Forever in my mind and heart. You surely were a great lady. Loving thoughts for you.
JackO

Hi Mom
I'm in Syracuse for your birthday this year. Jason and I have been renovating the Harwood house and thinking about you - we are definitely our mother's children when it comes to DIY! Meeting some of the old neighbors who say "oh, you're Kathy's kid? - she was a great lady"

And you were a great lady

Dear Mom,

It's a sunny winter's day. I imagine that you and Judi would have just moved to Aptos for a few months to escape the gray February days in Syracuse. With all the rain, it'll probably be a beautiful spring in Aptos. Yes, you are definitely smiling ...

Lorene

Happy Birthday mom! 

I’m in the cottage in Aptos, remembering your 70th birthday gathering. I was so sure we’d be celebrating your birthdays for decades to come…

Lorene

Dear Kathy,
I think of you often, whether it's when I'm folding a king sized, fitted sheet which you taught me how to effortless manage, or when I am wearing my cozy LL Bean robe that you sent to me in December of the year I was pregnant with Liam with a note that simply read "For cold nights up wih baby"...

I share memories of you with the boys often so they can hold in their hearts your thoughtful nature, your practicality, and your tireless motivation when it came to getting things done. How very much I miss all of these things.

I thought of you again, just the other day, when Jason and I were reminiscing about when we first met in college and I would hang out at his apartment after he'd left for class. I'd sneak a few peanut butter and chocolate chip oatmeal cookies from this mysterious shoe box lined with waxed paper. After a while I had eaten so many that I tried rearranging them in order to disguise their depletion, but ended up having to confess, worried he'd blame his roommates! And so many months later while visiting you and Judi in Syracuse, tasting those same cookies, freshly baked, and how it instantly transported me back to Jason's college apartment and the red, waxed paper-lined shoebox. I thought, at that moment, and for the many years that followed, when Judi and you would carry in from your Toyota Camry a box filled with tins and tins of those homebaked delectables, "THESE are the COOKIES!"

My memories of you are many and come so easily - often unexpectedly, but are always welcomed and bring a smile to my face while at the time a pang in my heart, for you are so very missed by all of us...

Hi Mom,

This has been a crazy year - if we made a movie you'd find the plot contrived and illogical. So many times I wondered "what would mom do?". I feel so lucky to have a mom who still helps guide me though the world.

missing you

Lorene

Really missing you. Our democracy is at risk in a way you could never imagine. Sitting here isolated in the midst of a pandemic...knowing how we would share if we could. Glad you never had to see these last 4 years, actually. Miss you, though.

Still -
You still bring smiles to my face often when the memories come. You're wisdom and friendship are still with me in spirit. Loving thoughts.

Dear Mom,

For the first time I forgot this was the anniversary of your death. I guess that's a good thing, because now I'm just happy on your birthday. Still missing you every day.

Lorene

Hi Mom,

I’m driving home after visiting Jason and his family. Judi came down for a few days- the drive takes a bit longer than when you were driving :-). You’d be amazed how big the boys are! Jason has lots of projects that need finishing and could really use your cajoling....

We miss you

Lorene

Well dearest Kathy, yes you are missed so very much in so many instances. I think of you. I remember you. Our fun. Our 'debates'. Your ultimate wisdom. No mere passage of time will ever erase your importance to us. In the Light.

You still bring smiles to my face often when the memories come. You're wisdom and friendship are still with me in spirit. Loving thoughts.

Thinking of you so much this Christmas. Spending it with all the Lanier clan in PA. You are never far from any of us. Miss you every day.

Bonjour Kathy,
Am I right, is it only 5 years today? It seems like an eternity. You are forever in my thoughts for all sorts of meaningful reasons, with love,
Barbara V

Bonjour très chère Kathy,
I suddenly realize you will always be one year younger than I! You are in my thoughts today, dear departed friend.
With love forever and ever,
Barbara

Hi kathylanier. I think of you almost everyday, still. I have developed a bone disease and have been in wheelchair for almost two years. A dozen operations on broken and disintegrating bones has brought no relief. At one point I thought I would lose my mind with grief and fear. You came to me in a dream and told me that growing up means giving back. I'm on medical leave from school and volunteer with elderly now full time. Just being with people who have been dumped in nursing homes, waiting to die. In our own way we find joy. So thank for forcing me to grow up once again, even from the other side, I know you are with me, I feel it, but I deeply miss talking to you in real life.

I still pick up the phone to call you. I still recall you perfectly from when
we were mere striplings, when we lived in the co-ops in Berkeley,
when Lorene was born, when you came to visit in a VW bus. Judi
was a truly wonderful surprise, a perfect person for you at last.
It's been four years and I'm finally writing without having to stop
and weep.  love you always, Rene

Thinking of you and missing you always.

