the OKOLO Family that knew basically everyone’s Birthday.You also had the correct details of the World News at all times.We thank God for your life.May your gentle Soul rest in perfect peace.Amen
Posted by Angela Oduma on June 27, 2021
A Tribute to Aunty Justina
Your name spells out your characteristics:
J for jovial: cheerful and friendly. That is what you were. Always cheerful, making friends. It was a great joy to be with you.
U for unassuming: you were down to earth, humble, modest. You had no airs about you.
S for Selfless: you were more concerned with the needs of others than with your own
T for talented: You had a natural skill of remembering things, a photographic memory. Your knowledge base was stupendous!! You were our "Google", ask Aunty Justina for family history, happenings/ events around the world, you got the info to the minutest detail.
I for incredible: Aunty Justina you were simply amazing.
N for nice: You were pleasant, agreeable and made everyone around you to feel at ease.
A for Affectionate: You readily showed fondness and tenderness to all whom you met.

My dear cousins please accept our heart felt sympathy on the passing of your dear mother.
We are privileged to have had Aunty Justina in our lives. We cannot find the words to appropriately describe what you mean to us.
We are grateful that you were very much involved in our lives and touched us immensely.
We give God all the glory for your life that you lived to the fullest.
We have a lost a gem. We will miss you.
We love you, but God loves you more.
Rest in the bosom of the Lord, until we meet to part no more.
All our love
Palata, Angela, Dayan, Chidi, Adaeze and Obi
Posted by Rosemary Monu on June 26, 2021
My Aunty Justina,

Aunty Justina, Nne Odogwu or JOY as she fondly signs her name, was the youngest sister of my late mom. I fondly recall her effervescent and joyous presence all through my growing years from childhood to adulthood. From being a favorite aunty who always visited our family in the 60s (in Lagos) and later in Benin from the 70s to the 80’s, my relationship with Aunty Justina grew and strengthened over the years. I remember traveling with my sisters to Jos, while Aunty lived there with her family.

Aunty Justina was not short on advice when it came to my engagement and subsequent marriage to my husband (now of 40 years and counting). I enjoyed her weekend visits with Christy and Kate when I resided in BDPA Ugbowo Housing Estate, Benin. Following the untimely death of mom in 1987, Aunty and I bonded even more. She became a mother figure in my life and the role was sometimes reversed depending on circumstances.

I emigrated to the United States in the early 90s but we managed to keep in touch and I kept her abreast of happenings in my life through photographs. With the help and goodwill of her children, Aunty visited me several times in Rochester, NY. We explored Rochester and environs together; shopping, sight-seeing, going to the movies, dinners at restaurants or just plain driving around. Oh, I should not forget to mention that our days started with morning mass at St. Louis Catholic, for you see, Aunty was a devout and practicing Catholic. We both enjoyed each other’s company, incessantly ‘gisting’, joking and laughing a lot and just plain having fun. Though not a professional photographer, Aunty knew how to pose and pick great backgrounds for her photos. She had no qualms about lying on the ground, grass or even snow, nor dropping to her knees to get the best angle for her photos!!!  An amusing incident comes to mind, once when Aunty was visiting in Rochester, we (aunty and I) went to the celebrated Rochester Lilac Festival (1st time visit for me too) and while milling around the various vendors, we found a Kodak Photo Booth where free photographs were being offered. Our photos were taken, and we got a beautiful 8 X 10 photo for our efforts. By the way, this photo still remains one of our best photos together to date. From the festival we went on to a Walmart in another part of town. Aunty saw a giant McDonald Clown at the entrance of the Walmart and insisted I took a photo of her with the clown. No amount of argument or dissuasion will keep Aunty from getting her photos taken anywhere or anytime she feels like it. Here she was and I was setting up to take her photo when I heard someone say ‘Are you ladies still taking pictures? Who was that, that dared interrupt our ‘photo session’? It turned out to be the nice young man from the Kodak booth at the Lilac Festival. What a coincidence! Aunty & I had a good laugh about it and the young man took another photo of both of us with the Mc Donald clown. That is classic Aunty Justina. Her love for photographs is unequalled. She used to say that friends often teased her that her “Wedding Trunk Box” will be filled with photographs instead of “Abada” fabrics as is the custom for a new bride in our part of the world. People usually came to her to ask for photographs of their loved ones of old and more times than not she did offer the help needed. 

Aunty Justina was our family historian, an avid reader, a prolific writer and a consummate storyteller. She reads just about anything; newspapers, novels, magazines, flyers and adverts. Her curiosity and thirst for knowledge were insatiable and her memory and recall was phenomenal. She remembered events to the last detail and can relay the time, day and date, what the person was wearing and the pertinent conversations. 

Among her hobbies of reading, storytelling, writing, photography and travel, Aunty Justina loved to collect clocks, radios and pens. Though she didn’t quite catch up with the current technology of the internet, she listened to news around the world on her AM/FM radio. She was very much aware of the world politics. Sometimes when we are talking, she might mention some strange name. On further inquiry she would say, oh that is the president of some very remote country who had just been ousted from power, or some other news about the person. Things like that never cease to amaze me. Her love for the British Royalty is well known amongst her family and she knows every written history about them. Aunty Justina was simply a living encyclopedia.

