Live well, learn plenty, laugh often, love much
  • 70 years old
  • Born on August 19, 1940 .
  • Passed away on February 6, 2011 in Syracuse, New York, United States.

This memorial website was created to celebrate the life of Kathy Lanier. Please share your memories, photos, and thoughts.   

There will be a memorial service at May Memorial Unitarian Society ( on February 19th, 2011 at 3:00 p.m. with a reception afterward in the church social hall.

Kathy loved California poppies, but only in the fields, so in lieu of flowers please donate to your favorite charity.


Posted by Barbara S Vahanian on 13th February 2018
Well dearest Kathy, yes you are missed so very much in so many instances. I think of you. I remember you. Our fun. Our 'debates'. Your ultimate wisdom. No mere passage of time will ever erase your importance to us. In the Light.
Posted by Jack Osborne on 6th February 2017
You still bring smiles to my face often when the memories come. You're wisdom and friendship are still with me in spirit. Loving thoughts.
Posted by Judith Clark on 22nd December 2016
Thinking of you so much this Christmas. Spending it with all the Lanier clan in PA. You are never far from any of us. Miss you every day.
Posted by Barbara S Vahanian on 6th February 2016
Bonjour Kathy, Am I right, is it only 5 years today? It seems like an eternity. You are forever in my thoughts for all sorts of meaningful reasons, with love, Barbara V
Posted by Barbara S Vahanian on 19th August 2015
Bonjour très chère Kathy, I suddenly realize you will always be one year younger than I! You are in my thoughts today, dear departed friend. With love forever and ever, Barbara
Posted by Kathy Rudy on 7th February 2015
Hi kathylanier. I think of you almost everyday, still. I have developed a bone disease and have been in wheelchair for almost two years. A dozen operations on broken and disintegrating bones has brought no relief. At one point I thought I would lose my mind with grief and fear. You came to me in a dream and told me that growing up means giving back. I'm on medical leave from school and volunteer with elderly now full time. Just being with people who have been dumped in nursing homes, waiting to die. In our own way we find joy. So thank for forcing me to grow up once again, even from the other side, I know you are with me, I feel it, but I deeply miss talking to you in real life.
Posted by Dara Lanier on 6th February 2015
Thinking of you and missing you always.
Posted by Rene (Lorene) Hall on 6th February 2015
I still pick up the phone to call you. I still recall you perfectly from when we were mere striplings, when we lived in the co-ops in Berkeley, when Lorene was born, when you came to visit in a VW bus. Judi was a truly wonderful surprise, a perfect person for you at last. It's been four years and I'm finally writing without having to stop and weep. love you always, Rene
Posted by Barbara S Vahanian on 19th August 2013
Bonjour dearest Kathy, You are ever present in my thoughts, no matter the years. In loving memory from your friend, Barbara
Posted by Judith Clark on 19th August 2011
Today I miss being able to love you, laugh with you, play with you. I celebrate a life lived to the fullest every day and every hour. For me you will never grow old---love you always, judi
Posted by Betsy Emery on 26th February 2011
The world has lost an angel. A soft spoken and gentle angel. I feel very thankful that I knew her. A real lady.
Posted by Rebecca Luby on 23rd February 2011
The first time I met Kathy and Judy was a bbq that Jason and Dara had several years ago. Kathy and I laughed about raising children and the curve balls that fly while doing so..her patience and insightful thoughts on how to get through the tough times gave me peace in knowing in the end all would work out. She will be missed greatly even by those she only touched breifly!
Posted by Pattie Beebe on 20th February 2011
I'm so sorry that Kathy is gone. I had a very nice conversation with her last month. She agreed to look at facebook and I agreed to look at paying bills online. I thought we would see her last month but it was not to be. Prayers for Judi, Lorene and Jason.
Posted by Mary Joy Carlson on 18th February 2011
I haven't seen Kathy very often since our children grew up and left home. I have thought of her through the years and always remembered how cheerful she always seemed. I know that you will all miss her and hope that happy memories will sustain you. Joy Carlson (Scott's mom)
Posted by Shirley DiMatteo on 17th February 2011
