Kate had a wonderful life with wonderful family and friends. Please share your memories to help celebrate her life.
  • 64 years old
  • Born on October 23, 1951 in New Brunswick, New Jersey, United States.
  • Passed away on May 12, 2016 in Oxford, Oxfordshire, United Kingdom.

This memorial website was created in memory of our wonderful Kate.

Many people have sent very special condolence notes.  Please feel free to post those notes here as well so that we can share them, or to leave other notes.

We have posted a lot of pictures of Kate that we had digitized on Terence's computer. Please post your photos as well - try to indicate dates.  Brandon, Allegra and Terence will also be adding to this site over the next few weeks so please check back from time to time.

We are having a small service here in England.  We will arrange for a memorial in the US later this year.

In lieu of flowers, I know Kate would have deeply apppreciated gifts in her name to Barnard College (Class of 1973) in support of student scholarships.

We will remember her forever.  

Posted by Tracy Kaye on 23rd October 2018
Happy Birthday! We miss you. Tracy & John
Posted by Denis McLaughlin on 23rd October 2018
Thinking of you and your beloved Kate on this special birthday. Your old SHU friend, Denis M.
Posted by Bonnie Lee on 23rd October 2018
Happy Birthday Kate! You made the world a better place, and us - better people.
Posted by Amel Jelassi on 23rd October 2018
Thinking of you today and often. Miss you, still Dear Kate.
Posted by Marian Sabety on 23rd October 2018
As I pack today for 2-weeks in Morocco with Barnard Alum Group, I think of you, Kate. I know you loved this area of the world, and it would have been fun to have had you with us. Thinking of you often, and miss you, still.
Posted by Denis McLaughlin on 16th May 2018
Terrence, Thinking of you and Kate today and always. Your old SHU buddy, Denis
Posted by Zhiyong Xiong on 19th January 2018
We are very sorry to hear your passing. We always remember the time we were together happly in Beijing. Jinghuan and Xiong
Posted by Jacob Visscher on 30th October 2017
One-and-a-half year after the tragic accident which took Kati away from us, she is still sorely missed. The day she would have celebrated her 65th birthday, I was hiking in the mountains and kept thinking of her. My sadness was mixed with a feeling of gratefulness for having had the chance to know her, as she was só special. My thoughts also went out to Terence, Allegra and Brandon, the family whom she dearly loved and was so proud of. Kati will never be forgotten. She will live on in our hearts.
Posted by Bonnie Lee on 24th October 2017
Happy Birthday our Kate; I thank you daily for all you taught on traveling. You'd be proud, I'm spending a few weeks in Utah visiting our son. Airbnb. In the first few hours, I setup house, moved furniture and replaced the dim light bulbs. Cozy, Kate. I miss you sorely Kate, so far ahead.
Posted by Kathy Gephart on 24th October 2017
May your memory live eternally in the hearts of your family and friends
Posted by Denis McLaughlin on 23rd October 2017
Terence, Thinking of you and your beloved Kate on her birthday. Your old SHU friend, Denis
Posted by Marian Sabety on 23rd October 2017
This would have been Kate's birthday. I remember making the birthday cake for her at our Dorm in '72--and, together, sharing our hopes & dreams, and jabbering about the principles of whether shutting down the various buildings at Columbia, as part of the anti-Vietnam protests was truly the right way to bring attention to this issue.....What fun it was to banter all sides of whatever issue. Naturally, the flip side of Kate was equalling fun. We shared a love of the Tudor era in England, and I can tell you that she devoured untold numbers of books on the topic--cause I always took her recommendations--and I have the sagging bookshelves to show for it! Miss her much. Marian
Posted by Leslie Manix on 24th May 2017
We were fortunate to visit Lucinda in Paris yesterday. We reminisced about Kate and some of our shared Kate memories. We think of her often with great love and sad regrets at her loss.
Posted by Leslie Srager on 14th May 2017
I have so many memories of Kate--the lawyer, the mother, the wife, the woman--that I still cannot believe she is no longer on this earth. Our friendship with her is something Joan and I will always carry with us. We hope time has helped Terry, Brandon and Allegra heal.
Posted by Kathy Gephart on 12th May 2017
May her memory live forever in your hearts. Thinking of you all.
Posted by Amel Jelassi on 12th May 2017
Thinking of you today and always Dear Kate with great and loving memories
Posted by Denis McLaughlin on 12th May 2017
Thinking of you today, Terence, and remembering your beloved Kate. Your old friend from Seton Hall, Denis
Posted by Corinne Smith on 12th May 2017
Thinking of you today, Kate, with great friendship and still sorrow. Terence and family, you are also in our thoughts today and wish you the continued comfort of shared times and healing Corinne
