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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, my darling father, Kayode Fahm. He was aged 53 years old, born on January 13, 1965 and passed away on June 23, 2018. We will remember you forever dad...


COMMEMORATIVE CEREMONY DETAILS

A commemorative ceremony was held in honour of Kayode's memory on

DATE: THURSDAY 12th July, 2018

VENUE: MUSON CENTRE (AGIP HALL), 8 / 9  Marina, Onikan, Lagos, Lagos Island

COLOUR THEME: WHITE & SHADES OF BLUE



MY TRIBUTE TO YOU DADDY...

My father, my biggest inspiration and my best friend. 

My heart is broken from this tragedy. 
I don’t know what I will do without you. I will miss hearing your voice every day, your funny stories and laughing over our favourite movies and plays. I will miss sharing my creative and intimate thoughts with you and being able to ask for your advice. I will miss performing for you and seeing your smile beaming back at me and you getting up to hug me before I’d even finished each song. I couldn’t have prayed for a better father. 
You always taught me the importance of creating a life that would outlive you and I’m proud to see that you accomplished that. 
You taught me so much about character and integrity, developing and being dedicated to my craft, pursuing my dreams and living a life of wellness. 
Your legacy will live on through your motivational teachings, compassionate charity work and the gift of your artistic craft that you shared. A role model to so many and my very own superhero. 
I love you daddy and I will miss you...
Your baby,
Tolu

TRIBUTES FROM FAMILY & FRIENDS

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Many thanks for sharing your stories and tributes in honour of my Dad's memory.




January 14, 2021
January 14, 2021
Kayode, one of the most unique and special people I ever met, continue to rest in perfect peace. Funlola
January 14, 2021
January 14, 2021
A remarkable life, remarkable friend, remarkable mentor.. Music, Martial arts, Motivation. You're fondly remembered everytime I play Lágrima on nylon string guitar, the way you taught.... Every note, a tear drop. Your legacy lives on dear Kayode my friend. RIP
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
Dear Ky,

I only heard about the news of your passing today, through Yunus, and am, like him, in shock. I had only just messaged you on Facebook to wish you a happy birthday.

We spent the formative years of our lives together at St Marylebone Grammar School, and learnt much from each other. I remember going to some martial arts shop in Soho with you during a summer holiday. I remember your fondness for the movie The Warriors and how your toughness melded so serenely with your humour and your philosophical take on life. After school, we didn't see each other for years until we serendipitously bumped into each other on the Jubilee line in our 40s! And, apart from a little less hair, we picked up exactly where we had left off. You were an extraordinary man with grace and elegance and ridiculously large muscles. And you were so compassionate and so much fun to be with. I am glad we were able to share some of our life's journeys in each other's company.

Your friend,

Ab
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
Always on my heart on 13 January ❤️❤️
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
A decent and compassionate human being if there ever was one. Continue to rest in perfect peace, Kayode. Much love, Segun
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
Thinking about you old friend and lighting a candle to commemorate.
Anis
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
We remember you today, Kayode, on your Birthday. As a great servant. Rest well. Thank you for reminding us what is possible when you believe. Your greatest gift, was kindness. Your life continues to be celebrated.
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
Birthday wishes, Ky. The world is an emptier place without you. Peace & love, Yunus
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
Still lost for words.
Happy Birthday, My First Love. x
January 13, 2021
January 13, 2021
Always loved...
Never forgotten...
Forever missed.

