February 12, 2016
February 12, 2016
Barry, Wave that flag and ring those windchimes for Donald.
This memorial website is created by Donald Trisdale, his husband, in memory of our beloved:
KEN BARRY DYCHES
Barry passed into eternity on December 29, 2010, after a courageous battle with terminal brain cancer known as melanoma. Barry celebrated his 72nd birthday on December 12, 2010. His passing shocked many and left our world with one less loving, caring and loyal individual. His footprint remains in our hearts. We shall remember him FOREVER. All memorial tributes are deeply appreciated and can be individually created BELOW these stated red guidelines.
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"REMEMBERED DATES"
71. REMEMBERED EVERYDAY OF LIFE. FEBRUARY 14, 2023.
70. REMEMBERED FRIDAY, DECEMBER 29, 2023. Read our favorite verse this morning, walked the beach in glory with GOD and you, looking out over the ocean knowing you are there, here and everywhere I go. Another year moves us to this day, December 29th that we recognize the day you passed into the loving GRACE OF GOD’S ARMS. You are missed unbelievably not only by me but many, but we are all blessed to know you are now in the LORD’S glory. Truly a blessing we carry in our hearts and souls each day of the year. A light is always on for your presence.
69. REMEMBERED MONDAY, DECEMBER 25,2023. Knowing you live within us everyday of the year; a gift given to us by the birth of Jesus Christ.
68. REMEMBERED TUESDAY, DECEMBER 12TH. An 85th birthday of joy. We celebrated many together. You were always shy about your birthday, but I so enjoyed giving you cards and finding that special gifts or trips to celebrate your B.D. You always loved everything received and were so grateful. The dinners shared and surprise trips taken were awesome. Your favorite was the Concorde to Paris celebrating your 60th B.D. Difficult to imagine 13 more years passed since the last B.D. we shared together, but time is relative and almost like sand in a bottle. It flows quickly. I love each and every day of the year being with you, but on your special day, I am so thankful to our Lord that you came into the world, where our life's fused together, and we shared a loving life. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CAPTAIN, my Barry.
67. REMEMBERED, SUNDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2023. Reflecting today is our 55th wedding anniversary. Thirteen years past since our last celebration together. I miss those times, the smiles and laughter, and the sharing of loving moments. Memories are eternal treasures.
66. REMEMBERED Saturday, November 5, 2023. I wondered this evening and you were there in my mind and I wanted you to let you know you are in my thoughts and heart. Yes, still miss you unbelievably because of how much you loved me and how much I loved you.
65. REMEMBERED Thursday, December 29th, 2022. Christ's ascension into heaven on the 3rd day after his death; I know you are with him. Remembering your passing 12 years today as the Lord welcomed you into eternity life.
64. MERRY CHRISTMAS MY LOVE. DECEMBER 24, 2022
63. A Birthday to be Remembered:
............................, DECEMBER 12, 1938 on December 12, 2022.
62. REMEMBERED, SATURDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2022. Our anniversary - 46..........
61. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2022
I am so thankful for your love, companionship, friendship, and our marriage with the wonderful memories of your life.
60. REMEMBERED MONDAY, JULY 2022
YOU, are always and forever my Sunshine, the light of my life.
59. REMEMBERED MONDAY, FEBRUARY 2022
Always be my Valentine, FOREVER!
58. REMEMBERED WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 29, 2021
GOD gave us a special soul who walked the earth with purpose and always with grace.
57. REMEMBERED SUNDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2021
The day represents the day of your birth. We, (I), miss you and the celebrations we shared on your special day. Today, I give thanks to your life and all the memories you gave me and to others. We were so blessed to have your footprint on our hearts.
56. REMEMBERED FRIDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2021
The Present, Past, and Future. The years we SHARED. Now, on this day and date-45 years
55. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2021
Thanksgiving Day.
We have so much to give thanks too this year. Yes, we did lose so many, but please join me in knowing they are everlasting life and with others we have loved, cherish, and honored each day in our memories. Your love is everlasting, and lets march forward, knowing they hold our hand wishing us a wonderful day. You are loved! How do I know this? God told me so! I love you all, and know your heart hurts. Turn inward and toward your gift of love and forgiving, and all will be well. Barry touched my hand in those last moments, opened his eyes, grinned somehow, and whispered “I love you”. He walked with GOD’s angels.
54. REMEMBERED MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 2021.
The last few days I wandered along our path, holding your hand to reduce the fright of being without you. Your strong hand in mine chased my demons far. You never knew how your strength saved me and others. Soon, I will have traveled 75 years; 11 years without your hand holding me near so I don’t fall off life’s cliff into the deep blue sea of eternal life. Because you loved me, never did you let go of my hand. Now, I remain walking in life’s forest with my hand always trying to put my hand back into yours. Almost eleven years passed struggling, yearning to clasp your hand of strength. So strong it was, the power of your hand continues to give me strength to struggle forward, knowing I will catch up with you soon, and once again grasp your hand again - in your care. I love you and miss you even greater as the years pass more than I ever thought was possible.
53. REMEMBERED TUESDAY, MAY 11 2021.
Some days are more filled with your words, and today you had so many words. Not only did I hear you, I felt your presence as I watched over and beyond the ocean. Why are some days so surreal and personal? I love those days. You and me.
52. REMEMBERED SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2021.
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51. REMEMBERED, TEN YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF PASSING, DECEMBER 29 2010
Today, return thoughts and the reality of your suffering in those last minutes until your eternal life. Though many have more pleasant life memories of you as I do, this day seems to never fade those horrific moments of seeing you passing. Our friend Pam held my hand as we both watched in disbelief this was happening. My heart remains in this felt pain but I fight each day for remembering you are no longer in pain, and doing GOD's work. I love you even more if that is possible, and hold on tight to the extraordinary memories knowing and being so grateful for the love you gave me and the friendship embraced to others.
50. REMEMBERED, CHRISTMAS, DECEMBER 25, 2020
Dearly missed, and loved. Ten years made of so many days of reflection of your love, and the times we spent with each other. Not only I, but so many hearts you touched, and still do.
49. REMEMBERED, BIRTHDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2020.
SUCH A DAY OF MEMORIES. TODAY, WOULD BE YOUR 82nd BIRTHDAY. YOU WERE ALWAYS SHY OF ATTENTION, BUT SO WORTHY OF ALL. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU DEEPLY. MAY THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT BE YOUR THIS SPECIAL DAY, AND IN DAYS / YEARS TO COME.
LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, GENEROSITY, FAITHFULNESS, GENTLENESS, AND SELF-CONTROL ARE WORDS I SPIRITUALLY THINK OF WHEN I FEEL AND REFLECT MY LOVE OF YOU.
48, REMEMBERED OUR ANNIVERSARY DECEMBER 10, 2020.
EACH DAY IS LIKE AN ANNIVERSARY, KNOWING YOUR LOVE, RESPECT, AND CARING WAYS. YET, TRADITION ONLY CELEBRATES IT ONCE A YEAR. THIS YEAR, TEN YEARS SINCE I SAW THAT HUMAN SMILE, THOUGH I SEE IT OFTEN IN DIFFERENT VENUES. THIS DAY IS CELEBRATED IN A SPIRITUAL EVERLASTING LOVE REPRESENTING 52 YEARS OF KNOWING AN ANGEL ON EARTH. FOR ME, IT WAS A MIRACLE I GOT TO WALK WITH YOU AS LONG AS I DID. i MISS THAT GIFT I WAS GIVEN EVER SO MORE!