Posted by Toni Seth on 12th May 2017
Blessed are they who mourn for they shall be comforted Matthew 5:4 My thoughts and prayers are with you
Posted by Moez Marouani on 15th March 2017
We love you Kate , you're in our minds , we miss you .
Posted by Leslie Srager on 16th December 2016
I first met Kate when we were on opposite sides during a rather heated negotiation. We came out of it as friends. The twinkle in her eye as she was landing her points made it difficult for me to counter. Then my wife and I met Terry and then little Allegra and Brandon at their home and at ours. We will long remember the musicales and I will remember the times Kate and I sat as "judges" in the mock negotiations of Terry's students at Cardozo Law School, a technique I borrowed years later when I conducted seminars at the same school. Our paths diverged in later years, but I will always remember the opponent with the twinkle and her wonderful family. She is one of those people who will be sorely missed.
Posted by Corinne Smith on 11th November 2016
I am very sorry not to be able to join Terence, Allegra and John, Brandon and Anita and other family and dear friends in person for the November 12 remembrance and celebration of Kate Dwyer’s extraordinary life. I am now on a short assignment for the American Bar Association in Morocco, where Terence led the office. This is the third country or region where I have followed him, and/or Kate. Here, as in Egypt and Central Asia, they and their family are fondly remembered. The local staff and partners’ faces light up at the mention of Kate’s name, and everyone has a favorite story or adventure with her. All of them revolve around her kindness and grace, and the remarkable love that she and Terence had for each other, their children and family and their many friends. Kate was a creator and a pollinator and a cultivator. She was incredibly smart and generous, and just plain fun. I first met Kate through work, and admired her energy, creativity, and ability to develop relationships and talent and community. Working with human rights lawyers in Uzbekistan, mentoring our staff in Turkmenistan, encouraging law students and young lawyers and always finding ways to get things done, no matter the obstacles. She had a million ideas. I appreciated all those wonderful qualities in a different way after becoming her friend and seeing how she brought them to her personal life and home. I was lucky enough to join Kate and Terence for a spectacular vacation in Provence where they welcomed me into the mix of family and friends going back to Barnard days and earlier and every part of her life since then. Whether it was finding the perfect turquoise scarf, and selection of cheeses at a market in Provence, or sightseeing off the beaten path, Kate made everything an occasion to be celebrated. What a gift. We missed her terribly this year in Padua, but it comforted all of us there – and we hope especially Terence and the family – to feel her spirit and imagine her with us at Palladian villas and sitting in the garden. I think it was George Eliot who said that the darkest night the world has ever known did not put out the stars. Kate, we wish we still had the light of your life physically with us, but you continue to shine. Remembering our time together reminds us what is means to be a wonderful friend and a wonderful person who made everyone whose life she touched better in big ways and small. Shine on, dear Kate.
Posted by Bonnie Lee on 24th October 2016
Kate, like Dawn said, we missed you greatly at Christine's wedding. They had such a beautiful tribute to you and Jim in her wedding program.
Posted by Dawn Thrift on 24th October 2016
Happy birthday Kate! We missed you at Mike and Christine's wedding. We all wish you were there to celebrate with them.
Posted by Ghada Sorial on 24th October 2016
Remembering you dearest on your birthday kindest and sweetest person you will always be in our thoughts and prayers Ghada, Kamal, Joe and Jessy
Posted by Joy Fink on 23rd October 2016
Kate. Your family misses you so. I know you are now their Gardian Angle and watching over. They remember you on your birthday wishing you could celebrate your day with them, but you are with them in their hearts. You are their special Angle.
Posted by Kathy Gephart on 23rd October 2016
May her memory be eternal.
Posted by Leslie Manix on 23rd October 2016
Remembering our dear Kate on her birthday, with loving memories of her and love and prayers to her family from the Manix family.
Posted by Denis McLaughlin on 23rd October 2016
May Kate be forever remembered for the beautiful person that she was and for the wonderful joy that she spread to her many, many grateful friends. To Terrence and family from your old SHU friend, Denis
Posted by Joy Fink on 8th September 2016