Happy Birthday Dad <3
Xx
January 12, 2021
January 12, 2021
Dear Ky,
Wow what a horrible shock, only found out now and am dumbfounded. You were in my bro’s class 4 years below at St. Marylebone Grammar School all those years ago but I always loved your company and enthusiasm for life. I always tell anyone that wants to hear how you strengthened your arms in hot sand so when you injured it once the A&E doctors broke the suture needle because your skin was so tough.
You gave me advice often and you’re an inspiration to many people I’m sure even to this day.
Love you bro. x
January 12, 2021
January 12, 2021
Dear Ky,
I am completely shocked to discover just now of your passing and more shocked to find out you passed away over 2 year ago. I feel so guilty for not picking up the phone more frequently. We first met at St. Marylebone Grammar School in 1975 and remained thick as thieves ever since not withstanding our Marvel vs. DC Comics and Man United vs. Chelsea rivalries. I just told my daughter who is also shocked - she remembers playing PlayStation 2 with you here in Switzerland nearly 15 years ago and seeing you last at my 50th birthday bash in London. My condolences go out to your daughter, your sister, your brothers who I all know well and the rest of your family and friends.
Rest easy, brother x
Yunus
January 12, 2021
January 12, 2021
My dear friend Ky
I am in shock having only just heard of your passing in June 2018.
We were at school together at St Marylebone Grammar School and whilst we only caught up a few times since leaving school, I always enjoyed our get-togethers and remember your kindness and humour. Yunus’ 50th birthday celebrations immediately spring to mind.
Always looking for the positives in life and saying ‘everything is beautiful’.
My heartfelt condolences to your family.
I miss you my good friend.
Alex
June 27, 2020
June 27, 2020
Dear Kayode....
I miss your warm smile...
I miss the twinkling in your eyes when you smile..
I miss our long conversations ....
I miss you Kayode ...i miss my friend...
Continue to rest in peace ........
June 26, 2020
June 26, 2020
Dear Kayode, Still missed. Deepest respect bro. Nice to tributes roll in 2 years later. You will always be remembered. Maybe one day I will get to meet you family.. Andrew
June 25, 2020
June 25, 2020
Ky, two years have rolled by and I miss you. I especially remember you in prayer. I can only pray that when we do meet, it shall be in Paradise bro so I pray for Aljannah Firdaos for you always. Amen
June 23, 2020
June 23, 2020
D1...Big shoes to fill, but I’ll keep doing my best by the Grace of God
You are truly missed...
June 23, 2020
June 23, 2020
2 years... To say I miss you is a gross understatement. Rip dear Kayode
June 23, 2020
June 23, 2020
2 years today and way too soon. I love you, daddy. I can’t wait to become everything you said I would be, everything you prepared me for. I promise to make you proud.