47. REMEMBERED THANKSGIVING DAY, 2020...TEN YEARS AGO.
OUR LAST THANKSGIVING WITH YOU IN OUR HOSPITAL ROOM/HOME...LITTLE DID WE KNOW IT WOULD BE OUR LAST THOUGH WE KNEW IT WAS EXTREMELY SPECIAL - YOU, HARLEN AND ME, AND YOUR ANGELS. A HUNDRED YEARS WILL PASS, I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER OUR LOVE AND BE SO THANKFUL. WE WERE SO BLESSED BY GOD
46, REMEMBERED SUNDAY, APRIL 12, 2020, EASTER SUNDAY
45. REMEMBERED FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2020. HAPPY VALENTRINES DAY.
44. REMEMBERED WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 01,2020.....
Begin another year; 10 years without you December 29, 2020! Unbelievable!
43. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, DECEMBER 27, 2019.
I am so saddened and sorry for the pain you experienced for me. Nine years later, I feel you, touch you, and enjoy all the memories you created for us. I love you Barry.
42. REMEMBERED WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 25, 2019. CHRISTMAS EVE AND DAY.
Christmas Eve, Christmas Day.....Yes, I love you and yes it is a difficult time even after nine years. The church activities, parties, and sharing time with so many people we enjoyed over the years are such glorious Christmas gifts. Yet, the loneliness and sorrow I feel is helplines and weak as I move to the glorious day without you. Holding your hand in Church, and praying together, and saying to each other “I love You”, hearing that voice of security, warmth, and never ending love is breath taking even after nine years of not hearing your words.
41. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2019. ARE YOU REALLY 81?
TODAY, came so quickly, another year. HAPPY BIRTHDAY. Alone, yet surrounded by so many loved ones who knew us. I know we are both here together, where we would have been by now with each other on our island settling back and enjoying the “good life.” I got us here this year. We are all here now — Listening to a song that came out a few years ago, entitled, “ Pontoon “ by Little Big Town; a song made for us drinking a few beers on a special day. Barry, I love you so much, and after 9 years, I can hardly stand it still not being with you, especially on this day. I am trying so hard to accept our faith that life is an eternity, but it is a challenge. I just want to be with you. Life is nothing anymore without you. I promised you I would go on, but I have failed that promise. I am still so mad, and miserable with life without you. Sorry, sweetie. I will keep working on it. Today is a special day and I am so thankful I was a part of your life and so loved by you.. Of course, playing our song tonight, “Sea of Love”. How much do I love you? More than my life or any measurement of life. My heart is so full tonight. Does anyone understand except YOU? LOVING YOU FOR ETERNITY! ... We are at home, you, the babies and me, and even J.C. You know were I am and you are with me. This will be our final resting place on this beautiful earth GOD gave to us. Took me nine years to get us here, but I never gave up, struggled, prayed a lot for help, and kept focused. We are now home on earth, and we will both be home for eternity in the future.
40. REMEMBERED TUESDAY, DECEMBER 10TH 2019
We would have celebrated our 43rd anniversary, on December 10th 2019. In some ways, it has been a long nine years since we celebrated the moment/day we joined our lives together. It wasn’t enough time to enjoy our togetherness. I miss you so deeply. Still trying to understand the whys’ and what ifs’, but continue to come back to the reality that I won’t see you till we are united in God's house and then it will be for eternity. So my faith will get me back to you and that is all that matters. I love you, miss you, and always thinking about YOU!
u always, especially on this special day, DEC 10, 2019. Happy Anniversary!
39. REMEMBERED THURS, NOVEMBER 28, 2019.
A blessing so many happy full days together giving thanks and being grateful for the love we shared. I will never stop loving you and missing your love.
38. REMEMBERED MAY MEMORIAL DAY MAY 27 2019.
SEE STORIES WHY BARRY IS REMEMBERED ON MEMORIAL DAY - HIS DEVOTION AND SERVICE CAUSED HIS DEATH.
37. REMEMBERED MAY 10, 2019 .........
A MEMORY TONIGHT -A SPIRITUAL FEELING. Tonight, is not a special night for most, but some spirituals swirling about within me, and feeling your presence. More intense tonight than usual, and this spiritual feeling woke me. Are you near? I feel your presence - all day actually. Ended up becoming extremely emotional tonight. Maybe because after nine years, I opened a bottle of red wine we won at a NASCAR Jeff Gordon Auction. Some time ago in the moves after your new journey I broke one of Jeff Gordon’s red wine glasses. Kept the broken one, and it sits next to yours, and I used your glass. The corks are becoming dry, plus I just for some reason wanted to have a glass of red wine - a stirring of feelings for you! You are here tonight. Listening to music, and for some reason, many of our songs are playing. The music is streaming wi-fi songs that are played randomly. Guess you are playing, because one after another are all the songs we listened to as you drove me to work, as we drove watching the world pass by our car windows. A very powerful spiritual evening. Thank you my darling angel Barry. I love you and miss you so and very deeply.
.36. REMEMBERED FEBRUARY 14 2019.
Thinking of our wonderful Valentine memories of years past. Each were so special. I love you and always will. You are forever my Captain Valentine.”
35. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 29, 2018
Though I live with this empty feeling every day, it is more prominent today. In 2023 on this day, 8 years ago you entered eternal life. I would get in bed with you, and kiss a final goodbye. I would play that moment in my mind forever. As our dear enduring friend, Pam stood and witnessed this passing, catching me afterward, hugging me, and then she said a final goodbye as well. Then she left the room to fetch the nurses. We had our last final moment together, but not so fast - we have so many more dreams, and moments I knew you created.. This all plays out in my mind constantly. I love you so Barry. You are so missed my darling.
34, REMEMBERED DECEMBER 25, 2018 .
Christmas 2018. Thinking of you and where we were eight years ago. Time growing short as WE (PAM AND I) watched you sleep peacefully (breathing heavenly) in the hospital bed. You had gone to sleep a few days earlier, and sharing with me it was time for me to make the decisions. You closed your eyes and you never spoke again. A moment in time I shall take with me forever. I knew what you meant, and as I looked at you indefinitely, and I thought.....well, I will keep that to myself, since you already know. I am sure you heared me tell you continuously I will always love you forever, and I do. Enduring moments, and I hope you heard Pam and I talking till the end. You are and will always be my super hero, and the best Christmas present I ever received in my life. "GOD BLESS YOU BARRY" and I LOVE YOU MORE THAN EVER.
33. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 12, 2018.
Happy Birthday!
