This memorial website is created by Donald Trisdale, his husband, in memory of our beloved:

1. "ALL GUEST / MEMBERS CAN CREATE A MEMORIAL TRIBUTE.

2. SCROLL DOWN BELOW ALL OF THE "REMEMBERED DATES" AND CLICK ON "CREATE A TRIBUTE."

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                                                "REMEMBERED DATES"

71.  REMEMBERED EVERYDAY OF LIFE. FEBRUARY 14, 2023.

70. REMEMBERED FRIDAY, DECEMBER 29, 2023.  Read our favorite verse this morning, walked the beach in glory with GOD and you, looking out over the ocean knowing you are there, here and everywhere I go. Another year moves us to this day, December 29th that we recognize the day you passed into the loving GRACE OF GOD’S ARMS. You are missed unbelievably not only by me but many, but we are all blessed to know you are now in the LORD’S glory. Truly a blessing we carry in our hearts and souls each day of the year. A light is always on for your presence. 

69.  REMEMBERED MONDAY, DECEMBER 25,2023. Knowing you live within us everyday of the year; a gift given to us by the birth of Jesus Christ.
 
68.  REMEMBERED TUESDAY, DECEMBER 12TH. An 85th birthday of joy. We celebrated many together. You were always shy about your birthday, but I so enjoyed giving you cards and finding that special gifts or trips to celebrate your B.D.  You always loved everything received and were so grateful. The dinners shared and surprise trips taken were awesome.  Your favorite was the Concorde to Paris celebrating your 60th B.D.  Difficult to imagine 13 more years passed since the last B.D. we shared together, but time is relative and almost like sand in a bottle. It flows quickly. I love each and every day of the year being with you, but on your special day, I am so thankful to our Lord that you came into the world, where our life's fused together, and we shared a loving life. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CAPTAIN, my Barry. 

67. REMEMBERED, SUNDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2023. Reflecting today is our 55th wedding anniversary. Thirteen years past since our last celebration together. I miss those times, the smiles and laughter, and the sharing of loving moments. Memories are eternal treasures. 

66. REMEMBERED Saturday, November 5, 2023.  I wondered this evening and you were there in my mind and I wanted you to let you know you are in my thoughts and heart. Yes, still miss you unbelievably because of how much you loved me and how much I loved you.

65.  REMEMBERED Thursday, December 29th, 2022. Christ's ascension into heaven on the 3rd day after his death; I know you are with him. Remembering your passing 12 years today as the Lord welcomed you into eternity life.

64. MERRY CHRISTMAS MY LOVE. DECEMBER 24, 2022

63.  A Birthday to be Remembered:
............................, DECEMBER 12, 1938 on December 12, 2022.

62. REMEMBERED, SATURDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2022.  Our anniversary -  46..........

61. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2022
I am so thankful for your love, companionship, friendship, and our marriage with the wonderful memories of your life.

60. REMEMBERED MONDAY, JULY 2022
YOU, are always and forever my Sunshine, the light of my life.

59. REMEMBERED MONDAY, FEBRUARY 2022
Always be my Valentine, FOREVER!

58. REMEMBERED WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 29, 2021
GOD gave us a special soul who walked the earth with purpose and always with grace.

57. REMEMBERED SUNDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2021
The day represents the day of your birth. We, (I), miss you and the celebrations we shared on your special day. Today, I give thanks to your life and all the memories you gave me and to others. We were so blessed to have your footprint on our hearts.
 
56. REMEMBERED FRIDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2021
The Present, Past, and Future. The years we SHARED. Now, on this day and date-45 years

55. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2021
Thanksgiving Day.
We have so much to give thanks too this year. Yes, we did lose so many, but please join me in knowing they are everlasting life and with others we have loved, cherish, and honored each day in our memories. Your love is everlasting, and lets march forward, knowing they hold our hand wishing us a wonderful day. You are loved! How do I know this? God told me so! I love you all, and know your heart hurts. Turn inward and toward your gift of love and forgiving, and all will be well. Barry touched my hand in those last moments, opened his eyes, grinned somehow, and whispered “I love you”. He walked with GOD’s angels.