I have lost a treasured friend. Kathy and I met in the early 70's and shared many adventures and a lasting friendship. Kathy touched my life in so many ways. I will always cherish those memories, Last July, I spent a lovely day with Kathy, Judi and some of our grandchildren. Kathy seemed so happy and well. My thoughts are with Judi, Lorene, and Jason. We have lost a unique,wonderful person.
Posted by Noelle Vahanian on 16th February 2011
Dear Kathy, You gave guilt no moral privileged position, nor did you see any value in pain. But what would you do with grief? Grief born of love and care and friendship, and deep sympathy for Judi, Lorene, Jason, your family, your world of friends, a universe without you -- though through you richer, better, and in promise, hopeful.
Posted by Sue Bova on 16th February 2011
Judy and Kathy were such a great team. Respectful to each other and always working side by side. I had the pleasure of meeting them at Richmark during their many projects. I enjoyed the relationship and obvious caring they shared. My sympathy to Judy and all the family.
Posted by Donna Nelson on 15th February 2011
Kathy--my close childhood friend,from 3rd grade through college,my college roommate,matron of honor at my wedding..a huge part of my life until our mid-twenties, when a continent divided us.I was so glad to renew our friendship two years ago with a visit in California,and I regret that will be last time we meet.I love hearing from others what Kathy and her life have meant to so many. Donna Nelson
Posted by Mary Stuhler (Donegan) on 15th February 2011
I have thought about Kathy many, many times in the past twenty years or so. She worked with my son and me while he was attending Fairmount Children's Center. I was a single parent at the time and many times my visits with her involved speaking about my older son. Her words were always very comforting. I will never forget Kathy Lanier. May God Bless her. Mary Stuhler (Donegan)
Posted by Jaime Baitsell on 14th February 2011
I think of her everyday...What can I say...She will truly be missed. LRY, May Memorial, Camping...babysitting...growing up!!! She has touched all of our lives. Jaime Gerber Baitsell Gerber/Osborne/Dipboye/Baitsell "Clan"
Posted by Charlene Kirchoff on 14th February 2011
We have fond rememberances of Kathy at May Memorial and Unirondack. She was an amazing organizer. Our thoughts are with Judy, Lorene, Jason and the rest of your family. Char and Mike Kirchoff, Loudon, TN.
Posted by Pam Sleeth on 14th February 2011
Kathy was a true inspiration to me. Without her and Judy I would not own a beautiful new house. She was tireless in her effort to help me finish my Habitat House. I think of her often when I am relaxing on my porch with my son and dog. She was a blessing to us.
Posted by Marilyn Clark on 13th February 2011
I met Kathy at UC Berkeley when we were both freshmen, 52 years ago. The connection remained through thick and thin. Watching her giving behavior to all, I admired her strength, intelligence, problem solving capabilities and organizational skills. I am grateful that she has been a forever friend and influenced me greatly. Marilyn Clark in Lincoln, CA
Posted by Sharon Sherman on 13th February 2011
This last year Kathy had become a constant in my life always pushing me forward in her positive supportive manner. I was already missing her thinking it strange that she had not yet made contact from California. Think of her when you pass the Salt Springs Cemetery a physical monument to her work in the community.
Posted by Brian Mitchell on 13th February 2011
She treated me like a son and always made me feel at home. Sorry J (and Lorene). I'll try to catch you sometime Friday at 1017.
Posted by Steve Nyland on 13th February 2011
God Bless You Kathy! You always took time to be kind to me, and I will always be grateful for having had you as a part of my life.
Posted by MaryAnn Zeppetello on 13th February 2011
Judy and family, What a shock to read of Kathy's death ; taken much too early. Although our paths crossed less in these last few years, my memories date to the 60s at MMUS and the house on Edgehill. Kathy led a varied life and brought joy to her family, friends and community. She will be celebrated and missed by many. My thoughts are with you. Mary Ann Zeppetello
Posted by Rosamond Rudy on 12th February 2011
I am glad that Kathy touched my life. She was a warm, refined and caring person. It was all reflected in her contributions to life and to those she helped when they needed her. She will be missed and never forgotten Rosamond Rudy

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