Today, your 80th birthday, some eight years since your journey after life started. How is this possible? It is so unreal/surreal, and I have such difficulty understanding you are not here. I miss you so deeply, the pain became a numbness. Today, you are so on my mind, not much difference from any other day of the year, but today, I get to dream you were born, and came into my life for us to be one. A glorious gift given by you to me on your birthday. Barry, there is only one like you, and I was so fortunate to be married to you. You gave the gift of life, "your love". and my dearest human being. When you were alive, I could never express how deeply I loved you and appreciated who you were....still words limit my expression and lost of this gift. You were/are the best person in my life that has walked on the earth I live. I pray every day on this earth, I will walk beside you once again. I know you are here. I watch for you, and hear you with those pennies, and dimes you drop for me to find. Oh sweetie, I love you so. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
32. REMEMERED DECEMBER 10 2018.
Our anniversary would have been today, December 10th, 2 days before your birthday. Both dates are difficult times, but always remembered. I love you so much, and miss you more today than those first days you had to say good-bye. I use this day, like many trying to think of our good times, but being weak, slip often back to moments in the hospital and how sick you were. Barry, I know you visit alot, and I truly feel your presence; I love you being near when you can. Never stop being around. I need you more than ever. Only one request, please be there when it is time and reach out for my hand. I love you forever, forever, and forever. Today, our 44th anniversary and I am still here without YOU!. Unbelievable.
31. REMEMBERED NOVEMBER 22 2018.
You are always here and remembered. As we start another holiday season, my love for you is stronger than ever before. I reflect over so many wonderful holidays, and think how fortunate to share so many. Hearing your voice and seeing the smiles you shared with the world brings the reality you walked with us for years. Often I reach out and touch your face just to waken and realize it was a dream, but I am so blessed to dream of a past reality.
30. REMEMBRED SEPTEMBER 10 2018 .
Today, I am 72. My day is filled with memories of being with you, sharing you with no one on previous birthdays. You always took the day off, and you would prepare a lovely breakfast, and we would watch together my favorite movie "The Way We Were", starring Robert Redford. Afterwards, a very busy day ahead full of surprises. Always, we ended with a fabulous romantic dinner, and most of the time attending a play, symphony concert, or a movie holding hands. I missed you, and our together times, laughter, and most of all just looking at you with such pride. I can't help to think today though, when you turned 72, on December 12, you only had 17 days left, and we could only share it together with you lying in bed so sick. At that time time, we did not know why this had happened so quickly, nor why. But, since then, I have found out, that you gave your life for our country being exposed to Agent Orange while in the service. All the ships you were assigned too were exposed to Agent Orange during the Vietnam Crisis/War. A substance many years later recognized by our government exposure meant most often cancer that was terminal. It was for you like so many and so early for the man I loved so much. Thank you for those nine years of Navy Service, and for giving the ultimate, your life. I am and so many so indebted to your sacrifice, and my loss. I love you Liteunant Commander, and miss you every day, but today is extra difficult.
29. REMEMBERED APRIL 1, 2018.
Celebrated Harlen's 38th B.D. We shared memories of past birthdays when you were here.
28. REMEMBERED FEBRUARY 14, 2018.
You are always my Valentine as you have always known. Using this day to remember your thoughtfulness and the love you shared with me not only on this day but each day of our lives together. We truly embraced a living, real fairy tale of respectful love for the days we endured together. Thank you. You gave me a lifetime gift. An everlasting Happy Valentine memory, my darling Captain.
27. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 29, 2017.
Seven years ago, along with Pam, I watched you leave and I shall never forget that moment as I said goodbye to the love of my life. Life without you is unexplainable. I quit trying to understand it because I just miss you so much. Nothing is right. I love you.
26. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 12, 2017.
Today we celebrate Barry's 79th birthday. Seven years have passed since entering the eternity gates. I miss you more than ever as everyone who you touched in life. A true giant void in the universe was created by your passing, but we shall always remember the gift of your birth that was created on this day. We all wish today we could have spent more time with you, but always cherish the moments we endured within your present. May your angel wings spread love and joy to more. You were a true blessing and for me an angel who walked among us.
25.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 10, 2017.
We would celebrate our 45th ANNIVERSARY ON THIS DAY. You are here with me tonight like so many evenings. I feel you.
24. REMEMBERED: NOVEMBER 23, 2017
THANKSGIVING DAY. The days before and the days after ALWAYS.
23.REMEMBERED: 4 JULY 201723. REMEMBERED: JUNE 18, 2017:
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY, BARRY.I love you so and miss you.
22. REMEMBERED: February 14, 2017
Another Valentines year without you. I did not write on this year's valentine day because it was more painful than ever. It has taken me until today to write to you, plus a song, plus you visiting me today. Even some TV technicians said there are spirits in the house. Of course, I know it's you. I just smiled and said you are okay. "He wants to make sure you are not going to hurt me." It was not a good year, but they are never are even great things do happen. I just miss the love of my life, and my life is no life without you. You are always my Valentine each day. A day does not go by without you being my first and last thought. Your love still touches me as it always will till I can no longer touch your love, and then I will be with you again. Thank you for your eternal love Barry.
21. REMEMBERED: FEBRUARY 14, 2016
VALENTINES DAY...Five years after receiving a wonderful and loving messages of your love. You were the most wonderful writer of special love messages. Thank you, and I miss them so dearly. I have one of the first photographs you and I have together, and what a wonderful Valentine's gift. We can thank Francine for this great gift.
20. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 29, 2016
SIX YEARS (DECEMBER 29, 2010 @ 8:28 PM) since we said our FINAL goodbye to each other. A difficult day, because of remembering how ill and how much pain you ended life. I tried everything to keep your pain away. I am so sorry and miss you each day of the year.
19. REMEMBERED CHRISTMAS 2016.....DEC 12, 2016 Birthday....
Loving you always, and forever!. You are the first, the last, and my everything.
18. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 10, 2016 - ANNIVERSARY...
As our song tells us, "You're my first, my last, my everything. The only one like you, there could not be another like you." I love you. Where did the time go for us? Missing you more than ever, and our tradition of having breakfast at the Bel-Air Hotel to kick off our special day. Remembering the anniversary that morning at the Bel-Air when we met our favorite actress Meryl Streep. She hugged us both!
17. REMEMBERED: THANKSGIVING DAY 24, 2016
Tis the season again, and difficult times of the year without you. It is coming up six years Dec.29, 2016, since I last saw you; of course, I see you each day in my memories and talk to you daily. I miss you and am so lonely without you! It is not a real life without you. I travel often, but the reality wherever I go is without you, and knowing that makes it so sad. Still, in disbelief, you are gone.
16. REMEMBERED: SEPTEMBER 10,2016
My birthday. ON A GREECE TRIP PROMISED TO TAKE ME ON. I DID IT.
15. REMEMBERED January 19, 2016.
-Misty, our beloved BOSTON TERRIER, the LOVE OF OUR family passed at the age of 10.
14. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 14, 2015
Your still my loving and FOREVER VALENTINE.
13. REMEMBERED: SEPTEMBER 10, 2015.
12. REMEMBERED: NOVEMBER 26, 2015
ANOTHER THANKSGIVING DAY WITHOUT YOU...Found OUR SONG: "SEA OF LOVE"...How many times did we think of these words when I was at Berkeley and you in Nashville - separated by distance? We both thought the week would never end till one of us flew toward each other. We purchased American Airlines those three months.
11. REMEMBERED: December 10, 2015
42nd anniversary. Our birth...Its been five years, and I am still in shock without you, sometimes not believing you're gone, and other times realizing reality. Guess you know how much I miss you; of course, the hardest day is near, your birthday. But, today, it was our day, and we had so many special memories of this day. Never forget the morning of our 35th anniversary when we had a loving morning at the Bell-Air Hotel, relaxing outside having the most extravagant breakfast one could think of eating; setting in our round booth overlooking the beautiful swans in the pond, and then looking around to see one of our most famous movie stars, Meryl Streep, who looked up at us, hosted a glass and toasted to us. Our waiter who we had known for years, had shared with her we were celebrating our anniversary. She sent us a note, telling us congratulations. What a morning - a never unforgettable moment absolutely loving, a celebration day. Thank you, darling. I love you then, now, and forever. Thank you for everything, but most of all, your unconditional love for our entire life together.Your Sport, Donald.
