October 9, 2023
October 9, 2023
No matter how many years go by the pain of you being gone is still here. Miss you brother.
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Kevin Carder. only 57 years old , born on October 9, 1958 and passed away on September 12, 2016. We will remember him forever. He was a loving grandpa, and a wonderful father. Stern but understanding, he helped guide his child and grandchildren through most of their life. We all knew him as strong, stepping in and showing up for his loved ones and friends. Anybody close to him knew the big hearted teddy bear behind the gruff and serious face most people saw. Cancer took him before his time, and though his absence leaves a huge hole in our lives, we are thankful for the time we did get with an amazing man who would do anything for his family and dear friends. Dad, thank you for always being there for me, and teaching me compassion and honor. I love you and miss you more than my words can express.
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October 10, 2022
October 10, 2022
Yesterday was your birthday, and I realize how much my life is forever changed without you. I learned so much from you, and just wish I hadn't taken our time for granted. Since i was little, you were always the hero, and in my mind, you were immortal. I thought, no matter what, it was going to be okay, since until then, it had been. I realize how childish that was, and how that thinking made a bad situation so much worse. I love you dad, and I miss you more than i know how to express.
October 9, 2022
October 9, 2022
The pain is still here but now you have Pam with you. Still love you brother and miss you.
September 12, 2021
September 12, 2021
I love you dad. Finally, I'm doing what I should have done long ago. I stopped running, stopped using drugs, and am dealing with your death clear headed and straight on. Its harder than I ever imagined, but not as hard as the denial and suffering I put myself through by running from the fact that you are no longer here to make my world so much better, just by being you. Thank you for everything you taught me, and I have finally pulled my head out of my ass, like you definitely would have suggested. I love you, and miss you terribly.
June 3, 2021
June 3, 2021
Still too hard. Miss you brother.
September 25, 2018
September 25, 2018
Ah dad, I miss you so much, its so hard for me to accept that you aren't here with me anymore. MY best friend, my co conspirator, my biggest fan, my hero for life. I love you so much and even though you are in a better place, my tears still fall freely as I think of you and the impact you made, and how you loved me unconditionally and were the most amazing father a girl could have ever asked for, I miss everything, but I am grateful that I got to have such a good parent.
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October 9, 2023
October 9, 2023
No matter how many years go by the pain of you being gone is still here. Miss you brother.
October 10, 2022
October 10, 2022
Yesterday was your birthday, and I realize how much my life is forever changed without you. I learned so much from you, and just wish I hadn't taken our time for granted. Since i was little, you were always the hero, and in my mind, you were immortal. I thought, no matter what, it was going to be okay, since until then, it had been. I realize how childish that was, and how that thinking made a bad situation so much worse. I love you dad, and I miss you more than i know how to express.
October 9, 2022
October 9, 2022
The pain is still here but now you have Pam with you. Still love you brother and miss you.
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September 12, 2021
Well, today is the 5th year without you dad, but the first year I am dealing with it sober. With the things that have been happening, I miss you more and more....having to deal with these feelings, instead of running and using substances to mask the pain, I am addressing the huge hole your passing has left within me. I love you, miss you, and remember the wonderful lessons and things you taught me over the years. Love you dad. Miss you with everything in me.
Skating Fridays
September 12, 2020
Around 11 or 12, I had two best friends, Judi and Nicole. We used to do all sorts of stupid stuff. Well, one Friday, we were trying to get to the skating rink in Seattle, but no ride. My dad took us, in the back of his yellow Datsun pickup we called putt-putt. Lol my dad was amazing. He worked so hard, long days, and still made sure he was there for the little things that are life to a preteen girl.
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September 12, 2020
When I was young, maybe 4, my dad was home from work, and napping on the couch. I crawled up, and drew a bunch of tiny stuck figures up and down his arms. When he woke up and saw them, he asked me what I was doing. I explained my drawing, and he just laughed, and showed me his stick figure drawings! He picked me up, sat with me at the table, and drew until he had to go back to work. He kept the drawings on his arms, and told the story at work.