Bonjour dearest Kathy, 
You are ever present in my thoughts, no matter the years.
In loving memory from your friend,
Barbara

Today I miss being able to love you, laugh with you, play with you. I celebrate a life lived to the fullest every day and every hour. For me you will never grow old---love you always, judi

The world has lost an angel. A soft spoken and gentle angel. I feel very thankful that I knew her. A real lady.

The first time I met Kathy and Judy was a bbq that Jason and Dara had several years ago. Kathy and I laughed about raising children and the curve balls that fly while doing so..her patience and insightful thoughts on how to get through the tough times gave me peace in knowing in the end all would work out. She will be missed greatly even by those she only touched breifly!

I'm so sorry that Kathy is gone. I had a very nice conversation with her last month. She agreed to look at facebook and I agreed to look at paying bills online. I thought we would see her last month but it was not to be. Prayers for Judi, Lorene and Jason.

I haven't seen Kathy very often since our children grew up and left home. I have thought of her through the years and always remembered how cheerful she always seemed. I know that you will all miss her and hope that happy memories will sustain you.
Joy Carlson (Scott's mom)

I have lost a treasured friend. Kathy and I met in the early 70's and shared many adventures and a lasting friendship. Kathy touched my life in so many ways. I will always cherish those memories, Last July, I spent a lovely day with Kathy, Judi and some of our grandchildren. Kathy seemed so happy and well. My thoughts are with Judi, Lorene, and Jason. We have lost a unique,wonderful person.

Judy and Kathy were such a great team. Respectful to each other and always working side by side. I had the pleasure of meeting them at Richmark during their many projects. I enjoyed the relationship and obvious caring they shared. My sympathy to Judy and all the family.

Dear Kathy,
You gave guilt no moral privileged position, nor did you see any value in pain. But what would you do with grief?
Grief born of love and care and friendship, and deep sympathy for Judi, Lorene, Jason, your family, your world of friends, a universe without you -- though through you richer, better, and in promise, hopeful.

I have thought about Kathy many, many times in the past twenty years or so. She worked with my son and me while he was attending Fairmount Children's Center. I was a single parent at the time and many times my visits with her involved speaking about my older son. Her words were always very comforting. I will never forget Kathy Lanier. May God Bless her. Mary Stuhler (Donegan)

Kathy--my close childhood friend,from 3rd grade through college,my college roommate,matron of honor at my wedding..a huge part of my life until our mid-twenties, when a continent divided us.I was so glad to renew our friendship two years ago with a visit in California,and I regret that will be last time we meet.I love hearing from others what Kathy and her life have meant to so many.
Donna Nelson

I think of her everyday...What can I say...She will truly be missed. LRY, May Memorial, Camping...babysitting...growing up!!! She has touched all of our lives.
Jaime Gerber Baitsell
Gerber/Osborne/Dipboye/Baitsell "Clan"

Kathy was a true inspiration to me. Without her and Judy I would not own a beautiful new house. She was tireless in her effort to help me finish my Habitat House. I think of her often when I am relaxing on my porch with my son and dog. She was a blessing to us.

We have fond rememberances of Kathy at May Memorial and Unirondack. She was an amazing organizer. Our thoughts are with Judy, Lorene, Jason and the rest of your family. Char and Mike Kirchoff, Loudon, TN.

Judy and family, What a shock to read of Kathy's death ; taken much too early.
Although our paths crossed less in these last few years, my memories date to the 60s at MMUS and the house on Edgehill.

Kathy led a varied life and brought joy to her family, friends and community. She will be celebrated and missed by many.

My thoughts are with you.

Mary Ann Zeppetello

God Bless You Kathy! You always took time to be kind to me, and I will always be grateful for having had you as a part of my life.

She treated me like a son and always made me feel at home. Sorry J (and Lorene). I'll try to catch you sometime Friday at 1017.

This last year Kathy had become a constant in my life always pushing me forward in her positive supportive manner. I was already missing her thinking it strange that she had not yet made contact from California. Think of her when you pass the Salt Springs Cemetery a physical monument to her work in the community.

I met Kathy at UC Berkeley when we were both freshmen, 52 years ago. The connection remained through thick and thin. Watching her giving behavior to all, I admired her strength, intelligence, problem solving capabilities and organizational skills. I am grateful that she has been a forever friend and influenced me greatly. Marilyn Clark in Lincoln, CA

I am glad that Kathy touched my life. She was a warm, refined and caring person.
It was all reflected in her contributions to life and to those she helped when they needed her. She will be missed and never forgotten
                                  Rosamond Rudy