10.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12, 2015
Anniversary. LOVE YOU, CAPTAIN.
9.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 24, 2015
My best gift ever was YOU! Have fantasies of the door opening and there you are standing with your loving smile, and telling me, " I'M HOME!
7.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 29, 2015 - MEMORIES:
FIVE YEARS WITHOUT YOU...Like yesterday in so many ways. Where are the days, I KNOW NOT. Each day I watch for you with the flag, the hummingbirds, and often feel your presence. In MY HEART I know you are near. I love you for eternity.
6. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 14,2015
Your still my loving and FOREVER VALENTINE.
5. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 29, 2014
4 yrs now passed. Sad memory!
4. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12,2013
Another year, again, thinking of you the day you were born. Love YOU ever so much!
3. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12, 2012
As long as I live without YOU.........I love you, Barry...Thinking of you the day you were born.
2. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12,2011
Where does the year go? Thinking of you on the day born.
1. REMEMBERED: JAN 1, 2011.
Started a new year without you. I can't stand it.
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February 12, 2016
February 12, 2016
Dear Barry, I did not have the pleasure of knowing but I have only heard great things about you. I met Donald a few years ago by fate. He strolled into my life and salon and have been great friends since. I honestly have to say that you are talked about very often and are desrly loved and missed.
February 12, 2016
February 12, 2016
Dear Barry, you and Donald shared a special love that most people don't experience......even tho you are not with him, that love lives on....I always remember you with love.....continue to watch over your dear Donald. Francine
February 11, 2016
February 11, 2016
Another Valentine's Day come and gone again without you, the beautiful love messages received not only on this day, but almost each week, if not each day. You gave me Valentine's Day not once a year but each week. What a love I had. You, were the best writer of love messages, and had such a way of conveying your expressions of love. Thank you.
This year brings, however, another heart breaker, I will see this year not only without you, and your deepest felt love of affection, but also the lost of our most precious "Misty". She passed January 15th unexpectedly on her birthday, and I know with all my heart you caught her. Thank you, and it was my Valentines' Gift you gave me knowing you caught her, and now hold her for us.
She was something else. I would have not made it this far after you left without her. Not sure were this leaves me now, do YOU? Misty lived with us for 48 days straight in our wonderful hospital living/bedroom, only leaving the room for a convenience walk. She laid on top of your bed at your feet the night you transitioned; I was setting in a chair holding your hand, and you moved your foot just so slightly, and touched her; she moved between your legs, and moved her head on top of your legs, and as she did, you were gone. You let go of my hand, and Misty raised her head and looked at me, and I knew you were traveling.
Tonight, I know you two are traveling together, and I want you to know she was our best. As you always said, she was special, and she was till the end. She never left me after you started your travels, and she tried so hard not to leave. She was cremated and her ashes will be combined with ours and flown into the wind over the Pacific Ocean along with all of them and my dad.
The house is so empty once again, but yet all of you are so around. I know, I feel you guys. Just so weak in wishing I could touch, yet I know you guys touch me often at night, because I sense it, and i wake only to find you afar, but so near.
This year brings, however, another heart breaker, I will see this year not only without you, and your deepest felt love of affection, but also the lost of our most precious "Misty". She passed January 15th unexpectedly on her birthday, and I know with all my heart you caught her. Thank you, and it was my Valentines' Gift you gave me knowing you caught her, and now hold her for us.
She was something else. I would have not made it this far after you left without her. Not sure were this leaves me now, do YOU? Misty lived with us for 48 days straight in our wonderful hospital living/bedroom, only leaving the room for a convenience walk. She laid on top of your bed at your feet the night you transitioned; I was setting in a chair holding your hand, and you moved your foot just so slightly, and touched her; she moved between your legs, and moved her head on top of your legs, and as she did, you were gone. You let go of my hand, and Misty raised her head and looked at me, and I knew you were traveling.
Tonight, I know you two are traveling together, and I want you to know she was our best. As you always said, she was special, and she was till the end. She never left me after you started your travels, and she tried so hard not to leave. She was cremated and her ashes will be combined with ours and flown into the wind over the Pacific Ocean along with all of them and my dad.
The house is so empty once again, but yet all of you are so around. I know, I feel you guys. Just so weak in wishing I could touch, yet I know you guys touch me often at night, because I sense it, and i wake only to find you afar, but so near.
December 31, 2015
December 31, 2015
I love you always and miss you so much. You will live forever in my heart
December 29, 2015
December 29, 2015
You are so missed and never forgotten. Your my first, my last, and my everything.
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12-29-2015
December 29, 2015
December 29, 2015
This is a day I will spend quietly reflecting on the importance of being true to oneself; and the rich friendships that can result when you feel free to be you. My only regret is that Barry, Donald, and I didn't have more of those special times to share. He was the best. Barry, I hope you know how much I admired and loved you... /JF
December 29, 2015
December 29, 2015
As everyday I live, a candle is lighted to honor your LOVE and your LIFE.
December 29, 2015
December 29, 2015
Barry, you are always in my heart........it was my honor to know you.....
Francine
Francine
December 23, 2015
December 23, 2015
I just saw all the wonderful pics and wonderful comments left by your wonderful nieces. It made my day and Christmas 2015. Tanya left some great pics of them. Fabulous. You r so loved and so terribly missed Barry. Not sure how we got to this point but here we are. It will soon be FIVE years since I laid on the bed with you and told you goodbye. Seems like yesterday and yet sometimes a dream that never happen. Last night I dream about you but every time I thought I was going to see you u disappeared. I know you were in the room and I don't care if they think I am crazy. You were there.
December 23, 2015
December 23, 2015
Rembering all the Christmas memories we shared. We had so many and they help me struggle throug the day. I love Barry.
12-25-2015.
12-25-2015.
December 12, 2015
December 12, 2015
SATURDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2015. Your would have been YOUR DAY that GOD gave you to the World and your journey toward me.
I have really nothing new to say except I wish I could say Happy Birthday to you with a kiss and hug. So deeply missed. You are better than the best.
It's been now five years since that last birthday. As other pretended you were getting better I knew it was my last birthday with you. The pain was greater than I could bear like today.
I have really nothing new to say except I wish I could say Happy Birthday to you with a kiss and hug. So deeply missed. You are better than the best.
It's been now five years since that last birthday. As other pretended you were getting better I knew it was my last birthday with you. The pain was greater than I could bear like today.
December 12, 2015
December 12, 2015
Happy Birthday, Barry! This is our special day, and I wish you were still here for us to share it, but I am thinking of you, and I am very grateful to have Donald with me today. We will share memories of you. You were and are loved, and I know you continue to watch over your beloved Donald. I wish you peace.