Terry and family, you could have knocked me over with a feather at the class reunion when you told me about your beloved Kate. I remember when I first met her. You brought her to a Pgh. Symphony concert at S. Park High School when visiting your patients. I rember thinking how lucky you were to find such a sweet, beautiful woman. I would only see her when you were in town for reunions and could see the love you two had for each other. When I heard you were comming to the reunion and comming alone I thought she had something else to do that weekend but was totally shocked to find out why she wasn't there. I know all of you miss her so much. If it rains at Brandon's wedding don't get upset It is only Kate shearing a year or two because she can not be with all of you but it also shows she is with you always. God bless you, your children and grandchildren. You are all in my prayers. Love Joy H Fink
Posted by Bonnie Lee on 27th July 2016
Ah Kate, thinking of you. So many things you influenced. Not a day goes by without your touch.
Posted by Leslie Manix on 29th June 2016
I am getting such a happy, warm glow looking at these photos of the many years I've know you all. I can't help but smile at the memories and send my love to Terry, Allegra and Brandon. Les
Posted by Bonnie Lee on 13th June 2016
Kate, again thinking of you. You are beautiful inside and out and I miss you. Thanks to everyone for adding more pictures.
Posted by Janna Roop on 9th June 2016
Dear Terence, I have been at a loss for words since hearing the tragic news. I met Kate my first day of college in 1969, and as you know, we participated in each other's weddings. I am so sad that she is gone, and my heart goes out to you and Allegra and Brandon. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers often. Let us know when you are back in Michigan and open to a visit. With sympathy and love, Janna
Posted by Mary Greer on 7th June 2016
Terence: Before I met Kate, and got to be around you two together, I presumed that this inspiring, love filled relationship you two shared must be a second marriage for both of you-- I just remember being so touched by the high level of affection and adoration you held for her. Then I got to meet the delightful Kate, and could tell she shared the same enduring and tremendous level of affection and adoration for you, in return. That love was and still is infectious, and no question that those you have encountered (including me!) along the paths you have both walked, and in the countries you have visited and/or lived, are a little more kind, a little more considerate, and a little more loving. She leaves a legacy of justice (as do you!) all over the world, but its this amazing legacy of love and kindness--so present in you, and in Allegra & Brandon and those adorable grand kids--that will also endure for a LONG LONG time. Thanks for sharing that, and Kate, with us.
Posted by Jacob Visscher on 5th June 2016
Kati was an exceptional wife for you, Terence, an exceptional mother for you, Allegra & Brandon, and an exceptional friend for me. I met Kati, as she introduced herself to me, in Amsterdam, in 1969, when I had just started studying there. We agreed to become pen pals. In 1971, I worked for Holland-America-Line and thus had the opportunity to visit her in NYC, where she studied at Columbia. It was Kati who brought us all together. My sincere wish is that we continue the bond we have thanks to her. It would be a tribute to her and I think that's what she would have wanted. Kati will be sorely missed by all of us, in the first place Terence, Allegra and Brandon, of course. Let us help each other come to terms with her loss, because we are all shattered. Jaap
Posted by Madeleine Khalaf on 3rd June 2016
Our Cairo Book Club was really appalled when one of the members informed us of the death of Kate. Our hearts go out to the whole family and friends. We had the privilege of discussing books and in addition many other topics during our monthly book club meeting over a cup of coffee or tea with Kate. In addition there were those of us who would get to see her with Clerence at the Opera. It was only this past year that she left us to return to the States and now she has left us again. We are so sorry she has been robbed of more time with her children, grandchildren and spouse.
Posted by Iyadh Abid on 1st June 2016
I am appalled by this tragic news. Kate was my director when I was working with ABA ROLI in Tunisia and she was a wonderful person. She was very supportive and encouraging to me for my career and my studies. She recommended me and advised me on my career and always had kind words for me. We talked a lot and laughed often. We discussed about law, music, food and all sorts of things. Kate was more than a colleague, a friend. I am sorry that we could not meet again although we tried. She called me soon after I arrived to the U.S. and was very kind as always. I extend my most sincere condolences to her family.
Posted by Jill Miller on 31st May 2016
Tom, Allegra and Brandon, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Katie was such a warm and enthusiastic person and I loved talking and spending time with her. Her warmth and energy could brighten a whole room and I feel so lucky to have had time to spend with her. May you all find peace and comfort in the wonderful memories that she had created with you.
