To my dear friend Ken you where a lovely person I will never forget your kindness we Chloe Ilse and I will never forget you also Donald may god bless is heart for feeling is life with out you

A day doesn’t past that your presence isn’t near, but today thirteen years ago, GOD took your soul into eternal peace and forever love where pain and hurt is no more. We miss you so, but our hearts are glorified by GOD’s gift of peace and protection of everlasting love. We remember this day in your honor of walking with us before your journey with GOD.

Oh Donald, I’m so sorry. This must be a terribly hard day for you. I know that Barry is always with you and that you can feel his love surrounding you. Still… I know how terribly you miss him. Please feel the love and hug I am sending you. I love you, Donald…

Thinking of you, Barry, this month, for our shared birthdays. I hope you are resting in peace and watching over your dear Donald. It was a joy to know you and a blessing to have you as a friend.

Dear Barry:
Bob and I think of you often. We remember how kind you were.
You are loved,
Bob and Bonny

Dearest Donald and Beloved Angel Barry,

Luke 2:11”Today in the town of David a Savior is born to you; he is the Messiah,the Lord.”

Merry Christmas. Barry, what a glorious Christmas it must be to celebrate with Jesus. But we wish you were here to celebrate with us. We miss you. Donald my friend, we wish you Mele Kalimahana. Hope we can see you in 2024.

Hau Ole Makahiki Hou.

Evie and Richard

Happy Heavenly birthday, Barry! Please continue to watch over your precious Donald…. ❤️❤️

REMEMBERING YOU ON YOUR SPECIAL DAY, TUESDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2023.
... You are always in my thoughts, but today even more. A candle is lit to honor the love and blessings of your life and to recognize the importance of your years. Though you past almost thirteen years ago, we still love our memories of you and the wonderful gifts you gave to us while on earth. You are honored for all the blessings you brought to us and your sacrifices given to others and to our country. Now, you rest in peace and are in the hands of our Lord, JESUS CHRIST. I love you dearly, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY BARRY, MY CAPTAIN.
Donald

My darling Donald, I am not worthy of your kind words, but I cherish them—and you. I wish you were here right now. You are so very loved, by so many! Never, ever forget that!! LOVE FOREVER!!!

Oh my darling Donald,

No one in the world has the ability to warm my
heart. The way you describe me is EXACTLY what I see in you!

I would give ANYTHING to hug you right now, but I guess I’ll have to be satisfied with sending all my love and hugs long distance. Mele Kalikmaka—and all my love!

Always yours,
Irene

Happy Anniversary to you and Barry, Donald. You two had a love story for the ages. Still loving in eternity. I know Barry is watching over you with love, always. I love you too, with all my heart, always…

REFLECTION OF AN ANNIVERSARY -2023 DECEMBER 10

How do I love thee?

With all my heart and soul. I miss you, your hugs, smiles, stories, and your beautiful handwritten personal loving cards. Habitually, I often read all of my saved written cards you created to enjoy moments of years gone by. Thank you for such loving enriched emotions of love.
DONALD

I am honored that you believe I was chosen by Barry to be in the circle of your love and friendship, my precious Donald. I love you too—ALWAYS!!! ❤️❤️❤️

Now what? Oh, how much I love you. Thank you!

You, Barry, and your love was the best and greatest gift I ever received. On the eve of my 77th birthday, I still remember the moment you told me, "I love you, Donald". The everlasting blessing flows through my soul and heart this evening as it did the first time. You were everything and your gifts filled the hearts of so many to this day. I know in my heart, as so many see that gift of your care given unconditionally. I carry your sacred gift as given to me on the first time. Always will, flowing throw my heart with your unconditioned love. What an unbelievable gift GOD gave us and to always remember. Thank YOU!

Tu Me Manques... I Miss You

Translation: I miss the part of you in me!

Forever Missed!
Sport

I love YOU! Miss YOU.
My heart drums for you. You were everything. You are everything! You are there for me.!

Stopping by tonight as we get closer to Valentine's Day 2023. You created Valentine's Day each day of your life. The love, smiles, hugs, flowers, and generosity you gave each day created a spirit of Valentine's Day daily. I, we, never had to wait for that one special day, you gave it to us daily. The gift was unimaginable, and it came from God's heart. You were such a wonderful messenger for GOD. Your message continues daily. The blessing of your LOVE remains today and in my heart till it is redeemed again in your presence.