December 12, 2015
December 12, 2015
Good morning, Barry, on this anniversary of your birth. I can't imagine that you'd be 77 yo today. In my mind you are ageless. You know when one shares a lifeboat together as we did in the East Bay...that co-dependency nurtures a bond that remains with me to this day. I learned so much from you while we were in the trenches. Today, what I choose to remember, however, is your TN accent, your smile, and how easily you could blush. Your sense of humor. Your great taste. So well- turned out, no matter what, a true Southern gentleman you were. Did you know, that I loved you then. Still do... Take care, Barry and Donald. /JF
December 12, 2015
December 12, 2015
I'm thinking of you today Donald and Barry.
Donald misses you so much Barry, but he puts on such a brave front.
He sees you in all the special and the quiet things of life.
I look forward to seeing Donald in January,
You are always with us Barry.
Donald misses you so much Barry, but he puts on such a brave front.
He sees you in all the special and the quiet things of life.
I look forward to seeing Donald in January,
You are always with us Barry.
December 12, 2015
December 12, 2015
Happy Birthday, Barry! Even though we never met you, we still want to tell you how loved and missed you are. Especially by your sweetheart Donald. We just love him with all our hearts and we are thinking about both of you today. With SO much love - Kristy, Teresa, Ralph, and Abraham
December 12, 2015
December 12, 2015
Happy Birthday to my always favorite, most sweet and loving, not to mention entertaining and funny, Uncle any girl could ever have. We share the same birth month (you 12/12, me 12/21) so I will always think of you in our birth month. I miss you so much, take comfort in knowing and experiencing your unconditional love, and can only imagine the pain your sweet and precious Donald has endured over these past years. Uncle Barry, you truly made a difference in our world, we love you and miss you always <3U Tana
December 10, 2015
December 10, 2015
Thinking of you, dear Barry, today, on what would be your and Donald's 42nd Anniversary.......love lives on.......you two will always be connected.....I know you are watching over him with love.....you are missed always......love you, Francine
December 9, 2015
December 9, 2015
12-10-2015
Such a memory today. Can't believe I still live without your physical being. I know you are around, and hope you never leave. You stay to make sure I am okay. I feel your presence. I listen, look, smell, and watch for signs, like my hummingbirds, wind blowing our flag, and ringing the hummingbirds chime without any wind. Your there I know. I feel the light breeze that crosses our bed at 2am in the morning, and movement in the room, the curtains blowing without air in the room, Misty looking around, moaning, knowing you are there. I love you, miss you, and you are never forgotten. Happy Anniversary darling. My love for you stronger today than 42 years ago. What a wonderful angel you are.Love, Donald
Such a memory today. Can't believe I still live without your physical being. I know you are around, and hope you never leave. You stay to make sure I am okay. I feel your presence. I listen, look, smell, and watch for signs, like my hummingbirds, wind blowing our flag, and ringing the hummingbirds chime without any wind. Your there I know. I feel the light breeze that crosses our bed at 2am in the morning, and movement in the room, the curtains blowing without air in the room, Misty looking around, moaning, knowing you are there. I love you, miss you, and you are never forgotten. Happy Anniversary darling. My love for you stronger today than 42 years ago. What a wonderful angel you are.Love, Donald
November 26, 2015
November 26, 2015
Thinking of you as usual, but espically on this special dat THANKSGIVING DAY. I am so deeply thankful I had you and such wonderful, happy, and loving Thanksgiving Days. We were so blessed in GOD's love. I love you, miss you terribly.
Spending the day in Palm Springs with two new friends, Bob and Harvey, Pam and I met on the Queen Mary2 a couple of years ago. They r hosting a Thanksgiving Day Dinner. This is my first outing for this special day since you crossover.
Love you darling,
DONALD
Spending the day in Palm Springs with two new friends, Bob and Harvey, Pam and I met on the Queen Mary2 a couple of years ago. They r hosting a Thanksgiving Day Dinner. This is my first outing for this special day since you crossover.
Love you darling,
DONALD
November 25, 2015
November 25, 2015
Thinking of you like any other day, but as we approach this Thanksgivng 2015, I know I can be forever thankful for what GOD gave me with you. I am trying to be thankful for that time, rather than feel why did we had to say goodbye to each other so quickly and early.
I realized this year we will never say goodbye to each other; we are in the waiting area - you on side of the glass wall, me on the other, till I can cross over to join you just like we use too when we would fly toward each other. The distance now is not as far as that we experienced when I was on the west coast, and you in Nashville. All I do now is raise my hand, close my eyes, and the warmth of your hand is touching mine. I could not do that when you were some 2800 miles from me
I love you so much, and everyday with you was a Thanksgiving day. You, do doubt, were a powerful angel in my life, and so many others.
I say thank you to GOD each day for the unbelieveable moments I shared with you. You are such a treasure, it never ENDS.
I realized this year we will never say goodbye to each other; we are in the waiting area - you on side of the glass wall, me on the other, till I can cross over to join you just like we use too when we would fly toward each other. The distance now is not as far as that we experienced when I was on the west coast, and you in Nashville. All I do now is raise my hand, close my eyes, and the warmth of your hand is touching mine. I could not do that when you were some 2800 miles from me
I love you so much, and everyday with you was a Thanksgiving day. You, do doubt, were a powerful angel in my life, and so many others.
I say thank you to GOD each day for the unbelieveable moments I shared with you. You are such a treasure, it never ENDS.
September 19, 2015
September 19, 2015
You visit me alot. Thank you!
Tonight I know you are here. The pain is more I can endure sometimes. I miss you so much. I am trying to find life, but it is not happening. I love when you ring our hummingbird chimes, because I know you are near.
A near friend lost her 9 year old grandchild in some sort of medicine tragedy. I am not able to go to the memorial. You created the path for my on sanity with the lost of Bridgette. She is with you, thank GOD! I hope we all can be together soon. I feel so bad I can't go, but I can't withstand the memories or hurt. I hope my friend forgives me
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You know I talk to you daily, and sometimes I know you hear because of what happens during the day. Some may think I am crazy, but that is okay because they don't understand what deep love we had. I am just lost sometimes, but you bring me back
I am trying extremely hard to do each day what you told me to do. Not why it gets harder to do it. When I look up in the night sky, with all the beautiful stars I sense you are surrounding me. I love to be out there in the early mornings. Thank you for watching over Misty and me. I have grown to worry about her. You know why.
Barry, you are the best; the only thing in my life that ever happen that was so good. I hope you know how much I love you and only you will ever know how much your love meant to me.
Just had one of those awful birthdays without you. The day was entirely spent thinking of you. Francine sent me flowers; guest you told her to do that. She is coming to see me in December on her way back to AZ.
Tanya called me and we talked. She is so good, and finally enjoying life. She loved you so much. What a great niece you have. She is so sensitive, and your cheerleader.
As each and everyday, I love you so much, and still it is so hard to understand the life wall that separates us.
Forever, and forever, you are the love of my life.
Your Donald
Tonight I know you are here. The pain is more I can endure sometimes. I miss you so much. I am trying to find life, but it is not happening. I love when you ring our hummingbird chimes, because I know you are near.
A near friend lost her 9 year old grandchild in some sort of medicine tragedy. I am not able to go to the memorial. You created the path for my on sanity with the lost of Bridgette. She is with you, thank GOD! I hope we all can be together soon. I feel so bad I can't go, but I can't withstand the memories or hurt. I hope my friend forgives me
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You know I talk to you daily, and sometimes I know you hear because of what happens during the day. Some may think I am crazy, but that is okay because they don't understand what deep love we had. I am just lost sometimes, but you bring me back
I am trying extremely hard to do each day what you told me to do. Not why it gets harder to do it. When I look up in the night sky, with all the beautiful stars I sense you are surrounding me. I love to be out there in the early mornings. Thank you for watching over Misty and me. I have grown to worry about her. You know why.