Xx
February 4, 2020
February 4, 2020
My heart skipped a beat when I got to hear of your demise. This is a sharp reminder to always keep in touch with friends as the jaws of death can deprive you from having an opportunity to say goodbye. Our few interactions left a lasting impression and I am proud to say you are among the few who came, saw and conquered. Rest in peace Sir.
January 13, 2020
January 13, 2020
Happy 2nd PH birthday Kayode! You are missed greatly
January 13, 2020
January 13, 2020
Still on my mind... miss you a great deal Cuz. Its been progress since you left painfully without those little hello calls for updates ... but am hanging in there, we would have gathered for your 55th but.. I am grateful for the years we had together... Rest on Egbon Mi
January 13, 2020
January 13, 2020
55. Happy Birthday Daddy, I love you always. Xx
November 22, 2019
November 22, 2019
Kayode and I sat on the same panel at the 2016 WIMBIZ conference in Lagos.
We met a couple of days before to agree on how the specifics along with Maymunah Kadiri. The topic of our discussion was Finding Your Happy.
Kayode was big, strong, bubbly, positive, energetic. He left a very strong and lasting impression on me.
I was shocked to see a post by Maymunah today on FB that included RIPP Kayode and I went online to search.
When our hospital was moving to a new location end 2017/early 2018, I called Kayode to see if he would be interested in providing some wellness therapy to some of my patients and he said he would think about it and get back to me.
I never heard from him again. Little did I know he had passed on.
He’s reunited with his Mum who meant so much to him. In our brief interactions, he communicated that clearly to me.
RIP dear Kayode
November 11, 2019
November 11, 2019
I just learned about the passing of Steve "Kayode" Fahm from a mutual friend of ours in Stockholm, Sweden. I was heartbroken to hear the news. We used to work out together in our London days on Fleet Street in the early 1990s and had the pleasure of working out with him in the gym. What an amazing soul, friend and person. The world lost a great person. The power of his kindness was enormous, his presence will be missed. He made everyone a better person. My belated condolences to all who knew him and to his family. Andrew, Bermuda
September 17, 2019
September 17, 2019
It is surreal that you are gone. You really had a way of making one feel special, and I miss that and many more beautiful memories about you. You taught me how to be quite within, and made me think twice if not three time about any and every decision I made. My fondest of memories was when we watched one of your favorite movies...’Vick, Christina Barcelona’, so very interesting how you found some of your music inspirations, and your ability to share with those you cared for. Tolu I just want you to know How truly blessed you are to have had this graceful men as your Dad.  Also with all the conversations I’ve had with Yiur Dad, at some point in those conversations, your name would always come up and your granny’s memories would also filler through all our conversation, that’s how I know he loved you so much.  You are and always be his baby girl. He was so proud of you and supported every dream you had and all he wanted was to make sure you grow up to be the beautiful, independent women your are today. I feel like I know you personally, that is how much he spoke about you. Stay focused, he left you many gifts, with time they will be revealed. I pray to God to guide you, and always remember that he is still here with us in spirit, only the body is resting, and may his perfect soul Rest In Peace. Kayode, you will always be remembered, and we thank God for your time with us on this earth.
July 2, 2019
July 2, 2019
Ky,
All we have left are the memories bro. All we can do now is continue to pray for you, which I do. i miss you my brother.
June 29, 2019
June 29, 2019
Sad and Sudden was the call. One Year ago, you were called to rest. Today recalls the memory of those who knew you, loved you and were blessed to have connected with you on this side of eternity. The flowers laid upon the grave may wither, the tributes and music now silent, but nothing can ever take away the memories, these linger each day, your kindly words for everyone, your smile and pleasant manner lighting up the world wherever you went.
Kayode, as you continue to sleep peacefully, your memories we shall always keep with us. Rest well my brother.
June 28, 2019
June 28, 2019
K, l am still in shock. God knows best. l recall some of the projects we worked on together : Arrows of God orphanage, Pan Atlantic University.The Motivational Reality Videos. They were fun and very fulfilling. You were truly a very dependable friend/ brother and l miss you dearly. Continue to rest in perfect peace. May God give Nana and Tolu the strength to carry on ln Jesus name Amen.
June 24, 2019
June 24, 2019
Dear Kayode, can't believe its already a year since you passed away. Fondly remembered. Glad we met. Your friend turns 70 in a few weeks by God's Grace...no doubt you would have been in attendance... but we know you will be smiling down on that day...enjoying the musical performances lol!. Continue to rest in peace.
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
365 days ago heaven gained a new star. I am still inspired by your kindness and warmth to everyone you encountered.
Paths cannot be taught only taken...find your gift, then give it away...those words a very comforting as I continue to push ahead in life... This world misses you greatly but we are comforted by your legacy.
Continue to rest in power our egbon Kayode Fahm.
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
Hey Kayode. Your journey on earth remains a reference point for significant, purposeful lives. GOD bless you, my friend, and GOD bless and uphold your loved ones. Continue to rest in perfect peace. Amen.
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
Dear Kayode,
Leyla (Tolulope) is making you proud. We pray that God will continue to comfort and heal her heart, because we know you’ll want her to be happy. We trust that you are reigning in peace
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
Surreal is what this is! Saturday 23 June 2018 feels just like yesterday, except it is a full year back, when I checked in with you as I normally did and you mentioned not feeling too well & was going to rest. And take your eternal rest you did buddy...you are now resting with the angels and we, your loved ones, are still coming to terms with the cruel hand of death. You slipped away peacefully, just as you lived, and on reflection I think just how beautiful that passing was! I thank God for you...for the person you were...the great dad, son, uncle, friend, mentor and colleague to so many of us. Your physical presence is missed all over the world yet we know you still live in our hearts - forever in our hearts and never to be forgotten! What a beautiful friend you were to me and I today I celebrate our friendship. Rest in eternal peace my friend❤️
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
Dear Cousin,its already a year !just like yesterday. Thankfully I remember you with utmost fondness and grateful for the times past. I miss you greatly 'egbon mi' keep resting in peace.
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
The head of our family, my friend & my partner. There are just no words, but that you are truly missed. Rest in peace my First love x.
June 23, 2019
June 23, 2019
23/06/18 14:42pm. I didn’t know those 24 minutes on the phone would be the last time I heard your voice. There’s not much to say except that I miss you and I will always miss you. You are one in a million, a spirit irreplaceable and all I want to do now is make you proud. Rest in Peace, Daddy. X
January 16, 2019
January 16, 2019
I had the honour of knowing this man. He was inspirational, warm, and lived life to the full. He touched many lives, and we are lucky that we can see on the internet just how passionate he was about music , his family, and enjoying the gifts we are given in this life. Rest in Peace dear friend, you are very loved and remembered.
January 15, 2019
January 15, 2019
Hmm Dear Cuz.......really lost for words.... the new year is here, your birthday passed without hearing that voice. Al I can say is that it is well! Miss you so much...
January 13, 2019
January 13, 2019
Happy Birthday Daddy. There are no words, but that I miss you every day. xx
January 13, 2019
January 13, 2019
May your soul continue to rest in peace Kayode. Happy birthday to you today, as I remember you in a happy way.
October 12, 2018
October 12, 2018
I am very heartbroken to hear of the death of my friend ky.
For almost a decade whilst he was working in london we became very close friends. He came into my gym in london back in '89...I'm a competitive bodybuilder...and quietly watched me training intensly until one day he approached me and asked if he could join in. Normally i NEVER train with anyone, but there was something about his aura, so i welcomed him. That was the beginning of our years of friendship. In fact i went to his wedding, where i was supposed to have sang. I also sing...and i remember encouraging him to pursue his guitar training! I also shared the news of his new born daughter with him...& met his beloved mother! The other interest we both shared were comics. He was into the kung fu chronologies...i was into conan. In fact i introduced him to my comic book shop in tottenham, london. It would honour me to have contact with his family...especially his daughter... as i have some pics of us together when he accompanied me to one of my contests.
But once again my very most heartfelt condolences to his family.
-Paul Simpson
September 7, 2018
September 7, 2018
OMG, am still in shock I never knew that will be the end.
we spoke on the 22nd and he was full of life. Tolulope may Almighty God comfort you and your Mum. May his gentle soul rest in peace
August 21, 2018
August 21, 2018
Kay, hai toccato il mio cuore in un modo speciale. Fa male che te ne sei andato. Possa tu riposare in pace nel Bossom del Signore
August 14, 2018
August 14, 2018
It's really sad to see this... but I know you will always be remembered.
May your soul RIP.
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Kayode's legacy of kindness, wisdom, and passion continues to inspire. Forever remembered, forever missed.
His Life