I can’t believe it’s been 12 years that Barry has been gone. I know he is waiting patiently in heaven for Donald but is hoping he’s enjoying life as much as possible until he joins him.
God Bless Donald,
Joe

December 29, 2022.
Your wink, laughter, smiles, those awesome beautiful deep blue eyes, and your giving nature is never forgotten. Your brought so much joy to so many and we will never forget the love you gave to us. I see you still sweeping the curb in front of the house after work and always stopping to speak with neighbors and strangers. You had such a gift of sharing and making us feel so good about ourselves. We, ( I ), love you so, and always will. Your life is an unbelievable blessing. REMEMBRANCE OF YOUR PASSING, DECEMBER 29TH, 2010

Merry Christmas Donald and Barry. Our God is so good and always in control of everything. He brings us grace and blessings when we least expect it and most need it.

Richard and I send our love to you Donald and wish you God’s rich blessings in 2023. We love you.

Tonight I travel to church again alone, but in my heart and soul you are there with me. I love you so, and thankful for all the blessings you continue to give to me and others. We are so thankful for your life, and know you are at peace with our Lord, Jesus Christ. As I travel this journey without you, I know you are near holding my hand, always with words of wisdom, and more love than I could ever imagine in many lifetimes. Thank you for that present and the light of life. Thank you GOD FOR MY BARRY!

Happy Belated Birthday Barry. Thinking of you and your beloved Donald brings back such sweet memories. You are loved and missed.

Happy Heavenly Birthday, dear Barry! Your beautiful soulmate here on earth, your beloved Donald, and those of us who knew you both, send messages of remembrance and love…

Happy, Happy Birthday in Heaven, Barry. At this time of year, especially on our shared special day, I think of you often. You are loved and missed. Watch over all who loved you, especially Donald.

Hi Barry
I woke up this morning thinking of you. I was sitting in your hospital room that Donald had decorated with your favorite photos to make it feel like home. Music was gently playing. He was standing by your bed swabbing your mouth and gently combing you hair. I felt so privileged to witness such a profound love.
Loving and missing you,
Pam

BARRY,
You are never forgotten. Happy Birthday, sweetheart! I love you so much and miss you. Life has become so different without sharing it with you.

Forever Missed,
Love, Donald
12-12-2022

I think of you and Barry every day as I look out of my kitchen window to your back yard, when you and Barry lived behind us on Grand Avenue in Piedmont.
Jim and I had such good times with both of you and I miss you .
Much love to you Donald.

I am truly amazed and touch by the love that you and Donald shared, Barry. I know you will always live in his heart...

As we enter the holiday season, memories flourish of the past as they were recent, yet my heart aged with twelve years since your passing. Less sure about everything than the day you died, however, forever assured how I loved you still to this day. Brings, joy, happiness, and a wonderful warm smile in my soul. Forever, grateful to our Lord for the gift of you and the beautiful and joyous times we shared. There is no other greater gift in my life I received than YOU!. Thank you, Love Donald

The prayer you recited for us.....

Thank you, Lord, for the blessings you have bestowed on my life. You have provided me with more than I could ever have imagined. You have surrounded me with people who always look out for me. You have given me family and friends who bless me every day with kind words and actions.

Your favorite holiday - Thanksgiving Day. You sharing moments of our past, some with laughter, and others that produced watery eyes. On Thanksgiving Day, up early, and a light breakfast, and during the first few years when Harlen was still in school, a large Thanksgiving Dinner prepared for us and a few friends invited who would be alone without being in our family. My favorite part of the day, was you giving grace before dinner. Your words were always perfect, and brought much joy even though my eyes wept. I know our Lord heard your thanksgiving prayer, and the healing it bestowed on those around the table. That moment lives for eternity, and I do miss it so. Always thankful for you and the blessings for the love you gave to us, your family, friends, and co-workers. Smiles back at you on this day of Thanksgiving. Love, Donald

Smiling at you with memories of some great photos. I love you, but you know that.