With Aunty Justina, what you see is what you get. She is very unpretentious and called things as she saw them. She is rather uninhibited and had no qualms telling you what she thought at any point in time. I have been a recipient of her acerbic and biting remarks a number of times but that did not affect our relationship. 

I could go on and on about Aunty Justina and still will not do justice to the phenomenal lady she was. She was a rare gem. I still cannot wrap my mind around to the fact that she is no longer with us. I would miss our long phone calls. To help me deal with this loss, I will convince and delude myself into the belief that due to bad phone connection, I cannot reach her anymore. 

My deepest and sincerest condolences to Aunty Justina’s children. She doted and loved you all beyond measure. “Ndo nu”. May God grant you the fortitude to bear this loss. May her kind soul and the souls of all the faithful departed Rest in God’s peace. Amen.

Finally, to quote Renee Wood “Your life was a blessing, Your memory a treasure….. You are loved beyond words And missed beyond measure.”
‘There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart’ (Mahatma Gandhi).

Love Always
Mrs. Rose Monu (nee Okwudiafor)

Posted by Maureen Brown on June 6, 2021
My mom, my best friend, my gist partner, no words can express what I feel. The light of my life, i still don’t believe you are gone. I saw you yesterday evening you were winding down for the day. I miss you so much.You have taken a part of me with you. Wish I could talk to you one more time……
Posted by Christy Agboli on June 6, 2021
Dear Mommy,

My heart is shattered in a million pieces at your loss.  I will keep the memory of your amazing life living forever. I love you forever.
Posted by Jude Johnson on June 5, 2021
Aunty,

I heard of your passing a few hours ago; sorry I have not kept in touch like I used to, and like I wanted to. Your death has taught me never be too busy to call your loved ones, and do not put away what you should do today – for tomorrow is not promised.

We both share the same birthday; a part of our friendship I will never forget - you will be forever missed. 

We have lost a great historian, a great aunty, a friend; Heaven has gained a cheerful, joyous soul.

Rest in peace until we meet in Heaven.

Love,
Jude

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Posted by John Onyemenam on December 31, 2021
My sweet mum, you would have been 84 years today! I miss your regular gist we usually have; rest on Mum, you will forever be in our hearts.
Posted by Kate Chikwendu on December 31, 2021
Mom, we want you to know that even if you are no longer with us, we still love you and miss your presence. I miss your gist about what is happening in asaba and We want you to be happy in heaven As we come to your resting place, it saddens us to think that you are no longer with us. We know that our lives will never be the same again without you. Yet, we know that you are happy wherever you are, and we will be together one day. Happy birthday in heaven, mom.
Posted by Christy Agboli on December 31, 2021
Dear Mommy,

I continue to remember you fondly. Your joy, your smile, and your warmth. On this day, you would have been enjoying your favorite pastime of taking pictures with your wine, cake and the family. I hope your are celebrating with Jesus, daddy and angels. We love and miss you much, but we remember your time with us with so much joy and thanksgiving.  Happy birthday mom.  Thank you for being the best mom you could be and leaving us a great inheritance.  Love you deeply, madly, and forever,

Christy
her Life

Mommy

Mommy was the most incredible woman that I have ever known.  She was highly intelligent, audacious and happy. She embraced every day with great joy and excitement.  She loved her family, friends and often strangers with everything that she had.  She loved to take photographs and loved to recount good times of family and friends. She gave her children an incredible life.  I still remember her chopping down Christmas trees in Benin and wrapping presents with news paper to give us a wonderful holiday. She had a photographic memory and remembered everything and everyone.  Mommy was very close to her family, most especially her nieces and nephews.  We would often joke around with her ans ask how her daughters Rose and Unoma were.  She had an incredible relationship with her brother John.  She was so proud of and loved all of her children and grandchildren.   Mommy had an incredible capacity to love and to share her life.  She treated everyone she met with great love, acceptance, and respect.  Everyone who knew her called her mama.  The last time I saw mommy a few days ago, she had a wonderful smile on her face as she frequently does.  She is home with the lord and even though our heart breaks, she will want us to remember the good times.  Mommy is a perfect example of beauty, grace, intelligence and honesty. 

Left Behind

Justina is survived by beloved brother John Thomas Okolo, 8 children: Odogwu Onyemenam, Paul Onyemenam, Peter Onyemenam, John Onyemenam, Ada Agbude, Maureen Brown, Christy Agboli and Kate Chikwendu. 10 grand children: Thomas Owens, Michael Agbude, Christy Agbude, Efemena Agbude, Joshua Agboli, Daniel Agboli, Stephen Agboli, David Onyemenam and Chizaram Chikwendu.

Religion

Coming from a very strong Catholic family, she is very un-assuming Catholic devoted to the tenets of the Catholic Church.  Her grand father Pa Thomas Ogoli Okolo was the 1st Catholic Convert in Asaba.  Justina had ups and downs in her life, but she believed that God is greater than our problems. 

She socializes with everyone especially with the poor and under privilege; she is always cheerful even when she has some heart breaks.
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