Kayode's Early Life – Growing Up

June 26, 2018
by T Fahm

Although born in Nigeria, Kayode left the country when he was just 1yr old and spent most of his early childhood growing up in Zambia with some brief stints in Kenya and Tanzania. His father was a UK qualified barrister and had taken up an appointment as a senior legal advisor to the Zambian Government. This was the golden age of his family life with expatriate privileges and so much carefree fun and adventure and it was also during this period that Kayode discovered Marvel Comics and the superhero. 

At the age of seven, Kayode was sent, together with his siblings, to boarding school in England. Kayode and his older brother attended a prep school in Wiltshire called Prior Park where Kayode was introduced to a broad range of disciplines, one of which was music and the violin. Kayode took to the violin and played it right through to his late teens and up to grade eight. It was during this period that He also happened upon a fictional book in the library called Master of Kung Fu. Kayode did not proceed to the senior secondary school in Somerset like his brother did but attended a grammar school in London called St Marylebone which, being in the city, opened up different opportunities.

Kayode began to earnestly take up martial art studies side by side with his academic studies from the age of 11 inspired by the legendary Bruce Lee and the seventies Hong Kong cinema. He studied Wing Chun Kuen with Master Victor Kan, Muay Thai and Tae Kwon Do with Master Ken Wah and Wu style Tai Chi Chuan with Master Peter Chen Kayode also took up the viola from the age of 13 and played it side by side with the violin for about 5 years and researched and imbibed Bruce Lee’s Jeet Kune Do concept in every aspect of his life. 

After sitting and passing his GCE O and A-levels, Kayode decided to study Mathematics at Imperial College, London University. When He left for University Kayode decided that he had become somewhat bored of classical music and really did not want to play the violin or the viola anymore despite the fact that his school music teacher had told him in earlier years that he would end up a musician. During his undergraduate college years, Kayode started listening to Modern Jazz and Jazz Fusion and discovered artists such as Earl Klugh, Pat Metheney and Bob James, Kayode also taught Wing Chun Kung Fu and Kick Boxing after lectures and became interested in weight training.

1986 – 1995

June 26, 2018
by T Fahm

Kayode graduated from Imperial in 1986 with a B.Sc in Mathematics and a diploma from the Royal College of Science. Rather than do a Masters, He decided to join Arthur Andersen to gain some practical life and work experience and to start earning some money. Despite exposure to the Audit, Tax, Insolvency and Consulting divisions, Kayode found the work quite uninspiring and tedious and the long journeys (jobs) away from home (including the dojo and the gym,) quite unbearable. He left AA the following year to join Morgan Stanley as an associate in their derivatives division. This was his first exposure to the capital markets and to finance, as opposed to accounting, and Kayode really enjoyed the more dynamic environment and culture and especially took to the battlefield that was the financial markets taking place on the dealing room floors. 