I love the photos, Donald. It brings back so many memories of you, Barry, Harlan , and NWA. I enjoyed my journey back in time with you.
Love you

I love you, Donald. I would do ANYTHING to ease your pain and broken heart, my precious friend. The love you shared with Barry is truly rare, making it that much harder to say goodbye. Please know that you LIVE IN MY HEART! I would give anything to hug you right now and tell you how loved you are. Please feel my love---forever,

Love always,
Irene

Started this project over 12 years ago, and had to put it on hold because of my broken heart. My heart is still cracked, but I now have the emotional energy to move forward by looking back at our life through the camera lens. This project will take time and may never be completed, something like life, but it shows Barry's love and affection for all of us. For our guests, please be patient as I view so many photos of Barry's life, taking time to reflect, laugh, digest the moments, and yes, at times, recover from emotional moments. Many memories were destroyed when we lost our home in the Laguna Beach Fire Storm, on October 28, 1996. Pictures prior to this date are not available. They are never forgotten, just in my heart and sometimes I can see the moments, and unfortunately cannot share that part of Barry's life. Hopefully, some of you may read this and have some pics of Barry even before we met, like his youth, Navy plus college years, and the workplace, both at the TN. Easter State Hospital(Barry was Hospital Administrator) and TN Hospital Association(Barry was Vice-President of the Association). You are welcome to add, but remember, Barry's presence must in the photo. Appreciate your patience and understanding. Photos to be added as time permits.

NOTE: To enlarge and view the hidden portion of many photos, CLICK on the photo.

I miss you too, my precious Donald! You will ALWAYS, ALWAYS live in my heart. I know Barry is with you EVERYDAY. I wish I could hug you. Love you, Donald, with all my heart...

I watched an English gay movie tonight, "You Are My Sunshine". The theme created a reflection of our life together and our family relationships, or not. Anyway, it was heartwarming, and the terrible hurt of being left behind but the acceptance of one partner's family. I love moments where you are in my presence.

Hi, Don. I was going through my old address book and saw you and barry's names. i thought i'd search your name and barry. My condolences. What a sweet soul barry was. Hope all is well with you, don. i miss you.. *hugs*

love
bobby d.
san francisco

VALENTINE DAY, MONDAY, FEBRUARY 2022
The best and most loved valentine a person could ever endure. So much given everyday by you, but this day was always filled with your beautiful words of love, thoughtfulness, and the spirit of the heart. You were such a romantic, reflected by the showers of flowers, cards, and special handwritten notes of LOVE.

Thinking of you and remembering the memories we share. You and Donald were a match made in heaven and such a joy to be with. Today Bob and I celebrate your life well lived! We love you!

I’m thinking of Barry and you Donald, today.
Blessings to you always.

Rest in Peace, Barry. You are loved and missed each day. Watch over Donald and Harlan. And today I'm asking you to watch over my sister-in-law, Therese, in the hospital; send some of your love her way. You will always be remembered as a very special and wonderful man.

My note seems so pointless, and yet I dream that it may bring you back. Time catches us so naked, and here we are once again. My soul, heart, body aches as it did 11 years ago, as the words came out of my mouth, “I love You”, thinking it would help you stay. Today, I say the same words, once again, hoping your back. How does one define “death” in terms of love, being with someone, and united as one, and then divided into halves. One vanishes, the other somewhere struggling with faith, hope, and horrific loneliness. Does life come together ever again? Maybe, in a different form, so foreign to the eyes we can’t see the gift. Once, again, I say I love you and deeply miss your being. I know you lived, and you exist in my being, thus we are still one. Always, forever, you are my only one. Donald

My thoughts and memories of you this Christmas morning, DEC 25, 2021. I am so grateful and blessed for all you did in your life. Love you, donald

As the days march toward the end of 2021, we must pass by the day you entered the eternal loving life of our Lord. Another year we have almost outgrown, but not before we once again recognize December 29, 2010 and the passing of a courageous soldier. Your life was heavenly magical and loved by so many. We, (I) miss you like no other because of who you were and the many blessings you gave us all. I shall never forget how you fought for the battle to sustain the horrific treatments for melanoma brain cancer. Your tenacity and strength continues to encourage us to remain strong and never give up even during these challenging moments. We were all blessed for your being and thankful for your footprint on our hearts. We are a better individual because of you. I love you immensely, nor is there is day you don’t continue to give me strength. Your sport.

Today is a special day for you both and you will always be together and share love.