Barry, you are the best; the only thing in my life that ever happen that was so good. I hope you know how much I love you and only you will ever know how much your love meant to me.
Just had one of those awful birthdays without you. The day was entirely spent thinking of you. Francine sent me flowers; guest you told her to do that. She is coming to see me in December on her way back to AZ.
Tanya called me and we talked. She is so good, and finally enjoying life. She loved you so much. What a great niece you have. She is so sensitive, and your cheerleader.
As each and everyday, I love you so much, and still it is so hard to understand the life wall that separates us.
Forever, and forever, you are the love of my life.
Your Donald
June 6, 2015
June 6, 2015
Tonight I got home from traveling from Chicago. If you knew what I had done, you would laugh and say, " you never stop surprising me". I know. But I purchased another Mercedes Benz, the same year of our Jannia2. I need parts, and I can't fine them. She is 32 years young. As you know I will never get rid of her. You know why, so I needed some parts for whatever future. I drove her all the way from Chicago without a hitch; of course that's because you were seating there with me, telling me to slow down. You sure talked alot to me. Oh my, I miss our conversations.
Most important, Judith wrote a most beautiful note today, just when I needed something like that beautiful love you brought from all of us. I know you visit her. She told me about the hummingbird in her face, the same neck color that comes often to see me. You travel so far sometimes, but I know you have too. I know when you are NOT near, and of course I know when you are here. You are here tonight, just when this night is so difficult, more than usual. Thank you my darling. Just tired I guess, and for some reason today I saw you everywhere as I traveled home.Of course, when I walked in the house; well you know.
Also, yesterday was difficult because it was five years since Todd's death. I try not to think in terms of years because I find it more difficult for what ever reason and in December I have to face it also. How?
Most important, Judith wrote a most beautiful note today, just when I needed something like that beautiful love you brought from all of us. I know you visit her. She told me about the hummingbird in her face, the same neck color that comes often to see me. You travel so far sometimes, but I know you have too. I know when you are NOT near, and of course I know when you are here. You are here tonight, just when this night is so difficult, more than usual. Thank you my darling. Just tired I guess, and for some reason today I saw you everywhere as I traveled home.Of course, when I walked in the house; well you know.
Also, yesterday was difficult because it was five years since Todd's death. I try not to think in terms of years because I find it more difficult for what ever reason and in December I have to face it also. How?
June 5, 2015
June 5, 2015
After retiring for the night, I awoke, not knowing why...and thinking about Don and Barry. I found my way to this memorial, Don, where I have now read, looked at your photos, the tributes, and all the messages. It made me cry.
Barry was indeed a principled, accomplished, sensitive man who loved his employees, patients, and friends, but most of all-you. A consummate professional in his work life and an equally fun-loving, warm, and funny man in his personal life. I can hear him speaking yet with the accent he never lost, no matter how long he lived away from his birth state. Or seeing him blush. Or not understanding how he felt digging in the garden was therapy.
While it is of little consolation, you and Barry lived life fully, enjoying each day and each other. That is a rare gift that you both had.
I always felt privileged to have worked for and to have known him.
PS. I watch my hummingbirds (my nickname is "beijaflor"--Portuguese for hummingbird) here at my Vashon Island home named The Bird House. My favorites are the rufous birds with their bronze plumage and iridescent red heads. One male in particular who I named Rusty, hovers right in front of my kitchen window. Now I wonder...
Barry was indeed a principled, accomplished, sensitive man who loved his employees, patients, and friends, but most of all-you. A consummate professional in his work life and an equally fun-loving, warm, and funny man in his personal life. I can hear him speaking yet with the accent he never lost, no matter how long he lived away from his birth state. Or seeing him blush. Or not understanding how he felt digging in the garden was therapy.
While it is of little consolation, you and Barry lived life fully, enjoying each day and each other. That is a rare gift that you both had.
I always felt privileged to have worked for and to have known him.
PS. I watch my hummingbirds (my nickname is "beijaflor"--Portuguese for hummingbird) here at my Vashon Island home named The Bird House. My favorites are the rufous birds with their bronze plumage and iridescent red heads. One male in particular who I named Rusty, hovers right in front of my kitchen window. Now I wonder...
March 1, 2015
March 1, 2015
The wind blew all day, but this evening when I took Misty out around midnight, NO wind. But, I looked up at your flag, and it was standing out. I looked around and I could not see any trees moving. Plus the wind blew across my body when I told you I know you are here.
Some say I imagine these things, but I don't think so. You were here I know, and your letting me know. Thought about you all day, and of course I know you were with me today.
Some say I imagine these things, but I don't think so. You were here I know, and your letting me know. Thought about you all day, and of course I know you were with me today.
February 14, 2015
February 14, 2015
Dearest Love One, My Captain
I miss you everyday, but today it is even more special. You know you were my valentine each and everyday of the year, but we had so much joy celebrating it each year on this day. The wonderful romantic dinners, special cards of love, and sharing the wonderful secret get a ways.
I miss you everyday, but today it is even more special. You know you were my valentine each and everyday of the year, but we had so much joy celebrating it each year on this day. The wonderful romantic dinners, special cards of love, and sharing the wonderful secret get a ways.
January 2, 2015
January 2, 2015
Your love and laughter will never leave me. The world is not the same without you in it.
December 31, 2014
December 31, 2014
Dear Donald Hope you are well it is said that time is a wonderful healer. We hope you will find peace within your heart . Barry is at peace no more suffering. Hope he is at resting and keeping a watch over you. You know Drexel is not the same without you. Love Pat & Irv
December 31, 2014
December 31, 2014
May this new year bring the blessing of your deep devotion and caring for all touched by you.
December 29, 2014
December 29, 2014
REMEMBERING THIS DAY WITH PAIN. DECEMBER 29, 2010. Now 2014
December 29, 2014
December 29, 2014
Thinking of dear Barry and you, Donald, today.....the love between you two lives on.....
December 29, 2014
December 29, 2014
You are truly missed Uncle Barry, there are so many days that I wish I could call you and just talk about what is going on in our lives. I miss hearing your laugh and also your words of encouragement and sweet expressions. I hope you know how much I truly love and miss you. You were an incredible Uncle to me, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being there and making my life more enjoyable, while teaching me by your actions and words, what a genuine person is all about. Love you, Uncle Barry. Love you too Uncle Donald, sending hugs and kisses your way. XOXO
December 12, 2014
December 12, 2014
HAPPY BIRTHDAY. 12-12-14.
Another year has passed, and still in disbelief. Sometimes it is harder than the first day without you. We just had another anniversary Dec. 10th, and now your birthday. Went to Lillydale, NY this past summer, and I know you were there with the message you left me through the medium. It was a very emotional experience, but so comforting. I know you are around. I plan to return there this summer and take some workshops because of the warmth of finding out more about spiritualism and mediums. I plan to have a private reading this time. I know you are near when my humming bird chimes are ringing, and there is NO wind. I love for you to visit me and Misty. Please come often. I love you so much, and miss you.