54.  REMEMBERED MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 6, 2021.
The last few days I wandered along our path, holding your hand to reduce the fright of being without you. Your strong hand in mine chased my demons far. You never knew how your strength saved me and others. Soon, I will have traveled 75 years; 11 years without your hand holding me near so I don’t fall off life’s cliff into the deep blue sea of eternal life. Because you loved me, never did you let go of my hand. Now, I remain walking in life’s forest with my hand always trying to put my hand back into yours. Almost eleven years passed struggling, yearning to clasp your hand of strength. So strong it was, the power of your hand continues to give me strength to struggle forward, knowing I will catch up with you soon, and once again grasp your hand again - in your care. I love you and miss you even greater as the years pass more than I ever thought was possible.


53. REMEMBERED TUESDAY, MAY 11 2021.
Some days are more filled with your words, and today you had so many words. Not only did I hear you, I felt your presence as I watched over and beyond the ocean. Why are some days so surreal and personal? I love those days. You and me.

52.  REMEMBERED SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2021.
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51. REMEMBERED, TEN YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF PASSING, DECEMBER 29 2010 
Today, return thoughts and the reality of your suffering in those last minutes until your eternal life. Though many have more pleasant life memories of you as I do, this day seems to never fade those horrific moments of seeing you passing. Our friend Pam held my hand as we both watched in disbelief this was happening. My heart remains in this felt pain but I fight each day for remembering you are no longer in pain, and doing GOD's work. I love you even more if that is possible, and hold on tight to the extraordinary memories knowing and being so grateful for the love you gave me and the friendship embraced to others.

50. REMEMBERED, CHRISTMAS, DECEMBER 25, 2020
Dearly missed, and loved. Ten years made of so many days of reflection of your love, and the times we spent with each other. Not only I, but so many hearts you touched, and still do.

49. REMEMBERED, BIRTHDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2020.
SUCH A DAY OF MEMORIES. TODAY, WOULD BE YOUR 82nd BIRTHDAY. YOU WERE ALWAYS SHY OF ATTENTION, BUT SO WORTHY OF ALL. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU DEEPLY. MAY THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT BE YOUR THIS SPECIAL DAY, AND IN DAYS / YEARS TO COME. 
LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, GENEROSITY, FAITHFULNESS, GENTLENESS, AND SELF-CONTROL ARE WORDS I SPIRITUALLY THINK OF WHEN I FEEL AND REFLECT MY LOVE OF YOU.

48,  REMEMBERED OUR ANNIVERSARY DECEMBER 10, 2020. 
EACH DAY IS LIKE AN ANNIVERSARY, KNOWING YOUR LOVE, RESPECT, AND CARING WAYS. YET, TRADITION ONLY CELEBRATES IT ONCE A YEAR. THIS YEAR, TEN YEARS SINCE I SAW THAT HUMAN SMILE, THOUGH I SEE IT OFTEN IN DIFFERENT VENUES. THIS DAY IS CELEBRATED IN A SPIRITUAL EVERLASTING LOVE REPRESENTING 52 YEARS OF KNOWING AN ANGEL ON EARTH. FOR ME, IT WAS A MIRACLE I GOT TO WALK WITH YOU AS LONG AS I DID. i MISS THAT GIFT I WAS GIVEN EVER SO MORE!

47. REMEMBERED THANKSGIVING DAY, 2020...TEN YEARS AGO.
 OUR LAST THANKSGIVING WITH YOU IN OUR HOSPITAL ROOM/HOME...LITTLE DID WE KNOW IT WOULD BE OUR LAST THOUGH WE KNEW IT WAS EXTREMELY SPECIAL - YOU, HARLEN AND ME, AND YOUR ANGELS. A HUNDRED YEARS WILL PASS, I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER OUR LOVE AND BE SO THANKFUL. WE WERE SO BLESSED BY GOD

 46, REMEMBERED SUNDAY, APRIL 12, 2020, EASTER SUNDAY

45. REMEMBERED FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2020. HAPPY VALENTRINES DAY.

44. REMEMBERED WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 01,2020.....

Begin another year; 10 years without you December 29, 2020! Unbelievable!

43. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, DECEMBER 27, 2019.
I am so saddened and sorry for the pain you experienced for me. Nine years later, I feel you, touch you, and enjoy all the memories you created for us. I love you Barry.

42. REMEMBERED WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 25, 2019. CHRISTMAS EVE AND DAY.
Christmas Eve, Christmas Day.....Yes, I love you and yes it is a difficult time even after nine years. The church activities, parties, and sharing time with so many people we enjoyed over the years are such glorious Christmas gifts. Yet, the loneliness and sorrow I feel is helplines and weak as I move to the glorious day without you. Holding your hand in Church, and praying together, and saying to each other “I love You”, hearing that voice of security, warmth, and never ending love is breath taking even after nine years of not hearing your words.

41. REMEMBERED THURSDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2019. ARE YOU REALLY 81?

TODAY, came so quickly, another year. HAPPY BIRTHDAY. Alone, yet surrounded by so many loved ones who knew us.  I know we are both here together, where we would have been by now with each other on our island settling back and enjoying the “good life.” I got us here this year. We are all here now — Listening to a song that came out a few years ago, entitled, “ Pontoon “ by Little Big Town; a song made for us drinking a few beers on a special day. Barry, I love you so much, and after 9 years, I can hardly stand it still not being with you, especially on this day. I am trying so hard to accept our faith that life is an eternity, but it is a challenge. I just want to be with you. Life is nothing anymore without you. I promised you I would go on, but I have failed that promise. I am still so mad, and miserable with life without you. Sorry, sweetie. I will keep working on it. Today is a special day and I am so thankful I was a part of your life and so loved by you..  Of course, playing our song tonight, “Sea of Love”.  How much do I love you? More than my life or any measurement of life. My heart is so full tonight. Does anyone understand except YOU?  LOVING YOU FOR ETERNITY! ... We are at home, you, the babies and me, and even J.C. You know were I am and you are with me. This will be our final resting place on this beautiful earth GOD gave to us. Took me nine years to get us here, but I never gave up, struggled, prayed a lot for help, and kept focused. We are now home on earth, and we will both be home for eternity in the future.

40.  REMEMBERED TUESDAY, DECEMBER 10TH 2019
We would have celebrated our 43rd anniversary, on December 10th 2019. In some ways, it has been a long nine years since we celebrated the moment/day we joined our lives together. It wasn’t enough time to enjoy our togetherness. I miss you so deeply. Still trying to understand the whys’ and what ifs’, but continue to come back to the reality that I won’t see you till we are united in God's house and then it will be for eternity. So my faith will get me back to you and that is all that matters. I love you, miss you, and always thinking about YOU!
u always, especially on this special day, DEC 10, 2019. Happy Anniversary!

39. REMEMBERED THURS, NOVEMBER 28, 2019.
A blessing so many happy full days together giving thanks and being grateful for the love we shared. I will never stop loving you and missing your love.

38. REMEMBERED MAY MEMORIAL DAY MAY 27 2019.
SEE STORIES WHY BARRY IS REMEMBERED ON MEMORIAL DAY - HIS DEVOTION AND SERVICE CAUSED HIS DEATH.