After watching Wall St, which had just come out, starring Michael Douglas, Kayode realized that taking calculated risk was the best and quickest way for him to achieve financial independence and pursue his dreams; he decided at this point that he wanted to ‘Trade’. This would prove elusive at Morgan Stanley, which was a blue blood firm with a very competitive culture. The opportunity would present itself 4 years later at Goldman Sachs, which Kayode joined in March of 1990. Goldman was just entering the European space and presented an amazing culture of excellence layered with humility and very effective teamwork. His outstanding performance soon after joining caught the attention of one of the Chief dealers in the Fixed Income division and Kayode was offered a position on the money market trading desk and later given the sole desk mandate to take proprietary positions (i.e. take outright risk) on currencies and fixed income instruments up to 2 years. Additionally, after many years of listening to guitar music, Kayode decided to take up the guitar, first learning the steel string method, which included chords, pentatonic scales and soloing, and later, when Kayode met Spanish guitarist Fernando Briones Villar, the classical approach, which was a major turning point in his life. Kayode had a very successful career at Goldman Sachs executing some of the largest transactions at the firm at the time, including two one Billion US dollar trades, and was made an Executive Director in 1994 at the age of 29. During this time, Kayode was also asked to speak regularly to new entry level MBAs from schools such as Harvard, Stanford and Wharton on the Capital Markets and how to trade them and held quite a number of stretching, relaxation and fitness classes, after markets had closed, in the in-house gym to help traders to better manage their exposures.

1995 – 1999

June 26, 2018
by T Fahm

Kayode was head hunted from Goldman Sachs by the National Commercial Bank of Saudi Arabia in 1995 to set up a Hedge Fund based out in Jeddah to trade the international capital markets on a global macro basis. This was a Greenfield start-up that involved setting up the business architecture, including the IT and Operational platforms, as well as the middle office, including Risk Management and Financial Control. The final step was to hire a team of seasoned local and international proprietary traders. With the stress of building and running a business, including managing people, the guitar became an outlet to escape, forget and express his feelings; his teacher Fernando had returned to Spain so Kayode commenced private studies with the late Richard Hand, of the Hand / Dupre guitar duo, who Kayode was introduced to and started visiting once a month for lessons in London. 

Kayode would study with Richard for almost 14 years. Also during this period, he attended many leadership and people management training programs, workshops and seminars and ran many in-house and industry-wide capital market training courses. Kayode also taught mixed martial arts on weekends at a local sports club. This four year period in Saudi was the most challenging of his career, Kayode did not have the Goldman Sachs infrastructure, including tips from mentors and superiors to help support and guide him and very volatile financial markets tested his discipline and resolve, as well as his leadership and character, right to their core. It was an edifying period of immense personal, professional and spiritual growth.

Recent stories
January 31, 2019

Kayode Fahm was  one inspirational personality I longed to meet since the first time I read an article he wrote on career development in the now rested magazine " BOTTOM LINE" . I am very  shocked to have discovered today he passed on last year while I was researching on internet and came across someone else bearing his surname ( Abdulraheem Fahm of Visionscape). I suddenly remembered him and just typed Kayode Fahm into the browser search to check on what he is up to now and the first link that came up was this memorial site.  I can't just explain the motions now but rather than being demoralised I found greater motivation from the opening quote .You were a gift to this generation , to Nigeria, Africa and the world.  You life is an inspiration in being deliberate.,focused and passionate about the things we care and love. It is painful I never had the opportunity to meet you but I will always find consolation in the  legacy you have left behind for the world. May you worthy deeds keep resonating  to inspire all your admirers to leave the world a better place.RIP Mr Kayode FAHM.

Remembering Ky by Jack Kontou

October 13, 2018

I still can’t believe the news I received from my friend Paul (ky’s training partner).

Total shock, so, so sad.

I met ky back in the early 90’s in the gym training and we became friends from sharing the passion and love for the martial arts. We had many great conversations about martial arts and combat when he came to visit me at my Kung fu school. We also shared and exchanged many Kung fu films which we both loved. He had such a passion for life.

I will always remember he was a giant of a man with a smile to match.

Rest in peace my friend, you will always be remembered,my condolences to the family. Jack Kontou.


September 8, 2018
MR KAYODE FAHM, we meet in the church [The Elevation Nigeria]. then we became friends, he was a man of his word, a man with a large heart, a complete gentleman, always want the best for me and everyone around him. I remember when Tolu his daughter send him a song she was writing and working on, asking her daddy to listen to it and choose the best, we listen to it together and pick the best before I traveled when I came back you ask me to come and see you before you travel, I could not make it because I was tired and you said you understand, I told you we will see when you come back, I never knew that was going to be the end.
Mr. Kay, you told me you are going to Portharcourt, from there to London and back to Nigeria. I was wondering I did not hear from him since he told me he was traveling, I was trying to connect with him on social media but not successful after sending message, no reply, then I bump into this on google, OMG, am still in shock  I never knew that will be the end.

Tolulope may Almighty God comfort you and your Mum. May his gentle soul rest in peace

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