Another year has passed, and still in disbelief. Sometimes it is harder than the first day without you. We just had another anniversary Dec. 10th, and now your birthday. Went to Lillydale, NY this past summer, and I know you were there with the message you left me through the medium. It was a very emotional experience, but so comforting. I know you are around. I plan to return there this summer and take some workshops because of the warmth of finding out more about spiritualism and mediums. I plan to have a private reading this time. I know you are near when my humming bird chimes are ringing, and there is NO wind. I love for you to visit me and Misty. Please come often. I love you so much, and miss you.
December 12, 2014
December 12, 2014
Thinking of you, dear Barry on this special day we shared.
December 12, 2014
December 12, 2014
Uncle Barry, I hope you know how special you were to me. I know we didn't see each other often, but you always had a way of making me feel like I was special. I don't think anyone has ever done that as well as you have. You were always so kind and sweet to me. I have always admired the person you were, you generous ways with people, and you unconditional love. My only regret is to not have spent more time with you…I look forward to that one day. I love you and miss you terribly. Thanks for everything you have ever done for me and for believing in me always. Love you…Tana
April 23, 2014
April 23, 2014
Saw the movie today, Tuesday April 21, 2014, "HEAVEN IS REAL". Okay, got it. You are there....
December 30, 2013
December 30, 2013
Dearest Barry,
On this 3rd anniversary of your passing, I'm praying that our collective memories of you will help provide some comfort to Donald during this difficult time of the year. I know it's not easy for him with your birthday and the anniversary of your passing being so close together.
I will always cherish the good times we all had together. You left an indelible mark in the hearts of so many.
God bless,
Joe
On this 3rd anniversary of your passing, I'm praying that our collective memories of you will help provide some comfort to Donald during this difficult time of the year. I know it's not easy for him with your birthday and the anniversary of your passing being so close together.
I will always cherish the good times we all had together. You left an indelible mark in the hearts of so many.
God bless,
Joe
December 30, 2013
December 30, 2013
Remembering today your passing on December 29, 2010. I remember what you told me before you died, watch for hummingbirds, "I am there". I watch everyday for one. One came right up to my face and looked at me. It made my day. Thank you!
Miss you more than ever. Donald
Miss you more than ever. Donald
December 29, 2013
December 29, 2013
Dear Barry, you are in our hearts forever. Watch over us, especially our Donald. May you be in peace.
December 25, 2013
December 25, 2013
For those visiting and honoring BARRY'S life during the holiday season, I am
WISHING YOU A "2013 MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HOLIDAY SEASON!
GOD BLESS and Peace......
Love, Donald
WISHING YOU A "2013 MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HOLIDAY SEASON!
GOD BLESS and Peace......
Love, Donald
December 13, 2013
December 13, 2013
Barry, I think of you often, and especially on our shared birthday. My prayer is you are at peace. Everyone who knew you was blessed to have your presence in their lives.
December 12, 2013
December 12, 2013
I am honored to leave a tribute for our dear, sweet & loving Barry. He and Donald came into my life in 1986. They opened up their home to me during a tennis tournament being held in San Francisco. I was struck by how warm and inviting Barry was, not only me but to all of the members of our tennis team. He and Donald were the consummate hosts. They lived life large and were so generous in sharing their home and their wonderful relationship with me. Our friendship continued for the next 10 years. During that time there were many many laughs and even a few tears. But through it all, Barry always maintained that wonderful outlook on life and was a tremendous source of strength. Plus, He had that goofy laugh that everyone adored. :-) His relationship with Donald was one to be admired. Their love and devotion to each other was unquestionable. Unfortunately life circumstances required that our lives take different paths and we didn't see each other before his untimely passing. I deeply regret not making more of an effort to spend time with Barry. He will always have a special place in my heart. And I will be eternally grateful for the career opportunities he provided me. May he rest in peace and have a blast walking some tennis balls and watching NASCAR from wherever he is. xoxo, Joe
December 12, 2013
December 12, 2013
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Today, would have been your 75th B.D. Thinking of all those other birthdays we shared together today. We had some fantastic ones. For your 55th, we flew to Pairs, France on the Concorde. You thought we were going to an island for a vacation. I took you to NY, you got to see your NAVY friend Erwin, and then I stole you away to a flight that you talked about the rest of your life. I had so much fun planning this birthday surprise. Wish I could plan something today. I miss you so much. YOU are such a part of me for eternity.
Today, would have been your 75th B.D. Thinking of all those other birthdays we shared together today. We had some fantastic ones. For your 55th, we flew to Pairs, France on the Concorde. You thought we were going to an island for a vacation. I took you to NY, you got to see your NAVY friend Erwin, and then I stole you away to a flight that you talked about the rest of your life. I had so much fun planning this birthday surprise. Wish I could plan something today. I miss you so much. YOU are such a part of me for eternity.
December 12, 2013
December 12, 2013
It was such a pleasure to know and be in your company, Barry.
I'm thinking of you Donald and how much you are missing Barry, and I look forward to seeing you soon.
With much love,
Helen
I'm thinking of you Donald and how much you are missing Barry, and I look forward to seeing you soon.
With much love,
Helen
December 10, 2013
December 10, 2013
Missing you so much today, not having our special day together on our anniversary, DEC. 10th. It would be our 41st anniversary today. Love you where ever you are my darling. I know sometimes you are around, and as a angel you are very busy. Come by when you can. I am waiting for you!
November 22, 2013
November 22, 2013
You are on the minds of many as we again approach another THANKSGIVING HOLIDAY DAY (2013). I am writing on there behalf to let us all know we think of you often if not everyday. For me like many I expect, how is it possible you are not here with us, at work, at lunch, at home, going to movies, and coming home each day? Harlen and I will spend another Thanksgiving Holiday together without you, sharing it together the best we can, most of the time in slient and staring into space. We both know what we are thinking, it is just not the same without you. We sat at the table, lost for conversation, and trying our best to have a nice time, but we both know we will be happy when the holiday is over. It is too much for us. Our holiday was about being together with each other, now just us two. Something so wrong with that picture, it has turned from a beautiful colored day to a more gray. Harlen speaks little as we both know, but less on these days probably because I try so hard not to show my eyes that are wet. I try hard to smile and keep some conversation going.
November 20, 2013
November 20, 2013
This year is the 50th anniversary of the assassination of President Kennedy. You served under his command and thought so much of him. I placed your NAVY picture this year in remembrance of your service in the Navy. You were such a gentleman and a good looking officer. Who could not fall in love with you. NOVEMBER 2013
May 28, 2013
May 28, 2013
On Sunday, May 26, 2013 I attended church in Las Vegas. I love going to this church, because you would have loved the service, and the organists smoked the hymns. Our regular organists was not there due to knee surgery; he was from Disney, and he played the organ liked I have never heard. It was a service I would not have wanted to miss.
May 28, 2013
May 28, 2013
And, of course we honored today those who had served and gave their upmost to our country. I was so proud of you, giving 9 yrs of your life to our country, and if the truth was really known, most likely your life because of the years in Vietnam, and your exposure to agent orange, which I know contributed to your brain cancer. Can't prove it of course, but your passing was to fast.