37. REMEMBERED MAY 10, 2019 .........
A MEMORY TONIGHT -A SPIRITUAL FEELING.  Tonight, is not a special night for most, but some spirituals swirling about within me, and feeling your presence.  More intense tonight than usual, and this spiritual feeling woke me. Are you near? I feel your presence - all day actually. Ended up becoming extremely emotional tonight. Maybe because after nine years, I opened a bottle of red wine we won at a NASCAR Jeff Gordon Auction. Some time ago in the moves after your new journey I broke one of Jeff Gordon’s red wine glasses. Kept the broken one, and it sits next to yours, and I used your glass. The corks are becoming dry, plus I just for some reason wanted to have a glass of red wine - a stirring of feelings for you! You are here tonight. Listening to music, and for some reason, many of our songs are playing. The music is streaming wi-fi songs that are played randomly. Guess you are playing, because one after another are all the songs we listened to as you drove me to work, as we drove watching the world pass by our car windows. A very powerful spiritual evening. Thank you my darling angel Barry. I love you and miss you so and very deeply.

.36. REMEMBERED FEBRUARY 14 2019. 
Thinking of our wonderful Valentine memories of years past. Each were so special. I love you and always will. You are forever my Captain Valentine.”

35.  REMEMBERED DECEMBER 29, 2018  
Though I live with this empty feeling every day, it is more prominent today. In 2023 on this day, 8 years ago you entered eternal life. I would get in bed with you, and kiss a final goodbye. I would play that moment in my mind forever. As our dear enduring friend, Pam stood and witnessed this passing, catching me afterward, hugging me, and then she said a final goodbye as well. Then she left the room to fetch the nurses. We had our last final moment together, but not so fast - we have so many more dreams, and moments I knew you created.. This all plays out in my mind constantly. I love you so Barry. You are so missed my darling.

34, REMEMBERED DECEMBER 25, 2018 . 
Christmas 2018. Thinking of you and where we were eight years ago. Time growing short as WE (PAM AND I) watched you sleep peacefully (breathing heavenly) in the hospital bed. You had gone to sleep a few days earlier, and sharing with me it was time for me to make the decisions. You closed your eyes and you never spoke again. A moment in time I shall take with me forever. I knew what you meant, and as I looked at you indefinitely, and I thought.....well, I will keep that to myself, since you already know.  I am sure you heared me tell you continuously I will always love you forever, and I do.  Enduring moments, and I hope you heard Pam and I talking till the end. You are and will always be my super hero, and the best Christmas present I ever received in my life. "GOD BLESS YOU BARRY" and I LOVE YOU MORE THAN EVER.

 33. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 12, 2018. 
Happy Birthday!
Today, your 80th birthday, some eight years since your journey after life started. How is this possible? It is so unreal/surreal, and I have such difficulty understanding you are not here. I miss you so deeply, the pain became a numbness. Today, you are so on my mind, not much difference from any other day of the year, but today, I get to dream you were born, and came into my life for us to be one. A glorious gift given by you to me on your birthday. Barry, there is only one like you, and I was so fortunate to be married to you. You gave the gift of life, "your love". and my dearest human being. When you were alive, I could never express how deeply I loved you and appreciated who you were....still words limit my expression and lost of this gift. You were/are the best person in my life that has walked on the earth I live. I pray every day on this earth, I will walk beside you once again. I know you are here. I watch for you, and hear you with those pennies, and dimes you drop for me to find. Oh sweetie, I love you so. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

32. REMEMERED DECEMBER 10 2018. 
Our anniversary would have been today, December 10th, 2 days before your birthday. Both dates are difficult times, but always remembered. I love you so much, and miss you more today than those first days you had to say good-bye. I use this day, like many trying to think of our good times, but being weak, slip often back to moments in the hospital and how sick you were. Barry, I know you visit alot, and I truly feel your presence; I love you being near when you can. Never stop being around. I need you more than ever. Only one request, please be there when it is time and reach out for my hand. I love you forever, forever, and forever. Today, our 44th anniversary and I am still here without YOU!. Unbelievable.

31. REMEMBERED NOVEMBER 22 2018.
You are always here and remembered. As we start another holiday season, my love for you is stronger than ever before. I reflect over so many wonderful holidays, and think how fortunate to share so many. Hearing your voice and seeing the smiles you shared with the world brings the reality you walked with us for years. Often I reach out and touch your face just to waken and realize it was a dream, but I am so blessed to dream of a past reality.

