Letter to my Son
My Dearest Son, Kevin:
Can I even express how much I miss you? No it is not possible. The past twenty months have been a the most painful and yet the most joyful journey of my life The pain is that I cannot ever hold you, hug you, kiss you in this lifetime again. And your passing has torn my heart out and I am shattered every day.
But the joy is that you are experiencing the most complete, fulfilling love from Jesus Christ, Our Lord, and the Holy Spirit and that your pain and suffering, and loneliness are finally gone.
All of those people that you gave your heart to completely and unconditionally, and hurt you to the core, do not matter in the comparison of God's Love. I wish I could be with you there now. But I will have to wait until it is my time for God to call me Home.
I am sorry for any time that I was not there for you. I am sorry for any bad decisions I made in my young, immature life that affected your life. I wish I could have known everything to be the best Mother you could have ever wanted. But I am not perfect, and I am humbled before God,and always praying that I will see you again.
We said so many things to each other as you were dying. We laughed, we cried harder. You clung to to your consciousness, until you could not hold on any longer. And I clung to you.
I never left your side those last five days. I held your hand and spoke to you hoping that you could hear me, until you took your last breath on this earthly plane.
My heart went with you. A part of me died when you left me and I anguish every minute of every day. You were my light. My Love. My Heart.
You may not have realized it as we fought hard, but loved harder. But I think you know, despite our differences.that I would have traded places with you. That is a parent''s love. I loved you from the second I new I was pregnant. I adored you. I couldn't wait to meet you. You were the life from my womb. You were so perfect, so cute, so polite, so attentive for so long.
At some point we may have lost our way, but we never let go of each other. We came back together, and I again, was trying to save you from yourself. But I realized at one point that I could not.
You were home bound, sick, isolated , depressed and the decision you made was the bravest thing you could have done. When you told me you were going to stop dialysis, I expected it, but it ripped my heart out just the same. But I understood. You are the bravest man I have ever known.
I wish I could have saved you from the pain that we have both experienced in our lifetimes. I wish I could have been more of a pillar of strength for you when you were hurt so badly emotionally from the women that broke your heart. I tried to protect you. You know how ferocious I could be.
But I could not save you and that is what I struggle with. Mothers should never have to see their children take God's hand. I will and always have, loved you for all time. I cannot wait to be with you again, take your face in my hands, and kiss your eyes, your cheeks and hug you and never let you go again. My son, my Heart. I have said that since the day you were born. It is and always will be true.
Your Mama misses you so much.
Until we are together again.
Love,
Mom