May 28, 2013
May 28, 2013
On Monday, 27 May, 2013, I watched the National Memorial program like we normally did in the past; of course cried with the music and the unbelievable stories of dedication and sacrifice. I am posting a song I found that shares my eternal love for you which I am posting under STORIES. I know these words would be expressed by you to me and me to YOU. Can't sleep again, and miss YOU more now
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March 8
March 8
Sitting here today, enjoying the thoughts of you and the reflection of what a wonderful individual GOD gave us to be loved by. The joy, kindness, and love you brought me and others. We were given such treasures there is no way we (I) could ever forget that love, kindness, and respect. My prayers are others find such in their lives. I miss you deeply, but I still have your love, and kindness for eternity.
Always thinking of you my LOVE,
Donald
Always thinking of you my LOVE,
Donald
December 29, 2023
December 29, 2023
To my dear friend Ken you where a lovely person I will never forget your kindness we Chloe Ilse and I will never forget you also Donald may god bless is heart for feeling is life with out you
December 29, 2023
December 29, 2023
A day doesn’t past that your presence isn’t near, but today thirteen years ago, GOD took your soul into eternal peace and forever love where pain and hurt is no more. We miss you so, but our hearts are glorified by GOD’s gift of peace and protection of everlasting love. We remember this day in your honor of walking with us before your journey with GOD.
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So touching. What a wonderful, kind, generous and loving man Barry was.
September 20, 2023
by Joe Arnold
The title says it all! Thanks Donald for sharing all those lovely pics! You should post some of the gang from the gay tennis Federation. There’s a really cute one I sent you of Barry wearing an Indian feather on his head sitting on Tom Neville’s and my lap. His laugh was infectious and so, so so cute! A gentler man I’ve never known.
My heart goes out to you as you continue to suffer his loss.
Hugs,
Valentine's DAY 2023
February 3, 2023
Living with Barry was Valentine's every day. Why? Firstly, each morning was greeted with a smile, a warm robe from the dryer, and the words " I love YOU". He had already brewed a pot of coffee, and he was ready to make up the bed even if I was not out of the bed. That was the Navy in him. Then our walk with Harlen, and the babies (some call them dogs). They were the humans, we were the dogs. Off to work, and school. The afternoons were treasures. Barry's arrival, a homecoming, with a briefcase in hand, and his suit on, broom in hand immediately, sweeping the sidewalk, and curb. Neighbors come by and say hello, and sweeping continues till every piece of dirt and paper is removed. Then, in the house, glasses iced for drinks to come, and change of clothes to more of relaxed one, and then the biggest hug one can ever imagine and the smile from GOD. One was in his arms with that hug. Now, the mixologist at work for that perfect cocktail and a quiet time sitting with the Koi. It was finally our time. You know, that special moment. A Valentine's moment.
LOOKING THROUGH THE MIRROR
December 24, 2021
When you were born I was not there nor born. Born in Long Beach, CA., and I in Redding, CA., faith would bring our lives together in years to come. You raised by your grandparents in South Carolina, and I near Nashville, TN by my mother, her mother and dad, uncle, and aunt. How would I lives interwind into one? That story will be told on a different day. This story is about you from the time I knew you till your passing.
Your dad, a lifetime career in the Navy, and your mother, often left alone as wives in the military are to raised their children. Often left with an uncle and aunt due to your dad being relocated by the Navy. A most difficult hardship that many endure to this day. Our lives parallel in many ways. I, lived with my grandparents because my mother, a single mother worked.You and I both so loved by our parents, yet yours could never accept you unless you did what made them feel proud. Mine, always wanted me to be happy. You strived your entire life to be what your parents desired. You were successful in your achievements, and they rejoiced in your success. Their plans for you were to be a successful and accomplishment lifetime Navy Officer, marry and have children. But, you came to reality and at a crossroad and left the Navy. With your Dad’s assistance, the state of Tennessee provided resources for you to attend George Washington University where you obtained a Master’s degree in Hospital Administration. Afterwards, you were appointed hospital administrator for Tennessee Eastern State Hospital, a mental health long term care institution near Knoxville, TN. After meeting your obligation to the TN Department of Mental Health, you secured a position with the TN Hospital Association in Nashville, TN. During this period you came to realization you were gay, and started relationships with men both as friends and sometimes romantic. On one occasion, both you and Donald were invited by a mutual friend to a Christmas party. Neither of you attended, but both of you later that evening just happened to visit the same Nashville nightclub, and were introduced to each other by the mutual friend. Immediately, both were attracted to each other and bonded like “love at first sight”. That night was magical for you both, and it was the beginning of our life journey together.
Denied love by your mom for who you were, you marched forward with your life and all the challenges of family acceptance, professional life, self acceptance being gay and living a life as a married man. Never being accepted by your parents for being gay, the strain caused great emotional stress and often no relationship with your parents. The hurt was continuous, sparkling out of control at times, and finally to the point of no communication with you mother. The damaged relationship ended unrepairable, and your heart was deeply hurt to the end.
Your journey continued with Donald for forty two years, and ended with in Donald’s arm that December 29th night 2010. Both of you were fortunate to adopt Harlen, and you had your family so desired. You always maintained such dignity, love, and grace for all. Admired and loved by many, and dearly loved by Donald and Harlen. You are so missed and loved eleven years since your passing. The forty two years was a blink of an eye, and the laughter, love, can still be heard and felt today. An everlasting love and journey.
Your dad, a lifetime career in the Navy, and your mother, often left alone as wives in the military are to raised their children. Often left with an uncle and aunt due to your dad being relocated by the Navy. A most difficult hardship that many endure to this day. Our lives parallel in many ways. I, lived with my grandparents because my mother, a single mother worked.You and I both so loved by our parents, yet yours could never accept you unless you did what made them feel proud. Mine, always wanted me to be happy. You strived your entire life to be what your parents desired. You were successful in your achievements, and they rejoiced in your success. Their plans for you were to be a successful and accomplishment lifetime Navy Officer, marry and have children. But, you came to reality and at a crossroad and left the Navy. With your Dad’s assistance, the state of Tennessee provided resources for you to attend George Washington University where you obtained a Master’s degree in Hospital Administration. Afterwards, you were appointed hospital administrator for Tennessee Eastern State Hospital, a mental health long term care institution near Knoxville, TN. After meeting your obligation to the TN Department of Mental Health, you secured a position with the TN Hospital Association in Nashville, TN. During this period you came to realization you were gay, and started relationships with men both as friends and sometimes romantic. On one occasion, both you and Donald were invited by a mutual friend to a Christmas party. Neither of you attended, but both of you later that evening just happened to visit the same Nashville nightclub, and were introduced to each other by the mutual friend. Immediately, both were attracted to each other and bonded like “love at first sight”. That night was magical for you both, and it was the beginning of our life journey together.
Denied love by your mom for who you were, you marched forward with your life and all the challenges of family acceptance, professional life, self acceptance being gay and living a life as a married man. Never being accepted by your parents for being gay, the strain caused great emotional stress and often no relationship with your parents. The hurt was continuous, sparkling out of control at times, and finally to the point of no communication with you mother. The damaged relationship ended unrepairable, and your heart was deeply hurt to the end.
Your journey continued with Donald for forty two years, and ended with in Donald’s arm that December 29th night 2010. Both of you were fortunate to adopt Harlen, and you had your family so desired. You always maintained such dignity, love, and grace for all. Admired and loved by many, and dearly loved by Donald and Harlen. You are so missed and loved eleven years since your passing. The forty two years was a blink of an eye, and the laughter, love, can still be heard and felt today. An everlasting love and journey.