30. REMEMBRED SEPTEMBER 10 2018 . 
Today, I am 72. My day is filled with memories of being with you, sharing you with no one on previous birthdays. You always took the day off, and you would prepare a lovely breakfast, and we would watch together my favorite movie "The Way We Were", starring Robert Redford. Afterwards, a very busy day ahead full of surprises. Always, we ended with a fabulous romantic dinner, and most of the time attending a play, symphony concert, or a movie holding hands. I missed you, and our together times, laughter, and most of all just looking at you with such pride. I can't help to think today though, when you turned 72, on December 12, you only had 17 days left, and we could only share it together with you lying in bed so sick.  At that time time, we did not know why this had happened so quickly, nor why. But, since then, I have found out, that you gave your life for our country being exposed to Agent Orange while in the service. All the ships you were assigned too were exposed to Agent Orange during the Vietnam Crisis/War. A substance many years later recognized by our government exposure meant most often cancer that was terminal. It was for you like so many and so early for the man I loved so much. Thank you for those nine years of Navy Service, and for giving the ultimate, your life. I am and so many so indebted to your sacrifice, and my loss. I love you Liteunant Commander, and miss you every day, but today is extra difficult.

29. REMEMBERED APRIL 1, 2018.
Celebrated Harlen's 38th B.D. We shared memories of past birthdays when you were here.

28. REMEMBERED FEBRUARY 14, 2018.
 You are always my Valentine as you have always known. Using this day to remember your thoughtfulness and the love you shared with me not only on this day but each day of our lives together. We truly embraced a living, real fairy tale of respectful love for the days we endured together. Thank you. You gave me a lifetime gift. An everlasting Happy Valentine memory, my darling Captain.

27. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 29, 2017.
Seven years ago, along with Pam, I watched you leave and I shall never forget that moment as I said goodbye to the love of my life. Life without you is unexplainable. I quit trying to understand it because I just miss you so much. Nothing is right. I love you.
26. REMEMBERED DECEMBER 12, 2017.
Today we celebrate Barry's 79th birthday. Seven years have passed since entering the eternity gates. I miss you more than ever as everyone who you touched in life. A true giant void in the universe was created by your passing, but we shall always remember the gift of your birth that was created on this day. We all wish today we could have spent more time with you, but always cherish the moments we endured within your present. May your angel wings spread love and joy to more. You were a true blessing and for me an angel who walked among us.

25.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 10, 2017. 
We would celebrate our 45th ANNIVERSARY ON THIS DAY. You are here with me tonight like so many evenings. I feel you.

24. REMEMBERED: NOVEMBER 23, 2017  
THANKSGIVING DAY. The days before and the days after ALWAYS.

23.REMEMBERED: 4 JULY 201723. REMEMBERED: JUNE 18, 2017:
 HAPPY FATHER'S DAY, BARRY.I love you so and miss you.

22. REMEMBERED: February 14, 2017
Another Valentines year without you. I did not write on this year's valentine day because it was more painful than ever. It has taken me until today to write to you, plus a song, plus you visiting me today. Even some TV technicians said there are spirits in the house. Of course, I know it's you. I just smiled and said you are okay. "He wants to make sure you are not going to hurt me." It was not a good year, but they are never are even great things do happen. I just miss the love of my life, and my life is no life without you. You are always my Valentine each day. A day does not go by without you being my first and last thought. Your love still touches me as it always will till I can no longer touch your love, and then I will be with you again. Thank you for your eternal love Barry.

21. REMEMBERED: FEBRUARY 14, 2016
VALENTINES DAY...Five years after receiving a wonderful and loving messages of your love. You were the most wonderful writer of special love messages. Thank you, and I miss them so dearly. I have one of the first photographs you and I have together, and what a wonderful Valentine's gift. We can thank Francine for this great gift.

20. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 29, 2016
SIX YEARS (DECEMBER 29, 2010 @ 8:28 PM) since we said our FINAL goodbye to each other. A difficult day, because of remembering how ill and how much pain you ended life. I tried everything to keep your pain away. I am so sorry and miss you each day of the year. 

19. REMEMBERED CHRISTMAS 2016.....DEC 12, 2016  Birthday....
Loving you always, and forever!. You are the first, the last, and my everything.

18. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 10, 2016 - ANNIVERSARY...
As our song tells us, "You're my first, my last, my everything. The only one like you, there could not be another like you." I love you. Where did the time go for us? Missing you more than ever, and our tradition of having breakfast at the Bel-Air Hotel to kick off our special day. Remembering the anniversary that morning at the Bel-Air when we met our favorite actress Meryl Streep. She hugged us both! 

17. REMEMBERED: THANKSGIVING DAY 24, 2016
Tis the season again, and difficult times of the year without you. It is coming up six years Dec.29, 2016, since I last saw you; of course, I see you each day in my memories and talk to you daily. I miss you and am so lonely without you! It is not a real life without you. I travel often, but the reality wherever I go is without you, and knowing that makes it so sad. Still, in disbelief, you are gone.

16. REMEMBERED: SEPTEMBER 10,2016
My birthday. ON A GREECE TRIP PROMISED TO TAKE ME ON. I DID IT.

15. REMEMBERED January 19, 2016.
-Misty, our beloved BOSTON TERRIER, the LOVE OF OUR family passed at the age of 10.

14. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 14, 2015
Your still my loving and FOREVER VALENTINE.

13. REMEMBERED: SEPTEMBER 10, 2015.

12. REMEMBERED: NOVEMBER 26, 2015
ANOTHER THANKSGIVING DAY WITHOUT YOU...Found OUR SONG: "SEA OF LOVE"...How many times did we think of these words when I was at Berkeley and you in Nashville - separated by distance? We both thought the week would never end till one of us flew toward each other. We purchased American Airlines those three months.

11. REMEMBERED: December 10, 2015
42nd anniversary. Our birth...Its been five years, and I am still in shock without you, sometimes not believing you're gone, and other times realizing reality. Guess you know how much I miss you; of course, the hardest day is near, your birthday. But, today, it was our day, and we had so many special memories of this day. Never forget the morning of our 35th anniversary when we had a loving morning at the Bell-Air Hotel, relaxing outside having the most extravagant breakfast one could think of eating; setting in our round booth overlooking the beautiful swans in the pond, and then looking around to see one of our most famous movie stars, Meryl Streep, who looked up at us, hosted a glass and toasted to us. Our waiter who we had known for years, had shared with her we were celebrating our anniversary. She sent us a note, telling us congratulations. What a morning - a never unforgettable moment absolutely loving, a celebration day. Thank you, darling. I love you then, now, and forever. Thank you for everything, but most of all,  your unconditional love for our entire life together.Your Sport, Donald.

10.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12, 2015
Anniversary. LOVE YOU, CAPTAIN. 

9.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 24, 2015
My best gift ever was YOU!  Have fantasies of the door opening and there you are standing with your loving smile, and telling me, " I'M HOME!

7.REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 29, 2015 - MEMORIES:
FIVE YEARS WITHOUT YOU...Like yesterday in so many ways. Where are the days, I KNOW NOT. Each day I watch for you with the flag, the hummingbirds, and often feel your presence. In MY HEART I know you are near. I love you for eternity.

6. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 14,2015
Your still my loving and FOREVER VALENTINE.

5. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 29, 2014
4 yrs now passed. Sad memory!

4. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12,2013
Another year, again, thinking of you the day you were born. Love YOU ever so much!

3. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12, 2012
As long as I live without YOU.........I love you, Barry...Thinking of you the day you were born.

2. REMEMBERED: DECEMBER 12,2011
Where does the year go? Thinking of you on the day born.

1. REMEMBERED: JAN 1, 2011.
Started a new year without you. I can't stand it.