Posted by Tamara Schneider on 27th May 2016
We have such fond memories of a vital woman/family. Such good neighbor(s) back in the day. Our condolences. Leon and Tamara Schneider
Posted by Ashley Kelmore on 27th May 2016
Terence, Brandon and Allegra - I feel so lucky that I had a chance to not only meet Kate but to spend some really wonderful times with her as I got to join you on your travels. She was such a special woman. I'm thinking of you all and sending you love. -Ashley
Posted by Marina Apostolou on 27th May 2016
My most vivid memory of of Kate Dwyer is showing up on her doorstep after a camping trip, tired, and filthy. I was meant to visit one of her children who had yet to arrive, but she welcomed me in, offered me food and company. I was able to clean up, nap, and was given a book to read (which I still have). Her kindness that day always stuck in my mind. I don't think I had even met her before that day, but a friend of her kids was a friend of hers. I am so sorry for the loss of her. I know how much she meant to those she held dear.
Posted by Mike Lawrence on 27th May 2016
Terence, I am so saddened and shocked to hear of Kate's passing. Deanne and I have such fond memories of the two of you sharing information about your Fulbright and other experiences in China (Foreign Affairs University, International School of Beijing, etc.) with us before our own 6 month sojourn there with our own young family some years later. Kate was so kind and generous on those and other occasions, and truly infectious with her inimitable enthusiasm. The world has lost a bright light. Deepest condolences to you and Allegra and Brandon. With sympathy, Mike
Posted by Donna James Isbir on 27th May 2016
So sorry to hear of your loss. May you find some peace and comfort in your memories. Our prayers are with you thru this difficult time. Love, Aunt Donna, Bill & Janna
Posted by Tzili Mor on 27th May 2016
Kate was my welcome to Bishkek when I arrived there as a fresh-faced ABA CEELI liaison in 2003. And what a welcome it was; from her elaborate water purification ritual to the state of law school curriculum reform, to teaching me about hiring competent loyal staff. I'm forever indebted to her. Years later she showed me the ruins of Tunis after inviting me to partake in her important work there. She knew how to live, and live it to the hilt. No one could tell a story with the drama and flair of Kate. And Kate was dramatic in the best possible way.
Posted by Yuan Kelly on 26th May 2016
I met Kate only a few times and knew her as "Brandon's mom". The last time I talked to her was over Skype where she was showing me the family's Michigan house and I remember what a happy place it was--something that embodied family. Kate was an amazing woman - intelligent, driven, kind, funny. I remember her as such a put together woman able to put all of herself into family, travel, adventure, scholarship all at once and she is the kind of woman that I aspire to be. She is a role model. She is widely loved and will be deeply missed. She passed before it was her time but it is so evident that she lived a life saturated with love and experience. Much love to the Blackburn-Dwyer family, Yuanyuan
Posted by John Wefing on 26th May 2016
I remember Kate so well from the time she was teaching at Seton Hall Law School. She was so smart and articulate and seemed to be good at everything. Her home was always beautifully appointed. She and Terrance gave wonderful parties. My wife and I were so disappointed when they moved from Montclair. It seems impossible to believe that she is gone. We were looking forward to them returning to the East and interacting with her again. She will be missed by many. John
Posted by Denis McLaughlin on 26th May 2016
I will always remember Kate for her wonderful and sparkling personality, her glorious and fearless sense of adventure, and her loving devotion to her family. We are all diminished by her passing. To Terence, Allegra and Brandon, I am so very, very sorry. Your old friend from Seton Hall, Denis
Posted by Linda Blixt on 26th May 2016
Kate, what a vibrant light to the world! As a former nanny who knew the family nanny...(Linda Kalt) ...I can tell you I was able to share days with one of Kates most prized possessions...her children! We always had so much fun. Brandon and Allegra are a reflection of Kate and Terry and I know they will live on in their mom's memory with spirit and courage. I remember the beautiful home they shared in Montclair. At one point it was featured in a magazine with the kids baking cookies. A sweet snapshot of the good old days and the memories that linger till we are all together again. Rest in gentle peace, Kate Dwyer♡
Posted by Lisa Kane Brown on 26th May 2016
I did not know Ms. Dwyer but I do know that she was a very special person because she raised such an amazing son. Please accept my deepest sympathies and I will continue to pray for your family. She will always be with you. Lisa

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